#bitch whine moan

[leaveherwildliketheflowers]

M has been sick on and off since she started daycare in July. She came down with another respiratory virus and has had a fever since Wednesday night (controlled by Tylenol). I posted a picture of us on my BeReal today and mentioned she was sick again. I promptly received a text from one of my best friends and the conversation went like this:

Friend: How is little M doing?

Me: Poor thing is sick again! Peds ruled out all the major things (RSV/Flu/COVID) but she has a fever so we kept her home for the second day in a row. I feel so bad for her.

Friend: She is building up an immune system at a rapid rate, I'm sorry! Do you need any help? Dinner? A break for a nap?

Me (hesitates before answering honestly knowing I could use some help and adult time): I don't want you to get sick, but if you wanted to bring dinner and have a fire and hang around tonight I definitely wouldn't say no.

Friend: That's a lovely invite but we have tickets to a show tonight so we wouldn't be able to stop by.

How I wanted to respond: 😑

How I actually responded: That sounds like so much fun, enjoy!

Now look, I don't ever expect anyone to help me and Hubs in our parenting journey. We chose this knowing it would come with challenges. My friends don't have children yet and I love that they are taking their time and living their lives before they settle down.

Here's where I get irritated. So many people, including my friends who do things exactly like this, are always telling me how much help we have with M. We have literally no help aside from my inlaws who live 1.5 hours away and can only come help on an occasional weekend. My friends offer to help and when I try to actually take them up on it (which I never used to but I'm actually trying to let myself be vulnerable in that way because I need help) they never follow through. It's an empty offer. I would rather they not offer to help at all instead of extending an olive branch and then acting like I invited them over unprompted when I try to take them up on it.

The worst part is I have been consumed by this all day. I feel humiliated for even trying to accept the help. I should have just said I was fine. I keep thinking that maybe I misunderstood her but what else could she have meant. She probably expected me to just say we don't need anything. I just don't understand why even offer it if you know you can't fit it in your schedule. Sometimes being the only one with a kid is isolating.

[kayzero]

boops are gone and with it goes another opportunity to join festivities and feel like a part of the community

self-loathing flows to fill the void that remains

but to reblog this post i had to read it and it says if you're reading this i don't hate you

so maybe i don't hate myself...?

i didn’t get in on tumbl or treat because i’m an antisocial blob and everyone assumes i hate them

if you’re reading this i don’t hate you

[lunelicmoone]

what if you wanted to play the stardew valley 1.6 update but god said you have to wait until it releases on the nintendo switch

[sunnwalker]

Is it controversial to say I'm kind of over pathetic sopping wet cat Timothy? I want more of him being kind of callous and also kind of a dick. like ..no hes not inherently a shitty person (clearly), but he's also a grown ass man with dick and balls who has a lot of (proverbial) blood on his hands .... yes, he's a coward through and through but I am sick of seeing the way he's coddled about it. idk I love him but I am first and foremost intensely autistic about him like to an almost detrimental level. Get real.

[butwhatifidothis]

It really is strange how Edelstans simultaneously dig hard into people that don't agree with their specific interpretation of 3H to the point of being happy they manage to drive those people away... and be so upset and baffled that people become generally disinterested/actively hostile towards 3H content.

If folks get repeatedly driven out of a fandom, and that group of people repeatedly calls anyone who disagrees with their specific interpretation of 3H stupid/illiterate/"acting in bad faith"/sexist/racist/homophobic/etc., and it is repeatedly done by a group of people who insist that 3H's fandom problem is a "both sides" thing, with all of this being dragged into spaces that have nothing to do with 3H, well... obviously people are then going to start to dislike interacting with either 3H in general or its fandom in particular?

Edelstans are the ones spreading the idea that 3H's fandom in totality is shit. They keep trying to make their hands look cleaner than they are by claiming that everyone else's hands are just dirty as/even dirtier than theirs. Of course people who are unaware of everything are going to then assume that everyone's hands are dirty, thus making people not exactly want to shake hands with anyone.

Like, really now. What did they think was going to happen when they directly go after fanartists/fanfic writers who create/say things that go against the Approved Edelstan Status Quo, to the point that a non-zero amount of these creators just up and leave social media entirely? Or after they nitpick every single Disapproved Post and then lie about the post's OP? Or after it becomes a consistent pattern that people who even remotely disagree with Edelstans' opinions are always, without fail, buried with insulting and harassing anons? Or after they're shown time and time again to defend their worst actors with "well their/our victims deserved it because they said a 3H opinion we didn't agree with"? Or when they say that everyone does this shit in 3H's fandom except for them (which is either not believed because it's demonstrably untrue or is actually believed and now those people think the overwhelming majority of 3H's fandom is filled with shit)? Or when they drag 3H discourse into literally actually everything no matter how unrelated?

That with less fandom creators within the fandom space they'd get more content? That harassing and insulting people and accusing them of being this-and-that bigot is going to magically "correct" their minds into seeing The One Truth about 3H? That people are going to just look over all the shit they did just because they allocate the blame of their action on all of 3H's fandom? That people would like 3H more if they constantly remind people of the inarguable worst thing to come from 3H? That this would help 3H's general perception?

Fuckin' no, of course that's just going to make everyone fuck off from 3H. And would you look at that, a shit ton of people have fucked off from 3H since everything has been swept under a "well it'sth a bolth thides ithue tho what can ya do?" rug. And it's been swept under that rug by pretty much the only people who are pulling this shit, who then get shocked - utterly gobsmacked! - that that made them look bad too. That crying "both sides!" included themselves too and not just the people they've been harassing. That saying that the entire fandom is bad everywhere made the entire fandom look bad everywhere.

If Edelstans are really so upset that no one talks about 3H positively anymore, then maybe they should stop being the reason no one likes 3H anymore. Just a thought

[orgasming-caterpillar]

Of course i survived. Yeah no it was kind of easy. No I just bitch and moan and whine because it helps me cope

[pavlovianfuckery]

all i want is some motivation to write :/ this isn't writers block its writers constipation, i can feel the ideas in there but they're not coming out, helppppp

[kyliafanfiction]

I hate two step verification so fucking much.

[spacebeyonce]

sobbing because we need paper towels and toilet paper but I spent the money I had on gas and food 😭😭😭 and kt can't fucking buy any because he doesn't have money either!!!! we're down so bad rn sob

[leaveherwildliketheflowers]

You know that feeling where you want to crawl into bed and fall into a perpetual slumber? Or maybe get swallowed into the Earth's core. Or, hear me out here, maybe disintegrate into nothing like half of the population did at the end of Infinity War?

Yeah. Fuckin' same.

[mrsreinhart]

Who still believes Lili??

yeah I don't doubt that she has a movie coming up soon, but I bet it will start filming within MONTHS and will be out within 2 years

we need her to stop lying with that "soon" bullshit that we know isn't true. Before it caused fun, now it causes anger... 🤷🏻‍♀️

So you don’t believe her and her saying ‘soon’ is causing you anger and yet, you’re still here.

Girl you know damn well that no matter how long it takes you’ll still be there so quit the crying and tuck yourself into bed, night night.

[ragnarssons]

legit wondering why some of y'alls are still watching this show

[muiromem]

You know, it would be a LOT easier to explain to doctors where my pain is on my body

A: If the pain wasn’t in my BACK and therefore impossible for me to SEE or properly POINT TO with my short fucking arms

B: If every diagram of the human body available to me wasn’t made for TALL PEOPLE and therefore way harder guess where I should be pointing in reference to my own short fucking body

C: If the doctors examining me would just PUSH HARDER ALREADY. I literally have so much radiating pain, your fucking butterfly taps of “does it hurt here?” are NOT HELPING. You need to DIG IN THERE or I can’t TELL YOU WHAT HURTS MOST.

[more-than-tender-curiosity]

1, 3, 14

well this is hard from a ficwriting perspective because i don't read other people's fic unless it's HEAVILY HEAVILY vetted (because I trust NOBODY but my inner circle at this point/i don't want to risk accidentally lifting an idea) but like. in terms of general characterization I think people forget or just don't know how much of a liar nick really fucking is. oh my god. there's a whole scene in the Princeton draft describing jay and daisy's first kiss and then he goes "actually I made that up. gatsby really just said she reminded him of better days" like? motherfucker? so like I don't think people really understand the depth to which nick really and truly is unreliable.

3. im not trying to hurt any feelings. so I will. generalize. but it's usually when someone goes off on a rant about a Very Obvious Problem in tgg (antisemitism, racism, classism, etc) but then like...their evidence is just Wrong. like they're half remembering something they might be mad about just to get the rush of people agreeing with them. yes this novel is half composed of bullshit nonsense a mentally ill white man in 1925 would come up with. but at least get your goddamn facts straight. gracious. they're right there. read the book again. it's not even 50k words. get a grip.

14. again i don't really read fic because I. obviously. value the canon very much (in terms of how it can be used transformatively) and have. unreasonably high standards. but one thing I just. can FEEL in my bones. i know it's happening. good god. i can just. smell it. is people overusing 'old sport'. I'm. you guys realize that's something jay uses to distance himself with, right? it's like. a way to keep people at arm's length so they don't get too friendly with him and I don't know maybe get concerned and try to stop him? even though . again. according to the Princeton draft. he so desperately wants someone to care enough to stop him. POINT BEING. if nick and jay have explored each other's bodies I don't think jay's still calling him old sport on a regular basis. i can see it for like. Out in Public's sake or as a joke or something but good christ I can just. smell the old sport every two sentences. i know it's happening. it has to be.

[pavlovianfuckery]

interesting/telling that engagement has basically stayed the same even though my newer fics are for a mostly dead fandom

[cozza-frenzy]

Really can't wait to get over this damn cold... I want to BAKE, damn it. I've got a pantry full of amazing ingredients and absolutely no energy to touch any of it. Been an absolutely miserable week. No amount of sleep makes us feel rested. Laying in bed on our front most of the day is giving us acne breakouts on our face and chest. And nobody's been able to front except me for days, because not being able to breathe properly is something that front-triggers me. Hopefully we'll get better soon...