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i love being ace in a way that confuses the shit out of allo people, god bless
#asexual#aroace#ace#asexual positivity#aro too but like yeah#honestly im just tired of pretending to be like ‘grossed out’ or baffled by sex or whatever bc it fits the perception allos have of aces#like i actually am quite interested in sex and know a lot about it … lol#i can read smut and be interested in kink and so many other things and it wouldn’t make me any less ace <3#and i can do all those things whilst also experiencing fluctuating sex repulsion at times#if that confuses u that’s a u problem.
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People when a character is aromantic or aromantic coded: Wowie! They’re aroACE! Because they aren’t interested in romance! Look at how aroace they are!
People when a character is aroace or aroace coded: Isn’t it cool that this character is asexual? Asexual icon! They’re such great asexual representation :)
#aro#aromantic#ace#asexual#aroace#alloaro#it feels like there’s this weird mindset of#if a character is aro then they MUST be ace too#and if they’re aroace then the ace part is all that matters!#and of course aplatonicism is never even mentioned as a possibility in fandom spaces (even with characters like Saiki who is apl coded af)#hell. even with real life people who have come out as aromantic#if someone comes out as aromantic they’re assumed to be asexual as well#and if someone is openly aroace it’s very common that people emphasize the ace part over the aro part#and while I get that some people do talk more about their asexuality than their aromanticism#it’s still weird to me that like#for example#Yasmin Benoit is one of the most prolific aromantic activists AND one of the most prolific asexual activists#yet I rarely ever see people mention that she’s aromantic or aroace. Everyone always just says “oh she’s asexual” and leaves it at that#her aromantic activism seems to just get ignored even with how much of it she’s done#when trying to find news sources talking about aromanticism for a research project about half of them were interviews#with Yasmin Benoit! she’s done so much work for the aromantic community#yet even in her Wikipedia article which describes her as an “asexual and aromantic activist” in the very first sentence#the section on her activism doesn’t include the words aromantic or aromanticism even ONCE.#like. yeah she does emphasize her asexuality a lot more than her aromanticism. but her aromantic activism should be acknowledged too
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aromantics are way too comfortable implying friendship is the most valuable part of life to bitch about alloros doing the same thing with romance
#the call is coming from inside the house#i should specify#not all aros. but enough to where i don't hang out in the aro tag anymore#queer#queer community#aromantic#aroace#aro#should i tag asexual? the post that broke the camel's back for me had asexual tags too so it feels relevant#but it feels more like an aro issue. but maybe tagging it ace would bring some awareness ? and i did tag aroace#you know what fuck it#asexual#ace#aromanticism#lgbtq+#aspec discourse#aspec community#aphobia#aplatonic#aplspec#ace discourse#← i think every aspec discourse ends up there anyways. saw a lot of aro discourse there so yea#aro discourse#aplphobia#yeah i'm overtagging but if at least one person could see this think about it and stop doing it i would be happy so maxing my chances here
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No hold on I'm gonna make an extra post about this:
I wouldn't choose to be alloromantic
If I were given the choice to either remain aro or become alloro again, I would choose aromanticism.
And I think a lot of people need to hear that.
#aro#aromantic#actually aromantic#safeforaro#alloromantics are encouraged to reblog this#aros aren't the only ones who need to hear that our orientation isn't a consolation prize#too many ppl - both aro-specs and alloros - think that being aro is okay only bc it's not something we choose#with the implicit belief that if we COULD choose then OF COURSE we'd choose to be alloro#bc it's clearly the 'superior' option#and honestly? it's not.#they're equally valid options and which one is 'superior' depends entirely on your own needs and preferences#and my preference is *being aro*#so if you're aro and you feel like yeah sure it's OKAY that you're aro bc you DIDN'T choose this#but if you could you WOULD choose to be alloro?#well maybe being alloro really would be better for you. or maybe it's just internalized amatonormativity.#and I cannot answer for you which one it is - the only one who can is you#all I can do is raise you the OPTION that it might be amatonormativity and then leave you to consider it#so this is for the aros who need to hear that option#and for the alloros who pity us for supposedly getting the short end of the stick#we are not a tragedy
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Some of you will see a character that is actively repulsed by romance/sex and heavily non-partner coded (sometimes they even actively just say that they do not want a relationship!) and y'all will still respond with "But aros/aces can still date and have sex!!" like okay bud it'd be so much easier for you to say you don't respect repulsed and non-partnering aros and aces. stop beating around the bush trying to pretend to be oh so supportive when you obviously feel uncomfortable about our existence even in fiction.
#text#aro#ace#aromantic#asexual#aroace#romance repulsed#sex repulsed#non-partnering#non partnering#nonpartnering#just admit that you don't respect repulsed and non-partnering identities buddy it'll be so much easier to block u that way#like do you realize how stupid you sound when you guys do this sort of thing?#all for what? shipping??? because being aphobic is fun to you??? because you dont like looking critically at your biases???#because you're so set on believing your a good person that challenging that to actually be one is way too hard and uncomfortable for you?#'people can ship what they want' yeah and people can judge you for it too#people can judge who you are and if they trust or like you based off your actions#shocking isn't it?#some of y'all sound like children going “but but but if i cant ignore their identity then how will i have fun” like grow tf up#you have a million other characters that you can play with in the way you like#not having access to one is not going to kill you or ruin your life
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[jttw oc] cursed to be an obligate carnivore, ate his entire family one particularly bad winter
#guys im being indulgent hear me out#im not giving him a name he just goes by woodcutter#cuz he feels like he doesn’t have the right to use the name his parents gave him#not telling you what it is tho cuz I don’t know either lol#jttw oc#journey to the west 1996#journey to the west#jttw sha wujing#jttw zhu bajie#jttw tripitaka#jttw sun wukong#jttw fanart#digital art#my art#what’s he doing here? searching for a way to break his curse and make amends#yes that’s his cat he calls lucky#when I mean obligate carnivore I mean it is entirely possible for him to grow weak and hungry if not given meat in his diet#not a monk just happy to be there lol#yeah it’s the 1996 version cuz I love that group and im obsessed with it rn :)#I see so many cool jttw ocs on here I wanna make one too :(#he smokes a pipe btw I just forgot to draw it#it keeps the cravings and hunger away and also looks cool af#close enough welcome back luo binghe#real aroace solidarity is letting each other use you like a chew toy when teething#I’m just now realizing I did not draw those flags correctly#or colored them in…#just know they’re supposed to be the ace and aro flags I drew them from memory and was like eh I’ll look em up later#I did not
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aro culture is hearing people saying that 'aro people arent always looking out for sex, etc!!!!' and thinking hell yeah but also. im the always,, im the slut aro. its me.
slut aro georg is an outlier adn should not have been counted
#Anonymous#aro culture is#aro#aromantic#actually aro#actually aromantic#ask#mod phoenix#also hell yeah go you#everyone can look for as much sex and be as slutty as they like#have fun#if u don't wanna have sex or be slutty that's great too
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Hey there's something you might wanna know
George Cubbins/Karim from Lockwood and Co. is aroace :D
It's not openly stated or anything but like c'mon its obvious as shit
For example, in the last episode of the show George is helping Lockwood walk after he got injured and says "This is so touchy-feely." And you might think thats just his autism or something BUT THEN Lockwood replies "It's a medical necessity, George, it doesnt mean a thing."
:DDDDDD
Hey! Thank you so much for the recommendation^^
Personally, I haven't touched upon it much in my latest post but I'm pretty strict with what I consider rep and if asexuality or aromanticism isn't explicitly named in the story, or at the very least laid on very very very veeeeeeery thick with no possibility AT ALL to interpret it any other way (but really mostly... Yeah explicitly named), I don't consider it actual representation. (On that note, no, mere Twitter-or-Tumblr-confirmations don't count as proper representation to me either, if you have to go to a social medium to know about more things that "are in the show" then they're not really "in the show", are they.)
The reason is I think a- people who watch the series and don't know what asexuals or aromantics are won't know any better if it's not named, and b- I actually trust society on that so little that I doubt most writers even know what asexuals or aromantics are, OR if they do, CARE about representing them at all, so unless it's actually named, I'll mostly come to the conclusion that it's done by accident. In short... Maybe it's obvious to US who recognize ourselves in that orientation but to the average person, characters that only exhibit traits of asexuality and aromanticism without it being explicitly named are "haha so quirky" and kinda nothing more.
Basically we're at a point where asexuality and aromanticism are not public knowledge enough yet for mere hints to count as rep imo. Which is tricky because mere hints are enough for most orientations, but... I don't think the knowledge about us is there yet to the point that it'd be enough.
But... Yeah that's my take on it, and I AM pretty strict about those things, so I don't mean to ruin that for others if that's enough for them TwT Cus regardless it can be pretty great to recognize oneself in a character. So this is pretty good to know for people who don't need the orientation being named for it to count as rep in their book! So thank you for that^^
#arguably i've accidentally recognized myself in characters that exhibited “obvious aro ace traits” in stuff before#only to be sorely and painfully disappointed so yeah i... should've known better#that's why i care so much about rep being done right and explicitly and no i don't think it's being too demanding at this point#asexual#aromantic#lockwood and co#serialdesignationm2#rep recommendations#sorry i sound like a sore stickler
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every time a post/poll goes around about being aspec and fandom shipping enjoyment/engagement/whatever im like. NOW can we stop acting like being an aromantic person who enjoys shipping is some kind of Weird Outlier Situation? can we stop acting like this is an Unpopular Opinion or even Persecuted Outcast Take rather than idk, the default standard, just like everywhere else? idk romance repulsed aromantics Yes Including Fiction aren’t the default or even a significant majority and it really drives me nuts when people act like aros who enjoy shipping are somehow Not exactly that.
#gav gab#aro blogging#like gdspeed bud enjoy what you enjoy#glad you’re happy#but can we fucking knock it off with the ‘but am i VALID to be an aro who likes shipping?????’ stuff#like yeah dog you and fucking Everybody Else in fandom#a small handful of ‘im too aro for this’ from the handful of Yes Including Fiction Yes All Of It romance repulsed aros#are not persecuting you or taking away your aro card#anyways that goes along with my general opinion that#going around asking people Is It Valid To Be X Identity And Have Y Experience Or Opinion#is a fundamentally useless and unhelpful thing to do#and is unfair to yourself and to the person you're asking#bc you're placing your like#ability to Have An Identity in someone else's hands#which they did not ask for#and is not theirs to give or not give anyway#this one just super extra annoys me lmao#'am i valid if i'm an aro who still likes shipping?????' well if you weren't#most aros wouldn't be ValidTM#because that is not unusual at all#you know what IS unusual?#being the big mean aro in the corner who DOESN'T like shipping#no none of it yes including that one I Do Mean All
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hands you my (head)canons. transparent versions under the read more
#yeah I dont have much in the way of isa and bon hcs. I struggled to choose pictures for them too because most of the images of them I like#are already transparent#also to elaborate on sif hcs: theyre biromantic and arospec#I couldve used the aroace flag for one of their icons but I feel like their aro and aceness doesnt intersect like it does for mira. anyway#my edits#isat spoilers#stars n time#in stars and time
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me seeing everyone talk about how great it is that isaac is bringing more asexual rep to tv while completely forgetting that he's also aromantic and that the word aromantic was probably uttered for the first time ever in mainstream television: this is absolutely fine🥲
#idk as an aroace who identifies more with their aro side than ace side it's just like. cmon man#and i get that he picked up the ace book! but! he's obviously aro too!!!!!!!#it's fine it's all fine i'm glad people are talking about asexuality more#just... yeah#heartstopper#isaac henderson#aromantic
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A friend of mine is posting stuff on threads and I got it too so that I could read their funny little posts but I don’t feel super comfy to post completely open stuff there too cause I’m not out to like my family and stuff and it’s linked to my Instagram account (also I made it a private account which seems kinda pointless) and I realised that what they use threads for comes close to what I use tumblr for (just that me texts here are longer that a typical threads post seems to be) and that i actually would be comfy to show them my tumblr I think. Is this what having a friendship and being completely open is about????
#starrytalking#friends#like I mostly only post about queer stuff here and they are queer too and I would be comfy talking to them about stuff like that irl too#so I wouldn’t really care and they could read my posts and we could talk about them I guess#but the whole purpose of tumblr is that no one knows u so idk if I’d actually bring that up cause the no one knows u thing is what makes me#comfortable spill whatever#and also I had a phase where I was reading fanfics and if that comes up I might be a bit uncomfy with that xD#but yeah it’s cool that I don’t feel like I have to hide anything from them is what I wanna say with this^^#aromantic#aro#asexual#ace#aroace#lgbtq+#queer#friendship
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reblog a post about aromanticism and it'll feed you for a day. make a post about aromanticism and you'll get mind-numbingly amatonormative comments for a lifetime
#not even like. people being stupid about aromanticism in general.#just like...#post about 'hey platonic and romantic love are not significantly different' getting a response that's like#'yeah stories about family relationships are important too!!!'#ma'am you are seventeen steps behind where i needed you to be to comprehend this post in the first place.#like you're Right but we're past that we're talking about deconstructing that binary entirely not reinforcing it#while ALSO simplifying it down to platonic as equivalent to familial...#like i'm sure at the point in everybody's life where they are responding to me#the concepts that they're pulling out are revolutionary. everyone's gotta start somewhere.#but being at 'romantic love is not more important than familial' when i'm at 'the different 'types' of love is an outdated construct'...#i need to make that series of aro theory posts Immediately i'm going to go insane#aromantic#aromanticism#aspec#talking
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it would be nice if Yuno was aro. It could be a story about feeling lonely as an aro person cuz of that lack of proximity, but she still wants to indulge in her sexual drive, and casual dating gives a level of intimacy you can't quite find in hookups, without the whole romance and love thing of romantic relationships.
#too bad Kazui already screams aro person#like seriously I watched Cat the other day with the idea of gay Kazui in mind; I wanted to use a confirmation bias to see how gay Kazui#looks to people; and... it screamed aromantism to me. He saw Hinako loved him and figured “maybe if I try it; I will fall in love with her”#(something similar happened to me as well; but it was a summer camp where we were 12yo kids so it's different)#and some lines refers to a certain lack of warmth and proximity to others and that cat imagery#to me cats are those extremely independant guys that sometimes want to snuzzle but generally want to be left alone#they want to receive love and give back their love which is different from human love#I feel like Cat is exagerated and it was just Hinako finding he didn't love her back as she did#didn't eat a dove; he just acted like a cat and Hinako thought she married someone who could love her like a human#edit: ok; I watched Cat again#yeah he's probably gay#good thing I no longer have the aro Kazui pfp cuz that would have been awkward
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To any Aro Mutuals that ship romantically, I have a question! Do you still call your s/is Aromantic? Or do you consider them something else?
#pan rambles#I know I got some fellow Aro mutuals so I'm genuinely curious#Because in my case. I just simply don't talk about it- In that way they're a little unlabeled#Mainly out of insecurity-afksnfksnfj#As an Aro who likes having a partner I've dealt with having to explain myself to a lot of people#and it's genuinely exhausting after a certain point#And idk...#I just feel like I'd need to constantly explain#and justify myself if my s/is are Aro but most of my f/os weren't and got into a relationship anyways#or that my f/os wouldn't want to be with me or love me because of it#But yeah-afksnfksndj Is this a me overthinking things? I wanna know if fellow Aros make their s/is aro too
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satoru is gay/aroace and suguru is bi/demiace if you get it you get it 🙏🙏🙏
#pride month has me thinking of my sexuality hcs a lot ………….#i just . Yeah#HEAVY on satoru being ace i will die on my little hill …. but i also see him being on the aro spectrum !!!#and sugu is soooooo fucking bi+demi coded i don’t even need to explain myself . he’s my dream man#when i think of stsg it’s always like ….#satoru falls in love with suguru and then never falls in love again#and suguru tries to sleep with people after leaving satoru behind but legitimately Can’t#he can only get it up when there’s a deep emotional connection and his bond with satoru was so deep he just can’t replicate it#:’3#theyyyy . make me happy#BUT YEAH I JUST .#gay toru/bi sugu means sm to me#and ace toru/demiace sugu means even more…….#i’ve been seeing lots of sexuality hcs on the dash too lately ….!!!! so i wanted to share my own :3#ari noises ✩
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