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newt-and-salamander · 2 years ago

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I'm actually crying a bit rn because some if my uni friends just asked in our WhatsApp group if someone was going to CSD on Saturday. And I was super nervous because I haven't seen these guys in a bit (they are all writing their theses), but I always felt extremely comfortable with them (three of them are bi and we talked a lot and I actually considered for a few months last year if I am maybe bisexual too, because, yesss women are pretty.) Anyway. I said that I had already thought about going because I was curious, but that I also felt nervous because I've never been there before and I've only relatively recently discovered that asexuality exists and even more recently that I actually am, and that I was feeling a bit uncool.

And they immediately said "That's not uncool" and I hurried to say "Yes, of course being asexual isn't uncool, that's not what I meant", and then they said "No, you aren't uncool", and someone sent a picture of frogs in ace colours because they know I like frogs, and now they say I should just join them and I can leave if I get overwhelmed with the people and the noise (and now I'm crying again although I started typing this 30 mins ago).

Well, it looks like I'm going to my first Pride Event on Saturday. :)

#for the record I AM relatively uncool #I spend between 5 - 10 h a day at the library at least 6 days iof the week because i have no life and i take my studies RIDICULOUSLY sirious #I'm a terrible perfectionist and if that isn't uncool i don't know #but somehow they like me and they want me spend time with them :')#when that friend group formed last year i was so ELATED #i have friends but it's usual 1 to 1 relationships #I'm not usually a part of the group with the cool people #but i even celebrated my birthday with them and they think I'm funny and sometimes I'm just so confused because #of course my mum thinks I'm funny and the three nerdy friends i handpicked #but a whole group of people? wow #also they talk about sex a lot and whenever it came up and they asked me about my opinion I was like #Uhm honestly I don't know I've only been in one relationship so I guess I didn't have time to experiment or something #so I knew they are really liberal that way but paradoxically at the same time that made me even more nervous because #they are so interested in sex and i am not OH NO what if they think I'm boring #well there are many reasons to think me boring but they study with me so i guess they know about all these other reasons too #(i was the only one in the group who really enjoyed historical lectures)#okay ngl I'm still nervous #i rarely go to fairgrounds or demonstrations because of the noise and the people and this feels even more personal #but i think I will be alright :))#huh #personal thoughts #asexuality

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auxxrat · 4 months ago

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so sick and tired of the “jedi are an evil and abusive cult that steals children” as if half the reason they weren’t protecting these children is bc sith were out killing them or TURNING THEM INTO SITH. they weren’t even STEALING children to begin with I thought we all knew that was Palpatine’s game not Yoda’s.

#i hate star wars fans i truly do #they wanna pick apart the jedi like of course there are mistakes and wrong doings #bUT THE SITH ARE RIGHT THERE #trying to build the narrative that anakin was abused by the jedi is absolutely crazy when his actions and thoughts were all his own #and GROOMED by palpatine #the only reason people want to pin them as bad people is because yoda could call out anakin’s bad behavior #that and they didnt promote him to master right away because oh im the chosen one i should be #like you need to PROVE you are the chosen one and that you WILL bring balance to the force and NOT DESTROY IT #THATS FHE WHOLE PROPHECY #AND PEOPLE WONDER WHY THEY WERE CAREFUL WITH ANAKIN???#and then the oh well they make you supress feelings #nO #THEY #DONT #they make you surpress attachments so that if it comes DOWN to it you will save the many and not just risk it all to save the ONE #disney has done damage to the star wars community i swear #saw a tik tok comment section where they said the council is like the christian church #lost my MIND #well the jedi fit cult criteria!!#wow! star wars fans find out WHAT A GROUP OF RELIGION IS #LITERALLY ANY GROUP OF RELIGION CAN BE CALLED A CULT NOT EVERY CULT IS BAD #im sorry i cant stand it anymore #star wars #star wars tcw #auxxrat yap #jedi council #jedi #star wars legends

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dennisboobs · 7 days ago

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standing in front of a firing squad would have been easier than reading this script i need to be shot

#this is hands down the most insane script ive read i was sitting slack jawed half the time #not because its Outrageous but because. oh my fucking God #frank sure does have too much influence over *gestures broadly* This.#to see their dysfunction presented like this. is. so.#like. of course the reason they cant be nice to each other is because they all expect some kind of Trick. we see this again in s12 #they've set a precedent where everyone is unable to be vulnerable out of fear that someone else is going to take advantage of them #its about knowing to Never let their guard down. because they can't afford to be stupid enough to think someone was being nice #its literally about them not trusting each other. they know each other. care about each other. but they're all still at war with each other #anything could be a trojan horse #and even when they try to do something thoughtful it's ruined bc their motives are being questioned and that provokes a defense #''of course i wasn't being Nice that's stupid why would i ever do that for you'' because otherwise theyre leaving themselves open to attack #i think this episode works purely because theyre All trying to change this at once and since theyre all aware of that fact #its like oh okay youre not fucking with me because we've established we're all trying not to be cynical #i cannot even begin to dig into the pure autism of this entire. not even just the episode premise. the whole basis of the gang's dynamic.#like yeah of course a group of weird neurodivergent people is hypersensitive to this #its the same thing as mac and dennis in suburbs questioning wally's intentions/demeanor welcoming them to the neighbourhood #literally in defense mode all the time because they expect the worst from people and they haven't had any reason to think otherwise #marder and rosell get it but thats not exactly new and surprising <3 #but wow this script adds so much. at least for me.#iasip #it's always sunny in philadelphia #ada speaks #character meta #for good measure

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flamingphoenix916 · 5 days ago

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On this lovely Valentine's Day, I am once again reminded of the one time in high school a friend of mine (who had known me for a good like THREE YEARS) somehow was under the misapprehension that I was both allosexual and indeed, heterosexual, and when I mentioned off-hand I had never been in a relationship, she said, "oh, that's ok! You'll find someone. The right guy will come along." And she was being so sweet and usually is better at catching my drift than this that I sort of spluttered and said, "huh? I don't... I don't think you're quite following what I'm saying, uh" And she smiled and said, "You're definitely going to meet a nice guy! Maybe in a couple years or something, but you won't be alone forever!" And it was HILARIOUS to me that she didn't even consider that I might be a LESBIAN with how surprised I was at the idea of dating a man lmaoooo. Also, at this point, I was identifying as aromantic? And very open about it? Not that she really had any cause for me to say it directly but it's not a shocker or anything, I'd have thought she'd hear it from one of our mutual friends at some point, at least.

Anyways, Happy Valentine's Day to her! I hope she's doing well and has a nice boyfriend of her own. Shoutout to her for giving me the funniest allo interaction I've ever had.

#aroace #aromantic #happy valentine's day #I still cannot BELIEVE that she thought I was straight #funniest part of the whole thing tbh #because she was very queer friendly!#my whole close friend group was queer (wow who'd've guessed)#and she got along very nicely with them #but I guess I slid under the radar or smth #I didn't even like... hint that I was into anyone or wanted to date #it was so weird #I might have even mentioned never having a crush #but I feel like she would've had a different reaction to that so idk #I guess it's like lowkey aphobic or whatever but she really was trying to be nice and again #it was so funny #like unbelievably entertaining to me #so I don't care #it was high school I didn't know how to correct people #lowkey? I still don't #anyways #have fun!#stay safe!#go on a date with your nice partner!#or just laugh at the idea of having one #we don't discriminate here

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utilitycaster · 1 year ago

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Without FAIL every single person I've seen throw a fit over people "being mean" to fictional characters is extremely awful towards the real people they perceive as being insufficiently respectful towards the pretend people

#this obviously doesn't include racism/homophobia/transphobia/other bigotry #since if you'll be hateful to a fictional character you're still being hateful towards that real group #but yeah people will be like jsyk if you criticize anything blorbo bleebus does you're a monster and I hope you die :)#with NO self awareness #it's tbh not dissimilar to the whole goblin thing a few years ago #ie wow you'll defend goblins against antisemitic stereotypes. now try doing that with real jewish people! wait where are you going #it's easy to defend a fictional character who will never disagree with you and can't speak for themselves #and who can't disapprove of you making death threats in their name #queue

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freebooter4ever · 7 months ago

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if there is a 'Group', i am always on the outside looking in, it's been the one constant in my life - i have been aware of it since i was young. i have never known how to 'join' Groups. no matter how much i try to fix whatever is wrong with me or change myself its never enough. when you want to belong but you cant figure out how to belong, its the worst

#jrnlsht #and the worst feeling in the world is when one person in The Group decides they dont like you all of sudden #and you get cut off from everyone else in The Group #this happened to me like clockwork every six months in pittsburgh #I would find a new friend group and think wow this is it i belong these people are great #then one guy or two guys would decide i was going to be their girlfriend and give me an ultimatum #date the guy or you cant be friends anymore #and because the guy was in the friend group before i was that meant if i said no to dating i was permanently out of The Group #so i said no and had to work to find a whole new friend group #this is why by the time i left pittsburgh my friends were almost exclusively women i just stopped trusting befriending men #anyway what is happening now feels like the exact same thing only this time bizarrely its work/career instead of friendship/dating

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bandzboy · 9 months ago

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very much this... cr.

#i saw this hours ago but i came across this tweet again #and it made me think about how i learned how to not put people i stan on insane pedestals #bc when they made bad decisions or something very ignorant #i would get insanely disappointed and sad abt it for a very long time #not that i don't think even if you have a healthy view abt people you stan #you can't be disappointed but #i feel like when you do this actively and you think your faves can't do no wrong #and then they do it's very different #what i've observed for the past few months is that #some people might not even realize they are doing this #and i feel like on twt it's so bad #especially with the whole 'you have to stream or you are bad fan' time of mentality #that it ended up creating this environment of having to do #everything for these idols no matter what #some people are so against boycotts bc of this #and have a very unhealthy relationship with stanning culture #and i say this from a very personal experience but #my view on stanning groups change drastically the moment i started to be on tumblr full time #and i remember the exact moment where i thought wow i've been #doing it wrong this whole time and that's why i was so miserable #i will not go into details bc this is getting long #but i do intent to do an extended essay (sorta kinda) about this soon #bc i feel like it's something that we need to sincerely discuss #and how awful it is to perpetuate these behaviors #tris.txt

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cetoddle · 1 month ago

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i love the sims 2 community so much. everyone is so respectful and truly kind

#i make fun of sims 4 a lot but i know the average sims 4 player is a perfectly fine person #i mean i truly hate that game but you do whatever makes you happy right #but when i was involved in ts4 community…people are just so. like most of the creators are stuck up assholes #people in ts2 circles have *always* been very against paid content #uploading paid content publicly since day 1 it’s always been like that #so now these days you really only have like. a few creators who lock their content behind a paywall #and they’re just generally not respected in the community and MOST of us just stay away from them #and the sims 2 community has always been very big on crediting the work of others #and like. it’s just what we do we all share work and other creators build off or edit that work #pretty much all the creators even the ‘big’ ones are so kind too. sharing smaller creators work #always having the patience to answer questions #we all go out of our way to help each other find lost meshes or broken download links like i saw someone describe the community once as a #big potluck. where people bring their own work to share and someone might say hey i like this dish!#but i think it would suit my taste better with this spice added #and the original ‘cook’ is like wow that was a great idea! and now the whole group has TWO dishes to chose from #i think part of it is due to how old the game is. like without the og creators from 2004 we wouldn’t have the insane mods and content we #have now. and we all know and acknowledge and appreciate that!#but with sims 4…at least in my experience #creators were weirdly prideful and catty for no reason #with all the early access content and patreon exclusive like pls it feels like 2008 again 😭#i always found it strange that most creators didn’t allow their meshes to be included with recolors or textures #cause in ts2 community meshes are pretty much always included and the creators are always fine with that. that’s just what we do we share #or if someone asked a question in ts4 communities people would just be so rude for no reason #and in my ts2 circles i always feel comfortable reaching out with a question #and i always get a helpful and kind answer. and when people ask me questions im always happy to help!#idk. lia is rambling about her special interest again watch out everyone #i just saw a really kind and respectful interaction on a ts2 post #and it made me happy what a wonderful community we have :]#snow.txt

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seaofreverie · 2 months ago

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We should normalize bringing these sort of "small talk ideas" cards to meetings with other people so that it's possible to avoid the awkwardness of not knowing what to talk about to kick things off or if it's considered normal to talk about this specific thing and AUGHGHFCG all this stuff.

#i don't know what these cards are actually called. but what i mean by this is that well. ok let me tell you the whole story #which is that in my attempts to become more normal and functional i started attending these 'social skills exercise' group meetings #and at our first meeting instead of subjecting us to the awkwardness of introducing ourselves one by one #the group moderator prepared these cards with questions that we would take and answer in turns #and then invite all the others to contribute a bit as well. and that part was also not as scary as i feared it would be #some of the questions were kind of not very good interesting questions but still it didn't matter that much #because i am once again being proven that as long as the conversation is about something specific #it's really not that much of a problem for me to contribute like how when i had these zoom meetings with people #that discussed my interships back in my two final semesters of uni of course at first i was super stressed. BUT once the meeting started #and it came to the actual talking? it was no problem at all suddenly like wow sometimes i actually can talk to people #but yeah the 'what do i talk about' is the problem. and another realization i had here is that i'n in fact naturally predisposed to rambling #because i rambled a lot during this meeting i feel like and i think i'm already starting to vibe with one girl from my group in particular #yet my biggest problem most of the time is not saying anything at all in most situations. because of. the masking #it's literally such a big thing to overcome i've been having such huge realizations about this. but yeah anyway #i already had the opportunity to mention sparks lol. bcs one question was to tell the others about a movie #that left a huge impact on you and well why would i lie about this and not talk about TSB and my tendency to become obsessed with old bands #another observation is that when you put 4 socially awkward people in one room the result will be that it will feel very akward #to no suprise of course. but also there is something relieving about not being THE ONLY awkward one in a group you know #but well yeah all in all. man the mysteries of human communication. maybe i'll get it all one day #goosepost

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sigilmint · 5 months ago

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lmao I cast spell of christians mind their own fucking business and stop proselytizing and recognize that a video game isn't real life you fucking floppy bananas

#my whole life I've dealt with these people #leave me alone!!!!!#you're only doing the cult's strategy of othering yourself when you bother people like that and get rejected #which means you retreat back to your in group and go wow everyone outside of my group MUST be as bad as they say #it's literally a strategy to keep you in their group #they are making you be weird to others on purpose so people don't like you #so that your stay and listen to the church #anyway whatever leave me tf alone #a hex upon ye and all that

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immortalsins · 9 months ago

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self-isolation during times of stress is pretty bad actually shame it took me 2 years of uni to realise this

#not to be cringe but i ended up joining the people on my course today when our lecturer didn't show and one girl was getting on with work #so sat at the same table but not talking to the rest of us #we were having a whole rant session about third year optional modules and i said something that made the others laugh & she was smiling #to herself @ it #u are trying to be serious studying over in the corner but i got u sjhbjkhbsd #they're such nice people and i wish i'd been proactive in becoming friends at the start #because my lecture skipping meant i never gave myself the chance to do so and they all moved on ahead of me #i can talk to them any time and they're always so lovely but i'm not in the core group #and i've done that to myself #:(( hopefully next year .... she says again #i see them often in lectures but not outside of that much and it's my own fault that now i'm at a point where it's weird to request to join #outside of lectures i mean #but today i asked and it was fine <3 small steps #for someone so prone to removing myself entirely from everyone around me #:/ my default is to assume that nobody wants me there and i can rarely gather the strength to be there anyway #deep deep issue that one!! because it extends to my parents #need to shut up and get one with work wow

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khaothanawat · 1 year ago

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i’ve been sort of unintentionally sitting on most of my only friends opinions but really they largely just amount to ‘thank you, she was perfect, if you get it you get it, if you don’t you don’t.’

#one day i’ll get bored and just write an entire thesis called ‘in ardent defence of only friends’ and it will be my magnum opus #and/or just me rambling about the immense attention to detail and deliberateness in all the decisions and the way the show set everything #up piece by piece like an interesting and fun little puzzle #that it’s not supposed to be a manifesto it’s just supposed to be a 12 episode snapshot into four insane months in this group of young #people’s lives. and that viewing the characters and relationships as early 20-somethings through the eyes of a slightly older and more #experienced lens (like once you’re out of your 20s and removed enough away from that time) feels like a big part of #why i found the experience as a whole so gratifying #it’s like looking back at your youth and saying wow we really lived like this #idk it’s not gonna hit the same for everyone and that’s ok but #to me it was by far the most interesting use of a university setting in a bl imo imo imo #show: only friends #only friends the series

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mimiyanna · 11 months ago

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I’m on Twitter to see anime titties and vtuber tweets why the fuck does it keep pushing alt-right tweets, hate speech, and videos of graphic violence at me?

#No amount of ‘show me less of this’ has made them show me less of any of this by the way #fucking abysmal website #on twitter even if I block one shithead it doesn’t matter because there are always immediately more of them directly down the dash #and on tumblr I can be like ‘well that’s just one maladjusted individual at least they don’t have any power over me’#but on twitter it’s like. These are very real people with like. Their faces and names sometimes in the profile.#the worst #I am so sick of seeing these people spread lies about other groups who they know nothing and care nothing about #I saw a whole thread of people being like ‘Wow they’ll call anyone a nazi these days just for believing things nazis believe’#‘they call anyone a nazi just for saying several dogwhistles in this very tweet’#and they seem so smugly superior for it #It’s killing me #which I’m sure is what they want. 😕

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thedreadvampy · 2 years ago

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the desperate urge to compliment someone online I think is super gorgeous and absolute Butch Goals Vs the utter terror of coming across creepy or making them feel surveilled or voyeured about: FIGHT

#red said #this is why I'm so bad at flirting. bc before i initiate contact with ANYONE I have to go through a 6 month panic period #where i run through scripts in my head and worry about coming off as weird or creepy or parasocial #and the longer that goes on the more sure i am that if i speak to them they will immediately know that bc of this anxiety #i have spent thinking about them. not bc I'm obsessed with them but bc i am concerned about how weird it might make them feel #and then I'm also like WOW NARCISSISTIC OF YOU TO THINK THEY'LL EVEN NOTICE YOUR COMMENT #LET ALONE CARE #god you are truly the WORST what an AWFUL way to think why can't you just be NORMAL #and the whole time the 'creepy' thing i wanted to say in the first place was like #'you're really cool' or 'i love your jacket' or 'i hope you're ok'#it isn't just attraction stuff either. i have invited a friend from work out for a drink ONCE in my life.#and it took a year AND only happened bc she was upset after a conflict at work so i could tell she needed to vent #like I'm SO BAD at this bc large or small any kind of initiating contact is like #wow ok so YOU THINK. YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO THEIR TIME. YOU'RE GOING TO PUT THEM ON THE SPOT LIKE THAT.#and it's so ANNOYING cause it's like. my dude. nobody thinks that about you. you have friends. most people like compliments.#and anyway when i do give compliments it's always in the most casual way possible bc of these anxieties #i don't ever want anyone to feel like. trapped by my regard.#but it's so dumb it's literally the tiniest smallest things #it's why I've always been bad at making friends online. i just silently follow people's blogs and like things.#i have also been known to do the IRL version of that. hovering near the edge of people's groups trying to like. mentally project regard.#which GUESS WHAT!!! comes off way creepier than just saying hey man you look amazing i love your whole vibe #AAAAAAAAAA #(davide this is also why i followed your blog so hard for like 500 years but got very afraid of ever acknowledging you might know who i am)

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merevide · 1 year ago

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how it feels to post a sad music link and get over 2 likes

#+2 likes and we’re basically a group therapy session like cmon now #anyways. sorry i’ve been gone the whole fucking day basically #i nearly came so close to live-blogging my entire random emotional break and i was like. wow. i kinda gotta get it together #idk why i’m saying sorry like people rely on my blog content to live but yknow #i still have not fully gotten it together obviously i can’t do that in one afternoon but watching youtube. was fun.#ANYWAY. who cares. I HAVE SPOTIFY LINKS that’s what matters #srsly though i might take a longer break soonish with my parents pushing college stuff at me all at once + having to start classes soon +#making sure i don’t actually have a huge visible breakdown so yeah ig we’ll see. but i also like having fun here. i’m talking to the void hi #again idk why i’m. announcing that like people rely on my dumb posts to live their lives. idfk #did this accidentally turn into a vent post shit now i actually gotta post good music links #my text #🩻 <- i like this emoji

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sosquaresowhat · 2 years ago

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Yo what the fuuuuck happened to my friends?

Obvi if you can see this it's not you, you're still lovely <3 this is about old work and college friends

#just have had like peoples personality flip a whole ass 180 lately. like my genuinely good dude friend now is hella far right #another friend just straight up being an asshole to me about shit i have no control over #like bud the shit you got going on i had nothing to do with and i sympathize but youre at a 10 and you need to bring it to a 3.#and im just like? idk i miss my high school group in a way cause i know theyre all still good people #now im over here dodging drama bullshit left and right like its a job and man i do not want a part of it.#like im sorry a friend of yours is now competing in your same space and stealing your ideas that sucks.#but i didnt do that and im not even in that space.#im also sorry that i asked your opinion on my shit and it doesnt vibe with your business model #but you didnt need to shit on it because YOU cant see YOURSELF making money on it #because its NOT FOR YOU! its mine dude.#and the right wing friend oh my god i dont even know how they got so fucking lost in the sauce and im feeling insane about it #just wow. yikes. i gotta meet new people and reconnect with older friends.

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