#bigots can go die

[sinistersuns]

I hope more people who feel they’re leftists begin to realize that genuinely hating men AND/OR immediately assuming a man (or someone you perceive as a man) you don’t know is out to harm you is t3rf behavior. This belief will not keep you safe, it’s meant to isolate you and put the marginalized men around you in danger. Hating men will not do shit to the bigoted cishet white men in power, but it’ll tell the marginalized men around you that they aren’t welcome around you. This extends to anyone who looks like cis society’s idea of a man, but isn’t actually one, too - do y’all really think trans people of ANY gender say “okay I’m x gender now” and are immediately treated like that gender by society as a whole? Do you think your fear of anyone with facial hair and a deep voice will stop at dangerous cis men, and that only dangerous cis men have those traits? And I’m specifying DANGEROUS cis men because cis men as a group aren’t inherently dangerous. The way someone looks or identifies says nothing about whether they’re “safe” or not! I thought we fucking learned this!!

[zerodaryls]

it's so funny (read: sad) that if bigoted fuckheads didn't insist i was a woman simply by virtue of my body at birth, i'd probably be chill with she/her pronouns in addition to he/they. if my mom didn't insist i was her daughter, i'd probably let her call me that, and we could still have a relationship.

i'm nonbinary and 'gendered' words are hypothetically meaningless, but because there are so many people who are more interested in telling me who i am rather than lovingly and curiously letting me express my own sense of self, those words carry trauma.

there's no reason a nonbinary person like myself can't be a son and a child and a daughter. there's no reason a nonbinary person like me can't go by he, they, and she.

'she' is not a slur. 'daughter' is not derogatory. 'beautiful' 'pretty' 'gorgeous' 'feminine' are not insults.

to the contrary, they're parts of language that express certain facets of a multi-faceted human existence, like mine.

and i have this sad, mournful feeling that if it weren't for unloving, condescending people, i'd probably be down to be called any of those things alongside my usual masculine/neutral terminology.

but i'd rather die than let anyone tell me what i have to be called.

[bibuckleykinard]

how many times do we need to learn as people that irony and hyperbole can be harmful because 'jokes' aren't easily distinguished from genuine thoughts and feelings until we stop rewarding people for speaking or posting about violence

like even if you're joking/don't actually believe that/think whoever you are insulting is bad/immoral/fictional therefore deserves it - ad hominem attacks always do more harm to the people who share those characteristic then the individual you intend to cause harm to or discredit

[pa-pa-plasma]

kind of frustrating that people took "fat does not equal unhealthy" to mean "fat is not unhealthy." sometimes being obese IS unhealthy & excess fat can cause a lot of problems. ignoring health issues isn't progressive. real "oranges kill people with depression" moment

[non-un-topo]

Thinking about going back to support group because I'm sick to my stomach with the amount of transphobia I've heard/dealt with over the past week alone, but also eww vulnerability

[yuridovewing]

Feel like one of the best ways you can convince someone that no, villains with compelling motives that have sad backstories are not terrible writing compared to straight up born evil villains who just want to kill everyone and be done with it, is to tell them that Warrior Cats writes born evil villains constantly while literally preaching “That’s how evil works, you can’t CHANGE, you’re either touched by demons at birth or you aren’t!” and it blows chunks

[nightfallsystem-moved]

the next time someone is bigoted to me irl im gneuinely going to fucking snap. hate this world

[hiraethwrote]

mickey, you’re also in my heart 😘

bella ( @madwomansapologist ) gay or not, doesn’t matter, would you go for me? 👀

no pressure tags : @sugudoe @omitea @sanemistar @lovesculprit @ichore @seumyo @kismetre + anyone who wants to 🩷

Making a chain cause why not!? Hdisiwisjs

Put your name/nickname in the Character Headcanon Generator and see what you get!

Link!

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@starsinthenigth @mxnaceo @duckp0t + Anyone who wants to do it! (No pressure)

[spacetrashpile]

dragon age inquisition is a good game (voice of someone who just played about 5-6 straight hours of video game and for whom it is now 4:30 AM)

[nicenight]

if having a fat clit is misogynistic then i'm so so sorry for the damage it has caused to the feminist movement 😞

cis women should take a lil testosterone and grow that Thang out too. don't be afraid to evolve.

[whileurmine]

recently found out being transphobic is allowed when the trans person is a predator and since this is definitely a consistent set of internal beliefs and not a cis person's excuse to finally be transphobic in public without as much judgement😌ill be screenshotting everyone who is doing it and requesting for a video of them saying the n word when a black person is proven a predator😌i mean why would it be a problem?? the person is a predator, no one would defend them. ur being racist towards them not towards every black person right? go on say it. ill say it with u 😌

[agayconcept]

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[lazyspeedy]

but like is there even a therapist strong enough fix the fact that my brothers are like honestly assholes?

[innocent--sorrow]

may I just add that detransitioners (or should i use retransitioners? there is also some confusion with terms here), no matter if temporary like him or permanent are INSANELY vulnerable to terf/right wing propaganda? Many people who halt their transition for whatever reason lose support from LGBTQ groups either because they are afraid to face them again feeling like traitors, or (probably rarer) the LGBTQ group themselves exiles them. Left wing media and mainstream media sweep detransitioners under the rug as a bit of a "taboo" subject, many are afraid they would hurt all the trans people out there (src). And there are many people esp. young people on social media that don't understand this is a complex journey and figuring yourself out is not easy, and end up sending lots of hate to people, further isolating them. It could also be that the people themselves are afraid to speak or don't feel like medializing their stories also, but no matter what the case is, the result it leaves only 1 clear source of information. Which is the right wing media and TERFs that is celebrating them. Even though they may just be going through a period of crisis. They lock them in feelings that could well also be just a phase or the verge of a new discovery for them and propaganda them into hurting other trans and enby people with vastly different experiences. Now picture this, you're all alone, you lost your support (or thought so), will you go to the people you're afraid you've now betrayed (or you thought so) or to the people who celebrate you for who you are at the moment (or think so)? Exactly as the person above me said. Toby's story is not the only one and there are more people like this. So to those who need it: Gender can be fluid Gender doesn't have to be man or woman, one or the other. There is no right or wrong way to be trans or nonbinary. Nonbinary people are valid. Self discovery is a complex journey. Your gender is valid. Even if you end up coming a full circle, your experiences are still valid. You are not a fraud or a traitor. But also : Your experience is not universal and everyone is different. PS: yes i'm also a detransitioner.

TERFs are a hate group.

[stabyou]

everyone that hurts teddy needs to fucking die. everyone that is ever mean to him i will orchestrate a custom saw trap just for you. if you ever say one mean thing to him or about him i swear to god you will have to be googling "how to walk without knees" because i'll break them while you sleep. no fuck it. while you're awake too. LEAVE MY HUSBAND ALONE!!!

[gibbearish]

smth i think ppl who werent raised christian need to understand is that a) fear of death will make you do things you wouldnt otherwise do and b) being raised christian fundamentally kneecaps your ability to process death. most christians are the way that they are because if the bible isnt true, if god isnt real, then neither is heaven. if there is no heaven, then all their loved ones who have died arent actually waiting for them, there is no place theyll get to spend forever with the people they love now, there is no eternal reward for being good, there is no guarantee of any afterlife whatsoever. and as science progresses and christianity becomes harder and harder to maintain, as various claims in the bible get disproven and we learn more about how life actually came to be, that possibility that Death Might Actually Be Something They Have To Fear After All gets stronger, and so that protection of the idea must get stronger too. the bits of the bible that are too hard to defend have to be removed or papered over or talked around, the rules that dont make sense have to be explained or maintained without question, the people who dont believe must be agents of satan sent to damn their soul to hell. the way they learned to cope with death is to say it didnt happen, not really, not in a way that mattered, theyre still out there somewhere, youll see them again someday. and with that came a promise that their death wouldnt be permanent either. it all has to be true, that heart has to be maintained, because otherwise. otherwise, this is it, and we dont know what happens next. otherwise, death becomes scary again. otherwise, death is no longer the loading screen before your eternal reward. otherwise, they have to think about what might come next, how their actions affect others here and now, fully grieve the people theyve lost, grieve the eternal life of happiness and love they were promised from birth. and that is. hard. and while obviously none of this excuses the way they treat people, i do think that like. keeping that in mind during interactions with them, being aware of how high the stakes are for them, can very much effect the way you approach those conversations.

at the heart of every horrible christian with bigoted views and worse actions is a scared little kid who doesnt know where you go when you die, because the answer they were given when they first asked is turning out to be full of holes. and while you may not be able to work with the adult in front of you here and now, maybe you can at least find that little kid for a moment. maybe you can sit down with them and say yeah bud, that is pretty scary, isnt it? it's scary not knowing what's gonna happen to you. it's scary learning something you thought was true might not be. maybe you can tell the kid that theyre allowed to be scared, that being scared doesnt have to mean hurting others. and maybe the kid wont listen, maybe youll have wasted your time, who knows. but maybe not. and even if you did, youll have learned something about how to find that kid in others, so was it really a waste?