#asks and questions

[zebulontheplanet]

I’m gonna be going through my inbox today and answering some if not most of it. So if y’all have any questions or anything, nows the time to send some asks!

[2000swootie]

(sender wanted to remain anonymous)

The people getting assmad on my addition probably assume I think I hate people who make RPF of that I think it should be censored. I don't, I just think its creepy and that the people making I have genuinely unhealthy habits. I don't hate anybody, I was just making it clear that I am not affiliated with yall and yall are not affiliated with me.

Parasocial relationships aren't a funny haha thing, they can cause actual real mental damage and effect how you view certain people in a negative way. Its not as violent as the famous examples of parasocial relationships, but its still not a good thing. Its not a harmless crush anymore at that point.

It is dehumanizing, its objectifying a real human being and making them on level with a fictional character, 9 times out of 10 without their consent. I would think the proship community would kind of care about that??

But at the end of the day, the most I can do and will do is try and tell people that its wrong, that they should probably grow out of it, and avoid it when I can. I don't think we should tolerate or welcome RPF in the community, but I guess I'm in some kind of minority here.

[patolemus]

💌 Ask Mail! 💌Once upon a time, asks were a big part of tumblr culture. It was a way to express appreciation to blogs you love and enjoy. 💖 It was a way to interact without awkwardness. 🌚It was a way to simply say hello to the blogs that make up your tumblr neighborhood mailboxes. 🏰 It was a way to share fondness for mutuals, or anyone you follow. So hello! You matter to a fellow blogger. 💜

You are the most wonderful friend! Your random asks giving appreciation are a highlight to my days 🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷

[tanlotts]

I don't know your OCs yet, so this one from the prompt for any/all of them you want to answer for!

How easy or difficult is it for your character to say “I love you?” Can they say it without meaning it?

This is an amazing question, so of course I have to answer it for all of them!

~ Billie Carter (she’s my Fallout 3 oc/lone w): the only two people she has ever said I love you to were her dad James and Charon (she never even said it to her boyfriend Butch), so you can surely say it’s extremely difficult for her to say those three words. Why does she have a hard time talking about her feelings? Well, it’s all mostly due to the awful childhood she had growing up in the vault with her only real friend being her dad. And after everything that she lived in the wasteland after leaving the vault she had even less reasons to want to.

She can’t and will not say it without meaning it.

~ Rose Nohea Monroe Akamai (she’s my Fallout 4 Enclave oc): despite being the absolute terror of the Commonwealth she’s very very very sweet with the people whom she loves, there really isn’t a day that goes by that she doesn’t say I love you to her daughter (Sasha), friends and the two people that truly have her heart (she’s in a strange relationship with Porter Gage and Grand Zealot Richter). But hey, how could she not be able to say those words when she truly is the kind of gal who would do just about anything for love.

She can say it without meaning it but would rather not.

~ Nora Oaks (she’s my Fallout 4 Railroad synth oc/sole): she overthinks just about everything, so whenever she is about to say the words “I love you” to someone she actually stops and thinks about whether or not she does, this of course doesn’t apply to the people who are very close to her (her best friends and synth Shaun, whom she adopted). So yeah, it’s not hard for her to say in itself, but she doesn’t want to go around saying it in an empty manner.

She would most definitely not say it if she doesn’t mean it.

~ Ace Dorian (he’s my Fallout 4 Minuteman oc/sole): this is literally the sweetest and most loving oc I have ever created in my entire life, so yeah, he’s definitely the kind of guy who would go around saying I love you just to see people smile and to spread happiness in the very harsh and desolate post apocalyptic world that he sadly finds himself living in. But the question here is if he actually means those “I love you”s, and the answer is YES, he’s happy to be there with everyone; even though he lived through too many awful things in the past he’s very grateful to have made it out and also for the family and life he managed to build for himself and the other people in the wasteland.

He could say it without meaning it but doesn’t.

~ Alice Winter (she’s my Fallout 4 Institute oc/sole): she used to be able to say I love you without a care in the world, but that was when her late husband Nate and son Shaun were still around. After having to live through the worlds biggest horrors, after becoming the director of the institute and a raider overboss she has most certainly forgotten that those three words even exist; and also, the meaning behind them. Out of all of my ocs, this is the one who would find it the most difficult to say “I love you”, even if she does have friends around her.

If she wanted to manipulate someone she would say it without meaning it. But it would be extremely rare.

~ Alan Blair (he’s my Fallout 4 BOS oc/sole): despite being the definition of a tough Brotherhood of Steel military man he has absolutely no problem with expressing his thoughts and feelings with the people whom he cares about and loves; it’s important to mention that although he waits to do it in a more private and personal manner he doesn’t consider it to be something bad or something that he should be doing. He has so much love to go around for his friends, family, partner and his adopted synth son Shaun.

He doesn’t say things without meaning them so he wouldn’t say it if he didn’t mean it.

~ Aeliana Selva Sallow (they are my FNV courier oc): if it wasn’t for the fact that they really don’t talk (they really are what you’d call a person of few words) they would one hundred percent be able to say the words “I love you” without any problem whatsoever. But, if you count writing it as saying it then they say it A LOT, only to their close friends though, in all of the letters and little messages that they write for all of them. A little bonus fun fact is that the only times they have ever said “I love you” verbally has been in Spanish (their native language).

They wouldn’t say it without meaning it. Unless they had to, but it would be rarer than getting a perfectly preserved pie.

~ Angelina C Smirnova (my F76 raider and Enclave oc/vault dweller): she’s been a very lonely person although most of her life (inside and outside of the vault), so she hasn’t really been given too many opportunities to say “I love you” to people. But it doesn’t mean that she hasn’t said it, she has, but it wasn’t exactly to another person; it was to MODUS (her Enclave AI lover). And even though she’s made some (very few) friends out in Appalachia and The Pitt she usually prefers to demonstrate her affection with action other than to express it with words.

She could and would say it without meaning it.

[catmask]

i dont consider myself a 'fashion guru' by any means but one thing i will say is guys you dont need to know the specific brand an item you like is - you need to know what the item is called. very rarely does a brand matter, but knowing that pair of pants is called 'cargo' vs 'boot cut' or the names of dress styles is going to help you find clothes you like WAAAYYYY faster than brand shopping

[mamatater]

The spouse is getting curious about tumblr

[disableddyke]

[reality-detective]

1963 Refrigerator 🤔

[jjian1002]

Chilchuck the struggling girl dad🥳

[creekfiend]

good evening. are u avoiding pain or seeking joy

[zebulontheplanet]

waaa i just turned 18 and im going to the doctor by myself for the first time tomorrow, thank you for posting about your experience!!!

Know this is late and you already went to the doctors probably! But I hope that went well!

Have a lovely day anon

[tactfullyinappropriate]

It's like we all collectively forgot as a society that friendship and just connection in general takes effort. Even if you meet someone you immediately click with, it takes hanging out about 20 times (!) to become friends. And guess what, some of those 20 meetings might be awkward or unimpressive.

We all want to reap the benefits (having a friend circle, having a partner, getting married) without doing the work (going to events, interacting with people, learning to handle conflict maturely, dating). Myself included. If I could, I'd never leave the house or go on another mediocre date again... except, that's part of the process.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, the cure to the loneliness epidemic is touching some grass and building tolerance for tedious in-person interactions.

[xiaq]

So my bike was stolen from our garage last night. My beloved, custom, carbon fiber, most-expensive-thing-I-own-aside-from-my-car bike. I just found it listed on FB marketplace. Shit is about to go down.

[callisteios]

i made a character uquiz. i 100% promise you that you will get a character you know AND like