#but sometimes I DO need the reminder

[blue-mood-blue]

Every so often I feel like I need to grab myself by the shoulders, lean in real close, and remind myself that before the creative things I do are for anyone else, they’re for me.

Especially fanfic. I should look forward to what I write! It should be exactly what I want it to be, even if that’s weird, or niche, or following themes and ideas that I’ve already beaten to death with a stick! They should be incredibly and wonderfully self-indulgent! I should love writing them, I should love re-visiting them, because that means their value doesn’t rely on anyone else - just me.

If someone else loves them too, then that is a wonderful gift - that is the reason for sharing them! But they are shared because they’re mine. And yours, for your own endeavors! Let’s unabashedly write what we love, just because with as much work as it is, we deserve to love the creative process.

[thedisablednaturalist]

I think when people think of mental illness and what helps, especially with things like anxiety and depression, the treatment involves pushing yourself. Pushing yourself to get out of bed, to exercise, to take a shower, to go out in public, to order your own food from the cashier, etc.

And because the mental health movement has grown so much, people think that's the default of ALL illnesses. That the only way someone will get better is if they push themselves. That practice makes perfect. That you'll become more comfortable or strong over time the more you do something.

But what people need to realize is, with physical disabilities and chronic illnesses, pushing yourself in most cases is DETRIMENTAL. Pushing yourself past your limits can lead to flare ups or further injury. That's why it's important to know your limits, how certain activities may affect your condition, and learn how to either adapt or get help to complete the activity in question.

Also, most of us are already pushing ourselves. Most of us don't have access to the help or equipment we need. Most of us live in places where we frequently encounter inaccessible obstacles. Most of us NEED to rest.

So please don't try to be our physical therapists or doctors. There are people specifically trained to help us navigate our own conditions and limitations. There are people trained to help us strengthen our body's resilience without causing flare-ups or injury. Do not tell us "it'll be good for you" or "you need the exercise" when we say something is too heavy or too far or when we say we need our mobility aid(s). Your friend with depression may need to be encouraged to get out of bed, but your friend with chronic illness definitely doesn't.

Respect our rest.

[bread-wizards]

I actually think Dorian and Orym should fight more.

Remember when their slowly building tension over and entire episode (full of passive aggressive remarks and blame throwing) led to threats? And how after, Orym thanked Dorian for handing over the crown sadly because he knew Dorian would be mad at him? And Dorian couldn't even look at him because he was legitimately hurt, thinking Orym was disappointed in him for doing what he thought was right? That was peak.

The fact they went from that to their current closeness and trust is the best part of their entire dynamic. Their relationship was hard fought and still will be. They will fight for it because they respect and care for one another deeply, and their disagreements don't change that, only improve it.

[measuringbliss]

People are acting so weird and possessive of Markiplier for the whole OnlyFans situation. He's an adult. He's an adult who's been a celebrity for years. He knows people thirst on him. That's why he had this idea in the first place. He's not some naive kid you must protect. He's not some innocent soul that the evil sluts of Tumblr and Twitter will corrupt. He knows the Internet, he knows his fans and he knows his job.

He's an adult and he can make his own choices.

[makiswirl]

can i just say. and this is probably a niche hill to die on. that i am so gobsmacked every time someone vaguely hints at the idea that jotaro doesn't care meaningfully for the other crusaders, usually particularly kakyoin and joseph, when those two actually tend to be the ones he reacts to being hurt the hardest

like he cares for his loved ones!!!! that literally plays into his character motives in every single part he shows up in!!! stop lying to me!!!!!!!

[skunkes]

[sugarpasteltmnt]

(whispers) hey friends I appreciate your excitement but gentle reminder it’s not very polite to ask fanfic writers when the next chapter is gunna come out

[teaboot]

how does it feel to be the art subtitling blog of tumblr

I've become the hero I needed

[taylorrepdetective]

I know she had era tour but I don’t think I can do it w a broken heart is actually eras tour

I thought of this too. Maybe sometime down under? No way to know, but I did think the line she threw in at the end “Try and come for my job” might have hinted at something. I can read it both ways. As always, we’ll never know for sure. But I think it’s fair to say she has felt this way many times. It reminded me of Katy having to go on stage immediately after having her husband tell her he was filing for divorce. And it’s relatable. We’ve all had to put on a happy face at work and pretend things are fine at home.

[atinyprincesss]

sometimes i watch videos and tiktoks of ateez and in sitting there giggling and kicking my feet and i have to remind myself, for my own sanity, that they are literally just men and i need to calm tf down

[fatedroses]

He can't have shit in this family.

[couldneverhurtusnow]

[chemistry] it's not a word that actors [use]. but you must endeavor a little bit to try and fall in love, in whatever that capacity is. and andrew is a very easy person to fall in love with. he's kind, generous, talented. we shot the film at the perfect junction in our friendship where there was a lot we didn't know about each other, but there was mutual admiration and respect. and a similar sense of humor. (...) yeah, it felt fizzy when we were acting. especially with that first scene at the door -- it's so well-written. you feel like you're dancing through the scene, you can go in loads of different ways, and if i went one way, andrew would go another. if that's what chemistry is, i was aware it was happening.

-- paul on chemistry and whether ‘they (andrew & paul) knew instantly that their onscreen relationship was working’ in all of us strangers, screendaily.com (1/31/24)

[uncanny-tranny]

Over the years, I've gotten a lot of cis people messaging me about how they should go about dating or courting somebody who's trans, and I always felt like my responses would almost... disappoint them because there isn't this magic secret to dating us.

Cis people, if you want to date us, just date us. We're human beings, we're not wild animals to tame! I promise you can have a healthy relationship with a trans person without needing to feel like the world will end if you mess up.

Trans people who date cis people often want to feel secure in your acceptance of them. You don't have to talk about our transness for hours on end to prove that you accept your loved one. You don't have to put on a display and cabaret about how Much You Accept Us. Just be a person around us, and let us be people, too!

I almost want to disappoint cis people by reminding them of this. Some of the best relationships I've had with cis people have been ones where my transness is acknowledged, sure, but it's acknowledged in the same way that my left-handedness is. It's not a joke to them, it isn't something to be horrified about, but it's also something that they don't objectify me for.

[littleguyconnor]

I wanna tell this to every artist out there: Do you want to draw because you want to draw, or because you want to post something. Knowing which one of these it is can be extremely important for avoiding burnout, guilt, and stress, which are all feelings you want to avoid connoting to art. Having a following is incredible. For me it’s one of the best things to have happened to me. But my art needs to be enjoyable for me still. If I don’t really want to and am doing it anyway, or doing it out of guilt, it’s going to turn out bad. And people will notice. Draw things that you yourself feel proud of and that give you a serotonin boost.

[torchickentacos]

If anyone else's windows device taskbar has been giving them too much world health news and prompting anxiety spirals, you can turn this thing off:

by right-clicking any blank part of the task bar, hitting this:

and turning this off.

Signed, 'oh my god I already mask indoors every day and live in constant fear of my jacked up immune system leading to my untimely demise, please stop telling me about fun new diseases'.

[nimue-hidden-lake]

‘One more’ you keep telling yourself. You are working on this big thing you want to finish as soon as possible. You have put pressure on yourself, maybe a deadline you want to keep. And yet you feel how exhausted you are getting… But you’re so close to finishing! So you want to push through no matter what! Last stretch! You can do it!

And yet, you feel your body getting heavy, exhaustion slowly kicking in. Yet you don’t allow yourself a break! You must… Do this… Must push through… Must finish… Must… Must… Mu– 

“Hey, what are you doing!?” A voice asks you from behind and before you can fall over a pair of arms catches you and shoves you closer. You process the embrace for a few moments and it takes you a bit to realize… Yet once you come to the realization it hits you, very hard. 

You lift your gaze up a little, or tilt your head slightly backwards, only to spot your f/o who has decided to embrace you. They smile at you reassuringly and pull you close, right against their chest so your head can rest on it. 

“You look exhausted.” They comment… Maybe they do not use these exact words and express it in another manner yet the context remains the same. “It’s ok to relax and take breaks y’know.”

They always have to remind you… Even if you tell yourself not to do so… They are always there to remind you that taking breaks is alright. You do not have to exhaust yourself. Sometimes you should take it easy and get some well deserved rest.

And if you don’t do that, your f/o will make sure that you will! No matter what it takes! You will take breaks because your f/o said so! 

For now, enjoy their embrace and recharge. You will have time for the remaining work later.

Proship/Comship do not interact please!