#but if u wanna improve

[snoozyfruit]

🌙🪽✨✨

[tenowls]

rivals

[delicourse]

lesbian pride moment 😳🌸

[radmyalgic]

The Hymen Myth and Why It's a Total Lie

Let's talk about the whole "hymen as a freshness seal" myth. You wanna know how much of a lie the "you’re supposed to bleed your first time" or "the hymen is proof of virginity" is?

I had something called an imperforated hymen. Yup, it's a real condition. Look it up. Mine wasn’t completely sealed (i can't believe some people still think this is the norm like, how would we even menstruate. Anyway), it was "microperforated," but it still made my periods super painful and sex unbelievably worse. I bled, like, a lot the first times i had penetration, until I finally went to a gynecologist and learnt what was actually going on :') I had to get surgery. Yeah, SURGERY. General anesthesia, an incision, sutures, antibiotics—the whole deal. Apparently, it’s not even that uncommon of a procedure (nowadays obvs), they told me it's totally routine.

What’s actually supposed to happen is that as you grow older, your hymen becomes more elastic as you reach FULL —focus on COMPLETE– sexual maturity. And once you body is ready, you should be able to have pain-free sex. Easy peasy.

Here’s the thing: the hymen is elastic. Its purpose is NOT to be "broken" (seriously, how impractical would that be?), but to prevent infections during infancy. This means that, in my case, it could even 1 stretch every time, which was what originated the pain or 2 yeah, be torn by force. During history, as you can probably guess, option number 2 was the most common one, with its consequential bleeding.

So, if it is obviously not the norm, where does the idea of "bleeding during your first time" come from? Well, mostly rape. Women were routinely raped their first time, which lead to tearing and, thus, bleeding. (https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1365-2214.2007.00818_7.x thanks @deadfish-inabarrel for the link, super interesting article)

So, if something hurts during penetration, INCLUDING YOUR FIRST TIME, stop immediately. Something’s wrong!!! You don’t have to endure it. Even if it were natural (spoiler: it’s not), you don’t have to go through it if you don’t want to.

And the most important part—get this ingrained in your brain, and make you all the younger girls you know understand: Pain. During. Sex. Is. Not. Normal.

[aveloka-draws]

I’m so pathetic that I’ve disabled damage in cotl despite it being on easy mode- I prefer the cult mechanics over pvp mechanics-

Y

You can disable damage?

What

[b3lphiee]

2025 and 2022 art 🙁🫶

my shayla 💔

heh..... hit up my etsy 😼 https://dinnersdesign.etsy.com

[deaddove]

slow cooking a lighthearted modern au where esen and baoxiang are pining after their friends ouyang and ma, respectively. but due to a ~wacky misunderstanding~ (read: chronic heteronormativity) they think ouyang and ma are dating each other—obviously that’s why ouyang is always going over to her place, right?

esen is in denial about his feelings and extremely supportive of ouyang’s relationship (he avoids talking about it or thinking about it—out of respect to ouyang’s privacy ofc). baoxiang thinks ouyang is in denial about his own sexuality and using ma (he has formulated a 12-step plan to Remove Ouyang that he will enact When The Time Comes).

then one day: baoxiang and ma are hanging out (spa day), esen and ouyang are also hanging out (sporting event(?)) and they all decide to meet up at that new restaurant afterwards. as they arrive, ma and ouyang are texting, they tell baoxiang and esen “hey my partner got us a table.” so baoxiang and esen follow them to the table expecting to see the other couple already seated there. but it’s just zhu.

(they both have met zhu—they thought she was just ma’s roommate. in reality she’s ma’s fiancée and ouyang’s queerplatonic d/s situationship.) (they also realize neither of them has ever actually seen ma and ouyang interact for an extended period of time. it becomes immediately apparent that ma dislikes ouyang and ouyang doesn’t even know her name.)

[skunkes]

i looove traditional art id love to do more of it sumday

[gortash-week]

i will stop yapping on about this (im lying) but i've made a lil form for post-gort-week analysis (aka i like seeing the pie charts and im curious about information)

only 3 required questions! the last two are optional feedback that would be neat to hear about :3

completely anonymous, also completely optional but it will help me to make sure the next event is even better!! (im always itching to improve)

thank u if u fill it out! :D

[inktho]

omg your chilchuck cosplay is so spot on wow!!! howd you make your top/tunic thing?? im trying to figure out the logistics of it for my izutsumi cosplay hahah! :)

Thank you so much!! 🥹💖 It’s made from linen with quilt batting in between, and then I machine sewed the lines for that quilted look. And then for the buckles I used some thin suede leather straps that wrap around a loop and secure through the buckles. (The loops kept tearing over the weekend so I need to sew them stronger next time! 😭😭 shoutout to the Katsu cosplay repair fairy for the safety pins)

I made it back in 2018 (with the help of my ex’s mom bc I didn’t own a sewing machine back then. Forever grateful 🙏) and then fixed a lot of things this year like extra quilting, adding actual straps, adjusting the shoulders so the neckline of the piece hides under the neck warmer. (my original neck warmer was better it had more volume 😭 gotta fix that for next time)

I have no Good pics of the old version LOL but its fun to compare the bathroom selfies 🤭

have fun making the izutsumi cos though!! I wish u luck 🫡💕 I saw quite a few Izutsumis at Katsu and they all had different approaches (leather, painted foam, cloth) so don’t feel confined!!

[54prowl]

hushed gasps compilation (2)

thank you once again to @strawberrystepmom, @crybaby-ink, @thus-spoke-lo, @kailthefailwhale, @bluebellhairpin, @shingekinomyfeelings, @heroesfan101, @unhingedselfships, and @sweetlikekou

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[lambentumbra]

height chart for my main ocs ‒ i still need to draw their actual clothes, but i think this is worth sharing at this point

left to right: olivandre (oli) (they/them) cameron (they/any) jules (he/him)

[lightbulb-warning]

i used to freehand comics all the time as a child and since the part i liked was the drawing part i would just draw panel after panel because i didn't want to stop drawing to think about icky icky words, plus the story TOTALLY still made perfect sense! to me! and noone else, but 'whoooo caaaaares omgggg its not like comics and sequantial art are a communicative meeediummmm lmaoooooo'. i spent my entire childhood telling myself stuff like "oh pfft I know this story by heart- ill SIMPLY remember the dialogue and write it later" ...and. I can't help but admire baby maiora's (call that a minora ba tm tsk) fucking audacity? hubris? confident wrongness? kid couldn't even remember to finish the comics in the first place? INCREDIBLE levels of unearned self assurance, wish that were me, genuinely- what an icon!!! anyway i think i have forever cursed myself

[kkbardd]

holy fuckkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk fck fuck fuck fuck fuck your art fucking rocks man holy shit your rei and asuka drawings make me start biting my pillow and growling. you make me want to be better at art just so i can draw angsty yuri of women. thank you for your service dear lord

i believe in your potential, please join me on the front lines! together we can beat the heteros

[heynhay]

How draw like you T^T

Do you have any advice for learning to draw better? Like, resources or practices or anything?

Time. and referencing. No way around it but to put in the hours.

[alukaforyou]

Hi! I was wondering how did you learn how to draw? You’re so talented !

hii i just started when i was a kid & never stopped 🤔 everyone starts out drawing bad / wrong whatever but all it is is training ur eyes to see and ur hand to replicate what you see :3 like ur gonna make a drawing that doesnt look right, and you go hmm what about this is off, and compare it to reference photos / whatever it is you are trying to draw and try to figure out what is different between ur pic & the original thing / ur ref photos etc and thats the whole constant process of learning 😅 and u can also google tutorials like "how to draw hands / cats / cars / whatever." i also went to art college which was a ton of life drawing / model drawing / naked ppl drawing / skeleton & anatomy drawing etc.

to improve at drawing u gotta just keep doing it constantly long term, like get obsessed with something (anime characters, for me) & go to town. find art that looks good to u and try to figure out what specifically u like about it (line quality? color? shapes?) & u can practice emulating it, maybe it will show up in your own art style as you develop it.

im still learning obviously, and i feel like theres sm i dont know how to do yet, so using a boatload of reference pics is key, sometimes i take my own ref pics lolz good luck :') just keep drawing ah

also if you look thru my #art ref tag theres some helpful link stuff, i feel like 80-90% of the tag is me saving reference pics lol but every time i find resources or guides or a helpful site i also put it in that tag 😵‍💫