#but seriously. this online culture has so many problems

[asshole-rebel-psycho]

The older I get the more I realize these things about dating.

I have been trying to have deep connections and stimulating conversations for some time.

This doesn't seem to work. Especially on dating apps for I guess obvious reasons.

But as an observant, shy, lonely and somewhat intelligent person ( who happens to be gay) I have unfortunately never found love or relationships myself.. I have only seen it through other people

It's pretty apparent that dating is for simple people. I don't mean this in an arrogant way but a majority of individuals seem to not take the question asking part of dating seriously. Idk if this is due to them not being attracted, busy, simple minded or a more narcissistic culture but it is apparent to me that the closer these people are to my location, the less they are willing to learn more about me.

I wonder why that is? 🤔 I've had plenty of engaging online, non dating app conversations with people all over the world.

So part of me thinks that this is due to our new emotionless, soulless culture. Because this problem only exists when I engage with potential matches that can turn into reality.

The need for connection is still there. Fear is holding us back.

Why are people so afraid of reality? What are they running from? Themselves? Other people? Is the world in such a bad place right now that we feel like if we make a connection we know it will probably end up broken like the society we live in? 💔

The more I observe dating and other people's love lives the more it is apparent to me that deep, intellectual, stimulating conversations are not a part of the game AT ALL.

( take it as a grain of salt but from my observations dating goes like this)

One, attraction is the 1# thing! Because if you don't have it there is no fuel to get anything going. The car won't even get out of the lot. Especially off apps.

Secondly, the man usually takes action by getting the girl on the date as fast as possible..he has to woo her by showing her a fun, spontaneous, adventurous, humorous, and flirtatious time.

It is usually filled with banter, funny nostalgic stories, flirting and none of that would even matter if the two ( especially the man who usually carries the convo) was not attracted.

You can seriously make anything work with mutual sexual attraction. I've seen two plain and boring people talk for hours about nothing but because they had those saucer eyes for eachother it just worked! They definitely don't talk about work or deep concepts.

So the man drains his ( or if hes in his 20s) his daddy's resources on the girl to have a "fun" time..meanwhile his sexual motivation is keeping it going because she obviously has many other options.

The girl then looks pretty and vets if he is worthy for a LTR.

If so, she gets brought into this new, advantageous, silly, successful man's life and uses him as a tool to get away from her boring and domesticated life. She uses him for fun, community, hobbies and eventually family.

She uses his resources as a way to post on tiktok, fb and ig to show off to all of her friends " look at the amazing, good looking and successful guy I am able to get" mostly to show status as a woman and to make her friends jealous..because they were mean to her in the past.

None of her *connection* to her man has pretty much anything to do with conversation. ( sounds harsh I know but hear me out)

If you doubt this why do men and women immediately separate at Christmas parties and work events?

Have you ever observed a straight guy talking to a straight girl before? At any age?

It's usually a girl talking with her friends about things that doesn't interest him and his eyes roll over astrology and the girl eye rolling about video games or sports banter. Exc...

It's pretty obvious how for 95% of the population..male and female worlds have NOTHING to do with eachother. And want NOTHING to do with eachother except for what each gender lacks...

Emotional support from the woman and financial stability from the man. What binds them is sex and what keeps them together is family.

This is why my nerdy lesbian ass has such a hard time with dating. Lol

In the typical female way I am relying too much on talking, not much action. And in a very unfair lesbian way I can't seem to find my opposite.

I am trying to find an intellectual match when I should just be finding my feminine opposite. I'm treating dating like lunch dates with friends, Like men discussing politics on the Titanic while smoking cigars.

Unless I want to talk to a mirror long conversation isn't the way to go.

Because it never was to begin with. This is the code I finally cracked. Lol ���

I'll leave the cerebral banter and philosophical insights to the lonely, individualistic writer side of me..the side of many great minds in history...But even a great writer will drop his work like a hot potato as soon as he finds a woman he is undeniably in love with. 🥰

My point is to find my opposite not my reflection. And my opposite might surprise me with what they can give or know...even if it's not deep or extremely interesting to me. This goes for any gender. Love doesn't work that way.

[thestrangestthing89]

It's not an apology, it's a clarification. He very directly says "you misconstrued what I said" a thing multiple people around here have been trying to say for months. He said this exact same thing in an Instagram post he made a few months ago but people lack the reading comprehension skills to follow something like that. So he said it in a TikTok video again only some people are still not understanding. And it's because they don't want to. (He has recently taken his Instagram post down, I'm guessing because he is getting relentlessly harassed.) The truth of the matter is that many people didn't take the time to understand basic facts about this situation (like what the word Zionism actually means) and the result was that a lot of misinformation spread because people were desperate to make sure their followers knew they were The Most Progressive and The Most Anti-Racist. They did not talk about this issue in a way that was culturally sensitive. They made assumptions about Noah based on anti-Semitic stereotypes and I don't even think they realize they are doing it because, again, they aren't well-informed. But every time someone twists the word Zionism to mean "pro-genocide" and makes the flying leap that anyone using that word is laughing at people dying they are falling into the stereotype that Jews are bloodthirsty. Anytime people say that any Jewish person has the wrong information in this situation and needs to education themselves about their own culture, they are believing that Jews can't be trusted. They did all of these things to Noah and they did it very easily because they are ignorant. These people essentially turned into an angry mob. I can't even count the amount of comments I saw that were basically "I hate Noah too!!! Wait, what did he do? Someone tell me!" They piled on because their peers were doing it and not because they had any clue what the problem was. It was the cool and trendy thing to do so they did it. And they deluded themselves into thinking they were saving Palestinians in the process when they actually didn't do shit for anyone. The only problem is that the people who did this didn't take the time to inform themselves before piling on. Noah didn't apologize to them because he doesn't have to. They owe him an apology though and I think the ones with larger followings are responsible for a lot of this and imo are lucky they didn't get sued for defamation. He didn't do any of the things they are accusing him. They decided for themselves what he thought and believed based on very little information and they have no right to do this to anyone. They seriously think Noah is responsible for single-handedly killing people. He's not in the military or a politician. He didn't even endorse anyone who did. This whole situation is the stupidest fucking thing in the world. They are more outraged over the bullshit they made up about him the actual political situation and it's because they don't actually care. They are using Palestinians as an excuse to say hateful things, but they aren't helping them at all. I don't think Gen Z-ers are realizing that everyone older than them is getting increasingly more concerned about the way they go about their political activism. It's a serious problem and this current political situation only highlighted problems with them that had been occurring for a while now. Relentlessly harassing any Jewish person online for not speaking exactly to your liking isn't activism. Threatening to kill people who disagree with you isn't activism. Trying to ruin someone's career because they didn't act like your parasocial bestie isn't activism. Spamming the comments of everyone's posts with Free Palestine isn't activism and it sure as hell isn't what spreading awareness looks like. That requires being well informed first. Not to mention learning how to have difficult conversations without screaming hysterically at people and shouting that they must be pro-genocide/racist/misogynist/homophobic every damn second just because they said something you didn't take the time to understand.

They need to learn to ask for a clarification before assuming the absolute worst about people. They do this to people in the fandom constantly and it's why no one decent posts here regularly anymore. They are ignorant, plain and simple. But they are so desperate for peer approval and for people to think they are the best activists ever that they don't realize how much damage they do when they behave this way.

The people still pissed at Noah were always going to be. They were always going to pick him apart because they are anti-Semitic and they made that very clear. All he is saying is that people need to understand that both Jews and Palestinians are human and stop taking sides. A thing that anyone with a shred of human decency has been saying for months. The people who haven't been saying this tend to be very young (teens and early 20s) and it's because they fell for a lot of unverified information on TikTok - something that is concerning a lot of people given that it is an election year in the US. All anyone had to do here was listen and they didn't. They are too busy trying to be morally superior to anyone to bother having an actual conversation. They still aren't listening. There was nothing wrong with what Noah said here either. But people are determined to believe that he was laughing at people dying when he wasn't. This literally never happened. They just heard a word they weren't familiar with a jumped to awful conclusions. It's not their place to educate anyone on anything. They are not qualified to do so. And I wish people were smarter about who they were reblogging and weren't so desperate to get more followers by jumping on the bandwagon. They cause so much drama in the fandom constantly by acting like this. This is just the latest example.

The people who think it's now suddenly ok to be violent and homophobic towards someone just because they perceived that person to do something they didn't like, were waiting for an opportunity. They wanted to be horrible and they think they got a reason. They didn't and there is never a reason to behave like this. But it did reveal just how many people in this fandom are horrible human beings. The people who weren't saying this directly were still agreeing with those people and were not better than them. It should have set alarm bells off in their heads that the only people who agreed with them were being vile. That should have been the first clue they were on the wrong side. I wish people learned to think for themselves better. They were clearly jumping on the bandwagon and didn't understand what was going on. And I stand by my comment from a few months ago, we would not be dealing with relentless drama in the fandom if the show had a higher rating. And I do think they need to focus more on their original adult audience again. Most of us do not feel comfortable posting regularly in this fandom when it got taken over by kids who don't understand any of the things they are upset about, but they are upset with everyone and everything constantly. No one came here to babysit.

[flailuser]

i'm just going to state the obvious and something that i am neither the first nor last to bring up;

we're living under fascism, accelerationism, nazi ideology, white supremacist ideology, colonial ideology, etc. and at 29-years-old, when i reflect on all of the unproductive "discourse" and arguing and infighting all i can do is just scroll away immediately and sigh. i've felt this way for years--i never get involved with meaningless, shallow infighting that always carries with it impassioned rants and "gotchas" and shit, but these days, seriously... it always was a waste of time, but now there's no excuse.

you can't nitpick and make your phone's battery heat up in your hand while you watch videos or read threads or comments or replies or posts and feel a personal opinion and proceed to unload online after a knee-jerk reaction. it is a waste of your own time and energy, it is a waste of others' time and energy. it is a phenomenon irrespective of political ideology, but yes non-conservative/right-wing people are doing it all the time. not just the hyper-libs and neo-liberals, either. it's self-proclaimed progressives and leftists and whatnot.

there are important discussions and debates to have, that are worth having, there is humility and education to offer and share, there are "issues" that aren't issues or real problems at all, but instead are just disagreements, differences in opinion. we can't get into heated debates over opinions and ideas alone.

nothing i'm saying is new, but i want to reiterate it and add something myself. i see it so much and it's absurd. and yes, it's often people younger than me. not minors, but people barely old enough to even drink, in many cases.

this post might not be making sense, it's late and i should be sleeping but i'm going to continue to read a book i've been immersing myself in since checking it out at a library... it's a wonderful book about leather culture, gay male love, non-monogamy, and related experiences and feelings from the author.

now, i mention that because, yes, this book has been striking and deeply resonant with me in complex ways, but also just makes me think about what really matters.

yeah that sounds cliché, "thinking about what really matters" and all, and this certainly isn't to say difficult conversations and debates aren't important, of course they are.

but it's only the beginning of spring 2025 in the western hemisphere and i'm fucking seeing people kink-shame incredibly nuanced and misunderstood kinks.

people younger than me, who spend lots of time online, are yelling at other people online via a single post (and some of its replies) to literally kink-shame people.

kink is such a broad, diverse, evolutionary, wide spectrum of feelings and experiences, and no--not just any given thing is actually a kink. yes, morality is a deeply important factor. "safe, sane, and consensual" matters, that still stands, even if some people don't care what's safe, sane, and consensual. non-consensual, deeply inappropriate, toxic behaviors and experiences are unacceptable, full-stop. but this isn't the kind of thing people are complaining about.

instead the kind of kink-shaming i've been seeing has definitely happened to be things i actually understand well myself, and actively consensually engage in when i feel like i want to, and these things are being ripped up into pieces by someone who, based on how they've written their opinion, don't actually understand the core of the kink in question, or have never experienced it themselves, or other contributing factors to shunning something one doesn't understand.

(this is lengthy and i hope i'm making sense.)

i'm not saying people can't have opinions, or that people have to keep their disagreements to themselves or conform to others--by no means. i reject automatic conformity. it's not about that, to me.

there are really important conversations to be had, there are really important fights to step into so we can strengthen our communities in numbers and in solidarity, but posting online about hatred for a kink you personally don't understand that, like any kink, when consensual, is fulfilling and personal to those involved in the kink behavior and activity, you need to just log out.

i don't mean to attack or belittle or chastise with this post. consider it mild, common advice, or "wisdom" i'm accruing as an emotionally resilient and down-to-earth trans person who finds solace, exploration, release, expression, and a draw to bdsm, kink, leather, etc.

again, i hope i'm making sense...

tl;dr pick your battles under fascism. save your energy for the vulnerable, not the reactionary. save your energy for the needful, not what you are yet to actually learn about and have a better understanding of.

... it's late. choose your words carefully as you traverse the world, irl and not. remember our history, what generations before us had to live through and endure. think about our priorities in this moment now in history as a community, as a part of history and reality.

...

just thinking out loud, in length.

[big-coyote]

hi!! this may be a weird thing to ask about but ive decided to make one of my longtime ocs a coyote therian (they were connected to coyotes since the beginning) and i wanted to ask if theres stuff i should avoid when talking abt them or doing character design?

ive done some research on my own looking thru tumblr blogs ran by therians mostly, but i mightve missed some stuff!

for now they show their theriantophy as either wearing a coyote looking onesie (which is the first outfit they ever had) or when wearing other clothes they have a tail keychain on their trousers, so i also wanted to ask if you know of any other things they could have to connect with their theriotype?

again im sorry if this is a weird question! <3

(1/2) Hello! Not a weird question at all, I’m actually very honored and happy you’ve asked! I have quite a number of OCs myself that are also therians or otherkin adjacent lol. Also if anyone else has any ideas they’d like to add/advice feel free to comment or reblog!

As for things you should ovoid I’d recommend straying away from the idea of therianthropy being inherently because of mental illness. While it��s totally okay for your Oc to struggle with mental health problems or other serious topics. I often see the stigma online where people assume being nonhuman or having a alterhuman identity means the person in question must have Schizophrenia, Dissociative Identity Disorder, psychosis, a delusional disorder, etc. And again while I know plenty of nonhumans who have those disorders (I have some of them) and that may effect their identities as a whole, it shouldn’t be the end all be all of their identity you know? Ovoid adding more stigma to both.

Another thing I’d stray away from is the idea of a character being a therian because of spirit animals or any mythology related to closed practices/groups. I’ve seen many indigenous people online speak about their discomfort with the word ‘spirit animal’ and how it’s been adopted into pop culture. Being alterhuman is much more then “I feel connected to this thing/this thing is just like me”, it runs much deeper then that and it is as much as a real identity as something like gender, sexuality, religion, etc. It should be taken with as much care and seriousness as those other identities because it is huge and important part to a lot of our lives.

Lastly I’d recommend avoiding making the character the butt end of the jokes. While the Oc themselves can be funny, have funny things happen to them or have funny experiences as a coyote Therian I’d ovoid making them the punching bag to other OCs. Online it’s not uncommon to see many people misunderstanding and mischaracterizing being nonhuman for a quick laugh. It be very disheartening if an OCs entire existence in a story is just “haha they think they’re a dog, that’s stupid”. Again it’s important to take any identity like being a Therian seriously instead of just being the punch line for a joke or gag.

As for the clothing I think the onesie would be incredibly cute and good to wear as well as the tail! Many therians wear tails, both real and faux fur ones, to feel connected to their identity and feel more comfortable. I’ve also known many therians who were things like jewelry with their theriotype on it, fake animal ears, t-shirts, rings, fur coats, earrings, pins/buttons, etc. Some also like collecting plushies or posters with their theriotype as well, or having stickers on their books or drawing them. Or if you’d prefer a more casual character design you could have a character who doesn’t wear any outward Therian gear and prefers to keep it low key. Both options are very valid and would be interesting to see!

But no matter what I’m sure your Oc is going to be amazing and I can’t wait to see them! Please tag me if you make any art or stories about them, or if you have any other questions feel free to ask again or DM me!

[destinyc1020]

https://www.vox.com/culture/355242/hollywood-it-boy-diversity-problem-barry-keoghan-jacob-elordi-jeremy-allen-white

Interesting article, I wish me MOC were spotlighted lik a lot of these "white boys of the months"who can do 1 project and suddently are everywhere.

This was a VERY well-written article Anon! I enjoyed reading it! 😊 It really gave food for thought.

First off, I just wanna say that the Michael B. Jordan erasure is just.... 🥴 Seriously?? How are you all gonna act like this man doesn't exist??

Anyway...

I really do think that there are a lot of factors that play into 1) why there are so few "movie stars" of the younger generation these days, and 2) why there's such a lack of diversity.

Chiiiiiile....You're gonna need to take a seat, cuz I's got THANGS to say on this one! It's gonna be a long one lol. 🤣

RE: Movie Stars....

I think the reasons are:

We are living in a different age from the 90s. People need to keep in mind that "the 90s" was at least 30 years ago. Things have changed. People have changed.

The invention of social media, more online "presence" (something that wasn't around much in the 90s) has also played a role

Actors these days aren't living in the age of Tom Cruise, Will Smith, Denzel, or even Leo DiCaprio were when they were making it big. I don't think you can even really compare them.

I also feel like Hollywood is more so about IPs and less about nurturing movie stars. We're living in a post-Marvel world, and for a LONG time it's been the IP (not the ACTOR) that is selling these films. I blame Hollywood for placing emphasis on nostalgic films, "reboots", and IP-heavy films in order to guarantee a sure success at the box office, as opposed to nurturing actors to become movie stars. Tom Cruise didn't become an A-List movie star overnight. None of those A-list actors did. I think people tend to forget that! You have to give many of these younger actors some TIME.

Did I mention social media?? To me, social media has sort of taken away the aspect of "mystery" and "unattainability" that a lot of movie stars and A-List actors had back in the day. Now days, fans have their favorite actors at their fingertips, and they can even comment and interact w/them on social media. That was NOT a thing 30 years ago.

Being more "relatable" to fans is more of a thing than it was 30 years ago. If you're so "relatable" to fans now days, fans start to see you on THEIR level, and it might be hard to view you as a "movie star" when you're so down to earth and "relatable" Lol. 😅 Idk...just saying. You almost need an air of snobbery lol. 😅

RE: Lack of Diversity....

First of all, let's be honest, Hollywood has ALWAYS struggled in this department. 😒🙄 The article is right though, for a while there, it seemed like HW was making a turn for the better.... With films coming out staring actors like Mahershala Ali, Daniel Kaluuya, Chadwick Boseman, Michael B. Jordan, etc.

What happened?? Well, let's see shall we? Umm...First of all, Chadwick Boseman DIED. 😭 I actually saw him getting to the level of Will Smith if he had stayed alive, because he was just so darn likeable, and a VERY good actor.

Ummm....Jonathan Majors had assault charges... 😭 Yet ANOTHER talented Black male actor who was starting to get a lot of hype and attention, and was even starting to gain the label from women as "hot", even though he has a Butter Face lol. 😅🤣 But charges of assaulting your gf don't seem to go over too well when you're trying to make it "big" in Hollywood. 🥴

Rege Jean Page was another one who was labeled HOT (and he IS!) after Bridgerton aired. I was excited for him too, but then, his career seemed to take a turn for the worst after he no longer was on "Bridgerton". He still has a chance though to turn this around lol... But yea....

Kelvin Harrison Jr. is super talented imo, but I feel like he needs some more bigger films (he wasn't really the main focus in "Elvis" ) under his belt in order to get more girls to notice him. I remember that he was supposed to be in Euphoria (which could have gotten him more exposure) but then he dropped out all of a sudden (maybe due to filming conflicts w/another project).

My pick to lead the way is still Michael B. Jordan. Women LOVE him! 🥰 He's hot as idk what, he's charming, and he's been in large films, and even made his directorial debut with "Creed 3"! 😁

Daniel Kaluuya is also a great pick as well... But do women really "sweat" him like that?? Idk lol... 👀 You kinda need someone who has some sex appeal. I'm sorry, but when I see Daniel, I see a good actor, but for some reason, he kinda lacks that "something" that makes me say: "Ooooo yeaaa.... I wanna get with him for one night" lol. 🤣 I'm sorry, but that is probably what is lacking lol....for ME anyway. He's a good actor though!

Another thing...Do young black women go ga-ga over actors like that? Serious question. 🤔 I always feel like as a community, we as black women tend to go HAM for the musical artists. I remember growing up I always felt like I was kind of like an anomaly cuz I always loved and crushed on the ACTORS way more than I crushed on male music artists lol. 😅 I feel like it's kinda rare in the black community for us as women (or young girls) to be crushing on male actors like that. I always felt kind of alone in that regard. Thank goodness I had a small group of other black friends around my age who felt the same way I did and shared my love of film. 🥰 (I might make a poll out of this to see what others think)

I kind of feel like SOME sectors of the population (i.e. white girls) tend to be more of the obsessive types when it comes to "internet boyfriends" lol. There are some who just fangirl over guys more than others it seems. 🤷🏾‍♀️ Some segments of the population tend to be way more obsessive with the fangirling and the fanfic writing, the going-to-see-a-movie-10x-because-so-and-so-is-in-it.

I also feel like Hollywood tends to push certain actors with a certain look, and that look very rarely includes black (or moc) men.

I think Dev Patel is promising.... So are Henry Golding, Charles Melton, and Anthony Ramos. I also think that what makes a "movie star" isn't always just the movie, but also what you push them into doing. Tom Holland didn't become a movie star JUST because he played Spiderman. I mean, that certainly HELPED (don't get me wrong lol), but he also became a movie star because he was pushed into various different avenues of promotion for the film when it came out. Lip Sync Battle, radio interviews, TONS Of ComicCon appearances and Meet and Greets. I feel like Hollywood doesn't really NURTURE black male actors like this in order to become movie stars. You kind of have to be EVERYWHERE for a little while so that people will come to know you. THAT is how you become a movie star. It's not just the movie, it's all of the other little things that go along with it. And I don't see Hollywood doing that for black male actors. Some black films aren't even given HALF the amount of global press tour that white films are given. Just saying...

It's interesting that Pedro Pascal was mentioned, cuz a lot of women sweat him and he's well into his 40s. Very interesting (and good) point!

Sorry for this lengthy discourse (if you've even made it down this far ROTFL). 😅

TL;DR Version: I think there are a LOT of factors that play into why there has been a "movie star" drought in Hollywood lately, and why MOC aren't pushed as much to the forefront.

[catch-me-hello]

Wild Idol: South Korea Presents The K-Pop Hunger Games

Welcome to my second series recap project, one that begs the question: South Korea, are you OK?

Seriously, SK, let’s step out into the hall for just a second. Now look. You do know that you can put bands together through regular auditions, or by letting the bands form naturally through friendships and talent, or even by putting a large group photo of all your trainees on a wall and blindfolding yourself and throwing darts until you’ve hit somewhere between seven and twenty faces?

No, please listen. The dart-throwing thing would be the fastest and least-painful way for everyone involved, and then you get to do what appears to be your favorite thing, which is giving these groups really strange names that are supposed to stand for something but just make your average Western music fan very confused. Here are just a few of the names I found online:

Teen Top: This is actually a cute band name that doesn’t need to be an acronym. But you decided it stands for (deep breath) “Teenage Emoboy Emotion Next Generation Talent Object Praise.” SK, I mean this with love: What the hell is wrong with you?

TraxX: This band has changed its name twice. They started as The TRAX and then changed it to TRAX, and now it’s TraxX. The name means “Typhoon Rose Attack Xmas,” which I figured had to be a bunch of talent managers each doing twelve Soju shots and then just smashing their faces on their keyboards until words appeared, but no, the name actually means something. Those words are the English nicknames of the band members, which begs a whole new set of questions which are now irrelevant, as they’ve all quit the band.

UP10TION: I’m guessing this is pronounced “up-ten-shen.” The band has seven members, so of course the band name means “Unbelievable Perfect 10 Members Teenager Idol Open Now.” They started with ten members but then three left and they never bothered to … OK, we get it. SK, stop. Just stop.

It’s hard to find much information about Wild Idol online, but I did find an interesting discussion on Reddit. Apparently, this show was very popular in Korea, but it’s hard to tell if the ratings were good or if a lot of people were just talking about it, making it part of pop culture discourse. Apparently someone is making a lot of money from these band-making reality shows, because there are TONS of them. This makes me wonder how many of these groups actually became successful, but I’ve already wandered way off topic.

Over the next several days, I will be recapping the show Extreme Debut: Wild Idol, which ran on the MBC network from September 17th to December 16th, 2021, so this show is more recent than No Mercy.

Just like with No Mercy, I already know the outcome and am a fan of the resulting group. However, I am nowhere near as well-informed about TAN as I am about Monsta X, so I won’t have a lot of insight about the personalities, group dynamics, and all the other inside information that I had when recapping No Mercy.

I don’t think that will be a problem, though, as this show will provide plenty of content. We are starting out with 45 contestants. We will end up with seven.  Be prepared for many eliminations, hopefully all by judges’ vote and none by poison ivy or being swept over waterfalls, although now that I think about it, that would make a great movie. A trainee falls over a waterfall during a K-pop survival reality show. The body is missing, and he’s presumed dead. But after the winning band debuts, the missing trainee is found alive and demands his spot in the group. Somebody write that.

We will also see Giriboy again as one of the rap mentors, but sadly, no sign of Mad Clown. Other mentors will include members of 2pm, but not the one who can break chopsticks with his butt. That’s probably for the best. This is a wilderness survival show. I did a summer of Girl Scout camp as a kid, and I don’t remember any survival skills they taught us that required chopsticks. Then again, they did spend a lot of time teaching us the lyrics to some camp songs that got me in serious trouble when I sang them in school, so I’m not sure the point of that camp was survival.

Wild Idol will have mentors in several more fields than No Mercy did. Yes, we will have celebrity panelists and professionals in the areas of rap, vocal, and dance, but we will also have Performance Pros and Expression Pros.  I can’t wait to see what an Expression Pro is.  I literally have no idea what that could be, and I will not be Googling it before watching the show.

What else … the entertainment company behind this show is Think Entertainment, who debuted TAN in March 2022, about three months after the show ended. Also, the band currently pronounces their name as T-A-N, meaning “To All Nations,” but when they first debuted, they pronounced it “tan,” as in the color.

In other fun facts, the show put the theme song out on streaming platforms ahead of the show to drum up publicity. The song is called “Born to be Wild.” I found the official music video. All 45 contestants perform the choreography, and it’s fun to look through and pick out the winners. But what’s really amazing is the photography. We are going to get some beautiful nature settings on this show. I tried to find out where the series was filmed, but everything I found just said, “the wilderness.” I hope we get more information from the show itself.

The music video had the intended effect of getting me excited to see this show. I had to register for a Kocowa streaming service account to watch it subtitled in English, and in the user agreement, I think I may have applied for a trainee position in Think Entertainment. Boy, will they be surprised when I show up.

Let’s do this!

[c0rpseductor]

i complained briefly about this on twitter (“briefly,” he says. Actually i complained about it for quite some time and with vigor) but i hate that godawful website because i am a verbose autist and a tweet is only about a sentence or two long. for me. so i will try to pursue a thought about it here from beginning to end, outside of the constraints of twitter’s character limit (which is targeting me personally)

i have tried on and off for hours to get my mind off this, but i was really upset and disappointed to find out that richard siken not only did write wincest himself but seems to approve of approaching incest from the angle of sexual fantasy in general — these tweets about it are really sticking in my craw, and apparently they are from an interview he did in 2015, but the whole thing just came up again and it’s not my favorite take!

the question about consequences — and “question” is generous, i know he’s already years ago come to the conclusion that whatever consequences exist as a result of such narratives do not matter — gets me bc it’s like, dude, i KNOW what the consequences are. from experience. i have lived with them all my life.

the cycle is as such: writers portray incest as mutual sexual deviance as opposed to the reality of it being violence. literature portrays it as such, pop culture portrays it as such, fanfiction portrays it as such, it is widely discussed as such — as an example, try really thinking about how often perceived promiscuity is blamed on “daddy issues,” and what that may imply. many people never have any personal experience with incest or with survivors and come to regard it as a distant sort of kink activity, or an imaginary, almost fun and racy sort of violence that happens to a distinct class of subhuman other totally segregated from human society. survivors are blamed because the dominant cultural narrative believes they are willing participants and not victims of rape, survivors internalize shame and do not come forward. survivors often come forward to partners who find their childhood trauma (incestuous abuse is most often CSA) arousing. the online support group i frequent has a recurring problem of lurkers who use DMs to sexually harass psychologically vulnerable victims of abuse while they are in crisis. society does not take us seriously because the violence we face is seen not as violence, but as a category of pornography.

furthermore, trying to say this makes me the bad guy. to frankly and clearly state the harm perpetuated against me and others by these cultural narratives & their continuation in every aspect of life is regarded as puritanical and Orwellian. nevermind that the proliferation of such ideas & narratives and my exposure to them left me terrified that my closest friends would think i was a pervert for disclosing sexual abuse from my parents, nevermind that I spent years being told by my abusers and society at large that i’d brought it on myself, nevermind that i’m continually surrounded by that rhetoric every day and continue to have salt rubbed in the already unbelievably painful wounds — some people are criticized for publishing wincest fic in ao3, and this is the truest sort of victim; surely someone who was merely raped by his father for years could not understand the pain and martyrdom of being called an asshole online. THIS is the real concern. upholding the secret and mystique around intrafamilial sexual violence for the sake of shippers’ enjoyment of a middling CW show from 2004 is how we will fix society, no matter how many incest survivors’ dignity we must sacrifice to make it happen

anyway. i think this guy doesn’t know what he’s talking about, but trying to convince anyone that this stuff is even tangentially related to the experiences of real human beings who may see it and be hurt is a good deal like trying to tell people unicorns are real, in that they will laugh in your face.

[lokigodofaces]

Okay just wanted to say something real fast to any fellow Christians reading this. Within the past year there have been massive disasters in the two countries I hold dearly. Last April and May many parts Rio Grande do Sul, a southern state in Brazil was flooded. It was the worst flood in Brazil for a long time. I was not living in that state, I was living in the northeast so I never saw the floods. But this was a huge deal nationwide, every time I talked to anyone they would ask if I had heard of the floods, donations were being sent, and I was really touched by the support many gave the people who had lost everything in Rio Grande do Sul. I also have a close friend who is from Porto Alegre. Thankfully her family was safely rescued. But through her I heard lots of stories about how horrible it was.

And now in the US LA is on fire. It is absolutely horrible. I don't live in California, I'm not personally affected by the fires. But I have friends that live there too. And the US is shaken up about it in many ways. This is the talking point for many people today. And I've seen many generous people donating and volunteering. There has also been lots of criticism against the politicians that created circumstances which make fighting the fire more difficult (ie defunding the LAPD, LA mayor not even being there, etc) which does have a place in these conversations because those people need to be held accountable. But I have seen so many people support LA one way or another.

But unfortunately in both instances I saw some stuff from Christians that drives me insane.

Stop saying that people going through a natural disaster deserve it.

I heard similar things about both places. LA isn't known for being Christian. It's also seen as "richer," though that's not necessarily true. And as for Rio Grande do Sul, I can't be for certain because I've never been there but also I didn't live in Brazil for super long. But I got some some weird vibes about the relationship between the south and the northeast. The south is more prosperous I'm told and more white. The northeast is on the poorer end in Brazil I'm told and I'm told there's more blacks. Also I knew some people that worked online and did Zoom calls and they would initiate an accent from São Paulo or another more central state because they felt they weren't taken seriously when using their own accent. They also all said that the south had lots of rude people. And I'm told the northeast is more religious. Listen, I can't confirm any of this. Everyone I know from the south was super nice, but I've never been there. I'm just being told stuff. But regardless of what's true and isn't true there is definitely a cultural divide and some weird stuff because of it that is a little similar to how some people see California.

But because of these different problems people have with LA and Rio Grande do Sul, people have blamed the citizens or said they deserved it. Obviously Christians are not the only ones doing it, there is the political divide and that political/economic divide might be influencing religious beliefs. But I need y'all to start pondering on that for a bit and whether that's a very Christ-like thought or not. Also I'm going to start saying some doctrinal stuff, but I get that there's a million ways to be Christian. I'll try my best to be broad, but please don't nitpick over something small and try to understand the main idea.

First off, not every bad thing in the world is a punishment from God. The vast majority of bad things aren't. Sometimes we're victims of the actions of others or natural events because we live in an imperfect world. Things happen that we can't stop. But not because God is punishing them.

Second off, get off your high horse about your religion. Not everyone is Christian, deal with it. And non-Christians deserve love and support just as much as Christians. If you don't like me saying that, boy do I have to tell you something about the gospels because Jesus was constantly being hated over the fact that he would interact with publicans and sinners and Gentiles and Samaritans. We're taught to love and support everyone. So start doing that.

Third, stop trying to frame it as being political and anti-rich people. First off house prices have gone up so much in LA that those people just bought them when they weren't costing an arm and a leg. Second off doctors aren't the problem. People that got a good job and do well aren't the problem. Stop trying to reframe your weird hate towards moderately successful people as religious and/or political when that isn't helping anyone.

Fourth, I'm gonna remind you of John 13:34-35 (KJV):

A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.

By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.

Stop with the condemnations, stop with the moral loftiness, because Jesus said it himself: the way to show you truly are his follower is by loving others.

Look, I dunno why I'm saying this. This is Tumblr, the Christians on here probably aren't doing this since we probably have like queer tolerant Christians here. I think I just had to get it off my chest. But I'm tired of hearing Christians victim blame during natural disasters. It isn't your place to do that. As the verses above say, your duty as a Christian is to love others. So that's what you should be doing, not condemning people who have lost everything. So, yeah, in guessing many of you are doing great! But please try to help others understand this!

[moonlitkit]

SWTOR OCs + a bit of Moonie Lore pt1: about the game

This goes out to @uhhmmm, who was inquiring about Cipher N and has unlocked the "Talking About SWTOR" achievement. \o/

Seriously though I'm always down to talk about my OCs! I have a lot of SWTOR ones since I played it seriously for quite some time. It was the first MMO I ever played even vaguely "seriously" though I didn't really get into the PVP (player vs player, where you fight each other).

I'll try to skip over or at least explain any jargon, but I'm going to assume you know the basics of "create a character and play the game as that character" thing that happens in RPGs; this is just an RPG LOTS of people are playing - a Massive Multiplayer Online Roleplaying Game, aka an MMORPG, or simply an MMO.

So one day 20-something Moonie picked up this game to play and long story short I played, created, and roleplayed many characters in the setting of Star Wars: The Old Republic, known as TOR when I'm saying it out loud, and SWTOR when I'm typing it. I adore this game, I'm actually gearing up to play Umbral and N as if they were the canon classes. (They are not!)

As such implies, Darth Umbral and Cipher N were not the first Sith Inquisitor and Imperial Agent I ever played, full disclosure. Darth Nox / Imperius (the end class story titles of the Sith Inquisitor) forever belong to my OC, Saphina Kallig, who featured in that prompt I just wrote for.

Here's some real quick basics about SWTOR - if you want to skip past this, jump to the star divider I always use.

you can play as 1 of 8 classes, 4 on the Republic (assumed good) side, and 4 on the Empire (assumed evil) sides. But really, you can be somewhat good even as a Sith, and you can easily be an evil Jedi. The lines are even easier to blur for non Force users

the Jedi and Sith are theoretically opposites (most people know about the cruel and ruthless Sith Lord Darth Vader and the kind and compassionate Jedi Luke Skywalker just by cultural osmosis, they're pretty good examples of what most people expect) but really things can be MUCH more nuanced, which comes up a lot with Umbral

the Empire has it's own version of a bigger, shadier Intelligence Agency than most you run into in real life (please don't run into any of them in real life) called, with great creativity "Imperial Intelligence" and seriously, pretty much everything but the arcane knowledge of the Sith is archived in their databases, and that only because Keeper (the person in charge day-to-day) is wise enough to not stick his neck out near people that have no problem snapping it

to reiterate, Sith are not in general nice people; they are not the good guys of Star Wars but instead the root of all the bad things, and like Jedi are incredibly, superhumanly powerful individuals that, to someone outside the franchise, read a lot like magic wielders

Now, I'm gonna go write up the Cipher and Dark Lord specifically in another post, because doing it on here got way too long. When I'm done, I'll link them here for later ease of access:

Cipher N and Darth Umbral

If at any time you have specific questions hit up my ask!

[fandom-hoarder]

Considering OP is yelling at ppl to leave them alone when questioned on specifics because a post that says “the grooming in spn fandom is insane” (specifically Wincest) was “not a callout” and only “a legitimate safety concern” about “a space is known for well you know”, they are not worth the time. They also reacted very rudely to an anon who only wanted to apologize for following them (thinking that OP was anti Wincest and trying to respect OP’s boundaries). Just not worth it.

[I held onto this in my drafts for a day, but I think I'm just gonna publish it after all. Even though v did a much better job of addressing the op directly, imo, I'm not interacting with the op. I'm also going to gather screenshots in a posterity post, but it will likely be unrebloggable.]

Hmm, I debated publishing this ask, because I'm really just. So tired. And annoyed. And it's not a great combination for tact. Nevertheless...

I haven't seen the yelling myself, just avoidance and redirection. Flippancy. But maybe it's happening in a space I can't see, or between people I've blocked, idk. If so, it sounds a lot like it IS January 2023 redux 🙃🙃🙃 -- I HAVE seen it now, and my suspicion still stands, though still not 100%.

People need to stop making such serious accusations when they refuse to back it up. Words fucking mean things. Saying a certain sector of the fandom--that ostensibly you're also a part of?--has a problem with grooming and is stupid...that was NOT worded in a way to help people stay safe. It was worded like a vague callout post to scare people. We've seen those before. 🙄

A post that was actually concerned about grooming in online spaces *in general* would list some things to be aware of, things to recognize, tips for getting out of a situation. But no, it's this vaguepost without anything specific, with the one question in the notes asking for an explanation or if it's sarcasm-- unanswered [eta: well maybe they responded and I can't see it, since I realized I had op blocked]-- and one reblog from a person who claims it wasn't about wincesties specifically, when it demonstrably WAS??

So who is doing it, and where/how? I don't necessarily think it's a good idea to make public posts with names that devolve into personal beef and worse, but if someone is making the accusation that there's a grooming problem in the fandom they need to come with receipts or at the very least descriptions of the situation??

This isn't cutesy. You know exactly what anon is talking about, as shown later. Reblogging the post unaltered gives at least the appearance of agreeing with it as written.

This isn't to make light of! You reblogged it.

This isn't helpful.

If there was no one specific, why reblog a post specifically about the wincest fandom having insaneeee grooming? It wasn't "just in general." It's not a joke, yet this reply looks entirely unserious.

I am too old to keep seeing this type of shit go through the fandom at regular intervals, especially when it's so often a false accusation based on interpersonal drama. The only purpose this serves is riling up the dash. It's exhausting, and waters down the gravity of the accusation by making it a phrase that cries wolf.

I'm not even saying outright that the post is a LIE; just that it has seriously similar markers of past drama that was approximately 90% unaddressed purity culture biases about fiction, 9% interpersonal beef, and 1% actual concern for a human being who was an adult, but young. And it led to the utter gutting of fandom, loss of acquaintances, deletion of a glut of fic-- all due to smearing the reputation of a writer by using horrible UNTRUE AND INCENDIARY ACCUSATIONS.

So I'm sure many of you already understand why I take umbrage with these types of posts! Who knows if it's about fiction or something real? 🤷‍♀️

And since there's no further context to be found, the way it LOOKS on the dash is that someone is taking creeper!Dean too seriously. It could be about something else, but who knows.

[mask131]

It is always a fascinating experience to see people describe their dislike or hatred of, for example, a fantasy series or a fantasy book, when you, yourself, you know that it is objectively good - as in, in term of literature and of book it is good, no matter if you actually like the story or the characters.

In general, it really makes you realize how one's reception and appreciation of a book recently has turned away from actual literary quality, and is now mostly tied to the reader's personal life-experiences and personal world-views.

For example recently - this is why I picked up a fantasy series as an example - I read a fantasy book which had as a main character a composer of music, and made music a part of its plot, a key part. I myself do not know anything about the technicalities of music, but I recognized that there was a real work of information and knowledge placed into this, and despite not knowing anything about higher musical arts, I still perfectly got everything the author was trying to carry - and it worked very well for non-experts, while also clearly being written by someone who knows what they're talking about.

And I randomly found this one person on a blog that said that this was one of the weakest and most dragging parts/aspect of the book because, and I quote, "I get people would be into reading about sword-fighting, or languages, but music? Seriously?"

This person basically said that because they found the subject silly and uninteresting outside of the book (in real life, as this person clearly has no interest in the making of music), the parts dedicated to exploring it and using it for fantasy were bad. And that was it. It wasn't about the handling of the topic, or the writing style, or how well it carried in the plot, it was just about... "Music doesn't interest anyone, so this book who is third about it is already of bad quality".

And I'm not even going to point out the obvious problems a person has when they think that nobody should take interest in music... In fact (and I am a bit jumping around here from point to point), this is something I noticed in online forums and so when it comes to fantasy reviews and fantasy audiences - at least the English speaking ones. One of their very first complaints is "Fantasy books are too generic, they're too cliche, they're too stereotyped" but when someone tries to do something new or bring something added to the table, the same people will criticize it as being too weird or unusual or not interesting enough. And with this specific "music" comment, we can unload a whole can of worms about this sort of strange "reverse-geek-bullying" in fantasy reader groups.

One of the things I appreciate with fantasy stories is variety, the exploration of new territories, the use of new sources of inspiration. A very easy way to do this is simply to focus on a part of life, a trade, a job, an element of culture that hasn't been focused on by "traditional", "archetypal", "stereotypical", "done to eath" fantasies. There are epic fantasy stories about music and the making of it. There high fantasy series about cooking and the art of food. There are weird fantasy series about poetry and how to write a poem. There are mythical fantasy stories about making books, and the numerous jobs surrounding the existence of a book. There are so many stories which aren't about just digging up treasures in lost temples, and making war against evil overlords, and having sex with pretty girls saved from human sacrifices. Fantasy series where people often overlooked in fantasy - cooks, writers, musician, poets - will have a prominent place and an important role. And what happens?

Some idiots just come in and mock this/insult it, and they typically do what bullies in real-life do when they call someone's interest or passion "geeky" or "nerdy". The two words are never spoken or outright written in their reviews, but when you consider their sentences, their points, their logic, which is "This author has a passion for a specific craft or a specific hobby I do not enjoy/I find boring/I find weird, so this is bad", you actually can hear in their unspoken word the same cries of "Look at this nerd!" or "What a geek!" bullies shouted upon seeing kids enjoy video games, play role-playing games or reading science-fiction books ; talk eagerly about math, or share a love for classical literature, or enjoy computer coding.

This is literaly the same logic, but in a very bizarre way, applied to fantasy reviews and the appreciation of fantasy literature.

I don't know if that's related to specific fandoms and authors fan-base in the fantasy world, or if it is a recurring phenomenon everywhere - but there's clearly a faction of "fantasy readers" and "fantasy fans" you must be aware of, who will complain if something is too "that was done before" and be unhappy if they are given "something that hasn't been done before". They want non-archetypal character, but standard plot-focus ; they want stereotype-breaking worlds, but that the author has the same interests as them ; they want to not see specific tropes they know too well, and yet they refuse to read about stuff they do not know about. They're just infuriating little bugs, who somehow manage to perpetuate within the world of fantasy enjoyers the same behavior little school-bullies had towards fantasy-enjoyers back in the old decades when fantasy "wasn't cool".

In fact, I wonder if this behavior isn't somehow related to the fact that fantasy became much more widespread, normal, recognized and "cool" - meaning the type of idiots who mocked non-usual and deemed-weird subjects got "absorbed" within the fantasy sphere, and simply switched from "Let's not care about fantasy cause it's weird and not real literature" to "Okay, fantasy can be good since everybody is into it, but let's still disdain and reject weird stuff within fantasy".

[intersex-questions]

Hi, I’m the anon who was asking a few questions about measuring the clitoromegaly, I just wanted to say it’s not just you, I’ve also been researching so much about it and also can’t find any definitive numbers unfortunately. Some I’ve seen only measure the clitoris and some also take into consideration the clitoral hood along with measurements of the clitoris.

It’s difficult because most of the ways to measure indicate I do have it, but some might indicate I don’t as well. I think really I’m just quite scared to bring the idea up to my doctor and wanted to be more certain of it before I do, but I think with the amount of uncertainty around it I’ll just have to go ahead and bite the bullet lol.

Do you have any advice for bringing something like this up to a doctor? I guess I’m scared of not being taken seriously or questioning around why I want to know and that “I just want to know what’s going on with my body” isn’t a valid enough reason for the doctor to do testing. Also just the intimacy of the subject matter- for some reason I can talk about it in detail to strangers online with no problem but the idea of talking to a doctor about it brings shame and embarrassment.

Anyways thanks a bunch for all that you do on here (:

That's reassuring, thank you ;w;! It's definitely something that I think doesn't have a clear standard, which makes sense for several reasons. Clitoromegaly can be a cultural/societal standard to what's considered notable or what's considered acceptable. It's also something that some doctors may want to intentionally obfuscate. Also, I don't think many individuals who have clitoromegaly are often seeking out medical situations for it, or, if they are, it wouldn't be uncommon for them to be faced with intersexism (even if they're not aware that's what it is) and either be lied to about their variation or have their variation hidden from them. Determining it on an individual level can be a really harrowing experience. Especially since you can't exactly just go into a room full of people with clitorises and compare. Many of those people would likely be intersex, anyways.

And I totally know what you mean about embarrassment with doctors, don't worry. I can talk about things that are usually "TMI" with people like my partner, friends, even strangers. But with a doctor, it's mortifying. It can also be just embarrassing to mention things that aren't TMI even slightly. I think talking to doctors can be so difficult sometimes because there's often an inherent power dynamic for many where the doctors do have some level of power over them and are situationally in a position that has much impact over you.

There's a few methods you can do to try to cope with embarrassment. However, it's good to keep in mind that no matter what, you'll likely still be very embarrassed about it. Don't go in with the expectation that you'll be able to just miraculously no longer be embarrassed. Sometimes life is having to deal with experiences that make us embarrassed. If you have trouble using words when you're embarrassed, you can write or type a note that explains all your concerns to your doctor and give it to them to read. You could also send it to them prior to any appointment or contact with them and tell them you want to talk about it. Once you send something like that, it's sent, and you can't undo that. And once they do start to talk to you about it and ask questions, it's hard to get out of that situation or just not answer. If you think you'll be able to talk and want help with just dealing with having embarrassment, going through your thoughts and "talking" to and with them might help. Being aware of how you feel can help you determine how to deal with those feelings. I really like the CBT triangle where you identify what event happens and the thoughts, feelings, and actions that surround that in a triangle. All of these things exchange with each other and determine what happens. Feelings and thoughts can become self-fulfilling prophecies depending on how we choose to act on them, and our actions can cause those feelings to become worse, and, in turn, our thoughts. Try to deconstruct these things and reframe and replace your thinking. Something I was taught was to try to think of the worst case scenario, best case scenario, and the most likely scenario. What's the best possible outcome, and what would happen? What's the worst possible outcome, and how would we deal with that? What's the most realistic thing to happen? Some people, with embarrassment, also feel comforted when considering that other people deal with the same situations that cause you embarrassment. Your doctor also sees a doctor. Your doctor also has "embarrassing" health problems or things that are often considered "TMI". Your doctor also needs treatment for these things. Your doctor wouldn't go into a profession full of things that are considered "TMI" if they were not okay with hearing about, discussing, and treating such things.

I know that might not be the best advice or all too helpful, but I hope maybe it gives you some ideas!

And thank you for your kind words ;w;!!! I'm happy to be of help and love running this blog.

[rpsirjeecoaching]

NEET Coaching in Paschim Vihar: The Right Path to Medical Success

NEET preparation is no cakewalk—it takes commitment, well-organized study, and good guidance. For prospective medical students of West Delhi, NEET coaching in Paschim Vihar has been a revolution. With so many quality institutes and cutthroat study culture, Paschim Vihar is becoming one of the most desired destinations for NEET preparation. Selecting to prepare for NEET in this subject is about being surrounded by a diligent, hardworking, and resourceful atmosphere that is solely constructed to help every student become the best version of themselves. Ranging from experienced teaching faculty to student-oriented culture of study, the coaching institutes here offer you everything that you might need to overcome the merciless competition of the NEET exam.

Why NEET Coaching in Paschim Vihar is a Smart Choice

One of the major success determinants of NEET is the teaching and guidance quality a student receives. The Paschim Vihar NEET coaching centers are renowned for having well-designed programs that are not just book smarts. The centers mix study seriousness with clever tactics—mock tests, time management classes, concept clarity sessions, and personal mentoring. The mix boosts students' scores and confidence levels as well. Majority of the institutes offer coverage of NEET syllabus for a longer period with special emphasis on NCERT subjects being the backbone of the exam. Besides this, Paschim Vihar is extremely easily reachable by metro as well as road since it is extremely convenient for students belonging to nearby localities like Punjabi Bagh, Janakpuri, and Rajouri Garden. All of these centers provide online and blended coaching facilities as well so that the students are given more freedom to select their learning processes. Since competition is on the rise in the medical entrance business, choosing a popular coaching center in Paschim Vihar can be the key that will drive you ahead of the others. 

What to Expect from the Best NEET Coaching Center

Though joining NEET coaching in Paschim Vihar, the candidates must choose institutions that offer a combination of experience, innovation, and passing percentages.

Top institutions have a long distance to cover in order to acquire teaching members with years of experience of teaching NEET candidates and understanding changing exam trends. Those teaching techniques include the use of visual aids, live problem classes, and constant monitoring of performance. Frequent parent-teacher communication and feedback processes keep the students on track. High-quality study material is the other major consideration. Top colleges provide study material in printed form, test series, and last year question banks, all custom-tailored to cater to the new NEET pattern. Personal mentorship and doubt-clearing classes make sure that each and every question is tackled. This method not only increases the academic ability of the students but also conditions their minds to deal with such a high-stakes test. The emphasis is always on building solid foundations in Physics, Chemistry, and Biology—the three pillars of NEET success. 

Conclusion: Your Medical Dream Begins in Paschim Vihar

With a competitive career like medicine, the journey begins with choosing the right preparation plan.And to students from Delhi and outside, NEET coaching in Paschim Vihar is that. With stern teaching, a well-organized back-up system, and success-loaded results, these coaching centers are bringing the dreams of thousands of students to become a doctor into reality. Whether you are in Class 11 or Class 12 or have fallen a year, the personal attention, the discipline, and the benefit imparted by NEET coaching in these terms can be the turning point. If you aspire to get admission in a top medical college, this is the time to spend on yourself—under proper guidance, proper mindset, and proper environment.

[happinessismybestfriend]

(W10) Words Hurt: The Unseen Scars of Cyberbullying

Cyberbullying isn’t just an online annoyance, it’s a modern epidemic. Unlike playground taunts that stay behind at school, cyberbullying follows people everywhere, everytime. Anonymity and mob behavior turn what might have been a passing insult into relentless psychological warfare. So, let’s dive deep: What fuels this toxic behavior, and why does it hit so hard?

The Nature and Impact of Cyberbullying

Cyberbullying is a derivative form of traditional bullying that has evolved with the advent of the internet. It is marked by anonymity, widespread presence, and a mob mentality (Wong-Lo & Bullock, 2011). Unlike traditional bullying, cyberbullying can occur at any time and place, making it a relentless threat to victims. The psychological impact of cyberbullying is profound and multifaceted. Victims often suffer from attention deficit, social anxiety, depression, loneliness, interpersonal tension, and even suicidal thoughts (Kumar & Goldstein, 2020).

What makes it worse is that it doesn’t stop when you leave school or work-it’s always there, waiting in your notifications.

The kicker? Many cyberbullies aren’t inherently cruel people. The internet creates this bizarre detachment where they don’t fully grasp the impact of their words. Add in the power of groupthink, and suddenly, one mean comment snowballs into an all-out attack.

Celebrity Worship and Cyberbullying

Stan culture: a force of passion, dedication, and sometimes... straight-up aggression. A study on Chinese college students found that celebrity worship is linked to cyberbullying, especially for those with high reactive anger or childhood experiences of maternal rejection (Zhang et al., 2025). If that sounds dramatic, think about it: When people tie their self-worth to an idol, any criticism of that celeb feels like a personal attack. The result? They lash out, sometimes viciously.

Social identity theory explains this mess: People define themselves by their group affiliations, and stan culture is no exception. When an idol is "threatened," fans, especially those already prone to anger, go into attack mode, defending their fave as if their own reputation is on the line. It’s loyalty gone wrong.

But it’s not just fans attacking critics—celebrities themselves often bear the brunt of extreme online harassment. The tragic cases of South Korean idols like Kim Jong-hyun (SHINee), Sulli, and Goo Hara serve as heartbreaking reminders of how relentless cyberbullying can be. Jong-hyun, a beloved artist, struggled with depression and ultimately took his own life in 2017, leaving behind a devastating note detailing his pain. Sulli, known for her outspoken personality, faced constant online abuse for defying traditional gender norms, while Goo Hara endured relentless harassment following a publicized legal battle with an abusive ex-partner. Both died by suicide in 2019, highlighting the immense psychological toll of cyberbullying in the entertainment industry.

These cases underscore how cyberbullying extends far beyond petty internet drama, it can destroy lives. The pressure on public figures, combined with toxic online environments, creates a dangerous mix where mental health struggles are often overlooked until it's too late.

Online Harassment and Its Normalization

"It’s just the internet, don’t take it so seriously."

Is it sound familiar? That mindset is part of the problem. Research at a UK university debunked the myth that Gen Z is the "snowflake generation" by exposing how widespread and normalized online harassment actually is (Haslop et al., 2021). Women and transgender individuals bear the brunt of it, often limiting their online engagement to avoid being targeted.

When harassment becomes part of the "internet experience", people start accepting it instead of fighting it. And that’s terrifying. The more we brush off online abuse, the harder it is to push for change.

Online Sexual Harassment and Gendered Dimensions

Online sexual harassment (OSH) is a specific form of cyberbullying with a clear gendered dimension, disproportionately affecting women. OSH encompasses various forms of abuse, including negative comments, revenge pornography, and threats. It is used to shame, silence, and discipline women in online spaces, hindering their online participation (Megarry, 2014).

Why does this happen? Because the internet, much like society, has power imbalances. OSH is a digital extension of misogyny, reinforcing outdated beliefs that women should "stay in their place." Traditional legal systems often fail to provide proper protection, leaving many women to resort to naming and shaming their harassers as a last line of defense. While this form of resistance is empowering, it’s also a sign that systemic change is long overdue.

Networked Harassment and the Manosphere

If you’ve ever seen an online dogpile on a feminist creator, chances are, it was coordinated. Online harassment targeting women, particularly feminists, is often coordinated within online communities like the "manosphere." This networked harassment involves organized tactics like doxing and social shaming. The concept of "misandry" is used by these groups to falsely frame feminism as hateful towards men and to legitimize harassment (Marwick & Caplan, 2018). The manosphere, a loose network of blogs, forums, and social media groups, serves as a breeding ground for misogynistic ideologies and coordinated attacks on women.

This isn’t just individual trolls acting out, it’s an organized system. By painting feminists as villains, these communities create an echo chamber where harassment feels not only justified but necessary.

Case Study: Anita Sarkeesian and Cyber Mob Behavior

Let's look at Anita Sarkeesian for a real example! As a feminist media critic, she became the target of a massive online hate campaign for her YouTube series Feminist Frequency, which analyzed how women are portrayed in video games. What followed was next-level cyber mob behavior: threats of violence, sexual assault, and even death, alongside coordinated efforts to get her deplatformed (Sarkeesian, 2018).

Here’s the chilling part: Many of the perpetrators didn’t see this as harassment. To them, it was a game. They created an informal reward system, celebrating each successful attempt to silence her. This wasn’t "just trolling", it was systemic digital abuse designed to reinforce sexism and push women out of online spaces.

Sarkeesian argues that terms like cyberbullying don't adequately describe the scale of this "cyber mob" behavior, which functions to reinforce a culture of sexism, marginalizing women and making online environments toxic. Despite the horrific harassment, Sarkeesian's fundraiser for the Tropes vs. Women in Video Games project was overwhelmingly successful, demonstrating public outrage at such abuse and support for her work.

Final Thoughts: Scars That Never Fade

Cyberbullying isn’t just a "teen drama" or an "unavoidable part of the internet." It’s a serious issue with devastating psychological consequences. Understanding why people engage in cyberbullying, whether through anonymity, stan culture, or organized harassment, is crucial for tackling it.

For the solution, there are several of legal actions, social accountability, and cultural change. We need better online protections, but we also need to dismantle the toxic online norms that allow harassment to thrive. Creating a safer internet starts with holding people accountable, since words hurt, and their unseen scars last far longer than a viral comment ever will.

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[iwantmasterkohga]

ok this shitpost got so much more attention than i planned, so i wanna get more in depth about my opinion on this

If you hate burningcheese, shadowvanilla, or any toxic ship, PLEASE read this, id love to hear your perspective

Its no mistake to think that burning spice x golden cheese is toxic, i think everyone can see that. Their entire plot is about burning spice tormenting golden cheese until he eventually pushes her to a breaking point, and she defeats him. He shows an odd obsession with her, wanting to savor every moment he has "hunting" her. Calling her a "little bird" and wanting to watch her submit to the tides of change

But…..how is that any different from shadowmilk x pure vanilla? Shadowmilk and pure vanillas entire episode is about shadowmilk committing borderline psychological warfare against pure vanilla, using his memories, his dreams, his own sanity to mess with him. Shadowmilk wants nothing more than to have pure vanilla all to himself. He has fun watching him suffer, just like Burning spice enjoys Golden cheese.

Does this mean you shouldnt ship both of them?

The reason why we have such a morbid curiosity regarding abusive dynamics in characters, is because unlike if we saw this behavior taking place in real life, this is a controlled setting, where we can simply turn off our device if we are uncomfortable. Its just a simple fact that sometimes, traumatized people cope with their trauma by revisiting what happened to them in a controlled setting. I obviously don't support proshippers, but this is why they use the argument "its how i cope!!" So much, because to an extent, it actually IS a way to cope with trauma to consume content of a character being abused in a similar way you were.

Obviously i don't condone proshippers enjoying minors being hurt, nor do i condone them spreading that online. There is a fine line between the complexities of toxicity between adults and just objectifying a child. Im just making a connection to the excuse they use not fully being bullshit. You are not "romanticizing" abuse because you like a ship involving it, because to romanticize something is to say its good to do in real life, which simply isn't what the majority of pureshadow and burningcheese shippers are doing. People are allowed to experiment with situations that might be terrible in real life in a controlled environment, and they aren't evil for doing so.

Also, i think a large reason why burningcheese is so hated is because it isnt toxic yaoi or yuri, its a ship between a man and a woman. Fandom culture just has a habit of seeing toxicity between queer people more like a trope, and only a real problem between a man and a woman. My theory as to why is that subconsciously i think many people dont really take abuse between two men or between two women seriously.

Yet another small pointer as to why is many people see golden cheese as a helpless victim as if she isnt a grown woman who defeated him in the end. She suffered just as much as pv, but we all act like he persevered and is perfectly fine now, so why is it that so many people see golden cheese as a poor girl who barely survived a monster? The short answer is a wonderful blend of misogyny AND misandry (as in not thinking men can be abuse victims) but this post is already so long i’ll leave it at that.

id genuinely love to hear your thoughts and have a conversation about this topic.

TLDR burning spice x golden cheese is toxic and thats okay

Crk tiktok logic

Btw this is absolutely zero hate to shadowvanilla I fw it heavy

I just wish burningcheese got the attention it did💔

[joshnaanto]

How Surana Vidyalaya Leads Among Schools in Electronic City

Education is the foundation of a child’s future, and selecting the right school plays a crucial role in shaping their academic success and personal development. With so many schools in Electronic City, parents often find it challenging to choose the best institution for their child. Surana Vidyalaya has emerged as a top choice among parents, thanks to its commitment to quality education, modern teaching methodologies, and a well-rounded curriculum.

Surana Vidyalaya is more than just a school; it is a place where students are nurtured to excel in academics, leadership, and personal growth. Let’s explore what makes this institution a leader among schools in Electronic City.

1. Academic Excellence with CBSE Curriculum

Surana Vidyalaya follows the CBSE curriculum, which is recognized for its structured and balanced approach to education. The school focuses on conceptual learning, ensuring students grasp subjects deeply rather than relying on rote memorization.

Key Academic Features:

Technology-Integrated Learning: Smart classrooms make lessons more engaging and interactive.

Skill-Based Learning: The school emphasizes problem-solving, analytical thinking, and creativity.

Competitive Exam Readiness: Special coaching for JEE, NEET, and Olympiads to prepare students for future academic challenges.

This approach to education ensures students gain knowledge and skills that prepare them for a bright future.

2. Holistic Development Beyond Academics

At Surana Vidyalaya, education goes beyond textbooks. The school encourages students to participate in extracurricular activities that develop their physical, creative, and leadership skills.

Programs for Holistic Growth:

Sports & Athletics: Cricket, football, basketball, badminton, and more.

Arts & Culture: Dance, drama, music, and fine arts.

Public Speaking & Leadership Training: Debates, elocution, and student leadership roles.

These activities help students grow into confident individuals ready to take on the world.

3. State-of-the-Art Infrastructure

One of the reasons Surana Vidyalaya stands out among schools in Electronic City is its modern infrastructure that enhances student learning.

Top Facilities Available:

Smart Classrooms & Digital Learning Tools

Well-Equipped Science & Computer Labs

Library with a Vast Collection of Books & Digital Resources

Sports Grounds & Indoor Activity Centers

These facilities create an environment where students can learn, explore, and grow effectively.

4. Safe and Secure Campus for Students

A safe learning environment is a top priority for every parent. Surana Vidyalaya takes student safety seriously with:

24/7 CCTV Surveillance & Trained Security Staff

GPS-Enabled Transport for Safe Commutes

Strict Student Entry & Exit Monitoring

With these measures in place, parents can have peace of mind knowing their child is in safe hands.

5. Strong Parent-School Engagement

At Surana Vidyalaya, parents are considered partners in their child’s education. The school ensures effective communication and collaboration with parents through:

Regular PTMs (Parent-Teacher Meetings) for Progress Discussions

Online Portals for Real-Time Academic Updates

Workshops & Counseling Sessions for Parental Guidance

This strong partnership between parents and teachers helps in the overall development of students.

6. Why Surana Vidyalaya is a Leader Among Schools in Electronic City

Surana Vidyalaya stands out for its student-focused approach, making it a preferred choice among schools in Electronic City. Here’s what sets it apart:

✔ CBSE Curriculum Focused on Academic & Skill Development✔ Highly Qualified Faculty Dedicated to Student Success✔ Modern Infrastructure & Facilities for Holistic Learning✔ Safe & Secure Campus with 24/7 Security✔ Extracurricular Programs to Build Confidence & Creativity

By choosing Surana Vidyalaya, parents ensure their children receive the best education in a nurturing and future-ready environment.

Conclusion

As one of the top schools in Electronic City, Surana Vidyalaya continues to set high standards in education by offering an excellent academic program, state-of-the-art facilities, and a strong focus on extracurricular development. If you’re looking for a school that nurtures your child’s potential, Surana Vidyalaya is the perfect choice.

Give your child the best foundation—enroll at Surana Vidyalaya today!

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