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dinosaur kid in the 90s, never accused of being a tomboy and used to love dresses until I went 180 and rejected them when I realized they were compulsory Girl Formalwear
blissfully don't think about gender throughout most of my teens
straight because boyfriend? have a minor panic when said boyfriend comes out to me as bi. have a Homophobic Moment(tm) when I think about my boyfriend leaving me for a boy
promptly eat my words about a year later when I'm having a sleepover with my bestie at the time and the thought occurs, unbidden, "if she were down I'd have sex with her"
(never made a move on that one. though later I'll find out a couple of my Girl Crushes at the time were queer)
cautiously and tentatively start thinking of myself as bi
start discovering I enjoy wearing masculine fashion
the hammer comes down hard on that one from my mom
for the next 10+ years I dress almost exclusively in baggy pants and hoodies. i am still undoing this damage.
BUT: the next time I end up with a Bestie Crush, I make a move and it goes well (hi @cherrehc!) (I end up marrying her. like 15 years later) (we like to take our time with things)
20s are an occasional sexuality buffet (with Cherry's thumbs-up) and I confirm that yes I do enjoy sex, and yes I do enjoy it with multiple genders
still not thinking about gender: am aware by this age of Transgender People and am cool with them but I've never felt like a boy so that's not what I am, right?
(Even if, when puberty really took hold, I felt completely alienated from my secondary sex characteristics? that's normal, feeling like your body isn't yours but is a barbie's, right? I'm hot and I like being hot, so I'm a cis girl, right??? people like my tits and I like that so I must be a cis girl, right????)
at the same time find myself playing nonbinary characters in RP situations before they are in vogue in the wider community.
(reading some of my old RP logs is wild. it is all RIGHT. THERE. in text from when I was 20 and had never heard the word nonbinary.)
(I have avoided RPing men up until about this point because "I don't know how to play a guy". women are already strange to me: men must be aliens.)
(then a particular character occurs and something clicks.)
fast forward to my early thirties. one of my best college friends is on T, has been calling himself a male name for years, and comes out first as nonbinary and then as a man.
wait.
wait.
wait.
if I'm not a girl I don't have to be a boy? I don't have to be a boy to not be a girl? well that's closer, but what does that leave me?
I hear the word agender.
grief.
the loss of so much time. looking back on this timeline of events and feeling the most profound sense of something gained, late, not too late but still so late. It's never too late to know yourself, but you lose time. You lose the ability to experience parts of your life, ones you can never relive, as your genuine self. In my case, I also may have lost the window in which I can safely medically transition, as other health issues have cropped up since I was young.
I will never get to be a young nonbinary person: I never was, because I was never allowed to imagine myself that was.
I was a "girl". I was an alienated, lonely girl, who didn't understand why she felt, even when invited, that female spaces were wrong and strange. There are other reasons for that too, but I think a huge part is gender. I was invited repeatedly into the world of the feminine by good women in my life, but I never went there. I didn't feel the pull of it, even when I wanted the friendship and companionship that seemed to live there.
I lived in limbo. I felt like -- not a gender failure, but a kind of nothing. An empty space. a void. I didn't have something missing, I was something missing.
it's a big grief. It's ameliorated by getting to see young people living as the people they are, watching others grow up with the self-knowledge I was never allowed to come to.
I don't know where all the agender people my age are: odds are good that attrition bore them into silence or suicide, or that life has not yet introduced the opportunity for them to learn better than how they were raised, or they're (like me) just so very fucking tired and unable to build community themselves. I know a few of y'all here fall into that category and I'm quietly collectively rooting for us, here; I know one or two others from my union and animation work.
But it brings me so much joy to see younger queer communities embracing gender diversity. Treasure it. It may still be an uphill struggle, and newly dangerous in a different way to be visible, but at least you're not lost alone and blind in the dark woods thinking that sight is a myth: you have each other, and you know what you are.
LGBTQ+ folk what was your gender/sexuality pipeline?
#k talks#grief#gender#sexuality#this is such an insanely hard thing to explain to my younger friends#I don't think it's entirely possible to communicate the weird empty barrenness of decades lived as something you're not#you have to have experienced it to understand how self-neutralizing it is#how erosive to how many things in your soul#and in a way I don't want to#let the pain of it fade to textbooks and words written by older queers (I'm not an *old* queer yet just not young anymore)#the young people have so many struggles of their own to contend with#it is a blessing to see a pain slowly begin to leave the world#this whole thing is part of why *butch* is something I'm doing a lot of reading into the history of right now#I think we're hiding in the pages of old queer anthologies#under older names#because we've always been here
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I've written somewhere that Team Free Will is actually Team Dean's Will but it wasn't, like, a criticism or something like that, it was what I personally got once the show was over (and I still have very legit concerns about Dean's choice during the last episode).
I don't think Chuck won in the end because he, as a character, wouldn't have wanted for Dean to die. As far as polysemy goes, Chuck does represent many things but, to be really honest, I don't really think he represents John Winchester on a cosmic level. Like, yeah, OF COURSE, we can definitely put them together in the "Shitty Fathers" box but when Chuck tells Dean that he's not like his father I think he's not that wrong after all. Chuck is much worse and not because he's a John Winchester on a gigantic scale, it's not about quantity. He's worse because he just is.
Leaving aside the many problematic aspects of their relationship, Mary and John can be totally seen as Amara and Chuck (the show does go there and I think it's interesting for many reasons) but it's also true that the one who lied in the couple was Mary, not John. Even if we know why she had to lie and it can be understandable, it's also true that both Sam and Mary are willing to omit a Very Important Thing about themselves that, eventually, gets their partners killed. But, unlike Chuck who's to blame for his omissions, lies and manipulations, both Sam and Mary are two characters that, even more than Amara, are ALWAYS stripped of any choice. So it's almost like no matter what they do, they can only fight for their free will but never fully live it (SPN final thesis: you can never get what you want).
So yeah, if we consider John as a person and, more specifically, as a partner (therefore not in his paternal role), Chuck's not like him at all. Chuck's in control of his narrative, John couldn't even choose his own car at the dealership (btw, in my fantasy John has a love/hate relationship with the whole album "Boys for Pele" by Tori Amos that he keeps hidden like Bobby's passion for Tori Spelling). John is very much mainly narrated by other characters, in this respect he's just like Mary, to be honest. We don't 100% know who he is because he's a character described by absence. So much so that Sam and Dean didn't even know he had a fucking SECRET family!!!
Chuck is portrayed to be less enigmatic. We know he lies because we are shown that multiple times even before "Moriah". He's a character without much depth and that bothers him So. Much. He's a God who wants to be like Keith Richards. LOL!
However, even if Chuck, to me, objectively doesn't win (I also have my own "Billie won theory"), he neverthless does represent the Dictorial Power of Shitty Fathers that some might call The Patriarchy (not me. I would NEVER!). In this way, yes, he sort of wins because, as I've said, the natural order wins in the end and, in SPN, the natural order is Absent, Shitty Fathers. The sugarcoated version of the bygone days, the bittersweet nostalgia for a golden past that inevitably leads to death.
And who, the show tells us, represents all of the above? The absence of John Winchester via the presence of his journal. A man who's become so powerful he's been morphed into a myth. Maybe he is the real tulpa of this story, after all.
What does this have to do with Team Dean's Will? I find that saying that what Dean did in the end is a "choice" is very troublesome. To me personally. But the show does imply that, not strongly enough because it leaves some room for doubt but it ultimately does that. So okay, I'll bite and will consider it to be a Real Choice out of Dean's Free Will. Fine. What about Sam, though?
S15 starts with Sam and Rowena and ends with Sam and Dean. Rowena and Dean both commit suicide that's not 100% framed as suicide. Among other things, it is framed as a sacrifice. And Sam's there with them and he doesn't want that. He says so. He tells Rowena to "screw the books" and he tells Dean that he doesn't want what Dean is asking for.
Rowena's act is framed as being done out of her own agency because she believes in prophecy and magic. To which I say bullshit, not to Rowena but to the show because this is a cop-out. Since S13 Rowena couldn't do what she wanted to do because it wasn't possible. Fine. But how come that prophecy seems to be working only for her? How come the "rules are rules" mindset only applies to her? Why do other characters' books change and hers alone doesn't? How come her sacrifice is both destined and out of her own free will? It means that it can happen then! That destiny and free will can coincide! This change in thinking about the question is so packed with possibilities that they could've done another 15 seasons about it. Unfortunately, destiny and free will seem to meet in Definite Death which meh. Story over.
And Sam? He's still there. Participating and not participating. Against his will.
With Dean things are a bit different because we do know that Chuck is obsessed with him. Once Chuck is out of the picture, we could imply, Dean's finally "free" to choose what he wants. Which is such a naive thought because if it were only the absence and/or presence of things/persons to determine our lives we, perhaps, wouldn't need therapy.
But, as I've said, I'll be good and keep my promise: let's say Dean chooses out of his own free will. It should be cool for us, right? This is what Dean wants. The Big Big Bad is not dead but he's not the man behind the curtains anymore so hurrah! Free/Dean's Will wins. We should feel like we must respect that. And yet, it doesn't feel right.
And Sam? He's still there. Participating and not participating. Against his will.
It doesn't feel very "Free Willy" if the people just let the orca free. It's not very Free Will for Sam if the show tells us that it's Dean literally getting out of the picture that will "free" Sam. Brrrrrrr.
So what does this tell me? That the "destiny vs free will" discourse seems to be working only when there's a villain on the horizon, a commanding power that wants to tell you what to do, someone actually stronger than you whose actions can alter your life's story.
If you take that power out, what's left? Only people with their choices. And your absent, dead father's journal radiating The Real Power (the idea of power inside your mind that controls you). Is free will still in the room with us? Cause it starts to look like somebody's supposedly "free" will might be somebody's else constraint. As far as Sam is concerned, it seems to say: it doesn't matter whether there's a God, Death or that prophecy is real or not. What matters is that you can only stand there, participating and not participating. You don't want that? Too bad, 'cause that's what you got.
Maybe the finale really took the worst from my "Billie won theory" and the worst from the "Chuck won theory", i.e. an idea of natural order that upholds patriarchy. Or, since I can and will go there, that the natural order is the patriarchy.
So what about Free Will, is it an illusion? If it applies to only a few it certainly doesn't seem like something worth fighting for. And the natural order is indeed restored in the end. I don't think the show gives a real answer to that, by the end of S15 there are so many things that simultaneously mean 100 other things that everybody can take what they want from the show.
If you ask me, I think it was a moot question, to be honest. It made sense in S4-5 but once SPN goes full meta in S15 it becomes very superficial. Of course I know they're fictional characters and literally don't have free will, the premises were interesting because I wanted to see how these characters would react to stuff happening in the story. Once the story is revelead to be a bluff, though, what am I left with? Characters spiralling into crisis after crisis. This could be interesting in a novel but in a 15-seasons-long series you have to give me something ELSE as well, the "all die more or less happily" last-minute finale (knowing Heaven is a scam, by the way) is just... not having to deal with the consequences of the narrative choices that were made.
Or, perhaps, Supernatural is a show where one of its themes is "destiny vs free will" that ultimately tells you that there's no destiny but there's also no free will, there's only John's journal aka the Power of the Dominant Narrative. Which is the power of the people who write that narrative for us to believe in it. Perhaps, not even the people making the show were free to do what they would've liked to do. They were also there, like Sam, participating and not participating. Finding ways to cope.
#why do i have to settle for sam and mary parallels while i could've have had a whole storyline dedicated to them :"((((#but no! let her travel america's wilderness hunting monsters with old. grumpy. i-don't-care-for AU-bobby#ah yes. i know why. because happiness is not in the having but it's in the subtext. in just saying it but not really saying it#cause that's all we've got guys!#lmao#anyway. the fact that writing for money can be both the best thing ever and the worst is so... discouraging#cause in the end stories have their hand in shaping a specific perception of reality. which is something so powerful that no wonder#storytelling's always controlled and supervised#and why people look for representation in fiction. which is a chimera and yet it's been thousands of years and here we still are#participating and not participating#supernatural#spn#sam winchester#dean winchester#mary winchester#john winchester#chuck shurley#billie won theory#myths we live by#spn s15#destiny vs free will#team free will#tw: sui mention#tw: suicide#chuck won theory#rowena macleod
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zesty lowkey just another way for str8 ppl to say faggot / faggy and get away with it
#and im sick of letting them#cus why my lil nephew not even ten yet saying that and 'acting 'zesty' ' with his friends#i hate sounding like a boomer like i value the upside of technology#but u give humans / ANYONE rlly a chance to relax and a lot will turn it into laziness / neglect just because they can#like it's good to spread awareness but it's maybe likeeee. Not a good thing to spread statements/stereotypes with no further explanation#and peddle it to CHILDREN#whose comprehensions skills are. surprise. that of a CHILD'S#i say this ironically. btw#'oh im so mature for my age' no bro ure an immature HUMAN whos being forced to immaturely consider urself mature#due to the nature of ur relationships and homelife (or more-so the lack/negatives of them)#like it's ok to be a little stupid#as long as u keep trying to improve instead of just sitting in fault#or acting like they dont exist#anyways this got off topic but ya. crazy#kids have been killing each other n crazy shit like that but lately the crazy murder stories have HEAVILY leaned into#a misunderstanding of materialism#instead of just 'i wonder what it feels like' it's 'she took my ipad & also i wonder what it feels like'#like the first was already scary enough & now we've got this shit???#empathy is going thru a downside and we need to adjust the scales back!!!#im not gonna act like this is some new never seen b4 onset of fear impacting a generation after mine#bcs it's not never seen before in LIFE.. it's just never been seen b4 in UR life. which can feel like LIFE LIFE bcs like. uve only got one#that u may be cognizant of or etc religion aspect insert here. the point is. history repeats itself. but the points of history#can vary in visibility. some events get more notice than others bcs history's voice is ppl & actions & sometimes that gets erased#this isnt some bastardization point of one generation. but it IS a flaw that can show up in any gen (usually the oncoming ones)#bcs changes can be comfort & discomfort & the one u'd usually consider negative isnt always#anyways what im trying to say is. we need empathy back up period. always. we need empathy#lack of it is concerning. end of argument
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— But it's almost midnight. — Oh, that's the point! At the stroke of twelve, he turns into Dracula. C'mon, Vicki – he won't bite.
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#dark shadows 1966#victoria winters#roger collins#➤ roger collins & victoria winters. ┊ pain sometimes precedes pleasure,miss winters.#vamp roger au tbt#➤ roger collins. ┊ I and my ghosts want a drink.#➤ victoria winters. ┊ because she’s lost and lonely. because she looks in shadows.#➤ edits & art. ┊ the evans cottage art gallery.#art.#i always feel a little apprehensive about putting r/v things in the general tags bc i know that's not everyone's cup of tea but.#if r/v squicks you out and you don't have me blocked idk why lmakldfgfg. that's what we do here.#well! did you know that the moonflower is a highly poisonous and psychoactive flower that belongs to the nightshade family#and can cause respiratory depression arrhythmias fever delirium hallucinations psychosis and death if taken internally.#and they are night-blooming and pollinated by sphinx moths. much to think about.#scenes from the vamp roger au that i've been plotting with tortie and have only posted like one thing about but. anyway.#should be making violent love to you behind a palm tree etc. but the moonflowers in liz's greenhouse will have to do.#yeah yeah yeah we've all heard about his more famous triangular cousin but what about the real collins vampire huh.#who was here in 1966 draining years off another man's life. who spent ten years in a coffin (augusta) and came back wrong.#who knows nothing but a habitual; driving; consuming thirst.#who feeds on the youth and innocence of his governess – of his sister's hospitality – of the shelter of the collins blood.#who prefers; instead of living; to bury himself in the collins tomb.#who creates not biological sons but makes other men into monsters just like him.#also lou was really hot as a vampire for 0.5 seconds in hods.
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The hell's up with all these anti-trans men/masc memes lately because I'm getting real sick of it real quick. It's not cute and it was never funny.
#textpost#This site's always been weird about trans men and it feels like it's gotten significantly worse lately#It's bad enough trans men are constantly belittled by the rest of the LGBT community I don't need to see that shit on here too#'Why would anyone ever want to be a man' is one I've been seeing a lot. Think before saying something that stupid#I've been wanting to make a post about this for a while now but haven't because I feel like it's swinging a bat at a hornet's nest#Which in itself is completely stupid. I shouldn't feel like that addressing these issues yet here we are#Damn near every single time I've seen a trans man on here mention that maybe we're being treated unfairly they get laughed at#Or told to suck it up or that we've got 'cis male privilege' or something. Do these people forget that we're TRANS??#I WISH the government saw me as a cis man but they don't#This is NOT a trans men vs trans women suffering olympics thing like some people seem determined to make it out to be#Every trans identity and trans person is affected by transphobic laws and people. We're in this shit together#And belittling trans men and ignoring us when we speak up about issues will only drive a wedge in the trans community#When we're divided we're weaker and that's how the transphobes get what they want#Anyway I'm sick of anti-trans men memes.
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i miss succession and the community it gave me </3
#i know most of you are still there but it's not the same. and that's okay because it's been nearly a year since it ended!! it's normal#but i also miss it. spring and summer 2022? some of the happiest time of my life!!! i've always wanted to be a part of something#and i truly got to experience that. and i am grateful!! but thinking about it makes me nostalgic and also a little sad.#mostly because i feel like i'm never going to have that again. and also because i miss the people. it's wild how you talk to someone daily#and now it's been over a year since we've been in contact. a specific kind of a heartbreak!!#yes the fact succ ended is hitting me now. a year later. everybody moved on i stayed here <3#but anyways i am so so grateful for all of the people who have been here experiencing the mass hysteria of succ together!!!! the past years#have been worth it because of you <3#yes the loneliness hit me bad. shhh it's midnight i'm allowed
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transmascs stop pretending that transfems are untrustworthy sources for transfeminism challenge impos- fuck i didn't even finish and you already complained about our terminology
#i really hate the expectation to know theory in these shit communities#they're barely communities it feels like on here trans people are unified by strict categorization#constantly infinitely expanding definitions but treating them as immutable and emergent from the core of reality#rather that words used to describe things we experience or the positions we are placed in my transphobic society#we're unified by who is mean to us more than wether or not we actually like each other#and so we must always be ready to litigate our position in these spaces#because they must be Definitionally justified rather than just having a real community where we're treated like human beings#i wish we still had our elders... i wish we weren't so adverse to learning humanly#i wish i could escape the weird black and white fandom thinking but it worms it's way into every community here now#this is why i keep lamenting old t4t spaces#we weren't there to argue theory#we weren't opposed to learning it in fact it was useful and joyful to share with each other#to help describe our experiences and understand where we've been placed in the world#but that's not why we were there#we were there for community to be kind to each other#now it's nothing but a bunch of teenage fandom tme people arguing with fake versions of trans women they invented in their heads#while we just hide in the background wondering if the word community means something different now#or if we're really just so evil to our very cores that we were foolish to think we could have community in the first place#sorry just#needed to vent this shit has been in my head for a while#i wasn't in a place to go to gay bars or trans events when i was first here#i couldn't have local community so finding one here with transfems who loved each other#it was so important to me#and learning that i could cater to that small but kind audience in my sex work is what made me finally love doing it#before then i'd been doing it purely cuz i couldn't get any other job#and before that because i was forced to#there's a lot of trauma wrapped up in my work for me but i healed from it largely because of my sisters i found on here#but i don't know when it went away but it did#and now it feels like we're left in a massive crowd of screaming voices#and i don't recognize any of them anymore
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IN MY DOVE FUCKING PROMISES???
#DIRE. BLEAK.#this is our stock chocolate so I essentially never even look at the wrappers anymore much less read them#because they're you know... trite at best and I'm just here for the chocolate#WHEN did they put HUSTLE CULTURE in my TRITE PLATITUDES FOR MIDDLE AGED MOMS CANDY???? HELLO#this is not AS dire or bleak as the fortune cookies we've been getting that have. I swear to god. ads. on the back#but it's giving me a similar rage despite lacking the sense of... violation/ intrusion that an ad on a fortune cookie fortune has#LIKE I DON'T EVEN CARE ABOUT THE DOVE SENTIMENTS. THEY'RE ALWAYS LAME BUT THEY'RE NOT SUPPOSED TO BE LIKE THIS#ON PRINCIPLE. YOU ARE THE LIVE LAUGH LOVE OF CHOCOLATE WHY ARE YOU TELLING ME TO HUSTLE!! FUCK OFF!!!!#about me
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#I'm here thinking...#How we've always lol'ed at Louis being not in la in his time off#And this year... His shows ended and he himself posted his location (mind you in lax lounge which-#it's weird you're in lounge of the place you're arriving to but who knows)#And he completely disappears#Preeeeetty sure he hasn't been in Barney's because please we'd know by now#So we have no idea where he's been but most of his fans think he's been in la this whole time#And sure. He could have been... But I personally doubt it#Anyway. I don't care that much... Was just thinking about it...#I just miss his face a lot and I need a selfie please or can one of his sisters upload something more than his hands? :(
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Zero Day Director commentary - With actor Andre Keuck
#movies#film#cinema#Damn I wish Cal was here#Andre and Ben are really interesting to listen to#This movie is one of those movies where it needs like 3 commentaries#It needs one with just Ben Coccio by himself#then one with Cal and Andre by themselves#then another with all 3 of them#Not all movies do that but I love when studios/filmmakers have multiple commentaries to create a sense of thorough intimacy#due to the nature of how commentaries are set up they can be quite restrictive/pressing/limited with no pauses or rewinds.#so I find cast/crew don't have enough time or able to present how they would like to if they could edit/rewind or pause for fluent presenta#So I love when they have director commentaries and actor commentaries or composer commentaries#Platoon's dvd extras are so dope they got multiple commentaries and one with military adviser Dale Dye who was a RL vietnam vet#Or Hostel's commentaries where one is just Eli Roth and another is Tarantino and Eli Roth with Scott Spiegal#idk if Zero Day ever got a blu-ray release but I think it should but the DV technology of the camera is kinda at it's limit of resolution#but an AI upscaling with 20 years later retrospective with Ben Cal and Andre would be sooo dope along with updated commentaries#Every few years I always rewatch Zero Day so that time has come that last few days lol#Ever since Columbine as a lil kid I have always been into spree-murders and active shooter incidents#I remember reading a peer-reviewed paper called Pseudo-Commandos#And Eric and Dylan and Andre and Cal would be dubbed Pseudo-Commandos where they dress up in a semi-military fashion#and have a delusion of superiority mixed with perceived sense of persecution whether it's true or not#it went into the Postal shooter from the 80s as well and what he went through along#plus I read another book called Going Postal which also went into postal shootings along with school shootings#I want to make a film about spree murders or an active shooter/s but I remember just getting so tired of the subject matter#because every 3 weeks there was some new shooter in the headlines and I found myself not wanting to be exploitative#When I write/direct my film I'd like it to address and study the character of such an individual but not try to be too political#or exploitative and focus on the ambiguities that are left behind when someone does this#as a society I noticed we stopped asking the questions on why and stopped having constructive conversations#it feels like as a coping mechanism we've started treating them like tornados or natural disasters
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ooc.♡ˎˊ˗ Gentle mention that I am the worst when it comes to keeping track of people. My attention span is wild these days but, I try to send starters and interact with those I can outside my drafts. If we're mutuals you're more than welcome to tag me in random starters or send memes, just because I don't write with you daily doesn't mean I don't care. I'm just slow,, and old.
#- ; I feel bad because there's some folks who've been writing with me since day one#- ; I'm not on the timeline daily either so that adds to it#- ; BUT PLEASE KNOW I LOVE YOU GUYS AND I ALWAYS ENJOY WRITING WITH YA'LL#- ; Even if we've never written before please know I'm always here to clown with you#- ; OOC#- ; Bravo's outta pocket
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Does anybody else feel the waves of history crashing over them constantly and like they can't escape the generational trauma that permeates and poisons every interaction they have or do I just need to chill and have a drink lol
#'our day has come and we are here. we are alive here. we've built this place. we suffered and starved here.#we own not an acre of land we belong to it. the land of cú chullain and macha. ní muid 'hungry crocodiles'. we are full.#full of knowledge. and talent. and success.#full of drink. and drugs. and stories.#agus beautiful ceol. that spills on sundays. from the windows of ancient pubs like smoke#tá vóta agam. tá acht Gaeilge agam. agus táimid sa rialtas.#we are the landscape. we are the trees and the rivers and the mountains. an integral piece of someone else's infrastructure.#growing strong between cracks in the concrete.'#and whatever else seán an seanchaí said.....#would recommend his instagram. his posts always hit#ngl tho when men post stuff like this about ireland i always think...do you see the similarities between this and patriarchy tho?#but maybe im better off not knowing the answer#whatever!!! we will persevere!!! we will help one another and build trust and relations and improve no matter what governments say or do!!!#just like generations have been doing before us!!! and we who have benefited from our parents making this place better will work to make it#better for our children. who will make it better for theirs.#and maybe i need to stop shying away from difficult conversations. maybe we all do. and maybe then we'll be okay.#my thoughts on mental health + the north + my own personal experience is such a mish mash of several different things#im only truly starting to realise that it's all connected. yes i got depression because i was lonely and vulnerable. but also because of th#trauma my family's been through. and sometimes i feel so angry thinking about what certain family members have been through#and there has been too much silence surrounding it. but maybe i just have to feel the anger and sadness and allow myself to feel it#but continue reaching out and trying to talk and having cups of tea and walking my dog and making memories.#memories that aren't political or based on trauma. to get out of my head and realise that yes this was a terrible thing#but there's so many good things too. and the best thing i can do is to try to make life better for those who lived through the worst of it#and make society better for those who are too young to know any of it yet.#instagram is actually a tonic for me sometimes. would never get such taig specific posts on here like the one from seán#which is probably a good thing lol
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i love being drunk :)
#problems??? idk her!!!!#money??? sorry.... my mommys paying for me today#i get drunk and get lovey dovey so im gonna be lovey dovey on here#so SO fucking happy i deleted twitter because it sucked and provided no happiness in my life#so SO fucking happy im drinking with family & spending so much time with my family#i LOVE !!!! L O V E !!!! my family they are amazing i adore them so fucking much god bless them all#@ my grandma up in heaven.... i hope you are watching from above and seeing just how much we all adore and love each other so much#it is so nice to relax and get drink with people that love you#ALSO!!!!! ALSO!!!!! ALSO!!!!!! i just ADOREEEEEEE georgie ◇♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡#hes the love of my life.... the LOVE of MY life#i just adore him#i thank god that michael introduced us#even tho i have my qualms with him thank god he introduced us im so happy i have george in my life#i know im ungrateful and a brat and dont deserve a lot but the eay the fate aligned enough for us to meet.... i could start crying#i love him so much#ive never been so in love... i thought that wasnt possible#i love him#me.... in love w a man.... wow#and hes PERFECT!!!!!! I ADORE HIM!!!!!#i love the love we've cultivated...... god bless george may his soul feel light forever and always and more#i love u george#personal
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#music#we were talking about like. dance/club anthems for each of the boys and this is the one i ended up picking for alun#i think the most obvious being the feeling of being trapped by things which he knows he should love at detriment to himself#there's a lot to be said about his views on his various relationships especially as they pertain to patron(s) and his fellow princes#and how he maybe understands that there is something deeply unhealthy about the value he puts in things that do not seem to value him#riesling has been a strong advocate of him re examining these very relationships but... well. maybe someday. who knows#i also love that both of the vocalists are transgender which alun is not but yknow we've been talking a bit about gender stuff#the beautiful nomi ruiz and anonhi! the latter of whom i believe officially transitioned a while after this song released#the jessica 6 logo being that highly feminized spider figure is also funny to me#because alun is a distillation of a much older oc cuideag#whose name means spider and has always been spider coded in their various incarnations sometimes literally#there are a few other contenders that i will probably slap on here if i haven't already...#dj alun's club mix tape#anyway thanks for coming to my ted talk#also also i love the thought of earth ending alun taking a liking to disco and nu disco for some reason#medieval ass d&d ass man hears a funky bassline for the first time and loses his mind a little
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my ex best friend always openly admired my capacity to move on from a show the minute it got shitty or otherwise annoying and looking back it should have been foreshadowing LMAO
#i'm so sorry#i had a couple of beers and i'm being petty as hell#tbh she still lives rent free in my head so whos truly winning here tbh?#i mean this was an extremely important relationship for me for most of my 20's so i think i'm allowed to take some time to be over it tbh#and i also think that accepting that it's over means accepting that a huge part of my life#once again my 20's (my 'youth' if you will -i'm still young i know that but you know what i mean-)#is truly truly over#and it's hard#but honestly i've been rereading old personal diaries and jesus fucking christ the way we've always been toxic like woooow#we had those high highs and those miserably low lows like this shit was crazy smdh#not even just blaming her because i was also needy AND avoidant at the same time which is an annoying ass mix#anyway what was it that john waters' dad said after seeing pink flamingo?#'That was pretty funny! I hope I never have to see it again! :)'#yeah that about sum it up at this point lol
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sometimes your favorite song is by the idol group you see every time you go to tokyo but they haven't released it to streaming and they're quite obscure (not to mention taping performances is extremely NG in jpop idol culture) so the only time you have a chance of hearing it is when you go watch them perform and it's like not even guaranteed that it'll be on the setlist every time and then you find out it's actually by a disbanded sister group of theirs and they also didn't release it to streaming but they did put it on youtube in a 20 minute long video that features their entire first mini-album except for some reason it's the absolute worst quality vocals you've ever heard on a professional recording as in not the mic quality but the actual singing quality as in it sounds like a group of friends doing karaoke not even professional singers just some friends with no retakes no autotune touchups not even re-recording the lines that are off rhythm but it still means you kinda get to hear the song in your apartment. but is it even really the same song as the one you hear when your favorite member gets the solo in the chorus and walks from the back of the stage out towards the audience between the rest of the members as if parting the sea. is it
#really unrelatable content i'm posting tonight#it's not like actually my favorite song but i'm always like swept off my feet when they perform it#god damn am i homosexual#i have got to get to tokyo. i did say i would be back within september . aaaaaaaa#it was like. march or april? that they just randomly started performing it a lot#and it's funny remembering that my oshi is like. actually a very talented idol and not just someone i stan as a joke#sometimes i go in like aaa haha i uh i'm back! me the foreigner! i guess i'm participating in idol culture#bc i do always do the fanmeet part at the end too where i get to talk to her for like. probably 90 seconds? idk i lose track#and even though i'm a random white girl we've been at this long enough that she talks to me exactly like any other idol fan#and does all the 'you were't looking at any of the other girls were you?' and the 'i'm happy you're back i wish you'd come every day!! :)'#very interesting thing to experience firsthand#but also makes me forget that the main reason i stan so hard is because. she's just a really good idol#like sometimes i get to the venue kinda nervous to be there and then as the live goes on i'm like. ah. of course. i'm here not bc of the#idol-fan relationship validation but because i get to watch this lady perform again and she's so so good#especially that song. i really wish they'd release their own version#i really do love her voice#personal
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