#autism parents

[catgirl-catboy]

Hate post for parents of autistic children who:

Don't try to take precautions to help their kid avoid meltdowns. Or really, do anything when their child is having a meltdown.

Force their kid to eat food that causes them sensory issues when you could be teaching them how to make healthy food that doesn't. (age appropriate cooking techniques ofc!)

Don't tell their kid about their diagnosis if the kid asking them why they don't fit in.

Don't use proper terminology when talking about their kid's meltdowns and shutdowns. It isn't a "temper tantrum", they literally can't control it.

Forbid their kids from stimming.

Try to shame kids for destructive stims instead of finding them better alternatives.

Disclose the child's status as autistic to total strangers without their permission.

Even think about enrolling their kid into ABA therapy.

You aren't preparing them for society. You aren't making them tougher. You're just making their lives harder for NO goddamn reason. I had parents like that, and I'm an adult now.

None of the fucked up "skills" they tried to teach me are of any use in real life. It was all pointless.

[bookquotesfrombooks]

“As has been said over and over, by autistic people who have been advocating and educating for much longer than I have, there is no hating the autism and loving the child.”

Amethyst Schaber

“Unconventional” in Sincerely, Your Autistic Child

[capricorn-0mnikorn]

~Sigh~ here we go, again.

Here's a video that showed up in the recommendation sidebar of another video I was watching this morning. I don't follow People Magazine, nor am I particularly interested in celebrity news. I imagine the algorithm fed this to me because I've been recently looking for videos on Disability Pride.

Which this, clearly, is not:

More "Disability Parent" human interest stories. Based on his son's posture in that photo, it looks to me like he has cerebral palsy,* but it could be another condition that's adjacent.

Cerebral Palsy and Autism are different conditions. But I think where the Venn Diagram overlaps is the subculture of parents who frame their own identity around the fact that they are "burdened" with disabled kids.

("But, Ann," I anticipate some of you complaining, "you haven't watched the video. How can you tell that's Colin Farrell's attitude?" Whether that's his attitude or not, that how People Magazine has framed it, in order to get clicks, and from what I'm being shown, there's no sign that his son was included in the interview)

*I'm a believer in "Identity first" language. But I'm not sure what the adjective form of "Cerebral Palsy" is. "Cerebrally Palsied?"

[mamabearwonders]

if a kid stims loudly, let them be. telling them to stop is like telling someone to contain their joy or stop breathing loudly. autistic kids are on a higher vibration than most other people. they love, think & communicate in a way beyond just words, beyond neurotypical standards & boxes that don't exist. 🐳

[coven-of-genesis]

Affirmations for the parents of a child with autism

1. You are a loving and dedicated parent, doing your best to support your child's unique needs.

2. Your unwavering patience and understanding make a significant impact on your child's growth and development.

3. Each day, you're learning and growing alongside your child, creating a strong bond that will last a lifetime.

4. Your commitment to advocating for your child's needs demonstrates your exceptional parental love.

5. Your child's progress, no matter how small, is a testament to your consistent efforts and encouragement.

6. Remember that it's okay to take breaks and care for yourself too - self-compassion is essential in this journey.

7. Your unconditional love and acceptance create a safe and nurturing environment for your child to thrive.

8. Celebrate the small victories and milestones, knowing that every step forward is a significant achievement.

9. Embrace the uniqueness of your child and the joy they bring to your family.

10. You are not alone in this journey; there is a supportive community of parents and resources ready to assist you.

11. Trust your instincts as a parent, and know that you are making a positive difference in your child's life.

12. Your love and advocacy are helping to break down barriers and promote awareness about autism.

13. Embrace progress, even if it comes with challenges, and remember that growth takes time.

14. You have the strength to overcome obstacles and create a brighter future for your child.

15. Your dedication and love as a parent are making a lasting impact on your child's life and well-being.

[burnt-scone]

Parents of Autistic children will tell their children they did something wrong, won't tell the child what they did wrong or how it was wrong, then when the kid asks what they did and they tell the child they're being manipulative and that they're making excuses.

Usually, the kid did nothing and the parents projecting. And if the kid did do something, they'd never know how to do better because they were never told what was wrong, just that they did wrong.

[big-boah]

This is the kind of BS that makes me cringe.

STOP MAKING PARENTS THINK THEY CAN "CURE" THEIR KID'S AUTISM. Stop it.

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I have high support needs and went from an abusive/neglectful environment to a very supportive one about 10 years ago.

But did my autism change? No. Did my "challenging traits" change? NO. Actually that's a lie. They got "worse". More visible. Louder. Less speech, more AAC. More big stimming. It was because:

- I got older.

- New meds/changing medical challenges.

- I felt more comfortable expressing myself in my preferred style and I gave less fucks about what others thought of me.

- I became MORE COMFORTABLE in general.

This is the kind of shit we need to rally against. This is also why it's especially important to uplift voices of folks with higher support needs. We need to inform these "professionals" that, no, this isn't something that "goes away".

Seeing someone heal from environmental distress/trauma doesn't magically mean they're "cured" or even "getting better", it does not make "challenging traits" any LESS of a challenge for the AUTISTIC PERSON.

(And you know, eventually they need to update the diagnostic criteria to not just be based on little white boy science. Especially if it affects like 1-5% of the world population but that's a story for another day)

[sfwtoddfoxglove]

I'm starting to realize that being a transgender parent of a child with special needs basically means that everything my child struggles with is going to be blamed on me and my queerness.

I had a conversation with a speech therapist today and tried explaining that my child has a speech delay and he struggles with using first person pronouns and making full sentences. For example, instead of saying "I need to use the bathroom", he says "you have to bathroom" and won't elaborate, which causes him to struggle to get what he needs.

The moment I said that "my kid struggles with pronouns", I was interrupted with, "of COURSE he's confused about pronouns! People like you change them and make up new ones all the time!"

It took a lot for me to not go off on her over the phone, ngl, but I just reiterated, "I've gone by he or him since before my child was born, but I don't think that has anything to do with him speaking in second or third person when he wants something..."

She calmed down and apologized but basically just said "we'll keep evaluating him and figure it out" and hung up on me.

Like.... My kid doesn't have a speech delay because I'm trans, he has it because he's autistic. He's not autistic because I'm trans, he's autistic because of genetics, which is why he acts exactly like his older half brother/my ex stepson. He has two neurodivergent parents and neurodivergent grandparents, siblings, cousins.... It's just life.

But if the public school system is going to make it a problem that my kid has two dads and one is trans, I'm going to make myself a problem. I'm not letting them treat my kindergartner like crap because they don't like me. I'm not the student. My kid deserves a good education.

[fjolnirravenson]

Hello There :)

Hello and welcome to my blog. Here I will be posting different things that I have learned/came across from around the internet. As well as my own takes and my own journey. I am on a spiritual quest of sorts and am opening doors in various disciplines to find something(s) that I can work into my own personal practice.

I did at one time begin my journey into witchcraft but fell off of the wagon but did begin reading runes at that time which I am eager to get back into and post about! :)

Am also a happily married man with two boys on the Autism Spectrum (LVLs 1 &3) and one being completely non-verbal. I also do battle with schizophrenia, depression, and anxiety...so yea some posts about life, marriage, the ups and downs of being an Autism parent, will also be woven into my posts :) Also am an intorvert and have developed some social anxiety when dealing with most people when I leave the house...I think most of us do these days lol.

I do have several other interests and hobbies as well and may post some lightning fiction style writings here and there. But I do also LOVE history and ancient cultures, SciFi (mostly older stuff and the CyberPunk genre), space and most notably the Moon & Mars, and music from most genres...

[makiruz]

"You don't understand what it's like to have an autistic child who has a meltdown in the supermarket"

But why is your kid having a meltdown in the supermarket? I'm serious, what external or internal input is causing this and what can it be done to prevent it in the future?

[raging-guanche]

my mom just said for the 100th time she can have a life bcs of her disabled 17 yo son

like, sorry ig? you're not the victim here nor im guilty but whatever

[bookquotesfrombooks]

“The autistic community generally agrees that ABA is an abusive practice, yet most of the energy is spent on shaming frightened parents rather than ending institutional practices that target children of color.”

Jules Edwards

I Will Die On This Hill

[notesbynor]

neurodivergent and queer people how are we feeling?

[bli-o]

hey autistic people who get overwhelmed by large groups or noise or conversation or etc etc etc you’re not evil for wanting to leave a family gathering. just so you know.

[pumpkinspicedmochi]

Dear parents

Pretending that your kid isn't disabled and getting mad at them for needing more help and support than your other kids and wanting them to "try harder" and also pretend that THEY aren't disabled by ignoring their OWN needs as well doesn't make them less disabled by the way

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Life in an Autism World