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Good news! Just found out the easiest way to spot a narcissist is the believe any random instagram post!!
#using how they treat you on your birthday as they key to spot them????#yes sometimes people with untreated npd can be abusive but most domestic abuse doesnt involve npd at all#and all thats happening is people with npd (often as a result of trauma) are demonized and absuive partners escape accountability#and they escape accountibility because treating npd does not treat dv. they are two problems that interact with each other#but treating one doesnt treat the other and so#sometimes abusers will use therapy speak to continue abusing their partners#and its weird cause on insta they seem to have come to thay conclusion with bpd and theres support for them but totally not with npd#and i used to think more abusers were narcissists and were more npd until i read a well regarded book by an expert in dv#and i went oh my preconsceived notions mightve been incorrect or incomplete#shhh mo#im just ranting so much lol my ex was great on my birthday my best friend mixed up the dates and my dad was an ass#but guess who was the abuser!!!
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going through my old journals as part of therapy homework and i'm reading a section written in the emotional wreckage of a full-on breakdown when i get hit with this line:
There is never a satisfying answer to ‘Why didn’t they love me?’
like wow babe. good fucking point
#like you were on the ground biting the carpet and dry sobbing while you wrote that and still. good fucking point#not a shitpost#cptsd#and it's true. there's never a satisfying answer#the truth is i know why i wasn't loved#i analyzed my parent's traumas and abuse to death. i understand why i alienated and was alienated from my siblings#i know why my mom was too overwhelmed to be capable of nurturing#i know why my dad vanished into addiction and avoidance#the details of our cycles of trauma and cptsd and family history i have a phd in all of it#i understood perfectly. i spent years studying and now i knew the answer#and guess what? IT WAS NOT SATISFYING!!!#because they still didn't love me! and i still couldn't change that!#it was still a completely unsatisfying state of affairs!#so like. when the people who are supposed to love you...don't.#when the people who are supposed to take care of you...fail to#you can look for answers and reasons and explanations#but that's not actually going to FIX your situation.#and it's probably not within your ability TO fix the situation. (and definitely not your job)#because you don't need answers--you need a new situation#*inserts Just Walk Out. You Can Leave!!! (Running Skeleton) Meme*#and yes. walking out isn't always possible.#but for you i hope it will be one day soon. and i hope you build the courage to take that leap.#stepping away from the people who failed to love you...it feels like being untethered but also like being lighter than air#new and scary. immensely relieving. the future opens up. empty but empty like a canvas. blindingly bright until your eyes adjust#like climbing out of a pit you called home and for the first time realizing how bright the light of day can truly be#when you aren't just getting glimpses from the bottom of a hole
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"I have had the capability to pull the strings behind the most powerful thrones in Exandria for some time. And I've only done so towards these ends. I don't wish to control. I don't wish to be a tyrant. I just want them gone."
The irony of this statement is that Ludinus's single-minded obsession with killing the gods is precisely what makes him so controlling and tyrannical. He could have spent this entire time using his extended lifespan to shape the Dwendalian Empire into a glittering jewel of a kingdom, as J'mon Sa Ord has done with Ank'Harel. He could have channeled his negative experiences with authority into offering the people under him the kind of support he wishes he'd received, as Vex has been doing in Whitestone and Emon. He could take five minutes out of his day once in a while to spend some low-level spell slots or short rest resources helping people he crosses paths with, as Trist and Ayden did multiple times during Downfall. Instead, he's stayed focused entirely on himself and his petty personal vendetta.
#if you refuse to ask what it means to wield power responsibly#if you insist that it's impossible to be an authority without being a tyrant#if you believe that power can only ever be abused by those who have it#guess what *you'll* end up doing with any power you yourself have#and if you further insist that powerful people who screw up or give in to temptation should die#then there's no incentive to take responsibility#only incentive to deny or downplay your own power#cr spoilers#critical role#ludinus da'leth
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I'm seeing sum ppl being like "Sukuna is being sooo unreasonable reacting so angrily bc Yuuji wants to kill him like what did he expect!!!" but Sukuna's not angry bc of that. I think he'd even prefer Yuuji to insta kill him. That whole time he was in the places of Yuuji's memory he's been waiting for Yuuji to get it over with, already. Expecting Yuuji to kill him.
But then
Yuuji basically tells him: That just now? Yeah, it was me giving you a chance. Because, even though i hate you, i dont want to kill you. Because you are human. You don't have to play this role.
And that's what enrages Sukuna so fucking much. The brat has the gall to feel sorry for him. Him, the strongest. Him, someone unabashedly uncaring, unfeeling beyond repair. Evil.
Sukuna is not like other people. He doesn't see himself as people; that's why he can't ever find an "equal", can't even fathom finding one. He doesn't have a role, he does what he wants, because he can.
At this point he can endure Yuuji killing him. He had help, he got lucky, idk, whatever excuse he's probably telling himself will do. He will face it without feeling a thing; not anger, not sadness, no happiness, no fear. He's above it all... But Yuuji feeling sorry for him? Like he's above Sukuna?
Yuuji is threatening Sukuna, yes, but that's not all. He's showing him everything that will be taken away from him. From Sukuna, by Yuuji.
Like Sukuna is like any other mortal who walks the Earth. Vulnerable. A human being instead of a monster.
(So, uuh, yeah no. Sukuna won't act all chill like always lol...)
#but whatever i guess.......#just kidding im losing my mind over here#jjk manga spoilers#jjk 265#....... and yknow what? *slaps on a#sukuita#tag as well* ha!#also did i abuse italics and ;;;;s in this post????? YEESSSS ^^#ALSO (hmm.... wont dis girl shut up?) no shade 2 those who interpreted it as whatever other different thing obviously??#just my humble opinion u_u#di4ry#jjk
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WOO NATSUO IS GOING NO CONTACT!!!
#bnha 426#bnha spoilers#i guess this isn't a happy ending for todofam together stans but for abused kids who sometimes wish they could fully nc this is a win
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can I interested you in some strange old men on this fine evening
#mfw teenagers start calling late 20s dudes old man yaoi so the late 20s artists gotta show them what REAL old man yaoi looks like#astro boy#tetsuwan atom#umataro tenma#hiroshi ochanomizu#uran#i dont know what the romantic portmanteau for those two is so. thats not getting tagged#art tag#smoking tw#blood tw#who wouldve ever guessed my favorite astroboy character would end up being his shitty abusive wreck of a dad#not in character for me at all. but he delights me
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Hi,
JIN LING IS NOT HOW AN ABUSED CHILD BEHAVES. He sasses at JC and he KNOWS he's all bark no bite. The instances of JC hitting JL in canon are EXCEPTIONAL. If JC hit JL regularly, he would NOT have said "Not even my uncle hits me!" at WWX. That shit STICKS. You are all stupid
#jc#jiang cheng#jiang cheng positive#jin ling#jl#inspired by a jc anti that crossed my “for you” tab#also personal rant ahead:#my dad hit me TWICE and i only remember one of the times#admittedly i didn't see him regularly#but TWICE. and i only remember one of those instances#my stepdad didn't hit often but he yelled#and guess what?#the instances my dad hit me are insignificant to me#i remember being upset in the moment but barring that. zero. nada. and i love him#the yelling stuck to me like a leech#so yeah. abused kids don't sass at their abuser like that#abused kids don't use “not even my caregiver hits me!” as a gotcha#jl is not the healthiest#but considering all the baggage jgy and jc have#THEY DID A GREAT JOB#AND THEY DID BREAK THE CYCLE#jl bratting off to jc who never knew how to talk to jfm#jl being spoiled by jgy who was loathed by jgs#THEY WERE GOOD PARENTAL FIGURES#jin guangyao
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Maybe the reason Sansa comes off as a meek doormat while she’s married to Tyrion is not because she’s a red pilled tradwife, it’s because she’s scared of getting caught for planning her own escape. It’s established within the first few paragraphs of Tyrion’s pov after the wedding that that’s a terrified 12 year old prisoner of war child bride who’s fooling a whole, grown husband and the entire red keep that she’s a little too devotional and absolutely not plotting her freedom in a fortress full of spies, soldiers and noble powerhouses, that too successfully. She’s not concerned that Tyrion’s peas are overcooked, she’s deliberately trying to put up an act so that her cover isn’t blown. She’s outsmarted Tyrion Lannister of all people, and you can die mad about it.
#you can argue all you want that it’s dontos/lf who plan#but it’s still Sansa who has to act and keep herself safe#sansa stark#asoiaf#asos#it’s also a fear response called ‘fawn’ where you literally fawn over the abuser/trigger like Sansa does#but go off I guess#everyday I have to fight cat/san tradwife accusations#game of thrones#got
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I love it when women hate men. I love it when women are allowed to vent to each other about how horrible and creepy men are. I love it when women form friendships with and prioritize each other over relationships with men(whether they're attracted to them or not). I love it when women put men dni in their bios and on their nude photos and on posts on their blogs. I love it when women refuse to mollycoddle and accommodate entitled male feelings with "but this doesn't mean I hate all men, I know a few men who are great, I love my father/sons/brothers/uncles/male cousins/guy friends" I love it when women complain about men WITHOUT "not all men" being a disclaimer. I love it when women avoid socializing with/refuse to be around/befriend/get close to men because they know men can't be trusted. I love it when women make "kill all men" jokes. I love it when women offer absolutely no concern or care for men's feelings and if their misandry offends men whatsoever because why should we, men are the oppressor class who have raped and killed and abused us and kept us as subjugated as second-class citizens for millennia, they regularly mistreat us and the women in their own marginalized communities still every single day and make this world so much harder and more awful for us to be in, and if we choose to hate them and not spare them any sympathy then so be it, and I don't just mean "men as a class" either, you can be a woman who doesn't want to have anything to do with any man on an individual basis and completely cuts off men from her personal life too and ykw I will love and fucking support you in that because men deserve absolutely NOTHING from us. If they're so tough and strong then they can handle it just like they can handle being lonely. If you are a woman who hates men, ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE A LESBIAN AND/OR A TRANS WOMAN, then just know that I love you. I love you, I support you, and you are safe here.
#was going to make a post about how much i hate that women aren't allowed to hate their oppressors but i decided to spin it into something#positive instead#this is supposed to be the feminist site that makes reddit mgtow piss their baby diapers so let's go back to despising men and not coddling#their feelings and let's dye our hair blue while we're at it#i am so tired of this new wave of guilt-tripping and gaslighting women who hate men and don't trust or want to be around them#i hate how we're made into villainesses or the problematic ones for not valuing them in our lives or for wanting to guard ourselves or be#safe from our oppressors#and i'm tired of people who don't know the first thing about feminism being like 'BUT THAT'S TERF RHETORIC WHAT ABOUT X MINORITY MEN'#guess what women can also be x minority that you're trying to protect the men of and we get to hate men too#trans women are included when i say women btw and trans men are included when i say men#if anyone has the right to hate men more than anybody else it's trans women esp trans lesbians because they put up with so much shit#from men that even cis women do not and they especially know how vile men are behind closed doors#so#terfs fuck off#radfems fuck off#and if anybody tries to make this post more appeasing to men or 'not all men's this post you are getting blocked and hit with a hammer#feminism#misogyny#sexism#patriarchy#tw men#tw rape#tw abuse#misandry#terfs dni#radfems dni#feminists need to go back to being scary and unpalatable for men none of this 'but some of them are good!' bullshit#men are entitled to nothing from us#and if you try to prove me wrong then you are just proving my point if you have nothing good to say then simply keep scrolling#ok? ok.
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but also like. guys you don’t need to leave the minecraft youtube community bc one person is bad to clarify. like. shelby is a minecraft youtuber. a lot of her friends are minecraft youtubers. those friends are supportive and as far as we know all believe her. the vast majority of minecraft youtubers are like. fine. this shit is something that Happens because Abusers are Manipulative, going to another hobby will Not shield you from anything and you’re not immoral for liking something bad people also liked. which is. one of the biggest video games ever. like in this situation no one was knowingly harbouring an abuser and it seems everyone was supportive. this is just a case of some people being shit, not anything to do with mcyt. hell, the guy hasn’t been on minecraft in like a year lmao.
i fully understand why the content might be uncomfortable to you guys now but like, please don’t self flagellate and cut yourself off from an entire genre of media because of one guy again. i saw that happen after the dream stuff and a lot of people ended up losing important things because they made rash decisions and felt like they Had to leave. but please. take one deep fucking breath. this has happened before. this has happened so much before, and in ways far worse than this. because abusers, unfortunately, exist. you should not feel guilty for being manipulated by a manipulative abuser, don’t blame yourself. do what you have to, but please, please keep in mind that the majority of minecraft youtube is fine. it is fine to continue engaging with it. it’s fine to be manipulated by an abuser and it’s not your fault. please don’t make rash decisions and end up losing things you care deeply about and being unable to get them back. distance yourself all you want, but please be careful to not do so out of emotional self harm from the guilt. that’s something this fandom encourages far too much- even outside of this- and it’s unhealthy and anyone expecting it of you is cruel.
#mcyt#abuse tw#i guess this is discourse idk but like#this happened two years ago and the amount of people who realised cutting themselves off from All mcyt was self harm and came back#only to have lost a lot of content they created and valued because they wanted to punish themselves for trusting a predator#and like. you’re victim blaming yourself. obviously you are not anywhere near as much a victim as The victim#but being manipulated into supporting abusers is still something that is an action they take to harm others#Being used as a tool to silence others unknowingly is a cruel thing and can be traumatic to go through#its honestly really concerning as someone working on their own emotional self harm to see it. like this isn’t about anyone in specific but#guys. emotionally self harming isn’t helping. you don’t need punishment. breathe and think through things.
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More context :0 purely because grandma asked so nicely. @midnightstarshadow hihi contribution for u :3 even if we barely talk I still care ab u so much, so have this as a treat for the moment
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Personally not too fond of this. Struggled to make nightmare more broken >:( now if there'll be more context? Not likely. Maybe, but not likely
#sans au#utmv#undertale au#killer sans#dust sans#horror sans#nightmare sans#passive nightmare sans#guess who lost all their powers after relentlessly abusing insane murderers#the bad sanses#bad sanses#murder time trio#it's not so easy to draw horror w expressions :/#horrors got the insane crack. killers got the unstable soul and wide smile. what does dust have you might ask?(no one asked)#well the answer is you'll probably never know#comic#I've felt pretty bad today. got comforted by oobja on Roblox tho so I'm fine#goofy ahh name#I want to talk more but meh. I dunno
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Playing Veilguard like:
#dragon age#dragon age memes#bioware critical#veilguard critical#veilguard spoilers#da: the veilguard#dragon age spoilers#datv spoilers#da4 spoilers#I have so many questions#where is solas's network of spies#where is his army#where is varric's network of spies#why the fuck would you try to recruit a single dragon hunter rather than idk every single fucking grey warden#why are the antivan crows a happy family rather than a bunch of abusive schmucks who deserve to burn#why are we pretending like templars don't exist#that last one I know the reason for it's because fans don't like templars#but guess what an army of them sure would be useful against a magical threat
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i love the contrast between ishmael and heathcliff's revenge plots because ishmael was willing to steer a boat into a whale of skyscraper proportions to tear that old lady limb from limb with her bare hands, whereas heathcliff was trying really hard to increase his credit score. ishmael is here not speaking of hubris. striking the sun if it insulted her. she is madness maddened. she is that wild madness only calm to comprehend herself. in the meantime, heathcliff has trodden on the bathtub mixed timeline moonshine landmine that cathy made in her basement
#limbus company#ishmael limbus company#heathcliff limbus company#i guess if you look at it from a certain angle it's also about revenge and toxic codependency on someone who irreversibly changed ur life#but the difference is SO funny to me#that said it's also like#interesting to see that ishmael coped with her situation by sort of unconsciously trying to emulate the person who was so much stronger#in that moment#to guard herself from further harm#while heathcliff has internalized a lifetime of abuse so hard that he's literally jumping the walls between dimensions to act it on himself#guards. put these people in therapy
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main takeaway from certain fan reactions to the finale is this:
the final scene with ankarna was so meaningful to the bad kids' arcs and how they made peace with being wronged by people they loved, and if all you can focus on is that the rat grinders didn't get much screentime, then you don't love dimension20 and you don't love this world: you want to be playing your own hs themed dnd campaign and you're mad the oc versions of the rat grinders you made up in your head acted ooc. these are not your characters and this is not their story.
#sorry but it made me so mad after seeing that scene and the epilogues of tbks progressing on their journey to healing#that all anyone cared about was the fucking rat grinders not getting a steven universe moment to explain how trying to end the world was ok#brennan went out of his way to point out klck CHOSE rage over her friends + abused her party for her own selfish agenda and ppl are mad#that tbks didnt want to revive her. where was this outcry for penelope everpetal who was arguably more manipulated and is also in HELL#i keep harping on that point but its such an obvious comparison i feel insane that these ppl dont get it#ppl are even trying to argue against lucy's own words ab being upset her friend MURDERED her bc they flattened her to their uwu soft girl#like lucy was never a doormat. she was braver than all of them. why would she be unconditionally forgiving at her party for being evil#sorry ur toxic yuri ship sucked. klck didnt care she died. the real yuri shouldve been yolanda and zara. if u even care#actually im more annoyed we didnt some quick zara resolution but ppl are too hung up on trgs to notice#dimension 20#fantasy high junior year#fhjy#fhjy spoilers#fhjy discourse#i guess
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I don’t get akeshu / shuake at all.
Like I get it from a typical “fandom loves the enemies to lovers trope” perspective but in all honesty I don’t get the insane brainrot the persona 5 fandom has for this ship.
Like do I think Joker cares for Akechi? Yes.
Do I think he was genuinely conflicted/tempted by Maruki’s ultimatum? Yes.
Do I think they have a genuine relationship and see a lot of themselves in each other and actually somewhat understand each other? Yes.
That being said, I really don’t see how anyone can look past the fact that Akechi tried to kill Joker. And okie fine enemies to lovers, fandom’s favorite ship aside, I don’t see how Joker can actually want a full on relationship (like romantic) with this dude when Futaba, Sojiro, and Haru are like right there?
This may just be me but I reallllllllly wouldn’t be friends with someone who is friends (hell forget even in a romantic relationship) with someone who horribly hurt me.
And I don’t think Joker loves Akechi more than Futaba, Sojiro, or Haru. Especially Sojiro and Futaba. Those two are like his family, and Akechi is responsible for their suffering.
Like… it’s kind of one or the other. Joker can’t be friends/dating Akechi without horribly betraying Futaba, Sojiro, and Haru. That’s just how I see it (but I’m open to hearing other perspectives!)
#I don’t know it’s just who seriously would want to be around someone who is dating your mom’s killer#like seriously#or in Haru’s case dad’s killer#like I find it to be a serious betrayal#especially since Joker can theoretically betray the whole team AND Akechi by accepting Maruki’s deal to save Akechi#like even Akechi is aware in game of the fact that he doesn’t want Joker’s pity#I am aware Akechi was abused and heavily taken advantage of#still doesn’t change the fact he knew what he was doing and that he still killed Futaba’s mom had Haru’s dad#like honestly shipping glasses aside how many people would honestly date a dude that killed your friend’s parents#like come on#I really don’t get this ship man#I guess people reeeeeeeeally like enemies to lovers#pomegranate rants#persona 5#persona 5 royal#p5 joker#ren amamiya#akira kurusu#goro akechi#akechi goro#akeshu#shuake#futaba sakura#haru okumura#sojiro sakura#anti shuake#anti akeshu#ship discourse#discourse#kind of? not trying to be hostile honestly curious
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Fit: I would never hit my own children. My own biological children. I would never hit my own children, but these little bastards– [he kills a "Snot" a child-like mob] Fair game, fair game. [Fit looks at Ramon] Well, ok, biological or adopted, it doesn't matter. My children– I would never hit my children.
Fit: See, now I just opened up a can of worms– now someone's like "Ramon's your biological child???" So what if he is? So what if he is, huh? [Reading chat] No I'm not a bird, I didn't lay Ramon. That sounds painful. That sounds extremely painful.
[QSMP kicks him off the server]
Fit: You know, and– literally because we're having this conversation right now, the QSMP admins were like "Uhh, no, we gotta restart the server. Fit's talking about pushing eggs out of his ass."
#FitMC#Ramon#QSMP#Fit#Sighs#February 28 2024#Fit said ''you know who's a regular and who's not based on their reaction to this''#yeah you've said way more unhinged things Fit but#you've ruined my social media feed for the next 48 hours#child abuse#child abuse mention#I guess#ask to tag
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