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Tips on adding tags to fics
I wrote a guide last year about writing fanfic summaries (check it out here) and thought it might be useful to do a follow-up on tags! (Please note that this is AO3-specific and focuses entirely on the Additional Tags section. And also that all of this is just my opinion.)
I see folks often lament that they don’t know what tags to add to their fics; I think the biggest struggle comes from folks not knowing what purposes tags serve. So, let’s discuss that!
Convey Tone
The first thing tags are used for is to tell the audience what tone to expect from the fic. Is it a lighthearted comedy with some sweet moments? Tag it with Fluff, Humor, and Comedy. Is it a dark, slow, depressing tale that ends poorly? Try Heavy Angst, Sad, Bad Ending.
When looking for a fic to read, people want to know what the vibe is so they can find the fic that matches what they’re in the mood for. The summary is useful for this, too, but the tags are where you can really confirm: Yes, this is a fic with Light Angst, Humor, and Happy Ending.
In short: use tags as tone indicators. Not all fics cleanly fit one tone or the other, so overlap tags accordingly. It’s normal to have some contradiction; that’s the nature of storytelling.
Some common tone indicator tags:
Fluff
Tooth-Rotting Fluff
Domestic Fluff
Romantic Fluff
Light-Hearted
Crack
Crack Taken Seriously
Hurt/Comfort
Emotional Hurt/Comfort
Comfort No Hurt
Hurt No Comfort
Humor
Some Humor
No Plot/Plotless
Light Angst
Angst
Heavy Angst
Angst With a Happy Ending
Eventual Happy Ending
Sad Ending
Bad Ending
Happy Ending
Hopeful Ending
Ambiguous/Open Ending
…and more!
2. Content Warnings
Next, tags are a great place to add content warnings for your fic. Notes can go into more detail or be used for chapter-level warnings, but putting the broad categories of your content warnings in the tags is a good idea so those who wish to avoid certain types of content can do so, and those specifically seeking out heavy content can find what they’re looking for.
AO3 has the Archive Warnings function to help with this, but tags can elaborate on or specify warnings that don’t fit the Archive Warning categories.
Not everyone likes content warnings or sees the point of adding them, or they feel that they ruin the surprise element of storytelling. I won’t make a detailed argument here, but consider content warnings a sign of respect for your audience and their wellbeing. Triggers are very real things rooted in trauma and the least you can do is give someone a heads up that what you wrote could negatively affect them. Plus, as mentioned, sometimes darker content is exactly the thing someone wants, and a warning can actually be another way to attract a reader.
A very very short list of content warning tags to consider (and here’s your own heads up for mentions of upsetting topics in this list):
Death
Grief/Mourning
Violence
Canon-Typical Violence
Torture
Blood
Abuse
Alcohol
Drugs
Rape/Non-con Elements
Mentions of Rape/Non-con
Consent Issues
Mental Health Issues (there are lots of more specific tags for this category)
Panic Attacks
Ableist Language
…and more!
(There is definitely more that could be said regarding content warnings for Explicit fics, but I don’t read or write those, so you’ll need to look elsewhere for that.)
3. Searchable/Fandom-Specific
One of the most useful aspects of tags is being able to search the entire Archive via tags and/or filter content by tags (both to include and exclude – familiarize yourself with AO3’s Filter system if you haven’t already). So, you’ll want to include tags that folks are searching by. Tone indicator tags are used this way, but so are fandom-specific, character-specific, and relationship-specific tags.
If you have no idea where to start, look up the fandom/character/relationship you are writing for and filter AO3 by that. Then, spend some time looking at tags and filtering by different ones. See what comes up. Reading fic is always the best way to learn how to tag them, and that’s especially the case here. Maybe you’ll end up creating a new fandom tag!
While fandom-specific tags are not necessary, they can help make your fic easier to find, especially in large fandoms. Note that fandom-specific tags will usually have the fandom listed in parentheses at the end.
It’s difficult to make a list of tags for this sort of thing, but here’s some common structures I’ve seen over the years:
[Character Name] Needs a Hug
Asexual/Aromantic/Demisexual (etc.) [Character Name]
Oblivious [Character Name]
Dramatic [Character Name]
Sweet [Character Name]
Angry [Character Name]
Disabled [Character Name]
Autistic [Character Name]
Agender/Nonbinary/Trans [Character Name]
[Character Name] Has Anxiety/ADHD/Tourette’s etc.
Ambiguous [Character Name] and [Character Name] Relationship
Queerplatonic [Character Name] / [Character Name]
They/Them Pronouns for [Character Name]
Teacher/Superhero/Artist/other profession [Character Name]
[Character Name]-centric
Touch-Starved [Character Name]
[Character Name] is Bad at Feelings
[Character Name] Has Self-Esteem Issues
…and more!
Another category is tags for specific scenes, missing scenes, story arcs, episodes/chapters/parts, and so on, such as:
The Night at Crowley’s Flat (Good Omens)
Cloud Recesses Study Arc (Modao Zushi)
Post-Mogami Arc (Mob Psycho 100)
And there are plenty more that are so fandom-specific that they don’t fit an exact category:
Alternate Universe – No System (Scum Villain)
Heaven is Terrible (Good Omens)
Xianle Trio (Tian Guan Ci Fu)
4. BONUS Topic – Canon Divergence and Alternate Universes
One of the most fun parts of fanfic is toying with canon, so here’s a list of tags that can convey your fic’s relationship to the canon story. These are for fics that maintain a strong relationship with or resemblance to canon.
Pre-Canon
During Canon
Post-Canon
Canon Compliant
Not Canon Compliant
Alternate Universe – Canon Divergence
Alternate Canon
Fix-It
Not a Fix-It
Fix-It of Sorts
Some fandoms have specific tags regarding canon compliance with only parts of the given media – usually the case for franchises or works with big gaps between installments.
Not Canon Compliant With [Media Name] [Season/Episode Number]
Next are Alternate Universes (AUs), which are so divergent from canon to the point of not even being in the same world. There are more types of AU than I could dare list here, and several are also fandom-specific, but here’s some generic sorts that come to mind:
Modern Setting
Human
High School
College/University
Roommates/Housemates
Soulmates
Superheroes/Superpowers
Fairy Tale
Urban Fantasy
Science Fiction & Fantasy
Meet-Cute (can also be Alternative Universe – Different First Meeting)
Meet-Ugly
…and more!
5. BONUS BONUS Topic – Romance
Lots of fics on AO3 are written for romantic ships, and there are a LOT of tags to categorize different types and stages of these ships. These tags are useful to establish reader expectations (and again, for filtering). Some common examples:
Pre-Slash
Pre-Relationship
Developing Relationship
Established Relationship
Love Confessions
Love Realization
Drunken Confessions
Mutual Pining
Not Actually Unrequited Love
Getting Together
Getting Back Together
Moving In Together
Falling in Love
Marriage
[Friends/Enemies/Strangers/Rivals/etc.] to Lovers (can also have three stages, such as Strangers to Friends to Lovers or Lovers to Enemies to Friends)
Flirting
Slow Burn
Denial of Feelings
…and more!
There are also tags to specify what physical affection the characters engage in:
Holding Hands
Cuddling & Snuggling
Hugs
Kissing
Making Out
Almost Kiss
First Kiss
Second Kiss
Literal Sleeping Together
Non-Sexual Intimacy
No Smut
Explicit Sexual Content
Implied/Referenced Sex
…and more!
Aaaand a few non-romantic ones to toss around, for fun:
Best Friends
Platonic Relationships
Friendship
No Romantic Relationships (goes under the Relationships section, not Additional Tags)
Found Family
Friendship/Love
Ambiguous Relationships
Queerplatonic Relationships
Family
Parenthood
Love
Siblings
Developing Friendships
Parent/Child Relationship
…and more!
This guide got out of hand, and I still didn’t cover everything I could have, but I hope this was a helpful overview and makes tagging a little easier for you going forward! Here’s AO3’s tagging page for more info. Feel free to drop your own tips in a reblog/comment or ask questions if there’s something you want me to elaborate on. <3
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Ozzie's not perfect but that so good 😊
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Intersectionality of classism, racism and ableism
Ozzie's a pretty lovable carebear of a sin, it's honestly great seeing the nuisance this guy gets in the writing. I love seeing a nice bloke who is a little bit classist, racist and ableist; because these are traits anyone can have.
Like how Stolas' and Millie's are there for character development, so is Ozzie's. 🙂
And none of these things feel like they'll be unsormaounable for Fizz and Ozzie.
Classism
Alot of foke have asked if Fizz gets to be mad that Ozzie didn't try very hard to save his best friend. And well yer he probably will be mad in s3.
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He begged his partner to keep his best friend safe, he gets to be mad. Doesn't matter if Ozzie thought he had a good reason to not do so, like keep his head down to try to keep Fizz safe; Fizz can be mad for not being listened to.
But that's not the only thing Ozzie got coming due, and means we'll get some really interesting stuff.
Ok you know how Stolas is only just started to understand how his being born in a position of privilege has affected his a Blitz's relationship? And that alot of the things he did wrong weren't out malice, but from unthinking ignorant?
Well Fizz & Ozzie's power dinamic is worse, because he's 1 of the 7 actually responsible for settling up a lot of that cast system...
And while Stolas got a bit of a mixed bag with his privilege. Never having to think about money, and given housing for himself and his kid. But also getting almost no choice in his life, and being forced into an abusive marriage.
Ozzie by contrast has it all good. His big day to day headaches being his own safety record on vibes. And his own reputation making him want to try to keep a loving relationship on the down low. (His own fault).
His basis maybe unthinking, but he's not actually ignorant of the way hell works for imps.
They've been dealing the extremely class divided by pretending it doesn't exist; leaving any fallout for Fizz to deal with alone.
Like how till recently him and Fizz were in the closet. Something Ozzie felt so uncomfortable about, he outed another royal/imp couple to shove under the bus to help them hide better. His wanting them safe isn't from a bad place, but his actions aren't clean.
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Fizz was happy attacking Blitz, someone he believes hurt him out of spite. But Ozzie's the one who physically drags Stolas in, mocks him for slumming with an imp, then take the piss for lossing his wife and kid.
It really isn't a compliment when someone says "You sold your life for a thrust" and to "Pretend you don't see that crust", and equates their downfall to dating an imp. That's mockery.
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I'm glad Blitz got to push back a little with when it's proven Fizzmodeus have a romantic relationship. Cus yep they are massive fucking hypocrites.
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Even with harassing Moxxie for singing a love song to Millie, it's not Ozzie that takes the heat. It's Fizz.
Ozzie's need to hid them, is directly the reason to tell Moxxie off for the love song, because he's pretending love and lust can't coexist. And Millie wouldn't bonk Fizz over the head he'd if they didn't interrupt her husbands song.
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The need to hid, to keep Ozzie's reputation, stops Oz from being aloud to be visibly too pissed at M&M.
Ok that the lightest fallout that Fizz takes from them not dealing with the power imbalance. But cus of staying closeted Fizz gets kidnapped, and nearly killed to keep 'their' secret.
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Then attacked by stalkers cus Ozzie can't be seen caring about him;
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(Making every other year of the clown pageant something Fizz must face solo).
All for Ozzie to out them both without checking Fizz ok with it first. Stopping Mammon blackmailing him, like Crim did.
So a good action, but it's acting unilaterally for both sides of the couple without any planning ahead. (Ozzie's is the biggest himmo).
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Telling everyone he loves Fizz comes from a good place, but it's stepping on a boundary without checking it. When any possible backlash will likely to fall again on Fizz, not Ozzie.
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But it's not the only boundary of Fizz's Ozzie's over stepping for a while.
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Racism
Ozzie a pretty risk adverse guy, but also doesn't have a cool head in crisis.
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This makes him less likely to stand up for what's right, untill he's back into a corner. (Making some of the stuff he do to get out of a bad situation abit of a shit show).
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Ozzie's of a both chicken, and also a little bit of a cock lol. (Viv did well with making him a cockerel).
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He doesn't yet want to stick his neck out for people he really should be. But is happy to tag in when Bee says Blitz is a good guy. Even though he owns Blitz for saving Fizz twice, and Stolas stopping him himmoing into getting Fizz killed.
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In comparison Bee and Tex's relationship isn't a secret. All the Sins know, and basically every hellhound knows. Both their communities know they are in a stable loving relationship.
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She stands up for her man to Mammon. And even non verbally tells Ozzie to back off, that it's her fight.
She doesn't need it to be a life or death situation to tell people to feck off if they don't like it.
Bee is willing to give Blitz a chance, and speaks up for him first. Ozzie's more of a tagalog. He does speak up for Blitz, a guy he has much more reason to want to help; but only after Bee.
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And then doesn't do more even though IMP are legally under his jurisdiction. And his partner begs him to. (There's a good chance Ozzie could have told Satan to back off, and it'd have worked. But Ozzie isn't a planner in a fast situation).
Even though he knows that Blitz will die at the hands of a corrupt racist political system without someone stepping in.
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Ozzie even has the neve to look a bit put out when Blitz calls him and the other Sins on their shit. "All I was trying to do was raise above this stupid fucking place YOU ALL FORCED US INTO!"
Doesn't Blitz know he's one of the 'good ones'?
But Oz is just not a strong person yet, and honestly think this might be something he eventually gels with Stolas over. Learning to be less passive.
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But with them out Ozzie is able to tell Ma to do one for being rude about Fizz. Yay! 😁 He's becoming more free in what he can do. Love that characters development.
Ableism
And while taking about Stolas we can highlight the last character flaw Ozzie has, that's not immediate obviously.
Ok I actually think making the loving, and supportive partner to the physical disabled guy just a bit ableist too is A+ writing. 🙂
Ozzie has a pretty big problem with Stolas. (I'm going to need a thesaurus for all the ways Ozzie is a mardy over Stolas being autistic).
He gets arsy when Stolas doesn't take the chair he draw out.
Gets pissed when he's get a real answer to if he's "Still gettin' yo' kink on with that feisty imp?" Not treated as the verbal wallpaper it was. And treating Blitz like all he can be is a race kink.
Assumes the worse intentions of Stolas by suggested he's after date rape drugs. (Going chalk this up as ableist thing too, as assuming the worst in autistic people cus they're weird is really common).
Is creped out by Stolas stimming, and angry at Stolas being excited to help with his special interest.
Is annoyed that Stolas stops him signing a contract to have Fizz decapitated. (Ozzie's just really isn't a planner. No wonder Fizz does all that for him day to day. 🙂 They work well together).
Then sets Stolas on fire for making him a speedy viable contract, because the lawyer is slow.
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And after Fizz is safe and sound at home, Ozzie complains that he got stuck all day with Stolas, and bragged how refused to help Blitz... (He's being unthinkingly ungrateful here, because he's used to getting things as he's top of the heap).
Some neurotypicallys really do just hate you on sight for missing social cues, and Ozzie is being that guy.
He can't even hide how much he dislikes Stolas while Stolas busy doing the thing Fizz asked him to do.
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(Ozzie, you contempt is showing again bud).
This is all ableism, because the underlying message 'Why don't you just get it, and read my mind for me?! Why do I have to make allowances for your disability, and communicate what I want clearly. It's your fault I'm mildly inconvenients'.
Ok getting back to Fizz, because how he treats Stolas, leads into his attitude around Fizz's care.
Ozzie does a common mistake that all carers will do at somepoint. He reduces the ability of the disabled person to be autonomous. And he does this primarily for safety; but it's also out of a paternalistic view that he knows best.
(He's older, has more experience, more powerful; surely he can't get this wrong right?)
When Fizz has a knock to his confidence about being out and about by himself, Fizz is being hyperbolic about hating going outside. And Ozzie over corrects tells him he never had to do that again.
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And Fizz's face drops.
It's infantilizing him, by removing some of his choices. He does this again when he goes behind Fizz's back to ask Blitz to bodyguard him.
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Things can be done for a place of love, and still be removing someone's autonomy. Yes without Blitz there Fizz wouldn't have had the strength to tell Mammon to fuck off, but thinks can be both good and bad.
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(Honestly I could probably have written 'things can be both good and bad' with pics of Ozzie doing shit, and call it a day 4 drafts ago)....
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This has happened with me and every disabled person I know. Fizz needs to talk with Ozzie and redraw boundaries. They'll have to do this after each situation comes up.
Like Ozzie really wasn't happy with Fizz going out alone at the start of Opps. But they compromised on having his phone on him, and a driver giving him a lift.
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With Fizz is no longer working for Mammon, and that their relationship is public arguably there's less immediate danger now.
But it's the intersectionality that's making it hard for Fizz to start that conversation. He's not just a imp dating a royal, he's a disabled imp who's prosthetics are gifted and maintained by Oz, dating a Sin who was instrumental in putting his whole race near the bottom of the ladder....
Fizz is likely going to need Blitz and Stolas' input to feel comfortable redrawing those tightening boundaries.
It's the reason he feels like he does have to apologise for getting hurt and kidnapped.
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(Ozzie did great reminding Fizz he doesn't have to apologise here).
Alright cards on the table when I've had to tell my SO/carer to back off, it's always started by talking to a friend outside our dinamic. And that healthy. You get a different view, your able to sanity check what you want Vs what practical. And it gives you backup.
Making a conversation more likely to be constructive not destructive.
Because this is only insurmountable if they don't try and climb it together.
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#I love Ozzie but think he's got some work to do. Same as the rest of the cast#Helluva boss#fizzmodeus#Characters as shades of grey in helluva and it one of the things I love#fizzarolli#Character analysis into character arc theory
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i wanna make a post about something im really passionate about but i need everyone to get really normal really fast
#dream has actually been a textbook example of narcissistic personality disorder#and I wanted to make a post talking about cluster B personality disorders#what the diagnostic criteria is and recommend coping strategies#but i need everyone to not be ableist about it#i just want to explain some of his behaviors and where they potentially come from#i am not a licensed psychologist#but that wouldnt really be my point#anyway#thoughts of dante
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What's your opinion on Bruce? I feel you hate him/don't really like him that much
OMG 😭 I'm really sorry if I come off that way, I actually like Bruce a lot! Hard not to when he has a gazillion good runs, but I find him a very fascinating character, realistically flawed but with a deep loving core. He's not my favourite of the Batfam, but I do really enjoy him!
I probably just reblogged too many Steph things, when I think about Steph it does get me angry at Bruce but this is a reflection of that specific scenario, not Bruce as a whole. Also I dislike Bruce's role in Duke's life, but that is definitely not a knock against Bruce's actual character (and I hate Alfred's role in Duke's life way more anyway). If I criticise a certain character in a specific dynamic, I swear it doesn't mean I dislike them as a whole!!
(Also I've been talking a lot about Bruce's sexism against Cass but I actually love Bruce in Batgirl (2000). A very nuanced and realistic depiction of a man trying to parent a girl when he has no idea what to do. It's just that recently I've been thinking about the gender angle, Bruce is actually quite a good parent in a lot of other aspects!)
Anyway I hope that cleared it up I am NOT a Bruce hater, I could never hate the top 2 parental figure in Cass' life <3.
#bruce wayne#ask#maybe i should take a step back from steph posting... she's where i get really mad at bruce haha#but yeah if i talk about bruce's sexism i genuinely think it's an interesting part of his character i don't hate him for it#like babs is ableist against cass but i do NOT think that makes her an awful person#part of the fun of batgirl 2000 is that everyone is so nuanced and flawed and loving#i also was going to make a post about how bruce and david cain are actually not so similar maybe i should make it#i need to beat the bruce hater allegations omggg im so sorry bruce fans
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annoying conversations happening on twitter this week about dazai and his canonical whoreness .... very ableist delivery of people treating him like a tiny 22 yr old minor who clearly doesn't know what sex is and its getting weeeeeiirrrrd ...........
#like idk and idc about other peoples perceptions but to me dazai fucks#its in the source material regarding the fact that hes a DOG and nobody understands how he manages to charm women#women send him love notes to the office bcs he doesnt give out his address......uses sex as a tool and people can infer what they want#but i dont have it has having any nefarious meaning other than he knows himself well and how to get what he wants#and (in MY mind) enjoys it :p#he says he appreciates ALLLL women#women being official the source content but to me he's a man with no preference :p#what i find ableist is the notion that someone with clear though unstated mental illnesses must be “protected” and “he doesnt know what#sex is" like come on. we read the same stuff#youre saying it because you think it gets in the way of ur fav ships that he whores around#well guess what!!!!! he does!!!!!#so what!!!!!! live with it!!!!!! everyone else has to!!!!!#women cry in the source content and i infer that to be bcs he just straight up ghosts them after#maybe he sees a couple of people a few times but for the most part#he dips </3#but we dont need to pretend hes innocent and like#sex - afraid#im tirrredddd of these takes they stink and theyre not fun to read#tldr: my dazai fucks (and WANTS TO!!!!!!!! SEEKS IT OUT!!!! ENJOYS IT!!!! SKILLED LOVER THAT U CANT HAVE!!!!)#(unless u get him.....then hes devoted teehee<3)#enuff said i think#ACTUALLY FURTHER POINT. hes a flirt and a whore. PROUD!!!!!!!!!#he gives u the eyes and he'll have u wrapped around his fingerrrr anyway. thats it now
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Sometimes I get stuck in this very specific rut of executive dysfunction, and I know for a fact that having a caretaker dom who would help talk me through my tasks on bad days would be lifechanging for me. But instead I have no dom and just this stupid ass developmental disability that makes me periodically unable to function like a real human being
#i need a caretaker dom so bad sometimes it hurts. idk#see i do fantastic at work because i have Assigned Tasks and thats basically the same thing as someone telling me what to do#but when im having a depressive swing and it comes to things i need to do for myself? well.#ive eaten an eggo waffle and an orange today. ive been trying to shower for three days.#i managed two loads of laundry today but they havent been folded and i truly dont know if i can do it#anyway everyone be nice to me about this or it will be ableist
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doing a lot of posting this afternoon but. man. if theres anything that sets off my alarm bells its whenever i see a post thats like. Sticking It To Those Dumb Motherfuckers Who Complain About/Can't Just Suck It Up And/Don't Know How Great It Is To Engage In [INSERT SOCIAL CONVENTION HERE]
i know when i see one of these posts im going to go in the notes and see people calling op ableist, maybe in a way that comes off mean, and i know the op is going to respond calling them all terminally online sjws because of their tone, and/or playing the "so you think all autistic people are the same?? you think no autistic person can navigate social interactions like everybody else??? look at all these autistic people agreeing with me" card. the old "No You" Switcheroo
And its just, really exhausting, knowing they probably mean well but theyre operating on such faulty defensive logic that you can see from a mile away when youre in any way educated about disabilities. because the thing about disabilities is that theyre disabling. and when "difficulty with an ability" is a symptom of a disability. and then you insult people who find that ability.... difficult....... like i dont know how else to show people how to put these 2 puzzle pieces together. i dont know how else to explain that "people who cant do this one thing experience less of the full scope of humanity than me" is never a progressive statement to find yourself making
#i know a lot of autistic people discover the tricks to rewarding social interactions later in life. i know it can feel great#and i also know a lot of people on twitter and 4chan and whatever have a superiority complex about not being like the Stupid Neurotypicals#but the thimg is that when you lump them together with everyone who vents about their experience with their disability#youre just being ableist. and it might sound harsh and people might get harsher about it and that doesnt make them wrong#if theres anything having middle of the road support needs and hanging out around higher needs autistic people has taught me#its that throwing more vulnerable autistic people under the bus is never okay. if you find yourself gesturing to The Good Ones#take a BIG step back and rethink what youre trying to accomplish#if it requires dehumanizing somebody for their struggles its not coming from a place of activism or respect#manifesting spiders
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Im going to kill like 10 different people if i hear another peep about payjay because oj ans paper interact in the trailoR IM GONNA LOSE ITTTT IM GONNA GO FERAL STOPPPPPPPP
#ii neg#payjay neg#URGHHHHH FUCK I HATE PAYJAY SO MUCHHHHHHHH#sorry mooties who love payjay.... but like.... i fucking hate it with my entire being..... block me unfollow me do whatever#idm#its just i am SICK and TIRED of everyone saying payjay or thinking payjay because THEY INTERACT LIKE TWICE IN THE TRAILOR#i am gonna CRY#love what you love it just makes me mad and angry and i just . i cant stand payjay rn. it infuriates me that it is THE MOST POPULAR SHIP#IT WOULD NOT WORK IN CANON!!!! OJ HAS LITERALLY USED PAPER MULTIPLE TIMES FOR HIS OWN GAIN#he also left him on that cactus in s1ep10 [even if he told him to.. wtf at least try to take him with you????]#dude paper did EVERYTHING for oj and what did oj do? give him some hugs and be like “thanks paper! i forgive you!!” and then go be ableist??#dude. bro.#oj triggered paper multiple times [s1ep11. s1ep13 [TWICE].]#he LITERALLY used him to win in the penultimate poll [even if paper said “nice idea!” how could he have known that he would be ok with it??]#dude. ok. i need to sit down.#i am geeking out#i am NOT ok rn i need to. i need to go do stuff.#ughhhh im sorry for the rantttt i just. i am VERY passionate about this#tldr fuck you oj and if i see payjay i will kill myself 40 times in my head over it#ghhhhgh
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How to be less angry and spiteful and thirsting for ugly confrontations with and praying for the painful downfall of people who stand for everything you despise google search
#realized it'll soon be suicide prevention month and the stupid ableist fucks on campus pretending to care about autistic people#qill probably not even do anything thematic I kind of hope they do cause it is the baare minimun#expecially after they used march being mothers day as an excuse to only talk about autistic children for forever#fucking anti self diagnosis rainhas patricinhas da razão capacitistas do caralho espero que morram#hope the mask slips and they break their fucking teeth#there's a fucking groomer piece of shit weak willed abusive fucking clown too#I need to stop going to university it's not like it'll change anyways#broadening horizons experiment over I'm sick and tired of learning about new people everyone's just prejudiced and stupid in different ways#.....I am recovering from a cold I think this is the way my energy decided to resurface
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oh okay so she can send out an email about staff birthdays but not the fucking schedule. got it. Priorities.
#personal#every single new coworker ive met lately has the same opinion of her that my usual coworkers do:#she should absolutely NOT be in this position. she is bad at it and doesnt listen to any of us#also. i think her hiring was maybe... racist. like shes a white woman. fine whatever#but i was speaking to one of my coworkers whos an older Black woman (one of my new fav coworkers too shes a hoot)#and she said that she and about r or 5 others were on a panel to sit in for the interview process that hired current manager#and she started listing everyone else who was there and i was like huh. every she mentioned is also Black. interesting#and she said not a single one of them picked current manager and gave their reasons why#and it seems to me that all of their opinions were so neatly ignored. so like why invite them? for diversity points? to look inclusive?#to make it seem like we even had a choice?#bc that is not a good look!!!#id say a third to half of my entire coworker group is Black and to find out that a small group of them were ignored when actively asked for#their opinion on a very important decision? yea no that doesnt seem right#and i think when my coworker told me she knew. and im like hmm. makes me wonder what to do#i mean i will be emailing hr soon enough bc current manager is not just annoying and incompetent but also ableist lol#i just need to get together with some coworkers so we can draft one large complaint bc umm. yea fuck this stupid bitch oh my god. ive had it#with her and her antics and the librarys too since they wanna ignore my coworkers apparently!#most of whom are older and retired teachers and actively and always know what the fuck theyre doing#id trust literally any of my coworkers to do managers job before manager. bc i know literally any of them could do it
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Demon trying to feed on my insecurities: "You're a bad driver"
Me: "Of course I am. I hate driving. Going 80 mph surrounded by tons of metal is nerve-wrecking. I try to do it as little as possible. Of course I'm bad at it"
Demon: "You're a bad writer"
Me: "Well that part's simply not true. I never claimed I was the greatest author of my generation, but when I put pen to paper I know what I want to communicate and I usually do it well. If someone isn't impressed with my work, that's unfortunate but they're entitled to their opinion"
Demon: "You're a bad leader"
Me: "Well I don't know about that! I mean there was that one time when... Ok look just because people don't see me as an authority figure doesn't mean... 😠 You know you can be a real asshole, demon!"
#joking aside the reason I suck at helping people is probably not dissimilar from why I'm bad at driving#the joke is “having good ideas which would work if people let you boss them around” and#“having enough charisma to persuade people to let you boss them around” are two different skills and I don't have nearly enough patience#for the latter#but no really it makes me deeply insecure seeing sycophants rally around the most transparently incompetent and self-interested POS people#and meanwhile I'm getting called shrill and presumptuous for pointing out that the left-wing is poorly organized and I could do it better#can we agree it's at least a little bit because I have aspergers and no penis?#like I realize what I'm doing is the political equivalent of “but I'm such a nice guy!” and I'm literally complaining that no one#respects ma authoritah#but just saying: maybe I wouldn't come off as such a petulant misanthrope#if I wasn't constantly being asked to fix problems that could have been avoided if everyone listened to me in the first place#“nobody likes an i-told-you-so” yeah that's why democracies keep falling to fascism cus you want someone pleasant over someone correct#at the same time sooner or later you have to look in the mirror#and I can count the group projects I've successfully headed on one hand; maybe it's me#if it was just that people don't listen to me than yeah this would just mean I have an ego#but there are plenty of women the left could be rallying around and it doesn't because of minor scandals and anarchist ideals#it's stupid and I'm becoming a tankie just because i'm sick of the idea#that political goals can be accomplished without a clear chain of commmand#i don't need to be the leader but WE NEED A LEADER#the hatian revolution succeeded because Toussaint Louverture organized random slave rioting into an actual army#and I just wish I had that kind of magic myself but I might already be too bitter#ftr this isn't in response to anything that happened recently I'm just still mad thinking about an anarchist group I tried to join#on facebook five years ago where I asked point blank what the marching orders were and got blocked for being “obviously a cop”#and the mod comes at me with “anarchists don't have leaders IDIOT”#yeah well you're the guys always saying you only oppose UNJUST hierarchies idiot!#excuse me for thinking you guys had a plan beyond perpetual infighting#not everyone asking blunt questions about the anarchist platform are feds you guys are just paranoid and ableist#and when you block people for asking what game plan is it really sounds like you just plain don't have one (which is depressing)#I don't care how many books there are about how anarchism is more than just “wanting a free-for-all”#if you attack anyone who tries to impose a hierarchy just to get shit done it really seems like that first impression of
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My spicy tabletop take is that a lot of safety & communication tools actually make the problem worse by attempting to act as a complete substitute for communicating with the other members of your group and therefore actively stymies people's communication skills development instead of helping it
#sorry i thought about the “you need to ask permission from everyone else to play a disabled character” thing in a certain ttrpg#and i got really mad#what!!!!!!!!!#like i get its well intentioned in trying to make sure youre not portraying a disabled character in an ableist manner#but i feel like instead of going about this rigamarole. they could just talk to you about it.#i dont think encouraging conflict avoidance is good actually sorry#jasper.txt
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THe fact that most ppl don't realize that taking someones glasses to play with/put on your own face/to shove fingers in their face to ask how many are being held up/ etc. is ablist and is actively taking away someones disability aid is fucking wild.
It took me years to realize kids were just being ableist by demanding i take my glasses off so that they could wear them and comment "How can you see out of these" "Wow you're so blind" like...
#text#the fact that kids bullying ppl for wearing glasses was just seen as somthing kids did#instead of ablism#or how we were expected to switch to contacts because 'glasses are ugly'#how glasses were used to signify someone being ugly and how in movies the makeover scene had the glasses removed entirely#idk i think ppl needing glasses being somehow one of the most visible invisible disabilities is fucked up#like visible because everyone sees ppl who have glasses and KNOWS they cant see#but invisible because it's such a common disability that people don't count it as a disability anymore#and yet they are still subtly ableist about it.
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Just letting y’all know if you ever don’t see me on here for a few days, I’m fine. I just take breaks for my mental health sometimes, especially with the state of things. Thought I should make that clear since there’s a lot of scary things going on right now. I don’t want anyone to get the wrong idea.
#growing up is realizing you don’t owe everyone an immediate response#and anyone who thinks you have to be online 24/7 and regularly post your opinions about everything going on in the world#has probably never made any meaningful contributions to any cause they’ve claimed to support#take care of yourselves and stay safe#take breaks if you need to#don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for doing so#I promise anyone who does isn’t a good person#and is probably low key ableist tbh#mine
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seeing discourse about a community i used to be in but not wanting to send op anything correcting bc its online discourse and thats tiring
#everyone ive seen use delusional attachement 'for their attachment of fictional chacaracter' (actually what the term means) was psychotic.#what are you talking about.#you are in circles that do not represent the majority that you need to get out of and make your own post#also the way they threw otherkin under the bus even though listerally almost all of the otherkin/alterhuman people i know are also psychoti#this is not a majority!! you need to interact with the greater community before you lump us all into one ableist group!!
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The older I get the more and more glad I am that I don't give a shit about internet problems anymore (I say with my fists fucking balled)
#Marlinisms#Vent tw#This is about the 'pathologizing your symptoms' post btw#I genuinely think that's an awful post with extremely ableist underlying rhetoric#But also the amount of takes that are like 'NO WE DON'T HAVE TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY!!!! FUCK YOU OP!!!' is so dire#Yes take responsibility for your actions. Yes if someone is hurt you should apologize and fix things.#YES everyone is capable of harm and it's unbelievably important to at least mitigate the amount of harm you can do.#No people do not always control their reactions to things. No people cannot always fix this.#Also what's healthy in one relationship is miserable in another.#That and how worded to be a fucking spike pit trap for severely disabled + morally anxious people it is#I need to get outside more I literally have not been able to stop thinking about this post since I saw it
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