#and she is 25 yrs old she is a WOMAN

[mulderscully]

i see so much discourse about sabrina carpenter and her being sexual and i think the main reason people are uncomfortable with her is because she's short. i'm the same height as her and let me tell you people expect innocence from you if you are a person under like 5'5 no matter how old you are. they automatically think of you as "cute" and mentally assign you child-like traits that do not actually exist. it's supremely exhausting to be really short and i really applaud her for reclaiming that because it is not easy to be seen as short and sexy without people making it weird when there is no reason for it to be.

[icewindandboringhorror]

I still very loathe the Media Trope of ‘’cold genius man doesn’t feel emotions and never has relationships... UNTIL.. one random relatively bland Preddy Woman comes along and warps his entire personality and ability to think, his heart has grown and his seeming asexuality has evaporated, he is now Normal :)” or whatever like... AS a walking generic hermit archetype myself.. we would NOT act like that .... just let people be detached weirdos in peace, you cowards .. OR, don’t bother to write one in the first place if you find us too boring to exist realistically in our natural state lol.. pathetic 

[donewiththisshitplsstop]

Imagine speaking up against bullying when RBR employees kids were allegedly being bullied because of the cost cap breach and when people were criticising Sophie for childishly bringing up Checo's infidelity in a situation that doesnt even involeve her but then bullying Ted Kravitz because 'he deserves it' and Claire Holt because she's 'tired of max winning all the time' and because she said 'he's a grouchy baby'. Like the HYPOCRISY actually fuc*king stinks. And also if that offends you enough to BULLY someone with a different opinion imagine what we felt when Max used ableist slurs and apparently we were the villains for trying to be like 'wtf that's wrong'.

[woodsborostabathon]

biblically accurate ambermeli & richie tbh

[ladysophiebeckett]

not now sweetie, mommy's comparing different four adaptations of the same telenovela fm 1995 to 2023 and complaining about it again.

[drdemonprince]

Omg 25 yr old late bloomer dyke from a good while back (smoked again -_-) but the fates conspired n I had a little hookup with a 30 yr old woman after 6 months of not so much as kissing someone and it was kinda awkward n stumbling but sweet and 👀 at one point I asked if there was anything she was rlly into or wanted to do and she’s like .. to be real with u I’m super into feet and idk like ate em out ig and as someone who’s repressed n has trouble easing into / expressing eroticism to watch someone who’s so clearlyyy and shamelessly into some part of me and what they’re doing … to me … bark. N u know what, as someone who’s stone when it comes 2 my junk but still loves to receive now & then, it’s rlly nice to both discover a new errogenous zone and see someone psyched as hell abt it rather than considering it a sub tier alternative to Hole ig. Was that too much. Haha and she gave me a teeny tiny figurine from out an altoid tin in her coat pocket cuz she used to make giantess porn I love gay freaks she’s also a boot black and a puppy I’m wet 🙏 she feels like someone who has a tumblr hope she doesn’t see this anyways feel free to ignore just wanted to ramble somewhere 🫡

dog this is sick as hell. a horny ass lesbian foot freak who slobbered all over your shit and gave you a tiny figurine from her giantess rp fetish??? keep smoking whatever shit is making you this cool

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

TW // Age Gap, Infidelity, Grooming

NPD and BPD lesbian culture is finding out my ex girlfriend cheated on and left me for someone 6 years younger than both of us (ex gf and I are the same age, nearly 25.) On one hand I'm absolutely distraught, and on the other I'm laughing at how pathetic she is that she has to resort to someone that much younger than her. Girl, find someone your own fucking age...

Also part of this is literally wanting to kill her because the person she cheated with is in a throuple with two 17 year olds. Making her now a 25 yr old woman in a quad that's shared with two minors... She's so fucking pathetic and disgusting. ._.

I'm hurt, angry and embarrassed for her because how the hell did we end up here? Also overly self-aware and insecure NPD culture is wondering if I'm being too self centered because I'm genuinely traumatized this.

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[fight-nights-at-freddys]

replying to this post bc it was filled with so much stupid stuff that i just. have to debunk it! links to the articles below!

TL;DR: these links are mostly just sensationalized media, top 10 lists, or opinion pieces, and antis are dumb <3 sorry for the LONGGGG post, i just couldn't help myself

I would like to preface, though, that just because these people were deeply mentally disturbed, does not mean that every mentally ill/schizophrenic/psychopath/sociopath/whatever is a murderer, or even a bad person. In a lot of these cases, the system/their parents/their friends failed these people, and it sucks.

Teen Kills Brother, Loves TV Show 'Dexter': Life Imitating Art?

For context, Anthony Conley, 17, killed his 10 yr old brother Conner. He was sentenced to life in prison, without parole.

If you look into the case itself (or even just READ THE ARTICLE ABOVE), Conley had said to the police that he'd been fantasizing about killing people since eighth grade, and that he heard voices. Three experts examined him and said he was *severely* mentally ill, and a fourth who didn't interview him believe he showed signs of being a psychopath. This is a clear-cut case of someone who was not mentally stable having access to material that furthered those thoughts, but Dexter did not cause his actions.

"The Dexter Killer:" Inside the mind of a murderer

Context - Mark Twitchell, an aspiring filmmaker, catfished a man, directing him to his garage that he had decked out with plastic coverings a la Dexter, and killed him. He later attempted to do this to another man, but that one escaped. He was sentenced to life in prison, with possibility of parole after 25 years.

Twitchell himself would describe himself as a psychopath. He cheated on his wife, would cheat people for money, was a pathological liar, and said he had a lack of empathy. He'd also written a screenplay for a film he intended to make, in the hopes it would "prevent him from killing". He also said himself that Dexter did not CAUSE the killing, but I can't deny he might've gotten some ideas from the show (the catfishing, the plastic tarps). Still not the fault of Dexter, though, as Twitchell clearly had some issues prior to watching the show.

Korean true crime fan murdered stranger 'out of curiosity'

Context - Jung Yoo-jung, obsessed with true crime, used an app to meet an English-language teacher, and stabbed her to death. She was sentenced to life.

Jung, like the other two, was mentally ill. She was also a loner, a recluse, was unemployed, and lived with her grandpa. She scored high on psychopathy tests, claimed she had hallucinations, and claimed that she had a host of other mental health issues. She'd been researching true crime for months, and spent more months seeking out a victim, contacting over 50 people -mostly women- and decided to kill because of her "morbid curiosity". There's also the alleged "feeling of resentment and anger toward her family", and the fact that the woman she killed was stabbed 100+ times indicates it was more personal for her. "It seems that the background of the accused may have influenced the formation of an abnormal personality," the court said.

Fiction is Reality, As Far As Your Brain is Concerned (You have to make an account to view this one.)

This is nothing. This is an opinion piece from someone who is just a journalist. Honestly, I could make a whole post talking about how biased and just. plain wrong it is. I might.

It starts with the conclusion that the way we differentiate reality from fiction is based on how well it connect with our existing experience, which is true to a degree, but the study they cite does not use that fact in the same way the article does.

The study very clearly defines that (as young as) 5 year olds have no problem differentiating fiction from reality, just that Santa, or the tooth fairy, for example, are more "real" than dragons and the like because they have more experience from seeing them (mall Santas, or money under their pillow), than they do a dragon, which has only been seen on TV or books.

The article, however, takes this to mean that the brain has the ability to rewire itself, or misremember, to convince itself that Santa actually exists. It uses the example that "Frodo is more real than Kim Jong-Un" because we may have more "personal connection" to Frodo, than we do Kim Jong-Un, due to us having seen the movies, or reading the books, and making a connection to the character, but that is totally contradicted in the study above ("Our conceptual knowledge in relation to real people is far more extensive and multifaceted compared to that of fictional entities. For instance, the kind of associations most people have for a fictional character such as Cinderella (evil stepfamily, glass slipper, fairy godmother, the handsome prince, midnight, etc.) are limited to the context of the story in which we learnt about her. In comparison, our associations about a real famous entity such as George Bush is far more wide-ranging (his appearance, his position in the social hierarchy, my personal feelings towards him, my knowledge regarding the feelings of others towards him, his politics, his team, his family, the degree of influence he has on my life, the last time I saw him on TV, etc.).")

This is just a taste of how wrong the article gets it, because the entire thing is hinged upon their incorrect reading of the study that was done. In conclusion, bad article.

Movies That Inspired Real-Life Crimes That Shook The World

This is a list, so I'm gonna go over this quickly.

Leonard Lake was not inspired by The Collector. As a child, long before he read the book, he developed a fascination with pornography, photographed his sister nude (which his grandmother encouraged), allegedly killed mice and dissolved them in chemicals, and was later discharged from the Marines due to mental issues.

I can't find the specific cases this one's linked to (1971-1973, so it's old), but I will say that copycat crimes are usually done by people with prior records or severe mental problems.

Patricia Frazier had previous mental health issues, had been institutionalized four years prior to the murder, was later found incompetent to stand trial, diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia, and was found not guilty by reason of insanity. Again, mental health is the problem here, not The Exorcist.

Mark Branch had been under psychiatric care for several years, with one report saying he'd sought treatment at a psychiatric hospital. He also killed himself after the murder. Did Friday the 13th give him some ideas? Yeah, probably. Was that the movie's fault, and should he have been watching it? No.

Richard Boyer was under the influence of PCP, weed, and alcohol while watching the movie, and on the day of the murder, he ingested PCP, cocaine, and alcohol. I feel it pretty safe to say Halloween II was not the only cause of the murders, and the jury agrees with me. Jake Evans had been planning on killing his mom and sister for a while, saying "I guess this is really selfish to say but, to me, I felt like they were just suffocating me in a way." He said himself that he didn't want anyone thinking Halloween influenced him, either. So I highly doubt it was the movie that caused it.

Daniel Gonzalez was known as a "dark and troubled boy" in school. He had psychological problems, and from the age of 17 he'd received both inpatient and outpatient care, suffered with schizophrenia, and used drugs. He just liked the movie Nightmare on Elm Street, and wore a hockey mask like Jason Vorhees, but that's the only connection there was to those movies. Ultimately, the problem lies on the NHS for not helping him.

Martin Bryant had mental health issues. He killed and tortured animals as a child, would shoot birds for fun, and later set himself on fire. He was assessed and found to be possibly Schizophrenic, with a fascination with fire. He also had a low IQ, and was at a lower intellectual functioning capacity than his peers. He was known to be violent in school, was a nuisance to people around him, firing air rifles at tourists and spitting at visitors. No connection to Child's Play other than he liked quoting the movie sometimes. There's no proof to suggest Jon Venables and Robert Thompson had even watched Child's Play, that is just a theory, and a poor one at that.

Nathaniel White was previously in jail for robbery, then after murdering a 29 year old woman, he was arrested again for abducting a 16 year old girl at knifepoint, and was accused of child abuse by social services about a month before the last 5 slayings. He also enjoyed the attention he got from the press, so chances are he wanted something to make him "stand out", and make a name for himself, so he became "the RoboCop 2 killer".

Sarah Edmondson and Benjamin Darras were not only copycat killers, and known by the cops, AND did drugs, but they were on LSD and watched the movie repeatedly before their murder spree to hype themselves up. They did it for the attention, not because Natural Born Killers told them to. Don't even get me started on Columbine and how NBK had really nothing to do with what was wrong with those boys.

Brian Draper and Torey Adamcik may have said they were inspired by Scream, but it's much more likely they were inspired by Columbine, considering they said they wanted to "outdo" Eric and Dylan, as well as referencing them in their tapes. Again, they wanted fame (and pleasure, with Adamcik saying he was "horny just thinking about it"), which is why they recorded it. They wanted the attention. Not much to do with Scream at all.

With The Matrix, it seems to just be a bunch of people who have a very loose grip on reality to begin with, and that movie just made them lose it further. It was not the cause.

Same thing, different guy. Matthew Tinling was a drug user, and clearly not in his right mind, because he later attacked 2 other people while in prison.

This one's just stupid. Fight clubs didn't come from the movie, it's a gambling thing. Literally not even connected to the movie.

Kim de Gelder said he had nothing to do with the Joker, had depressions as a teenager, and claimed to hear voices in his head. Police investigators and De Gelder's lawyer both have said The Dark Knight was not a motive to his attacks.

The first thing referenced was just a hoax, and a bunch of people getting scared about it, and the second one, Johnathan Cruz, has a record. Robbery, attempted robbery, criminal confinement, kidnapping, intimidation, battery, assault, just to name a few, and was allegedly associated with a gang. The Purge has very little to do with the actual crimes.

Real Life crimes inspired by films and TV shows...

Here we go again...

This is the only one I can find with no criminal or psychiatric history to explain his behaviour. But if I would have to guess.. Copycat killer, attention seeker. Still not the movie's fault it happened, because plenty of other people have watched Scream and haven't killed people!

Not much I can find about this except for his sentence, but again, he might've gotten some ideas from Fight Club, but normal people don't commit arson and bomb buildings just because they watch a movie.

Not much to say about this other than two kids made a prank call and it went bad. Not much to do with Saw, other than them mentioning toxic gas.

Can't find anything about this one, but maybe teach your kid that biting other kids is bad? I don't see how that's the fault of Twilight.

14 year old with unsupervised access to the internet becomes obsessed with serial killers, and has access to weapons. Definitely American Psycho's fault, and not his parents'.

James Holmes' murders had nothing to do with The Dark Knight, other than the fact that he committed his acts during that movie in a theater, and that he maybe sorta liked Batman, but the attorney who prosecuted him said there was no evidence to suggest he was obsessed with Batman, and the psychiatrist that interviewed Holmes said he just picked that movie because it was guaranteed to be full.

Top 10 Real-Life Crimes Inspired By Movies And TV

This one's more of the same.

The Hi-Fi murders were gonna be done either way, they were just looking for a way to do it quietly and cleanly, and they just so happened to settle on the Drano thing from Magnum Force. It was always going to happen, regardless of method. John Hinckley Jr. was obsessed with Jodie Foster, not Taxi Driver, was found not guilty by reason of insanity, and was institutionalized for over three decades. He was not right in the head to begin with.

Japanese man charged with sexual assault used 'radiation inspector' ploy

Can't find much about this, but again, I'd bet a year's wages he'd have still molested those girls, even without that plot from a manga he read. That was just the vehicle he used to commit the crime, but the crime was gonna happen regardless.

Also. It says he carried out as many as 20 similar attacks in the three years before his arrest. If I'm reading this correctly, the radioactivity thing was new, something he'd only recently seen in a manga and used to hurt these girls, and the other 20 attacks were not associated with that manga. If that's the case, then I'm right.

How a birth mark on his leg helped catch this terrifying serial sex attacker

He'd been thinking about this stuff from a very young age, with his awakening being seeing Princess Leia in chains. That is the only connection to fiction with this guy. He's a rapist, why are we trying to give him excuses?

IN CONCLUSION. That anti's post was bad. Like, really bad. Filled with major news sites that like to sensationalize everything, top 10 lists that don't actually do any sort of research into what they're talking about, and an article by someone who can't read a study past the abstract, and my only assumption is that that anti can't read, either.

[crosby-interesting]

I used to think I don’t about love & infidelity as long as there is money & a desirable lifestyle. Now at 25, seeing the dynamic of the stay at home girlfriend relationships something in my brain switched. At that glitters truly isn’t gold. After a few yrs of being with a rich man, don’t you they realize the riches start to become ordinary? At age 40, will curated instagram posts of ur “relationship goals” & designer goods still distract from the blandness of the relationship in the same way it did in ur 20s-30s? If the relationship is transactional; ur youth & beauty, exchanged for his money & fame, don’t u realize this dynamic does not lean towards ur benefit as a woman? Don’t they realize superficial relationships such as these once ur youth fades his gaze will wander? Selling ur youth to a man who isn’t sure of u is a betrayal to urself. He can divorce at 55, still be rich, create a new family with a 25 yr old version of u while ur now age 55 depending on monthly checks from him, with a few of his kids & a old house he left u. Will u, a woman, start over as easily as he did at age 55 getting a 25 yr old to marry & play step parent ? Good luck with that. Youth for women is what money is for men. The difference is, one is fleeting & majority of wags fail to realize that. The man can find a way to earn more money, the woman, (despite surgeries & creams) can not find a way to earn more youth. This is why it’s crucial to marry a man that is boastful of u, respects, & through his actions has proven commitment. Connor Mcdavid cheated on Lauren Kyle in the peak of her youth, so what’s stopping him from cheating when she’s 50 & he, a man of status & wealth, can still attract 20 yr olds with no effort? They dated 9 YEARS, yet he magically proposes 1 yr after being caught on video cheating? Connor publicly humiliated Lauren & didn’t respect her enough to publicly apologize. Kobe Bryant who had cheating allegations admitted at a press conference to his infidelity & publicly apologized for the shame he brought to his wife. Connor didn’t just have allegations he was on VIDEO cheating, yet didn’t bother to to post even a pathetic generic IG story apologizing in Lauren’s honor,he rather let his fans call Lauren a gold digger & doormat under her IG pictures still to this day. But his sudden urge to propose 1yr after cheating makes it better, right? Coincidently 1 yr after Connor conveniently proposed, his other lap dog Leon Drasaital magically felt the same urge as Connor & proposes after 7 YEARS of dating Celeste Desjardins & oddly 2 weeks before Connor’s wedding. 7 yrs dating a man whose trying to finish school, or work up to financially provide is understandable. But 7 yrs of dating is a lifetime when the man has nothing to worry about besides being paid millions to literally play a game while u wait tending to his home playing house keeper & dog watcher. Did Leon know Celeste was the one? No. But he did know he wants to keep up with the one he prioritizes, captain Mcdavid (who by the way didn’t bother to claim Leon as a best man…) So Lauren with a man who publicly cheated, doesn’t respect respect or protect her, looks as “excited” with her as he does when doing post game media. And Celeste, with a man who kept her as a placeholder for 7 years, until out of pressure finally decided he was ready to commit to marriage despite the fact she’s been committed to centering her world around him, so much that for the past 5 yrs she been publicly online making imaginary wedding Pinterest boards & uploading pictures with him on Pinterest with the tags #couplegoals #wag #Nhlwag #model #hockeyWags and also started following engagement ring accounts and various accounts about “tips advice to getting a man to commit” on IG 3 days after her bestie got engaged. A fairytale manufactured inside of a misogynistic nightmare is the only way to describe these 2 relationships. This is all my meaningless observation of course. Time will tell. Actions will speak for themselves, as they always do. I’ve seen this story before.

-🇲🇽

#WillYouStillLoveMeWhenImNoLongerYoungAndBeautiful #LaurenDesjardins sorry i meant #LaurenKyle and #CelesteDesjardins #LeonMcdavid sorry I meant #LeonDraisaitl and #ConnorMcCheater aka #ConnorMcdavid

That was brilliant! I'm sure many here will unconditionally agree with you! Thank you

The girls from Edmonton still have time to have children and provide for themselves based on this fact. But those who did not receive a ring or a child and lost decades on an unequal union - they are in complete ass

[wlwanakin]

god you're so right about how messed up the obi-wan/anakin/ahsoka dynamic is. it's like: your dad had you way too young, never forgot it and never let you forget it, and the moment you've achieved some independence he has another kid.

and like. you know that this kid is going to have to be your baby, because your father is not qualified to raise her, so it falls to 19-20 yr old you to keep this child alive. anakin is the true teen mom of star wars, tbh

RIGHT!!!! RIGHT!!!! like it’s that. it’s not that but emotionally it is that!!!! and it’s sooo fucked in ways that feel under-acknowledged cuz the show itself is like “but it’s fine! look how well these three get on” but also i don’t care what the show says (except when it’s good in which case i do care. i care So Much). i’m gonna talk about how it’s fucked!! and like, in general it’s the kind of a recipe for extreme tension and resentment and anakin not letting ahsoka be subject to any of that is maybe one of the acts that got him into force heaven two decades later, because anakin grew up being silently resented by obi-wan a bit (in some ways A Lot) and like you can talk about the cycles of it all but that is a very important aspect of it that anakin ensured he did Not continue! but like goddd you cannot tell me there was no resentment towards obi-wan about it all that nagged at him, especially since obi-wan likes ahsoka so much, and frankly obi-wan and anakin are a classic case of parent and child who simply would not like each other if they met as unrelated individuals, and boy oh boy is that a miserable thing to be. and i think it’s unrealistic that all this weirdness just evaded ahsoka too so i’m sure she has her own complexes. being an unwanted child whose custody got passed off bc your religious order decided to use you as a character-building tool (did she ever find out about this. if she ever found out about this it’d be crazy. i like to think she did) is never smooth sailing even your not-teen brother-mom loves you so so much and actually expresses it (UNLIKE SOMEONE ELSE I KNOW).

and anakin really IS the teen mom lol, and i find that funny both bc he’s much closer to an Actual teen mom age wise while obi-wan (designated teen mom by fandom including me bc he acts like one) was fucking 25, and bc anakin was the MORE SUCCESSFUL ONE. like not only was he given a padawan when he was 5-6 years younger than obi-wan was on the frontlines of a WAR he also got over the whole not wanting her thing like super duper fast and despite being the most insane woman alive he actually did a pretty good job and ahsoka ended up being really well-adjusted forever (which is in part stupid bad writing but also i do think anakin gave her the best child soldier experience one could be given…also fucked to think about if you wanna chew on that). like i increasingly don’t care for tcw as the years go on but ahsoka and anakin’s dynamic will be close to my heart forever and ever and that is partially bc the circumstances are so deeply fucked

[gaytommykinard]

because men can go to war to kill people in the name of protecting US oil interests overseas freedom and that's not considered abandoning his child and spouse, right? that's heroic and noble, that's what men do, to "provide for his family" that doesn't count as running away. totally different than a 25 yr old woman single-mothering her child with little to no support from her husband, her in-laws, and away from her own family, decides she's had enough, because caretakers fatigue doesn't matter right? because she got pregnant and married at 19 and that's the life she signed up for right?

why is it that we're so quick to forgive eddie who only became a full time father when christopher was already 5... but shannon earns the #ableist label?

and before anyone gets up in arms about it: no, i don't forgive her. i don't forgive any parent for abandoning their children under any circumstances. and i'm not denying the ableist label either, i personally don't see either of them that way, but i wont invalidate other disabled people's views on this matter (ETA: there are other examples of ableism i would use but i didnt wanna add them here bc im talking about the abandonment of it all)

i am simply treating her the same way as i treat eddie when it comes to their parenting of christopher. makes you think huh.

[chaifootsteps]

Look, I don't know really anything, but I don't see how Gryphon's actions from 5+ years ago have anything to do with the creator of Billy Bust Up. So they got married, they are happy, so they should just never be allowed to work again? Like the reason grooming isnt a crime in the US is because there is no concept for individual rights in it. It's not like anyone is showing evidence that he behaved like this to all his fans. Just, you know, his wife. If their marriage fails as she gets older then she can divorce him. But complete strangers inserting themselves into other people's relationships really seems invalidating of the relationship, invalidates her right to choose her own partner, infantalizes this 24, almost 25 yr old woman and then to top it off everyone gets to just starve.

Someone pass this along to Katie so when they write up their defense of Gryphon, they know what not to say.

[nancydrewwouldnever]

to people question how a 42 yr old behaves this way….he hasn’t matured past his 25 yr old self. He looks for his youth in the girls he bangs. If she gives up her career to have kids or whatever he’ll get bored and want space to roam. If she plays into all this to build a name he’ll say she isn’t taking care of him anymore. Can’t tell you how I know him so well but I promise there’s only a few ways this plays out 

Is anyone buying this as a "romance for the ages"? I've never bought that line of how they're selling this. They certainly haven't sold that at all in any of the photos or videos they've released.

As to the other stuff...

Look, I'm realistic he's just an overgrown mama's boy bro. Those guys are not the guys who truly see women as individuals to be fundamentally respected, even if they tell themselves they do, or tell the world they do. And I've also 100% thought he's the type of guy to completely freak out at the true toll carrying and having a child takes on a woman's body, and so will immediately lose interest in his partner after that. Good luck to any woman in that situation with a guy like that.

[barb-l]

Social life as a working adult is so funny. I'm 25 and currently my closest friend is a 47 yr old woman(as old as my mom!) and when she saw me reading my own fics on ao3 she looked em up on her phone and promised, unprompted, that she would read my gay fanfics at home despite being unfamiliar with fanfics, ao3, or anything gay.

[destinyc1020]

Im just glad the woman Henrys with is age appropriate (shes 34 hes 40), i thought he was still with that 19 yr old 💀 Somehow grown 30+ yr old male actors dating women older than 25+ is becoming a rarity.

Yea, he was dating some young things for years 😬 ...

BUT this might be the woman he actually marries (if he believes in that 👀).

Look at George Clooney...

He was dating a lot of young model bimbos too for years, but when he settled down, LOOK at who he settled down with! A woman closer to his age, a woman who was SMART, had her own career, and wasn't chasing after him like most of these other girls lol 😆

Leo has been with TONS of young models, but has he put a RING on any of these women? No! 😅

Who men date or sleep with can be totally different from who they actually MARRY and settle down with.

Anyway, Henry seems very serious about this one. I don't care for his views....a lot of what he says is problematic/cringe and like he's a guy living in the 1950s and not a guy living in 2024 😬🥴😩

But I'm happy for him.

I knew years ago that when he posted THIS (below) and shut his fans down, he was pretty serious about this gf of his.

ANYTIME I see a man shut his fans down from the hate his gf is receiving, THAT'S how I know that woman is super special to him, and will probably be the woman he marries. 👀 😏

I said the same thing when Harry made that public statement to the media telling them to stop hounding his gf Meghan. 😉

I knew then that she was DIFFERENT from all of the other women he had dated, and that she would become his wife. 🥰❤️

[nereidprinc3ss]

Hi!

So I‘m a quiet reader of your dybmn-series and I have to say I was quite surprised when I‘ve red the intended age for reader is supposed to be 25.

Because, and I don‘t mean this with ill/mean intent, she reads like 20. Therefore I also imagined Spencer being max 30, even though that age gap would just not be really appropriate because one’s frontal lobe is developed and the others is not.

Like, again not trying to be mean and you are 19, so you can‘t really 100% know how being 25 year old is like, a 25 year old woman would not behave in certain situations like you described (not speaking for all 25 year old women obv). And I don’t mean the inexperience, just the general behavior. It‘s still pretty immature, again makes sense since you‘re 19 and I wouldn’t expect a 19 year old to know how the behavior as a 25 year old is like. (excluding observation)

I really like that you, very carefully, explore this dynamic of experienced person and inexperienced person, the inexperience is just described in such a way that reader does not come off as older than 20 and Spencer being 35 would..I‘m sorry it would be creepy for a 35 year old not being able to find someone closer to their age range if you get what I mean.

you said yourself it‘s not necessarily about the difference of experience in sex, more about the power dynamic they don’t even know if they’re really comfortable with, I just feel like maybe a little more research about how the power dynamic influences the whole relationship, how the age gap is quite big, and just how a inexperienced (sexually) 25 year old woman behaves would have made this series a tad bit more realistic?

Obviously this is your story, you decide how someone is written, how you want to convey something and your work is very good!

You‘re pretty skilled, know your way with words so this is not me saying that you‘ve written your series bad, not at all.

Just a little review (I mean you did ask for opinions, so I thought it would not hurt after sharing you mine) on how the story reads to a 27 year old!

Hi yes!! So I am in fact 19 and I’m definitely aware that reader doesn’t read like she’s 25 but I honestly just had like season 10 onward Spencer in mind and I didn’t really want to write like 35+ year old Spencer with a 19/20 year old, so I went for 25. Idk if you guys have noticed this but I would NOT say I am particularly emotionally mature for my age LOL so I didn’t really have the expectation that she would accurately represent a 25 year old—but I think a lot of my follower are like in the 18-21ish age range and so it would still feel relatable for lots of them despite not being the most accurate thing.

I apologize to my followers who are older if it makes dybmn hard to read because she’s very young seeming, it would probably bug me too, unfortunately I can only be how old I am and I just wasn’t comfortable writing 19 yr old reader x almost middle aged spencer so we’re just kinda pretending she’s more age accurate to 25 than she really is😭 but if you want to like give me an excuse I guess you could say like oh maybe because she’s so romantically/sexually inexperienced she reads as a little bit emotionally immature….. that’s not gonna be the case for all inexperienced 25 yr olds but maybe it is for her!! Idk I’m doing my best LOLOL alas it is not a perfect story

Thank you for reading and thank you for the feedback!!💖💖