#anti feysand stans

[maybeiwasjustjade]

“Nesta hates Rhysand, so of course he looks godawful in her POV. She’s unreliable and villainizes him!!!!”

Y’all sound ridiculous.

The fact that ACOSF was written in 3rd person pov with DUAL MCs (one of which was a member of the IC) already proves that it’s a significantly more ubiased perspective than Feyre’s rose tinted glasses and lobotomy. Y’all just don’t like that your faves are unapologetic assholes whose actions actually can’t be redeemed this time without Feyre spinning in her own web of delusions.

Most of the scenes involving Rhysand the King Prick were from Cassian’s perspective. Given that Cassian is so far up Rhysand’s ass that he’s essentially a second mouthpiece, if Rhysand comes off impeccably dick-ish just accept that it’s more than likely the reality.

Nesta wasn’t the one that painted Rhysand as the insufferable villain; that was Cassian. Quit blaming Nesta for it. Accept that the IC are in fact the villains in a LOT of the characters’ stories. Literally barely anyone likes or even tolerates the NC. Nesta didn’t need to do squat for characters AND readers to dislike the Mayor of Velaris and his equally useless entourage.

[tamlindain]

Somebody screenshotted a part of my rant about sjms treatment of Tamlin where I just mentioned why Feyre didn't help him with his PTSD too along with many other points.. but the screenshot was just them totally ignoring all the other points I made like okay take that one thing and act like a feminist to kiss Rice bags ass geez.

[unforgivenyunjin]

“Rhys wasn’t raped”

“Rhys wasn’t raped”

“Rhys wasn’t raped”

“Rhys wasn’t raped”

“Rhys wasn’t raped”

Rape is both emotional and physical abuse and anything that is not 100% consent is rape. Being forced to have sex with someone out of fear is rape. Being forced to have sex with someone for “benefits” such as going outside is rape. Being forced to have sex with someone to prove your loyalty to them is rape.

If you’re put in any sexual situation where you are forced to do things and not because you genuinely want to, that is rape. Rhys did not 100% consent to his “relationship” (if you could even call it that) with Amarantha. He literally talks about how he was suicidal for a while because of what was happening to him Under The Mountain but it was all consensual? He was just a sex worker?

Two of the most ridiculous points this person makes is one, saying rape isn’t emotional abuse. And two, insinuating that being a “sex worker” made everything that happened to Rhys completely fine.

Sex workers are taken advantage of all the time. That’s one of the most dangerous parts of it. Being a sex worker does not always equal to consenting to everything you do. It’s not this glamorous job where you’re just consenting to everything and having sex for the fun of it. Therefore slapping the term “sex worker” onto Rhys as a way to invalidate his decades of sexual abuse is nothing short of demented.

And rape is most definitely emotions abuse. A lot of the time rape is used to control someone as seen with Amarantha and Rhys. She wanted to punish him because his father killed her friend and she wanted to prove his loyalty to her. It was literally about breaking him down and that’s why he still has trauma from it. You can’t look at the mental scars Rhys has because of Amarantha and boldly claim that wasn’t rape. You can’t read him clearly saying “she made me fuck her” and boldly claim that it wasn’t rape.

This person is not a child so there’s no valid excuse for this mentality. It’s just blatant vile ignorance and a nasty soul.

[limeandorange]

Feyre in ACOMAF: "I can eat, drink, fuck, and fight just as well as I did before. Better even."

Feyre basically barges into her sisters’ (human) house, bringing along three huge winged Illyrians, and they’re trying to be hospitable—Nesta offers them food (good food that Feyre herself admits she would’ve loved when she was human).

And what do they do? They don’t eat it because "It tastes like ash in my mouth."

And when Nesta, rightfully offended, asks if they’re “too good for their food,” THIS is what Feyre says??? What the actual fuck, Feyre?

Where are your manners when Elain and Nesta are just trying to be good hosts???

[lifeisabiscuit]

Somehow trauma is not an excuse when it comes to Nesta but when it comes to Feyre, it's "she's 19 and has trauma"

Somehow it's "Tamlin is an extremely old being and should know how to deal with his trauma" but when it comes to Rhysand (who is 38 yrs older than Tamlin) he's a poor sweet angel baby whose actions are excusable because trauma.

So which is it? Doesn't make much sense to me 🤷🏼‍♀️

[kataraavatara]

it’s so jarring reading acotar and acomaf feyre talking about how she hates propriety she hates being expected to birth heirs she hates caring about what other people think. and rhysand tells her he’s so much different than tamlin, he’s a dreamer assuring her that with him she won’t have to do any of those awful things hard cut to acosf feyre pregnant at twenty literally threatening to banish her sister because Nesta embarrassed her. And who was the one who humiliated Feyre by reading the bill in front of everyone. oh that’s right.

[littlefeltsparrow]

Schrödinger’s Feyre: Where Feyre is simultaneously a cunning and badass girlboss with a mind of steel and a fragile little lamb who doesn’t know any better. When they’re proud, she’s a skilled strategist and competent High Lady, but when it comes to facing the consequences of her actions and the implications of her power, suddenly she’s a little baby waddling through fairy land.

[theegemini92]

I have seen the theories of Tamlin and Briar. I am sorry another human for Tamlin is nothing but a blow to him, he deserves someone who will be with him for centuries. He deserves a stronger female character too someone with abilities that could rival or surpass feyre. I’m sorry but this isn’t it. She needs to be what Tamlin wants and what she wants in him. He needs someone who will CALM HIS STORM. A gentle firm female who I pray to god has more Witts and comebacks than picking up a sword because it’s not just strong fighters that represent all females. Not just swords that bring down empires. Accross countries and nations women have destroyed empires not with picking up a sword but our witts, BRAINS, OUR INTELLECT.

[lainalit]

The discussion of whether Feyre's High Lady title isn't just performative is pointless since she can never rule alone and get rhys powers because she will drop dead seconds after his death due to their death pact

[wingsdippedingold]

What really sucks about discussing Feyre and her role and relationships within the IC is that she is truly happy there, and thus issues are ignored or dismissed.

Because we can argue the ethics of their actions and wether or not Rhysand is a good mate, that’s what she wants and what she’s chosen 🤷‍♀️

[wallflowers-in-the-wind]

Love him or hate him at least Tamlin apologized, admitted what he did wrong, and tried to change for the better. His actions were to save his people and the one he loved. Tamlin also didn’t need to save Rhysand and Feyre but he did because despite everything they did he wanted her to be happy.

Tamlin is many things but a villain isn’t one of them.

[maybeiwasjustjade]

I see so many post constantly degrading Nesta for being so nasty and mean and ungrateful; for using Rhysand’s money and staying on his land (not for free I might add) while refusing to play nice or care.

But isn’t that the bare minimum of what he owes her?

The IC and Feyre dragged Nesta and Elain into their world by manipulating them using their guilt over letting Feyre hunt for those 5 years when they were severely impoverished. Nevermind that Feyre doesn’t know how to cook or clean so someone had to have done that, or that someone was bound to do physical labor anyway. But I digress—the IC gave Nesta so much shit for refusing to be Feyre and Elain’s mom, for not being the one to take care of them by any means necessary (which we know would’ve been through marriage).

So the sisters agreed to help with the Human Queens, putting a major target on their backs. The IC sent away their staff and guards, promised to leave protection that failed miserably. Feyre told Ianthe about her sisters; Rhysand let the Attor live knowing that Hybern would have their location. So the sisters were taken—kidnapped and dragged and thrown into something that turned them into something they weren’t.

Murdered and tortured for however eternity it took to melt the flesh off their bones, for their bones to grow and lengthen, and magic to flow through their veins. There’s another word for this, you know? Nonconsensual body modification. And just because they came out young and beautiful and immortal, everyone around them expected them to be grateful. But what is there to be grateful for, if you were Nesta and Elain? Ripped from their finally stable human lives and love? Forced to join a war that had nothing to do with them until it eventually fucked them over too?

As far as I’m concerned, and how it should’ve been if SJM wasn’t so far up feysand’s ass, whatever debt owed by Nesta and Elain to Feyre was repaid in full when they were murdered over Feyre and the IC’s actions.

Elain came out of that Cauldron catatonic for months. Nesta came out something other, even for a Fae, and dripping with so much power that she made High Lords quake at the sight of her and that damned finger. And in order to spare Elain from further suffering, Nesta took the brunt of their missions and scrying, repressed and depressed as she was. Yet it was still them who killed the King of Hybern, effectively ending the war.

The bare minimum Rhysand owed them afterwards was a fucking lifetime of peace, and to be left alone if they wished with enough money to make a king cry. But that wasn’t enough for him was it? Feyre was pushy because she wanted Nesta around even when Nesta preferred to be literally anywhere else. I can understand that to an extent as a younger sister myself. But she went about it all wrong, and let her mate do what he does best: be a complete and utter bitch.

And if getting sexually assaulted and repeatedly nearly dying finding the Troves for the NC still wasn’t enough to repay whatever fucking ‘debt’ Rhysand and his stans seem to still think she owes (despite the dying and kingslaying), Nesta gave up a significant portion of herself to save Feyre, Nyx, and Rhysand. And despite his gratefulness, he still couldn’t help himself from berating her horribly behind Feyre’s back, even when Feyre herself has told him repeatedly to lay the fuck off her sister.

So, NO. Nesta shouldn’t owe squat to the NC and its shitty High Lord. Pretty sure at this point, he owes her more.

[mia-nina-lilly]

Reasons why Rhysand and Feyre are terrible rulers, Day 2:

- Need I say more than two-thirds of their land is hell on earth and they do nothing to change it?

[ofbreathandflame-archive]

The visceral reaction to Ember’s rant towards Rhysand says a lot. There’s genuinely so much to unpack about how her concern is not only disregarded by Rhysand's stans but also mocked, to some extent. And this again, brings me back to my initial point about the extent of misogyny in this story and among its fans. I also think it’s interesting to see the difference between how Feyre’s initial sass is perceived (by fans and the story) versus how Ember is perceived by fans for standing up for Nesta. It brings me back to the point that (1) the story only believes Feyre should be empowered, and the story (and fans) don’t believe that all female characters should also have those traits. My second (2) point is how quickly people rush to invalidate and/or disregard domestic violence and abuse when less favorable characters react because of it. Here we have a human woman, who was abused and held hostage by a powerful Fae lord, so much so that she must take her daughter and run. She – in another realm – sees another woman in need and sees her body behavior and stands up to this man who could literally just kill her. This is interesting because when Feyre throws her shoe at Rhysand ‘in defiance’ of Rhys, we are supposed to think this is positive, yet when Ember does the same thing (and with the support of the narrative – this is a moment where SJM is attempting to hold Rhys accountable, to some extent) she is mocked. Laughed at. It isn’t as endearing to those stans. How quickly (potential) violence against women becomes suddenly a joke......

[fadingstudentbananacookie]

I'm conviced Feyre developed severe Stockholm Syndrome for Rhysand to survive the abuse. Not mild, but SEVERE.

This is terrifying. How the fuck is this so normalized in our society? Like how??? Teenage girls are reading this crap and thinking feysand and nessian are relationship goals.

There is nothing, NOTHING, about Rhysand that should make you swoon and giggle. If he were to approach me in the middle of a street, I would be running in the opposite direction. Guys like Rhysand are REAL and extremely manipulative (and charming). Your mind will do anything to protect you from the physical and psychological abuse they inflict on you when you have no way to escape them.

The first book was published in 2015 and its 2025 now, exactly 10 fucking years. The fact that I'm certain comments like the ones in the post below are all over tiktok right now is actually horrifying. Is society actually regressing backwards?

(Please check out this tumblr post by ladydeath-vanserra. You will understand my distress.)

[titaniaqueenoffairie]

If I Were Feyre, I’d Never Forgive Rhysand

If someone did to me what Rhys did to Feyre Under the Mountain, I would never forgive them. And don’t tell me it was “for her own good.” SA is SA, no matter the circumstances. Forcing her to drink faerie wine against her will? That’s SA. Making her do lap dances for him in front of everyone? Absolutely disgusting.

And the bargain? That wasn’t about protecting her—it was about owning her and provoking Tamlin.

Then came ACOMAF, where I thought I’d find reasons to love Rhys, but it was the total opposite.

The Stalking and Control That tattoo bargain turned into an excuse to stalk her. (And let me be clear—I’m not a fan of “dark romance” or mafia boss-type possessiveness. I hate stalking stories.) He also made her wear the same revealing dress she had to wear Under the Mountain, the one tied to her deepest trauma, and paraded her in front of the Court of Nightmares. And let’s be honest, the way she was acting there—it wasn’t her fault, but Rhys pushed her into playing the role of the High Lord’s whore. Then he had the audacity to get mad when someone treated her as such.

Mental Manipulation While Rhys assaulted Feyre physically and emotionally in the first book, in the second, he added mental SA to the list. He entered her mind without her consent to get information about the Spring Court, even when she told him to stop. And when he was supposed to teach her how to read and write, he made her write sentences about how handsome and powerful he is. Who does that? I couldn’t be with someone so arrogant and self-absorbed.

(And honestly, I’m not convinced he’s “the most powerful High Lord of all time.” He only keeps saying it to make sure everyone believes it. Feyre’s view of him is so biased because she’s in love with him, so of course, she sees him as the greatest.)

The Pregnancy Lie Let’s not forget the pregnancy situation. Rhys hid the life-threatening risks of Feyre’s pregnancy from her. How can anyone still say he always gives Feyre a choice after that? He literally became the definition of “your body, my choice.” And then he got angry and even threatened Nesta for telling Feyre the truth!

Mind Manipulation Master Rhys is a literal mind manipulator who has mastered his power for centuries. If my partner had that kind of ability, I’d constantly question whether my thoughts, choices, and feelings were genuinely mine—or if they were his manipulations.