#bis centers

[ccuriousmischieff]

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[moonlightsapphic]

Look, I just need you guys to understand how important queer coming-of-age forbidden romances on internationally accessible platforms like Netflix is, especially to youth in countries where homosexuality still hasn't been legally decriminalised or socially accepted.

That was a mouthful, so let me explain. You, a white American adult with a liberal family, may not relate to a fictional anxious teen Swedish prince grappling with strict familial and societal expectations versus his first love. You may not find anything special in a bunch of queer British teens discovering themselves and figuring out complex relationships that are honestly rather simplistic, in retrospect. It might be a little too trite for you. Like, just a little vanilla without any extra drama. Perhaps corny—cringe, even. Too wholesome.

But you know what that is to me, a desi queer young adult? It's representation, in an unlikely place. My country certainly isn't making movies or shows where I see my secret relationship between me and my girlfriend portrayed. I don't see that happening in the next couple of decades, either, sadly. But you know who’s telling our stories? Alice Oseman. Lisa Ambjörn, Lars Beckung and Camilla Holter. Through fictional storylines that might seem kind of boring to you, I am finally able watch my lived experiences play out on screen.

American media has done such a disservice to queer coming-of-age stories. I want to scream this from the rooftops. Y’all, I’m glad to see more out quirky queer side-characters—I can’t get enough of them—but why is it so rarely their story, in sharp focus, about how they found themselves? I want to know how they overcame internalised homophobia. When was the moment they knew? What is the cost they have to pay for being out? For not being out?

And no, I don’t want it to be dramatic. I don’t need to see violence or betrayals or victorious kisses in public, really. I’m happiest with the teenagers behaving like real teenagers. Innocent, vulnerable, nervous. I want it to be heartfelt, and excruciatingly slow, and authentic. I want to see the small wins and the subtle losses. The quiet mental toll of how much you have to give to a queer relationship—especially your first queer relationship—and how hard that can be to separate from your Identity itself.

Give me that "am I gay?" quiz and genuinely crying at 3:00 AM because you're in a rabbit hole about LGBTQ+ rights in a country where you actually don’t want to be gay and you don’t even know if you “count” anyway. Show me that moment where you're going back and forth from forbidding yourself from seeing the one person that sees and understands you and it's to protect your mental and physical well-being but it's driving you insane. Give me ALL THE YOUNG ADULT BI+ AWAKENINGS where one person strolls into your life and changes everything. No, it’s really not the same as most cis-heterosexual insta-love movies out there, even if it looks that way to you. It doesn’t even cut it close.

The happy ending, the acceptance is only what I can dream of, not what I can expect. The wholesomeness is actually radical to me.

No, we’re not past the need for basic star-crossed queer romances. For most countries in the world (including for many white American teenagers!), we need them as much as ever.

[melisssg99]

I'm so done with the divide.

Left, Right, Moderate,

Far Left, Far Right, Center,

Liberal, Traditional,

Progressive, Conservative,

Pro Life, Pro Choice,

Religious, Secular,

Queer, Straight,

Pro This, Pro That,

Anti This, Anti That,

"You can't follow this person, you can't be friends with that person, if you even just share a space with a person from "the wrong side" you are part of the problem"

I'm done

I'm a human who cares about humans

I'm a human who feels sick and tired of these labels that truly tell you nothing about a person.

Not who a person really truly is.

I'm a human who would like to live in peace.

I'm just a human

[slightly-sad-sloth]

Whenever ppl imply Damian would be homophobic I just kinda assume they're either new to comics or have some internal biases to work out cause I don't know who they're talking about but it isn't my boy Damian ultimate-over-invested-ally Wayne

[battlecries-dear]

ok but Jaskier rolling up with some new boy toy of the week whenever Geralt and him stop in a town. Just a legion of soft spoken twinks hanging off of him and crooning at every thing that comes out of his mouth, and Geralt just absolutely fucking seething with jealousy. Can Jaskier tell Geralt is jealous? is he doing it on purpose? whos to tell!!

[makorragal-312]

Somebody please check on Oliver after that clip because I know that man is banging his head against the wall as his dogs look on, concerned as hell.

[befuddled-calico-whump]

I have so much pocket lore

it's all really fun, but it has no bearing on the plot(s) and takes up like 50% of my creating power and most of it will never see the light of day

so anyway reblog this and put some of your pocket lore in the tags

[carlyraejepsans]

I didn’t know Papyrus was canonically gay! I’m glad I know that now.

When was it said or confirmed?

yeah crushing on a man does that to you. sometimes. might require further research

[endrien-corner]

hey not to be that guy but with dykes & lesbians like kristen stewart who wanna be masculine as a woman It kinda hurts to see ppl be like "omg just be transgender already" as if butch/masc/gnc cis lesbians dont exist to them. Yeah sure transmasc/trans men lesbians/dykes are awesome and shit I am one myself but a cis woman can be as gnc/masc/butch as well. She could go on hormones and get top surgery and still be considered cis if she wants to. I havent read the article i dont rlly care for celebrities but yall. why are you trying to erase butch/masc cis lesbians. why are you trying to erase the gnc cis lesbians apart of our community. I would love for some huge celebrity to come out as a male dyke myself but you also gotta learn to appreciate the cis gnc dykes too :/ also like. yes there are def cis lesbians who are shitty and scummy and exclude us who are gnc/masc/butches/etc and especially there sre those that exclude us who are transmasculine/trans men/multigender and consider ourselves as men. This is not the point tho. Lesbians either cis or trans can be gnc/butch all they want. you can uplift the gnc cis dykes as much as you uplift the gnc trans dykes! being cis isnt a morally bad thing ok?

I AM A RADINCLUS (NOT RADQUEER!!) SO EXCLUSIONISTS + LESBIAN SEPARATISTS DNI

[chirpsythismorning]

One of these day I’m gonna make a post that compiles all the evidence for gay, bi and unlabeled Mike that exists on the show bc ppl that deny any evidence whatsoever for one side or the other are hilarious to me.

[watermelinoe]

imo the difference with trans toddler is that khelif was legitimately treated like a girl throughout her childhood, whereas the toddler would be treated like a special boy.

but i think you could make the argument that he wouldn't, because at that age kids are just little sexless blobs and only the parents and maybe his teachers would know, so externally he would be treated like a girl. that's why i liked ms femenaces' response bc he would not internalize it the same, knowing on some level that it isn't meant for him, and socialization works in part because we have an instinct to sort ourselves into groups and fit in. in delusions of gender there's an interesting passage about girls with dsds who align themselves more with boys - not because of an innate "masculine" gender identity but she suggests it's because they sense that there is something different and are trying to make themselves fit in based on what they've observed about gender roles. we make some effort to socialize ourselves so we can be accepted. i was called a tomboy growing up and it's hard when you know you're a girl but you just don't fit in with other girls, so a lot of little girls (me included) become "one of the boys" instead, which is of course a label reserved only for girls, it's part of female socialization. the experience of a boy trying to fit in with girls would be so fundamentally different from girlhood even if on the surface the treatment from strangers is the same because at some point the realization hits us that this all happens because of our female bodies

[despazito]

one of the fictional bisexuals ever

[randomidiocyncrazies]

It'd be really funny if Juwan's sexuality is never directly addressed in the main comic, but he casually has a bf in the epilogue and it's nbd

[youre-where-i-wanna-go]

replying this to a person (me) who has no cis men in her life at all and spends all her free time thinking about sapphic fictional characters is so funny like it really requires a whole other level of projection

but genuinely, responding "decenter men" to someone asking you to support survivors of abuse is disgusting and i honestly do not understand how people who victim-blame live with themselves, i truly don't. the lack of empathy is insane

[faerune]

les4les is fine but goddamn to people jump to have the most biphobic reasonings for it