#and they accept eachother as flawed people because its easier for them to see what else there is in eachother past those flaws

[yourmoodboards-areonfiirree]

Frank and Sherman moodboard with Paint inspo!

✰ self indulgent! ✰

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[snekdood]

bitches prolly out here psychoanalyzing my old art on behalf of my abuser to cushion their belief that im a Horrible Person but then dont see the irony when I point out the shitty things my abuser has drawn and how I see it as clear evidence of their mindset and beliefs (of what's okay to do and how to treat people) descending and pairing that along with everything else they've done and it paints a clear picture of how this person got to the point of thinking it was okay to abuse me the way they did and then the people looking for reasons to hate me through my art will act like "they're just drawings !!!" about their art. which one is it. does someones art say something about them or not? or does it only say something about them if you hate them?

[luffythinker]

can i share my notes from something im writing with you? it's Overhaul/Shigaraki anon, cause i've been thinking about them.

i didn't really understand how to write enemies-to-lovers so i was looking up stuff on tumblr to see if i could get help AND GOD DID I GET THE HELP I NEEDED, now if only i could write njkdvngjkd

my notes that are pulled from some of the questions on the post i was reading.

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Why do they hate eachother?: (the post asked for a reason they hate eachother so i had to think about it)

Shigaraki hates Overhaul because he considers Overhaul to be "high and mighty"

Overhaul hates Shigaraki because he doesn’t think things through and has no plans for any of his movements (like plans) he’s a “Daydreamer without a plan”

How can you fix it?

it’s important to find a way to make them both see the other person as a normal human being with their own hopes and problems and not just this unshakeable image of an always bad enemy

let actions speak louder than words

for example character A thinks character B is rude and inconsiderate and only interested in themself - but then A sees B doing something completely selfless

See where im going with this? Bounces my eyebrows

Slowly falling in love

it wouldn’t be enough to see them being selfless to make them completely change their mind and fall in love, but it would make them rethink what they thought about the other one and maybe try to get to know them better, because they realized there is so much more to learn and they maybe judged too soon

my thoughts/notes

Overhaul realizing there is more to Shigaraki. he can learn, he can plan he just chooses not to cause the chaos route is easier? he doesn’t know but he would like to see more to Shigaraki using his brain. lol Only way he's gonna see it is hanging out with him

Shigaraki learns that Overhaul actually does care about the 8 precepts of death and other people maybe after risking himself just a little to save/help someone else MAYBE EVEN SHIG. this is interesting cause he thought he Overhaul only thought people were expendable tools.

a changed behavior in one character could then trigger the other one into rethinking their bad relationship

(my input: both of them thinking: MAYBE he isn’t so bad)

finding something that they have in common or that they like about the other one can pave the way for a neutral relationship that then turns into something more

i'm so shrug here i don't know what Overhaul and Shigaraki could have in common.

it rarely goes directly from hate to love, especially because this could be an indicator for rash actions and mood swings towards each other that could be harmful in a relationship

it’s more like hate turning into acceptance and understanding and then slowly to love

this advice was so good tho, acceptance and understanding turns into love THATS WHAT LOVE IS, i just wanted to share this with you :)

I'm blown away by the thoughtfulness you put into this, I'm so happy to be able to see a part of this <3

My thoughts aren't as organized as you put here, but I agree with why they would hate each other initially. If your fic is set in the canon verse I guess you could play into how they both view their groups, for all its worth Shigaraki really does care about the LOV, so even if he is not a planner and strategist like Overhaul, maybe if Chisaki saw how Shigaraki can pause and think back to protect the members it could set him for some curiosity, realizing that there is more than just impulsivity in him. Make up a mission where they have to work together after that and in this they have to play their strengths and work on their flaws, this makes them more open to each other.

And I agree, love is accepting and understanding someone in their entirety <3 (one day we gotta talk about love as a concept cause I love this topic so much!!)

[luhvelight]

Hi idk if you answer questions like this but ,is J the one? Are we meant to last? - S 💓 thanks

Hello S! I usually dont pull over 3 cards but 4 cards jumped out at me during your shuffling. You recieved the reversed The World which indicates a Yes, reversed Ace of Cups which indicates a Yes, reversed Knight of Swords which indicates a Yes and the upright Death which indicates a No. Since all three of the Yes cards are reversed, instead of saying a definete “Yes” its more like saying “Yes, but..”. We have alot to unpack here so get ready! :)

So for the reversed Ace of Cups talks allllll about self love and the importance of it. The reversed Ace of Cups generally has two different meanings which is great because one of these messages could maybe apply to you or J. So the reversed Ace of Cups really suggests that you maybe just starting to practice self love or started introducing yourself to the importance of it. You maybe noticing the effect in which practicing this self love has had on your life (and it maybe entirely positive for the most part). You may be really intune with that side of yourself that also calls for self forgiveness, self acceptance and most importantly self care. I feel like this could also suggest that you and J, are extremely intune with one another aswell. The love you both have for yourselves are continuesly impacted by the love you both show for one another. On the FLIP SIDE, the reversed Ace of Cups could also discuss not necessarily a lack of self love but an intense awareness of love in general. This awareness may cause one of you to be scared of being vulnerable and may cause you to repress alot of emotions. It is completely okay to not be prepared or willing to share emotions. It is really important that you both remind eachother that you are here for eachother. Do not rush the other to automatically tell you what is wrong or bother the other to constantly tell them how you feel. Lots of people actually find it easier to show their love and then eventually learn (and feel comfortable) to express that love verbally. This kind of reluctance to say “i love you” or express emotions in general could be due to past relationships (wether it be romantic, platonic or familial). Just remember to be gentle, patient and open minded with one another.

The reversed World card discusses a lack of effort and looking to take the easy way out. There does come a time in relationships where itll just go completely stagnant. Both parties feel a sudden halt or resistance to change. Everything may even feel a bit boring or lackluster. This is natural thing to feel and do not fret when that feeling does come. The World is telling you that yes, if you do truly WANT J to be the one, you must put in the effort and so does J. Its all about taking care of the relationship. Nourishing and nurturing one another. If you can survive this rough patch, than you develop the strength to survive alot more tough goings. Overcoming this builds courage and promise that the relationship wont crumble because of something minor. In rough patches, it is especially important to communicate so that both parties can figure out how to make the wrong, right. This kind of interaction not only builds strength, but trust aswell. You can trust eachother to tell one another when something is wrong or that you will eventually come to terms or conclusions on important matters.

The Knight of Swords is here to warn you to slow down. There might be moments in the relationship where you may have the tendency to move too quickly. The Knight of Swords is urging you not to rush and truly do take the time to get to know eachother before hitting the important milestones in a relationship. It is always important that in budding relationships we wait to see what the other individual is truly like after the honeymoon phase is over. The honeymoon phase is typically very intense and we ignore alot of potential red flags because we are so in love. This is when we start to see our partners in more of a natural light. It is important you take the time to see J as who they are (the same goes with J seeing who you really are). This is when things start to get a little bit serious and we start showing our partners the genuine and raw sides of ourselves. It is important you both get familiar with one anothers flaws and personality quirks. The Knight of Swords is also encouraging you to not act impulsively or irrationally and really think deeply about the important steps you want to make as you hit every milestone in the relationship.

The Death card is widely misconceived and people usually see it as a negative card. But it is card that talks alot about transformation and personal growth. There may be now (or at some point in the relationship) where a personal growth session maybe in order. A past situation maybe hindering one of you from moving on or accepting a better future. This just comes as a warning that if you do want the relationship to last you both must be willing to let go of past situations or negative patterns that no longer serve the both of you.

[untit1ed]

Dear old love,

I have known you since I was 16. Back then we were just teenagers trying to control forces bigger than us, a love we did not understand. We laughed, we lived and the love we had for eachother grew into something so beautiful, so powerful and so strong that it scared us both. Fear does awful things to people. It keeps them from doing what they ought to, it holds them back, and I made such terrible decisions because I was so scared. I didn't fight for you like I should have. I lost you because I was scared. I accepted that your mom told me not to visit you in the hospital, because I was scared. I wasted time because I was scared. And I didn't tell you how much I loved you, because I was terrified. It's been more than 7 months now. I wonder how long it is going to take before I stop writing everything down. You always made me feel so much - and you just still hold the title of the only guy who I write and have ever written about. You're my muse, my inspiration, with you every feeling comes alive, spreading its wings and colours, so broad and beautiful, that I can't contain it. You're the light inside of me, the electricity within my veins; this love you're making me feel for you, despite the pain of it, is so beautiful. It's so pure, and so selfless - I don't love you because you love me back, or because you give me something in return. I love you for everything you are. Your little quirks, your flaws - your past, your history, your mistakes, your bad habits, your worst traits, your weaknesses - there's nothing of it I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life loving. When you accept someone so fully, as I have when realizing I wanted eternity with you, there's not really any going back. I still spend time, trying improve myself into everything you needed. And I know that you will never come to see it - but if I can tell myself, that I would have made you proud if you knew, that I have become or am on the road to becoming a woman you could have loved, then life will be a little easier without you. I never got to say goodbye - and maybe a goodbye could never have been said for us, for loving you never had a hello. Nothing prepared me for you, and for what loving you felt like, and feels like now you're gone - it was a miracle, you were - and it didn't come like a hello, and leave like a goodbye. It came like fireworks, igniting the entire sky and the world beneath it in such a way, that you can do nothing but stand in awe and admire life and living. And it left just as that. But in those moments of us, our sparkles, our fire, our ignite, I realized so much about myself, life and love, things that I will always be grateful for you teaching me. If this is all there ever will be, then you have taught me lessons and values, virtues and experiences that have shaped me forever. Our love will never go lost into nothing, for even if it is not shared by us, it is whispered in the places that made us who we are - that here, in these places, was true love. And I will not let that fade. That light which now resides resilient in my heart and bones will spread out through my fingers - from loving you, to loving my family, my friends, my community, the world - that is my goal. That's my last wish on this Earth; that our love may change the world for the better.

I will never forget you. I hope you find what you're looking for. Thank you for everything. You're so much more than you know, and I never got to tell you. I love you, I always will.

E.H

[pokefanbri]

Being able to deal with them..

Does that mean strong & caring enough to handle them? That you tolerate their behavior?

To love them cause they need you to? They need the help only you can give? Do they believe in you after all, that you are good for them, They messed up & you're the only one that's been there for them in the ways you were, you did your best so they were ok. Like who else would rub their back when they're sore right, but is it too much to ask for a back rub of your own lol. You're not too broken for them, they know their mistakes, was willing to start mending you two, though made a great start fell flat...now there's a timeless void needing to be filled.

Well what if you need the same thing, to be loved, needed, & wanted in return. You're friends 1st & foremost, but give as much as you receive. They weren't there when you needed them. Its always about give and take, but who took more. You have my back I have yours, whatever happened to that.

But do they really have yours? You wouldn't know, & people end up hurt, you let down your guard around em but trust ends up fractured. Trust takes compassionate, vulnerability, honesty, allowing the other person to see the real you & all your flaws. And just hope they accept you for who you are underneath.

It's because you love them that you care so much about them. They don't feel the same about u & don't understand how it feels, the gut wrenching feelings you have for them but you don't know if you should trust them enough to not take advantage of those feelings again & not use it for some kind of personal gain. Whether or not you're being pulled by a string or genuine. You adore them, want to be real with them, but can't be open around them without being afraid of rejection, your heart wants to reach out to them but it cant. They want your help, they feel they need you, what about you? But can you both love yourselves enough to love another person? Is it easier to build up or tear down. They opened your heart with no intention of loving or caring about it. You want to trust them & believe they've changed but should you trust, cause they haven't given u good reason to. With lies you end up questioning everything, especially when they say I love you back.

Yes I can deal with you & its not hard, but its not even that. You're my friend, my family, my partner, & my lover...I don't turn my back in either. I can never get bored of you & you're the best thing that ever happened to me. But deal with me too in the same respect, i cherish you...show me you care don't just say it cause I really don't know. I just wish you didn't treat me like shit or this would be alot easier for both of us, how hard is it to make eachother happy & lift somebody up, there just can't be peace after raising the white flag so many times. Dont be spiteful,I dont want to fight or play games, you sunk my battleship okay.

How does one nonchalantly hurt someone that only loves them. Everyone cares about themselves more than they do others, its just the way it is. Its rare when you find somebody that cares about you more than they do themselves. They're the ones that feel everything & give all of themselves, want to open themselves up just gets hurt anyway, the trust in people is hindered & isn't a good feeling when the glass breaks. Doesn't mean they're broken...just have been hurt so much by those close to them its simply exhausting, emotionally draining. They bring a balance, we need them in this world as they're meant to build even others through constantly healing themselves, unfortunately. Not fragile but so very very strong, just need to know their worth with a little tlc sometimes.

Hard to swallow pills or not. Sometimes we get burned by the choices we make, its okay.

Respect Growth nomatter how it comes out, only go up. Should be able to say even what's hard to hear, it would help others growth too.

Throw away deterioration, fear, regrets, doubts.

Though things could've been prevented we cannot change the past. You don't have to live in it, but definitely learn from it & choose to make things better in the present,& hope to god it made you a good enough future that when you look back it was all worth it.

If you set out to do something then do it & do it right, best you can. Take chances or leaps of faith, but be smart & careful as everything you do affects your path. Don't make it easy to let your guard down around somebody unless they're worthy. Im a firm believer in everything happens for a reason...you're life is already layed out for you to follow in my opinion, its hard to change even if u see it coming sadly. Maybe there's a timeline for every choice we make or only a direct road who knows except our creator. What do you want to do with your life, what do you want to accomplish, what do you want your purpose to be. Make it happen, go for it if you can, be a good person not a bully. Just don't give up, don't give up on yourself. The people that love you hate seeing you sad, somewhere you're somebody's favorite & they want you to be happy