#being ugly

[igottaglockinmyrawry]

I only have 2 brain cells and they’re both jerking each other off

[maleine-thoughts]

pretty people need to shut the fuck up sometimes and realize saying “your beautiful” or “your not ugly” under a conventionally unattractive persons post is not going to make them feel better. we don’t want your fucking pity. we know we are ugly in the eyes of everyone and that’s hard to deal with your not going to convince us we aren’t or some bullshit like that.

[quid-is-a-skam-stan]

Not to be dramatic but having a body is the worst

[circusclownproductions]

[bitchy-bi-trash]

I feel so ugly, so repulsive that when I let someone even touch me, i feel disgusted for them, it's like I made them commit a sin.

[aecorzz]

why am i so fucking ugly why am i so mediocre no one looks at me and thinks im pretty i dont stand out i dont get compliments im nothing everyone good is pretty i fucking hate this i hate why do i look like this i dont deserve to look like this i deserve a body and face as pretty as my mind and but the fucked up part is i can starve and be light as a feather but i'll never be pretty at all there is nothing i can do to change my face why do i loook like this??? and i hate when other people say things like this and say they understand because they dont and theyre actually 90% of the time pretty like yeah you can still feel insecure but nothing compares to actually knowing you're a lost cause

[willem-dafemme]

Being ugly is so fucking painful !! No one will ever look at you with love in their eyes !! Ever !!

[futurebird]

"Everyone is beautiful? That's just something ugly people say."

PART I - Basic Social Skills PART II- Objective Beauty PART III - The Hate Trap

WHAT IS GOOD ADVICE When you are trying to improve yourself and understand yourself, when you are looking for answers to questions like "why don't I have more friends?" or "Why is romance so difficult?" it makes sense to look for advice from people who are more experienced and who might help you to understand where to best apply your energy. Good advice is effective advice: effective in the short term and in the long term. Good advice contains a few simple actionable things that you know you can do with a little effort. What about Bad Advice? Bad advice might just feel like its wasting your time, giving you nothing you can really *do* -- But the worst bad advice often sounds like good advice when your first read it. There are simple actions you feel like you can implement. It makes sense. It seems to address your problems-- but then this very worst kind of advice instead makes all of your problems worse and introduces new problems. Sadly some people who write advice for people who have questions about friendship, or romance, people who struggle with social situations, will write advice that's ... almost bad on purpose. The goal is to keep drawing you in and needing more of their advice. This is very common when it comes to advice on insecurity about ones appearance, friendships and romance. You may also encounter "advice" on these topics that ... doesn't really tell you anything and just says "feel good about yourself" this advice isn't actively harmful but it can be annoying and the lack of simple actions worth taking probably causes a lot of people to turn to the bad advice. That's what the title of this essay is about. "Everyone is beautiful? That's just something ugly people say." -- Everyone is beautiful is a nice wholesome idea, but its pretty useless to someone who is convinced that they are ugly and that this is a Big Problem. It's easy to become cynical and think there is nothing worthwhile at all in saying "everyone is beautiful" -- to lean into a shallow way of viewing yourself and others hoping that since you are "doing something" it will help. But in the long run? Your problems will only multiply. ARE YOU UGLY There are many reasons people think they are ugly:

Others have told them they are ugly - Even if the people who called you ugly are "correct" it's still an abusive thing to do to another human.

They compare themselves to remarkably beautiful people who are so good looking it's their job. Not looking like a model or actor is not "being ugly" to say so is hyperbolic and self pity. Most people, even some of the coolest people in the world who lead exciting lives, aren't as good looking as models. When you think "I'm so ugly." stop that thought in its tracks and replace it with a more truthful thought "I'm not so good looking that could be my one and only job. But, really I'm good enough to do the things that I want to do and meet the people I want to meet."

You have something that makes you stand out in your peer group: this could be if you are a different race than most of your peers, or if you are shorter or taller-- Even having red hair in a group of people who don't have red hair can make a person feel like they don't fit in. Even if you don't care much about fitting in on a conscious level-- this out of place feeling can work below the surface and make whatever makes you stand out a little feel much bigger than it really is. Also some of your peers may simply be rude or even abusive (see 1)

You have a distorted self image - this can be a hard one to deal with, and in very bad cases it can become a kind of mental illness. Think about someone you know who good looking and imagine how you'd feel if they said "I'm so ugly." You might want to correct them. You might feel like they are fishing for compliments. You might think they are just exaggerating. But imagine how sad it would be if they really believed this. Every time they'd look in a mirror they would see an ugly person. They would feel self conscious and try to hide perhaps. Now... is there a chance that you might be a little like that? If you looked at yourself from the outside? If this is still a struggle it might be good to try talking to a therapist. You can't keep going around thinking you are ugly when you aren't, it will get on people's nerves if they don't know you well and break their hearts if they do.

You really are just kinda ugly - It's impossible to write a way to test if this is really true or if one of the other items or a combination of the other items might be a better fit. But, it's true that some people have an appearance that other people aren't accustomed to, or they are very far from the average in some aspect of their appearance. And it really makes some things harder because people can be judgmental. If you really are "ugly" maybe the answer is to say "so what?" --So often what people really mean when they say "ugly" is different from what's considered normal. So if you really are ugly? So what? Aren't you still a person who wants to do the things that you care about? Meet people worth talking to? Find romance? (if you like the idea of romance.) There are certifiably ugly people who have lived amazing lives. If you decide to stop looking at your appearance as the only way that you can be likable or happy you can be one of them. And you don't have to say "everyone is beautiful" to make yourself feel better. Each time you find yourself thinking "I'm so ugly." -- stop that thought and think "so what?" instead.

[xyzce]

god i hate everything about myself. the way i speak, my whole face especially my nose and mouth and then my personality. literally anything about me is unattractive. i hate myself. i just want one thing: love whether its a person or animal i just want someone to love me and im gonna love them as much as they do to me.

[hell02kitty]

People STAY lyin and I’m tired of it

I’m gonna be honest I’m not attractive…I know this, I’m not blind. It’s painfully obvious! It’s infuriating when I’m with my pretty friends or just with clearly attractive people and they try to “make you feel better” by calling you ‘pretty’ and you KNOW they’re lying! Saying shit like that makes me feel worse cause I know you’re doing it out of pity. I’ve been out with friends and have been called “the ugly one”, and all my homies start spewing nonsense that I’m not ugly. It’s fine that they want to defend me but don’t lie. People these day are obsessed with charity work too, they feel like ‘good people’ when they do shit like that.

“You’re beautiful”🥺

Bitch stop it! Some people aren’t pretty and it’s okay. It’s hard and not fair, but some people don’t have the genetic luxury of being attractive to the masses.

I feel like they only do it to make themselves feel good, y’know? ‘Ooh look at me I’m so nice! watch me make this little ugly duckling feel better by calling them pretty🤩 seee?? Look at me! They’ve probably never been told that, I’m such a sweet person’ 🙄

This might be delusion, idk & I don’t care 🤷🏽‍♀️ all I KNOW is that this is how I feel. It’s driving me up the wall‼️‼️

They do the same thing when you’re fat.

A person will be 200 Ib and 5’3 talkin about ‘you’re not fat’…. Bffr they are big! Doesn’t mean they’re ugly in the face, but they are fat!

Idiots 🙄

No one is genuine, and with the way social media likes to spread all the fake ass, “self positivity” bullshit the more people are gonna lie about what you actually look like.

Take everything someone says with a grain of salt. People are full of shit.

[jimkirkachu]

day 12,256 of the world missing out on a far better existence if only I had never existed

[igottaglockinmyrawry]

I dream, yearn, desire, long, crave to be just a little bit beautiful

[nehirsimsekhaha]

I hate my body, I never loved it. Everytime I look at mirror I just disgusts myself I can't even stand to look at myself. I see really beautiful girls and I wonder why I'm not like them. They just born like that but I didn't. Is that my fault? I'm genuinely ugly. I will never be enough for something whatever I do. Nobody who is beautiful wont understand how hard is to living in a body you hate. I can't laugh in front of people because I think my teeths looks bad and I look disgusting when laugh. People will never respect or love you if you don't fit beauty standarts. Only your family. But I wish I was beautiful I know everything would be so much better.

[montimer]

Getting pretty bored of hearing "its so fucking ugly" after walking next to someone. Like yeah haha i look like shit, but for the 100th time its just expected. Only been called handsome once, when i cosplayed jeff the killer. And that happened online too. Kinda funny. Wish ppl would just stop judging

[blue-sad-moon]

i was the ugly girl who dated a handsome guy. he was generally a nice guy. i know im ugly, so i dont understand what was the freaking need of reminding me that everytime they were with me alone. things like "dont worry he has the looks and you have the brains" "didnt you mother asked how you got him" "why did he choose you? you are nice but there are some really gorgeous girls in your class i have seen them" "how can he be with her?" that last one was from "a friend"... all those comments and the ones i have forgotten have really shattered my soul, my heart and my mind.

[strangegirl556]

and to think i was getting better i will always be penalized by a liability i had no idea even existed