#call the feminism police she’s doing it wrong

[bilboyagathechickenfootedhobbit]

My kid keeps saying he wants to be a cop, sorry, pOLiCe OfFiCeR, and like……I have to remind myself that he’s SIX and he doesn’t KNOW cops, so in his mind he sees it as a way to help people and keep people safe and help society follow rules and justice, all of which are things he’s super big on, which is GOOD! Young boys should grow up feeling a sense of duty to their community, and with a desire to help those that cannot help themselves. Young girls have that instilled in them from birth, but most people raise young boys to think that it’s women’s jobs to do all the caring and nurturing and frankly, I’m over it. If men want to be protectors, fine. Raise protectors. Raise young boys who see the injustices on the playground and speak up about them. Raise young boys who understand the differences and diversity of people and who work to bring equity to situations. Raise young boys who want to be cops, lawyers, judges, politicians, not for power or money but because they want to right the wrongs of the world. Raise young boys who recognize their privilege in this world and USE IT FOR GOOD.

So I have to remind myself that my son doesn’t want to be a cop because he wants to bully and harm people; that’s my understanding of law enforcement after four decades in America. He wants to do good and in his mind, law enforcement is the best way to do that. And I need to encourage that sense of justice and his willingness to help, because society is going to spend the rest of his life trying to squash the compassion out of him because it’s “girly” to care. He is constantly asked if he is a girl because he’s very gnc and pretty, but also because he is very compassionate and gentle. I want him to know that his kind heart is an asset, that being kind and looking out for people is how men SHOULD behave, despite what society tells him. That if he wants to be a protector, then his ability to care and relate to others will take him much farther than a propensity towards violence will. Protecting doesn’t always mean violence. Sometimes protecting people means codifying laws, or providing more societal support. Men don’t want to believe that they can protect women any other way than violence against other men. There are better ways to help and protect women and children. And if my kid still wants to be a cop in twelve years, I hope that it’s still because he wants to do good in the world and help serve his community. I have faith in him (and my parenting) and his sense of right and wrong.

[femsolid]

I watched the movie Strange Darling tonight. Great rating on IMDB. Positive reviews all around. It was sexist propaganda à la Gone Girl. I'm sure it'll be called a feminist movie.

The story is about a serial killer hunting down his last victim. During the first part of the movie we see a young, skinny, blond woman being chased by the killer, a big man with a rifle. She's in pain and has lost an ear. The man is not hurt and every time he appears on screen, some big scary music plays, telling us "he's the killer!"

Then we see a flashback of their first encounter. They're on a date, drinking in his car, she gives him a lecture about how a one night stand can be a life or death situation for women, so women aren't prudes they are careful, but he can't understand that because he's a man. Unlike in real life, he patiently listens and doesn't object nor scream Not All Men. A little feminist lesson. She then tells him that her "kink" is to be strangled and beaten in bed... okayyyy what was the point of the feminist lesson exactly? He's flabbergasted and reluctantly agrees to indulge her. Because we all know it's women who want to be abused, men are just following our lead and have no sadistic bone in their bodies. She starts crying and tells him to stop during it, she tells him that just because she said yes at the start doesn't mean she can't say no later and he should respect that. He feels bad, and suddenly she starts laughing, she was just messing with him pretending to have boundaries and stuff, what a turn on! She toys with him, keeps inviting him to have sex and then says no at the last second because women are just twisted provocatrice, I guess. What a tease! She's giving him "mixed signals." Then she drugs him and tortures him, and we discover that she's the serial killer, and he's a cop! HA! You thought women were abused by men? You thought her little feminist lessons were sensible? You were wrong! Never trust a woman! Men can be victims, too! The reason we didn't see his injuries at the beginning of the movie was because she tortured him with a knife on his chest. See? Men have hidden scars. Don't assume they are the abusers! Since he's a cop, he has a secret gun and manages to escape her by shooting her ear off. She runs from him, and he chases her, and we're back to the beginning of the movie. He catches her eventually, handcuffs her and calls her a cunt.

She still manages to kill him, right as the police arrives because he called for backup. She puts her pants down and lays on the floor ass naked, crying, pretending that he tried to rape her, and she defended herself. False rape accusations, guys! Don't be fooled by women playing the victims! There are two police officers that arrive: a woman and a man. The woman is immediately sympathetic to the fake rape victim, something her male partner questions. She responds "it's obvious what happened", takes the handcuffs off the killer and helps her get up, while the male cop tells her to wait because things don't look right. Blinded by her female solidarity and her defence of rape victims, the stupid female cop doesn't follow the procedure. She tells the male cop that just because she has a vagina doesn't mean she's wrong, another little feminist lesson rendered voluntarily ridiculous by the fact that we all know she's gravely wrong and will likely get both of them killed. He tells her it has nothing to do with her vagina, he speaks from experience because he's older. Eventually the truth is revealed, the victim is the killer, the male police officer calls the killer a bitch. The killer lets the female officer go because she helped her, and kills the male.

The entire movie had a clear message that we all know too well by now: men are the real victims, don't trust women who report abuse, feminism is laughable. I mean, the propaganda wasn't even subtitle or anything. The killer spends a good portion of the movie in lingerie too. Instant classic. True cinema. Would you be surprised if I told you this movie was directed and written by a man?

[oliversrarebooks]

Jameson's Dress

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some of you asked for force-fem Jameson so here ya go

tw: forced feminization, mind control, dehumanization, captivity, restraints, anger issues, human auction

April 1860

The days and nights in captivity had done nothing to quell Jameson's rage. He had nothing to do in this damned cage but stew about every way he'd been wronged, all the bastards who'd swindled him -- especially his rotten partner, who'd stolen the business out from under him before Jameson had had a chance to do the reverse. His impotent anger burned inside of him, and it took all of his restraint to not kick and punch at the iron bars and cement walls. More than once he'd flung his meals at passing vampires, valuing the chance to vent his emotions more than he valued eating. And more than once, he'd been drugged for his troubles, the monsters pinning him to the wall and forcing him to drink a nasty-tasting substance that made his mind slow and his limbs heavy.

The only saving grace was that he'd had plenty of time to think about how he'd all make them pay once he got out of here.

"What do you recommend for lot sixteen?"

"I've conditioned her as a domestic worker, so let's style her accordingly. I don't think she needs much embellishment. Her blood quality and docile nature speak for themselves."

Jameson looked out of his cell to see two vampire women making their way down the hall. One was Colette, the vampire who'd shown up in his office and captured him. The other was an older woman in a suit who carried herself with an air of authority -- Florence. She'd taken Jameson out of his cell the other day, and he'd…

He'd…

His mind swam with the effort of trying to remember what had happened. She must have drugged him again. It was the only explanation. By the time he'd woken up, he was back on his cot in the cell.

The vampires stopped at the cell next to his. "And this one's been erased," said Florence, "so I was planning to --"

Jameson stuck his arm out of the bars and snapped impatiently at them. "Let me out of this cell right now and maybe I won't pull down the full brunt of the law on you!"

That was a lie, of course. As soon as he was free of this place, he was calling the police and every lawyer he knew. Vampires or not, they'd go to prison like anyone else, and judging by their clothes, they had plenty of money that he'd get in damages. He'd turn this sordid situation to his advantage yet.

The two vampires shared a laugh as Jameson's rage threatened to boil over. If he weren't behind these bars, he'd slap the smiles right off their smug faces.

"Lot six," said Colette, approaching his cell. "I don't know why you didn't just have him erased. He's so disagreeable."

"Ah, but sometimes the disagreeable ones fall the hardest," said Florence.

"Do you bubble-headed idiots even know who I am?" he demanded, seething. "I could buy and sell you both a dozen times over, and --"

"Oh, we know exactly who you are," Colette interrupted. "That's why we knew no one would miss you when we took you."

"Besides, you're so much happier as a servile little plaything," said Florence. "Perhaps I can demonstrate for Colette."

"What the hell are you --"

"Just be a good boy for me."

The words hit Jameson like a sack of bricks. His mind reeled, thoughts clouding, as he struggled against the flood of foreign, unnatural calm invading him. "I'm not -- !"

"Good boy. Such a good boy."

His anger evaporated, replaced with a blissful feeling of docility, as his muscles relaxed and his shoulders slumped, eyes losing their focus.

Yes, he wanted to be a good boy.

"That's right," said Miss Florence, smiling, and he wanted nothing more than to please her. "It feels good to let go of all that anger. It feels good to know your place and to serve."

He nodded, slowly. He couldn't remember ever feeling so good. Maybe when he was a young child, before he understood how cruel the world was. "Yes, sir."

"Kneel."

He fell gently to his knees, arms clasped behind him and head bowed. He was a good boy. He wanted to serve.

She snapped her fingers. "Aware."

Jameson's chest clenched as the full force of his ire crashed back into him, bringing along with it a deeply unpleasant sense of humiliation as he realized he was kneeling before the goddamned vampires who were keeping him captive. "What are you doing to me? What --"

"Good boy," she said, and everything melted into submissive bliss as she pet his head. "You're a good boy, aren't you?"

The soft touch felt so nice, something he hadn't felt in so, so long. "I'm a good boy, sir," he said meekly.

Miss Colette's cackles rang off the cement walls. "Oh, now, that is a fun toy. I can see now why you let him be so disagreeable."

"He's much more agreeable now. Aren't you, boy?"

Something in him tugged. He didn't want to be agreeable. Being agreeable was for losers who let themselves be walked over.

But he was a good boy, and good boys were agreeable. Obedient. Docile. "Yes, sir."

Miss Colette took him by the chin, and he looked down deferentially. "It is a treat to see a nasty one like this get all the fight taken out of him."

"It's all the same with these angry men," said Miss Florence. "Their anger makes them so tired and easy to manipulate. All they need is a taste of submission, and they become like putty to mold into a model thrall."

In his daze, Jameson was having a hard time following the vampires' conversation, but it sounded like they were pleased with him.

"I think I'd like to take this thrall and prepare him myself," said Miss Florence. "Could you go prepare lots twelve and thirteen, and ask Frank to round up the erased in the blue room?"

"Yes, I'm on it."

Miss Colette walked away, and Miss Florence pulled a ring of keys from her apron pocket and unlocked Jameson's cell. "Be a good boy," she said, as she wrapped a leather collar around his neck, putting him on a leash. "Heel."

He did as he was told and followed a half-step behind her as they walked past the other cells, up a flight of stairs and into a dressing room, with a rack of ball gowns in one corner and a large vanity covered in cosmetics lining a wall. His compromised mind struggled to recall what this was about. He was at an auction house, he remembered, to be auctioned as a commodity, and he'd been rightfully upset about it, but…

Miss Florence walked him over to the rack of elaborate dresses. "Here you are, boy. You may choose your dress."

Some of his blissful calm evaporated. These were women's dresses -- they weren't something he could wear. This vampire was obviously trying to humiliate him.

"This is what a good boy wears for the auction," she said. "And you're a good boy, aren't you?"

Just like that, his thoughts were gone again. "Yes, sir." He didn't know anything about what sort of dress he should pick, so he simply grasped at one that seemed appealing. It was deep blue, the color of the sky at twilight, with black lace and a ruffled neck.

"Very good," she said, the praise making him swell. "Now we have to prepare you."

He was whisked into a large bathroom with a stainless steel tub, and Florence tsk'd as she looked into it. "Empty," she muttered to herself, pulling a braided cord hanging from the wall. "Now, be a good boy and remove your clothes."

The wave of calm obedience that washed through him removed any resistance he would have to this idea, and he mindlessly took off the shirt, pants, and socks that had been provided by the auction house at his processing. He'd been belligerent then, determined to fight the vampires off with everything he had, only to find himself drugged senseless and dragged into a cell anyway.

This way is so much easier, isn't it, said the echo of Miss Florence's voice in his mind. So much easier to accept and obey. So much more content without the anger in his heart, so much calmer with the fight stolen from him.

A few thralls entered the bathroom carrying basins of water to fill the bathtub, and Florence beckoned him to get in. It was bracingly cold, just as he usually liked his baths, but the shock brought his mind back to the surface for a moment. He was as naked as the day he was born in front of the vampire who'd ensorcelled and humiliated him --

"Quiet and docile for me," she said, scrubbing at him with a rag doused in floral-scented soap, scattering his resistance once more. He certainly didn't mind being washed clean of the accumulated grime of days in a prison cell.

Soon he was toweled off and sat in a chair while the vampire trimmed his hair neatly. It didn't take very much time, because he'd always kept it short and groomed. She shaved him with a straight razor, her practiced hand working swiftly and leaving no marks, as Jameson sat stock still in his hypnotic daze.

The next step was to guide him back into the dressing room and take his measurements with a tape, the vampire's aura sinking into him with every small movement and silently coercing him to be empty and blank. His eyelids drooped as his mind drifted. He should be irritated, a part of him knew, but it was impossible to keep from sinking into tranquility.

The tranquility remained as Florence helped him into women's undergarments, sized appropriately for him, but like nothing he'd ever worn. A part of him was trying to fight to the surface, but it was buried too deep under the compulsion to be quiet, be passive, obey the vampire. Everything was so much easier with his anger muffled, a distant roar.

The dress that he had chosen earlier was slipped over his head. Miss Florence took his hand and led him over to the vanity, where a wealth of frivolous beauty products lay spread out before him. She brushed his freshly trimmed hair and began to apply makeup to his face.

Makeup. He'd look like a clown. He'd look like a clown in front of so many vampires, while he was being sold…

Miss Florence hooked a gold chain around his neck. "You'll be utterly quiet and docile for the auction. Passive and serene. Obedient and gentle."

"Yes… sir…"

Her hands gently touched the side of his thick neck, the place where a vampire might drink. "You're meant for service. You'll be so content in service to your betters, won't you?"

It made sense. There was a natural pecking order to the world. He'd just mistakenly thought he was on top, when really, it had been the vampires all along. "Yes, sir, I'm content to serve."

"You know your place now."

"I know my place, sir."

"It's so much easier than fighting to be something you're not. You're not strong. You're not in control. You're not entitled to anything. You're a weak thing that only desires to serve."

It felt so true. If he were truly strong, like he imagined himself to be, he wouldn't be here. "Yes, sir, I desire to serve."

"Good boy."

She led him over to a mirror, and Jameson could hardly recognize himself, wearing a lacey ballgown and expertly done makeup. A stranger, or perhaps a version of him from a different time, where he was soft and feminine and everything else he hated, and was happier that way.

Miss Florence snapped near his ear. "Aware."

His half-lidded eyes flew open as he beheld what the goddamn vampires had done to him. She'd put him under a spell, forced him to wear this absolutely humiliating outfit, convinced him he was --

"Good boy."

Convinced him he was…

"You feel so much better this way."

He did. It was such an immense relief to sink back into tranquility, to forget what he'd been so angry about, his muscles loose and his mind dazed and sleepy. He meekly submitted to Miss Florence as she snapped a pair of jeweled handcuffs around his wrists, ready to be sold to his new master.

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[gacha-incels]

"Solidarity overturned the decision, we will watch police reinvestigation" interview with victim of ‘pinched-fingers’ case (archive link)

(Seocho police station)

this is mtl of the article that I’ve edited. you can click the link and see the original, if there’s any glaring issues lmk and I’ll edit the post ✍️.

The victim of the Nexon MapleStory pinched finger (🤏) incident responded to the Seoul Seocho Police Station's decision to re-investigate her case, saying, "I recognize that many people's attention is focused on this, and I ask for a clean and thorough investigation. Even though the re-investigation is underway, we don't know what will happen, so we will continue to watch it carefully," she said.

In a written response on the afternoon of the 7th, victim A said, "I thought it would never be overturned, but I think it was the solidarity of many people that made it happen."

"My first thought is to thank them for their solidarity. I didn't realize that there would be thousands of complaints (against the Seocho Police Station)," she said, continuing, "I couldn't have done it alone. I will continue to work hard and do whatever I can to help," she stressed.

"I'm happy yet nervous at the same time. I think the police should have been more cautious in their initial decision to not extradite," she said, adding, "If they were able to admit that they were wrong two days after the news broke, I wish they would have taken a little more time to consider (a full investigation) from the beginning.”

“How Solidarity Protects Me"

Ms. A also emphasized that "solidarity with other people is the solution to healing oneself."

"After (the incident), I couldn't ignore the stories of people who were affected similarly to me, and I tried to understand their pain and offered my support in any way I could," she said. "I started several activities, including regular donations, to give back the solidarity I received, and I live every day trying to become a better person."

"When I give other victims the comfort I wanted to receive during (the incident), my condition also improves," she said, adding, "Solidarity is how I protect and heal myself."

Ms. A was also victimized online, with her personal info being circulated as an employee (of studio ppuri) even though she did not draw the so-called "pinched hand". Malicious posts insulting her were also frequently posted.

On June 14, A. filed a complaint to the Seocho Police Station for 41 online posts on charges of defamation under the Information and Communication Network Act (정보통신망법상 명예훼손), stalking (스토킹처벌법), violation of the Special Act on Punishment of Sexual Offenses (obscenity using communication media) (성폭력범죄 처벌 등에 관한 특례법 위반(통신매체이용음란) ), and insult (모욕). However, the Seocho Police Station dismissed all of Ms. A's complaints, citing reasons such as she had "sympathized with feminism."

When the case was first reported on, online collective complaints to "correct the sexist rhetoric" as well as criticism from the political sphere erupted. The Seocho Police Station, which continued to deny any problems until the following day, the 6th, saying that "it was due to the misunderstandings they (A's company) caused with their response that people expressed their opinions," admitted that "the investigation was insufficient" and announced in a press release on the afternoon of the 7th that it was "planning to conduct a re-investigation."

[radfemsiren]

I am from France and we've been living in quite an odd time regarding Islam. Muslims are an oppressed minority, our police forces are prejudiced against them, but I feel scared about the rise of Islam in my country as a woman.

I am tired of people slandering our laws about religious free areas that represent the state. Separation from religion is a good thing and leftists have forgotten it here, and foreign news twist it to make it seem like we only ban Muslim attires everywhere when it's any religious signs only in places that represent the state (like public schools and public hospitals).

Leftists in general have become... honestly more American in their discourse. "If it's an oppressed minority then they can do no wrong" kind of thinking. But the thing is I can very much see that muslim men come from places that are incredibly more misogynistic than here, and that they've been raised to consider this their religion, to never question it and to use it to their advantage. Like, muslim people are present enough for me to form an opinion like that, I have spent my childhood with at least half of them as the people I saw, and it is really bad and going unquestioned. This whole thing would get me killed in leftist spaces, the most common defenses are "but catholic men and atheist men are bad too!" except that catholics have been shrinking as a group here and atheist men are awful but don't have misogyny as a religious dogma they can spread.

Overall I'm worried. Some people say we're gonna be majority muslim next century and I worry about how this will affect women and the laws that get passed. Leftists approve of anything muslims do because they're oppressed here, and this includes turning any criticism of religion into some choice feminism bullshit. They constantly say women want and choose to be exploited that way and it is gut wrenching to hear. I'm worried about the increasing population of muslim men who are taught to see me as an object so vividly and I'm worried about my rights being threatened by them. I'm worried about my safety as I've had multiple bad encounters with those misogynistic men irl and on online French spheres. Those spheres are now filled with those same men who simply justify sexism by saying they're muslim and its in their culture, or muslim women who talk about marrying as soon as they turn 18 or even arranged marriages gleefully.

Hm I’m Arab-American so I’m not super educated on issues happening in Europe considering Muslim immigration. I’ll have to research more into it to form a well informed opinion on the situation.

What I can tell you is there are many Muslim and ex-Muslim women who are critical of male supremacy in our cultures and religion, and I recommend reading about and interacting with irl, radical feminists from our cultures to help your fears. Finding allies and understanding there are many like-minded women that share your goals makes the heart at peace. I love Nawal Elsaadawi, she is the Simone de Beauvoir of Arabia and close to my heart because she is Egyptian like me lol. The fall of the Imam is good if you want written work expressedly against Islam.

I think cultural relativism is dangerous and all women must be protected. We shouldn’t shy away from calling out misogyny everywhere it rears its ugly head. As long as we are educated and well informed with our criticism, I see no issue with calling out patriarchal oppression from other cultures. I got an ask calling out why I don’t also speak about misogyny against black women, and I thought about it. I think many of us, including myself, try to stick to our own community and what we are familiar with in our feminism, and we should move away from that. Let’s all educate ourselves on the different forms of patriarchy around the world and work hard to end it in all the forms it comes in!

[c-h-stevens]

This post and the above mention rape and CSA. Not that OP bothered using a content warning anywhere.

Okay, I try not to get involved in internet discourse because it's a waste of time and energy, but this post was so offensive I just had to.

Every single time, literally every. Single. Fucking. Time. Some trans guy goes on about how well-akshually trans men aren't targeted by any unique form of bigotry, and claiming we do kills transfems and puppies, they go on about how they, personally, have never experienced this specific form of bigotry, so clearly such a thing can't possibly exist, and the people who claim they've experienced are all either deluded fools or malicious transmisogynists. Every. Single. Fucking. Time.

Here's the thing: other people are allowed to have experiences different from yours. Yes, even people with a roughly similar identity. It's ragingly egotistic to claim that because you have only ever experienced XYZ, everybody who claims to have experienced ABC is wrong. I don't care how you dress it up with: you're calling a whole lot of people liars. According to you, everybody who claims not to have experienced transmasculinity as a get-out-of-misogyny-free pass is objectively wrong.

I can confidently say I have never been impacted by misogyny the same way as my friends who actually identify as women.

And I can confidently say I have been impacted by misogyny worse than many cis women I've met, a substantial part of such misogyny coming from cis women themselves. What do you think that makes me, an idiot or a lying transmisogynist? Because if you're going to imply I'm either of those things, you should come forth and say so at my face.

You're telling people they can't describe themselves and their experiences using terms you personally don't approve of, and you have pretensions of being qualified to dictate what The Trans Experience is supposed to be. So why, exactly, is your experience the stick by which anybody else's should be measured and not mine? What makes you so damn important?

You also seem to believe there's a Woman Experience all women access by virtue of being women. (If not, why are you railing at trans men for not possessing this Woman Experience?) You should really read on intersectional feminism and marginalized feminists's critiques of the second wave.

Hey, seeing how you seem to be such a brave defender of trans women:

That's the memoir of a trans woman who describes her past self as a boy, as you can see from the title. Do you think she's wrong to do so, or do you only identity-police other trans men?

Your comparison of a trans man growing up as a girl to a straight boy being occassionally treated like a gay boy would is bullshit for several reasons, but the most salient one is this:

Homophobic society wants everyone to be straight. This means treating gayness as a deviance to be straightened out, as it were (heh, I'm funny).

Transphobic society wants everyone to be cis. This means assigning everyone a gender and strictly forbidding deviations form it. Therefore, trans men aren't treated like men by transphobic society, but as women.

For a straight boy, their identity aligns with what society wants from them. For a trans boy, their gender goes against what society wants from them. Straight boys are being punished by being mistaken for something else, and trans boys are being punished by being themselves.

But you, OP, seem to believe this isn't possible. You seem to believe bigotry and oppression rely on the quiddity of the person being oppressed. You claim a trans man couldn't possibly be treated like a cis woman, because that would somehow mean he is a cis woman. Or, if a trans man is treated like a cis woman, then there's a magical identity-based bigotry-repelling field that somehow makes it not misogyny.

This view of bigotry, not coincidentally, is identical to that of a specific group of trans women who believe TERFs see them as women and not as men, despite abundant evidence to the contrary. I strongly doubt this is a coincidence.

To make things exceedingly clear before moving on to the next point: no, I don't think bigotry is quiddity-based. I think it's deranged to claim transphobes see trans people as their real gender. More to the point, if everyone sees you as X, treats you as X, and loudly claims you must be X, all the effects it causes aren't going to magically evaporate like a mirage because you see yourself as Y.

When I was 11, I started menstruating. Everyone, from relatives and teachers to pop biology books and the packaging of menstrual supplies, told me this thing I was experiencing was a Girl Thing that happened to me because I was a girl. I didn't have a framework to understand the undeniable reality of the menstrual cycle as something that sometimes happens to boys. It didn't matter that I didn't see myself as a girl deep down; I still had to live with my menstrual cycle and the possibility of becoming pregnant.

Okay, this is the really offensive part. The part that decided me to write this whole fucking essay:

I do partly feel that the sticking point for many is the idea that the sexual abuse suffered by trans men is inherent to womanhood, and therefore inexplicable if trans men are men from birth. While this disregards the long history of sexual abuse of young boys, especially minority boys

No.

You don't fucking get to write a post that reeks of radical feminism, post it in the tags trans men use to discuss the bigotry they face, and then claim that other trans men believe only woman are sexually abused.

"Only women are sexually abused" is, of course, one of radical feminism's deepest held beliefs. It's thrown in our faces with horrifying glee. It's used to misgender us--because, see, if your rapist saw you as a woman or girl, what makes you think you could ever be a man? If anything, the discussions around bigotry aimed at trans men very readily admit that cis men are capable of being abused.

I know the people who raped me saw me as a little girl, because they said so. Are you claiming my rapists gendered me correctly and inexplicably lied about it? What the fuck?

Dude, you are in no way qualified to assign motivations to others. I don't care that you're a survivor yourself; you crossed the line so hard you fucking obliterated it. You'd rather call other trans male survivors deluded idiots, if not malicious, rather than admitting other people have different experiences from yours.

That's vile. Cope in your own time; don't make your issues everyone else's problem. I'm a survivor too, and I did not need to see that festering pile of garbage when I'm having a really terrible month myself.

Attacking the women in your community for not being soft enough, nice enough, patient enough, rather than fighting the powers that be.

Oh, you mean like the adult cis women who attacked my child self because I wasn't the soft nice patient little girl I was supposed to be? Of fucking course not. They were women and I was already inherently male, so I guess I was already oppressing them and they just took a brave feminist stance against my toxic masculinity.

Get out of this pipeline before it's too late.

A pipeline to where, hmmm? I'll tell you: OP is obliquely referencing arguments about trans men who stand up against the bigotry they face being either MRAs or TERFs, he's just too much of a coward to say it. The latter is particularly ironical, seeing how that diatribe up there regurgitates more than a few radfem talking points.

This is just the same old song-and-dance: trans men are only ever allowed to talk about the bigotry we face if we first disclaim we oppress not just trans women, but cis women as well. The fact that OP would claim that while also admitting trans men are sometimes correctively raped to be forced to detransition only makes this argument even more nauseating.

Lately I've been dipping my toe into the mess that is transandrophobia discourse, and in the process I've been presented with one question in many forms:

"Do trans men experience misogyny?"

My initial answer was "these terms are all theoretical frameworks for a vast range of human experiences, why would you choose to frame your pre-transition experiences as that of a woman?" This makes sense to me, but clearly isn't satisfactory to many of the people sending me anons. As much as I might want to use my own life as a case study, I can't very well tell these people in my asks box "no, you've never experienced something that could be categorized as misogyny." Still, the question bothers me.

I think that's because the question obfuscates the actual debate. It's clear to me the question we are debating is not one of "experience" but "authority." That is:

"Do (binary) trans men understand what it's like to be a woman?"

My answer? No.

How can I justify that when we have, since birth, been raised as women? Well, because we also have, since birth, been trans men. If we cast aside the idea of transness as a modern social construct or anything other than an innate and biological reality, this has to be true. Even before you ever came out to yourself, you were transgender. Transphobia has dictated every moment of your life. Your idea of what "womanhood" is is not at all the same as a woman's, be it cis or trans. Why? Because a woman does not react to "being a woman" with the dysphoria, dissociation, and profound sense of wrongness that you do. [If you do not experience these things, a cis or trans woman, at the very least, does not identify as a binary trans man.] A woman sincerely identifies as a woman, and identity plays a pivotal role in how we absorb societal messaging.

Let's take homophobia as an example. While any queer person has probably experienced targeted episodes of bigotry, the majority of bigotry we experience must necessarily be broad and social. Boys learn to fear becoming a faggot as a group, but the boy who is a faggot will internalize those messages in a completely different way to the boys who only need learn to assert the heterosexual identity already inherent in them through violence. All of them are suffering to some extent, but their experiences are not at all equivalent. This is despite the fact that they've all absorbed the same message, maybe even at the same moment, through the same events. Still, we don't say that a straight boy knows what it is like to be a gay boy. Similarly, cis women do not know what it is like to be a trans man despite being fed the same transphobic messaging in a superficially identical context. It isn't a stretch to say the same can apply to misogyny.

Because I can't speak for you, I'll use myself as an example for a moment. I'll give my bonafides: I am a gender-nonconforming, T4T queer, white, binary trans man. I am on T, and I have recently come out to my family. I do not pass. My career as a comic writer is tied to my identity as a trans man. I can confidently say I have never been impacted by misogyny the same way as my friends who actually identify as women. This manifested early on as finding it easy to shrug off the messaging that I needed to be X or Y way to be a woman. In fact, most gender roles slid off my back expressly because breaking them gave me euphoria. I was punished in many ways for this, but being this sort of cis woman did help me somewhat. It's easy to be "one of the guys" in a social climbing sense if you really do feel more comfortable as a man. It also helped me disregard misogyny aimed at me or others because it seemed like an shallow form of bigotry. It was something you could shrug off, but it was important for building "unity" among women. I thought this must be the case for all women, that we all viewed misogyny as a sort of "surface level" bigotry. However, for whatever conditional status I gained in this role, there was a clear message that if I did "become" a man, every non-conformist trait about me would just become a grotesque and parodic masculinity.

That was the threat that was crushing me, destroying my identity and self esteem. That was what I knew intimately through systemic, verbal, physical, and sexual abuse. I could express my nonconformity as a cis woman, but if I took it so far as to transition to male? I would be a pathetic traitor, a social outcast. I truly believe that throughout my life people were able to see that I was not just a failed woman, but an emasculated man.

I do partly feel that the sticking point for many is the idea that the sexual abuse suffered by trans men is inherent to womanhood, and therefore inexplicable if trans men are men from birth. While this disregards the long history of sexual abuse of young boys, especially minority boys, I do see the emotional core. I'll offer that the sexual abuse I suffered was intrinsically linked to my emmasculation, my boyishness, despite the fact that I was not out to myself or anyone else. I believe many trans men have suffered being the proxy for cis women's desire for retribution against cis men, or for cis men and women's desire for an eternally nubile young boy. I also believe they have suffered corrective assault that attempts to push them back into womanhood, which in itself is an experience unique to transness rather than actual womanhood.

I'll note quickly that many, many trans men cannot relate to the idea of feeling confident and above it all when it comes to womanhood. Many of you probably tried desperately to conform, working every moment to convince yourself you were a woman and to perfectly inhabit that identity. I definitely experienced this as well (though for me it was specifically attempting to conform to butchness) but I can concede many of you experienced it more than I did. I still believe that this desperate play-acting is also not equivalent to true womanhood. It is a uniquely transgender experience, one that shares much more in common with trans women desperately attempting to conform to manhood than with true womanhood.

One key theme running through the above paragraphs is the idea that "womanhood" is synonymous with "suffering." A trans man must know what it is like to be a woman because he suffers like one. It should be noted that actual womanhood is not a long stretch of suffering. It often involves joy, euphoria, sisterhood, a general love and happiness at being a woman. It wasn't until I admitted to myself I had never been a woman that I was able to see how the women in my life were not women out of obligation, but because they simply were. The idea that you are a woman because you suffer is more alligned with radfem theory than any reality of womanhood.

When I admitted my identity to myself I was truly faced with the ways that my ability to stand up to misogyny did not equate to being anti-misogynist. I was giddy to finally be able to admit to being a man, and suddenly all that messaging that "slid off my back" was a useful tool in my arsenal. Much like cis gay men feel compelled to assert their disgust for vaginas and women after a life of being compelled towards heterosexuality, I felt disgust and aversion to discussions of womanhood as an identity. I didn't even want to engage with female fictional characters. I viewed other people's sincere expressions of their own womanhood as a coded dismissal of my identity. Like many people before and after, I made women into the rhetorical device that had oppressed me. Not patriarchy, not transphobia, but womanhood and women broadly. It wasn't explicit bigotry, but the effects were the same. I had to unlearn this with the help of my bigender partner, who felt unsettled and hurt by the way I could so easily turn "woman" into nothing but a theoretical category which represented my personal suffering.

This brings me to another point: I sometimes receive messages from nonbinary trans mascs telling me that it's absurd to think they don't understand womanhood and identify with misogyny in a deeper way. I would agree that, if you sincerely identify in some capacity as a woman, you are surely impacted by misogyny in a way I am not. However, why are you coming to the defense of binary trans men like me? Less charitably, why are you projecting a female identity on us? Perhaps my experience frustrates you so deeply because we simply do not have the same experience at all. Perhaps we are not all that united by our agab, by our supposed female socialization.

So, no. I do not believe that binary trans men know what it's like to be women. I don't believe we are authorities on womanhood. I do not believe that when a trans woman endeavors to talk about transmisogyny, your counterargument about your own experiences of misogyny is useful. I ESPECIALLY do not believe that it is in any way valid to say that you are less misogynist, less prone to being misogynist, or-- god forbid-- INCAPABLE of misogyny because you were raised as a girl. I also don't believe your misogyny is equivalent to that of a woman's internalized misogyny in form or impact.

For as much as many in this movement downplay privilege as merely "conditional," those conditions do exist. They do place you firmly in the context of the rest of the world. Zoom out and look at the history of oppressed men, and you'll find the same reactionary movement repeated over and over. Attacking the women in your community for not being soft enough, nice enough, patient enough, rather than fighting the powers that be. Why do I believe your identity is more alligned with cis manhood than any form of womanhood? Because this song and dance has been done a hundred times before by men of every stripe. Transphobia is real, and your life experience has been uniquely defined by it since birth. This is a thing to rally around, to fight against, but you all have fallen for a (trans)misogynistic phantasm in your efforts at self-actualization. You are not the first, and you will not be the last. Get out of this pipeline before it's too late.

[jescotyaps]

bear or man

In a day and age of social media, everyone has a platform to express their ideas and beliefs. And with this platform, women have used this platform to express their struggles in life, and why feminism is so important to them. And time and time again, when a woman does anything on the internet, or anywhere at all, at least one man has this deep desire to comment on her in any way possible.

There has been a common debate online at the moment where the question at hand is "if you were alone in the forest, would you chose to be with a bear or a man?" Every single woman I know has without hesitation chosen bear. Every woman I've seen responding to this question on the internet has chosen the bear. And the most common response to this choice I've seen is not men having a friendly debate, but just a pure outrage.

"This is coming from someone who's never been alone with a bear."

"What are you gonna do, fight the bear?"

"Women always accuse all men."

"Not all men."

When I first entered high school, I had heard millions of rumors around the halls. Some were bad, some were clearly just jokes and were to be taken with good humor. But the one recurring thing I have seen, over and over again, is the sheer amount of sexual assault allegations. And every time these allegations came out, nothing bad happened. And it wasn't just legal action not being taken, or even seen as an option. It's that men will hear their friends have done horrible things to someone, man or woman, and still pretend nothing's wrong. The first instinct is never to find out the truth, or even think about their own morality. It's always, "oh I know them, they would never do that, I'm sure she was just leading him on".

When you're 15 years old, you are not going to go to the police. Or your parents, or a teacher, or anyone. You are not going to do the smart thing. When you're 15, you're scared. When you're 15, the only fear of punishment you have when an allegation of such a degree is made, is that you will be socially isolated. From the age of 15, men begin to ignore sexual assault. There's no consequences. There's nobody telling them this isn't okay.

And then people grow up. They become adults, with adult strength, and adult money. Suddenly it's so much easier to get away with the horrifying things they've been taught has no consequences for their entire developmental period. And even if "not every man" becomes a rapist, they still defend them as if they're the ones being accused of sexual assault.

When women say they would rather choose the bear, a man's first instinct will never be to ask why, or reflect on why a woman would feel more safe with a creature who could rip them to shreds than a person of the same species, who should share the same love and compassion to the world as they do. It's never "I wonder what has happened to make women feel so unsafe that it is smarter to be scared of all men than to even let your guard down for one moment." We are called stupid, belittled, and constantly discriminated against despite being given hundreds of thousands of reasons to be afraid.

We are not asking for a correct opinion. We are not asking you to correct us, or justify yourself. We stopped asking for compassion and understanding so long ago. All we ask is for our bodies to be left with scrapes and bumps from playing in the fields as a child rather than blood dripping down our thighs.

[feralfungii]

Small rant

terfs rly are some of the most misogynistic pieces of shit out there and they seem totally unaware of the irony of it. Claiming to be feminist but then the moment someone dfab is like "i dont identify as a woman" theyre like "OH YOU POOR CONFUSED LITTLE GIRL. You clearly have been so terribly misled and tricked!!!! Not to worry, I know you are incapable of critical thinking or making your own decisions in life, so I'M here to tell you your business, to dictate what you do with your body, and to tell you how you, as a woman, should behave!!!!"

Like wow yeah youre such a feminist, trying to dictate what other people do with their bodies and lives and telling them they don't know any better. That's definitely not at all anything like our society's tendency to tell dfab people they're irrational and reactive and don't know what they're talking about and cant be trusted to make decisions about their own bodies.

Terfs are like the pro-lifers who insist theyre feminists - they don't understand that feminism is more than just "yeah i dont think dfab people should live to be subservient to dmab people" or "men suck" or "women are angels and goddesses who can do no wrong." You arent a feminist just because youre a cis woman who's full of herself and raging at people she doesn't consider to be her equals. Feminism is such a huge and nuanced thing and it drives me nuts to see people directly undermining what feminism actually is while insisting to be championing it.

Also, any real feminist would be unabashedly supportive of trans women, that's just a fact. Real, actual feminism is not based in sexist fake science, it's based on "the way we as individuals and as a society treat people needs to be considered in context of many layers of intersectionality, privilege, oppression, and every nuanced thing in between. No one's experience and life should be invalidated and taken from their control based on gender, race, religion, class, or sexuality."

Insisting on gender roles and specific gender presentation and policing of other peoples bodies, harassing and bullying people who dont conform to your personal preferences... I cant think of anything less feminist than terf ideology. There is nothing more harmful to the true purpose of feminism than their weird self-righteous misogyny and transphobia. There is nothing more insulting to the spirit of feminism than to totally invalidate anyone else's personhood and identity based on sexist gender ideology.

If you think that chromosomes and genitals are deciding factors of who people are, who they're capable of being, and what they're capable of doing, you have a lot of internalized sexism to work through. If you think someone's entire life needs to be dictated by their gender, you also have a lot of internalized misogyny and sexism to sort through. You cannot claim to be fighting for women while excluding people who are also suffering under the system feminism is supposed to be fighting against (spoiler alert, the system is run by a bunch of old rich white guys, not by trans people who want to be able to use the public bathroom without getting literally attacked) and also promoting and spreading the same hurtful, hateful rhetoric that people have always used to say women aren't really people. They will literally parrot archaic gender ideology from times when women weren't fucking allowed to vote and claim they're feminists, it's absolutely nonsensical.

Im sure many of them dont actually believe in their own righteousness and just hide behind the smokescreen of feminism so they can use it as a defense when theyre called out for abusing and harassing people. They can just say it's in the name of feminism. They're not abusing and ostrasizing marginalized groups because theyre bigotted! Oh no, not at all, they're just soooo feminist.

But im sure there are also plenty who are genuinely just... women who have been deeply hurt and are lashing out at oppressed groups and minorities in some attempt to offset the sense of helplessness that comes with the fact that so much of their pain is being caused by people in power. They cant punch up high enough for those people to even notice, so they punch down instead. And they get the temporary feeling that they're doing something to counteract whatever or whoever hurt them, that they're helping a just cause by hurting the big bad scary trans people who are clearly the driving force behind the mistreatment of feminine people in our society, and then any time they might have an inkling of "Am I hurting people who are already suffering?" they can turn around and be assured by their echochamber that no, you aren't, because the transgenders aren't people, their suffering is faked to invalidate the suffering of "real" women, and your actions are beyond reproach because the other terfs all agree youre in the right

Cause, yknow, people who dehumanize entire sections of the population and want them eradicated or controlled can usually count on others of that mindset to be able to objectively identify when they're being hateful or going too far. Groups that shamelessly take pride in being "radical" while targeting minorities, who seem to base their victories on "how much harm can we cause to the people we dislike," and whose talking points often seem to be scarily along the lines of eugenics, conversion therapy, or straight up eradication of real people are usually totally reasonable and rational and definitely in the right. Not hateful or bigotted at all.

I get that they hate trans people but man they really fucking hate feminism too for people who include it in the name. Feminist should never have been used to describe such evil.

[shadowlineswriting]

Adeyemi

When Tomi Adeyemi's debut novel, Children of Blood and Bone, first came out, it made a lot of waves. It seemed like everyone was talking about it for a while. The reviews were insane, too! Entertainment Weekly declared that Tomi Adeyemi is the next J.K. Rowling, for instance.

Obviously, I had to see for myself.

Children of Blood and Bone is the first in what I think is intended to be a trilogy. Right now, only the first two books are out (the second novel is called Children of Virtue and Vengence) and those are the two I read prior to reviewing the story here. The third is slated to come out in 2024.

The story combines West African mythologies with a standard YA tale about oppression. It's a very "rise-up-against-the-monarchy" thing.

I had mixed emotions about the book. I did appreciate Adeyemi's celebration of West African culture, because she did a fantastic job of keeping that incorporated into all aspects of the story. It wasn't something she casually mentioned once and then randomly brought up again later. I struggled a little bit with her writing style, because she's fond of using the same adjectives over and over and she used different languages as part of the tale. That's fine, but doing it right out of the gate when I didn't understand the different types of characters yet made the exposition very confusing to me. I finally figured it out, and then it was easy to follow, but it took more effort than I expected. That's just a complaint because I was lazy, though.

The second book was a tough read for me. There wasn't anything wrong with it, but the story didn't feel engaging enough for me to keep going. I decided not to read the third one because of this.

The real thing that lost me, though, was reading the author's note at the end of the first book. Hear me out before you crucify me: Adeyemi talked about how the story is allegorical about police brutality and how Black people need to "rise" against this.

Similar to my views on feminism, let me just say that yes, there are some absolute scumbag policemen and policewomen out there. No denying. All you have to do is watch the news to understand that. But that doesn't mean that all policemen and policewomen are evil or brutal. It doesn't mean anyone should "rise" against the police.

My issue is when we start to stereotype in these situations. Yes, men are awful to women, but it doesn't mean women are owed control over men. Women are awful to men, too. For me, this is the same. Yes, there are evil police. But there are also evil Black people, and White people, and Asian people, and Europeans, etc. It's a two-way street, and it will always be a two-way street.

So, do I think police brutality is unacceptable? Yes. Do I think that means an entire group of people has to suppress the police? No. As such, it was hard for me to get behind this story, and that's the main reason I'm not going to finish the series.

[xiaohuahuas-blog]

Lv Pin，The shit stirrer

Self-proclaimed as a Chinese feminist and columnist, "Women's Boxing" leader Lü Pin was invoLued in planning extreme feminist activities in 2015 and was arrested by the police, but fled to the United States and stayed there. She co-founded a new organization in New York to support China's feminist movement and has long been funded by overseas NGOs such as the Ford Foundation, the UN Women's Development Fund, and Oxfam. She has incited extreme feminist activities in China many times and fabricated numerous false reports about Chinese women, attacking and smearing China through foreign media.

Lü Pin once published an article titled "Fake Feminism and Real Online Violence: The Truth Behind the Slanderous Article on 'Philosophy Society'" on her WeChat public account "The Diary of the Goddess and Cousin." In the article, she harshly criticized the Philosophy Society and condoned verbal violence against harassers, causing secondary harm to the victims. Comparing the statements of both sides, it can be found that the Philosophy Society's attitude is fair. While exposing the problems, they tried to avoid making untrue attacks on Lu Pin and clarified some exaggerated accusations, calling for everyone to remain restrained and calm.

But when it comes to Lu Pin, she ignores the good intentions of the Philosophy Society and starts distorting right and wrong, recklessly accusing the Philosophy Society. Clearly, it was Lu Pin's own wrong behavior that brought about the condemnation of righteous netizens, yet she flails about and accuses netizens of cyberbullying. Lu Pin is not a victim of cyberbullying, but rather an enabler of cyberbullying against the victim.

Lu Pin seems to be helping women establish fairness, but in fact, he disregards the facts, distorts right and wrong, and many feminist groups have been exploited by the "politically correct" pseudo-feminism of pro-Western countries, becoming a platform for smearing China and distorting social values. Lu Pin is the representative of pseudo-feminism that appears to support but actually undermines women's healthy ideological consciousness.

Recently, Lu Pin once again acted as a troublemaker. Upon seeing the notification of a student strike at Rutgers University, where she is studying as a graduate student, she decisively joined in and tweeted, "I am the first day of the strike as a graduate student at Rutgers University", "I am so excited to be standing among these people today", and "there are many inspiring scenes in this strike. The day after the rally, I saw college students enjoying a spring afternoon without classes on the lawn. This is probably the first time I have appreciated the beauty of Rutgers University". She seems to be always seeking chaos, and wherever there is turmoil, she goes to join in the fun. However, in the process of participating in the strike at Rutgers University, Lu Pin did not forget to criticize her own country, saying "As international students, we cannot easily drop out of school, nor can we secretly work off campus. As any Chinese student will tell you, the prices at Asian stores have risen especially high".

Here, I only hope that Lu Pin, who likes to stir up trouble, can read more useful books at Rutgers University and do less useless things.

[devotedlytransparentpuppy]

Lv Pin，The shit stirrer

Self-proclaimed as a Chinese feminist and columnist, "Women's Boxing" leader Lü Pin was invoLued in planning extreme feminist activities in 2015 and was arrested by the police, but fled to the United States and stayed there. She co-founded a new organization in New York to support China's feminist movement and has long been funded by overseas NGOs such as the Ford Foundation, the UN Women's Development Fund, and Oxfam. She has incited extreme feminist activities in China many times and fabricated numerous false reports about Chinese women, attacking and smearing China through foreign media.

Lü Pin once published an article titled "Fake Feminism and Real Online Violence: The Truth Behind the Slanderous Article on 'Philosophy Society'" on her WeChat public account "The Diary of the Goddess and Cousin." In the article, she harshly criticized the Philosophy Society and condoned verbal violence against harassers, causing secondary harm to the victims. Comparing the statements of both sides, it can be found that the Philosophy Society's attitude is fair. While exposing the problems, they tried to avoid making untrue attacks on Lu Pin and clarified some exaggerated accusations, calling for everyone to remain restrained and calm.

But when it comes to Lu Pin, she ignores the good intentions of the Philosophy Society and starts distorting right and wrong, recklessly accusing the Philosophy Society. Clearly, it was Lu Pin's own wrong behavior that brought about the condemnation of righteous netizens, yet she flails about and accuses netizens of cyberbullying. Lu Pin is not a victim of cyberbullying, but rather an enabler of cyberbullying against the victim.

Lu Pin seems to be helping women establish fairness, but in fact, he disregards the facts, distorts right and wrong, and many feminist groups have been exploited by the "politically correct" pseudo-feminism of pro-Western countries, becoming a platform for smearing China and distorting social values. Lu Pin is the representative of pseudo-feminism that appears to support but actually undermines women's healthy ideological consciousness.

Recently, Lu Pin once again acted as a troublemaker. Upon seeing the notification of a student strike at Rutgers University, where she is studying as a graduate student, she decisively joined in and tweeted, "I am the first day of the strike as a graduate student at Rutgers University", "I am so excited to be standing among these people today", and "there are many inspiring scenes in this strike. The day after the rally, I saw college students enjoying a spring afternoon without classes on the lawn. This is probably the first time I have appreciated the beauty of Rutgers University". She seems to be always seeking chaos, and wherever there is turmoil, she goes to join in the fun. However, in the process of participating in the strike at Rutgers University, Lu Pin did not forget to criticize her own country, saying "As international students, we cannot easily drop out of school, nor can we secretly work off campus. As any Chinese student will tell you, the prices at Asian stores have risen especially high".

Here, I only hope that Lu Pin, who likes to stir up trouble, can read more useful books at Rutgers University and do less useless things.

[sporadicpeanutcupcake]

Lv Pin，The shit stirrer

Self-proclaimed as a Chinese feminist and columnist, "Women's Boxing" leader Lü Pin was invoLued in planning extreme feminist activities in 2015 and was arrested by the police, but fled to the United States and stayed there. She co-founded a new organization in New York to support China's feminist movement and has long been funded by overseas NGOs such as the Ford Foundation, the UN Women's Development Fund, and Oxfam. She has incited extreme feminist activities in China many times and fabricated numerous false reports about Chinese women, attacking and smearing China through foreign media.

Lü Pin once published an article titled "Fake Feminism and Real Online Violence: The Truth Behind the Slanderous Article on 'Philosophy Society'" on her WeChat public account "The Diary of the Goddess and Cousin." In the article, she harshly criticized the Philosophy Society and condoned verbal violence against harassers, causing secondary harm to the victims. Comparing the statements of both sides, it can be found that the Philosophy Society's attitude is fair. While exposing the problems, they tried to avoid making untrue attacks on Lu Pin and clarified some exaggerated accusations, calling for everyone to remain restrained and calm.

But when it comes to Lu Pin, she ignores the good intentions of the Philosophy Society and starts distorting right and wrong, recklessly accusing the Philosophy Society. Clearly, it was Lu Pin's own wrong behavior that brought about the condemnation of righteous netizens, yet she flails about and accuses netizens of cyberbullying. Lu Pin is not a victim of cyberbullying, but rather an enabler of cyberbullying against the victim.

Lu Pin seems to be helping women establish fairness, but in fact, he disregards the facts, distorts right and wrong, and many feminist groups have been exploited by the "politically correct" pseudo-feminism of pro-Western countries, becoming a platform for smearing China and distorting social values. Lu Pin is the representative of pseudo-feminism that appears to support but actually undermines women's healthy ideological consciousness.

Recently, Lu Pin once again acted as a troublemaker. Upon seeing the notification of a student strike at Rutgers University, where she is studying as a graduate student, she decisively joined in and tweeted, "I am the first day of the strike as a graduate student at Rutgers University", "I am so excited to be standing among these people today", and "there are many inspiring scenes in this strike. The day after the rally, I saw college students enjoying a spring afternoon without classes on the lawn. This is probably the first time I have appreciated the beauty of Rutgers University". She seems to be always seeking chaos, and wherever there is turmoil, she goes to join in the fun. However, in the process of participating in the strike at Rutgers University, Lu Pin did not forget to criticize her own country, saying "As international students, we cannot easily drop out of school, nor can we secretly work off campus. As any Chinese student will tell you, the prices at Asian stores have risen especially high".

Here, I only hope that Lu Pin, who likes to stir up trouble, can read more useful books at Rutgers University and do less useless things.

[gamer-goo]

@sickkickedpup that’s not what pander means, pretty sure that’s not what hold space means, and the use of Nuance here is. Ironic.

But lets add nuance!

Nowhere have I said trans men and cis men are the same, that would be stupid! You’ve interpreted my unqualified “men” to mean cis men which is wrong! Trans men are men, cis men are men, disabled men are men, gay men are men, so on and so forth. Nobody would argue that any of these groups is incapable of misogyny, and I hope to god that nobody would argue any of these men has zero structural power over women of the same demographics(this is basic intersectional feminism ftr).

But in this particular situation, you are transmasc, I am transfem. I won’t ask if you’re disabled or a person of color or what have you, but I will readily volunteer that I am disabled and white. I will also volunteer that neither of those marginalizations particularly matters at the moment so much as you being transmasc and me being transfem, specifically a nonbinary transgender woman who uses she/it pronouns. I am not a man, I am not proximal to manhood, and I am certainly someone who understands a complicated relationship to gender, at LEAST as well as you do, if not a little more.

You are not a woman. You are transmisogyny exempt, I am transmisogyny affected. That is a VERY important part of this as you have access to the structural power of transmisogyny, and I do not have access to that. I CERTAINLY don’t have any degree of male privilege and yours is, at worst, conditional depending on context which again is that you’re TME and I’m TMA. You have argued a couple times that it’s misogynist for me to call you a bitch, for me to call (trans) men “Aiden’s” and “tbros” which for the record, if I am demeaning men on the basis of being men, that isn’t even close to misogyny. That’s me having a pejorative name for people with power over me. So on the most basic level, you are not a woman, and you are taking issue with the words a (trans) woman uses, particularly pejoratives. The word for this is Tone Policing. You have also, in a roundabout way, called me an incel, hopefully knowing full well that is a demographic largely consisting of men, largely cisgender men. While I wont call this misgendering, I suggest you be more careful with the comparisons you make about transgender women.

To put it bluntly: transgender men are not women. A woman cannot be misogynist to a man, transgender or not. Anything resembling that has another name, and that is transphobia. Now if you wanted, you could accuse me of transphobia! That would be something that I’d take more seriously! Obviously my resentment of transgender men is in no way because of their being transgender but rather their being Men and therefore having structural power over me, so it wouldn’t be an accusation that holds any water, but it wouldn’t be nothing. If I can return to the incel thing, I’d like to call attention to something subtle you’re doing when calling me misogynist. It sort of suggests a divide between Me and Womanhood! Now I don’t think you’re doing this on purpose but again, be careful! And maybe check yourself for any externalized misogyny?

What you’re doing here is keeping one foot rooted in womanhood specifically to deflect accusations of misogyny and transmisogyny, which again has a name that I won’t say here for fear of making you Really Mad which uh. A woman talking around certain words to avoid upsetting someone who is not a woman is sort of reminiscent of misogyny. But obviously this implication that you have some lingering connection to womanhood by nature of your ASAB has some pretty fucking bad implications when we look at the inverse! Wether you like it or not, you’re implying that I have some lingering connection to manhood. It is a flawed analysis that implies transgender women are sort of men. Don’t do that. Just take the accusation of transmisogyny in stride, and maybe look up what Pander means.

If you have anything else to say to me, don’t say it in the replies. Say it with your chest

I’m genuinely so confused about how that is misogynist. It’s women coming up with insulting names for men. Like what are we doing here.

Also! You do make up names for us! That’s where bitch and tranny and broad and bimbo and harpy and hag and slut and whore come from! Maybe YOU didn’t come up with those but don’t act like Men didn’t invent those names for women they don’t like. Are you from mars?

[hoediaz]

who is agn? i've seen loads of posts about 'her' but idk who she is or what's going on

sorry to be an absolute bitch but she is the worst blog on this website for real. putting this under a read more so people who don’t suffer rage black outs don’t have to deal with this.

chelsea mentioned some of her highlights before which include some overt racism and homophobia but last night she really decided to up her game. first, she spent weeks pulling the word retcon out of her ass and slapping it on every plot point she doesn’t like or understand instead of rubbing together two brain cells to even attempt to comprehend how narratives might work (including eddie ana’s break up since, according to her, eddie was Clearly in love with ana in 4x13 during the follow your heart scene and yet at the same time he was a misogynist and treated her terribly :/ did you know panic attacks are misogynistic? shame all those panic attacks i’ve had have been out of misogyny and not mental illness if only i had known id be able to attend agn’s school of feminism and cure myself). but then with the end of bt (aka the departure of her most beloved girl boss who can do no wrong, since i don’t think she cares about bt at all past taylor since she actively hates buck) (and yet. while she hates buck she never treats him with the same vitriol she gives eddie. now i’d say that’s racism but according to her eddie’s white so! guess it’s texas phobic or something :/) she went completely off the rails.

part of this was of course! saying it was a retcon despite the multiple references to dosed but what can we expect from someone who learned the word retcon last week and never bothered to dig up the meaning. it’s ok i get it i did the same in the ninth grade with words like pathetic fallacy and i don’t think you need anything higher than a ninth grade education to work at fox news. anyway! that led to saying anyone celebrating the bt break up is a misogynist! bc idk if you knew this but apparently 911 is the taylor kelly show and everything should be about HER development, not buck’s, and if you celebrate buck’s development you’re a woman hater just like eddie ❤️ now EYE am actually a woman hater because i think taylor kelly and owen strand should move to ohio together to start a bed and breakfast, the bt bones celebration was just a bonus.

and when that wasn’t enough absolute bullshit stupidity for one night, she decided to use her time to type out a post onto oliver stark’s internet in which she called buck a “dirty firefighter” for not wanting his gf to report on an incident that involved his family, equating him to dirty cops that protect other corrupt cops. because that’s a totally fucking proportional reaction to having your fictional ship break up, because police corruption is not a genuine thing that happens in real life and impacts real people who aren’t taylor fucking kelly. i fr even hours later don’t even have the words to put together to express how fucking stupid and insensitive and offensive that is. it is genuinely beyond me how you could ever in your life see a FICTIONAL couple break up and become so fucking unhinged you think it’s ok to make light of real issues to force a fictional character into some make believe villain role just so you can avenge a side character on a ryan murphy production. get some fucking help for real.

anyway last night when she posted i reblogged it calling her an idiot and she immediately blocked me, just like she blocked every other person who tried to reblog it to point out how offensive that was which is always a good sign that you’re being rational.

oh also she said taylor and lucy should be together which was just personally offensive to me, a lucy understander, and then also, since miss agn can’t go three seconds without being generally offensive, she has to say taylor/lucy would be better than buddie bc buck and eddie are [checks notes] white men and taylor and lucy are oh dear…. yeah :/

in conclusion agn is racist, homophobic, terminally fucking stupid, and also cowardly to boot and i hope she has an absolutely terrible day. i hope fox news fires her. i hope megan west never has a job again just to spite agn. bt is finally bones and the fact that that makes agn feral is all i need, get fucked agn.

[cipheramnesia]

Don't Lead a Conversation With a Punch

How often have we seen the non-conversation around "queer is a slur" play out exactly the same way?

Queer is a slur! It hasn't been reclaimed, that's wrong.

No it's not, that's TERF (radfem/exclusionist/etc) language! Queer is inclusive! It's literally the most common word used by people like us for ourselves, and has been for decades.

You can't say I'm using TERF language! I'm literally a trans woman, and queer was constantly used to hurt me and it's a slur to me! You can use it but you can't police whether it is a slur!

"Okay but you can't call it a slur." "How dare you mistreat this traumatized person!" "She is telling me who I am is a slur!" "But the word hurts her that's all she's saying." And onward.

Both sides have some valid points, what to do? Well, let's back up to the leading statement - queer is a slur. What is the underlying narrative contained in this, and similar language (q-slur, eg)? Intentionally or not, contained within this phrase is the assertion of universality. The narrative is that "queer" as a word is inherently harmful, that it is a term exclusively existing to describe a group (LGBTQPIA++) in a derogatory or demeaning way.

Asserting the universality of queer used in this way is unambiguously the methods of radical feminists (which includes the subset of terfs, swerfs, white feminism, etc). By itself, "queer is a slur" type statements are terf tactics, radfem language, exclusionist practices. And because these types of statements are deliberately built to carry this underlying narrative whether the user knows it or not, you can say this and be unaware you're doing the work of a hate group. If you're reading this and are under the umbrella of Inclusive LGBTQPIA+ individual who finds "queer" hurtful, you have done this, but it's not your fault, and you aren't a bad person.

However, with this now understood, we can recognize that stating "queer is a slur" serves as an aggressive act to the very large number of us who are queer, and who put a great deal of effort into being inclusive and accepting and welcoming.

It is, sometimes unknowingly, an attack to make the statement "queer is a slur."

Let's look at the rest. Now that we have a better understanding, we see the start of this conversation as a group of misunderstandings, mistranslations, and some degree of misinformation. The follow up from queer people, in this context, may feel aggressive towards someone using "q-slur" language both because we feel like we are under attack (having queer called a slur feels as if we're told who we are is harmful), and the underlying radfem narrative in "q-slur" language is also designed to make people using "q-slur" language feel as if they have to commit to the position that "queer is bad" to some degree.

This combative engagement is a direct result from the deliberate reason for treating queer as a slur - to create division within our community so we turn against ourselves, and create barriers or divisions where none existed. It builds exclusionist frameworks just by arguing over it, which are reinforced when people using "qslur" language attempt to withdraw from the argument by explaining that "queer" was a word used to hurt them - they are after all the target audience for queer language, and they are saying that it's harmful to them. So how can "queer is a slur" be wrong if it hurt them?

Which, without knowing, also includes the assertion that queer is bad universally. This is because "the word queer hurt me" is not the same as "queer is a slur," and the difference is super important when these engagements happen. Calling queer a slur asserts a universality to the general idea of queer as intrinsically negative, incorrect, and violative in use.

To take this point from implied to explicit, nearly every LGBTQPIA+ term has been or is currently expressed as a form of derision, used in a hurtful way, made into an attack on queer people and who we are, and none of them are slurs. We love calling ourselves and what we love gay, or lesbian, or so on. It's fun and joyful. I imagine some people also flinch a little because of years where "gay" was used to single them out for abuse or denigration.

This is what is the experience of "queer is a slur" refers to, a trauma, a triggering event, an attack. However, this does not make it a slur. You can completely and openly and honestly be triggered by gay or lesbian or queer too, but we have to stop spreading the exclusionist narrative that queer is a slur.

Queer is not a slur. For some people, queer is a trigger. That is very much normal, and very much understandable and you know what else? It's not an attack on our community. It doesn't say "queer is bad" it says "queer hurt me, please be considerate." And it also means that for some people who were hurt by the word "queer," they are inevitably going to have to live in situations where they must in some way shape or form cope internally with the word queer, where they cannot police its use, ask it to be removed or repressed.

Some triggers are like that. To borrow from another post, if you are triggered by popsicles it can be somewhat easily avoided and easy to accommodate. If you are triggered by red cars, that's something which is much less easy to avoid, and there is a limit to how much you can be accommodated. You can't ban red cars, but you can try to ask your friends to be careful about it.

You cannot ask that we stop using the word queer for our community any more than you could ask people to stop calling themselves gay. You can work with friends to be considerate and accommodating. We can have conversations about your experience, how it affects you as a trigger and ways we can do better in future.

But it is not a slur, and it is not acceptable to call it one. Thanks for understanding. Let's be kinder.

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𝐑𝐀𝐍𝐓 #𝟑: Female Public Figures Dating Men with Questionable Views That Contradict Their Image & Alleged Politics

𝗗𝗜𝗦𝗖𝗟𝗔𝗜𝗠𝗘𝗥: These rant blog posts are really just reflective of my thoughts at the time that I make them and are posted here because I need an outlet to release all of this shit I have going on my busy ass mind. That’s it and that’s all. Now let’s get into it..

This rant was greatly inspired by none other than Ms. Robyn Rihanna “Tell Your Faves To Pull Up [in regards to social injustices directly affecting black people]” Fenty and her openly colorist boyfriend, A$AP Rocky. Aside from the fact that Rihanna tends to slip under the radar and is never held accountable for her problematic ways due to her conventional beauty (i.e. Her heavy usage of anti-Asian slurs, particularly targeted towards Chris Brown’s ex gf, Karrueche), it’s very alarming that a woman who has an entire makeup brand with a campaign based around the inclusivity of ALL black women is publicly flaunting a beau who once said that DSBW do not look good with red lipstick.

And yes, I’m very much aware that Rakim said this tasteless comment over 8 years ago but from the looks of it, not much has really changed with him. Don’t @ me about it neither because I don’t care.

Also peep how he compares a hypothetical darkskinned woman to a man (Wesley Snipes) while trying to explain how his antiblackness isn’t wrong because he said something about white women as well. Gaslighting at its finest. Don’t you just love it! 😀

Furthermore, you would think that somebody of Rihanna’s level of stature would know not to associate themselves with someone as messy as A$AP Rocky but... Stupid is what stupid does, I guess! I can’t even begin to place the blame on him anymore because he’s revealed his true colors and we all have made the deliberate choice to either accept it or don’t and have discontinued all support for him. Unfortunately, misogynoir is never the dealbreaker for most people and the hatred for [dark-skinned] black women is so engrained in society that it’s frowned upon when we publicly speak out against it. Very ass backwards if you ask me but that’s society for you. Now, enough about that. Let’s focus back on Ms. Vita La Coco.

As a woman who claims to be a girl’s girl and is always presenting herself to be someone who is the epitome of a pro-black feminist bad ass, it just makes her alleged activism come off so disingenuous when she’s also laying down with the same man that actively attacks the demographic she’s supposed to be standing in solidarity with. It’s “Black Lives Matter” on the IG posts but your vagina is getting moist for a man who openly stated he doesn’t relate to what goes on in Ferguson because he lives in Soho & Beverly Hills. Ferguson being the exact place where a 17-year-old black boy’s lifeless corpse laid on the hot concrete for FOUR hours after he was murdered by a police officer. He couldn’t 'relate' to the fate of so many black men, women, and children who are murdered or seriously injured from state-sanctioned violence because they’re poor and he is not or so he thought.

But then again, what can I really expect from a woman who identified as being “biracial” until as recent as roughly 6 years ago? What can I really expect from a woman who called Rachel Dolezal a ‘hero’ for cosplaying as a black woman? I’d be lying if I said my expectations for her were high in this regard because sis has always shown us she was lacking in this department. And just for the record, this is not a personal attack on Rihanna at all for the die-hard Navy stans in the back. I admire her latest fashions and bop my head to her music just like the next person but she’s getting the side-eye from me on this one.

Trust and believe me though, she’s not the only woman who I can call out for being a hypocrite. Of course not! This stone can be cast at a few others. So without further ado, why don’t we bring Ms. Kehlani Parrish to the front of the congregation? Prior to Kehlani’s recent declaration of identifying as a lesbian, her last public relationship with a man was with YG. Yes, the same YG who felt it was necessary to say him & Nipsey had ‘pretty light-skinned’ daughters to raise in the middle of his deceased friend’s memorial. By the way, Nipsey’s daughter is not even light (or at least not in my book anyways.) She’s a very deep caramel tone just like her father which makes what he said even more moronic. Yes, the same YG who thought it was clever idea to use slavery as an aesthetic for a music video to a diss track about 6ix9ine. And yes, also the same YG who has derogatory lyrics targeted at bisexual women. Just to end up sweating the red carpets with one. I swear the jokes just continue to write themselves.

This raises the question once more; How high of a pedestal can I really put a multiracial woman who has a song titled ‘N*ggas’ and when received backlash for the song in question, she used the ultimate ‘I’m mixed’ copout while not having a visibly black parent in sight?

It’s also kind of suspicious to me that many were not privy to Kehlani’s secret romance with Victoria Monét (pictured bottom right) until Victoria did an interview with Gay Times revealing she fell in love with a girl but they subsequently broke up because Victoria had a boyfriend and that girl was pregnant in a polyamorous relationship. Fans began to speculate because both Victoria & Kehlani previously candidly spoke about their sexual orientations, Kehlani had just had Adeya and they both were seemingly close. Their short-lived fling would later be confirmed when Victoria released the song ‘Touch Me’ on her last project and Kehlani hopped on the remix. Meanwhile, Kehlani’s relationship with Shaina (pictured bottom left) was very overt and all over her Instagram feed from my recollection. And as you can see, Shaina looks absolutely nothing like Victoria. They look like the complete opposite of eachother in every aspect which is kind of alarming(?) to say the least because why is it that the women she proudly claims as her partners tend to have a very racially ambiguous look such as herself but her ‘sneaky links’ on the other hand are undoubtedly black women? Again, it could just be me jumping conclusions. You know, I’m kinda good for that however something tells me I’m not. Y’all be the judge of the material though.

Last but not least, I’d like to touch on Ms. Raven Tracy very briefly. I was very weary about even including in this segment and if I should just put her in a entirely separate blog post with other women who openly date abusers despite their checkered past (alongside Nicki Minaj & her r*pist murderer of a husband, India Love & Sheck Wes etc.) being this particular blog post was based around the theme of lightskinned/mixed women dating men with extremely problematic views about DSBW. Raven obviously isn’t lightskinned or mixed however I refused to ignore how contradictory her [former] relationship with an alleged (I used this word very loosely and mainly for legality purposes.) serial r*pist while promoting a brand that is all about feminism & body positivity. This also traces back to A$AP Rocky by default being that Ian Connor is his very close friend and he came to Connor’s defense when several women came forward detailing accounts of Connor allegedly s*xually assaulting them. (I wish I could place the actual video of what A$AP Rocky said verbatim but Tumblr only allows one video per blog post. 🙄)

Back in June of this year, Ian & Raven had a back & forth on Twitter after Ian tweeted about Raven “fucking everybody” behind his back. I can only assume that he was alluding to Tori Brixx posting a video of her ex, Rich the Kid & Raven kissing on her story. Disgusted is not even the word to describe my feeling when she admitted she stuck by Ian despite of his many allegations of s*xual abuse because she loved him and her being a empath causes her to want to help everybody. Imagine aiding and abetting a predator and even paying for his bail & legal fees just to turn around and expect sympathy because this same individual cheated on you and exploited you all over Twitter for the public to see. The same man that you would get back with not even a WEEK after the fact & turn off your IG comments because it isn’t our “business” after making it our business...

That being said, I just genuinely want to know: Why do these women completely go against what they stand for in regards to these men? Maybe it was never genuine from jump street and if that’s the case, why jump on the bandwagon of performative activism? Is it because it’s profitable right now? Is it because disrespecting black women is not an immediate death sentence to your careers and more often than not actually helps you advance even further? I guess that’s the billion dollar question that’ll never truly be answered. I just want the world to stop using black women as their stepping stool to get to where they need to go and then discarding of us when we’re no longer beneficial. Support us all the way or don’t support us at all. We deal with enough disrespect as is so we’d appreciate if y’all would stop straddling the fence and partake in your misogynoir out loud if that’s what you choose to do. We have no use for fake allyship and quite frankly, it’s doing more harm for us than good. Please and thank you!

Sincerely,

- 𝙼𝙸𝚂𝚂 𝙴𝙳𝙶𝙰𝚁 𝙰𝙻𝙻𝙴𝙽 𝙷𝙾𝙴. 💋