#aware of others perception of you and how your behavior impacts it?

[lilac-set]

Is it an autism thing that i cant wrap my brain around adjusting your behavior to fit how you wish to be perceived?

[hadesoftheladies]

I find it very unfortunate that most people have a very romantic, heroic and “male” view of revolution or activism. Most people imagine it as sudden, loud, violent, glorious, public sacrifice and bleeding in the street. You think of protest and you think of destruction of property, bonfires and gas masks. It is sometimes, big and large donations. These can lead to change, but they oftentimes risk being performative.

Revolution and protest, I think, are actually very quiet affairs. Revolution is reading and learning to deconstruct culture and human behavior. Your own mind, where the colonization happens. I think Revolution happens in the daily choices of what we choose to consume. When people live their lives as protest rather than wait for a big moment. I think boycotting shouldn’t simply be about getting companies to bend the knee. It should be about divesting from an entire industry of exploitation. Our way of life should change. Revolution is us changing. Changing our minds and choices. And living in such a way that we create a community, however small, of different living. Where we buy each other’s soaps and wooden spoons and rely on each other’s expertise instead of buying a subscription (and I’m generalizing here I am aware bc activism must be intersectional to be effective). It is far more impactful that I stop consuming dairy for a lifetime than that I starve myself for a month in protest. It is far more costly to these corporations and to the status quo that I alter my life.

Men’s idea of glory is dying for their beliefs. That is the predominant narrative of heroism. Everyone dies. But living in accordance to your principles? Living as radically as possible? That’s rare and that takes a whole lot of work. An entire lifetime of boycotting is far more destructive to these systems than simply punishing yourself or putting pressure on others in the heat of a mob. It is far more revolutionary to think the forbidden thoughts and so do the uncommon thing. By living this way, we open a door for a new way of living for others. And when we create a new system of living as a community, we set up pillars here and there that will eventually hold up the future we are trying to build. It takes longer. The best works of art take longer. Quality takes more time and focus than quantity, and too many of us are worried about the quantity (how many people can we get to post the black square) rather than quality (how do my decisions impact those around me and how can I use that?).

I think that’s why so many of you look down on things like separatism and veganism. It is less sensational and more (at least in perception) inconvenient. But I have contributed to the environment way more by not eating meat than I would by donating thousands of dollars to green charities. And the reason I am vegan is because other vegans helped me integrate into that lifestyle. They “socialized” me so to speak. Separatism socializes women and men, too. Women separating socializes future policy makers and little girls that would have otherwise (likely) ended up in abusive relationships. It’s not glamorous: does that make it less impactful?

I think revolutionaries are not the ones that merely give a nice speech for the newspapers or volunteer (I am NOT saying volunteering is not worthy or valuable activism). Rather I think revolutionaries are the ones who are willing to change how they think and how they live first. I think the greatest thing a person can give to their causes is their entire life. Not money. Not suffering. Not a few days in the soup kitchen. Their entire way of living. Their consumption habits and their civic activities. Their intentionality in interpersonal relationships.

I think that’s how anything’s ever gotten better in the first place.

[astropookie]

psyche persona chart (16)

i haven’t seen nana

*my interpretation, if I’m wrong pls let me k

I see psych as pure as no one can be, the purest, innocent, characterized by being blessed with THE beauty, even Aphrodite felt envy. she owned beauty from the inside out. victim of envy. reminds me of the feeling when you want to put someone in your pocket so nothing would happen to them. I think psych is a reminder of where we have to be aware of people’s probable negative attitudes towards us. where we can be innocently good at something and we’re not aware of what can drain/hurt us. how our soul is exposed. what’s eternal even if we’re gone -not necessarily ded-.

ascendant: overall aura, first impression, energy our soul took shape when we borned. our beauty, characteristics we have others envy, other’s perception. nature of our soul and eternity. true expression of our soul, where our soul shines without effort, identity. how our soul approaches life.

2H: where/when/how our soul craves stability, security. what you’re most secure about others envy. priorities of you soul. habits your soul copied.

3H: what our soul craves to communicate in their journey. in what areas our soul connects/matches their intellect. what intelectual activity -mindset- catches our soul’s attention and connects with it -what you like and are good at-.

4H: maternal side of your soul or what awakes a maternal behavior on your soul. roots/ancestors. soul family. how your soul would like/need your family to be? characteristics others envy about your family or life at home -what you show off-. what your soul needs to feel at home. how your soul is impacted/influenced by what 4H represents.

5H: how and in what way your soul needs to have fun. what causes that. what type of drama/ and how often you’re in those kind of situations. intensity of people who envy you and envy. how your soul is innate artistic. your beauty when you’re being childish and unconscious of situations. what your soul needs to do for your inner child.

6H: in what situation your soul naturally gives without waiting for the other part to return. characteristics of your soul made you think serve to help -any situation-, constantly. In what way your soul is comfortable in any daily basis. what others envy about your usefulness, solidarity, analytic capability, etc.

7H: what your soul craves to manage so your life can be balanced. your soul’s romantic nature. your soul’s attitude towards relationships, what your soul craves. what others envy about your attitude and relationships and how are they -the ones who envy-. Traits of the person your soul would feel comfortable with them as a partner?

8H: how’s your soul affected when you had sex, what’s draining your soul. what your soul craves in this lifetime. is your soul open to intimacy? what does your soul wants to keep as a mystery? why? traits our soul inherited from our ancestors. what influenced your soul drastically. what provokes our soul to transform.

9H: what do you believe deeply. your morals, what’s undeniable about you. nature of your souls beliefs, philosophy. your souls attitude towards something different, towards other cultures/countries, etc. what others envy about your wisdom/way of seeing things. what others learn about you, that’s “eternal”.

10H: what does your soul wants to achieve? souls mission in this journey. characteristics of the masculine figures who influenced on your soul. when do you are protective? how much do you let that structure to define your soul? what others envy about you and everything that has to do with this house. what others from afar would describe you, honestly. your influence on a big group of people, your eternal mark on others.

11H: how you, without that ego, peeling the layers, connect with others? what does your soul search for in a relationship, any kind. values your soul can’t be indifferent when you’re interacting with others. what others envy about your your friendships, the way you interact with them. what’s your charm? when makes other admire you -bc of your influence-.

12H: what does your soul scapes from? karmic characteristics your soul has from other times. true shape of your soul, the most vulnerable part. pattern of healing, how you struggle with it. what type of karma you’re having in this lifetime, what type of karma you provoque on others. how do you react or proceed to end things. how do you act when you’re opening up about your past experiences and what you’ve learned from them. what others envy about those things 12H represents.

my chart observations

7H capricorn moon: I contradict myself a lot, since I was a child I always dreamed to have someone to rely on, who’ll understand me -imposible- and cared about me like no one, in romantic terms. never have told these openly bc that Capricorn moon appears.

mars conjunct saturn: it could be interpreted in a lot of ways. the determination of my soul is accompanied by compromise. there’s an undeniable lider characteristic.

sun 12H opposition pluto 6H: it does mean you’re a nostalgic soul. PLS 12H reminds me of nostalgia and 6H of overthinking. guess what? you overthink on the daily basis and remember, your childhood -if you even can😭-, the past. you always remember and overthink it and every time you do it, you get more depressed. also, your soul sees the world and feels it VERY deeply. you don’t like the superficial. it also tells me you’re analyzing every move and you could get trapped on one analysis and overthink it too much.

1H mercury 15° (gemini degree): so yes, my soul needs to communicate their needs, express themselves is like breathing. communication is about talking about their way of seeing life, presents a unique way of approaching to people and let them k how they feel/what they wanna do/etc. the need of this people to be seen, with mercury 1H, increments. so the ego could interpose on the way of the soul.

11H taurus venus square neptune 8H: in simple words, taurus on 11H makes the individual feel and believe without hesitation on their values. it could mean they easily discard friends that proved they weren’t as much as “friends” as they said to be. they don’t like to act in a way they won’t like to. there’s a difference between what you “should” and what you “want”, 11H taurus /venus struggles with these dilema. probably they’ll end up the option that would let them be true to themselves. NOW, with the square neptune 8H, ITS FCKING SCREAMING to my face you get drain by toxic relationships you let enter in your life bc of expectatives/idealization on relationships.

9H pisces: EMPATHETIC ASF. could have lived a “rebirth”, were you questioning why do people hate so much? these people really care for others and want to find solutions to solve others problems. people envy that 9H pisces could be really wise, they could see things in the way they’re, even though in the process they blindly believe everyone is as good intentioned as them. it’s another way of thinking.

cancer ascendant trine north node: you have to embrace the characteristics of cancer, your sensitivity, loyalty, nurturing, etc. it’s your true self 😭 even though I tried so hard to covered it -Saturn rising in natal chart- it always appears, it’s how my soul it’s formed and ICANNOTDENYITANYMORE. psyche chart it’s calling me out.

*dividers are not mine

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♡ based on personal experience and I’ve analyzed in my surroundings.

♡ english is not my first language.

♡ I’m not a profesional astrologer.

thank youu. baibaiii🫣🫶🏼💋

Do not copy. Please give me credits.

[serial-unaliver]

My response to this post about the possibility of Michigan school shooter Ethan Crumbley's mom being charged with involuntary manslaughter I was tagged in (putting it in a separate post because I don't feel like starting shit with anyone):

The case here being used is unique to other shootings. Typically mental illness is not actually the primary deciding factor for violence. Media coverage of school shootings has caused more school shootings than mental illness. A large amount of school shooters were inspired by the ideology of other school shooters. If Columbine wasn't treated the way it was I have no doubt there would've been less shootings.

When it comes to negligence involving mental health I don't actually see a big increase in surveillance or institutionalization as some are claiming though. The fact is parents can already use mental health as an excuse to force their kids into abusive 'treatment' with no consequence. It happens in every psych ward. It's also already used in legal cases as well, that happened to me and it did in fact lead to being forced into harmful treatment, so really the precedent and incentive is already there for those who choose it in my opinion. Meanwhile there's the opposite case where parents would rather their kid cause destruction than admit any mental health issue exists regardless of consequence. Logic is thrown out the window for the most part.

Now the defense of Ethan's mom is claiming he is a manipulator and not mentally ill. While anyone who follows me knows I despise the mental health argument about school shootings, it's quite clear this kid's actions prior to the shooting were at the very least a cry for help. He didn't try to make this secretive and even drew pictures of it. If his parents didn't care about this, it's possible he's neglected in some way at home, which can actually lead to antisocial behavior and acts of violence or threats of them, because, well, one would assume your parents would finally give a fuck about your well-being in that case. I'm diagnosed with a cluster B personality disorder partially due to "manipulative behavior" in the past which seemed horrible and illogical but was literally the only way I thought anyone would know I was hurting. Obviously I don't know if this is what's actually going on in Ethan's case, but what everyone can agree on is the parents' response to all this was not normal or acceptable and doesn't exactly paint an image of a well-adjusted family. And I do wonder if the "manipulator" argument comes from the (most common) perception that anyone with this behavior was just born evil.

ANYWAY, here are some articles/resources on common causes of school shootings and how media coverage and environment impact them, both to spread awareness and to point out that you should not in fact paint anyone as born evil or a future shooter just for certain issues.

• Bullies, black trench coats: Columbine’s most dangerous myths

• Violence has grown since California's incel shooting

• Who is most likely to get bullied at school?

• School shootings and student mental health (Includes more detailed statistics but some are misleading - the one on bullying is based on public perception of shootings, not actual cases, and the one on violent video games has no real correlation. Let this be a reminder to research your own sources!)

[hermajestyimher]

Hello <3

I am currently 20, in the process of enhancing every aspect of my life so I would really appreciate if you could generously list your resources for self-improvement in general.

And one more question, how to make people take me more seriously? I am quite the youngest member in my family and everyone have always been so over-protective of me that they always see me as this little girl even though I am almost a grown woman lol.

Thanks!

Thanks for your question. I commend you for wanting to invest in yourself and self-improvement.

The resources I use to shape my mindset toward success are a mixture of books, podcasts, subliminals, and direct revelation from God. I'll break these parts down for you:

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Books:

There are a lot of books out that deal with the topic of self-improvement and you are almost guaranteed to find some that will be able to help you in whichever area of your life you wish to get better at. The key, when it comes to these books, is that you have to find ones that you know you can action realistically in your life. Theory can be energizing and inspirational, but it is ultimately futile if you are unable to put the gained knowledge into reality.

You must seek books that are practical in their way of describing how to succeed in whatever subject they touch upon and focus exclusively on that specific book so that you may action its commands and see real results in your life.

I'll give you 5 books that I've used throughout the year that have helped me mold my character in meaningful and practical ways:

She Comes First, by Brian Nox.

Can't Hurt Me, by David Goggins.

The Alter Ego Effect, by Todd Herman.

Stop People Pleasing, by Patrick King.

Fabulosity, by Kimora Lee Simmons.

Podcasts:

Podcasts are a good way of keeping your mind "fed" constantly with content and knowledge from others. I use them not just for knowledge, but also for entertainment. I enjoy podcasts that deal with politics, human psychology and behavior, societal phenomena, travel and culture, business, success life stories, and even some niche topics of interest.

Whatever podcasts you choose to listen to will be a very personal choice. My rule of thumb is to not waste time listening to someone just because they seem authoritative in the field of self-improvement if the messages they are putting forward do not resonate with you. It's ok to be picky with this type of content.

Subliminals:

This is something that I've never touched upon before directly on my blog, but it is something that I've been digging into a lot lately and I've found has been positively impacting my life.

Subliminals are audio messages that we play in the background while we do other activities. The concept behind them is that our subconscious mind can pick up and internalize the messages being played and therefore can help in reprogramming our own internal self-concept and beliefs. It can help you manifest things because you genuinely believe that they are possible for you, rather than pretending.

Subliminals are extremely powerful because if utilized correctly they can help you shape your entire personality and perception of yourself towards one that is more self-loving, positive, and confident. It can help us erase the damage of harmful things we've internalized throughout the years and replace them with thoughts that are working in our favor.

If you or anyone else from the blog would like for me to dive deeper into this subject and share some of the subliminal that have helped me (including my own creations), please let me know!

God:

This part is simply all about having communion with God. I've found out that in the periods that I'm away from him and that I do not take our relationship seriously, I become an easier target for spiritual attacks and also less in tune with my spiritual gifts. It's hard to hear from him when my spiritual life is filled with so much baggage that does not come from him. And whether you are aware of it, everything around us is spiritual in one way or another: the music that we listen to, the people we spend time with, the places we live, the content we consume, the things we allow others to speak into our lives, etc.

It's important that I read my Bible, pray, and worship without ceasing. God purifies our spirits and removes bondages this way. He gives us a renewed mind full of discernment and peace. We can hear from him more clearly and be led through a path of prosperity.

This is something that I need to get back on with him, as I have fallen off throughout the years. But understanding that you do not have to make life alone and that investing in your spiritual life can only tenfold your riches in the physical realm is crucial for us to live a life of purpose and success.

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I hope this list was helpful, and if you or other people would like to delve deeper into any of these or other subjects, please let me know.

[zoeykallus]

The Bad Batch x Reader HCs - Abandonment Issues

As requested by @golden-nyx-ghost I hope I'm not too far off the mark 😅

Warnings: Mentioned Anxiety/Implied Traumatic Experience/Hurt/Comfort/Also; Crosshair (I mean strong language)

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Ko-Fi (If you feel like giving me some coffee)

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I had to do a little research on that topic and thought I'd share what I found.

Abandonment issues is an informal term that describes a strong fear of losing loved ones or of them leaving a relationship. This fear can result from trauma, anxiety, and other mental health conditions.

Most common “symptoms”

worry that friends or partners will leave them

constantly look for signs that others do not really like them

need frequent reassurance that others love them

always try to please others, even at their own expense

give too much in relationships, or have a lack of boundaries

stay in unhealthy relationships due to a fear of being alone

What it can do to a person:

Have anxiety: Both children and adults with fear of abandonment may feel chronically anxious, especially if they feel a relationship is about to end.

Experience relationship challenges: Anxiety about abandonment can alter a person’s perceptions of their relationship, causing them to see problems where none exist. They may be sensitive to any sign of rejection, or find it difficult to trust that their partner will not leave. This can result in clingy behavior, which may impact the relationship.

Communicate poorly: People with abandonment issues may develop harmful communication techniques to ease their anxiety. For example, they may engage in attention-seeking behavior to get the love they feel they might lose.

Engage in harmful behavior: People with a fear of abandonment can sometimes try to prevent their partner from leaving them through manipulative or even abusive behavior. For example, a person may try to prevent someone from socializing with others. This is a form of coercive control.

Source

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AC: Of course, there are different forms of this problem, and it doesn't have to go to the extreme right away. At this point, we assume that no chronic, negative (harmful) behaviors have manifested yet.

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Hunter

He is often quiet, introverted, but unlike you might think, he listens very carefully, is alert, attentive. He does not miss when your mood changes, and you are suddenly unsettled. Hunter reads your body language, notices every little thing. But he doesn't want to barge in, so he first tries to find out what makes you tick, to learn something about your past.

Gradually, he realizes what's bothering you, why you're sometimes so tense and overprotective when you communicate with him, why you sometimes barely let him out of your sight.

"You're afraid," he says unexpectedly.

You look at him, startled; you weren't really aware of it yourself. But now that he brings it up, you feel it abundantly clear.

"You won't lose me, you won't lose any of us. You won't get rid of us that easily."

You blink and say softly, "I've heard that before."

Hunter sighs softly, but smiles at you.

"You will see and learn with time that your past can't determine your future, it can only if you let it. You can count on us"

He grabs your shoulder and looks deep into your eyes.

"Do you trust me?"

You can't help but nod, Hunter's eyes, his expression, you feel so close to him.

"Good, have a little patience, that feeling of security you crave, it will come with time".

Echo

With him, you can talk openly about everything, he is a good listener, and he will always try to find a solution to the problems discussed between you. Echo can well understand what this fear of being abandoned or losing people is and how it feels. As a soldier, one inevitably deals with it a lot. Echo lost a great many of his brothers, not only to war, but also to Order 66.

"Some things we can't hold on to, no matter how hard we cling to them. That's a realization that's hard, but it comes eventually. You have to come to terms with it, make friends with it."

You wrap your arms around your body as if you need to hold on to yourself.

Echo sits down next to you and continues, "None of us want to leave you, but sometimes that's not in our power to decide. Voluntarily, we will never turn our backs on you. But you have to come to terms in a healthy way with the fact that some things are beyond our control."

You sigh softly and say, "I know, I just care that you don't seek distance from me because of me."

Echo laughs softly and says, "You're not getting rid of us that easily."

Wrecker

This cheerful guy is also a good listener and a good distraction. Wrecker can always carry you away and get you out of your darkest worries and thoughts. But he can also listen to you seriously and calmly when you need it.

He is attentive and much more empathetic than some might think.

Wrecker listens and nods in understanding.

"I know it's not the same, but I also sometimes fear losing my brothers. Well, as a soldier, you just worry about the things that might happen in the field. But you can't let that make you crazy."

You smile wryly at him.

"We certainly won't let you down on purpose," Wrecker says with conviction.

"Are you sure?"

"You're not losing us, we're here for you, every one of us," he says with a smile, thrusting a box of Mantel-mix into your hand.

You look up at him and say, "I've thought that about other people too."

Wrecker says perkily, "But we're not other people, we're Clone Force 99, and we deliver what we promise."

Tech

"Change is a fundamental part of life. People come and go, sometimes even those who are particularly close to us. That is quite normal. To be afraid of it is pointless."

You frown and say critically, "Aren't you afraid of suddenly being alone at some point?"

Tech goes into himself for a moment, thinks, then answers, "Not really. It's relatively unlikely that I'll suddenly find myself all alone at some point."

"Couldn't that theoretically happen to anyone?" you ask.

He frowns and says, "Well, theoretically it can, but there's also a probability factor."

You raise your eyebrows.

"Are you trying to tell yourself that right now because you're actually afraid of it too?"

Tech looks at you indignantly.

"I'm not afraid. There's no reason to be, and there's no reason for you to be. Why would we abandon you?"

You shrug, scenarios coming to mind.

"It's enough when priorities change, meeting new people in someone's life, that's often enough to split groups," you say seriously.

Tech hesitates.

"Well… yes, that may be true…"

"But?"

He sighs and says, "If you let that anxiety consume you, you can't enjoy the time you have with the people around you at all. This constant anxious tension is unhealthy"

"That may be," you admit quietly.

Tech hands you back your holopad he fixed for you.

"Here. Good as new," he says with a small smile.

"Thanks Tech, and thanks for listening".

"Anytime."

Crosshair

He has already recognized your behavior and that you cling does not agree with him at all. He can't handle it very well. Crosshair at least tries, in his own way.

"What do you want me to say? People leave us sometimes, and sometimes they leave us behind".

He himself has already had this painful experience, and actually he knows exactly how it feels.

"Hurts like a bitch, but it will pass. You can't let that define your life"

"That's easy for you to say," you sigh, dropping into your bunk.

Crosshair sighs deeply before sitting down on the bunk across from yours that actually belongs to Hunter and looks at you.

"No, I'm not just saying that. I've been through this experience too, I know it sucks, and I know you can get through it if you don't let it consume you."

You sit up and look at him questioningly.

"And how did you do that? How did you deal with it?"

Crosshair sighs again, shakes his head, and says grumpily, "You might not want to take an example from that"

"Why not?"

"My approach was unhealthy, too," he says reluctantly.

As you look at him questioningly, he continues, "Echo would probably say I'm stubborn as shit, but that wasn't it, not quite."

"Then what was it?" you ask cautiously, sensing that you're on sensitive ground here.

Crosshair looks around as if to make sure the two of you are alone. Finally, he looks at you again.

"I didn't cling to other people, but to being a soldier, to my supposed duty. The reason why my brothers and I actually parted ways to begin with. I plunged deeper into it, so deep that soon I was no longer myself. The whole process was painful, for me and others, you should not take an example from that".

You don't say the question that is on the tip of your tongue, but he answers it anyway, as if he felt it.

"Enjoy what you have, hold on to the positive things, not the negative. Deal with it, but deal with it sensibly. You can't force anything, neither that people stay with you nor that old wounds heal. Everything needs time and some work. But you can be sure, we would never abandon you willingly, none of us".

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[rin-fukuroi]

𝐓𝐫𝐮𝐥𝐲 𝐛𝐞𝐚𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐟𝐮𝐥 [𝐍𝐞𝐮𝐯𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐞]

Please do not translate or publish my works without my permission.

The originals of my works can be read here

Fandom: Genshin Impact

Pairings: Neuvillette x fem!reader

Warnings: just cute fluff

Note: English is not my native language, so I apologize if there are errors in the text qq

I've seen enough art with Neuvillette in glasses, so I couldn't keep it to myself anymore!

— Do you want me to… put on glasses? — the Hydro Dragon's eyes widen when he looks up at you, looking up from the stack of papers lying on his desk.

Your sudden requests and desires never cease to amaze him. Although people in general are still a mystery to Neuvillette, but you seem to be a puzzle for him, which he will never be able to cope with. Maybe that's why he fell in love with you for the first time. Despite the fact that your behavior sometimes raises a lot of questions in his head, the Chief Justice of Fontaine really believes that his place is next to you. Sudden changes in your mood are so hard to predict, and your actions do not cease to surprise him day by day. This… Truly beautiful.

— Yes, — you rest your elbows on the wooden surface of the table in Neuvillette's office, resting your head on your palms in anticipation. The eyes in which these fascinating sparks always dance, which the Hydro Dragon lacks, but for some reason, when you look at him as if he is the core of your little amazing world, the structure of which he has yet to understand, Neuvillette's gaze also softens, imbued with your infectious brilliance.

— Do you understand that I have no problems with my eyesight, right?

— Yes, yes, I am aware that you are my great Hydro Dragon, and human health problems are alien to you, but … I'm sure you will look stunning in them! — you smile radiantly, removing one of your hands from your chin to push your glasses a little closer to Neuvillitte's puzzled sitting figure.

— Stunning?.. — he's really confused, but it seems to mean that you think the glasses will look good on him, right?

The Judge's eyebrows furrow when he looks at the thing you so insistently suggest him to wear, and a quiet sigh escapes from his chest before the corners of his lips barely noticeably stretch into a smile.

You watch in anticipation as his long, thin fingers gently straighten the arches of his glasses, slowly bringing them to his face. Neuvillette's long eyelashes lightly touch his cheeks when he closes his eyes, carefully, as if in his hands a real luxury item, arranging glasses on the bridge of his nose. He is always so sensitive to any thing that you give him, whether it's a wardrobe item or a freshly baked bun, which is hardly worth being especially careful with. But that's why you love him. Neuvillette isn't tainted by human vices, is not spoiled by prejudices. He's just the way he is, and watching him will never cease to arouse your interest.

As soon as the mother-of-pearl pale purple eyes open, looking confusedly at you through thin glasses, your hands suddenly tremble slightly at your face. Neuvillette notices how your lips part and your pupils dilate while your eyes are mesmerized by his chiseled features.

Perfect.

He looks even better than you might have expected. The image of Neuvillette has never been quite modern, but the way glasses only complement his classic style of clothing, emphasize the correct features of his face, the way from such a small detail the aura of order and rigor emanating from the Supreme Judge is usually felt even more clearly, simply cannot but admire.

But the man is really confused. You are silent, without saying a word, just continuing to stare at him as if he is a painting painted by a talented artist in one of Fontaine's galleries. Nothing has changed, he's still the same as before, so why is your gaze oozing with adoration now, even more than usual? Can such little things really change the human perception of other people's appearance so easily?

— You… — finally Neuvillette hears your voice, sounding so frighteningly quiet. Your eyebrows furrow, and the Chief Justice straightens up in his chair, not understanding what you're going to say next. Are you happy? Upset? Did he make you angry about something? — You look absolutely gorgeous, Neuvi.

A burning warmth tingles Neuvillette's cheeks. He always feels so stupid when he can't figure out what you're thinking, but maybe that's the reason why his interest in you will never fade? You're so funny when you smile, slightly squinting your eyes and reaching out to remove a stray snow-white strand of soft hair from his flushed face.

Even if you have a much shorter period of stay in this world, even if you are so different that it even scares the Hydro Dragon sometimes, but he appreciates every moment spent with you, imprinting in his memory every smile that touched your lips, and every sound of your gentle voice addressing him with such awe that his heart can't help but beat faster in his chest.

— When we get home, you have to wear them again, because it's sexy as hell! — and again your mood changes, as if by a click, when you giggle, leaning back in your chair, playfully examining the confused expression on the face of the Supreme Judge.

His shoulders relax slightly, and his hands reach for the papers on the table again.

— If that's what you want, I'm ready to wear them whenever you want.

[laidee-flegman]

Shadow work prompts for dealing with shame

Reflect on a recent experience where shame surfaced. What triggered it, and how did you react?

Write about a recurring pattern of shame in your life. What situations tend to ignite this emotion?

Explore the connection between shame and your sense of identity. How does it shape the way you see yourself?

Reflect on messages about shame you received in your childhood. How do they influence your self-perception now?

Write about the stories you tell yourself when shame arises. What beliefs underlie these stories?

Identify societal or cultural influences that contribute to your understanding of shame. How can you challenge these influences?

Explore the impact of shame on your self-worth. How can you separate your value from momentary feelings of shame?

Reflect on the role of perfectionism in relation to shame. How can you embrace imperfections without feeling ashamed?

Write about a time when shame led to self-destructive behavior. What can you learn from that experience?

Explore the concept of vulnerability in the face of shame. How can you be more open about your struggles?

Reflect on the role of comparison in relation to shame. How does comparing yourself to others impact your experience of shame?

Write about the impact of social media on your feelings of shame. How can you cultivate a healthier relationship with these platforms?

Identify situations where shame becomes a way to avoid your own needs or desires. How can you prioritize your authentic self?

Explore the fear of rejection or abandonment in relation to shame. How does it influence your behavior?

Reflect on the concept of self-forgiveness when faced with shame. How can you release guilt and embrace self-compassion?

Write about the impact of shame on your mental and emotional well-being. How can you prioritize self-care in these situations?

Explore the concept of accepting responsibility without internalizing shame. How can you learn from mistakes without feeling unworthy?

Reflect on moments when you've projected your insecurities onto others, leading to shame. How can you take responsibility for your emotions?

Write about the stories or assumptions you create about yourself when shame arises. How can you challenge these narratives?

Explore the connection between shame and the desire for external validation. How can you validate yourself internally?

Reflect on moments when you've downplayed or dismissed your achievements due to shame. How can you celebrate your successes authentically?

Identify situations where shame becomes a barrier to setting and maintaining boundaries. How can you assert your needs confidently?

Write about the impact of competition within your relationships. How can you shift from competition to collaboration?

Explore the concept of mindful awareness in the midst of shame. How can you observe and understand your emotions without judgment?

Reflect on the role of self-compassion in managing shame. How can you speak to yourself with kindness and understanding?

Write about the impact of shame on your sense of inner peace. How can you find calmness amidst the storm of self-judgment?

Identify moments when shame has led to the erosion of relationships. How can you repair and nurture those connections?

Explore the concept of joy in celebrating your authentic self without feeling ashamed. How can you genuinely appreciate who you are?

Reflect on the possibility of reframing shame as an opportunity for growth. What lessons can you extract from these experiences?

Write about a future scenario where you navigate shame with resilience and self-love. What steps can you take to embody this vision?

[vikingsvices]

PDA in the digital age

With the whole world as a potential audience, oversharing details about your relationship online can lead to unintended consequences and become a source of discomfort. An overemphasis on social media public displays of affection can create pressure to perform happiness, potentially overlooking the authenticity of a relationship. It can also invite external scrutiny and feedback, which may not always be positive.

On the other hand, the public affirmations of romantic satisfaction on platforms such as Facebook have been linked to higher relationship satisfaction among couples, according to researchers at Albright College. It’s imperative that couples assess the impact of their virtual PDA, not just on personal privacy but also on the health and perception of their romantic relationships.

Cultural perspectives on public displays of affection

Couple displays affection through a kiss while standing on a bus.cs

Cultural factors significantly influence how individuals and societies navigate PDA on social media. In liberal societies, sharing kisses, holding hands or other forms of physical affection might be widely prevalent and accepted on digital platforms. Meanwhile, in more traditional or conservative cultures, such public exhibitions might be frowned upon or even lead to social or legal consequences, affecting the nature of content shared online.

Practical tips for PDA on social media

Navigating the complexities of online PDA requires a strategic approach. Here are several practical tips for individuals and couples attempting to maintain respectful levels of PDA on social media:

1. Communicate with your partner about comfort levels regarding online PDA to try and ensure both parties are on the same page.

2. Consider the potential implications and long-term permanence of the content you share—once online, your displays of affection can be difficult to entirely remove.

3. Cultivate an awareness of your audience; remember your social media friends or followers include colleagues, family and even future employers.

4. Employ privacy settings to control who can view the personal moments that you choose to share.

5. Reflect on why you are sharing—if it’s for validation or to invite commentary on your relationship, it may be wise to reconsider.

In a data-driven world where personal information is invaluable, following these tips can help  couples express their affection thoughtfully without compromising personal boundaries or privacy.

The impact of public displays of affection on relationships

Lovers, man taking a picture with his woman on valentines day for social media

PDA on social media can reveal significant insights into the dynamics of a romantic relationship, with research from Albright College illuminating how relationship satisfaction correlates with online behavior. The study discovered individuals more content with their partnerships tend to actively share affectionate posts, including couple photos and loving comments on their partner’s social media timeline. This suggests that for many, the visibility of their relationship’s happiness plays out through their interactions on social networks.

However, this same practice of engaging in PDA online can also be indicative of underlying relational insecurities. The same Albright College survey found individuals with relationship contingent self-esteem (RCSE)—a measure of self-worth based on the status of one’s relationship—are more liable to post details and pictures demonstrating their romantic connections. These findings imply social media can serve as a platform for affirming relationship validity to oneself and others but potentially at the cost of personal or relational well-being.

How couples can navigate discomfort related to oversharing on social platforms

Striking a balance between sharing and privacy remains a tightrope walk for couples engaging in PDA on social platforms. While a moderate level of online affection can be seen as a healthy acknowledgment of a partner, when such actions stem from compulsion rather than choice, they may lead to negative consequences. A study published in the Journal of Cyberpsychology, Behavior and Social Networking highlights the increased likelihood of relationship conflicts related to frequent Facebook use, with these conflicts relating to adverse outcomes such as infidelity and breakups.

For couples navigating the discomfort of oversharing, experts emphasize the importance of maintaining a balance. While online displays of affection aren’t inherently negative, they should not become substitutes for actual expressions of love and should be accompanied by efforts to bolster self-esteem independent of the relationship’s online representation.

Conclusion

As couples grapple with the complexities of online PDA, it’s imperative to set boundaries and approach digital affection thoughtfully. In a world where the line between public and private is increasingly blurred, managing the visibility of relationships on social media is not only a matter of social decorum but also an expression of respect for personal boundaries and privacy. Digital platforms like Peoplelooker.com could help you take control of how you portray your love in the digital age.

Disclaimer: The above is solely intended for informational purposes and in no way constitutes legal advice or specific recommendations.

[captureversepalette]

Grey areas we cover up by calling them flaws. Our "flaws" are what differentiate us from one another. Not only are we different, but everyone has their own way of dealing with these differences. Some like to wear them as accessories, others try to hide them beneath the surface, and then there are those who don't give a damn about them. I respect all of them, and why shouldn't we? Right?

Some flaws are like colors filling up our lives like a rainbow; some are like asteroids, and others are like shooting stars. They look beautiful while breaking and end up turning us into something we may or may not want to become. These imperfections, in their varied forms, add depth and dimension to our lives. They shape our experiences, molding our perspectives and influencing our actions.

All that matters in this process is the acknowledgment and acceptance of these flaws. In the end, they define us, right?

What are these flaws?

Why are they so important?

Why are they a part of us and society?

Why do they impact us?

Let's find out the answers to all the "Whats" and "Whys" together.

I overthink, they say, and consider it my main flaw. What I think about it is that I like to think through things, understand the things better, process them, plan if required, and consider future perspectives. This trait allows me to delve deeply into issues, seeking to understand them from every angle, though it sometimes leads to paralysis by analysis.

Is it a flaw? I don't know. What is it? What do I consider it? Definitely a characteristic of my personality. It's something that makes me, me. It drives my need for clarity and thoroughness, yet it also can be a source of anxiety and second-guessing.

I consider my bluntness and straightforward behavior one of my biggest flaws. It often lands me on a sinking ship with no lifeboat. Some people see it as a good trait, valuing honesty and transparency, while others see it as abrasive and unkind. This duality of perception highlights the complexity of human nature and relationships.

It's complicated to label these traits, but we can dig into them to become more conscious of them. Self-awareness is the first step towards growth and acceptance. By understanding our flaws, we can learn to navigate them, embracing the strengths they bring while mitigating their drawbacks.

There are more flaws I could list, but I'd love to hear from you all. What are the imperfections you grapple with? How do they shape your life? Let's share and explore together.

I am ready to hunt this treasure with you. Are you?

@prokopetz

[bluegekk0]

whats fpks relationship with herrah? I know canonically, white lady doesnt really feel any ill will towards her as she likes hornet, but how do you think fpk feels towards her? And, since I can't leave grimm out of this, how does he feel about herrah? Maybe he'd feel similarly to wl, since she's basically his daughter now

while typing this out i have another question, which of the dreamers are still alive in your AU, and what are their relationships with fpk, if any? since holly is alive id assume you branched off of the embrace the void ending, and i dont believe you need to kill any dreamers for that end (if I'm wrong, do correct me!), and quirrel in your AU doesn't have monomons mask, so i can only assume ghost at least got to her.

love your stuff, stay well!

it was... not the best, admittedly. granted, they weren't hostile towards each other, i actually think that herrah warmed up to him a little bit, mostly seeing how attached he got to hornet. they certainly had a common reason to bond over, the problem is that fpk was afraid of her. among his species, it's quite common for the larger female to kill and eat the male after mating, so it's coded in his brain to expect that possibility. with wl, it was a bit different - she's more plant-like, and so her behavior is very different to that of a wyrm, or any other carnivorous species, and that comforts his mind a little bit. but with herrah, he sadly couldn't have that assurance, so he was very stressed out about it and expecting the worst

their affair was part of a bargain, so he knew it was his obligation to fullfil his side, but he was terrified throughout all of it. on top of that, since he's gay in the au, he had another reason not to enjoy it very much, though he didn't realize at the time. so all in all, it was a very unpleasant experience, and it greatly impacted his perception of herrah. i do think he have liked for it to be different, after all, she was hornet's mother and i'm sure he would love to have a more pleasant relationship with her, if only for the sake of their daughter. but his fear was too strong and so he rarely visited deepnest aside from seeing hornet (probably for the better since deepnest wasn't particularly fond of him. too bright of a light, for one haha)

as for grimm, you said herrah, but judging by the rest of that sentence i'm assuming you meant hornet, so just in case i'll go over both. i don't think he interacted with herrah much, perhaps he knew her before the whole bargain deal, but nothing more than just being aware of her existence. and with hornet, like you said, she's basically his daughter now and he most certainly sees her as such. definitely more than wl did, but her being emotionally distant is basically a given - she didn't dislike hornet but to call their relationship a mother-daughter one would be an exaggeration. grimm, however, absolutely sees her as his own child. he did that even before him and fpk became a thing - he always liked to imagine himself and fpk raising her together, but since it wasn't meant to be at the time, he instead brought her gifts and entertained her with his powers whenever he visited. these days it's a tad more complicated with hornet's refusal to admit that she sees him as a father figure and her overall bitterness, but his attitude hasn't changed at all. of course, he doesn't pamper her with gifts anymore, but he enjoys spending time with her and bonding over shared interests. their relationship is fun, they have the generally laid back, joking type dynamic of close friends, but it's clear that grimm does thinks of her as his child, meanwhile hornet seems to get upset at that idea, but secretly really cares about him

the dreamers are something i thought about before and i'm considering leaving one of them alive, since i think they're interesting characters and i'd love to explore at least one of them post-ending. as you said, monomon is a goner, and so is herrah, as hornet in the au finds there to be no reason to visit deepnest unless she has to, so it's a natural assumption that her mother is dead. that leaves lurien, and with the city of tears slowly returning to its prime over the course of the au, he would be a pretty good fit for an important figure that watches over its development. but i haven't decided yet. if i choose to keep him dead, then i think it would be a fun idea for his butler to be "promoted" to lurien's previous role, since he was his most trusted bug. we'll see, i like both of those options, and i'll have to see what i decide on

thanks a lot for the ask! i really enjoyed these questions. hope you have a great day/night!

[justinnault]

True Masculinity Unveiled, How Misunderstanding Masculinity Harms Your Health

In a society where masculinity often gets misrepresented, many men find themselves caught in the web of “traditional” ideals that don’t necessarily serve their well-being. The impact of these outdated views can reach far beyond one's self-perception, leading to serious consequences for both physical and mental health. It’s time to bust some myths and discover a healthier, balanced approach to masculinity.

Understanding the Health Risks of Misinterpreted Masculinity

Men who strictly adhere to conventional masculine ideals often shy away from seeking help, even when they need it most. Studies show that behaviors like risk-taking, excessive alcohol consumption, and drug use are frequently linked to “being a real man.” But this mindset can be dangerous. As a nutritional therapist, I want to guide you through the process of redefining masculinity in a way that supports your physical and mental well-being.

Myth vs. Reality: What True Masculinity Looks Like

Myth: Seeking help is a sign of weakness.

Reality: Asking for help is an act of courage. It demonstrates self-awareness and a commitment to self-care.

Myth: Real men don’t show vulnerability.

Reality: Vulnerability allows you to connect on a deeper level and build trust with others, which is essential for strong relationships.

Myth: Masculinity is about toughness, both physically and emotionally.

Reality: True strength includes emotional intelligence and the ability to express oneself.

Q&A: Embracing True Masculinity for Health

Q1: How can redefining masculinity improve my mental health? Toggle to see the answer. Embracing a balanced view of masculinity means letting go of the notion that men need to bottle up emotions. By acknowledging and processing emotions, you reduce stress and anxiety, which positively impacts mental health. Research indicates that men who seek support for mental health issues experience significantly lower rates of depression.

Q2: Does avoiding risky behaviors actually impact my physical health? Toggle to see the answer. Yes, absolutely. Risky behaviors, such as unprotected sex, excessive alcohol use, and drug consumption, not only harm your body but also lead to chronic conditions and even life-threatening diseases. By understanding that taking care of your health doesn’t make you any less masculine, you’re prioritizing long-term well-being.

Q3: What role does nutrition play in redefining masculinity? Toggle to see the answer. Nutrition is foundational to physical and mental health. When you nourish your body, you’re taking a step toward self-respect and health, which aligns with true masculinity. Proper nutrition supports energy levels, mental clarity, and resilience.

Practical Steps for a Balanced Approach to Masculinity

Seek Help When Needed Whether you need medical advice, therapy, or simply a friend to talk to, never hesitate to reach out. True masculinity includes knowing when to ask for help.

Adopt Healthier Habits Focus on habits that align with your wellness goals. Reduce alcohol consumption, avoid harmful substances, and engage in regular exercise.

Redefine Your Inner Strength Strength is not solely physical. Embrace mindfulness practices, journal your thoughts, and allow yourself to process emotions in a healthy way.

About Justin Nault: Your Guide to Wellness

Justin Nault is a Certified Nutritional Therapist with a deep background in nutrition, fitness, and human metabolism. As the founder and CEO of Clovis, and creator of the Clovis Daily Superfood Powder, Justin has helped over 2,500 people find a balanced approach to health. His work redefines health and fitness, aiming to create sustainable change through holistic nutrition and wellness.

Start Your Journey Today!

Are you ready to embrace a more balanced, healthier approach to masculinity? Watch our video for in-depth insights and practical tips to start redefining masculinity for a better life. Let’s shift the narrative together and explore the power of true masculinity!

[bdhealthtips]

What to Do If You Have Seizures or Epilepsy

Living with epilepsy or experiencing seizures can be a challenging and often frightening experience. Understanding how to manage this neurological disorder is crucial for maintaining your quality of life. Whether you've recently been diagnosed or have been living with epilepsy for years, this guide will provide you with essential information on seizure management, treatment options, lifestyle changes, and emergency care.

Understanding Seizures and Epilepsy

Epilepsy is a chronic condition characterized by recurrent seizures, which are sudden, uncontrolled electrical disturbances in the brain. These disturbances can cause changes in behavior, movements, feelings, and levels of consciousness. Seizures can vary significantly in their presentation, from brief lapses in attention to severe and prolonged convulsions.

There are different seizure types, which can be broadly categorized into generalized seizures (affecting both sides of the brain) and focal seizures (affecting only one part of the brain). Understanding the type of seizure you experience is essential for effective management.

Symptoms and Warning Signs

Seizures may present with a range of symptoms depending on the type. Common indicators include:

Aura: A sensation or warning that a seizure is about to occur, such as a strange smell, taste, or feeling.

Convulsions: Involuntary jerking movements, often associated with generalized seizures.

Loss of consciousness: Common in many seizure types, where the individual may become unresponsive.

Confusion: Post-seizure disorientation is common, especially with focal seizures.

Staring: A brief lapse in awareness, often seen in absence seizures.

Recognizing these warning signs can help you prepare for an impending seizure and take appropriate safety measures.

Diagnosis and Assessment

Proper diagnosis is critical in epilepsy management. If you experience recurrent seizures, it's essential to seek the expertise of a neurologist or epileptologist. Diagnostic tools used to confirm epilepsy include:

Electroencephalogram (EEG): This test measures electrical activity in the brain and can identify abnormal brainwave patterns indicative of seizures.

Magnetic Resonance Imaging (MRI): MRI scans provide detailed images of the brain's structure and can help identify underlying conditions causing seizures.

Neurological exams: These assess reflexes, muscle tone, sensory perception, and coordination to rule out other neurological disorders.

Treatment and Management Strategies

Epilepsy treatment typically involves a combination of medication, lifestyle changes, and, in some cases, surgery. The primary goal is to reduce the frequency and severity of seizures.

Medication: Most individuals with epilepsy are prescribed antiepileptic drugs (AEDs), which help control seizures by stabilizing electrical activity in the brain. Common seizure medications include:

Valproate

Carbamazepine

Lamotrigine

Clonazepam (Rivotril)

Lifestyle Changes: Adopting certain behavioral adjustments can significantly impact seizure control. Routine modifications such as getting enough sleep, managing stress, and avoiding seizure triggers like alcohol or flashing lights can help minimize the risk of seizures.

Seizure Diary: Keeping a seizure diary is a practical tool for tracking seizure episodes, identifying triggers, and monitoring the effectiveness of treatment. This record should include the date, time, duration, and any potential triggers or warning signs experienced before the seizure.

Safety Measures and Emergency Response

Seizure safety is a critical aspect of living with epilepsy. Implementing precautionary steps can help prevent injuries during a seizure. Some essential safety measures include:

Seizure-proofing your home by removing sharp objects and adding padding to furniture corners.

Wearing a medical ID that alerts others to your condition in case of an emergency.

Educating those around you on how to respond during a seizure.

First Aid for Seizures

Knowing how to provide first aid during a seizure is crucial. If someone is experiencing a seizure:

Stay calm and time the seizure.

Protect the person from injury by gently guiding them away from danger.

Do not restrain their movements or put anything in their mouth.

Place them on their side to help keep their airway clear.

Stay with them until the seizure ends and they regain consciousness.

Emergency care is necessary if the seizure lasts longer than five minutes if another seizure follows immediately, or if the person has difficulty breathing after the seizure.

Advanced Treatment Options

For individuals who do not respond well to medication, advanced treatment options may be considered:

Epilepsy Surgery: In cases where seizures originate from a specific area of the brain, surgical treatment may be an option. This can involve removing the part of the brain responsible for seizures or cutting nerve pathways to prevent their spread.

Vagus Nerve Stimulation (VNS): VNS therapy involves implanting a device that sends electrical impulses to the vagus nerve in the neck, which can help reduce seizure frequency.

Ketogenic Diet: This high-fat, low-carbohydrate diet has been shown to help some people with epilepsy, particularly children, reduce seizure frequency.

Alternative Therapies

In addition to traditional treatments, some individuals explore complementary therapies to manage their epilepsy. These may include:

CBD Oil: Cannabidiol (CBD), a compound found in cannabis, has shown promise in reducing seizure frequency, particularly in severe cases like Dravet syndrome.

Acupuncture: Some find that this traditional Chinese medicine technique helps with stress relief, which can, in turn, reduce seizures.

Yoga and Meditation: These relaxation techniques can aid in stress management and promote overall well-being.

Support Systems and Resources

Living with epilepsy can be isolating, but there are numerous resources available for support:

Support groups: Connecting with others who have epilepsy can provide emotional support and practical advice.

Community resources: Many organizations offer epilepsy education, advocacy, and assistance programs.

Online forums: These provide a platform to share experiences and information with a broader community.

Conclusion

Managing epilepsy and seizures requires a comprehensive approach that includes medication, lifestyle adjustments, safety measures, and, when necessary, advanced treatments. By understanding your condition and taking proactive steps, you can lead a fulfilling life despite the challenges posed by epilepsy.

Remember, always consult with a healthcare professional to determine the best treatment plan for your specific needs. With the right support and information, you can manage your seizures effectively and improve your overall quality of life.

[sarahjaneclark1983]

Exploring the Art of Mindfulness: Finding Peace in a Busy World

In today's fast-paced world, it's easy to get caught up in the chaos of daily life. From deadlines at work to social obligations, it can feel like there's never a moment to catch your breath. However, amidst the hustle and bustle, there lies a powerful practice that can help bring balance and tranquility to our lives: mindfulness.

Mindfulness is the art of being present in the moment, fully aware of our thoughts, feelings, and surroundings without judgment. It's about tuning into the present moment with openness and curiosity, rather than getting lost in worries about the past or future. In essence, it's a practice that allows us to cultivate a deeper sense of peace and contentment in our lives.

One of the beautiful things about mindfulness is that it can be practiced anywhere, at any time. Whether you're sitting in traffic, washing dishes, or taking a walk in nature, you can bring mindfulness into your daily routine. By simply bringing your attention to the sensations of your breath, the sounds around you, or the feeling of your feet on the ground, you can anchor yourself in the present moment and experience a sense of calm amidst the chaos.

But mindfulness is more than just a relaxation technique; it's a way of life. It encourages us to approach each moment with intention and awareness, fostering a deeper connection to ourselves and the world around us. When we practice mindfulness regularly, we begin to notice subtle shifts in our perceptions and behaviors. We become more attuned to our emotions, more compassionate towards ourselves and others, and more resilient in the face of life's challenges.

In addition to its emotional benefits, mindfulness has also been shown to have a profound impact on our physical health. Research has found that regular mindfulness practice can lower stress levels, reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression, improve sleep quality, and even boost immune function. By taking the time to nurture our mental and emotional well-being, we can cultivate a greater sense of vitality and vitality in our lives.

So how can we incorporate mindfulness into our daily lives? It starts with making a commitment to prioritize self-care and self-awareness. This might mean carving out time each day for formal meditation practice, or simply finding moments throughout the day to pause and check in with ourselves. It might also involve seeking out mindfulness-based activities such as yoga, tai chi, or mindful walking, which can help us cultivate a deeper sense of presence and connection.

As we embark on this journey of mindfulness, it's important to approach it with patience and compassion. Like any skill, mindfulness takes time and practice to develop, and it's okay to stumble along the way. What matters is that we continue to show up for ourselves, with an open heart and a willingness to learn and grow.

So, if you're feeling overwhelmed by the demands of modern life, why not give mindfulness a try? Take a few moments to close your eyes, take a deep breath, and simply be. You may be surprised at the peace and clarity that await you on the other side.

[rainydetectiveglitter]

Food for Thought food 🥑

Classical conditioning, a foundational concept in psychology, involves associating an involuntary response with a stimulus. This process was famously demonstrated by Ivan Pavlov's experiments with dogs. In media, classical conditioning is frequently portrayed through characters or scenarios where certain stimuli trigger specific emotional or behavioral responses. For example, a character's fear of a particular sound after a traumatic event illustrates classical conditioning in storytelling.

Operant conditioning, explored by B.F. Skinner, focuses on the relationship between behavior and its consequences. In media, this is often depicted when characters experience rewards or punishments based on their actions. Video games, a prevalent form of media, heavily incorporate operant conditioning through mechanisms like rewarding players for completing tasks, reinforcing desired behaviors.

Media Representation:

Various forms of media, from movies to advertisements, subtly incorporate both classical and operant conditioning to engage audiences. Product placements, jingles, and visual cues are designed to trigger specific responses, capitalizing on classical conditioning. Similarly, operant conditioning is evident in reality shows where contestants are rewarded or penalized based on their behavior, shaping the narrative and audience perceptions.

Overall, the integration of these psychological principles in media highlights the powerful influence they have on shaping human experiences, responses, and decision-making.

To minimize the impact of media conditioning, consider the following strategies:

Develop Media Literacy:

- Educate yourself on media literacy to understand how content is created, manipulated, and presented. Being aware of techniques used in advertising and storytelling can help you critically assess information.

Diversify Your Sources:

- Consume information from a variety of sources with different perspectives. Exposure to diverse viewpoints can prevent one-sided conditioning and provide a more comprehensive understanding of a topic.

Question Information:

- Adopt a questioning mindset. Ask yourself critical questions about the media you consume. Consider the motives behind the content, the potential biases, and whether there's a balanced representation of different perspectives.

Limit Exposure:

- Be mindful of the amount of time you spend consuming media. Setting boundaries on screen time and deliberately taking breaks can prevent overexposure and reduce the risk of subconscious conditioning.

Evaluate Emotional Responses:

- Pay attention to your emotional reactions to media content. If you notice strong emotional responses, it could be an indication of conditioning. Analyze why you feel a certain way and whether it aligns with your personal values and beliefs.

Cultivate Critical Thinking:

- Develop critical thinking skills to analyze information objectively. Question assumptions, verify facts, and consider alternative perspectives. This helps you form your own opinions rather than adopting predetermined views.

Reflect on Values:

- Clarify your own values and beliefs. Understanding your principles provides a foundation for evaluating media content in alignment with your personal convictions, making it less susceptible to external conditioning.

Balance Consumption:

- Balance your media diet by including a variety of content. Mix entertainment with educational material, and choose content that stimulates critical thinking rather than relying solely on passive consumption.

Stay Informed about Media Tactics:

- Stay informed about the latest media tactics and technologies. Being aware of how content is tailored to influence can empower you to recognize and resist conditioning strategies.

Encourage Dialogue:

- Engage in discussions with others about media content. Sharing perspectives and insights with a diverse group of people can broaden your understanding and help you see different angles of a story.

By being mindful, informed, and actively engaged with the media you consume, you can reduce the likelihood of being unconsciously conditioned and make more conscious choices about the information you absorb.

[workscounselingcenter]

Impact vs. Intention: Why Both Matter in Mental Health and Relationships

When it comes to human interaction, the tension between intention and impact is a delicate and often misunderstood issue. What you meant to say or do may not always be received as you intended, and that gap can have profound effects on relationships, mental health, and communication. Let’s explore how understanding the difference between impact and intention can lead to healthier relationships and greater emotional awareness, drawing insights from both mental health practices and interpersonal psychology.

Defining Intention and Impact

Intention refers to the purpose or motivation behind an action. It is the meaning or reason for doing or saying something.

Impact, on the other hand, is the effect or outcome that action has on others. Regardless of your intent, the impact is how the other person feels or experiences that action.

This distinction can be crucial in relationships because we often prioritize our intentions, expecting others to automatically understand or accept them. However, as much as intentions matter, the way our actions impact others is ultimately what shapes their feelings and responses.

Why Impact Matters More in Mental Health

In mental health, acknowledging the impact of words and actions is vital because emotions, especially hurt or distress, are not always rational or aligned with intention. Emotional reasoning is a cognitive distortion where individuals base their perception of reality on how they feel, which can magnify the impact of actions on them, regardless of the other person’s intentions. For instance, if someone feels criticized, they may interpret an innocent comment as judgmental, causing a breakdown in communication and trust.

Psychotherapy often aims to help individuals become aware of their personal “filters”—the lenses through which they interpret interactions based on past experiences, traumas, or psychological tendencies like anxiety or depression. Learning to separate intention from impact is key to better understanding both ourselves and others. By identifying how much of the hurt we feel is influenced by our interpretation rather than someone else’s intent, we can start healing.

The Role of Empathy

Empathy is often described as the bridge between intention and impact. It allows us to understand how our words and actions affect others, even if that wasn’t our intention. In couples therapy, for example, therapists often guide individuals through a process of “intention versus perception,” where partners share what they meant by their words and how the other person perceived them. This method helps to clarify miscommunications and allows each person to acknowledge both the intention behind the behavior and the emotional impact it had.

For example, in a situation where one partner asks, “Why are you cleaning the dishes now?” they may simply be curious about the timing. However, the other partner might interpret it as a criticism of their choice to clean at that moment. The first partner may not have intended any critique, but the impact on the other partner is one of feeling judged. Understanding that both sides are valid—the intention to ask a question and the impact of hurt feelings requires empathy and openness.

The Trap of Defensiveness

A common response when someone points out that they’ve been hurt is for the other person to become defensive, saying, “That’s not what I meant!” While this is a natural reaction, it can make the situation worse because it dismisses the hurt person’s feelings. Defensiveness prioritizes intent over impact, failing to acknowledge the emotional experience of the other person. Effective communication involves setting aside defensiveness and focusing on the feelings and experiences of others.

The real work in relationships—and in personal growth—comes from being able to say, “I didn’t mean to hurt you, but I see that I did.” This small shift from defensiveness to empathy can significantly improve the quality of our interactions, as it validates the other person’s feelings without diminishing the importance of intent.

Intent vs. Impact in Social and Cultural Contexts

The distinction between impact and intention also extends beyond personal relationships and plays a significant role in discussions of social justice, such as those involving microaggressions or racial discrimination. For example, a person may unintentionally make a racially insensitive remark. Their intention may have been benign or even positive, but the impact of their words may still cause emotional distress.

In these situations, the phrase “impact trumps intention” is often used to explain that no matter how good your intentions were, the effect on the marginalized person is what matters most. Recognizing the harm caused, even when unintentional, is critical to fostering empathy and promoting a more inclusive and understanding society.

That being said, there is also value in assuming positive intent, especially in close or trusting relationships. By believing that someone’s intentions are good, even if their impact is hurtful, we can create a foundation for more open and forgiving communication. This approach doesn’t negate the hurt caused, but it allows room for growth and healing by focusing on trust and humility.

Finding Balance: Accountability and Forgiveness

Navigating the gap between impact and intention requires a delicate balance of accountability and forgiveness. On the one hand, we must take responsibility for the unintended consequences of our actions, acknowledging the hurt we may have caused even when we didn’t mean to. This is a cornerstone of emotional intelligence and conflict resolution.

On the other hand, it is also important for the hurt party to extend forgiveness where possible, especially when the intent was not malicious. By practicing both empathy and forgiveness, we can reduce the likelihood of repeated misunderstandings and deepen our emotional connections.

If you find yourself frequently in situations where your impact doesn’t align with your intentions, here are a few steps you can take to improve your communication and relationships:

Pause Before Responding: Take a moment to reflect on how your words or actions might be received. If you’re unsure, ask for clarification from the other person before making assumptions.

Acknowledge the Impact: If someone tells you they’ve been hurt by your words or actions, acknowledge their feelings, even if that wasn’t your intention. A simple, “I’m sorry I hurt you. That wasn’t what I meant, but I understand how it affected you,” can go a long way.

Ask for Feedback: If you’re unsure about how your words might be received, don’t be afraid to ask for feedback. Open communication helps prevent future misunderstandings.

Work on Empathy: Put yourself in the other person’s shoes. How would you feel if the situation were reversed? This perspective shift can help you become more aware of the impact of your actions.

Practice Humility: Recognize that even with the best of intentions, you’re not perfect. Being willing to admit when you’ve made a mistake helps build trust and emotional resilience.

Understanding the difference between intention and impact is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships and emotional well-being. While our intentions are important, they don’t always guarantee that our actions will be received in the way we hope. By focusing on the impact of our behavior, practicing empathy, and learning to balance accountability with forgiveness, we can improve both our communication skills and our relationships. This not only benefits us personally but also helps create a more empathetic and understanding world.

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