#and then the way fandom gets Weird about trans people on top of it

[mamawasatesttube]

hmmm... halfbaked thought percolating in my mind but i gotta say. sometimes i do get kinda skeeved out when people do genderfluid tim wrt timkon while leaving kon as just a generic cis guy. like obviously i love timkon and i love trans tims!!! but sometimes i just go are we sure we're not just slapping on a trans label in order to put the shorter, physically weaker, (and often drawn paler) guy in a dress so he can be The Girl in the relationship? like are we sure this is actually about being trans and not just about gender roles again? and like obviously i cant say every single genderfluid tim wrt timkon post is doing this specifically but it does sometimes make me go eeehhhh... (a lot of the way fandom treats trans guys in general as women lite™ is this same way tbh.) sigh...

[foone]

One thing I think about a lot is that how omegaverse is a sort of meta-setting that can and has been applied to many different fandoms, right?

So there's "omegaverse supernatural" (because that's where it started) and "omegaverse star trek" and "omegaverse Frasier" and "omegaverse Batman" and "omegaverse US presidents".

You can basically easily apply it to any fandom with lots of men in it, which turns out to be most of them. (and you can apply it to the rare female-majority fandoms with a bit of extra work).

But the interesting thing to me is that omegaverse depends on characters having subgenders: alpha/beta/omega are effectively gender roles on top of the regular male/female ones, but they're ones not specified in the original fiction, right? (I mean, not usually).

So like, you can watch NewsRadio and it makes it pretty clear Dave is a man, but it never specifies if he's an alpha or omega, because why would it? Also, why is my go-to example of a random sitcom one from 1995?

Anyway. So you've got a bunch of characters with canonical genders (not that that has ever stopped fans from headcanoning them as different! Dave is a trans man, Lisa is a trans woman, and Bill? All Phil Hartman characters are closeted trans women, so jot that down), but you don't have canonical subgenders.

So fans have to decide which characters in a fiction are alphas and omegas and so on. They tend to be pretty consistent for most characters, actually.

But the part that interests me despite not really reading omegaverse stuff is just those headcanons.

Like, I can take a show I know well, like say Star Trek: The Next Generation, and find out what the fans think their subgenders are.

Like, I'm gonna guess that Riker and Worf are alphas. Picard could go either way. LaForge is an omega, Data is... An android, but he's had sex, so... I'm gonna guess alpha? O'Brien is an omega, but that's mostly going off DS9. Maybe he wasn't in TNG yet? Wesley I'm guessing gets headcanoned as omega.

And see, now I can go look at ao3 and see what other people think for these! And for some reason that's way more interesting to me than just reading any omegaverse fic.

I think we should do more of this sort of shit. I mean, I guess we kinda do for things like top/bottom, dom/sub, trans/cis, but I demand more subgenders! Subgenders that aren't depicted in the fiction but fans have to headcanon.

I kinda want to make a sort of wiki website which works by scraping ao3 tags and assigning alpha/beta/omega to characters from shows, basically a fan vote on how people headcanon the subgenders of these characters.

Anyway I checked and oh boy yeah everyone says Wesley is an omega. Apparently Zefram Cochrane is an omega too.

And the one fic I saw with Data in it made him an omega. Huh. Interesting.

I dunno. It's weird: I've got no interest in reading a fic where these characters fuck in their weird omegaverse ways, but I can't not be interested in knowing how fans headcanon them.

[somehhuuuhh]

My top 10 favorite ships that no one ask for :)

I'm gonna yap for each ship and also Tw for death, middle finger, blood

I was to lazy to render :3...again

10# Reaper x fatal 💀🔪

For me this is a silly ship that I actually want to see more of. If people are shipping Reaper with Geno and Error because of angst then they should ship this too. This ship have angst protental with a lot of silliness and insanity in this ship. Imagine if Fatal gets with Reaper just to annoy Error :P

(what's a good ship name for them anyways?)

9# StarDust

Idk why I actually like Dust x Dream not because of the ship name but it just something about those two just click for me for sr?? I really can't explain it

8# SillyString

Is it weird that Error will literally try to destroy every au because he believes that the only au that should exist is the og? Tbh I think he is just a big fan of the og au and will be a big fan of Classic. Not in the yandere area just like trying to get Classic autograph by kidnapping him :)/silly

Btw SillyString is a banger ship name

7# RottenCrops

Nah you think I like this because it have fluff in it??? No! Don't you see how angst it can be!? I feel like soon as Horror gets attracted to Farm after Horror keeps visiting him, Nightmare will be a dick (like always) and make Horror kill Farm. Idk *crying*

6# krustard

I like this for the puns and fluff (kinda) Idk I don't have to much to say for this one

5# Clue

OMG ITS THE TRANS COUPLE!!! I like to think that they're both trans for no reason. Every since I saw Underverse and notice how cute they would be together I can't stop giggling. Since they're both somewhat knights I like to think they train together or go to the gym to get buff together.

4# Dustard

AHHHHHHHH ITS DUSTARD!!! This was my favorite ship when I first came to this Fandom might because how bad ass they are together. I don't really like the angst in this on because it's so predictable and common, I need something new guys! But overall great ship (I love the fluff)

3# Krerdly

Ever since I got TikTok and kept seeing this ship I fell in love. You got a yapper and a listener ITS PERFECT!!!

2# Inkmare

*sigh* save me inkmare. I love inkmare and if you know me you already know that I do. I remember seeing a person say they don't like this ship because of "I'm mean to everyone but not to you" but I never seen it like that because we know Nightmare and we know Ink they're both pricks so they're perfect for each other!!

(Toxic yoai)

1# Mk x Frisk

WE NEED THIS NON-BINARY COUPLE!! Fuck frans!! This ship is so much better in every way! First they're around the same age, second they just click you know what I mean? Idk how to explain it but something about this ship is so wholesome and cute :3

Annnnnnnnd that all :3

[maxdibert]

Okay, this question has been making me roll and grit my teeth at night. Why do people make Sirius, Regulus, and Barty Crouch so feminine? I don't get it. It's almost weird in a way because Sirius seems pretty masculine to me, he just has long hair and a flamboyant personality. Regulus, we don't even know much about the guy and already I see fanart of his being a twink. And Crouch...I don't understand that.

I am not against mlm ships or gay characters/character head cannons. I myself believe that Snape is probably under that trans or gender-neutral flag (he radiates that energy), and that he is queer coded. But those guys? Ehh...it's weird how there's always a "top" and "bottom" for these kinds of things, don't you think? Can't they both just be masculine?

But can we agree that being gay doesn't mean being feminine? Can we understand that even if you make a crack ship or write slash, it doesn't mean you have to change the damn characters' personalities? I mean, if you want to pair Sirius with every male character in the saga, that’s totally fine, but don't create another character that has nothing to do with Sirius to fit your sexist and fetishistic stereotypes, seriously. They constantly reproduce dom/sub dynamics in homosexual relationships, with masculinized and feminized types, thus continuing stereotypes inherited from the heteronormative system. They're not doing anything radical, anti-system, or against J.K. Rowling; they’re turning Sirius into a stereotype traditionally assigned to women and making his supposed partners alpha males, reproducing these harmful dynamics. Sirius isn't feminine; Sirius is the most masculine of the four Marauders. Otherwise, Rowling wouldn’t bother mentioning a hundred times that he was super handsome, liked by the girls, had a motorcycle, or had posters of girls in bikinis on the wall. Rowling makes a big point of hypermasculinizing Sirius Black. Sirius is a tough guy from a hegemonic masculinity perspective—impulsive, violent, passionate, and a bastard when he wants to be. What you see in that fandom isn't Sirius; it's a damn OC they've created and named after him. He doesn't even physically resemble Sirius when they draw him because they always make him short and skinny when canonically, Sirius was the tallest of the four, and Rowling emphasizes how tall and intimidating he is multiple times.

I don't care about the ships because I think you can ship anything except some weird stuff, but just because you can ship anything doesn't mean you have free rein to make the characters hyper-OOC and have the audacity to convince the audience that it fits with the canon. No, it doesn't fit. If I want to read a Sirius x (insert any character), I want to read about Sirius Black, not some cheap imitator that the real Sirius Black would probably bully to exhaustion. Barty Crouch wasn't a sassy, cunty "uwu" type. Everyone was shocked when Barty turned out to be a Death Eater; his father describes him as someone who got excellent grades, seemingly a kid who flew under the radar, which is why everyone was so shocked when he turned out to be one of Voldy's boys. These people have turned him into a walking caricature, some kind of 80s diva that the real Barty never was. Again, they've created a character that doesn't exist and given him a canon name. And Regulus Black... What they've done with Regulus is also scandalous. In the end, they've turned him into a whiny, spineless, hyper-"feminized" character so that James can be the alpha male who saves him. Don't they see how terribly problematic these stereotypes are and the disservice they do to the community? I mean, they boast about being champions of LGBTQ+ representation, but all they do is reproduce super toxic and harmful clichés that perpetuate dynamics from a misogynistic and sexist heteronormative perspective. And on top of that, they do all this by completely changing the characters, dismembering them, stripping them of every ounce of their true personalities, and replacing it with their made-up nonsense.

[trashcanwithsprinkles]

Honestly idk I have like a lot like A LOT of unresolved insecurities and rlly weird thought about masculinity, but uhh context is I am a trans man and I have ocd and it can lead to really messed up assumptions

Like this is far from the first time that I'm learning that something I've been obsessing over so much that I just kinda believed it to be true is actually not and i just let my intrusive thoughts win. And most ppl don't think like that, actually

Sorry for the weird ask, i think i do a good job at figuring out those things most of the time bc it's ridiculous (ALWAYS like not a single instance when it wasn't a delusion) but I also read mostly TERF content when I was still figuring it out so maybe it just stuck with me? (Kinda TMI tbf but I had like a couple months straight where it kept me up at night and I would get gender disforia until I manged to finally shut my brain down one way or another)

Anyway this actually eye opening so I'm gonna write it down and talk to my therapist abt it

Again, sorry 😞

Didn't mean to give you a glimpse of my mind, it's a terrible place to see on a good day

honestly anon i think *all* of this is TMI but like im kinda fascinated that you actually came in and just told me all this ngl im very impressed

genuinely don't really know how to respond to this other than telling you my stance on the whole zhongchi/zhongchili thing? not as in like. admonishing you or anything. more- since you mentioned struggling w those things. if nothing else the post where i mention it is buried who knows where lmao

sparing the rest of you with a cut

now this is probably partially because ive been in fandom spaces for like. upwards of ten years now. but ive always been an advocate for unique ship names, as opposed to just the character's names mashed together or putting an 'x' in the middle

aside from the fact that i just think this closes people in on having to stick to one or the other (AxB or BxA for example) and thus keeps them from exploring different facets of the characters, this also, as you've probably realized, just- perpetuates the idea that people HAVE to be one or the other. there's no room for nuance. straight ships of course have their own trove of issues for this, but at least (whether for better or worse, mostly worse if you ask me) people there have a more general consensus on woman-bottom man-top. but for mlm wlw ships? since it's usually two men or two women, people lose that sort of- taken-for-granted system of deciding who tops or bottoms, and so they start going on sketchy territory trying to decide which traits will make the characters in these senarios which role. this obviously usually just results in feminine traits being associated with womanhood and therefore bottoming and masculine traits -> manhood -> topping. which is all bs if you ask me but that's beside the point

this all gets even more cumbersome when, as is the case for me, you don't even write sex scenes. or anything sexual for that matter (intentionally). so why should any of us care whose dick is going where if no dicks are ever going to matter. the most these idiots are gonna do is make out. do we want to assign top/bottom dynamics to kissing? i personally don't. what about the nuance if we do? it vanishes. it becomes boring. we go right back to the childish notion of dominating -> masculine -> man -> dick in hole -> top. isn't that super trite? where's the room for more interesting variation, more characterization? nothing wrong with a character following that exact ruleset, but shit gets boring real quick if that's all we do. and as you're likely far more aware than i am, anon, it becomes harmful for ourselves irl

this is my main gripe w ship names like AB and AxB. i use them because i am one person and unlikely to change established fanon at this point, but if i could, boy would i love to propose we start actually being creative about ship names. i was so pleasantly surprised when people started calling mualani/kinich 'pixelshark'. like?? 1) that's so fucking cute and 2) i don't immediately think who tops or who bottoms. yes you can make the argument that this is still in a kinich top mualani bottom order, but it's a massive improvement from like. kinilani. or something.

so when people ask whether i write chili or zhongchi, i wish i could just tell them neither. i couldn't give less of a fuck as to who you think is putting their dick where. it gets all the more... odd, when people assume it's one or the other based on the dynamic i present, which again always circles back to combinations or variations of masculine -> dick in hole -> top. this is of course not to fault anyone for how they perceive my fics! we've started using zhongchili here because it sort of combines both and thus leaves you thinking what is actually going on. like afaik zhongchili isn't used to specify one or the other? we have zhongchi and chili/tartali for that. idk where you got that from anon imma be real

but the point is that i wish i could avoid this mess altogether. i wish i could just put 'marriage chopsticks' or whatever in the ship name and speficy sex dynamic if needed. i wish the fandom would agree to always list ship names in alphabetical order so we could list childe/zhongli for tag purposes and not have to debate who's bottoming

but oh well

[clareguilty]

Kinktober 2024

Howdy y'all! I JUST turned in my dissertation so I'm all done with grad school. This means I'll be able to do Kinktober this year <3 I can't guarantee that I'll be able to continue after this year but I also don't want to feel like I'm scaring people into participating. I just want to let everyone know that I really do love these events and I look forward to it all year, so I may try and find a way to make it work even after this one.

I’m looking at opening up about 5 slots this year with recommended donations of $18-22 for ~2k words per piece.

Oni!Hanzo | breeding, biting, double penetration - SEQUEL

Ghost/Soap/Reader | sex pollen, breeding kink

Open

Open

Open

I'm starting early so I have plenty of time to write between my other projects, and also to hopefully give everyone more time to get a slot.

Fandoms I will write for include (I'm so sorry I've been living in a shack without internet I'm not caught up on anything):

COD MW2

RDR2

Resident Evil 8 Lady Dimitrescu

Mandalorian

Witcher

Signalis (NOT Adler)

Guidelines

Reader insert only as always

Specify the gender of the reader character. I write cis and trans characters I just need specifics

Give me a detailed prompt with enough specifics and meat for me to go off of. A setup, a trope, please specify who is dominant/giving/topping in NSFW scenarios.

I don’t write modern AU for RDR2 and pregnancy is a squick for me. Otherwise, I feel like I've gotten more comfortable with ALL the fucked up and weird kinks. Try me. I don't judge.

Also, feel free to combine 2 or 3 kinks into one prompt if you think they’d go well together!

[nightlilly0110]

This is literally a villain death tally for BNHA. Spoilers, obviously. I…hate this. I absolutely hate this. I knew some of them would die and I know that character deaths don’t necessarily have to have meaning, they could just be casualties, but the way this played out, it just seems to fit into a neat little box of “the bad guys are not allowed to have a happy ending.” Which. Goes against the entirety of the premise of Deku’s reasoning to become a hero of “I want to save people.” The only named character I can think of that he saved was Eri (not counting rescuing Bakugou from the League, Iida from Stain because they’re not civilians, feel free to tell me any others I missed) and she fits the stereotypical Perfect Victim trope. She’s just a child. Anything bad she did (rewinding people out of existence) it was done by accident, because she didn’t know any better. She has the chance to be rehabilitated into society without any of the bitterness that the League carry with them.

I really don’t like that there’s a subsection of this fandom that’s like “well they got what they asked for.” And yeah. Don’t use whatever issues you have going on as an excuse for your shitty behaviour (read: don’t be like “well the villains are abused so they have a right to kill people”) but also maybe think before saying “I think it’s good that the guy who got abused and manipulated as a child and groomed into being a mass murderer died. I think killing the murderer instead of addressing the societal problems that made him that way will fixeverything.” Your “they got what they asked for” also falls a little tone deaf with “what they asked for” boils down to “don’t be treated like shit” and the narrative of the manga has always been “we should save people.”

I also think these deaths are in bad faith when you have the hero side critically injured every five seconds and coming back from that (with the exception of Midnight, don’t get me started with that I hate that she was the only named casualty of that arc other than the racist guy) with Bakugou literally having his heart stop especially, and then with the villains it’s like “well can’t do anything about that, bye loser.”

So yeah, here’s what we know about the villains with the last three-ish chapters pending and a bit as to why I’m more than pissed about how this turned out, keeping the above sentiments in mind.

TLDR They died in vain. They accomplished nothing, no one bothered to listen to their message, and they died.

Magne - died protecting her friends from Overhaul. Body not recovered because it was cut in half (top half exploded) and only her legs remained. Might be reading into this a bit too much but a little weird that the trans woman was the first death we had in the series. Also weird that her motivations to join the League was presumably her horrible treatment for being trans but we don’t get that context until the circumstances surrounding her death. We know very little about her backstory.

Twice - Literally stabbed in the back while trying to flee. Body left in an active war zone, assumably recovered by the Hero Commission/whoever is responsible for cleanup. Mild closure in the fact that he did find out that he was the real copy of himself but not really because we still have people, years after this death, saying that it was “justified” and “a necessity” because Twice was resisting arrest trying to flee while being a non-combatant. I cannot stress enough that he was unarmed while he was running, ran past Hawks and did not attack him, and the “help” Hawks was offering him was throwing him in jail and never letting him see the light of day again. I don’t want to talk about this anymore.

Toga - Sacrificed herself to save Uraraka (semi-implied she might have been in love with Uraraka). Only Uraraka knows of her sacrifice. Has to endure in death people saying that she was nothing more than a villain, same as in life. Nothing changes for her - she’s still considered creepy, a freak, a villain. Body assumably left in an active war zone recovered by Hero Commission.

Mr. Compress - Arrested and in prison. We still don’t know why he joined the League. (Thank you @themattress for correcting me in this, glad he’s not dead but damn.)

Kurogiri - MIA. Assumed dead. Not mentioned in the final act and without closure as to his identity, only that he is still loyal to the League.

Spinner - Hospitalized. Says he’s going to preach about Shigaraki’s message. Honestly, it’s a good sentiment, but he’s clearly going out into a society that is a) hostile to people with mutant quirks like him b) hostile to villains c) canonically resistant to change and resistant to anything related to Shigaraki if those TV interviews were anything to go by. It’s a lost cause.

Dabi - Alive, but barely. He’s restrained and being kept alive by medics equipment but it’s clear his life will be short and in pain. I saw someone say that it’s “ironic justice” because he always wanted Endeavour to watch him and now he has no choice in that his family is going to be (in Dabi’s words) “gawking at him like a tourist attraction.” He’s miserable, he’s going to die, and he doesn’t even get the freedom that he wanted while his abuser walks off without punishment and still adored by society. This isn’t justice, it’s cruel, especially when we know it’s possible for him to be properly put back together (since that’s what happened after he “died” as a teenager).

Shigaraki - Dead, turned to dust after being possessed and used as a puppet by AFO after being his puppet and manipulated by him for years. Was not saved despite the fact that the entirety of the last arc was propped up by the sentiment that Deku was trying to reach out to him and save him, specifically Tenko, the spirit of a little boy who wanted to be a hero. I don’t believe in redemption through death. People calling this a redemption arc is an insult. It wasn’t a sacrifice - he was killed. He had no agency in his life and didn’t even get to choose his own death. Deku tells him to his face that his death is his own fault (what happened to saving him?!). He died hoping his friends would be able to carry on and something about hero society changed. His friends are dead, dying, or have lost everything, and society stayed exactly the same as it was at the start of all of this.

[c0ffinrehearsal]

I LOVE you YWLM and all of your trans marauders fic but it does sort of rub me the wrong way that sirius bottoms in all of them. There’s nothing wrong with being a bottom it’s just disappointing that trans male characters are always defaulted to that. Trans men can top too and it sucks to keep seeing really incredible fics that fall into that stereotype.

i don’t even know where to start with this but like first of all, did you even read ywlm? bc it seems like you missed the part where they talked about switching and both of them were into it.

idk what to tell you - i’m a trans person. this is how i’ve chosen to write trans characters so far bc it’s a direct reflection of my own preferences and experience. it’s what feels affirming and comfortable for me right now, and maybe that’ll change and i’ll write a 50K fic where they switch every single time they fuck but i don’t have to, and just because i haven’t doesn’t mean i’m not supportive of it or into it.

something i can’t stand about this fandom is how many people just assume ill-intent of writers and artists. how y’all treat us like we’re supposed to just cater to every single person’s exact preferences like that isn’t an insane set of standards to shove onto people who do this for free and for fun.

do you have any idea how exhausting it is to get constant criticism for everything you do in a fandom space? it feels like i can’t post any work without someone popping in to tell me what’s wrong with it, or ask me to write them like this or whatever and like it’s not fun. this isn’t fun for me.

either write the kind of fic you want to see or go find it somewhere else because i promise you it exists, and instead of being fucking weird and rude in my ask box you could be talking to those writers and making friends who like the same stuff as you do. find your niche and hang out there and be happy instead of making me miserable xx

[ask-codeearasure]

So we got fucking SPAMMED to shit by this user -- itsthesunman -- who went on a multi post transphobic tirade accusing Trans people of being confused, fetishistic, groomers, obnoxious, faking, and rude (tell me you voted for Trump without telling me you voted for Trump), and my bestie, Sarco, had to see that shit.

Sarco was going to -- more polite than I would ever be in a million years -- try to educate this absolute piece of human garbage, but the spam was so hate-fueled that they got overwhelmed and asked me to handle the situation while ve gets some much needed rest, so we blocked them and I am making a statement here.

This is NOT a call for harassment. As aggressive and absolutely livid as I am I would NEVER encourage or excuse that course of action. It is a call for blocking, as many transgender peeps in fandom would appreciate a blocklist away from miserable jackasses like the one pictured below.

Another piece of unfortunate news is this person posts about Undertale too, meaning you might have the bad luck of running into them in this fandom.

Warnings for mentions of abuse, accusations of abuse, child abuse, transphobia, blatant ableism, and even more textbook Republican transphobia, disrespect, and fear-mongering.

Apologies in advance for the stress this may cause and the weird way Sarco and I took screenshots of this dickhead's lunacy. They are all in order though, I guarantee you that.

We stand for Trans Rights. Trans Rights are human rights and will always be human rights.

Trans people are not fighting against nature, anyone who thinks otherwise are fucking idiots, and attempting to put nature in all these fucking westernized boxes is an impossible feat no matter how much you believe it has already happened.

I've always said it to Sarco but I will repeat it here. Our brains are just pink fleshy computers that we don't know everything about. Not scientifically, not spiritually, not neurologically, not psychologically, not psychiatrically, not in any state of science or superstition. Trans people's brains just have very different coding. Not wrong, different. Unlike a car that has the wrong engine we can't just rip the brain out and put it into a new body. Instead, and in terms of those that experience dysphoria, we have to work with what we've been given to make it bearable at the least. We have to use surgery to correct it and hormone therapy, and that's only if we are looking to medically and/or surgically transition.

It's not a fetish and never has been, it's a genuinely horrifying reaction at worst and more people than you can bother to comprehend have to live with that.

If I, an intersex person that identifies with the gender assigned to me at birth, can understand this shit, that says a lot more about you being the "confused and indoctrinated" little prick. Your usage of "narcissistic" and "psychotic", as real medical terms to define mental illness diagnoses and symptoms, to paint abusers as mentally ill when the vast majority of mentally ill people on the planet turn out to be the abused, is not only vehemently ableist on top of your transphobia, but also goes to show how fucking ugly of a person you are inside and out. You are advocating for the mass death of entire populations of people with these beliefs and projections and you couldn't care less. Instead of blaming your abusers and ONLY your abusers for your pain, you're trying to make it the responsibility of strangers. Huh. Haven't you ever heard of stranger danger or was that yet another lesson of common sense that's flown into one ear and out the other?

Please, if you are transphobic or ableist, do us a favor and deepthroat a cactus, spines and all since you and I both know you are not going to go get therapy, or go take an advanced Biology class, or do any actual fucking research on the things you claim to know so much about but have the intellect of a fucking amoeba. Your projection of anger and fear and pain onto random fucking people on the internet that had zilch to do with it is a counterproductive move to make, and none of that reflects badly on us. It's just you. You, yourself, and the indoctrinated fantasy you claim is "reality".

You are just going to trust the middle school biology class that you didn't even pay attention to. I mean even my horticulture class went into detail about how plants had FAR more than two genders. It's almost as if there have been more than two genders since the very start and in more species than just Homo fucking sapiens. Ah, but that doesn't matter to you, now does it? The only thing that matters to you is your absolute ADDICTION to hate being serviced, to blaming a made-up skeleton of a scapegoat for all the things haunting you instead of dealing with them directly and responsibly. You know, like an adult.

I would apologize for what you were put through as a child, I could at least pretend to sympathize and roll over to stroke your twisted state of ego, as that's exactly the response you are digging for as a justification for all the propaganda you're shitting backwards out of your mouth, and it would take too much effort for me to extend an olive branch to a display as deplorable as that.

How your trauma affected you and how you choose to live now is not anyone else's responsibility but your own.

But I should thank you for one thing, genuinely, and that's because you have only proven every single point I made in the two posts I've written before, the ones talking about politics and how harmful Republican ideology really is.

And genuinely, the people your families vote for do matter, as politics do affect how societies work. So cutting off or distancing from family members and ex-friends and whatever the fuck IS a valid move to make to preserve one's own quality of life and personal happiness. You can take your "politics is no reason to cut off family" and shove it up your ass. I hope it gets stuck up there.

So in many words, fuck off. Stick to your shit-filled echo chambers on Twitter, Truth Social, Kiwi Farms, Facebook, and Parler, and leave us and the rest of this fandom alone.

We are no longer interested in trying to educate people like you. We are no longer going to tolerate intolerance.

We never should've tolerated intolerance in the first fucking place. We, as a community, allowed that shit to fly for far too long.

We have a zero tolerance policy for hate. PERIOD. You and everyone else like you should stay the fuck off our page.

To the people that stuck through listening, take care of yourselves. No one like this asshole deserves to share your oxygen or take up an ounce of your time.

-- Ouija

[olderthannetfic]

I'm curious about people's opinions on this.

I recently saw some complaints about people writing het omegaverse and how it should only be for queer relationships and there seemed to be some drama over it and claims that het ships are ruining it. And because I tend to enjoy drama more than I should I read a long twitter thread. Now, the omegaverse isn't my cup of tea. All I really know about it is, wolves, Mpreg, dominance and submission. But it is very popular. Nearly all of my fandoms and ships will have a few omegaverse fics on every one of their AO3 pages. (Nearly all of them are M/M ships)

So I guess, what are the issues of people writing het omegaverse? Or should this be another case of Don't like Don't read and let people have their fun? Or does it just not really work for het ships?

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Yes, het will totally ruin the weird dog dicks AU. Absolutely.

There are no ~issues~. People should write whatever the fuck they want. But if you want to explore whether it "works", you have to delve into what makes omegaverse tick actually, which is more than just wolves+mpreg.

One common use of the trope is to make someone 100000% the top 5eva. This is the type people often mock or complain about in m/m, and it works much the same in f/m. This is what showed up in that stupid omegaverse lawsuit situation: indie het erotica/romance novelists are now using this as a way to structure their fsub rapey ultra alpha hero stuff, and one of them decided she was the original and no one should steal her idea. (Soooo original.)

The Alphaest Alpha to Ever Alpha is a fantasy, not realism, no matter how many dicks the ship has, so it's not any stranger to go "No, he's really, really on top!" about the dude in het than about one of the dudes in m/m.

If this trope is hot to you, it's hot. If it isn't, it's not any stupider with het than with slash.

But that's not the only thing omegaverse gets used for. It's also used for the diametric opposite: debunking the idea of someone naturally being super, duper default on top. This kind of fic often does something with betas and actually engages with the idea of a three-biological-sex system (instead of betas being how you get rid of the characters you don't ship). It will have alpha/alpha relationships or omegas topping or omega-->beta trans characters or all manner of other gender/sex exploration.

I don't read a ton of het in fandom, but I do read m/m/f, and I've read fics where each chapter is a different scenario where the three are some other omegaverse combo. This is where you'll often see female alphas and male omegas and various takes on exactly what that would look like. There's no reason het couldn't also be used to explore sex and gender stuff.

And, really, some people just find knotting hot. A story being het won't change that.

[velvetvexations]

Oh btw about predatorjacketing and kinkshaming trans people;

This is generally going on among modern fandoms and among young queer and trans adults outside of just transfems.

I've seen plenty of non-transfeminine nonbinary and transmasculine folk get hunted down and harassed over cartoon porn they draw. I don't know in detail if it's more frequent or violent towards transfeminine folk (it could be, - given how mainstream transmisogyny relates to the gay or gnc men as predators myth).

I'm transmasc and I don't have a NSFW art platform at all because I'm THAT scared of people finding it, associating it with my mains and then slandering me over it. I can not find community around my kinks etc. because I feel unsafe to discuss that with the vast majority of people. And yes, my transness is a factor. I always feel that it if I was a feminine cis woman I would be seen as cute and innocent. I have a very deep instinctive feeling that my transness to many people represents a sexual threat and that it's easier to demonize me over kinks bcs I stick out too much etc.

Even in a women's changing room I feel that my masculinity is in this stark direct contrast with most people I share that space with, - that I have to be really careful of how I move, where I look and how I come across. I have felt for my whole life, even when being a fem presenting teen, that I am clocked as a boy thing that doesn't belong there. Now on T, with boobs... I also have to avoid talking in those changing rooms. In the company of really fem presenting cis women I feel socially and culturally hypersexualized for my deviant masculinity, for being an apparent dyke in the midst of women. I have cptsd from being around feminine people because of how othered I am + some experiences of being subtly ruled out of the Girls TM club.

Being a sexual being with my kinds of sexual interests while having this experience as a transmasculine person is something quite vulnerable and difficult to fully become confident in and love oneself about. I think transandrophobia and transmisogyny have that whole "you're a predatory impostor among women" thing and "you emasculate straight cis men by existing" thing in common... Just from a slightly diff. angle but there's so much similiarity.

A lot of the chronic policing between transmasc people over kink and sexuality is actually a result of internalizing the idea that we are dirty masculine predators. There is a high social pressure to be cute, feminized, sanitized and say "PROSHIT DNI >:/" because transmascs have an instinctive self-awareness of how we're easily thrown to the wolves when our gender-nonconformity or sexuality is no longer cute and Christian Values Friendly enough.

Being terrified to death about some kind of predatorjacketing over writing fanfic or drawing weird cartoon porn isn't exclusive to transfems. Any transmasc person encaging in fandom or any online art subcultures is waaayyy too intimately aware of this fact 24/7.

Oh and? Transmasc people with feminine partners who are tops / encage in some kind of roleplay where they're in the 'aggressing' role are extremely stigmatized too. I see people instantly write this off as toxic masculinity or inherently gross because a transmasc does it.

A lot of transmascs (speaking from experience) who actually prefer these "scary" roles in fantasy etc., feel social pressure to over-emphasize how bottom uwu sluts we are. I've recently stopped doing this because I realized it makes me dysphoric + I only do it to make my sexuality more palatable to other people. And I see so many transmascs as like... Having to reduce themselves to these cute slut boytoys. While I fully believe this is the authenthic preference of many of them, I think as a transmasc there is a strong social pressure to be /that way/ because being seen as Gross Threatening Men is like a social death sentence.

(there's a lot of good discussion about everything on this blog btw and I love to read it. I just wanted to add 2 cents to the anti kink vs trans people discussion.)

I don't think there's any difference literally at all between how transfem and transmasc sexuality is "handled" by the internet. People have it in their head that everything is an exact 1-1 of everything else so the fact that a trans woman is more likely to be visibly tagged as a pervert just for walking down the street (transmasc members of Velvet Nation please let me know if that's inaccurate) gets transferred to the internet as though everyone treats trans men who have being trans in their bio as the first thing everyone sees as cis men.

At most TERFs might report trans women more often and I don't want to downplay the seriousness of that but get fucking real if one doesn't think trans men aren't under constant scrutiny.

[leikeliscomet]

Getting into the aspec community's anti-love stance more on a personal level cus it's been me rubbing the wrong way for so long.

Society sees love and sex as the same so it doesn't make sense whenever the community acts like the marginalisation of certain types of sex wouldn't have any impact on romance whatsoever. That homophobes hate homosexuality but will give homoromanticism a free pass. There was a whole study, the MacInnis-Hodson study, that showed homophobes admitted they'd still discriminate against gay people if we don't have sex. Homophobes think gay love doesn't exist in two respects; that gayness is inherently sexual so 'love' between the same gender doesn't exist because it's only sexual and that gay love is perverted, sinful because it can involve sex and shouldn't exist. There is no way to be anti gay love that doesn't circle back to this. It's also weird that people unironically think puritans are pro-love if they're anti sex (and spoilers they're not anti-sex they love heterosexual reproduction) like no they're pro-marriage. Pro cishet monogamous marriage to be exact. There isn't a single context where they think gay love is pure. They've banned gay kisses, they've erased gay characters that don't have sex, there's a whole genre of homophobic Netflix where gay characters being physically close to each other is getting scrubbed and sanitised like this idea of pure uwu alloromantic love u lot are talking about doesn't include the gays. It's *never* included us. It also doesn't include Black women because look at the way writers and fandoms fight tooth and nail to avoid making Black women love interests. In fact it doesn't include any marginalised group society says is romantically undesirable.

The most important form of pro-gay love activism I always think of is queer Ghanaians and the anti-LGBTQIA bill that got passed. I can't visit my family in Ghana without being in danger. I either put myself at risk by connecting with my own roots or I never see them and stay 'safe' in the UK (and I use 'safe' in the lightest way possible). I think of queer Ghanaians and other queer Black Africans in the global south navigating the effects of colonialism on top of rampant queerphobia, violence and rape. The conflict of being proud of your Africanness whilst your country is killing you. I think of Angel Maxine and her creation of Love is Our Will and the full version, Kill The Bill Love Is Our Will and how as Ghana's first openly trans musician she's putting her life on the line everytime she sings about gay love. I'm never gonna see that as useless of 'uwu pure love allo things' like fuck no. Fuck that. It's an act of resistance and bravery. So yeah western aspecs giggling about gay love messages being useless when this shit is going on will always be dutty and ignorant to me for this reason.

It feels so weird when I call out amatonormativity and try to centre aroaces as an ace that experiences romantic attraction to have aspecs start shitting on alloaces and non-ace people's romantic attraction in my reblogs like I'm not the alloace and and 'allo queer' in question. I think it's cus people assume I'm aroace too so they feel comfortable saying these things. Or people know I'm not but the idea of being gay and asexual isn't sinking in cus I have a post talking about gay asexuality and people tagged it as aroace instead. Or this is some conditional support cus I cant help but notice the increase in acephobia I'm getting the minute I start focusing on the lesbian side of my asexuality. That aspecs have a bigger issue with the ace lesbian culture blog than they do the Black one.

Yes the 'love is love slogan' has limits, yes love is not the most important part of gay activism but that's literally why we have more than one ffs. You can care about multiple things at once. I'm sorry but if we can see how blatantly reactionary sex loses, don't have gay sex would make a pretty puritan sounding type of activist messaging, that proudly labelling ourselves anti-sex and that supporting sex negativity would sound fucking awful then making fun of gay love activism five seconds after it's giving hypocrisy. Like you lot either genuinely don't know enough gay history of theory so these posts are coming from ignorance or you do know and don't care. And that's worse.

Cus if we were doing up 'fuck love where women are expected to be perfect wives and mothers' 'fuck loving our abusers just because they're family' 'fuck the idea we have to love people unconditionally when they're hurting us' 'fuck the idea romantic love 'fixes' and absolves people for doing morally bad things' 'fuck the idea you have fall in love with the opposite gender/sex only' then i'd be all aboard but no we're (not me tho) making fun of the sexless uwu gays with romantic attraction... just like the rest of society.

[wirewitchviolet]

Oh damn it, The Boys has a spinoff?

Not too long ago, I wrote about The Boys, and how I have a few issues with it. And when writing about season 4 in particular, I mentioned how off-putting it was that the right wing characters in the show were constantly shouting about the protagonists loving trans people as a dig, and how weird that is to toss out there when there don't seem to be any trans people in the show at all, let alone any the protagonists associate with. But there IS a trans character in Gen V, the weird little spin-off series they apparently made between seasons 3 and 4 that I was unaware of when I wrote that. So out of some combination of morbid curiosity, feeling the need to maybe amend my earlier statement, and let's be honest, an act of self-harm, I just sat down and watched that too.

In a lot of ways, I hate this even more.

The premise is that all the characters here are going to a special superhero high school in the setting of the main series, and there's this whole tease through like half the show about how there's a big competition where the top student in the school will get to go join the big superhero team from the primary series which feels a hell of a lot like they were trying to maybe lure in some of that Hunger Games fandom or the 5 people who haven't totally denounced those seven doorstops from the most famous transphobe in the world or something, and maybe also trying to pretend the main character from this show would end up on that show which... just does not work? Like if a character joins the superhero team in The Boys it means they're going to be revealed to be a nazi or they're going to be almost immediately sexually assaulted then killed, or possibly all of the above, and that's not really something you'd want for any of the main cast in this show here, because a decent swath of them are more or less good kids and all. Like is it even a spoiler to say it ends by going all shaggy dog story with Fascist Superman showing up for a quick cameo at the end to declare everyone remotely likable an ideological threat and them being thrown into a secret prison? Probably but look you could have stopped reading when I said how it ended.

Also the protagonists being mostly likable kids with superpowers. kinda just completely breaks the whole premise? Like the one thing The Boys does that I approve of is shout very loudly about how much right wing scumbags suck via what I'm sure they'd describe as a metaphor, but really we're just kinda largely overlapping with a theme of superheroes being inherently evil and horrible... and that's just kinda not a thing in the spinoff here at all, outside of some really limp references to the series proper and teasing out a season 4 plot threat at the 11th hour. Doesn't really seem to try and replace

All the stuff I hate is totally still in here though! Demonizing kinky sex stuff, really pushing for shocking gore and making people weirdly squishy accordingly, and trying to talk about serious stuff affecting women and minorities, but not having the perspective to do that well and coming off a bit weird. I'd almost say it is at least a little less bad and gross about women but (warning the rest of this paragraph describes really tasteless stuff) the opening scene of the first episode is the main character discovering she has blood control powers because she gets her first period, plays with the resulting blood, freaks out when her parents try to check on her, and accidentally totally explodes them with blood daggers. Because yuck girls are gross I guess. And then once we've established she has blood powers we clumsily try to make a whole thing about how she has to cut herself to get access to them like how all those teenage girls are cutting themselves these days. And to really hammer that home, her roommate has shrink/grow powers that are activated by doing the whole binge/purge thing. And no, we aren't trying to make any sort of larger point with the imagery with either of these besides "ew."

The rest of the cast besides those two get introduced as the cool popular bitchy maybe racist mean party kids who do drugs and kill random bystanders trying to show off with powers which feels like they were maybe trying to do some kind of parallel with the super hero team from the main series and then I dunno maybe got some real quick feedback that that's lazy and did a 180, or maybe they were just trying to kickstart messy teen drama because this show doesn't really have any real like... themes or point to it. This gives us the really weird setup where a character gets introduced using Magneto powers to accidentally slit someone's throat and the lead being offered up as a sacrifice to maintain his reputation and then having him just be the goodest boy for the rest of the show. And also this means that trans character we have gets introduced as a gatekeeping bigoted popular kid so... yeah...

Probably isn't going to come as any sort of surprise here, but the creative team behind The Boys doesn't handle this here trans character super well! To be fair, they do try! The character in question is eventually pretty plainly one of the good guys after spending a whole lot of time on this weirdly drawn out thing with them being this coldhearted gatekeeping popular kid who is somehow simultaniously looked down on for being "a bigender Asian," and we're at least picking and naming a flavor of trans there.

Buuuuuut OK we've got this AMAB trans character who has this vastly preferred girl form, and parents frustrated by that noting they could just always stay in boy form, and something like half of all form switching incidents are sudden ones when starting to make out with people or immediately before/after having sex, and look it is REALLY hard for me not to suspect they started with an absolutely monstrous take on a trans girl built out of a lifetime of bigoted scaremongering and misconceptions, ran that by a sensitivity reader, and tried to salvage what they could while making adjustments. Plus you know, trans character with nothing but cis friends, HRT does not seem to exist in the setting, being bi but hopping over the gender fence to keep all romantic or sexual relationships "straight."

Another thing I have to get into is that while the show ultimately doesn't have a point, and goes all shaggy dog story, there's this whole thing where the school has a secret torture dungeon and the protagonists break someone out who suffers from, if I properly recall the term used, "schizophrenia or something," and wow, get this, you're not gonna believe it, in addition to being prone to fits of violence and sometimes seeing people who aren't there and maybe they're puppets sometimes, he's a weird spongey blank slate who needs all of like 1 minute to be talked into becoming a genocidal fascist in the last episode.

But anyway the one token trans character still never once interacts from anyone from the original show and is like 4 or 5 degrees removed from the person being smeered as trans positive so turns out I don't need to correct myself with that complaint.

Also I'm just gonna go ahead and not watch any more of this when more is inevitably released I think.

[ifyouknowmenahyoudontt]

I have A LOT to talk about so this is going to be a very long ask!! I’m gonna go topic by topic to make it easier!!

Racism In The Marauders Fandom

I know another anon already mentioned this, but often times people in this fandom headcanon characters as random raves without thinking about how those characters would be as those races. They ignore the overall cultural backgrounds and traditions. They make James Desi and Emmeline Asian but also just completely ignore the cultural and racial backgrounds that they would have as those races.

Also, a big thing I wanna talk about is the racism with fanon Remus:

Werewolves were based around and are metaphors for BIPOC. The fanon version of Remus is a very stereotyped “strong, aggressive alpha male who abuses his boyfriend and is a bitch to everyone”. A very racial stereotype towards many BIPOC. BIPOC are seen as “aggressive” or “abusive” in a lot of cases. Same case for werewolves. And you’re just putting him into those racial stereotypes and acting like it’s all fine because “oh, at least Sirius is getting his ptsd triggered fucked😁”

Ableism In The Marauders Fandom

People complete ignore disabilities in this fandom unless they can use it to sexualize someone. They give Regulus autism, but it’s ALWAYS the stereotyped “oh I’m just a little baby who doesn’t know what sex is😖” autism. It’s always the little baby child who’s too innocent for the world. That’s ableist. No, it’s not “projecting”, it’s ableist.

Also, never paying attention to the absolute PAIN that Remus goes through every month, but using his disability as a way to make him an aggressive top in order to sexualize him? That’s ableist as well.

Sexualization In The Marauders Fandom (Specifically sexualization of minors)

Going back to what I said about Regulus and the autism thing, people always make Regulus a “sweet immature little autistic baby😖” and then make James pound the fuck out of him. Why can’t Regulus be the top? Oh, because he’s a little child? Because he’s your little baby that you have to sexualize?

Why are you making literal minors fuck anyways? Making SIXTEEN YEAR OLDS FUCK? That’s disgusting. “Oh but they already know about sex—“ NOPE, still illegal. “Oh, but I’m a minor as well—“ DOUBLE DISGUSTING AND ILLEGAL!!

Don’t even get me started on this weird ped0 “Professor __ with student __” fics, which are also illegal and disgusting.

Fetishization

Notice how they ALWAYS oversexualize the trans characters or the queer characters or the BIPOC characters or autistic!Regulus? Yeah, that’s cause they’re fetishizing them. “Oh but—“ NOPE!! You’re fetishizing them!!

This fandom needs to wake the fuck up and realize that this type of behavior is absolutely fucking disgusting.

i love it when ppl are smart, thank you for your opinions! very interesting read!

[splendidbadger]

I read the tags on the ROTTMNT villains reblog, do you have more any scenarios and ideas for the villians? ANYTHING will do, they’re so fun and intriguing but the fandom overlooks them constantly.

Oh, I'm so glad you asked!!! I love the villains sooo much that I'm making an Ask blog revolving around them opening a bar lmao. I'm happy to see others who are invested.

Headcanons

Repo Mantis

I feel he was the first to be mutated with normal he acts like he gives no shit he's a mutant and we see him deal with humans. In my AU it's due to the fact he was mutated years before ROTTMNTs start. I mean he is not weirded out by the boys, he clearly knows Yokai exists. I have it set so he started doing work in the Hidden City and Draxum saw a nice unmutated human to experiment on and bam mantis man.

Repos trans too, idk man he's my favorite outside of Todd and you know? He's like me frfr. Repo def doesn't strike me as a top surgery guy, but also I feel his mutation helped his dysphoria a LOT because like I mean I've felt that.

Man is also very obsessed with his hair, and uses a lot of products. Doesn't care he's greying but he DOES care how healthy it is.

Repo can and will do drag. (Warren helps with his makeup and wig due to his claws getting in the way)

Hypno

Here's a lil angst one.

Hypno doesn't realize he fused with Doug. I can't remember the episode name, but it's the one in the botanical gardens where we get the flower mutant. We see that humans can literally be fused with plant life and possibly animal life. Also since we know Hypno wants to bring Doug back to life, hes passed away. Given that Doug was Hypnos hippo, and was most likely with him when he was bit, he doesn't realize he's been fused with his buddy.

He just knows his buddy is gone and he'll never see him again. That or he fully knows but is in denial. Warren buys him merch based on Doug as a way to make him feel better, since he's not the greatest at comforting people.

and some non angst headcanons

Hypno doesn't really have a label. He knows he's queer but doesn't care to label himself. He likes who he likes, and that's all that matters.

Hypno does drag a lot!!!! He LOVES doing drag! It's fun for him, and how he expresses himself!

A lil senario thing

Imagine that Repo was actually a fan of Warren Stone as an anchorman, imagine he enjoyed his jokes and commentary. Repos devastated he went missing, and genuinely invested in keeping up with anyone trying to find him. When he discovers his favorite anchors alive and not dead he's thrilled.

Due to the fact we know everyone Warren knew pre-mutation abandoned him he doesn't trust Repo, not at first. After all Hypnos is the only one who takes him seriously or seems to give a shit about him especially after he bungled everything with April. (He feels guilty about that gauntlet situation I will die on this hill.) So naturally he doesn't believe Repo at first. Repos pretty hurt, but man he gets it. These changes are big but he promises he's a fan and even knows other fans too.

Repo ends up taking Warren and Hypno to meet the others, sure they met when Draxum "hired" them but it was just a job and they didn't really to much time to talk after they got into action. I like to think Warrens was genuinely touched to see he has a fan base. I'm fully convinced post Warren and Hypno Sitting in a Tree Todd got Warrent a job as a Hidden City news anchor. Sure it's not what he had, but it IS something, and these yokai? They love him even if he's a worm-

[softie-rain]

Sej dad when their child came out as gay

note: hi cookie anon :) Barely anyone reads Sej anymore but the day I'll stop writing about him is the day that I'm dead and buried. Kid is gender neutral but just to avoid specifying the gender! Now while I'm pretty sure everyone in the fandom thinks Sejanus is gay, I'll also avoid mentioning his sexuality- so think of it how you want!

Starting off by saying I'm pretty sure the lgbtq community is pretty much well accepted in the Capitol, that doesn't mean Sejanus' kid won't be scared to come out;

Coming out can always be terrifying even when you're sure to be accepted, and Sejanus knows what's it like to be labelled as weird for being the way you are. So when his child tell him and his partner they need to talk, Sejanus is ready to carefully listen with no judgment whatsoever;

Oncw his kid is done talking, his first reaction is to thank them for telling him, and makes sure they know they support them and love them for the way they are

(I doubt he'd ever choose a partner who isn't open on the queer community but if that's the case and they try to insult the kid, either the partner is thrown away of the house or Sejanus leaves them and takes the kid with him)

Lots of hugging, even his child doesn't need it (lol). He wants to make sure they know they're loved !!

He'll buy lots of queer things, like a flag, rainbow socks, pride pins: the kid will probably be annoyed by this at some point but Sejanus is a supportive sweetly annoying dad and I will die on this hill

He'll also be always there for any romantic problems even if, let's be honest, Sejanus terrible at it.

"I think you should ask them out! They're clearly sending you signals!" "... Dad they're straight." "Never say never?"

Sejanus has top tier gay radar but is terrible with love advices

If his kid comes out as trans I feel like he'll struggle a bit in settling with the new pronouns and name (if it's changed), but they'd be innocent mistakes. He'll absolutely try his best not to get anything wrong

Sejanus totally throws a coming out party but it's an intimate thing

He'd never ever out them to other people unless he knows his kid is okay with it

Sejanus will be there for the coming out to Ma' and Strabo, and while Ma' will obviously be supportive there's a chance Strabo might no

✨️Strabo gets thrown out✨️

If that's the case, Sejanus will make sure that night to cook his kid's favourite dishes and just give them a chill comfortable evening, to distract them from what happened

Honestly he'll do it even if Strabo is supportive because Sejanus is just so proud his kid came out to his grandparents.