#blah blah not all men

[apostate-in-an-alcove]

I tend to be quite aloof and cynical towards men as I get older but I think the source of that cynicism and repulsion comes from living in a society that caters to and centres men to the point where refusing to participate makes you a pariah, with both men and women. Sorry not sorry but women and women's liberation are my priority; I'm tired of men expecting to take centre stage and be kowtowed to even in discussions about things that primarily harm women cause most are far too selfish and lack empathy to actually value women as people.

[shim-changmin]

absolutely hate how hard gail simone is pandering to romy shippers. nothing to do with the ship in specific, it could be any other & i'd feel the same way, but it always makes me uncomfortable when creatives behave like that.

[bitchslapblastoids]

having a hard time seeing how it’s invasive to ask about their relationship status esp when I feel like it was asked pretty tactfully and their whole brand is now one another/their whole joint Thing and these days they basically turn on the camera and film 15 mins of horseshit to send to an editor but we eat it up bc they’re so busy hearteyesing one another the whole video that we don’t even notice/care that it’s mostly horseshit content plus they’re now doing a tour about the whole joint Thing and their whole horned up history which is the reason they’re even doing this press and there’s rly no more smoke and mirrors around discussing #phan bc how open will the door be so there’s only one remaining question so it seems goofy to not ask tbh

[aerithisms]

one of my atla fandom hot takes is that the yaoi enjoyers only turned to zukka because the male character zuko actually has a complex, developed, hard-won relationship with that is explored through juicy narrative parallels and a compelling push and pull throughout the narrative is too young for people to ship him with. and now that the characters are about to be aged up into adulthood for the movie and it will no longer be weird we could be on the precipice of the great zukaang renaissance 2k26 or whenever the hell it's supposed to come out

[rustchild]

not to do discourse or anything. but one of the things that is very funny to me about the whole "soft fantasy escapism world with no homophobia" trend is that they all wind up looking the same, while books that genuinely seriously engage with the ways in which queer people respond to repression are more likely to go in wildly divergent specific directions. The response to stories that uncritically replicated modern models of homophobia in settings where they made no sense was to uncritically replicate models of queer 'normalcy' in settings where they make no sense. whereas actually engaging with the nuances of living in those systems gives you access to the wide variety of specific experience that exists in real life. something here also about how writers in the imperial core attempt to imagine a world without the colonial spread of homophobia as a tool of empire but don't actually know anything about the diversity of sexual and gender structures that exists in pre-, post-, and noncolonial communities. and so have a thing that their settings Aren't, but not a thing that they Are

[moonmoonthecrabking]

idk queer discourse online is often very stupid to me. like. please make friends irl with people who are different identities to you. you have more in common than you think

[ticklepinions]

Ranting below!!!

Men PISS ME OFF RAAAAAAAAGH

Nothing grinds my gears more than a man treating you like nothing because he doesn't wanna fuck you. The absolute gall some men have to think that because I'm queer I may be interested in them. Fuck right AWF like NO! Some men really got nothing better to do than be stupid fucking assholes. But if I were a woman they were attracted to they'd behave!? Fucked up!!!! Do better PLEASE. And I know this is nothing new or whatever but i've just about had it 😭😭😭. Straight men are truly just afraid to be treated the same way they treat women. Ooh they PISS ME OFF!!! I hate straight men throw em AWAY!!!!! FUCK

And and and, I was told not to post the ask but I got permission to highlight it. The homophobia here is so fucking bad. Like hello! If you are not interested in talking to the same sex/gender/whatever fucking rule/boundary you have say it up front! People on here for the most part mean well but assuming someone wants to get in your pants because of their orientation is bonkers. You are conceited and full of yourself and I hope you step on a lego.

It's fine to only want to speak to certain people about this kink/interest/whatever tickling is to you. It's *not* okay to be passive aggressive or borderline rude to people who are just trying to make friends on here, especially when they haven't purposely crossed your not very clear boundaries. It's obviously a diff story if they knew about it and disregarded it ofc, but just be mindful. Anyways

:)

[bedforddanes75]

so tmi but i think i just had a dream that Thee matty healy fucked me and i was fuming the whole time cos it wasnt george. what the fuck like genuinely what in gods name

[billygoat26]

Me re-discovering the X-Men movies is one of the many great things that's happened-

Magneto's powers are really fucking strong

Jean's too

Charles (pre-wheelchair) had the rizz (kill me rn for saying that word pls- /j) also accent

Oh yeah, I'm talking about the movies X-Men: First Class and the movies after that one.

Jean's a fucking badass and so is Magneto-

[sleepynegress]

Love this interview... I have been semi-checking in on Zawe's journey since before certain stans were feeling some kinda way about her recent familial additions. I do for certain Black actors/creators especially, who seem to be moving in interesting ways in entertainment/film media...

-A remnant from a period when I used to go to screenings and blog about films (and was published a few times in a major national newspaper)... So, I knew of Zawe through the grapevine of her mentorship, i.e. she is the reason why Rege Jean Page of Bridgerton fame got to work in U.S. markets, as she sponsored him. And she is known, as one of those "good eggs" who will be accessible and help/advise especially young actors of color. ...But, I have some other stuff to say. This isn't about proving that she's an amazing human being. It's about a certain brand of misogynoir that some of these people far beneath her in self-knowledge, self-love, and just plain grown-ass-woman-personhood...keep letting fly in what they *think* are compliments, but actually are just trite microaggressions. Saying things like "as long she makes [T-blank H-blank] happy then she's alright" as if he's the centered human and her attachment renders her worthy somehow. Babies, as long as SHE'S happy. Yall. He's marrying up.

WAY UP and the fact that he knows this? Actually elevates him. She's been there.

She tells a story in the above interview that reminds me of Uzo Aduba's anecdote about her name , - of an incident when she was called to an early job (at 6!) and someone there said she wasn't pretty because of her gap and her Ugandan mother took her on past this person and into the room, ANYWAY.

... She learned a specific self-knowledge and self-love, that is necessary in very white western spaces that constantly pressures a narrow sense of worthiness and beauty, especially from Black women, something a lot of these small-minded stans don't even have a notion of seeing beyond. Zawe is biracial, and her features, aside from her skin tone are very African. So while she benefits from colorism, featurism is something I've seen those bigoted stans, pick on as well. She knows those features are what makes her beautiful and knew that, w/o and before her partner saw that too. And people who aren't blind narrow-minded ignoramuses can *also* see that. This is why I assert the fact of featurism needing to be in the conversation of light/dark privilege conversations. Lips, nose, gap, and even the set of her eyes are ethnic beauty markers within quite a few spaces in the Black African diaspora... My mom was an absolute stunner because of her gap.

Even the old school white model Lauren Hutton got there because of her gap. Uzo Aduba, who I have already mentioned has a deeper skintone and has similarly large round striking eyes, gap, and a non-pinched-nose *rightly* played Glinda in NBC's production of The Wiz a few years back, with Dorothy saying she's so beautiful *because* of those features, not despite them as a very narrow white-washed gaze would wrongly assert.

And while we're here that includes sizes and shapes too. I'm saying your boy is enjoying all that plush. A lot of yall need to read or reread Maya Angelou's Phenomenal Woman, for comprehension.

Anyway... All this to say I know Zawe is and will be fine regardless.

P.S. Maya Angelou *also* had height, and gap and was very much known for her beauty/magnetism as a woman when she was alive. :

[colorisbyshe]

some of you aren't real men haters and it shows

[lesbianlenas]

after seeing another post calling a man a dyke

[eobard-thawne]

why do when people write post apocalyptic fics, their first thought is to build breeding centers that kidnap women and force them to have sex with the protagonist men? 🤮

[freakylilnutjob]

learning this past week that men really ain’t shit

[lateseptemberdawn]

The whole point of Mahabharata and the introduction of kaliyuga is that absolute pureness will not suffice. That to be good is to suffer. That if you keep taking what the world gives you, you will die empty-handed, everything you own taken away. That is the whole point of Bhagavat Geeta. To give what you're given, not to keep bending until your back breaks, NOT to keep suffering because that is the good thing, at the hands of someone who has done nothing for you. It is insane that this man who claims to be so clever and smart is so, SO willing to become literally stupid just because it's the Good thing to do. It is unfathomable to me. This is pure stupidity no matter from what way you look at it. There are all sorts of religious shows to tel these idiots that you MUST take back what you're owed. It's literally YOUR right. It is literally what you are SUPPOSED to do. When you keep giving what you have rightfully earned out of the labour of your blood sweat and tears, you are not doing it for the goodness. It's going nowhere. God is laughing at you and is probably angry that you're wasting opportunities and resources and the blessings you were provided with for your benefit. Especially when you're not only responsible for just yourself but for people in your family as well. Especially when you're already so so close to suffering that you need all the extra resources you can to make sure you don't suffer. The whole point of Krishna is to accept the impure within you, to fight for your own self. Rama is become so relevant these days because people here are braindeads. This is not the satyuga, the moralities of that times will have you beaten down bleading on the ground. This is kaliyuga, in order to preserve yourself you need to weaponise cunning to save yourself. That's how it is supposed to be. You sit down and take and you keep on taking from every single person that comes across you. You think this is patience? To be unreasonably lenient to strangers and so hard on your family? Your wife and daughter? You think yourself so smart but you are so obviously stupid I laughed at your face because of it. You are hell bent on wasting away everything you are in the name of a false ideal that will not only leave you nowhere but will also drive you mad and who will take the brunt of it? Your wife. Your daughter. Because man is a coward who is so so scared of another man be it his own son. He will scream and shout and the littlest faults of his wife and daughter but not the son, he gets to be a no-gooder, he gets to be free with it in the name of I-dont-care-let-him-do-what-he-wants-hes-a-no-gooder-anyways. Not your mother or sister because they are women and you must service them because it is good and noble but your wife and daughter are not women who deserve the same treatment, no, you can blame them for the stress you've acquired by your own stupidness and claim to be all high and mighty. This man needs to open his eyes or I swear to god I will lose all respect.