#bigender butch

[genderqueerdykes]

absolutely off the rails behavior when cis lesbians become enraged when you tell them that it's butchphobic to exclude butches who are transfemme, trans women, transmasc, men, take testosterone, have penises, and/or get top/bottom surgery from the butch and lesbian community. like the fact that we have historically always belonged to the lesbian community has been coming from the mouths of gnc and transfemme & transmasc butches for decades but everyone plugs their ears and doesn't listen.

the lesbian community has such a long and rich history of being a safe place for transfemme, trans women, transmasc, masc, intersex, genderqueer, non binary, and male presenting people who take testosterone and get top and bottom surgeries. before the rise of lesbian separatism and political lesbianism, transmascs & transfemme butches in lesbian spaces were not an issue. also in the past there just wasn't anywhere else for us to go. we were shoved into lesbian spaces by force, but also wanted to stay there because it's a community that's dear to our hearts and still means a lot to us

lesbians were the ones who made it safe for us to be there in the first place.

it's unfathomable to see people who say you should respect butches when it comes to their pronouns, identity, etc., to not invalidate their genders, to not assume anything about what gender they identify with- but the second they find out that some butches who are transfemme, trans women, or take T and still identify as lesbians and dykes they police our identities and bodies and insinuate that we can't be real butch lesbians for x, y and z reasons.

it's just insidious to exclude transfem butches and butch trans women on so many levels. i see this constantly and it's never called out as a form of butchphobia as well as a form of transmisogyny, especially when that person does not want to get bottom surgery. to call any MtF butch a man that's invading the lesbian community is to admit that one knows nothing about the complex gender identities and struggles transfemme butches and butch trans women face. to identify this way is one of the most prolific and powerful expressions of butchness, and what it means to be a butch lesbian. to deny these people the right to call themselves butch is inherently, inarguably butch and lesbophobic as well as trans/misogynistic.

to chase any of these people out of butch, lesbian, dyke and sapphic spaces is inherently butchphobia. yes, butchphobia affects perisex cis butch women, but it also affects so many more people. it affects transmascs and men. it affects genderqueer and non binary people. it affects bigender men. it affects transfemme lesbians and trans lesbian women. it affects trans girls and mtf lesbians in general. it affects intersex people. it affects lesboys. it affects boy/guydykes. it affects queer people of color. it affects studs.

it affects dykes, lesbians, and sapphics in general. this is a form of lesbophobia, trans/androphobia, intersexism, and especially butchphobia, no matter what. we have to accept ALL butches who don't fit into a neat little box of what a masculine queer person should be like.

[have-you-seen-this-butch]

Haruka Tenou/Sailor Uranus- Sailor Moon

[eternaspacic]

bigender butch, bigender futch, and bigender femme flags!

please credit me if you use!

[ablueberryblogs]

I GOT A NEW CARABINER EVERYBODY CHEER

[tboytop]

I wish being a genderqueer butch wasn't so niche because that's what I'm attracted to most I think

[mozzyspurt]

as a genderfunky younger queer i would like to thank all the butch lesbians and feminine trans men and older multi gender people for existing

[zevvin]

love to my carabiner

[intersexfairy]

you can be masculine and feminine at the same time. being masculine doesn't make you any less feminine. being feminine doesn't make you any less masculine. there is no inherent morality to any masculinity or femininity you express. you create the meaning behind it by expressing yourself - your joy, your queerness, your health. you are not a reflection of other people's harmful ideas about gender. that's their burden to carry, not yours.

[genderqueerdykes]

reasons to care about trans men & mascs

we're people

[elysianmadness]

"Lesbian means exclusive attraction to women!"

"No, it means non-men exclusively attracted to non-men!"

"It actually means queer attraction to women!"

"Lesbian means women and nonbinary people being exclusively attracted to other women and nonbinary people!"

Lesbian is a multifaceted label that can describe many different experiences. There is no one perfect definition of lesbian that will encompass the entire diverse experiences that lesbians can have.

I'm personally a genderqueer woman who's exclusively attracted to other women, but the lesbian next to me might be a transmasc lesbian who loves all genders except for men. And the lesbian next to them might be a bigender lesbian who's both a girl and a boy, who's exclusively attracted to women. Our experiences can all be described by the term lesbian if that's how we wish to describe it, but we might define it differently based on our own experiences. And guess what?

None of our definitions are wrong, but none of our definitions will encompass every other lesbian's experiences. A word can have multiple definitions without any of the definitions being wrong. And those definitions can be very vague or very specific. Labels are made to fit us- we aren't made to fit labels.

People who may have a different experience with the lesbian label are not your enemies. People in lesbian spaces who aren't exactly like you are not your enemies. The problem comes when you try to force one singular definition on every single lesbian. THAT is harmful. Sending death threats to other lesbians because they don't have the same experience as you is harmful. Not another lesbian having a different experience from you.

[lastoneout]

"You're supposed to convince me NOT to!" why tf would I do that

ᵃˡˢᵒ ᵒᵇˡⁱᵍᵃᵗᵒʳʸ ʳᵃᵈᶠᵉᵐˢ ᶠᵘᶜᵏ ᵒᶠᶠ ᵗʰⁱˢ ᵒⁿᵉ ⁱˢ ⁿᵒᵗ ᶠᵒʳ ʸᵒᵘ

[ablueberryblogs]

A gorgeous person in a pearl studded hijab called my chain "beautiful" this is elite butch appreciation I demand this kind of love from everyone now

[tboytop]

Quick clarification about my sexuality and how I perceive myself: I'm bigender so even though I call myself bisexual, I think of myself as both mlm and wlw simultaneously. like I'm into women in a gay way and I'm into guys in a gay way no straightness here lol

[ford-ftm-150]

Trans men, transmasc folks, & anyone else to whom this applies

I’m curious how many people wear a binder &/or wear a packer. Always = daily or almost daily, often = around half the time, & never = not at all or almost never. Pick whichever option is closest to your experiences.

If you have had top &/or bottom surgery choose the option that reflects what you did before surgery. People with a more complex experience of gender (genderfluid, multigender, butch, etc.) that affects their desire to bind or pack feel free to elaborate on that in the tags.

Reblogs to boost sample size are appreciated!

[justdavina]

I could kiss her for hours! 🌈

[f4g4um]

low effort pre-shower pic ✌️long haired stoner fags do it better btw

he/they | rbs encouraged