#but my advice is solid

[constantly023]

hey you! listen! so what you're going to do is get yourself some good sliced bread. not wonderbread, but brennan's or from a bakery or whole wheat if that's what you're into. get a slice or two and put them in the toaster. medium setting, for a minute or two. while it's cooking, set up your battle station. get a plate, a knife, and some butter, and any other toppings. marmalade, jam, whatever you like. as soon as the toast pops, you strike. grab it as quickly as your reflexes allow. place it on your plate, and knife in hand, quickly apply your toppings. especially if you're in the mood for some good buttered toast. if the butter is solid and cold from the fridge, scrape off a thin slice with the HIGHEST surface area to volume ratio you can get. leave it for thirty seconds, it should soften and become easier to spread.

then? you get yourself a delightful hot beverage. something chill and laid back. tea, hot cocoa, some decaf coffee. drink it with the toast. enjoy your meal.

[theresa-draws]

the moment that piqued his curiosity + more veilguard-flavoured yearning

hey why can't rook immediately run back to the lighthouse and yell at solas, why must i carry these secrets i will explode

[zipmode]

deadfire doodles yayyyy

[guraiuna]

So there's a meme trend on twt

[charger-lens]

[waroferas]

making a comic with your friends is like having a baby together

[manga-and-stuff]

Thoughts on: Ikoku Nikki

I am currently reading Ikoku Nikki by Tomoko Yamashita and I noticed that like a solid quarter of the scenes in this manga do absolutely nothing to drive the plot forward.

It's not even funny banter or world building or whatever, it's literally just mundane little scenes like this:

You could honestly skip all of these scenes, and the plot would still make just as much sense.

But the thing is, I think doing so would make this manga considerably worse.

The manga is about a 15-year-old girl being taken in by her very introverted aunt, after losing her parents in an accident. And these mundane little scenes do an incredible job of grounding the whole story.

For one thing, it fleshes out the characters, it makes them feel real. You can really believe they all have their own lives with their own thoughts and feelings, their own problems and worries which are largely unrelated to the main plot.

It also makes the story feel very realistic. Like, yeah, sorry your parents just died, but you still need to go to school and worry about stuff like fucking lunchboxes. Yes, you just took in your orphaned teenage niece, but you still need to work... and maybe tidy up your room?

Just like in real life, the rest of the world in this manga doesn't care that the main character's world just got turned upside down. The earth just mercilessly keeps on spinning, and the protagonist has to go on living somehow, with all the mundanity and irrelevancy that comes with everyday life.

[cinamun]

This is just good morning | Next

[vaniliens]

Hmmm the more I learn about osdd / other dissociative stuff like that the more im convinced i have it & that i dont have it ❤️

[vintageandroid]

I cannot stress how important it is to learn to cook, because someday in your 30s you might discover that you're a diabetic with 973 food allergies, including things commonly found in convenience food such as wheat and corn.

I'm grateful I can cook so I can still eat, but I cried in the soup aisle of Walmart because I can't buy canned fucking soup anymore.

[pocketramblr]

Oh I forgot to mention. I'm pretty sure Oswald is trying to yellow wallpaper Harvey... Someone get him out of there...

[lunapwrites]

I've done a couple of readings recently, trying to get some kind of footing on this unsteady ground we're all finding ourselves on currently, and which I haven't shared here - partially because I haven't had time to dissect them like I normally do. But today I felt moved to take it a step further, and rather than asking myself a broad question, I shot higher and asked Brigid what I should do.

For Bean, specifically.

(While I'm typically agnostic at best, I've had a few conversations with friends about deity work recently, and it felt right in this instance. I won't say more about it than that for now.)

Now, for context, I need to set the scene. It's 7am, a week after I found out that we just voted a dictator back into office - something which I had stupidly thought was a near impossibility, given everything. I'm watching my daughter sleep. I'm listening to a music league playlist, and Running Up That Hill (the Placebo cover) is playing. And that's when I shoot the question, and I draw.

Well, alright then.

I cannot tell you how many times I've seen the Ten of Swords since last week. Betrayal - that's been the theme, and I feel like that accurately encapsulates my feelings right now. My country, my people, my own family let me down. Let my daughter down. And I'm in a world of hurt over it - and more than a little angry. Looking further, Ten of Swords represents an end, and that's exactly what this is. It's done. We can't go back. For better or worse, the status quo is dead.

Ten of Pentacles reminds me where my strength is: my partner, and the home we've built. In other decks, this card is represented in less bucolic terms, recalling more of a fortress. Coupled with the suit, it speaks of security. But this deck is less financially-minded, focusing instead on the human element - a reminder that I have a village to lean on. That Bean will have more than just her parents in her life that she will be able to turn to, and trust.

Nine of Wands: resilience. That's going to be the key word over the coming weeks, months, and years. It's going to be hard. Jesus fuck is it going to be hard. But we've got to keep going, and we've got to hold on, and we've got to stand against what's coming. Even if that doesn't look like open rebellion - even if it's just showing my kid in every way I can that she matters. Being in her corner every step of the way, because God knows the world isn't. Especially not now. A little reminder to brace myself.

To that end, the Knight of Cups suggests gentleness. Creativity, and kindness, and beauty - little rays of goodness to light the way. A reminder to show her those things exist too (and to remind myself for that matter.)

Finally, Death - endings again, but in a transformative sense. It's neither a positive or a negative in this context, more a reminder to adapt. Adapt and overcome seems to be the overarching message here: survive, and outlive this, and see that she does too. That's it - that's all I can do. That's all any of us can do, really.

Survive.

[dumpster-fire-deluxe]

My friend is having such a smooth time with her current psychiatrist and she's trying to encourage me to give that one a shot too, but how do I explain to her that therapy always follows one of two scenarios for me

SCENARIO A:

Me: lies and downplays my issues, leading to me only working on surface-level problems

-> super unhelpful

SCENARIO B:

Me: is honest

Therapist: this is too much for me, you need a high-caliber psychiatrist, this sounds like a personality disorder

High-caliber psychiatrist: I only diagnose and treat patients who are in truly deep shit. So unless you get charged with felonies or abuse, I can't help you. You may be controlling and ethically interesting now and then, but you're not breaking any laws, so it's not severe enough. It's probably all just autism anyway.

-> gets kicked out of the mental health system, with another "suspected personality disorder, requires further testing" note floating fruitlessly in my file, and zero progress in feeling better

[idlingsomewhere]

i like avoiding listening to things because im scared of how strong an association ive formed between that thing and periods of my life i dont like but then coming back to them months later and not experiencing any strong emotions like fuck yeah! it got reset!

[kdrama-movies-more]

[majorbaby]

probably the best life hack ive ever discovered is if youre absolutely sick over someone youre forced to see constantly and they dont love you back, find their celebrity look alike and project any illegal feelings you may have onto that guy instead.

for this to work you need to commit with the tenacity and grit of a teenage girl or a kpop stan. if after a few weeks people haven't started associating you with your proxy crush, you're not doing enough. time and space is better but if The Person is your coworker, try this.