#biphobic lesbians

[bi-sapphics]

do you remember when people where cancelling domo wilson for saying dyke in the bisexual anthem?

yes ! i pointed it out in a tweet on my bitwt acc before i went inactive for personal reasons but i don't think it got any attention.

it's actually what made me ask back in 2020 about the discourse surrounding bi women reclaiming it and i'll always be ashamed that i just... blindly accepted one of my mutual's responses that "it means lack of attraction to men" without doing any of my own research. to be fair, i had some sort of understanding already at the time that i would have gotten dogpiled for arguing either way lmao.

to me, i think this particular situation had a lot of lesbians mad because the song calls them out for (ironically) weaponizing the word against bisexuals the same way they've always done with 'bihet' and 'halfbian' ─ just ask the twitter user with the latter as their username, they get harassed for having reclaimed it after it was used against them all the time!

it also reminds me of how an old tumblr user, pinkfemme, who was notoriously biphobic for a multitude of reasons regarding keeping bi sapphics out of our own history, was completely fine with an anon in her inbox calling bi women "undyked" without even bothering to say anything about it in the answer post. and then has the audacity to deny bi women ever have the slur targeted at them for being bi from cishets of all people? lol sure

anyways back to the main point, i don't actually know how famous domo wilson is so i don't have a clue how much of the hate and cancelling she even saw, but i like to think that if she did see any then she would have just shrugged it off as proving the point. we get accused of hurting others for speaking up about our own experiences with biphobia all the time, so it makes perfect sense to me.

(^^ tell me if i got wilson's pronouns wrong and i will go back and correct my paragraph. /gen)

(and if anyone reading wants to accuse me of claiming lesbians oppress bisexuals or that 'bihet' is a slur... don't. because i'm not. bigotry ≠ oppression)

[waterdeepthroat]

not to be That Person but y’all have got to learn to be more normal about bisexual and pansexual characters. this isn’t 2012. women romancing astarion is not the problem, nor is karlach “lesbian coded”. the real problem is y’all’s bi/panphobia stemming largely from homophobic stereotypes

[thefrogginbullfish]

"Biphobia Pt. 1"

[detentiontrack]

I LOVE YOU BISEXUALS!!!!!!!!!!!!! I LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!! I AM SO SORRY ABOUT THE HORRORS!!!!!!! I LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!

[armoralor]

WolfWren featuring real comments from the fandom. It's okay to have different opinions on fiction, but maybe let's all remember there are actual real life people having to read this shit daily

[the-scarlet-witch-22]

Whenever I think the Agatha fandom couldn’t possibly get any weirder, I just log onto twitter and see the actually insane things people will tweet out of their own free will.

What do you mean you took a picture of a stranger’s ass and posted it online without their consent?

What do you mean you publicly make super weird and parasocial and honestly really gross remarks about Kathryn and other cast members just to get likes and attention?

What do you mean you stalk the cast online because you have no shame or sense of boundaries?

The obsession with AI in fics and fanart, being super weird to Joe Locke, turning a blind eye to a cast member’s Zionism as well as her being a Depp apologist because you think she’s attractive, overall acting like a Salem Seven hive mind type of group. Just weird fucking behavior.

[lesbianralzarek]

boggles my mind how overused the term "playersexual" is. its useful for critiquing games where the devs had no interest in bi/pan representation, and refuse to work the characters attraction into it. "playersexuality" is the result of a writer's cowardice when faced with the task of incorporating any semblance of a queer experience into the actual game. it is NOT when a romanceable character is bi/pan for player convenience. of fucking course they are. theyre also willing to adventure with the player for your convenience. you can heal getting shot by going to bed for your convenience. welcome to video games. its also not when characters have preferences and talk more about one gender than another. thats actually, like, accurate to how most bi/pan people experience attraction. its fine. shut up.

ALL THAT BEING SAID, if you refer to any of the bg3 companions as being playersexual or "actually gay/a lesbian/straight" im killing you. no the fuck they arent. there is no run where wyll is straight and karlach is a lesbian. the player's gender is irrelevant. they are all bi/pan whether you like it or not. die about it.

[regenderate]

my least favorite thing some people in doctor who fandom do is try and argue that, because of spin-off non-tv media released years after a character's last appearance, a particular trait is immutable canon and you're a bad person if you say otherwise. eu writers are doing just as much after-the-fact interpretation as the rest of us and the only difference is they're getting paid for it.

[thebisexualwreckoning]

"average bisexual cheats on their partners within every monogamous relationship" factoid actually just a statistical error. average bisexual is just like every other sexual identity and not more likely than a straight or gay person to cheat on their partner within a monogamous relationship. Lord Byron, who lives in victorian* england & cheats on 10,000 partners each day, is an outlier adn should not have been counted

*edit: Been made aware that lord byron actually lived in regency england. so sorry for my fuckup. im going to bed

[whitediamondfairy]

Dorothea Arnault "fans" who insist she's a lesbian with comphet, shut the fuck up. She has endings with men and women. She's bisexual. Stop calling her a lesbian when she's not AND she does not have comphet.

It’s even worse when they’re all “This character is literally the only rep we have and the bihets Wanna steal her/him from us!!!” Which I’ve seen a lot of. (I’m in the DC fandom, there was a lot of this when Harley Quinn started dating a dude in the comics. The fandom swears up and down she’s a lesbian with a supreme hatred for men. Twitter began acting out over it because “THE BIS STEAL EVERYTHING FROM US!!11!”)

Ah yes, Harley Quinn, a character famous for her unhealthy relationship with a man, and a slightly less unhealthy relationship with a woman, is totally a lesbian. Because THAT makes sense.

[biracy]

Hmm

[bi-dykes]

“What do you mean there’s still so much biphobia in fan spaces? Bisexuals are like some of the most popular characters!”

Yeah, and they either get treated like this:

Or like this:

“Biphobia isn’t real” neither are your braincells

[theygender]

Just discovered the term les4les. Are we really trying to make biphobia cool again

[jewishbarbies]

biphobic lesbians are so ugly

[hoorayforlesbians]

I hate when I scroll around on social media, I see the same shit takes dragging lesbians who simply are les4les

God forbid we want someone who actually fundamentally relates to our lesbian experiences

Funny how I never hear how “bi people who are strictly bi4bi are lesbophobic/homophobic”. At least not to the same extent.

[pannn-cakesss]