#and there’s plenty of lesbianism

[transrevolutions]

the thing terfs (and transphobes in general) don't seem to get about sexual preferences re: not being attracted to certain genitals is that like. okay. you have a preference. this feature is a turn-off. but that does not mean it is necessary to constantly broadcast how unattractive and undesirable you find people with this feature. you do not have to do that. in fact, it is generally considered quite rude. sexual compatibility or lack thereof has nothing to do with moral purity or legitimacy.

[fizzie-bubbles]

right ofc. my bad i forgot to include the second part of the pitch: naturally it’s about katya.

goncharov 2: goncharova

i keep seeing you guys be conflicted about how watching an actual goncharov movie would be super cool but then ppl say “yeah but it would ruin it!”

so here’s a pitch for you

a goncharov II movie. no first one, for obvious reasons. but they make a sequel and everyone who KNOWS will know and everyone who doesn’t will… well, you know. perfect way to continue the joke without completely ruining it and see a movie.

[direquail]

One of the many things I find funny and irritating is the slant of a lot of interpretations of Alecto's name (that it's about feminine rage)--on this here wlw internet in the year of our lord 2024, it's easily made to figure as rage against God, or rage against patriarchy, or religious oppression, and therefore an allusion to the idea that she's going to get her vengeance on John for betraying and oppressing her somehow, but like

John is the one who named her Alecto. He's the one who named her that. So, naming her "Alecto" is alluding to the embodiment of John's rage--their rage, since they are joined inseparably (John even explicitly says that when he first perceives her: "You wouldn't stop screaming. You were so scared. You were so goddamn mad").

He says of Alecto to Harrow, "In a very real way, you are [Alecto's] children". At a very surface level, Alecto is (depending on the text or tradition), one of the Furies--famously, in several surviving Greek tragedies, who punish Orestes for the crime of killing his mother. In fact, in Aeschylus' Oresteia, they declare that they are specifically bound to avenge matricide.

So the name "Alecto" alludes to the nature of John's mission and how he sees it.

It also implies that his divine rage, the rage that gives him power, the power that makes him divine, that he either represents or wants to represent, is feminine rage. He was chosen by Earth (which, Furies are sometimes the daughters of Gaia); he is her champion, however he's managed to fuck that up. Once the truth of that comes out, it becomes clear that all of his power comes from her.

And that's why you get statements from Tamsyn Muir like:

“[T]he God of the Locked Tomb IS a man; he IS the Father and the Teacher; it’s an inherently masc role played by someone who has an uneasy relationship himself to playing a Biblical patriarch. John falls back on hierarchies and roles because they’re familiar even when he’s struggling not to. Even he identifies himself as the God who became man and the man who became God. But the divine in the Locked Tomb is essentially feminine on multiple axes – I think Nona will illuminate that a little bit more."

So yes, he plays the role of Emperor and God and Teacher, with all of the things that implies. And I don't think it should be discounted. But he also is (and partly sees himself as) the chosen champion of a goddess, or what is for all intents & purposes for a human like him a goddess. He is her avenger, and while she sleeps, her avatar.

And I don't think we're meant to read him purely as a parasite who's taking advantage of her to gain power for himself, either. Or an oppressive, Kronos-like figure. Especially if you consider Palamedes' theory of the Grand Lysis, even if he was purely motivated by desire for power before (which I really doubt), there are parts of each in the other, now. What was clear and separate before is uncertain and interpenetrated. Is his rage his own, or hers? Is his mission of revenge his, or hers? If he wants power, is that his own selfishness, or her desire to survive?

And does it matter?

[bananonbinary]

apparently a radfem movement called 4B is getting a surge of popularity on social media since the election, with the reasoning, "if men do not respect us, they should not have access to us at all." the idea is to withhold all sex and intimacy until women have all their rights.

and like. putting aside all the many many reasons that radfem ideology and bioessentialism sucks, and the fact that "men" are not a group you can "negotiate" with as a whole because they are not an organized group with leadership, this is just....a very very dangerous game to be playing.

like. okay. there are two scenarios on how this could play out, because again, it isn't any sort of organized "protest" between ""the sexes,"" it's just gonna be some women and their partners, who do not really give a shit about what a bunch of strangers on tiktok are doing.

option 1) he already respected women's rights, voted against abortion bans, and cannot actually change anything on his own. you are making both him and yourself miserable for literally no reason at all. you have turned what should be a really nice relationship where you can relax into a weird adversarial thing that abhors real vulnerability. this is the BETTER option.

option 2) he IS a trump supporter who thinks he should have access to all women's bodies. in which case, saying "no more sex until you give me rights" is NOT going to go down the way you think it is. you do not have collective bargaining power here. you are going to get very badly hurt, and an already probably abusive relationship is going to get a lot worse. that's not to say that a woman in that position would in any way "deserve" it, just that. when you are faced with an abuser, you should absolutely not try to play mind games or reassert your power to them. you should try and get the fuck out. call real organizations that can help you, don't follow random bullshit tiktok trends. those influencers will NOT give you a place to stay when shit hits the fan.

anyway the national domestic violence hotline is 800-799-SAFE.

[faerynova]

its about time for me to reread blue exorcist and i should take that opportunity to write my essay on why rin being a cis girl would improve the story 200% and elevate the messages of the text and make the relationships between rin and the other characters much more deep and complex

[andro526484339]

Actually twitter liked butch lingerie so it can be my tumblr recoronation. also so I can peruse my selection of tags. Here I'll put hoards of doodles too

[pinkysberg]

im not a lesbian but i notice how quickly gay headcanons for men who have canonical relationships with women are explained away and given justification (which i support and do) but when you headcanon a female character who has canonically been in a relationship with a man as a lesbian, suddenly there's an issue and ppl start claiming "bi erasure" or whatever for a character who typically has 0 canonical sexual orientation. it's interesting. im sure a lesbian could give a much more comprehensive and analytical response to this but. i just think about it a lot.

[punishedcrow]

my honest reaction:

bonus:

(decided to not keep it in the tags: this last one has "this sadness" redacted lol. gay as fuck regardless)

[butchciri]

You guys do realize that jayvik shippers are out here rubbing it in lesbians faces that the show they thought was going to explore complex female relationships ended up as the show where two men become the center of the literal multiverse? right? like Jayvik gets to have stakes that cross space and time, while Vi/Jinx/Cait face the same stakes they had last season with no escalation? And you’re gonna joke at their expense? damn thats cold.

like I’m sorry but going from “jinx is too far gone and I cant save her” to “jinx is still my family but I cant save her” isnt a character overcoming conflict. going from “vander is dead” to “vander is dead again” isnt a meaningful arc. going from “my gf is suffering from a loss I feel responsible for” to “we’re back together based on a contrivance so we can fuck before the shows over” isnt a relationship arc. ekko overcoming his defeatism and seeing jinx as a human is an arc. jinx dealing with loss by breaking the cycle of violence is an arc. Jayce overcoming the mistakes of hextech by showing Viktor compassion is an arc. Vi and Cait barely even changed by the end of the show. wheres the drama, where are they overcoming a conflict based on a choice or a change they have in perspective? is going from losing jinx to losing jinx again a story? is going from losing vander to losing vander again a story to you? seriously if you find the hidden Vi Cait arcs somewhere let me know. maybe confronting Ambessa represents an arc for Cait, but imo that also lacks depth. she just snaps out of her villian arc like "shit i actually care about Vi still" without attention given it. To me it just seems like the writers had way too many complex characters to deal with, and I guess with where they wanted to take the main narrative, jayvik ended up being the one with the highest stakes and climax.

So yeah when you joke about Jayvik being gayer than Caitvi sex just realize how much it must sting to have the main narrative of the show taken over by male characters when you were expecting a character driven story about sisterhood with a lesbian subplot. A once beautiful lesbian subplot that straight women now say isnt even as gay as two men being friends. stfu

[yonemurishiroku]

Funny how everyone seems to like Luke before the whole Kronos thing. Which only solidifies my statement that Luke is boyfriend material. 🥰🥰 Kronos is just a bitch.

[needle-thread-thimble-spear]

Dungeon Meshi is the all time series for me, because it demonstrates and actively degrades the boundaries between the natural and the artificial. The dungeon as an act of creation. The need for all people to eat and breathe and drink, and the vulnerability inherent to being a living thing. The banality of death. The way life bends, breaks, and evolves under artificial pressures.

And it bothers me how people will say that Falin isn't much of a character, or is secondary to the main cast. Because she embodies the themes of the manga so clearly! Her character exists beyond herself! She IS the blurring between human and natural when she is revived, and transformed, and revived and transformed again! When she is figuratively and literally eaten by the other main characters, when she comes back changed by all of that! The way the others at first refuse to accept her death, but come to accept who she is become! That their love for her can extend her being crashed through all of those boundaries, even death. Its delightful, delicious even! I really admire speculative fiction where the setting is basically a character on its own, re the Otherside in Otherside Picnic, Ohtori in Revolutionary Girl Utena, Gethen in Left Hand of Darkness, etc. And in Dungeon Meshi, Falin blurs the boundary between setting and character even further. She is Dungeon Meshi.

And also like. She is literally me fr.

[ot3]

this flavor of trans guy misogyny where they do rhetorical backflips to explain why them not caring about women is good, actually, and since cis men are also misogynists a lot of the time we should all just stop complaining about it.

[uncanny-tranny]

Other people have discussed this more eloquently, but the thing people don't always seem to get about "passing" (think "cis passing" or "straight passing", for instance) is that the concept of "passing" relies on more than just appearance.

Take me for instance, where I do pass as a man, but I have never (and will never) pass as a cishet man. People know I am queer, even if they don't see that I am a trans queer man. Passing is more than wearing certain things or saying certain things. My mannerisms are queer, my speech is queer, my inflection is queer, my stance is queer. People pick up on that. There's nothing wrong with me being seen as queer, but I'm still treated like a queer man, for better and worse. It seems that people forget that, you know?

My point is that passing is very conplex, nuanced, and individual. I use myself as an example, but that by no means indicates that I have a standard experience. I've noticed, however, that many people have over-generalized these conversations, and I think that doesn't do us - as a community - a service.

[honeypot-sapphic]

Girlfriend who's obsessed with thighs + her chubby partner with thick thighs

[transmascutena]

should… should I ask about That Post? In the tag? 👀👀👀 (I probably shouldn’t, but I’m feeling nosy)

just someone saying that calling utena and anthy lesbians is "bi erasure" because there is apparently absolutely no way you can interpret anything in the show as comphet

[gynandromorph]

i don't talk about my gender much anymore because it isn't new to me. i have nothing left to work out or justify. would love a hysterectomy some day, but. it is what it is. uterine cancer runs in my family usually in the 30s range, so it'll probably either kill me or get caught early and be removed by necessity within the next decade. that's a tangent though. what i mean to say is that i'm happy to have been out as transgender, and non-binary for over a decade. when i was a teenager most role models so to speak who came out as non-binary were either using it as a stepping stone before realizing that non-binary people aren't treated any better than other trans people and making the full leap to a more fitting gender for them or they just detransitioned because it can be intensely dehumanizing to demand respect and be denied over and over. happy for the ones who figured themselves out obviously, but i worried a lot about if i was going to magically change genders some day, suddenly realizing i'm actually a full ass capital m Man and i just had no way of foreseeing that without occupying this perceived middle ground first. you hear that it's just a phase so much, you just don't really know yourself, you know? that's frightening when you're trying to figure out what's causing this ongoing disaster in your head. i'm happy to be on the other side of that and knowing pretty confidently that i've just been myself. i'm not a perfect role model, but i am non-binary