#because friendships are as important as romantic partners

[twisted-dreamscape]

Twisted Wonderland: ADeuce love triangle

The way you met was unfortunate to put it lightly, and to say it was a trick of fate would be a bold-faced lie, but that never stopped him before.

Ace Trappola was a menace; to the school, to his dorm and to his friends, but it wasn’t until today that he seriously sat down to think about it. Because today, he was considering confessing to his best friend, not Tweedle Dee or Tweedle Dumbass, but the Prefect, or as he called you when you were new, ‘Grim’s Useless Janitor Friend,’—he was screwed.

And yet he couldn’t bring himself to do away with the possibility of your unlikely friendship becoming something more. Being with you was…fun, in a way that promised much more if it was just you two. At first, he ignored the feeling, hanging out in your little group of first years. He’d quip, Grim would sneer, Deuce would jeer and you’d laugh. Oh, but how you’d laugh always drowned out everything else. When your party grew, nothing really changed. There were the others, and they were fun! In fact, they seemed more fun without you! It was like he could breathe again, as opposed to flinching when you inevitably became the center of attention; back then he wondered if he even considered you a friend. Everything else seemed to fall away when you were near, but still, it was so much more fun with you. Those days when everyone else was held up in club activities, or with dorm work or homework, and it was just you. Those days when a study session with Deuce and Grim nodded off into a study session for two, and those days when you chose him as your partner or teammate, for whatever reason. Homework was a breeze, studying became compelling and movie nights were a delight. Everyday was the most remarkable and forgettable all at the same time—all he could call to mind was your smile, and whatever made you smile. The days when through some happenstance it was just you and him were the most special to him, and he was finally tired of waiting for happenstance.

Classes had ended for the day, but he could barely recall what went on in them. Today Ace would confess. In hand, he had those treats you liked, a bribe for affection as well as a tool for evasion should you reject him. In fact, the possibility of rejection weighed heavily on his mind, you knew everything about him and even he had the wherewithal to admit some of that everything was less than flattering in a romantic partner, but the fact that you still kept him close—even as a friend—gave him hope, as if between you there was nothing to hide. Alas, such things were embarrassing in their own way, so he was prepared to shove the treat in your mouth and play the whole thing off as a joke. You were in sight and by all means, he was ready.

…Until Deuce raced out in front of him and grabbed your hands!

“Prefect, I need to talk to you about something seriously important! Right now! Please!”

”Uh, sure.”

”Great! Let’s go!” He gently, but firmly pulled you along, moving his other hand to your back.

Past Main Street, past the Mystery shop and past the Hall of Mirrors. It wasn’t until you passed in front of the botanical garden and entered the field near Ramshackle Dorm that he finally noticed he was still holding your hand, he jumped back, dropping it. Not far behind was an increasingly peeved Ace.

First he had to watch Deuce grope your hand the whole way to the back of YOUR dorm, but somehow him nervously dropping it made things worse! ‘Like, what is he? 4? Holding your hand doesn’t mean anything! You letting him hold you doesn’t mean anything!’

As Ace carefully drew closer, Deuce and you stood apart in dead silence, almost like you were waiting for him to get in earshot. Finally, Deuce was able to wrench the words out of mouth.

“Prefect! No, Y/N!”

“Yes?”

“I…You, you’re amazing!” He clenched his fists as though preparing for a fight, “Since the moment we met you’ve always seemed to know what to do. It’s like nothing ever fazes you. You're one of the highest ranked students in our year, the teachers all seem to rely on you and even Housewarden Riddle trusts you ! You’re the definition of an honour student.”

Ace slowly relaxed, ‘Oh, he called you out here to fangirl? That’s fine…’ But something still felt off, and you felt it too.

You remained silent as Deuce took another deep breath, “I wanted to be like you. You made it seem effortless, natural. It felt like I was doing everything wrong. Like I had no business trying.” He averted his gaze for just a second, and you were already reaching out to him, but he bounced back, “Then I saw how much effort you put into everything you do. Some nights the lights in your dorm are on till well in the morning, Jack said you practically live in the library, you sometimes take on work at the Monstro Lounge despite everything! And still you take the time to help us out whenever we need it.You’re not from this world, but you don’t even let that stop you. You’re so smart and kind and really pretty,” the slight blush that was creeping up his neck now completely enveloped his face, for whatever reason Ace’s legs were as stiff as Deuce’s were shaky, “that is to say, I love you!”

‘What. The. Hell!’

Ace nearly screamed his thoughts, meanwhile yours stopped at ‘What’ while fighting to catch up with how Deuce buttering you up turned into an ardent confession. Ace on the other hand…

‘What kind of low grade, slice of life, romcom confession was that!? Love you? He can’t love you! You're both just a couple bunch of dumb teens! What the heck was he saying?’ Like you his brain was fighting to catch up with the proclamation, it was only when you spoke up that he snapped out of it.

“Deuce…” one of your best friends, ally in mischief and cohort in honour. All these connections seemed to dry your tongue, but you owed him a response because of that, “Love…is a strong choice of words. I know you care for me, I could never doubt that from you, we’re friends after all,” he flinched at the word, “you’ve been a great support, and I don’t think you give yourself enough credit for how you’ve helped me and others. You’re one of the people I trust the most in this world and mine, but love means something more. It suggests things, it promises a future that’s more uncertain than anything we’ve ever considered.” You struggle to look him in the eye.

And Ace finds himself nodding in agreement, if not a little bitterly. It was difficult to accept, but he knew exactly what you were both talking about, after all, you’re not even from this world—and there was no guarantee of how long you’d stay here. It was enough to pour cold water on his own passions, but he’d already come to terms with that possibility. Of course, it was heavily influenced by your departure not being guaranteed, but he knew and was prepared to accept your decision when it came to it. But even so, ‘I love you’ is a bit much for a high school confession. He couldn’t help but think that even that Dunderhead Deuce would get it now—

“I promise!” He didn’t miss a beat, “I know it sounds rash, and I know that I’m not thinking it all the way through, but everyday it feels like you could disappear right before my very eyes and it hurts!”

“Deuce.”

He took your hands in his, “I know we’re still students and a lot more’s gonna happen, but thinking everything through isn’t my strong suit, it’s yours, and I trust you and any future with you. So even if you deny it, I’ll still love you! Will you love me too?” His face was as red as his vest, but he didn’t back down, he just peered into your eyes.

You opened your mouth, but the words didn’t come. ‘What-if’ scenarios flood your mind, but none lead to any concrete answers. You had already decided you would go home should the chance arise. You had never been in a relationship before, it was uncharted territory that you had seen end in heartbreak. He’s one on your only safe allies in this world, what if he stops loving you? Questions and possibilities clouded the decision with maybe, his eyes remained as clear as the blue sky.

Your silence was torture, ‘Just reject him already,’ it wasn’t a certainty, but that made it all the worse. In Ace’s mind Deuce had as good of a shot as him, if not better—if that 3-word sentence didn’t knock it down a touch. You were friends too, even if he refused to acknowledged it. Still…even without considering the fact that he picked on you when you first met, while Deuce helped you; since then, what had he done besides actively add to your problems and leave you with the cleanup? That was it. He had to step in before—

“You’re right, it is rash,” Ace stepped back behind his cover, fist pumping silently, “You declare your feelings one-sidedly and then leave me to do the thinking!” Deuce lowered his head at your scolding. At this point, Ace almost felt bad for the guy—almost. “Do you even understand how fragile a relationship like that between us would be? You’re right, I could disappear anytime! Either as mysteriously as I appeared or owing to some eventual solution.” Both boys winced at this, even you bit back a cry, “In your proposed future, I wouldn’t just be losing all the friends I’ve made, but my boyfriend as well!” This time, you couldn’t silence the woeful crack in your voice, prompting the blue haired boy to pull you into his arms.

“Y/N, I’m sorry! I didn’t mean to—“

But you shook off his arms as easily as flipping over a hedgehog, “If you want to make that kind of promise, I NEED YOU TO UNDERSTAND just how thin the thread that’s holding it is!” You gave him a moment, and to Ace, it felt like he was given one too, “And if you do…would you let me try to love you too?”

“Buh?”

‘Wha?’

“You called me cautious, but I’m scared,” you pressed your face into his chest, “I plan because I’m too scared to be rash. But you always act based on how you feel and when I see you just going full throttle, I can’t help but want to be like you…and just like you…a lot, but I’m still terrified of liking you more, so will wait for me? Will you let me just say ‘I like you’?”

“Oh, O-of course! I lo—like you too! I really like you!”

“Then I’d be happy to be yours. I really like you too.” You took his hand in yours and you both left the clearing.

Ace didn’t know how long it had been since you two went off to do who-knows-what—but it was almost curfew. Did he even have a chance with you? Ace pushed off the tree he had been leaning on. He felt tired, but he didn’t want to head back to the dorm, after all, he would probably be there. But he couldn’t go to Ramshackle…he wasn’t ready—and he had know idea when he would be. He liked your smile, but today he just couldn’t stand to see it.

[lichanicksstuff]

What I love about Sherlock & Co. is that they aren't afraid to write close, healthy friendships. Many shows/books/etc. focus on the romantic aspect of every relationship, make characters pining for each other just to get people excited and thus - make a show more popular. I hate this. I hate that society puts romantic relationships on a pedestal and views them as something better than a deep platonic bond between friends. That's why I'm so grateful that the people working on Sherlock & Co. aren't afraid to do that, to play with character dynamics, and also to say a subtle "fuck you" to toxic masculinity.

[paceypeternathanslawyer]

People are so clearly biased in their hatred of John B

I seriously saw someone attack John B because he "didn't cry enough after JJ died" ya'll dipshits do realize that he cried more than Kiara did? Yet I don't see them attacking Kiara... and Kiara was dating the fuckin dude!!

John B literally can't do any right in the eyes of JJ stans. Tomorrow I'll see someone say that John B is horrible because when he cried, his tears fell down on his left cheek vs his right cheek 🙄🙄

[putonmyfavoriteshow]

I just rewatched a bunch of Supercorp fanvids and now my brain is rotting so hard from dormant feelings rising. I forgot how much they owned my heart. How did they inadvertently create the most heart-shattering, beautiful, romantic storyline featuring actors with the most palpable on screen chemistry I- 😭

[helenawa-art]

I hate how romantic relationships are always shown as the priority 😪😪😪😪😪😪

[trans-leek-cookie]

seeing ppl shipping marcille n chilchuck just makes me. Okay this sucks man. Like these r the least 2 compatible Dungeon Meshi characters chilchuck is a full hater of magic and elves and shit and like. Yeah he can grow out of that but marcille should not have to deal with this idiot. He already lost one wife he doesn't need to be inflicted on more women

[marshmalleaux-queen]

I am once again reminding everyone that platonic relationships in fiction are just as important as romantic/sexual ones. Not saying you're not allowed to ship characters romantically if you really want to - sometimes they really do work well together like that - but some people really need to get the idea out of their head that a relationship between characters wouldn't be interesting or fulfilling or meaningful enough if they aren't more than friends

[grapeskeeto]

big fan of aromantic kinitopet as an aro individual. now how do I reconcile that with selfshipping with him

[angeltism]

out of the shower , feeling slightly less shit about myself (and way less like saying uncalled for immature mean things) however still dealing with the realization that I am possibly the most replaceable person in the world

[tbh-entp]

in the final season of this love story with INFJ... 

See below the link if you want my musings.

I think I’ve come to terms with love is not all you need in a relationship! At least for me, there is an aspect of choice and what you’ll accept from someone... which it seems like I’ve always known but hadn’t put it to words until very recently.

INFJ and I went out quite a lot in the past couple of months but it was very ‘situationship’ given that I knew he was coming out of a relationship and wanted to leave the country for a short time. I helped him with his application letters and read thru his letters of rec and when this man finally asked me if we should try again. I was like sir, u tryna leave the country right?

It’s just amazing to me that I really feel that I love him and want to help him but at the same time, I’ve said no to him maybe three or four times since 2020--not including deflecting certain advances. So maybe I wasn’t letting my emotional conscious deal with the fact that my rational conscious did not want him. Also, we hooked up a month or two ago and I was lying there thinking oh wait... I didn’t feel anything? Or maybe it felt like an end. 

So ya! I think I was extrapolating romantic feelings that I had in the beginning of our relationship that had turned platonic. Also I very much know, and knew in 2020, that other than some sexy dramatics, he doesn’t offer me what I want. I think he wants me because he’s lonely. I also don’t really think that he knows what he wants and is chasing something. Meanwhile, I want a best friend and a partner. I also want some kids :). 

I recently met someone kind of great, an ENFJ, who I think was written by a woman (I’ll post abt this fabulous man later maybe idk but this helps me think?), and we’ve been dating for the past month. I broke the news to INFJ, who took it a little hard, and who apparently thought something was going to happen even though he’s moving to East Asia (bruh). I’m very pleased for the progress in any case <3, I’m very happy where I am these days, and I hope INFJ finds what he’s looking for!

[sonnburntskies]

I'm always mostly joking about SandNick because their friendship is literally the best part about this show, so wouldn't it be funny if the pair with the healthiest relationship got together in the end? But then THIS happened!? And somehow I love them even MORE now!?

The whole "we're both lonely and rejected but we get along so well, maybe WE should just be together" mess was handled in like, thirty seconds! And they weren't weird or awkward or hurt about it after, they just laughed it off and said "nope, never mind, still love you bro, let's cuddle and go to sleep" and just, AAHH!? This was so wholesome, I love them!!! Platonic besties for the win!

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[inkskinned]

the problem is that being single is seen as the consolidation prize, and not the natural neutral state of being-a-person. at the end of the movie or the book or the poetry, there is a person waiting for you at the altar, and they love you. if the play is a comedy, everyone gets married. the metaphor is about how you are not-whole. the metaphor is about how everyone is going to be happily-ever-after. the metaphor is that romantic love is the most important resource on the planet, not just all-love. all-love is not a thing, that is a disappointment. the treasure is not the friends we made along the way. the treasure is the girl you landed.

the metaphor is that you cannot be alone, that means you are broken. are you getting over someone? that is acceptable, you can be getting over someone, but not for long. you must be single because you would rather not be single. you must be single and looking to not-be-single. you must want to date, eventually.

friendship and community are never seen as being equal-to or even-better than romantic connection. that person is your one! you need to find them. you need to hunt through the sand particles until you can shift out some kind of gem. this is regardless to your own experience of the beach and the sun. you need to be somewhere with someone.

if you are taking this time alone to heal, that is so sad. everyone gives you this little pitying look. the understanding is that you are not actually happier than you were before you were single. it is seen as a sort of pity - oh, you are choosing yourself, making yourself the priority? - that isn't quite right. you must mean that you are making yourself ready for the right person. you are just laying the bed better this time. open up your heart. you'll find them, we promise!

what do you mean you're really-truly genuinely-very happy? you are probably misremembering what it was like to be in a relationship. and besides, once you meet your person, that time will look grey and bland and wasted. your person is the only way for you to see in color. so what if you have taken this time - for the first time in your entire life - to actually-for-real do the fucking work. you can be proud of yourself, sure. but the way we need to know that you got better is that you get a partner. you're healed enough for the next bad part!

people don't choose to be single, they just say they're choosing to be single - they actually mean "nobody wants to date me." it doesn't matter how many people you have gently rejected or how many times you've talked it over carefully in therapy. what matters is that you are single, and by all accounts - that means you are something worth our pity. your successes and life all seem pale in the sunlight. sure, you have done amazing things and finally found your way in life. what matters is that there wasn't a person in the room with you while you did it.

you want to tell them - that's the whole thing. i didn't know how to be alone in the room. i didn't know how to handle the silence. every moment was so sharp, and i kept choosing the wrong way to close the door. i have spent my entire life in the empty well, living in the ricochet of someone else's cruelty. for once i have built myself a ladder. for once everything i taste is all mine, every bite of sunshine and laughter. i have learned how to sleep out in the open with my memories. recently, they have started to purr.

your father rolls his eyes. listen. this isn't about you. i just want a grandchild in my future.

[thetisming]

amatonormativity: a romantic partner should be the most important person in EVERYONE'S life

NOT amatonormativity: MY romantic partner is the most important person in MY life, but i understand this is not the same for other people

allosexnormativity: EVERYONE should have sex and sex is something EVERYONE needs/wants/should want

NOT allosexnormativity: I PERSONALLY enjoy sex and love having sex because it makes ME feel good, but other people dont feel the same and that's okay

platonormativity: having friends is important for EVERYONE and EVERYONE needs/has/should have friends

NOT platonormativity: having friends is important to ME and I PERSONALLY love having friends, but there are people who dont and theres nothing wrong with that

faminormativity (is that the word?): family is important for EVERYONE and EVERYONE needs to have their family

NOT faminormativity: family is important to ME and I PERSONALLY need my family with me, but other people dont feel the same and i understand that

lovenormativity (again, not sure if this is a word): EVERYBODY feels love and there's something wrong wiith you if you dont

NOT lovenormativity: I PERSONALLY feel love and love people, but not everyone does and that's completely okay!

NOT amatonormativity: i dont have friends/have any desire to have friends, i am happy with other relationships/no relationships at all

NOT platonormativity: i dont have any desire to be in a romantic relationships, and i am happy with my platonic relationships

NOT allosexnormativity: i like hooking up with people and having one night stands or friends with benefits

NOT faminormativity: i care about my family deeply and am close with family members

NOT lovenormativity: i feel love for people i care about

it's not normative to personally enjoy something, so long as you respect that other people simply arent like you and aren't going to like the same things as you. taking down normativity is a two way street, allos and aspecs need to do it. support your local aros, aces, apls, afams and other aspecs today! remember to challange all normativities, and to not enforce other normativity by saying how bullshit other normativities are!

nothing is universal. romance is not universal. sex is not universal. friendship is not universal. family is not universal. love is not universal. nothing is universal.

[feathered-reefs]

#i personally read it as analogous to queerplatonic relationships in humans#its Decidedly not platonic. its not the same thing as best friends#like. specifically the 'more platonic sense soulmate' thats literally how i describe my qpps#they are my sun and my moon and the loves of my life and the way i feel about them is so distinctly different from the way i feel#about my other friends and even other historic best friends. but its not the same feeling as standard romance.#the idea of kissing them even is. bad. but also they are the other parts of my being and i would find them in any world#to me moiraillegance is queerplatonic. its not platonic its not the same thing as platonic#its not the same thing as human romantic though either#trolls just. consider it a form of romance where humans consider it something Different

every time im looking at any fandom post about moirallegiance i am forced to see the word “platonic” and immediately want to go punch a wall. i will never escape from the fanonwide consensus that moirallegiance is somehow not romantic 😭

[bloomshroomz]

Aroallos are often treated as inherently "more sexual" than other allosexuals. Here's why that assumption happens, and why it's bullshit.

Relationships are often treated as inherently hierarchical and strictly defined, due to amatonormativity and a-spec erasure. It usually goes something like this:

You can't have sex without romance. Sex is "dirty" and needs to be "balanced out" or "justified" with romance. Sex is exclusively physically stimulating, and therefore shallow, unless done in emotional service to romance.

Wanting to have sex with people outside of a romantic context is seen as "using" people, inherently. You're "using" them for their body, because you "don't care enough" to love them romantically. Your desires are deemed to be inherently predatory.

You can't have romance without sex. Romance needs to be "justified" with sex, otherwise it's "just platonic."

Wanting romance without sex is seen as "failing" your partner.

Sex and romance are to happen exclusively between two people.

Romantic relationships are more important than all other relationships, except for maybe family. And remember, sex is strictly confined to romance, which therefore means that sex is also more important than nonsexual/nonromantic connection.

Friendships are always less important than romance, and therefore, less important than sex as well. They exist at the bottom of the hierarchy. That's why we have phrases like "more than friends" to describe romance.

In other words, sex = romance, and sex/romance > friendship.

When you take away the romantic elements, you're left with this:

Romance is no longer there to "balance out/justify" the sex, making the sex apparently "more sexual" and "more dirty" and "less emotional" than it would be if it were romantic.

Your sexual desires are deemed inherently predatory.

Sex takes precedent over friendship and nonromantic emotional intimacy in the original hierarchy. Therefore, sex must take precedent over all forms of emotional connection if you're interested in sex without romance, and sex also cannot spark emotional stimulation or connection on its own.

Due to the previous points, you get reduced to a largely "physical" creature, with few or no emotional needs or desires. You are also assumed to disregard the emotional needs and desires of others.

Friendships are still less important than sex. So, even if your friends are the people you're having sex with, it's implied that you don't care about your friends, and you only value them for their bodies. Sex is an insult to your friendships.

Of course, this is bullshit. All of these "rules" are bullshit.

This is how it actually works:

You can have sex without romance. Sex is not "dirty" does not need to be "balanced out" or "justified" by romance. Sex can be emotionally stimulating and fulfilling without romance (though it doesn't have to be, and that's also fine).

There is nothing predatory about having sexual desires/intent without romantic desires/intent. There is nothing predatory about having sex outside of romance, so long as everyone consents.

You can have romance without sex. Romance does not need to be "justified" via sex.

You are not "failing" your partner by not wanting to have sex. You might be sexually incompatible if sex is something they want, but that is not "failure" on anyone's part.

Sex and romance can happen between as many people as you like, as long as everyone is on the same page about things.

Romantic relationships, as well as familial relationships, are not inherently more important than any other type of relationship.

Friendships are not inherently less important than other types of relationships. There is no inherent hierarchy.

Sex is not an insult to friendship. Having sex with your friends does not mean you only value them for their body.

Wanting sex without romance does not inherently mean that sex takes precedent over everything else. For some people, it does, and that's fine. But that's not usually the case, and it should not be assumed to be the case.

Quoting some stuff from myself and others:

People tend to assume that aroallos are always hypersexual, or always loveless, or always prioritize sex above all else when it comes to their relationships with people. And all of those things are valid experiences, but they don't apply to me personally. I've been trying to put it into words... People think that a lack of romantic attraction necessitates an amplified sexual attraction. Like just because I'm aro, I must be "more sexual" than other allosexual people. It seems like people think sexuality has to be "balanced out" with romance. But I'm not particularly sexual; I'm just not ace. [...] there's nothing wrong with prioritizing or emphasizing sexuality. But that's not an inherent aspect of being aroallo, and it doesn't describe me personally. The primary purpose of my relationships is emotional connection. Sex is just a cool thing that I may or may not do with people.

- Myself [Feb. 1, 2024]

I hate that when I announce that I'm aro, but not ace, people are like "yes fuck nasty I respect it 😏😏" like okay girl sure I do that but do you think I don't experience longing for human connection ? You heard non/aromantic and thought "wow, you must be so good with one night stands no emotional attachment whatsoever". Like no, I still (and you're not gonna believe this guys) care about the people I may or may not sleep with ?? Hello ??

- max-nicoxposts [June 4, 2024]

Alloaro culture is always being expected to either be asexual or hypersexual; nuance was something meant for others I suppose.

- Anon [May 28, 2024]

Aroalo culture is someone assuming I'm ace when I say I'm aro, and when I say I'm actually aro and bi they react with "so you're just a predator"

- Anon [May 27, 2024]

there's nothing wrong with being a man and wanting to sleep with men and not date them. it doesn't make you proof queer men are sex-crazed. there's nothing wrong with being a woman and wanting to sleep with women and not date them. it doesn't make you proof queer women are predatory. being alloaro doesn't make you a derogatory stereotype. you deserve respect, no matter what

- pansyboybloom [Jan. 16, 2024]

So much of the arophobia directed towards aromantic heterosexual men seems to be rooted in willful ignorance about what aromanticism actually is and how allosexual aromanticism differs from sexual objectification. Aromanticism is experiencing little to no romantic attraction towards others. That’s it. It isn’t the same as sending unsolicited dick picks to strangers or reducing women to their bodies. When a misogynistic man disregards a woman’s personhood in favor of treating her as a sexual object, it isn’t because he doesn’t experience romantic attraction to women. It’s because he chooses not to value women as people.

- heartless-aro [Dec. 30, 2023] [I highly recommend reading the full post. I only included one section here due to length.]

and if you're aromantic, you also have to be asexual. because sex without romance is immoral and dirty and abusive. and every aroallo is an invader who's trying to destroy your perfect, pure, sex-negative aspec community. if an aromantic is not asexual, they are not a valid aromantic. if you've ever found yourself wondering why aplatonics and aroallos alike have their own small communities instead of just being a part of the wider aspec community, this is why. you drove us away. and your acceptence of aromanticism is still entirely conditional.

- thermodynamic-comedian [May 29, 2024] [also recommend reading the full post]

[harmoonix]

𓆩♡𓆪 𝔾𝕚𝕒𝕟𝕥𝕤 II 𓆩♡𓆪

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~ This time ya gonna see how we do it like that ~ ──────────────────────────────

𓆩♡𓆪 Sagittarius Sun, Mars, Venus or Mercury will make you such a sassy person, literally "savage" the definition of these placements

𓆩♡𓆪 When you have Mars aspecting the Midheaven people will see you as a competition, they'll try to compete with you

𓆩♡𓆪 Cancer Mars and Moon can have issues with understanding their feelings, but that doesn't stop them from expressing themselves and getting better

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We're wide awake now, our eyes are wide open

We're running this world, we keeping it turning

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𓆩♡𓆪 Aries and Aquarius Lilith are 2 rebellious forces of nature, Lilith may act like she needs to change something in herself here, it can be in her personality

𓆩♡𓆪 Saturn in the same house as Lilith or conjuncting Lilith can be a dangerous placement because Lilith here won't listen to anybody and will do her own thing. She can feel chained up

𓆩♡𓆪 The aura a Capricorn gives is always dark, I love how Capricorn can resemble the dark "goat", Capricorn always gave Maleficent vibes especially when it comes to being ambitious

𓆩♡𓆪 Mercury/Gemini in the 5H can make you to be attracted be multiple people or to have more crushes, doesn't always have to be a relationship

𓆩♡𓆪 Leo Sun, Risings and Venus are the embodiment of a queen, for some reason I always think of Cleopatra of Egypt everytime I think about Leo placements ( Leo Venus gives highly Bastet vibes)

𓆩♡𓆪 If you have a "yang" moon sign like air or fire signs and you have Pluto aspecting the Moon, the aspects will make your moon to act more dark/misterious than already it is

𓆩♡𓆪 Lilith in Gemini/3rd house will tend to talk more harshly if they're feeling threatened by a person, especially if they want to call that person out for something

𓆩♡𓆪 Everytime I see someone trying to look for a "loyal relationship" I always think they must have Saturn - Venus aspects or Saturn in Libra or Saturn in the 5H or 7H!! major loyal relationship vibes

𓆩♡𓆪 Lilith in Leo. I love this placement but its bad trait can be that, they love the attention and if they don't get it. These natives can get mad or just annoyed about it

𓆩♡𓆪 Saturn in Scorpio or in the 8H talks about a major want or "need" for feeling comfortable with their intimacy or sexuality, they just want to feel good and protected in the same time

𓆩♡𓆪 Virgo Moons aspected by Lilith can act "unholy" which can indicate being more critical than usual maybe more strict even with yourself, is important to give yourself peace of mind

𓆩♡𓆪 Asteroid Sirene (1009) aspecting Saturn can make you to be more attracted in older people than you, sexually, romantically etc

𓆩♡𓆪 Asteroid Sirene (1009) aspecting the Sun will Influence the native to be more aware of their personality and aura, like you know how attractive and beautiful you can be

𓆩♡𓆪 Asteroid Eros (433) in Cancer/4H or Cancer Degrees 4°, 16°, 28° will mostly attract a partner who will be a familist/a person who puts family over everything/traditional spouse too

𓆩♡𓆪 Asteroid Eros (433) in Virgo/6H or Virgo Degrees 6°, 18° will mostly attract a very hardworking spouse, someone will know how important the "devotion" to the world

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𓆩♡𓆪 People don't talk enough about how Mars - Jupiter and Venus - Jupiter aspects can make you horny 24/7, not gonna lie their sexual hormones are crazy

𓆩♡𓆪 Saturn in Gemini or the 3rd house natives will find themselves constantly pushed into situations where the need to have good communication skills will become apparent

𓆩♡𓆪 Gemini Risings are remarcabile in making themselves socially liked by others, I admire their social skills and their friendship commitment

𓆩♡𓆪 Saturn in the 1st/10th and 6th house are big glow up placements, for yourself, career and even your mental health

𓆩♡𓆪 Asteroid Eros (433) in Libra/7H/ or at 7°, 19° degrees, can we talk a bit about how romantic these placements are?? Eros is getting into "addicted" phase here and is just so in love with everything

𓆩♡𓆪 Venus in Virgo/Venus in the 6th or Venus at 6°. 18° degrees can have quality time and acts of service as their love languages and they're honestly trying their best at making people feeling seen and comforted

𓆩♡𓆪 Neptune/Jupiter/Uranus in the 1st house can he gifted with spiritual gifts, they're usually much more spiritual than other people even since from childhood

𓆩♡𓆪 People don't talk enough about how Moon in the 9th house can make you tied to a certain culture or tradition. It can be yours or others, but you'll get so tied in that culture that you'll adore it

𓆩♡𓆪 I have my 7H lord in the 9H in my sidereal/vedic chart and my friends always joke about me marrying someone religious (I PRAY to not), im more spiritual than religious and marrying someone religious will be the end for me (They say I'm gonna marry a priest help 😭😭😭)

𓆩♡𓆪 Pluto in the 11th house will make the native more powerful in their communities, or in their social group, you gain power with community

𓆩♡𓆪 Asteroid Eros (433) in Capricorn/10th house or at 10°, 22° will attract that type of "boss" figure spouse in their lives, it can be a dominant figure too and very influential in their lives

𓆩♡𓆪 Moon or Venus in the 6H are the best placements to have if you love animals 🐶🐈🐨, I adore these placements in the 6H (can't relate I don't have any) but I love seeing them in a chart

𓆩♡𓆪 Some obvs. for your 1H lord in other house

1st house lord in the 6H > Prioritize your health and your capacity for work/service, taking a break is vital for you

1st house lord in the 2nd H > your self worth and is more precious than any gold or diamonds from this earth

1st house lord in the 7H > Relationships are healthy and important for a human but don't forget to prioritize yourself as well

1st house lord in the 5H > Finding your joy and your own talents is the best thing you can do

1st house lord in the 9H > Don't let others to decide your fate, you can do it by yourself! Try to be more free than ever

1st house lord in the 12H > Your subconscious is as powerful as your spirit, you learn that your destiny will always be by your side

𓆩♡𓆪 Having Saturn as your asc ruler like Cap or Aqua risings is not an easy job because Saturn is teaching you how to deal with life independently

𓆩♡𓆪 Venus in Aquarius/Venus at 11°, 23° degrees, people get so easily attached by you with this placement, you like "one of them" and the community support is always so heart warming

𓆩♡𓆪 Saturn or Mercury in the 6H can make you anxious at your job, not that "severe" anxiety but still stressing

𓆩♡𓆪 Lilith in Virgo/6H can be full of storms, because they can feel drained and tired from others energy, people tend to ignore or forget about their needs and these natives can end up in a bad mood

𓆩♡𓆪 Neptune/Pisces/Moon or Cancer in the 2H can get emotionally attached by the things they own. It can be a sentimental relationship with material things

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Ya thought that we were weak but we coming right back

This time ya gonna see how we do it like that

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𓆩♡𓆪 Saturn aspecting the Moon, especially in harsh aspects, has a hard time dealing with their emotions, is okay to let your feeling out sometimes

𓆩♡𓆪 Asteroid Sirene (1009) having no aspects or sitting empty in a chart can indicate a native who didn't discovered their sexual potential yet

𓆩♡𓆪 Pisces + Taurus combo in a chart can indicate a native who can be a very dreamy and artistic person, their talent can be insane

𓆩♡𓆪 Saturn/Pluto and Lilith in the 4H can grow in very strict households, and it is very important to heal and grow and to NOT be like them and to not fall in their footsteps in case they're toxic

𓆩♡𓆪 Jupiter aspecting the ascendant native is looking hella good because you'll have Jupiter blessing your body. If you don't love your body, start to do so

𓆩♡𓆪 Sagittarius Risings lining up to be some of the most luckiest people in the world because Jupiter, the planet of luck, is rulling their 1st house. The same can apply if you are Jupiter Dominant

𓆩♡𓆪 Having Jupiter aspecting the Neptune makes you the most dreamiest person ever, never stop believing in your dreams, or your magic will fade away literally

𓆩♡𓆪 Sagittarius + Libra combo in a chart can make you to be more bold, wild, sexy, pretty than ever, shine brighter than the diamonds with Venus - Jupiter as your rulers

𓆩♡𓆪 Scoprio + Virgo/Capricorn in a chart can make the native enchanted, mysterious, and even more magnetic. You can have vampire energy

𓆩♡𓆪 North Node aspecting Saturn gives the native the power to go through their obstacles in life, is indeed an indicator for having karmic lessons, but you gonna rise victorious out of this

𓆩♡𓆪 Venus aspecting Neptune or Pluto makes you fall in love with the 'bad' guys. They can be toxic, manipulators, and yes, extremely hot, but that was not the point ;)

𓆩♡𓆪 Sun aspecting Mars natives have that unique energy to make everything possible, they are very ambitious and will make it to happen

𓆩♡𓆪 Mars in the same house as Mercury or Mars aspecting Mercury will be very sassy/dramatic in their talks/conversations, even sarcastic sometimes

𓆩♡𓆪 12H in Leo/South Node in Leo/Saturn in Leo/8H in Leo gives "royalty up to my veins." They can have a presence of a royalty in other people's lives

𓆩♡𓆪 Pluto or Lilith aspecting the ascendant gives major jealousy vibes when it comes to your looks/appearance people wish to look like you

𓆩♡𓆪 Moon in the 11H/Moon in Aquarius natives are gifted with incredible friends in this life. The meaning of these placements is to find friends you can relate with, very underrated placements ♡

𓆩♡𓆪 Lilith in the 4H and Cancer Lilith can be placements because you're not always surrounded with love or kindness, that's why is hard for you to give the same energy back

𓆩♡𓆪 Air Risings remind me of 90's songs. For some reason, I have always considered the 90s to be Air Risings era, related to music style kinda makes sense because

Libra Risings because Venus gives them the gift of arts and music, Libra because of their unique fashion (The 90's fashion in music industry was BOMB)

Gemini Risings because Mercury is heavy tied with music and with what we hear, Gemini because is tied with communication and learning skills in music

Aquarius Risings because of Uranus's help to bring uniqueness and difference in music styles, also to make it widely more known, Aquarius to make it comfortable for the community of music

Not me debating the reason 😭😭 i got too deep with this subject lol

𓆩♡𓆪 Let me tell ya guys ,it happens to have my Lilith [1181] conj my Aphrodite in the 5H (house of kids😭😭), these both make me to not want kids never, and I actually like it because i am a generational curse breaker anyway. Thanks to Lilith, i know Lady Aphrodite can act more "baby fever" in the 5H!!! Not my in case 💅💅💅

𓆩♡𓆪 Speaking of Lilith 1181 aspecting your Neptune can make you to act more dreamy & enchanted, also very intutive

𓆩♡𓆪 Lilith 1181 aspecting your Moon makes you to be vulnerable at times, need to take care and to protect your energy! Dont depend on others

𓆩♡𓆪 Lilith 1181 aspecting your Venus will make you to act more possessive your relationships/spouse, will make you to be more in love even obsessed at times.

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