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My dad refused to let me even try ballet as a child because he said it would "deform" my body. So one (1) person thinks it's an issue for cis people 😂
But yeah my friend who did ballet most of her life told me about all the irreversible changes her and her peers had because they started ballet so young, and how that was actually necessary for them to even be kind of "good" at it, not even for professional reasons, just good enough to be in roles for like, their shows. She also ultimately could not make the cut to be a pro ballet dancer, despite dancing before kindergarten, going to boarding ballet dance camps every summer, and dancing year-round during school.
Apparently one of the girls my friend knew had her toe joints grow crooked. Lots of the ballet dancers had bow-legs. Many lost some of the nails on their feet. Also they had tons of eating disorders that were kind of just handwaved away because, well, that's what you do for ballet, especially if your body is not naturally the ideal ballet dancer shape (this goes for the guys too apparently).
An aunt of mine had a roommate who was a pro ballet dancer and every day she would have one meal: a blended concoction of onions and other strong tasting food. She'd drink it all and have zero appetite for eating anything the rest of the day. That is also apparently not too bizarre for a ballet dancer.
So yeah children are already well able to ruin their bodies with decisions they make and people kind of just go along with it. Tbh just using puberty blockers to delay puberty sounds super benign in comparison. Even surgery is like... honestly, by your teens I think you know enough. Every kid is different but definitely by late teens it's old enough to make these decisions. Kids make irreversible decisions all the time. It's not the irreversibility that's really the issue here.
“transition poses some ethical questions. Such as, from what age should you be allowed to irreversibly change your body.“
This of course completely ignores the fact that puberty makes irreversible changes to your body. But let us just rephrase the question: “from what age do you gain bodily autonomy?” Now it gets very easy to answer: From the moment you’re fucking born.
#if anyone doesnt know a ballet dancer#and wants more info#i can ask my friend about it#but tldr seriously ballet is a great example i guess#of kids irreversibly fucking their bodies up and people just going with it#i mean other things happen too#gymnastics is similar i believe#you have to start young#if you think about it braces are a form of mutilation too#but we think they're good and necessary for health#kids also get lifesaving surgery too#and trans kids have such high suicide rates#how can you argue that gender affirming surgery is not also life saving?
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So Youtube is doing this disgusting thing now that if you're using an add blocker, they will have a pop up that comes up at the beginning of EVERY. SINGLE. VIDEO. that pauses the video and you have to click off of the pop up. Worse yet, is you can't use Addblock OR uBlock Origin to block the popup... it's not able to... And after awhile of this... They give you the ultimatium:
Undo your addblocker... or they will stop the video player from working . After researching a bit, I've seen that no one has been able to get around this, and people have actually gotten their accounts banned on youtube... or even when logged out youtube still blocks the player from working - so maybe it's linked to IP addresses (I dunno)...
All I DO know, is that I - terrified that they would ban my account - undid my addblockers for their website so I could watch youtube (since I don't have the extra cashflow to give them the $14 a month for no adds)... and just a moment ago was slapped in the face with an add for a transphobic documentary that "tells the untold stories of those effected by this... transition" and "what the mainstream media doesn't want people to know"...
I can tell you that it really thrust my dysphoria into my face as well as basically made my mother's voice echo in my head (since a lot of the "parents" they showed in the add have the same views as her about m transition)... My therapist is going to have a FIELD DAY with this when I go see her... although right now I just want to not exist really.
I put in feedback yesterday about how some people have addblockers for their health - not just physically and mentally, but also emotionally too - and of course today... one of the first videos I watch on youtube... and I get THAT as an add... coincidence - probably - but holy shit.
#youtube#this is starting to get ridiculous#not only do the adds interrupt like... midsentence of someone in a video...#but a lot of the adds could hurt people's health#LUCKILY I am in an ok headspace today... or this could have gone down SO differently#the add even weaponized some trans kids words and made it seem predatory: 'would you rather have a dead daughter? or an alive son?#like... it sometimes comes to that with trans people. Suicide rates are so high with us...#but no... go off about how its SO HARD for you parents when your child wants to be seen as themselves#I have SO MANY feels about this
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In the mood for...
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1. hi guys hope y’all are well
for the next mood for
is it possible to have some more lesbian wangxian? i’ve read everything in the complication and now im a little obsessed
thank you for everything ❤️🔥
Beautiful mess, a colourful wreck by covalentbonds (Not rated, 12k, wangxian, modern, rule 63, fluff & humor, mild smut, childhood friends, first meetings, evil vending machines)
End Racism in the OTW by Deastar (M, 2k, wangxian, F/F, modern, ABO, non-traditional ABO dynamics, alpha LWJ, omega WWX, fluff, rule 63)
Line of sight by deliciousblizzardshark (T, 8k, wangxian, F/F, pre-relationship, always different sex au, plucky heroines, misogyny, enemies to friends, WWX has ADHD)
you can always find me here by ScarlettStorm (E, 15k, wangxian, F/F, post-canon, getting together, genderswap, cisswap, trans woman LWJ, cis woman WWX, first time, vaginal fingering, oral sex)
A Heart in Ribbons by Alliandra (E, 8k, wangxian, F/F, gender or sex swap, canon divergence, war lord LWJ, darkish LWJ, powercouple wangxian, dub con, finger fucking, cunnilingus)
smoke gets in your eyes by Hi_Hello_smile (T, <1k, wangxian, F/F, modern, chef WWX, WIP)
Pocket Too Deep for Play by bigamma (E, 57k, Female WangXian, Modern AU, College/University, Vibrators, Easter Eggs, Sex Toys, Autistic LWJ, Female WWX, Female LWJ, WWX Has ADHD, Lacrosse, Christian Themes, Sports Medicine, YZY’s A+ Parenting, Angst and Fluff and Smut, Christian Holidays, Easter Egg Hunt, Implied/Referenced Homophobia, Bible Quotes (Abrahamic Religions), Cunnilingus)
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2. Hello, I am looking for fics about Lan Zhan being an overprotective father to Lan Sizhui, thank you. @majhe2026
❤️ A Civil Combpaign by Ariaste (M, 12k, zhuiling, wangxian, arranged marriage, combs, courting, awkward teenagers, teenage drama, humor, feelings, fluff, Mojo’s post)
Work in Tandem by MimiSpearmint (E, 23k, wangxian, LWJ & LSZ, modern cultivation, single parent LWJ, swordflight instructor WWX, fluff, protective LWJ, getting together, smut)
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3. Hey mods! Are there any fics where LWJ is hurtful towards WWX to protect him (like staying with him is dangerous and so LWJ acts all horrible so that WWX leaves) and then later he has to work to reconcile etc.?
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4. Hello!!
So I'm in the mood for Wei Ying homeless & found fics!! Like Wei Ying has been missing & found years later, or sometime later homeless and brought home. If there is intense trauma even better 🥹 I'm not really sure what to add.
Or even Wei Ying missing & found.
Full of secrets waiting to be revealed!! @spicyramen10969
(Un)forgettable by Edens_Cat, VividestListi (E, 67k, wangxian, modern, kid fic, misunderstandings, angst w happy ending, teacher WWX, juniors as WWX protection squad, amnesia, protective WQ, protective LSZ, matchmaker LJY, single parent WWX, smut) dont think he's homeless in any of these but wwx has been missing and gets found again in all of them
End Racism on the OTW || Yesterday Once More by Sweetlittlevampire (T, 22k, wangxian, modern, reality show au, Long Lost Family au, adoption, family reunions, lost love, getting back together, family feels, angst w happy ending)
Running Home to Me by songsofthespring (T, 34k, wangxian, Anastasia fusion, royalty au, angst w happy ending, hurt/comfort, temporary amnesia, medical inaccuraties, JYL & LWJ friendship, everyone lives au)
Where You Fell by Sweet_William (E, 303k, wangxian, 3zun, NHS/JC, JYL/JZX, modern, coffee shop au, angst w happy ending, homeless au, pining, getting together, slow burn, implied/referenced child abuse, suicidal thoughts, self-esteem issues, autistic character, WWX has ADHD, panic attacks, hurt/comfort, implied/referenced sex work, implied/referenced substance abuse)
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5. Hello! I'm in a mood to know what everyone is reading right now!
The Fifth Type of Non-Contact Force by Caixx (Not Rated, 83k, WangXian, Modern AU, High School, Slice of Life, Slow Burn, Fluff and Humor, Actually Somewhat Canon, Mutual Pining, Horny Teenagers, Angst with a Happy Ending, Non-Graphic Smut) Such a fun question! I'm rereading this fic, it's one of my fave teen wangxian fics
Caffeine, Small Talk by mistergoblin (E, 144k, WangXian, Modern AU, Friends With Benefits, Enemies to Lovers, or more accurately: frenemies to fuckbuddies to lovers, Angst and Fluff and Smut, touch-starved lwj, Slow Burn, high levels of sexual tension, Misunderstandings, Getting to Know Each Other, Switching, Bottom LWJ, bottom WWX, slight D/s, Happy Ending, side yanqing, lwj's patented horny grip, Sub LWJ) I just found this one and I'm hooked
Going on charmingly by scribbet (T, 21k, WangXian, Teenage LWJ, Cloud Recesses Shenanigans, Cloud Recesses Study Arc, WWX is BSSR's Disciple, Genius WWX, Petty LWJ, Meddling LXC, Canon Divergence)
Mew Dao Zu Shi by DizziDreams (T, 28k, WangXian, Tokyo Mew Mew AU, High School, Minor Violence, knowledge of Tokyo Mew Mew not required) been keeping a close eye on this Tokyo Mew Mew AU
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6. for the next iitmf, I was wondering if any of our lovely readers wanted to rec a fic that they recently came across that is new and they think is worth a read ? I took a hiatus from all things fandom and now there are a ton of new fics and I don't know where to start! when I say new, I mean in the last 2-3 months. thanks everyone! I love this blog ! ❤️
The Scarlet Lotus by rainbowninja167 (M, 137k, WangXian, Marriage of Convenience, Secret Identity, Fix-It, Angst with a Happy Ending, It Gets Worse Before It Gets Better, Canon-Typical Violence, canon-typical war crimes, Yunmeng Bros, the mortifying ordeal of getting seduced by your own husband, nonlinear chronology we die like cql, just kidding nobody dies in this fic, Slow Burn, Mutual Pining, Miscommunication) these two are my face recent fics that I think deserve waayyyy more attention!
Mad about the Boy by TriviasFolly (M, 62k, wangxian, 1950s America au, greaser WWX, historical smoking, historical viewpoints, angst, internal struggle, pre-relationship, historical homophobia, sexual awakenings, sexual exploration, self-discorvery journey, self-love journey, gay academia, teenage dramatics)
here's a few I adored that I recently read! Troubled Heart, Cooking With Love. by serenare (T, 10k, WangXian, Modern: No Powers, Light Angst, POV LWJ, Internal Conflict, Intern WWX, Strangers to Lovers, LWJ Loves Cooking, Cooking, Food as a Metaphor for Love, Anxiety, Ambiguous/Open Ending)
The Housewife's Guide to Causing Chaos by dvasva (T, 99k, WIP, WangXian, Canon-Typical Violence, Functionally Trans Character, Mild Sexual Content, Domestic Fluff, Love Confessions, Transphobia, Grief/Mourning, Body Dysphoria, Fake Marriage, Canonical Character Death, Misunderstandings, Doting LWJ, Canon Divergence, Arranged Marriage, Misgendering, Mild Angst, Assumptions, Comedic Elements, non-sexual nudity, Discussion of Various Bodily Functions, 4 years of mourning instead of 13, POV Multiple, Corporal Punishment, Trans WWX, Emotional/Psychological Abuse, pregnancy mention)
Silenced With A Kiss by NinjaKK (E, 88k, WIP, WangXian, Cloud Recesses Study Arc, Flirting, Teen Romance, Cloud Recesses Shenanigans, WangXian Get a Happy Ending, Soft WangXian, WWX in WWX's Body, Secret Relationship, Falling In Love, First Kiss, First Dates, Inventor WWX, Genius WWX, Canon Divergence, Protective LWJ, Protective WWX, Ripple Effect, First Time, Fluff and Smut, Optional Smut, Supportive LWJ, BAMF WWX, Inappropriate Use of Gūsū Lán Forehead Ribbon, Has an Angry LWJ Kink)
Truth Will Out (when caught on video) - End_OTW_Racism! by KizuKatana (E, 82k, wangxian, WN & WWX & WQ, graphic depictions of violence, modern cultivation, canon divergence, YZY abuses WWX , caught on camera, partial core removal, WWX kicked out of Jiang sect, livestreamer WWX, meet ugly, dual cultivation, smut, no war, WIP) I’ll take any and every opportunity to rec - currently my absolutely favorite fic
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7. Hello! Once again thank you for everything you do.
For the next in the mood for i'd like to request everybodies favourite getting together fics from Lwj's perspective. I just need more of him pining for Wwx. (But if you have other good Lwj POV fics i'd love if you could recommend them too)
Thank you in advance!!
like blue flame over my fingertips by tangerinechar (T, 37k, wangxian, modern, college/university au, pining, 5+1 things, food as a metaphor for love)
Window Shopping by thunderwear (E, 18k, WangXian, quarantine fic, Single Dad WWX, Getting Together, Long-Distance Relationship, kind of??, Mutual Pining, Fluff, lots of fluff, almost no angst, Happy Ending, First Time, Phone Sex, background 3zun, switching POV, Domestic Fluff, no like a shitton of domestic fluff, some smut)
fell by you by Vrishchika (E, 44k, Dragon LWJ, Fantasy, Explicit Smut in Last Chapter, Pining, POV LWJ, Canon Divergence, Immortals, Deities, Canon-Typical Violence, Dragon WWX, Angst with a Happy Ending)
leave all your love and your longing behind by ScarlettStorm (E, 143k, WangXian, Modern AU, no magic, Meet-Ugly, Panic Attacks, autistic lwj, neurodivergent wwx, the neighborhood asshole dog, if you’ve met one then you know, Hurt/Comfort, Pining, Minor Angst, major shenanigans, Happy Ending, for everyone including the asshole dog, Eventual Smut, switch rights, Sex Toys, horny yearning, Masturbation)
Child's Play by flowercity (FaoriE) (T, 14k, WangXian, Modern AU, Mutual Pining, Family, Kid Fic, Fluff, Love at First Sight, Light Angst, Brief Hospitalization, Seizures, Alcohol, But no one gets drunk, Making Out, Single Dad WWX)
You'll be my by cupofwater (G, 2k, WangXian, First Meetings, Meet-Cute, Modern AU, Weddings, Fluff, Illustrated)
Admonishment by bookwyrmling (T, 6k, wangxian, canon divergence, fix-it of sorts, teacher LQR, student WWX, LQR pov, gusu lan sect positive, cloud recesses study arc, burial mounds settlement days, golden core reveal)
Keep Track of Losing Days by giraffeter (T, 74k, WangXian, NieLan, Modern AU, Case Fic, Police, Missing Persons, Mystery, Getting Together, Flashbacks, Rooftop Conversations, Detective LWJ, antifa WWX, team give LWJ friends, Angst with a Happy Ending, Sharing a Bed, First Kiss, First Meetings, Seattle, Mutual Pining, nonfatal car accident, mafia wens, Mild Hurt/Comfort, Friends to Lovers, Guns)
I know what my heart wants by yakuso5u (Not Rated, 28k, WangXian, Modern AU, Single Father LWJ, Fluff, Mutual Pining, Getting Together, Accidental Child Acquisition, Domestic, Slice of Life, Christmas references)
The Second Jade of Lan's late but incendiary sexual awakening by KizuKatana (E, 41k, wangxian, modern, college au, genius WWX, competency kink, caretaking kink, canon wangxian dynamics, first time)
(not) puppy love by tiramisus (M, 3k, wangxian, modern, WWX owns an animal shelter, affection starved LWJ, LWJ’s tragic childhood, meet-cute, love at first sight)
some things go forward by everythingispoetry (T, 73k, WangXian, Modern AU, Hospitals, Teenage Drama, Slow Burn, Hurt/Comfort, Fluff, Happy Ending)
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8. Hello! For the next ITMF, I’m looking for fluffy fics with no misunderstanding and no oblivious WWX. Just falling in love, getting together, actual communication
i prefer canon but i'm down for modern as well :)
Question for 8: are they looking for canon or modern or both/any?
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9. Hii , thank you for all the hardwork. I really appreciate it and I am back with another request. Can you please recommend me fics where it's wangxian being in love but from outsider pov. Thank you so much @sineofu
hey I just met you, and this is crazy by KeriArentikai (E, 9k, wangxian, modern, outsider pov, woke up married, married in vegas, with a twist, getting together, love at first sight, unrealistic sex)
Wait, What? by MarbleGlove (G, 1k, wangxian, time travel, outsider pov)
Always the right way round by so_shhy (G, 3k, wangxian, modern, office party, LWJ loves rabbits, good brother LXC, fluff, excellent boyfriend WWX, outsider POV)
The Misunderstanding by kisahawklin (T, 9k, wangxian, LXC & LWJ, WQ & WWX & WN, WWX & LSZ, modern, misunderstandings, outsider pov)
Everything's growing in our garden by like_a_bird_that_flew (T, 3k, wangxian, LXC & LWJ, modern, coming out, supportive LXC, family feels, established relationship, remrefenced fear of homophobia & rejection, fluff, angst w happy ending, humor)
looking through a window by glitteringmoonlight (T, 5k, wangxian, modern, college/universtity au, outsider pov, fluff, humor)
oh brother by lanzhans_rbf (G, 5k, LXC & LWJ, wangxian, modern, outsider pov, twin jades of lan dynamics, twin jades of lan feels)
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10. *cupped hands* do you of /any/ fics where jin ling gets his dajiu's gift? bonus if it comes into play as it grows up? 🥺🥺 please i can't believe the only fic i know like this is my leaves reach ever for the sun 🙏🙏🙏🙏
a symbol to remind you that there's more to see by paperminds (T, 9k, JL & WWX, JC & WWX, JL & JC, post-canon, canon typical violence, hurt/comfort, angst w happy ending, JC & WWX reconciliation)
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11. Askjhgahgahab I love your blog!!!!
Have you heard of the fic called A Price to Pay by Wangxianist? In that one, a lot of WWX’s angst was caused by LWJ. I’m looking for fics where the same is the case. Where he’s angsty not because of the Jiangs or the SSC or anything else. But because of LWJ. But also not CQL post canon fics where the WWX is pining because LWJ left him on the roadside.
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12. For the next itmf, can you recommend some dark lwj fics where he is older than wwx. The time period doesn't matter. Thank you for your hard work!💞💞
A Matter of Time by mrcformoso (M, 40k, wangxian, time travel fix-it, graphic depictions of violence, underage, LWJ pov, JC pov, dark LWJ, manipulation, grooming, teen body adult mind for LWJ, happy ending for wangxian, problematic consensual underage sex, blood & violence, insane LWJ, manic LWJ) i would recommend 𝘢 𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦 by mrcformoso, i think it fits ♡︎
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13. Hi!! I'm going crazy searching for Wen Yuan fics, especially something where he or the Lans discover his identity before WWX resurrection. I'm craving for angst. Thank you!! @niquels-mind
no new age Series by everythingispoetry (M/T, 145k, WangXian, Canon Divergence, Angst, Hurt/Comfort, Permanent Injury, Recovery, Disability, Parenthood, Character Study, Thirteen Years of WWX’s Death, Families of Choice) part 2 in this series is focused on pretty much exactly that!
the blurriness of being alive by RedLipped (T, 18k, wangxian, canon divergence, grief/mourning, burial mounds, angst w happy ending, hurt/comfort, LWJ is a good dad, inquiry, character study) lwj tells him before wwx resurrection but lsz doesn’t handle it very well at first
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14. any fics where wwx has a dependable parental figure? preferably not jfm? examples that come to mind are jyl in the teapot plot, and lqr in ssj. i would absolutely adore more stories like this, in whichever way the parenthood comes into play ❤
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15. it's been a while since i saw this request so please some inventor/genius/talented-artist wwx? love that guy :')
💖 Pentimento. by orange_crushed (E, 73k, wangxian, modern, college/university au, art conservation, museums, pining, not actually unrequited love, angst w/ happy ending, misunderstandings, smut, major character injury, hospitalization, hurt/comfort, past incarceration, forgery)
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16. ITMF WWX debating with Lan Qiren? LQR could be kind or cruel, I just would love to read some fics where the two debate philosophy, practice, history, academia, etc.
Seasons of Falling Flowers by merakily (G, 40k, wangxian, LQR & WWX, LQR & LWJ, post-canon, character study, introspection, in-laws, emotional baggage, family bonding, protective LWJ, good parent LQR, LQR has feelings, LQR & WWX become friends)
💖 Minding series by WithBroomBefore (G, 85k, wangxian, canon divergence, what if WWX got therapy and recovery post-sunshot, trans LWJ) Part 2 of this series has some debating
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17. Itmf: wwx dies a child birth or after having the baby, can be temporary character death.
The time we’ve lost by Anye (T, 54k, wangxian, LSZ & WWX, LSZ & LJY, modern, ABO, everyone is alive but they don’t know that, eventual happy ending, slow build, twins, misunderstandings) this one is wild bc lwj thinks wwx died in childbirth but he didn’t and has been raising lsz in America the whole time
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Like if there's anything this AITA has shown me it's that you guys don't give a shit about us. And by "us" I mean who else? Trans women and lesbians. You don't fucking care about us. You fucking hate us. You think we're all evil gatekeeping and eat trans men with our morning coffee. Some of y'all haaaaaaaate to see a bad bitch who isn't on her hands and knees licking men's boots every hour of the day, 25/8, morning noon and night. Y'all just love to say that lesbians can fuck men and are okay with fucking trans men and how attraction doesn't have to get in the way of who y'all fuck and all that shit and how there's no harm in having an entire ass fetish for raping lesbians and trans women and it's got to a point where a trans man feels comfortable hopping on AITA and showing his entire full ass saying that he fucks lesbians without telling them that he's not a woman because he has a self-admitted dykebreaking kink and it gives him a "thrill" and you still damn near break your necks to tell him that noooooooo, it's okay, lesbians still fuck men, what you're doing totally isn't rape at all, dykebreaking kinks are harmless, it's not that big of a deal, it's okay to prioritize your safety and all that dumb horse-trotting shit, and then you love to spread lies about transfems sexually assaulting your partners and being pedophiles just because they want to invite kids over to their pools or saying they're creepy just because they like to wear maid outfits and lingerie or are eavesdroppers or want to be part of a polycule, and then make a 4-chan-esque reference to trans suicide rates on top of all that shit while describing trans women as big and scary and muscular and dehumanizing them like they're cats and bitches will be eating it up like it's fried curry. Like you all can fuck off with your "queer community" and "happy pride" and "we're all in this together" like it's High School Musical up in this bitch, unless you can accept the existence of women who don't like men, don't want to be men, don't center men, etc., then your pride acceptance is worthless. Legitimately y'all can all get fucked.
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Let's talk about this article:
... because I read the study, and I have some questions.
This article breathlessly states that trans and gender non-conforming teenagers are attempting suicide by up to 72% more, potentially based on laws their states are passing.
... but also as low as 7% more. So no, there is no massive wave of individuals committing or attempting suicide everywhere. There is no trans "genocide."
The survey run by the study did have participants ages 13-24, and found those participants through social media ads. They had more than 5,000 respondents from California and less than 180 from Wyoming, just as an idea of the sample.
The study admits that "no work has been able to identify casual mechanisms between state-level anti-transgender laws and the mental health of the TGNB (transgender/non-binary) community" and "no research has specifically identified a casual link between anti-transgender laws and increased suicide risk" but then boy does it go on and try.
It also fully admits that TGNB teenagers "are already at risk for mental health concerns," which the study believes is due to "minority stress" (stress associated with being the negative impacts of being part of a minority) or potentially because they feel "unimportant and disconnected" (who doesn't, as a teenager?) but which, in my opinion, is more likely because everyone keeps telling them they're going to commit suicide.
Let's talk about these laws that are apparently causing "trans children" not to exist. There have been laws to limit access to cross-sex hormones, dangerous off-label cancer drugs, and permanent life-changing surgery on minors (considering these drugs have a wide range of side effects like slowed intellectual and emotional development, osteoporosis, vaginal atrophy, permanent infertility, and never being able to orgasm, and the surgeries are designed to remove healthy body parts, this seems positive); keeping bathrooms segregated by sex (considering that girls face higher levels of abuse in mixed-sex restrooms and changing rooms, this also seems positive); and keeping sports sex-segregated as well (considering that male and female athletes have different strengths and body types, this seems like it would increase fairness for both groups, and so seems positive to me too).
Now let's talk about people who are actually committing suicide, not just using it for emotional abuse:
The Jed Foundation, which works to increase mental health support on high school and college campuses, says that almost 14% of young adults and 22% of high school students have seriously considered suicide in the past year; 10% of high school students attempted suicide in the past year. The groups with the highest rates of both consideration and attempts are females, Native Americans, and lesbian, gay, and bisexual individuals.
The CDC tells us that teenagers in rural communities who face isolation, Black teenagers, and "LGBT" teenagers have the highest rates of suicide deaths. Alaska (which has, notably, no anti-trans laws on the books) has the highest rate of suicide deaths (roughly 40 in 100,000), and it's noted that pockets of suicide spring up in groups like Native Americans, Mormons, and evangelical Christians. The places with the lowest suicide rate for teens are urban areas and big cities, whereas those in isolated areas with higher access to firearms and illegal drugs or alcohol see higher rates.
The rate of teen suicides is the lower than the general suicide rate of the entire US. Elderly people have the highest rate of suicide. But yet all that's talked about is the rate of specifically trans kids killing themselves because they couldn't get "gender-affirming" health care, or play on a sports team, or go into the opposite sex's bathroom. The media has decided to push this angle, and almost everyone has eaten it up. Obviously they're the most affected by everything.
I am tired of this narrative. Teenagers and kids deserve better.
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The end is near.
We can all feel it.
I'm so scared.
I want to be a little kid again.
To have hope.
I don't care if my childhood was spent wondering why Daddy didn't love me.
I don't care if It was spent wondering what I could do to make myself better for my mommy and daddy.
I WANT THE SAFETY OF HAVING MY MOMMY AND DADDY TO PROTECT ME BACK.
I'm gonna f*cking cry writing but I don't care.
If this really is the end of the world, and the earth really is ridding itself of our parasitic presence, or in another case, if Trump gets elected, I'm never gonna grow up.
I'm just a kid. I'm A KID. I WILL NEVER GROW UP AND MARRY MY BEST FRIEND. I WILL NEVER OWN A QUIET LIBRARY WITH A COFFEE SHOP INSIDE, THAT ONLY SELLS REAL LITERATURE. I WILL NEVER OWN THE THREE CATS IVE ALWAYS WANTED. I WILL NEVER GET TOP SURGERY OR BE ABLE TO BE MY TRUE SELF- BECAUSE ILL BE DEAD.
I only want to be a little kid napping in my mommy's arms again.
I want to be safe again.
I don't want my rights to be a debate between two rich cis hetero men.
If project 2025 is real I'm not making it to high school. Or even just fifteen. And that's a fact.
The fact I even have to make this post is sickening, but y'know.
Yeah, we have two bad candidates. But look at it this way- if Trump wins, gay and trans youth and adults are going to suffer. Women will suffer. People of color will suffer. Poor people will suffer. Anybody who is not a rich, cishet white man will SUFFER. Graves will be filled. Suicide rates will skyrocket. Children will die.
#kamala harris#vote blue for my safety please#harris walz 2024#vote harris#i hate trump#trump hates america#vote kamala#dystopian#the world is ending#the end is near#were all doomed#we are doomed#if trump wins#we all suffer#womens rights#trans rights#gay rights#marauders era#gay#marauders#sirius black#dorcas meadowes#lgbtqia rights#lesbian#marauders fan#wolfstar#barty x evan#sbg taylor#sbg ashlyn#sbg tyler
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Incredibly harrowing news coming from whistleblowers at Tavistock, speaking to Jo Maugham of the Good Law Project.
CWs for transphobia and suicide.
Essentially, since the shuttering of basically all healthcare for trans youth in the UK following the Bell decision (and the complete lack of the restoration of services following it), there has been a predictably massive spike in the suicide rate of kids in the waiting list.
There was one suicide on the list in the seven years prior to the Bell decision. In the three years following it, there have been 16 deaths.
This data is not being made public, and it's not forming part of the conversation around the Cass Report - which has used strongly biased methods to argue for the further limitation of trans healthcare for young people.
These deaths are heart-wrenching, and they were entirely predictable for anyone with any personal experience in the matter - the exact same people who have been ignored time and again in this decision-making process.
Their blood is on the hands of Badenoch, Cass, and every other individual who put their twisted transphobic ideology ahead of patients' safety.
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Another thing I think is worth discussing:
Transphobic and other anti-LGBTQ+ violence perpetuated by, against, and among youth isn't just a matter of punishing the aggressors for their actions.
Adults throughout the U.S. -- school administrators, school boards, lawmakers, etc. -- have actively and willfully created an environment where LGBTQ+ (particularly trans and nonbinary) youth are dehumanized by not only institutions and the adults that run them, but by their peers.
They effectively deny kids the right to do something as basic as use the bathroom. They ban teachers from using the names and pronouns of trans/nb youth. They create policies requiring schools to notify parents when kids express LGBTQ+ identity (which puts those kids at risk of isolation, abuse, and "conversion" attempts if their families are transphobic or homophobic). They challenge and ban books by and/or about LGBTQ+ people (again: especially trans/nonbinary people), invoking "parents' rights." This not only infringes on (most importantly imo) kids' basic right to read, but also infringes on other parents' rights, dictating how they raise their children by removing anything they deem "inappropriate" from school libraries and curricula.
They have sent a message to LGBTQ+ youth themselves through these actions -- "you are unwanted; you are unwelcome; we do not see you as children worthy of an education and basic human decency, but as boogeymen and the embodiment of the types of people we hate." This erodes the mental health of and contributes to the already disproportionately high rates of self-harm and suicide among LGBTQ+ youth.
But these adults have also sent a corresponding message to straight, cisgender youth that their LGBTQ+ peers are to be silenced, denied humanity, and eliminated from any space they occupy at any cost (whether that means bullying them into the closet and locking the door, or using violence or ostracism to silence the ones who cannot or do not hide their identities).
There's also a broader discussion to be had about how the criminal justice system deals with violence perpetrated by minors: punitive vs. rehabilitative approaches; accounting for the developmental stage of the minor(s) in question while still centering and ensuring justice for the victim(s); discriminatory practices in conviction and sentencing (as well as whether someone is tried as a juvenile or an adult), particularly with regards to race and class.
But, point is, I don't think we can stop anti-LGBTQ+ and other hate-based violence and bullying by focusing on the individual perpetrators involved in each instance, or addressing it on a case-by-case basis. The adults in charge are (whether implicitly or explicitly) sending the message that all LGBTQ+ people, including LGBTQ+ kids, are -- in the words of Oklahoma State Senator Tom Woods referring to Nex Benedict -- "filth". At the end of the day, these are grown adults bullying and abusing literal children. They can't absolve themselves of responsibility when those kids' peers mirror that hate.
#transphobia#transphobic violence#lgbtq+#bullying#hate violence#self harm mention cw#suicide mention cw
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[TW: Suicide, Anti-Trans Bigotry]
Erin Reed at Erin In The Morning:
According to a new study released Tuesday by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), one in four transgender youth attempted suicide in the past year. Of those, 10% required medical treatment following the attempt. The study also found that 3.3% of high school students identify as transgender, while an additional 2.2% report questioning or feeling uncertain about their gender. The survey, which included a large, nationally representative sample of 20,103 students, has significant implications for the wave of anti-trans laws that have passed—and continue to go into effect—in red states across the United States. Extrapolating from the CDC study, the number of transgender and gender-questioning high school students in the United States is likely as high as 875,000. Of trans students, 26% reported attempting suicide in the past year, with 10% requiring medical treatment. This amounts to tens of thousands of suicide attempts by transgender youth that required medical care in 2023.
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The CDC report follows a recent study published in the prestigious journal Nature Human Behavior, which found that anti-transgender bans led to an increase of up to 72% in suicide attempts by transgender youth in states that passed anti-trans legislation. Using a natural experiment design and multiple waves of surveys, the study found that laws such as bathroom bans, sports bans, and gender-affirming care bans were significantly and causally associated with a rise in suicides. The survey reached 61,000 transgender youth in the United States across several waves, making it one of the most impactful studies ever conducted on the effects of anti-trans legislation. Some critics of studies showing high suicide attempt rates, such as anti-trans bloggers Benjamin Ryan and Leor Sapir, often downplay the severity or frequency of suicide attempts among transgender youth. For instance, Leor Sapir has claimed that studies on transgender suicidality may reflect “non-lethal self-harm and cries for help,” rather than “serious efforts to die.��� Similarly, Ryan has dismissed suicide attempts as a meaningful metric, stating that a “reduction in suicidal ideation and attempts” does not prove that gender-affirming care is life-saving. Many of Ryan’s posts on the topic have since been deleted.
[...] Together, the CDC survey and the Nature Human Behavior study reveal a stark reality: in much of the country, transgender youth are being subjected to harmful restrictions on their care, driving a sharp rise in suicide attempts. As these young people are forced to navigate a landscape of hostility and withdrawal of support, their mental and physical well-being hangs in the balance. The Supreme Court will soon decide whether transgender youth will be granted the equal protection they deserve under the law—or if they will be left to bear the devastating consequences of aggressive, discriminatory legislation.
A CDC report reveals that around a quarter of trans kids have attempted suicide in the past year, fueled by laws banning gender-affirming care, bathroom use, and even the basic existence of trans people.
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Hello, just discovered your blog and have gone through it I hope to not be an illiterate anon, apologies if i am, I'm very tired all the time. Your post appeared on my recommended and I'd like to respond.
If a doctor put a perfectly healthy person on chemotherapy because they walked into their office and said “I think I have cancer” that would be malpractice and the doctor would lose their license.
Let's check this. Quote from transcare https://transcare.ucsf.edu/transition-roadmap: "Requirements for a behavioral health evaluation and preparation in advance of chest and genital surgery, and the use of hormone therapy and presenting full time in one's chosen gender identity for 1 year before genital procedures, unless there is a medical or other reason that prevents meeting these requirements." What that means is kids do not just walk in at the first sight of dysphoria and ask. They've got to be committed to it for a year. What about dysphoria? How does one get diagnosed with it? Quote from mayo clinic https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/gender-dysphoria/symptoms-causes/syc-20475255#(sry if the link doesn't work) :
"Gender dysphoria might cause adolescents and adults to experience a marked difference between inner gender identity and assigned gender that lasts for at least six months."(bold mine) Six months. That's not just walking in and asking, that's again, a long time.
What if they regret it? There's an incredibly high regret rate. They're only kids, we know better than them. Well, those figures might have been exaggerated a little. Quote from transeqality "This study ( https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lanchi/article/PIIS2352-4642(22)00254-1/fulltext ) found that 98% of youths prescribed puberty blockers went on to be prescribed hormone replacement therapy after turning 18." That means that 98 percent of kids knew they were trans and correct about it.
Quote from the same site "One Dutch study ( https://genderanalysis.net/2018/11/large-study-of-trans-people-in-the-netherlands-shows-growing-numbers-seeking-treatment-low-regret-rates/ ) of nearly 7,000 transgender people found that the rate of regret was less than 1% among those who received treatment as adults – and there were no cases of regret among those who received care before the age of 18."
To put that in perspective, 30 percent of people regret getting knee surgery https://www.aarp.org/health/conditions-treatments/info-2018/knee-replacement-surgery-regret.html
You claim to care about children? Check this out. https://www.thetrevorproject.org/survey-2022/ 45 percent of trans youth seriously considered suicide, and that number more than halved when they got support. Half.
Referral letters are required for a surgery. If a surgeon had a person who looked perfectly healthy come into their office and say "I have cancer, here's my proof of living in pain for 6 months, here's my proof of taking medicine, telling people I have cancer, my proof of going to support groups for my cancer, my cancer screenings, a signed letter from a specialist saying I have cancer, and one more for good measure." then the surgeon would get them surgery immediately because they do not specialise in cancer diagnosis. Yet this same thing happens for trans people all over the world where they're denied surgery by transphobic doctors.
Hi thanks for your thoughtful response. I have to disagree, though.
I have a couple of issues with your first point about surgeries and hormone therapy. First, one year is not that long to wait, especially if the person is a minor (and frankly this not should not even be an option for minors at all). If a perfectly healthy person walks into a doctor's office and says they have cancer and the doctor, instead of testing them for cancer, says "come back in a year and if you still feel that way we'll start chemotherapy" that's still malpractice.
Also, I would encourage you to listen to the testimonies of detransitioners because these "requirements" aren't always adhered to. One woman I was listening to who underwent transition as a minor said the first medical intervention she ever received was a double mastectomy.
And I wasn't just referring to surgeries and hormone replacement therapy with that post; I was also talking about puberty blockers. And if you consider Mayo Clinic a reliable source, this is what they list as the requirements for getting on puberty blockers.
In most cases, to begin using puberty blockers, an individual needs to:
Show a lasting pattern of gender nonconformity or gender dysphoria.
Have gender dysphoria that began or worsened at the start of puberty.
Address any psychological, medical or social problems that could interfere with the treatment.
Be able to understand the treatment and agree to have it. This is called informed consent.
This could all be accomplished in a single visit and just requires the doctor to ask a few questions.
"Gender dysphoria might cause adolescents and adults to experience a marked difference between inner gender identity and assigned gender that lasts for at least six months."(bold mine) Six months. That's not just walking in and asking, that's again, a long time.
No, six months is not a long time before diagnosing a severe mental illness where the next steps are essentially permanently altering your body.
And, mind you, this does not mean they have to be observed by a doctor for at least six months. It means it has to have been established that they have felt that way for at least six months. Meaning, a little boy can walk in and essentially the following exchange can take place:
Boy: I'm a girl
Doctor: How long have you felt that way?
Boy: About six months.
Doctor: Ok. I am diagnosing you with gender dysphoria.
Again, it can be diagnosed in a single visit. And btw, people can go through phases that last much longer than six months. That is nowhere near enough time to diagnose someone, especially a child, who is living in an environment where there gender confusion is being affirmed by the people around them, with gender dysphoria.
"What if they regret it? There's an incredibly high regret rate. They're only kids, we know better than them. Well, those figures might have been exaggerated a little. from transeqality "This study ( https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lanchi/article/PIIS2352-4642(22)00254-1/fulltext ) found that 98% of youths prescribed puberty blockers went on to be prescribed hormone replacement therapy after turning 18." That means that 98 percent of kids knew they were trans and correct about it."
Ok so there's some important information being left out here and it's information that shows this study can't be really be a credible source of information for the rate of regret and it doesn't show that 98% of kids "knew they were trans and were correct about it."
First of all, the sample size of this study was only 720. Not that big. Most importantly, at the start of the treatment they were following the median age for boys was 14 and the median age for girls was 16. When they concluded the study the median age of boys was 20 and the median age of girls was 19 so this was only measured for about four or five years and can't be taken seriously as evidence of anything. Certainly not evidence that "98% of kids don't regret transitioning and know they are trans and are correct about it." That study is hardly long enough to show that children still consider themselves trans once they are adults.
This study, published in 2022, looked at a sample of about 1,000 individuals and found that the 4 year continuation rate of gender affirming hormone treatment is around 70%, which means the detransition rate is 30%. Not 1-2% like you suggest.
This study, while not a study on how many people detransition, looks at a number of people who have detransitioned (237, so not a lot) and reasons why they detransitioned. Here is a chart from the study showing that the main reason for detransitioning (70%) was realizing their gender dysphoria was related to other issues.
It's also worth noting that 45% of the people didn't feel "properly informed about the health implications of the accessed treatments and interventions before undergoing them."
This study also indicates that, at least for the detransitioners sampled, their detransitions happened approximately five years after they started their transition, which, interestingly, is right about the point of time the study you linked stops.
"Quote from the same site "One Dutch study ( https://genderanalysis.net/2018/11/large-study-of-trans-people-in-the-netherlands-shows-growing-numbers-seeking-treatment-low-regret-rates/ ) of nearly 7,000 transgender people found that the rate of regret was less than 1% among those who received treatment as adults – and there were no cases of regret among those who received care before the age of 18.""
This study was mostly following people who started transitioning when they were already adults and remember we're talking about kids here. And I don't know where you got the idea that "there were no cases of regret among those who received care before the age of 18" because I don't see that mentioned anywhere in the link you provided or the study itself. What I did see them mention was about 40% of the adolescents they evaluated started puberty blockers and then several stopped taking them without getting any further treatment.
"You claim to care about children? Check this out. https://www.thetrevorproject.org/survey-2022/ 45 percent of trans youth seriously considered suicide, and that number more than halved when they got support. Half."
I do care about children, but I don't trust the Trevor project. They are an activist organization and are only going to publish things that affirm their narrative, whether it's true or false. I suggest you look at data from both sides before taking the Trevor project at their word.
For example, I came across a paper that found an interesting phenomenon in the youth suicide rate.
In the past several years, the suicide rate among those ages 12 to 23 has become significantly higher in states that have a provision that allows minors to receive routine health care without parental consent than in states without such a provision. Before 2010, these two groups of states did not differ in their youth suicide rates. Starting in 2010, when puberty blockers and cross-sex hormones became widely available, elevated suicide rates in states where minors can more easily access those medical interventions became observable.
Rather than being protective against suicide, this pattern indicates that easier access by minors to cross-sex medical interventions without parental consent is associated with higher risk of suicide.
This suggests that the Trevor project is not entirely accurate and the suicide rate among youth tragically rose after having access to "gender affirming care."
"Referral letters are required for a surgery. If a surgeon had a person who looked perfectly healthy come into their office and say "I have cancer, here's my proof of living in pain for 6 months, here's my proof of taking medicine, telling people I have cancer, my proof of going to support groups for my cancer, my cancer screenings, a signed letter from a specialist saying I have cancer, and one more for good measure." then the surgeon would get them surgery immediately because they do not specialise in cancer diagnosis. Yet this same thing happens for trans people all over the world where they're denied surgery by transphobic doctors."
So you mean the doctor has to have substantial evidence that someone has cancer before treating them? Like a screening? As opposed to simply confirming that they've felt that way for a long time?
And I'm sorry but using the phrase "transphobic doctors" takes credibility away from your entire message. This is why transphobic doesn't mean anything anymore. You just use it to refer to anyone who thinks gender dysphoria needs to be determined by more than someone simply saying they feel like the opposite sex and have for a long time. It's not "transphobic" for a doctor to determine a person doesn't need a sex change surgery. Doctors are there to observe and treat people's physical and mental health, not affirm their feelings. And it's incredibly petty and disingenuous to refer to a doctor who denies someone a surgery after they have supposedly gone through all the requirements you said had to be met that they are transphobic.
So let me ask you, if all those requirements for surgery aren't met and the person is denied the surgery how is the doctor transphobic? You assure me that all these strict requirements must be met before people surgically transition so it's not just happening to anyone who walks in but at the same time if anyone who wants the surgery doesn't qualify then the doctor is transphobic. You're not being consistent.
There are two sides to every story. Make sure you're not just looking at one.
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TW:transphobia, murder, transmisogyny, death, suicide mention
this is mostly a rant that i just need to get off my chest
Trans women are censored, harassed and ignored, stalked, and another trans child has been murdered. its a bad time to be trans in many countries rn
If you think that those things dont go hand in hand then you are wrong. Ignoring a trans women when she reports harassment and stalking is how trans women get killed. when a trans man gets excluded from lgbt spaces bc he is transitioned and people think that men=bad, it leaves him without support if he is suicidal or being harassed. When a child is seen as something other than human because they are non binary, officials don't call an ambulance when they are injured and thats how kids die. What happened to Nex was murder.
The ceo isnt committing murder, but he is contributing to the culture that gets people killed and i hope he feels bad about it, especially since tumblr is the one place where a lot of trans people feel safe being themselves.
@photomatt when the statistics have the faces of your friends it is very hard to take you seriously when you have been so glib about the experiences of the trans women on this site. Trans women are some of the most brutalized and murdered people in the world so sorry if I find the car hammer explosion joke funny. Against @predstrogen you look pathetic. I can guarantee she has gotten real death threats. How do i know? bc I have too, as most of the trans people online have.
Enough of that. FELLOW TRANS!! FELLOW QUEERS!!!
LINK TO TRANS RESOURCES INCLUDING SUICIDE HOTLINES:
Don't give up, and dont stop being angry. We deserve to exist and we deserve to be treated like human beings!
#transgender#transphobia#nex benedict#rest in peace nex#black trans lives matter#please let me know if i tag this improperly#ive seen a lot of names and faces of trans people who are no longer here and it never gets easier#no wonder so many of us off ourselves#it hurts to trans a lot of the time anyway#carhammerexplosionmatt#predstrogen#and this goes double for queers of color#lgbtq resources#trans hotline#suicide hotline#this is mostly a rant#i am just so angry#suicide mention#death mention
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There is no good justification for suicide-baiting.
Full stop. I was actively suicidal for most of my life and did attempt at one point which ended in my hospitalization and forced therapy, which apparently saying all that makes you an expert on it.
Suicide-baiting is harassment and an act of violence, I refuse to even call it bullying because it is much worse. I still remember the name and face of the kid who told me to kill myself when I was 15, I don't even remember most of my teachers names, even the ones I liked, because of long term depression caused memory problems. I'm 24.
If you are blaming it on a mental illness, stop. You are not only actively contributing to society's negative views on mentally ill folks as inherently violent (despite being more likely to face violence than enact it) you're also just a fucking asshole. "But it's a symptom!" Yeah and you know what I do when I lash out? I fucking apologize because there are no excuses.
"But it's fine if they're a nazi/fascist/pedophile/rapist/etc." your definition of an acceptable target will broaden and broaden to encompass any group you hate, you will make excuses until any target is acceptable. Lies will be spread without proof to justify your hatred. Any asexual, aromantic, and bisexual person, amongst many other groups, will tell you how there have always been accusations of them being heterosexual invaders/ not truely queer. How many times have we seen accusations of pedophilia against trans folks from both within and outside the community? How many folks claim aromantic folks are rapists? That gay trans men are predators? What lows are you stooping to to justify your hate right now?
All of this is is made worse by the prevalence of hatred in a community already prone to extremely high rates of depression and suicide.
"We don't want that filth in our state" - Oklahoma senator on Nex Benedict's death.
That is what you sound like. Do better.
#lgbtq#harassment#suicide baiting#transgender#transmasc#transfem#intracommunity discourse#transmisogyny
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hi dad, this is going to be a looong rant
came out to my mom recently and it’s been a big hit to my mental health. Although she said she doesn’t care about my identity, she followed it up with a rant about how I am a self centered person with more important attributes to develop than gender.
She suggested I not come out to my stepdad, because he is “not transphobic, but would be uncomfortable financially supporting a trans person and having them around his kids (my half sisters)”. I live them both full time and am a minor (16). Since he makes all the money (even though he lets her spend whatever on clothes and groceries) I will not be getting gender affirming clothes.
…so I feel as if I am effectively back in the closet!
She will not gender me masc at all, even when we are in private. She also said she sees me more as nonbinary, but I didn’t have the energy to explain that I am nb but still want to be exclusively he/him and go on T.
I feel so tired now. On one hand I wish I never came out as trans, because at least her misgendering could he excused as unintended. Although I want to give her the benefit of the doubt at every step, her lack of support is not neutral when I am otherwise alone. For reasons separate from family my dysphoria has been at an all time high, but all I can do is watch as I inevitably have to perform femininity and for what? The sake of my quality of life and future? She said that being trans would make my easy life go into “hard mode”, and that trans people have a higher rate of suicide, but failed to consider how being there for me could lessen that burden. I feel entitled for wanting more but angry that someone I thought would be the first to support me shut me down completely.
Is there anywhere I could go from here? I feel like if I come out to my stepdad she won’t have an excuse, and I don’t think he’ll kick me out, but I don’t want the house to be in conflict until I move out. Plus, I always want to be there for my sisters and the last thing I want is to lose them because “it’s inappropriate” or “they won’t understand”.
regardless, thanks for lending an ear (or an eye?). writing this all out was a little relieving :)
Hey kiddo, I'm so sorry your mom reacted like that, that's awful and completely unfair. Honestly, you're not entitled at all for wanting help. And yeah, the trans suicide rate is high, but her behaviour and the behaviour of people like her is the reason. Is life harder for trans people? Yes, but it isn't our fault, we didn't choose this. I'm so sorry kiddo, I'm always here to listen no matter what.
- dad x
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You know what? You're right about everything. In fact people who shit all over mspec gays/lesbians not only have no concept of how anything works, but they're also fucking selfish and horrible members of the community. I'll die on this hill. A bunch of assholes only out for themselves.
We are actively under fire in many countries. US and UK are actively heading into a trans genocide. Russia is getting worse, too now. Loads of other countries I haven't named. (Before anyone says jack shit the fucking center named after the person who coined the term genocide said we were headed that way. Genocide isnt an overnight thing you stupid leftists Do your damn research and shut up.)
We are at a high rate of suicide and sexual violence, regular violence housing and health care denial, etc. Do you think someone is going to stop and make sure someone isn't a snowflake queer or "tucute" or mspec lesbian before they bash their fucking head it? Do you think a doctor is gonna tell a nonbinary person who looks visibly queer "of course I'll treat you, you're not one of those trans people" Not to mention how you're so quick to exclude closeting and questioning kids who already want to kill themselves? Do you fucking hear the way you talk about your own people? LEAVE OUR OWN PEOPLE ALONE AND CALL YOUR GOVERNEBT REPS OR GET PETTITIONS CIRCULATED OR DONATION POSTS BOOSTED!
You would really rather attack people who's fucking LABELS you disagree with than do anything fucking positive to protect the rest of us? It makes me sick to my fucking stomach that y'all care more about policing than you do about your own people? Absolute selfish and cruel bootlicker behaviour. It's disgraceful, and I'm ashamed and enraged to share space with you people.
#pop off honey#either these people dont have any real problems#or they're taking their helplessness against real problems out on their own community#it's all this is#clout chasing bully culture dressed up in the language of oppression#mutual aid and organized protests are much harder than going after people online for no reason#lgbtqia#queer discourse#exclusionism#mspec lesbian#bi lesbian#transphobia#trans genocide#queerphobia#homophobia#asks#anon#knee of huss
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CrimethInc. : Zines The Fight For Gender Self Determination : Confronting The Assault On Trans People
Download your own color copy pdf of the zine to print & distribute!
Over the last two years, a wave of anti-trans and anti-LGBTQ legislation has swept the United States. Proposals in dozens of state legislatures have aimed to stop schoolteachers from discussing gender or sexuality—to prevent kids from using bathrooms or playing on sports teams as their self-determined gender—to force school officials to “out” trans kids to their parents—and to make it illegal for trans kids to get appropriate medical care.
These initiatives target a vulnerable population with no political voice that is already suffering disproportionately high rates of suicide, houselessness, and violence—all of which will be exacerbated by these laws. At the same time, the Supreme Court is in the process of facilitating an assault on reproductive freedom that will also have a disproportionate impact on trans people. Understood as a whole, these laws constitute a concerted attack on the rights to gender and sexual self-determination that LGBTQ movements have struggled to achieve for decades.
Why is this happening now? What does it mean in a global context? And what can we do to resist?
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I left and rejoined the fandom a few times because of strange fan behavior and the fact the story was just not fun anymore and it fizzled out. The last time I left the fandom was because everyone made John into June and I didn’t understand what made him seem like a girl. when I asked someone, in a genuine way, and not in a trolling way, that someone I asked told me “John’s always been feminine. He’s super compassionate!” I was so angry at that. I remember that was the only time I was fuming over the fandom. That’s when it hit me. Being a girl to these people is being nice and compassionate! It’s just personality traits! Being a girl is a look, a fashion trend, a lifestyle to adopt! I starting to think that being transgender might just be a big joke to these people. That or I was being trolled but I was on the Offical June Stans tumblr page (no I don’t remember what it was called)
I was fuming so much I was ready to be done with Homestuck entirely but then I saw how many people thought that John’s depression and suicidal out look on life was so trans! It made me even more angry! Being trans meant being suicidal and isolating yourself! Then they went off about how Reality Doesn’t Feel Real to John which is also super trans and not just the protagonist of the story noticing he lives in a story.
Dissociating from reality and being mentally ill was what they made being trans out to be.
It was a BIG slap to the face for me. A wake up call that all the support I was pouring, not into HS but into my ideology, was a lie. I realized I was contributing to hurting people. Hurting the people I thought I was helping at it hurt me so bad. I was angry at how the queer community was destroying its own members. I am so thankful for the Homestuck fandom though, why, because it showed me the depths of the lie I was brought up to believe. That kids who grew up online are just malleable tools that can be brought up to believe in anything. We could destroy peoples careers, we could harass content creators into saying “trans rights” all while ignoring that trans rights were giving puberty blockers to teenage girls. Fun fact… did you know that teenage girls need estrogen in their system to have their spine fuse together as they grow. Now we have paralyzed kids. Now we have a high fail rate of bottom surgeries.
If I’m not mistaken didn’t you just describe the plot of Y12000 not too long ago. That is what I mean. These people think that this is activism. This is something to be proud of. I hesitate to call anything evil but this is the closest thing to it I can think of. Getting children to believe that this is what progress is. Destroy peoples bodies and minds. The worst part is is that we can’t get these people to wake up and see what is going on around them. If i speak up, I am the one who is evil. I am the one who is trying to hurt people. If I could help, I would. The only thing I do now is try to talk about positive things because I know what it is like to be in the depths. But every so often I need to say this. I am so deeply saddened by the fact that fandom is a tool used to hurt us all. Activism is a wonderful thing but now it’s been taken over by a belief system that soon will crumble from all the medical scandals.
Now anyone reading this might think I am a transphobe. No. I think that transsexualism is a thing, but most everyone actually trans says transsexual when referring to themselves. These new trans people are just making stuff up like “egg” and “xir” and disrespecting real trans people. I follow someone named Dimitri Monroe. He is bullied constantly for being a feminine man but not being trans. They call him trans and want him to realize that he is an egg that needs to hatch. I don’t know if it is because they need him to fit in the perfect little box they made for all feminine men to be in or because they want to make him into a sex object. Some times people online view trans women as breeding stalk and it’s so sexist and demeaning.
Okay I wanted to add this to what I wrote up,
Now I see that people are making June “VirskaMaxxx” which I assume means roleplaying as a girl he likes. I saw someone say something on here about Virska wanting to be like Mindfang, I don’t understand how their minds work anymore and I don’t have the stomach for it anymore. All I see here is people who think trans people are just role playing women. Trans people are playing make believe. What is anyone supposed to think in response to this? Being trans was just a fad. Being trans is like being mentally ill?
And those who disagree that are part of a certain minority group, they are outed as things like traitors, apologists, or faking their sexuality/race. It's crazy people are using stuff like the word coon ironically at another black person that does not agree with the rest of the community. The With Us or Against Us mentality has taken it to the extreme. Some don't realize that what they are enforcing is toxic positivity. Even too much of a good thing can be just as harmful. They would also subconsciously act similar to ones they hate. Like they say they hate pedophiles, but then they tell minors that sex work is fine to do. People should also be aware of the effects or reasons why the world works as it is. Like consuming too much cholesterol can cause harm to the body both short and long term if not treated. Some really have started to think science is bogus if it goes against the feelings. It just reminds me of religious fucks who dismiss science and say God is the reason why x thing happens. But instead of God, it's the overconfidence that they they believe their own words is true and everyone else is against them. People are also really reaching for something to be like an allegory for it being about trans. It's like people who read a book, book describes about a curtain being blue, and someone thinks it is about depression, when it's not and just an obvious observation to give an idea of what someone has in a building. Interpretation can be fine, but sometimes the thing is what it is and doesn't have to be that deep.
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