#being in your twenties

[crittersplatter]

It's so weird growing up thinking wow all the doctors companions are so grown up and cool. Now that I've just realized that Ruby Sunday is about the same age as me, it's bizarre. Watching a show and then realizing that right now I'm the same age as some of the characters it's almost surreal.

[fuckyour20s]

joseph awuah-darko

[reasonsforhope]

Hey adults: Why do you like being an adult? What do you like about your life?

A couple weeks ago I told the kids at my work that "Being an adult is pretty nice, actually," and they looked shocked, laughed incredulously, and told me I was the first person they'd ever heard say that

So clearly we adults need to talk about this way more often

The past few years have been hard for a lot of people, me included. Covid sucked. I lost three relatives and three pets in one year. Right after lockdown ended, I got badly injured, and ended up housebound for six months and (much more) disabled for two years, and that sucked too.

And you know what? Literally all of that was easier and better than being a teenager.

I like being an adult. I like my life. Even when it's hard, it's mine, and I am building to the best of my ability the a life that I want to live.

I talked about a lot of why being an adult is something worth looking forward to in my last post, so right now I'll simply say this:

I love actually knowing who I am now. I love that I learned and am learning what I want and need. I love that I have independence and autonomy and don't get treated like a kid. I love the fact that I'm the one who gets to decide want I want to do and what I need. I also love that I'm learning to sew. I love that I've had pet rats, and next will have a pet cat. I love that I got top surgery. I love the way I've decorated my room. I love traveling to visit and crash and even just hang out and do work with my friends, when I can. I love that I started reading good news every day, and that I actually have hope for the future, and that I started this blog and have been able to help give so many other people hope, too.

So, here's a call to action for my fellow adults: comment or reply or tag what you like about being an adult. What you love about your life.

Let's give some kids some reasons for hope.

[marielism]

daniil gives me insaaaane “has a little sister” vibes

[c-h-i-l-l-8]

THE SECRET HISTORY SPOILERS

••••

henry: so we just killed someone in some weird Greek ritual. and you knew we did

richard: ...

richard: okay but did you see francis naked tho

[bb-eb-db-bb-eb-b-ab-f-b-ab]

THIS SCENE—

[rjgraves]

crash ‘89

[six-swords]

steb nation, how old do we think steb is?

[fishareglorious]

i do a light chuckle once i remember hofmann and semmelweis are friends but then i remember semmelweis and marcus' suitcase interaction where they talk about her and i am once again inconsolable about this old woman's death

[luckyreds]

Choose your fighter;

Babe’s “the plane chief, who was an old guy to us kids—he was in his late twenties.”

Vs

Webster’s “both he (Liebgott) and Mcgreary, ancient men of thirty, were the company elders.”

[dreamsrunfaster]

It's SO QUEER that nimona is older than ballister. I was a queer elder when i was 22 sometimes i'm the queer youth and someone else is the elder sometimes my elders are younger than me and it all depends on the experience and the moment and the lesson and the story and the trauma and how much love and acceptance has been in your life so far

[etirabys]

something that peeves me in fiction – in a setting where society that hasn't mostly eliminated scarcity, anyway – is when someone really kindhearted takes in a near stranger in need (e.g. orphan, ex slave) and that person is their only project to whom they can give a lot of care. irl I feel like everyone who's exceptionally nice, or at least bad at drawing a line for their own health, has a full case load and is close to burnout

I don't mind this at all when there's a good plot reason for why X should be helping Y in particular and isn't already overbooked; I feel some ugh when X is depicted as someone who'd always help people in Y's shoes but has mysteriously evaded all other supplicants.

I'm pro-fantasy but this kind of moral fantasy strikes me as a bit uglier than the others: you can be a nurturing figure who gives unconditional help without running something so unphotogenic as a vetting interview or cost/benefit analysis, but you'll never be overwhelmed, either

[cyanide-sippy-cup]

Fellas, is it gay to go into the core of magic and disintegrate with your forehead pressed against that of another man who spent multiple timelines choosing to spend his life with you?

[dirtbagdefender]

[ratatattouille]

STAY YOUR PRETTY EYES ON COURSE

KEEP THE MEMORIES OF WHO I WAS BEFORE

(guys i'm not okay and this is the most devastating song i've listened to the entire fucking year i can't get up from the floor)

[bedlamsbard]

got asked at Walmart if I was a new student moving in and had to clarify that I was in fact a new professor moving in.