#bigots can go die

[sinistersuns]

I hope more people who feel they’re leftists begin to realize that genuinely hating men AND/OR immediately assuming a man (or someone you perceive as a man) you don’t know is out to harm you is t3rf behavior. This belief will not keep you safe, it’s meant to isolate you and put the marginalized men around you in danger. Hating men will not do shit to the bigoted cishet white men in power, but it’ll tell the marginalized men around you that they aren’t welcome around you. This extends to anyone who looks like cis society’s idea of a man, but isn’t actually one, too - do y’all really think trans people of ANY gender say “okay I’m x gender now” and are immediately treated like that gender by society as a whole? Do you think your fear of anyone with facial hair and a deep voice will stop at dangerous cis men, and that only dangerous cis men have those traits? And I’m specifying DANGEROUS cis men because cis men as a group aren’t inherently dangerous. The way someone looks or identifies says nothing about whether they’re “safe” or not! I thought we fucking learned this!!

[zerodaryls]

it's so funny (read: sad) that if bigoted fuckheads didn't insist i was a woman simply by virtue of my body at birth, i'd probably be chill with she/her pronouns in addition to he/they. if my mom didn't insist i was her daughter, i'd probably let her call me that, and we could still have a relationship.

i'm nonbinary and 'gendered' words are hypothetically meaningless, but because there are so many people who are more interested in telling me who i am rather than lovingly and curiously letting me express my own sense of self, those words carry trauma.

there's no reason a nonbinary person like myself can't be a son and a child and a daughter. there's no reason a nonbinary person like me can't go by he, they, and she.

'she' is not a slur. 'daughter' is not derogatory. 'beautiful' 'pretty' 'gorgeous' 'feminine' are not insults.

to the contrary, they're parts of language that express certain facets of a multi-faceted human existence, like mine.

and i have this sad, mournful feeling that if it weren't for unloving, condescending people, i'd probably be down to be called any of those things alongside my usual masculine/neutral terminology.

but i'd rather die than let anyone tell me what i have to be called.

[doctormaxbankman]

how many times do we need to learn as people that irony and hyperbole can be harmful because 'jokes' aren't easily distinguished from genuine thoughts and feelings until we stop rewarding people for speaking or posting about violence

like even if you're joking/don't actually believe that/think whoever you are insulting is bad/immoral/fictional therefore deserves it - ad hominem attacks always do more harm to the people who share those characteristic then the individual you intend to cause harm to or discredit

[pa-pa-plasma]

kind of frustrating that people took "fat does not equal unhealthy" to mean "fat is not unhealthy." sometimes being obese IS unhealthy & excess fat can cause a lot of problems. ignoring health issues isn't progressive. real "oranges kill people with depression" moment

[ateohsixxxx]

[non-un-topo]

Thinking about going back to support group because I'm sick to my stomach with the amount of transphobia I've heard/dealt with over the past week alone, but also eww vulnerability

[yuridovewing]

Feel like one of the best ways you can convince someone that no, villains with compelling motives that have sad backstories are not terrible writing compared to straight up born evil villains who just want to kill everyone and be done with it, is to tell them that Warrior Cats writes born evil villains constantly while literally preaching “That’s how evil works, you can’t CHANGE, you’re either touched by demons at birth or you aren’t!” and it blows chunks

[nightfallsystem]

the next time someone is bigoted to me irl im gneuinely going to fucking snap. hate this world

[imwritesometimes]

I'm still not clear on how drag is an inherently sexual performance...... I fully understand if you go to a club as an adult and see a show they might throw some sexually charged stuff your way but it's not like kids putting on drag shows in high school or queens doing reading hours at libraries are uh.... doing the same act. It's called reading the room and ppl can and in fact do do that. I'd be willing to bet cash american dollars your average music video online free for all to watch in 2023 is more sexually explicit than a drag queen at a children's reading hour.....

[nicenight]

if having a fat clit is misogynistic then i'm so so sorry for the damage it has caused to the feminist movement 😞

cis women should take a lil testosterone and grow that Thang out too. don't be afraid to evolve.

[whileurmine]

recently found out being transphobic is allowed when the trans person is a predator and since this is definitely a consistent set of internal beliefs and not a cis person's excuse to finally be transphobic in public without as much judgement😌ill be screenshotting everyone who is doing it and requesting for a video of them saying the n word when a black person is proven a predator😌i mean why would it be a problem?? the person is a predator, no one would defend them. ur being racist towards them not towards every black person right? go on say it. ill say it with u 😌

[piplupod]

it is so cruel that i get the most inspired when i am unable to actually work on art ;-;

[innocent--sorrow]

may I just add that detransitioners (or should i use retransitioners? there is also some confusion with terms here), no matter if temporary like him or permanent are INSANELY vulnerable to terf/right wing propaganda? Many people who halt their transition for whatever reason lose support from LGBTQ groups either because they are afraid to face them again feeling like traitors, or (probably rarer) the LGBTQ group themselves exiles them. Left wing media and mainstream media sweep detransitioners under the rug as a bit of a "taboo" subject, many are afraid they would hurt all the trans people out there (src). And there are many people esp. young people on social media that don't understand this is a complex journey and figuring yourself out is not easy, and end up sending lots of hate to people, further isolating them. It could also be that the people themselves are afraid to speak or don't feel like medializing their stories also, but no matter what the case is, the result it leaves only 1 clear source of information. Which is the right wing media and TERFs that is celebrating them. Even though they may just be going through a period of crisis. They lock them in feelings that could well also be just a phase or the verge of a new discovery for them and propaganda them into hurting other trans and enby people with vastly different experiences. Now picture this, you're all alone, you lost your support (or thought so), will you go to the people you're afraid you've now betrayed (or you thought so) or to the people who celebrate you for who you are at the moment (or think so)? Exactly as the person above me said. Toby's story is not the only one and there are more people like this. So to those who need it: Gender can be fluid Gender doesn't have to be man or woman, one or the other. There is no right or wrong way to be trans or nonbinary. Nonbinary people are valid. Self discovery is a complex journey. Your gender is valid. Even if you end up coming a full circle, your experiences are still valid. You are not a fraud or a traitor. But also : Your experience is not universal and everyone is different. PS: yes i'm also a detransitioner.

TERFs are a hate group.

[agayconcept]

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[lazyspeedy]

but like is there even a therapist strong enough fix the fact that my brothers are like honestly assholes?

[stabyou]

everyone that hurts teddy needs to fucking die. everyone that is ever mean to him i will orchestrate a custom saw trap just for you. if you ever say one mean thing to him or about him i swear to god you will have to be googling "how to walk without knees" because i'll break them while you sleep. no fuck it. while you're awake too. LEAVE MY HUSBAND ALONE!!!