#and now i often find myself at a literal loss for words

[fayeandknight]

Disability stuff

While it was really nice to catch up with my friend, she did point out something I don't really know what to do with. I will preface this by saying she did not point this out in an unkind way. I will also say that we've been friends since highschool and even though there are typically long gaps in between us seeing each other, she's quite familiar with me.

I struggle much more with my words than I used to. In my younger years I was often called pretentious because I used very precise words. But more often, particularly in the last few years, I find myself struggling to recall or get out the exact words I want.

It's very frustrating and I do, depending on the company, express that frustration by saying things like " I do have words" or "I know words".

For example, today I was telling her that I'd recently tried my hand at homemade perogies. I was trying to say that I'd bought a dumpling press but could not recall those two, relatively simple, words. I ended up resorting to hand gestures.

My friend wondered if it's because I talk less to people these days but I'm not sure it is. I wonder if it's related to unmasking more and being less hyper focused on/rehearsing precisely what I'm going to say next?

I could be totally off too. But while it's definitely a thing I've noticed about myself, I didn't realize how different it is from my younger self.

[fuctacles]

Tying the knots

For @subeddieweek Day 6 | M | 2162 | established relationship, bondage, non sexual intimacy, subspace, switching, fluff, they are in love | divider by @saradika-graphics | Ao3 Day 1 | Day 2 | Day 3 | Day 4 | Day 5 | Day 6 | Day 7 | Ao3

Steve tries to look at the screen Eddie has shoved in his face. Literally. He sighs, pushes his hand away, and takes the phone to scroll through the pictures himself. It's a week's worth of photos Eddie's been saving, scavenging the web to find those he thought might convince Steve to try the new thing.

Steve looks through the photos of models, their chests, arms and thighs wrapped in rope. He imagines similar stuff in their bedroom, and mulls over how to word his opinion. Wonders, with a pang of fear, if Eddie would want to try this with someone else instead, if Steve says 'no'.

He sighs.

"You know I don't feel comfortable with this," he says finally, knowing honesty is the best way to go at the end of the day. "I trust you completely, but I wouldn't even let Robin tie me up. Hell, I almost got a panic attack just getting an x-ray the other day."

Eddie lays his hand on top of his, where he holds the now locked phone.

"Darling, I'd never do that to you," he assures. "I meant myself."

Steve frowns, confused.

"What?"

Eddie squeezes his hand.

"I want you to tie me up."

Steve's mind blanks. This was flipping the script on their bedroom activities completely. He's at a loss of words yet again. He opens his mouth and frowns.

"But you don't like bottoming." They tried it, of course, but figured out fast the dynamic that worked for them best.

At his astute observation, Eddie's soft expression sharpens into a dark smirk.

"Who said anything about bottoming? Silly boy, you think I'll let you? With that tiny dick of yours?"

Steve's breath hitches.

"No, I want you to tie me up and ride me like a toy." His tone loses momentum, and turns softer and hesitant. Thinking back, Steve's been seeing this side of him more often lately. Lining in time with his confession that he 'wanted to try something new.'

Steve looks at his boyfriend. Truly looks at him, at the reddened cheeks, the dark pupils, the nervous picking on his nail polish.

"It's not about the bondage, is it?" he asks. "You want to try subbing."

Eddie nods in affirmation.

"Holy shit," Steve breathes out, the realization squeezing his throat.

"I know it's a big change," Eddie says. "But just think about it. We don't have to ever come back to this if you decide you're not interested, but the offer will be open if you ever want to try."

They maintain eye contact for a long while. The time stretches but all they see is trust and love, so Steve brings their joined hands to his lips to presses a kiss against Eddie's knuckles. 

"I'll think about it," he promises.

"That's all I ask."

Two weeks pass without mention of that conversation, which Eddie assumes is a 'no' from Steve. He's okay with that. The whole allure was to do it with him, and if he's not comfortable with it, then neither is Eddie.

The setting is the same, as every weekend - an afternoon to unwind with take-out and mindless TV watching after cleaning up their tiny apartment. This time, it's Steve who shoves his phone towards him.

"Which color do you like?"

"Huh?" It takes his eyes a moment to focus on the screen, and he takes a surprised breath when he recognizes what he's looking at. 

Colorful bundles of shibari ropes.

"Classic black?" Steve muses, like it's not a big deal to drop his answer in such a way, out of the blue. "They have this dark red that would look great on your skin, I think. Or we could go with the classic twine color," he wonders out loud, scrolling with his thumb with the phone angled so both of them could see. Not that Eddie cares much for what's on the screen. He has more important things right in front of his eyes.

"I love you so much," he whispers, taking Steve by surprise. He looks up into his boyfriend's huge eyes.

"I love you too," he says back, capturing his lips in a quick kiss. "But please focus, they have a sale that ends at midnight."

They go with the twine after all. Eddie said it would make fantasy kidnapping roleplay more authentic. Steve lovingly smacked him about it.

He can tell Steve is nervous. Eddie's sitting there, cool as a cucumber in his favorite house loungewear (linen pants and an old Metallica shirt), while Steve keeps getting up and fidgeting. He gets up to get scissors, then to get water, and then decides some snacks are in order. Eddie chews on a cashew, observing him. 

"You don't have to do this," he reiterates for the umpteenth time. "I can tie my legs myself or something. A simple harness should be doable too..."

"No!" Steve protests immediately. "You trusted me and I'm doing this, I'm just...." He sighs, running a hand through his hair. "I'm just worried something will go wrong."

Eddie sighs. 

"Baby," he says gently, crawling forward on the bed. "That's what scissors and safewords are for. We'll be fine." He gently touches his hand where he's digging his fingers into the duvet. "And if we don't like it, I'll just use the rope for the next LARP. It's not a big deal," he reminds him, squeezing his hand. "Just something new we're trying out. No pressure, no expectations. It either works out or it doesn't. Like a new recipe. Alright?"

Steve moves his hand from underneath his to lace their fingers together.

"Alright. Just let me watch the tutorial one more time."

Eddie rolls his eyes lovingly.

"Of course, darling."

He leans on his shoulder and together they watch a professional rigger demonstrate the knots on a consenting mannequin. Steve is holding the rope in his hands, mirroring the movements shown in the video. Halfway through though, he sighs and pauses it. 

"You're distracting me," he says, turning to the left, where Eddie's head is.

"I'm literally just sitting here!" Eddie protests, moving away from his shoulder.

"Yes, and it's very distracting!" He sighs again. "Let's just do this."

"Okay," Eddie agrees quickly, unable to contain his excitement. He scrambles to the center of the mattress. "This alright?" he asks. Steve's eyes roam down his form.

"I guess so."

With this said, he walks on his knees up to his boyfriend and throws the rope over his neck. He uses it to pull him forward, making Eddie giggle in surprise. He presses a kiss to his smiling lips. 

"What's your safeword?"

"Demogorgon" Eddie answers in a heartbeat. 

They are just practicing today but that doesn't mean Steve would take it any less seriously than an actual scene. Even with a third guy present, speaking from a YouTube tutorial. Steve checks with it every couple of knots to make sure he's doing them right. Other than that, and the soft ambient music he had put on, the room is quiet. Just their breathing, the slide of the rope, and a quiet exchange of 'Alright? - Yes.' now and then. 

He gets lost in the methodical movements, in making the ties just right, and it takes him a moment to realize it's become too quiet.

"Eddie?" He looks up from his own hands to his boyfriend and finds his blown-out eyes staring back at him. "Are you okay?"

"Golden," he slurs back, giving him a wobbly smile.

Steve sits up with a worried frown.

"Do you want me to stop?" he asks.

"Don't you dare," Eddie tries to growl, but it comes out slurred and whiny. He sighs, letting whatever he's feeling right now take over. "Feels good. Like a hug. I trust you, Stevie," he says, closing his eyes to drift away into bliss.

Steve feels his chest swell close to bursting. He wonders if Eddie feels the same when he hands himself over to him.

He leans down to press a kiss to his sternum, near the center of the rope harness.

"I love you."

Eddie makes a sound deep in his throat that is probably meant to mean 'I love you too'.

Steve moves to kiss his temple next.

"I'm almost done, just finishing up," he informs Eddie before going back to the rope. This time he focuses less on the task itself, and more on the body under his hands. On Eddie's steady breath, even and shallow like he's falling asleep. On the calm beat of his heart. He lets his fingers linger when checking the give of the rope, when threading and looping it, and turns it into a caress of his lover's body.

Once he's done, he trails his hands along the rope, from his shoulders, through his hips, to his thighs.

"All wrapped up, baby," he announces, and Eddie's eyelashes flutter open. 

He's looking at Steve, but like he's seeing him through a window from another dimension. With a thrill, Steve realizes he's put his boyfriend in subspace. Feeling the heavy weight of responsibility, he reaches out to cup his cheek and caresses it softly with his thumb.

"What do you need?" he asks. 

Eddie licks his lips before he can speak. 

"You. Kiss me?" he asks.

"Of course, baby. Anything." Steve leans down to pepper kisses all over not only his lips, but his whole face, his exposed collarbone, every inch of clothed and unclothed skin peeking from between the rope, like his body is an altar to pray on. Eddie sighs at the attention, melting into it. When there is no skin left unkissed, Steve wraps himself around him and they cuddle, until Eddie comes back enough to request they watch something.

He refuses to be untied until he's seen two episodes of Hell's Kitchen and got hand-fed broken-off pieces of a granola bar. And even then he agrees to it reluctantly, only when he starts yawning and Steve points out to him there's no way he's going to sleep tied up.

It goes faster than the tying process, but Steve doesn't rush it. He rubs gently every patch of reddened skin he uncovers and kisses it gently. Eddie goes quiet again under his ministrations, but nowhere as far as before. Soon, the rope is put aside in loose coils, and they're staring at each other, Steve rubbing absentmindedly at his thigh.

"Did you like it?" Eddie asks, trying to sound casual. Steve knows he's eager for an answer, though. 

"I know you love me," he starts, making Eddie tilt his head curiously. "But this made me feel it. Like, there was no doubt in my mind, for even a second, that you're ridiculously in love with me."

"Fuck," Eddie groans, startling Steve. But before he can ask what's wrong, Eddie's pulling him in and leaning back, so he has to hover over him. "I just wanted to be pampered a bit. Switch up our crazy hot sex to be even crazier and hotter. And you pull this shit on me. Of course you do," he rolls his eyes fondly.

Steve scrunches his eyebrows. 

"I'm... sorry?" he offers.

"Don't. No. Shut up." Eddie squeezes his eyes shut and breathes through his nose like he's overwhelmed. When he opens them back, they are shiny and wet. 

"Eddie..."

"Marry me," Eddie interrupts him in a single breath.

To say he's taken aback would be an understatement.

"What?" he says like it's punched out of him.

Eddie's face hardens with determination.

"You're it for me, Steve. I trust you to take care of me and I'll take care of you right back. What do you say?"

Steve chuckles wetly, begging his tears not to start spilling onto his future husband.

"What? No ring?" he jokes.

"Hold up." Eddie turns between his arms and scoots on the bed to reach the bedside where a trinket dish full of his rings has a permanent residence. He fishes one out and straightens up, kneeling on the bed. 

Steve sits up, watching him with wide eyes.

"Steve. Will you marry me?"

The ring is smaller than his signature ones, a silver band with an engraved rose, its thorny stem weaving along the length. Steve doesn't recognize it, and he's become quite intimate with Eddie's collection.

"Did you hide an engagement ring in your trinket dish?" he asks incredulously. 

A blush rises to Eddie's cheeks.

"I've been thinking about it for a while, okay?" he explains defensively. "I thought if I didn't go for a pretentious diamond and forego the box and fancy dinner it would make it less scary, will you please fucking answer?" he blurts out. 

Steve laughs, and this time lets the tears fall freely.

"Of course I will marry you, you fucking idiot."

He grabs Eddie's face and pulls him into a kiss. The ring falls somewhere into the sheets but they'll retrieve it later, once satisfied with the number of kisses exchanged between the freshly committed fiancés. 

[biconickyoshi]

Hi! The Zukaang prophecy dream person here. What you said about a lot of people not even considering Aang and Zuko as a ship made me think. Following that thought, I fell down a rabbit hole that turned into something a lot deeper than just shipping discourse. I'm not a professional psychologist or anything, but I hope some of my insight on this topic is interesting. I apologise in advance for so many words to read!

As a kid I remember being very clueless about romance. I never really interpreted Aang's affection towards Katara as romantic at all, and I honestly have no idea why, since they literally kissed on screen multiple times. So that's why, for years, I remember trying to find a ship that I would like, yet nothing seemed to click just right. That is until the Avatar Renaissance of 2020 when a lot of new people joined the fandom, and a flood of new discussions arose, way different than it used to be years ago. It made me realize that the core of the issue lies in Aang himself. At least that's my own theory, feel free to disagree. A lot of popular avatar ships include everyone from the main cast, but rarely ever Aang himself, apart from the canon Kataang. In all aspects, Aang is an unconventional protagonist, one unheard of at the time. He is a monk, he is a pacifist, he is a vegetarian. For an average kid or teenager in 2005, I don't think much of these aspects are too relatable. We were and still are used to seeing agressive, determined teenage protagonists, ready to beat up the bad guy at any opportunity. That's what was considered "cool". So a bald 12 year old boy with an arrow on his head who grew up in a temple, surrounded by monks, who avoids hurting people, even those who wiped out his entire nation, is simply foreign. You often hear arguments against Kataang: he is too young for her, she sees him as a little brother, they simply don't fit. Those are all false statements, as rewatching the show without bias you can clearly see them love each other deeply and mutually. Aang is a child, but he is a person too, someone with his own values and principles, and so is Katara. To me, both of them are deserving of love, Aang is deserving of Katara's love.

I am now going to talk about the genocide of the air nomads, as I think I can provide a unique perspective on this. I am Ukrainian. The russian invasion of my country has been going for 10 years now, but two years ago specifically my whole world turned upside down when russia launched a full scale invasion, intending to conquer all of Ukraine. A lot of my beliefs of how the world worked changed drastically. Seeing myself from years ago in people from around the world, not yet knowing war, I think this is something you have to experience yourself to truly understand what it means for another nation to want yours erased from existence. Aang's entire nation is gone. Everyone. No one is alive, not a single person. I don't think many people truly let that sink in. He has to keep going every day with the knowledge that the world he is in doesn't have a place for his nation anymore. He has nowhere to go and no one to come to. He has the gaang, and that's wonderful, but it's not the same. He is the only person in the entire world who truly bears this pain. To me, imagining that for myself, is an indescribable horror. To imagine having no place to come back to, living among strangers who know nothing of you and your people. Yes, he has the temples that preseve history, but how much of them has been destroyed? Even the people at the Northern air temple, although fleeing a disaster, still contributed to the destruction and loss of that history.

Yet, bearing this unimaginative hurt, Aang is able to forgive. He is able to make peace with his loss, and let go of his feelings of rage. He wants to see good in the Fire nation people. And through that, he is the only one who can truly see Zuko as he is. Having let go of anger and hurt, he can see the genuine wish Zuko has for atoning for his family's sins. He can literally see through him, all his feelings and thoughts, like no one else. He holds no grudge, no hatered for him. If you ever have a war, genocide unleashed on your country, you would know how impossible it is to forgive. Yet, Aang, as the avatar, has no choice but to do just that, to let go. I think that alone makes Aang one of the strongest people in the avatar universe.

But how is this relevant to the Aang ships being dismissed? Circling back, to me, this is a matter of understanding. People resonate with Katara for her experience as a younger sister, thrown into the role of a mother figure, for her experience as a teenage girl in a sexist world, someone with a desire to become stronger despite being denied that opportunity, be it by the circumstances or by someone stronger than her deeming her "unworthy". People resonate with Sokka for his struggle to become a reliable leader, for his insecurity being the only one without a special "talent" (aka bending). Toph for her sheltered upbringing and parents that are unwilling to see her as more than just her disability. Zuko for his struggle with his identity, his own values versus those forced upon him, an abusive household, repressed emotions and anger, being a sibling of someone way more naturally talented, coming to terms with the hurt he has caused and atoning for it. But what can people find in Aang that resonates with them? All of what Aang is, is grand and bigger than yourself. I relate to Aang as someone whose nation is being subjected to genocide, but is that a common experience? I'm sure that nowadays a lot more people came to appreciate Aang's character more, but as a child in the 2000s, would you really say you saw yourself in Aang as much as you saw yourself in Sokka, Katara, Toph or Zuko?

In conclusion, my theory is that, because of how unique Aang has been written, that prevents people from seeing him as someone they could imagine in a relationship with someone else. After all, how can you write about someone you don't share many life experiences with? How do you write them in love? How do you make someone so different from you come to life?

Anyway, thanks a lot for reading all of my brain vomit. Avatar is truly a goldmine for character analysis and study. Would really love to hear what you think!

I absolutely loved reading your analysis on Aang's character, anon. I agree wholeheartedly with everything you've brought up here. I think it's so true that many people (whether they're conscious of it or not) view Aang through a certain lens due to how unconventional of a protagonist and person he is. To many, he's not "supposed" to be the one who "gets the girl". He's not your stereotypical handsome/buff/rugged teenage boy protagonist; he's small, kind, goofy, and pacifistic. And I think in general that people find it difficult to wrap their heads around a male character like Aang not conforming to Western and/or patriarchal society's expectations/conventions when it comes to behavior and overall physical appearance. I think this also results in a lot of people unconsciously infantilizing Aang and having a hard time viewing him in a shippable way.

It's also interesting that you brought up Aang's almost "otherness" when it comes to the world he finds himself in when he awakens from the iceberg - he is the last one of his kind in a world where nobody remembers his people. He's from a culture that is vastly different from the ones that remain in the world. His philosophy, mannerisms, gender expression, appearance, etc. are all completely unique, not only canonically in the post-genocide AtLA world, but in our world as well, especially in the West.

The fact that despite everything Aang has been through, despite all the atrocities he has witnessed, he still is able to remain true to himself at his core through to the very end is so moving to me. Aang will always be my favorite character all time simply because of who he is. Even as a kid, I loved him so much - I never had a crush on Zuko or Sokka, it was always Aang. He represented not only the type of person I would want to be, but also the type of person I would want to be with. And sure, he's not perfect, but that's another one of the many things I love about him - he's human, he makes mistakes.

I feel like I could say more, but you already wrote so much good stuff in your analysis, and I'm not sure if there's much I could add haha.

Also, thank you for sharing your perspective as someone who lives in Ukraine - I can't imagine how difficult it must be to be dealing with all of Russia's BS the past decade, and especially recently. I sincerely hope you're staying safe and healthy! <3

[aquietwritingcorner]

At the Speed of a Runaway Horse

Title: At the Speed of a Runaway Horse Day: NA Fandom: TMNT 2k3 Usagi Yojimbo Word Count: 817  Author: aquietwritingcorner/realitybreakgirl Rating:  K Characters: Miyamoto Usagi, Donatello Warning: Cuteness Summary: Usagi doesn’t understand everything that young Donatello is telling him. However, the boy seems to be quite enthusiastic, so who is Usagi to stop him?   Notes: Long story short on the backstory: there was a crisis involving the Time Scepter. Literally everything was a stake. Don sacrificed himself to save literally everything. The Time Scepter took that into account and instead of killing him/erasing him from existence, turned him back into a freshly mutated tot to live life all over again. Splinter and the Turtles are now raising him. He’s about eight here.  ff.net || AO3

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At the Speed of a Runaway Horse

Miyamoto Usagi was not sure how he ended up looking after the young Donatello, and yet, somehow, he had. He shouldn’t have been surprised. He often ended up with children near or around him. For some time, he had thought it was because the peasant children were not used to seeing a samurai so accessible to them, and he could not blame them for their curiosity. However, over time he had come to realize that it was something else about him that seemed to attract children to him.

This was not his first time encountering the young Donatello. Indeed, he had visited not long after the ill-fated adventure that had led to the purple-banded turtle being de-aged. It had been quite a surprise to find that a warrior he had very much expected was now a small, wide-eyed toddler, eagerly learning about the world around him. While the child had been able to talk and walk, it was clear that he was not proficient in either and had required the care of his family. His family had dutifully looked after him, although it had been clear that they had still been reeling from what was essentially the loss of their brother.

Still, they had taken good care of their brother, and he was clearly growing up to be an inquisitive, healthy child. His intelligence was astounding, and Usagi was surprised by it every time he came over. He had realized only now, watching Donatello grow up again, just how formidable Donatello’s intellect had been, and he had been saddened that he had never had the time to know that facet of his friend.

He was, however, getting the chance to learn it now, and Usagi was both amused and lost as young Donatello took his hand and led him around the lair, to show him various projects he was working on. The young boy was chattering away at the speed of a runaway horse, but Usagi did not dare ask him to slow down, as he was having such a good time.

“—and Aunt April is showing me how to do coding and stuff for my projects, because she says that if I can learn to do that, then I can make a lot of things do a lot of things that they weren’t programed to do. This is the one I’m working on now! It’s a vacuum cleaner! It’s supposed to roam around the floor and pick up dirt and trash and stuff. But it’s not very smart and it doesn’t have very good sensors because it keeps trying to fall into the water—Did you know they won’t let me go in the pond by myself yet? I don’t know why, I’m eight years old and I’m a good swimmer! I can hold my breath for a long time! But they won’t let me. Even Leatherhead won’t let me, it’s not fair.”

Usagi had to suppress a smile. Some things never changed—such as children thinking that their guardians were too strict on them. “I’m sure that you are a very capable swimmer, Donatello. Your family is merely concerned about your safety.”

“Well, they don’t have to be THAT concerned. Anyway, I wanna make it so it doesn’t try to go off into the pond all of the time. So, I’m going to connect these sensors to it so that it can get more data, and then let that data feedback into a program.” He frowned a little. “Eventually I want to store the program in the vacuums—I wanna get more than one—and have a database for them to relay information to, so that they have a backup, but for right now, if I can program to a database that they can communicate to that will give them their commands then that’ll be good enough for me. But I want to program them so that they can see the danger and react ahead of time, instead of running into the danger and then reacting to it.”

If Usagi was perfectly honest, a majority of what Donatello had said went over his head. However, the last sentences shed some clarity on it, and he squatted down to look at the small, flat, round device that Donatello had.

“If I am understanding you correctly, Donatello, you are trying to make it so that this machine will react proactively to dangers instead of reactively to danger as it performs its job. And you will do that by giving it the ability to perceive more of its surroundings with these ‘sensors’ so that it can send for instructions when needed. Is that correct?”

Donatello beamed at him. “Yes! That’s absolutely correct, Uncle Usagi!” He reached out and patted Usagi’s knee. “You’re a really good listener!”

Once again, Usagi had to hide his amusement at this, instead nodding solemnly. “That is a high compliment, Donatello. Thank you.”

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it's kinda annoying bc it means i literally cannot be fucking normal abt anything competitive, or, hell, about anywhere my skill (or anything about me?) is judged by others. i hate thinking abt anything as competition bc if i see myself as a loser i get frothing mad at myself. also weirdly tied to gender sometimes in my head. i hate gender but i think society often tries to induce this kind of perspective as a male thing. nothing matters unless you're winning! sympathy is an excuse to not try harder! its very american

a really sad element ig is that i want to be non-binary really badly, i want to not even be human really badly, i want to be something else actually, bc i hate being judged and compared as i feel that i always always always am a failure as a human being and as a competitor. but a lot of the time bc i have this framework in my head, i intrinsically associate this frame with society's idea of how a man thinks or what a man's neuroses and failures are like, and combined w difficulty w my body and presentation i feel i will always be seen as a man

a lot of why i get fed up with aspects of manhood. i think that competition is a difficult road where you have to be winning in some regard. if you rly care abt competition you might take losses in stride but its bc you know you will win eventually later if you try. but i have this thing where i get so fed up holding back and constantly being a loser and a failure that i go thats it im trying now, and then when i fail when im really seriously trying, its really really difficult for me to recover from that mentally lol...

and idk this comes up in many many spheres of life. i'm simultaneously obsessed with competition and seemingly completely incapable of having a healthy relationship with it. for various reasons its almost impossible for me to consistently practice and work at a difficult task ...which makes me regularly unable to compete with anyone who cares enough or has the ability to do so, lol. doesnt matter if its games or an artistic field or a physical skill or whatever. and the worst bit is that i know that being upset and compary abt this is kinda pitiful

at the end of the day what this really speaks to is a lack of confidence, right? i think everyone else is better than me, i take failure as a sign i am valueless, i don't feel like if i try my best it'll have any impact on the results... i know that my perspective is wrong. but no matter how hard i try i just dont really have the mindset needed to be a winner and a grinder. i hate working desperately for something that isnt guaranteed. i often dont trust the kind words or positive assessments of other ppl, i only trust self-evidency

its a wild hell: i want to have a healthy relationship with competition, or trying, or anything really. but i can only prove to myself its worth it through solid achievements, which i consistently find im not very good at reaching. so i want to avoid it, and yet, im drawn to it. idk gender is a funny side element i brought up but its like. well everyone will see me as a guy and its not like i rly hate that hugely. but i hate being reduced to being the same as others, if im the same type of being as others i know i will always be worse in comparison

if i am a man then i am a complete failure of a man, and i hate the expectations of others. and so on and so on. i dislike living by any framework of what i should be that aligns me with others. but its also miserably alienating to be unable to like myself around other ppl

[crumblinggothicarchitecture]

Asking for advice anon here. So the poem I'm writing is a tribute for the death of a loved one. It's a free verse + imagery + metaphor. I've tried to incorporate the theme of finding solence in unexpected places, despite hardship. I'm ashamed to say I've been working on it for over a year. I'm running out of time and it doesn't seem right. What do you recommend?

No shame- I have writing's I've been working on for 5 years. It's okay.

First, I want to say my condolences to you. I hope that you find some peace in the aftermath of pain and loss. Grief is no simple subject with which to write. Please be careful with this advice- writing on such personal and traumatic topics can be sensitive- and much of this advice is about focusing in on the grief. If you are struggling, please reach out to someone who can help you.

Let’s talk about some poetry strategies 😊 I hope you don’t mind, but I’m going to explain most of this by using an example poem. It might not be entirely related to what it is that you are trying to accomplish. But as I read your ask, it immediately reminded me of this one poem by Marylin Chin. This poem is also a tribute poem for lost loved ones and centers around using ordinary objects as metaphors for grief/loss/change. If I am off base- feel free to just ignore all of this. I'm doing my best on limited information here! 

Okay, So I usually tell my students, my friends, and literally anyone who will listen to me talk about poetry, that there are a couple of ways to remove the “thought-block” in pursuit of poetry. Depending on the issue at hand, and what exactly you mean when you say, “it doesn’t seem right,” start by going back to the basic blocks. 

 Do you mean the words on the page don’t fit right? Do you mean that the thematic backing to the poem doesn’t seem right? Do you mean that the longevity of the phrases doesn’t seem right?  

I would take some time to diagnose the exactness of the problem. Often, when I am working on my own poetry (or writing of any kind) I will feel as if I am not quite sincere enough. You know that feeling when you are saying what you want to say, but it’s just not as impactfully emotional as you would like? I will sometimes feel like there is just a little bit more I need to say- to express- but it is just out of reach. I think that sometimes I even try to hide the truth of the matter from myself. So, I spend some time with my thoughts, often while sitting outside in the sun. I find the most peace there. I read some philosophy and sit outside until I’m exhausted and focused. Something inspiring or thought-provoking, just to get your mind in the spirit of analysis. There is some part of me that views poetry as an analysis of some kind – it's a process of teasing out and pulling apart a feeling then trying to suture it into the most poignant use of language possible.  

Consider, where do you find peace? Go there and think about who you are in relation to what impression you are trying to imbue into the poem. What is your truth? How does it relate to your message/ thematic point?  Go a step beyond just what you want to see written on the page, but what feeling do you seek to illicit? Even if you can’t yet put it into words- focus on the feeling. Know what it means to you, and your own intentions with that feeling.  

Now that we’ve talked about the feeling internal to the poem. As you say, the theme is grief- what's your purpose with the poem? Are you attempting to comfort readers, and yourself, from the grief? To reassure that the sting of loss will pass? Or are you sitting with grief? Pondering on the ways in which the world moves despite the loss you so keenly feel? Define it- if you can.  

I know this is a complex subject, given that grief is difficult to deal with, so if you are struggling- be careful with how seriously you take this advice. Take care of yourself- first and worry about poetry second. Okay? 😊  

Or is it something else? When you cannot yet phrase your feelings into poetry- start by attempting to make it into a question. What desperation of the soul are you trying to reach out to?   

For instance, with grief, some people are asking: God, why? And some are asking to make sense of sudden loss. And some are just asking- was it peaceful for them? Some ask why we must suffer mortality at all- what does it all mean? Some ask about the connected nature of past and present- and grief associated with letting go of the past. Where do we go when we pass? How do those who remain move on? (won’t lie- nothing launches me faster into existential dread than grief and loss and mortality). 

 Use the question on your mind- and then try to answer it with the poem (when it all falls into place). Answer it with the images and metaphor that you pick out- do a free write, association, type writing activity, wherein you just ramble about how exactly this image (or metaphor) answers the question you came up with.  

Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to make it perfect- just ramble on. All good things in time- and there will time to edit, later. 

Let’s get into an example: Have you ever read “Alter” by Marylin Chin? She’s a wonderful poet, I highly recommend it if you don’t already know her. I’m thinking about this poem right now because it has a really interesting way of representing loss and change within generational momentum and cultural landscape.  

Poem: 

Altar  by Marilyn Chin 

I tell her she has outlived her usefulness.  I point to the corner where dust gathers,  where light has never touched. But there she sits,  a thousand years, hands folded, in a tattered armchair,  with yesterday’s news, “the Golden Mountain Edition.”  The morning sun slants down the broken eaves,  shading half of her sallow face. 

On the upper northwest corner (I‘d consulted a geomancer),  a deathtrap shines on the dying bougainvillea.  The carcass of a goatmoth hangs upsidedown,  hollowed out. The only evidence  of her seasonal life is a dash of shimmery powder, a last cry. 

She, who was attracted to that bare bulb,  who danced around that immigrant dream,  will find her end here, this corner,  this solemn altar. 

This poem speaks about an “alter” of the ordinary. Beginning with an allusion to the current state of the past generations - as extremely old and stagnant, Chin writes that now she sits "a thousand years old, hands folded, in a tattered armchair." Presumably, the poem is speaking about a lost ancestor, or perhaps a grandmother, though it remains unclear, she is certainly speaking to a past generation or her particular Chinese American experience. We know this because of the line “with yesterday’s news, ‘the Golden Mountain Edition.’” The ordinary then becomes extraordinary, in context of its representational value to the life of Chinese Immigrants. The phrase “Golden Mountain” is a common way many immigrants from China would refer to the mountains of California during the 1850’s Gold Rush. This phrase held significance as it indicates how people would hope to become prosperous during the Gold Rush- by seeking something as awe-inspiring as the Golden Mountain. The impact of Chin using the “Golden Mountain” to bring forth an image of hopeful and eager young immigrants coming to America for Gold contrasts with the later image found in poem of “the carcass of a goatmoth” as it hangs upside down- brilliantly ensconcing a thematic message of dashed hopes amid a slowly dying, and turning to dust, American Dream as the quest for Gold was often all for not. Many found nothing- most became impoverished in a New Land.

The poem, is thus, functioning as a lamentation on the death of those who have come before us and a recognition even still of their full lives- one in which they had hopes and dreams even if they did not all come true. Conversely, speaking to the tone of identifying mortality, but also recognizing how our predecessors live on through us. As Chin ends the poem with “this solemn alter” proclaiming her own need to keep a testament to their lives with her- always like an offering to the God themself. Intuitively, also, the word “Alter” holds connotations of Chinese religiosity- marking out yet another way Chin is using the ordinary to represent a metaphysical connection to the passing of her predecessor, her past in Chinese tradition, and the dashed hopes of the Gold Rush.  While the end is not precisely a solace of any kind, it does bring forth a brief flicker of peace- of knowing that life goes on and the older generations will be remembered.

If you wish to also use a particular image or metaphor- mark out the ways in which it is multifaceted as a representation of your own circumstances. Much like how the words "Golden Mountain," "Goatmouth Moth" and “Alter” for Chin represents so many other things- so too, I’m sure, you can find images of like value in your life. Think on it for a long while- if you already have things picked out, try to establish, maybe is a short reflection-style journal entry, what it is about these images that represents your grief/theme so well?  

The vehicle of these contrasting images also lends well to identifying quintessentially Chinese American struggles with intergenerational communication and the trauma of assimilating to a new culture. The dead moth becomes the main metaphor for grief. It’s specifically a goatmouth moth, in the poem, which is a massive, beautiful moth. The carcass lays where it died- untouched and unmoved. Suddenly, grief struck, a plain table with a dusty moth becomes an altar to her ancestors. The moth represents the ways in which we let grief linger. Chin refuses to clean or change anything about the altar- revealing her reluctance to forget the past. It’s a really Brillant way of representing loss- that uncanny feeling of unfinished, finished business, and a tenuous cultural connection growing evermore strained by the pressure Chin feels to assimilate to American culture even if it means further distance from who her ancestors were. 

Consider- how this poem enumerates ways the thread of grief weaves through our lives- who are you? And how does grief manifest in your life? does it linger like the moth? or are you moving on? is the grief like the rising Sun- present but you know that your loved ones are watching over you? How does it manifest in your personal history? What are the implications of grief in your life? You speak on including imagery and metaphor- these are excellent devices to rely on. Chin’s poem should help elucidate that. I hope.  

I sometimes will free-write every single word I can think of in relation to one single element of the poem. Say you wish to have the moth be your metaphor- write every single word you can think of that relates to the moth (put aside thought of all else, consider the physical). Then move to how you wish the metaphor to interact with the theme. Chin’s theme is grief, so her moths gather dust and rot in the corner. She uses moths specifically because they dry rot- and dust is only left.

My point is that if you are stuck still trying to find the words- free write about it. Don’t pressure yourself to find the perfect words- just find all the words. There’s always time to edit later- Chin for instance worked on this poem for a long time. Use your free write activity like a word bank and keep switching things around- until it feels right.

So try to think on ways in which you can use your images to layer in meanings- is there a difference between the connotative and denotive meanings? How can you tease apart the words you want to use- to match on to your thematic point? 

Feel free to ask more questions. I will take any excuse at all to talk about poetry. If none of this advice works out for you, then I hope you at least enjoyed the infodump. I cannot control myself, sometimes. Again, my condolences for your loss. In times of grief, I find writing to be a great comfort. Hopefully, it is the same for you.  

Also, I fear I have already written too many words and I did not even get to give advice on free verse or the editing process. So, if you want me to speak about that too, feel free to write back. I just don’t want to overwhelm you with a longer answer.  (It's already so much) (I'm So SoRYY, I Just LOVE poetry).

Lastly, I always recommend- when you don't know how to write something, or you are stuck- turn to reading. I don't know why- but it works like magic.

[tieflingtareon]

My love, are you the devil? (Oh, call me a devil)

Chapter 7 | Words: 5k

Summary: Astarion found himself often surprised by his heroic companion. He had one goal. To become the favoured companion of the group, to earn the Tieflings loyalty, to make Tar'eons strength his own. Yet Tar'eon isn't like the usual target of his manipulations. Despite his naivety, he does not seem gullible. There is something very wrong with their 'leader' to begin with. Astarion isn't sure if he wants to control it or eradicate the threat it posed. But can he really do either when Tar'eon himself seems so...unwaveringly kind?

That devil is getting into his head, while others get into Tar'eons. He doesn't appreciate not having the upperhand after years of being at the disadvantage. He will find a way to make him see.

He is the one he should be listening to. Astarion would make it so, no matter the means.

AO3 Link: https://archiveofourown.org/works/50668558/chapters/127995079

Astarion didn't often indulge in drinking. Not in a partying manner at least. He was more of a sip it alone in his room with a good book kind of guy. He drank at Cazador's parties, at taverns, but he didn't look to get drunk for the sake of being drunk.

Liquor didn't taste as good as blood anyway. Didn't make him as happy as Tar'eons neck did.

Oh, maybe it was going to his head a bit, but he was thinking very intently on that neck right now. He glanced around at the party, watching them all laugh and cheer and celebrate the victory they had no part in. Though, maybe it wasn't victory they were drinking to, but more so the freedom they now had to continue on their way without goblins on their tails.

None of them had a clue that one of their own had been slayed in their camp. How naive, to think them saviours...

Astarion wasn't a hero. Shadowheart quite literally worshipped the Lady of Loss. Karlach was hellbent on revenge, despite her cheery attitude. Wyll was in a contract with a literal devil. Lae'zel would have little to no qualms killing the tieflings where they stood if she was instructed to.

It was frankly embarrassing, toasting them as heroes. Even Tar'eon, as good of a soul as he was, hid a darkness that had gotten out and killed a defenceless girl while they slept.

None of them were heroes.

Ah. The shit booze were just ruining his mood at this point. He should put the bottle down. Tar'eon was approaching, Astarion noticed, and he watched, waiting for him to speak.

"Astarion." Tar'eon greeted, awash in the lights of lanterns. Astarion took another sip from his bottle and hummed, his eyes focused on the man.

"Hello, our sweet, daring hero." He greeted with a small smirk.

"Enjoying yourself? I'm afraid I'm not much for parties myself." Tar'eon admitted, obviously noticing Astarion's anti-social presence.

"Oh no, I love a good party, it's just..." Astarion waved a hand, gesturing to the tieflings around them. "You know, I never pictured myself as a hero." He admitted, a slip of the tongue, but he'd blame it on the wine later.

"Never thought I'd be the one they toast for saving so many lives. And now that I'm here..." He took another swig and scrunched up his face. "I hate it. This is awful."

Tar'eon quirked a brow and huffed a small sound of amusement, arms crossed over his chest.

"It's not that bad. Think of all the goblins you killed." Oh, he knew him so well. Drats. He couldn't even pout without the man having just the right thing to say.

"True. That was fun." He relinquished. "Still. I would have liked more for my trouble than a pat on the head and vinegar for wine." He looked at the label with disapproval. It wasn't anything like the fine wine in Baldurs Gate.

Tar'eon tilted his head and took the bottle from him, the vampires brows jumping up in response as he watched the man drink. His eyes travelled over the bob of his throat and hummed to himself. Tar'eon screwed up his face at the taste, obviously not much for alcohol himself as he passed the bottle back.

"See what I mean? Awful." Astarion leaned back in his stance and looked around idly before his gaze found Tar'eons face once more. "All I want it a little fun. Is that too much to ask?"

"And what's your idea of 'a little fun'?" Tar'eon looked almost suspicious, like Astarion was going to say murder. Which...yes, would be fun, to a degree, but he could think of a much nicer way to end the party. It was time to seal the deal, so to speak, with his favourite devil.

"By the Hells- Sex, my dear. A night of passion..." He alluded, looking at Tar'eon who still had his arms crossed, waiting for Astarion to continue.

Fine. In for a penny, in for a pound.

"Let's wait until things quieten down. Once the others are asleep...we'll find each other." He offered, sure Tar'eon would agree. The longer he stared at him though, the more anxious he got about his answer. Hells, was he actually going to reject him? After all his efforts?

He'd rather stake himself than face that embarrassment. He'd never been rejected before, not from memory. He was the rejector, not the rejectee.

Astarion stood straighter when Tar'eon stepped closer, his head dipped low. He could feel the tickle of soft strands against his cheek, the brush of his lips against his pointed ear, almost pulling away on instinct. His stomach curled with heat as Tar'eons hand found his hip, his fingers trailing along his waistband. Oh dear. Was he some kind of exhibitionist? He could be persuaded down the line, perhaps, but he was pretty sure he saw that Mol child just across the way, and he wasn't sure how he felt about tarnishing the innocence of that dreary child.

"Ah, you're...quite bold, aren't you?" He chuckled, hoping the nervousness he felt wasn't as obvious to the man as it was to himself.

Tar'eons hand fell away, and Astarion spotted a small frown out of the corner of his eye. Shit, he'd said the wrong thing.

"Meet me in the woods later. I have something to ask of you, without prying ears." Tar'eon pulled out of his space and Astarion almost went to follow him, missing his warmth.

"Ah, yes, I...I will see you there." Astarion offered a curt smile, hoping that was enough.

"Until then. I'll see you later."

"Indeed you will, my love." Astarion quipped the new pet name on, testing it on his tongue. He honestly couldn't tell if he'd been rejected or not, but he was leaning towards not. Hopefully. "Indeed you will."

Tar'eon smiled at him, expression soft but eyes a million miles away as he bowed his head to him and walked away to join the others once more.

Astarion sat on a cushion and drank. Awful or not, there were still hours until things would quiet down, and he didn't want another soul to speak to him while he mentally prepared himself for the fruition of his games.

He was starting to wonder though, if he was the one being played, and not the other way around.

****

Astarion rested his back against the tree, taking in slow, deep breaths as he waited, listening out for Tar'eons familiar footsteps.

Soon, he'd be on his back for the thousandth time, doing something he'd done so many times before, with people he couldn't even remember the faces of, and he was nervous. For Gods sake, nervous?

He'd made the offer, had even been...a little excited, earlier in the day at the very idea. He knew the end goal of this all. He wasn't stupid, he knew he had to do this, it was the only way he knew how to procure favour from another. He refused to be beneath the others in the camp. He'd been favoured by Cazador, and he would be favoured here too. At least here, there was no torture to dread.

Yet still, his stomach felt uneasy. Tar'eon might not even want him. His response had been so vague, it was impossible to tell if he wanted to talk feelings or fuck. Astarion could fake both, but he'd rather just avoid feelings if given the option between the two.

He would not tie himself down to whatever mess Tar'eon had going. If he wanted to be a hero, he could be a hero, but once this parasite was under control, Astarion was gone. He'd be free of Cazador, free of everyone and everything, and he could-

He could...do something. He wasn't sure what yet, but whatever he did with his freedom would be his. His life would be his again.

He wasn't going back. He wasn't losing himself to this tadpole either. He would either be free, or dead. He refused to go back to Cazador, or to become a mindflayer...He'd rather die.

Even if it meant living in the shadows again, he'd rather be free and alone, then controlled by anyone or anything again.

His head snapped up when he heard grass under boots, schooling his features to hide any anxiety he might feel. He asked for this. He had wanted it. He just hoped it was bearable. He didn't need it to be enjoyable. Just...bearable.

He took one last breath in and stepped out, allowing all tension to loosen with his exhale, smiling at Tar'eon.

"There you are. I've been waiting." He came closer to the man. He wore a night shirt that didn't appear to his, and Astarion wondered who he had nicked it off, or if he had purchased it from that tiefling who offered to help Karlach with her heart. Either way, he was overdressed, and Astarion felt rather underdressed.

"Waiting since the moment I set eyes on you." How this garbage worked on people, Astarion had no clue. But it worked well on thousands, and it would work on him as well. He raised his eyes up to grace upon Tar'eons lips, unable to meet his eyes. His eyes too intense for this moment. "Waiting to have you."

He couldn't tell if the rapidly pumping heart was his own or Tar'eons. His heart shouldn't be able to do that, so it couldn't be his.

Yet it still jumped when Tar'eons fingers caressed his cheek, tilting his chin up to look at him properly. Tar'eon wasn't even focused on his eyes though. No, his gaze was roaming over his face, his thumb swiping delicately over the lines on Astarion's face that he hadn't been aware of until he mentioned it.

"...Well?" Astarion couldn't stand the silence.

"Sorry...You look like an angel in this lighting." Moonlight graced over white hair, across his brow, and when he tipped his head back just to tiniest bit, he could see the brightness of those red irises illuminated by the glow, could almost imagine those eyes were a pale blue in the past. Or perhaps a darker shade, like the ocean.

Purple. Yes. That was it. The elf would have had purple eyes, he was sure. With those white curls...he had to have been some kind of noble once upon a time. A High Elf. Maybe he wasn't of high nobility, but he was sure he would have acted like it, even back then.

Astarion grasped his wrist, those red eyes suddenly guarded.

"I don't think angels would appreciate being compared to a walking corpse." Tar'eon smiled softly and closed his eyes, shaking his head as he let go of the other.

"Perhaps not. Good thing I'm a devil then. Angels don't like me either." Tiefling blood was tainted with devils blood, so it only made sense why some people made such assumptions. Personally, he felt like he was a devil sometimes. It might have explained his urges after all.

Astarion huffed but allowed himself a step closer, almost chest to chest with the man as he tilted his head up to look at him.

"Be honest with me..." More honest than I'll ever be with you, "Do I have you, darling? For the night?"

Tar'eon looked down at him, and Astarion was getting sick of this push and pull, the anxiety of waiting for him to speak. Why couldn't he just say what he was thinking? Blurt it out like they all did? Why did he have to make Astarion wait, standing on the pins and needles of anticipation, making seconds feel like hours?

He'd felt this way before, but in a completely different sense, waiting for Cazador to decide his punishments. He'd been waiting for the blows, the agony, the cruel words.

Now he waited, tormented over answers, waiting to be touched, to be kissed - he was waiting to be desired. He hated waiting. He always had, inherently impatient from the very first memory he could recall.

"You're making this all very...difficult, the way you always hold your tongue in conversation. Just say what you want, Tar'eon. It might save us both some time." He huffed softly, trying to reign in his annoyance.

Tar'eon just smiled, his eyes sad as he smoothed a thumb over his jaw. Astarion clenched it tight, flexing the muscle. He was growing steadily more pissed by the second. He opened his mouth to snap that he was leaving if he didn't make up his mind, but Tar'eons next words caught him off guard.

"You don't have your dagger tonight." Astarion's mind went blank, completely blindsided by the mans words. That was it? That's all he had to say to him offering himself up on a platter?

"No. I don't. I almost wish I had though, because I'd stab you for stiffing me thrice in the span of a couple hours."

Tar'eon chuckled.

"I'm glad you didn't. Not tonight. But...from now on, I want you to always have it on you. In reach."

Astarion scoffed.

"Oh yes, I'll just sleep with it under my pillow like babe." He rolled his eyes. "Are you here to fuck me or not?"

"Astarion, I'm trying to be serious right now."

"And you think I'm not?"

"Just - please. Promise me you will always have it on you. And that you will not hesitate if you have to use it. Against anyone."

"You-" Astarion paused. It finally clicked. "Oh my Gods. This is about that bard girl you killed."

"Astarion-"

"Oh don't. You're not so important to me that I'd risk my own neck. If you tried to kill me, and succeeded? You'd have gotten lucky, if anything. At this rate, it'll be the only kind of lucky you ever get. This really isn't setting the mood I had intended." He gestured to his body with a huff. This was all just...unbelievable.

He crossed his arms and looked away, fuming in his own embarrassment. He was getting stiffed by this mans own guilt. Couldn't he keep that locked in a little box until they were done? He was ruining his perfect plan. Any anxiety he had had vanished in his frustrations.

"Astarion..." Tar'eons hands were hot against his frigid skin, and he barely suppressed a shiver. Hells, that did feel nice. Maybe he should just skin the man and use him like a blanket.

"What?" Fingers trailed over the ridges of his back, the scar that not even vampirism could heal. Cazador's poem. Always the poet he was. Every chance he got, he liked to compose a new sonnet on his skin. Those had been some of the worst nights, trying not to scream while his flesh was sliced into, every line a new burst of agony. He had to bite his tongue, for screaming just prolonged the pain. Mistakes had to be erased before he could continue, and Cazador always continued until the very end of his poem.

Astarion flinched away, turning back to face Tar'eon with a scowl.

"What're you doing?" Astarion was ready to hiss at the man, to make good on his promise to gut him like the first day they met, but Tar'eon stricken expression caught him by surprise. Tar'eon looked horrified.

Of course he did...Astarion was damaged goods at best. Scars ruined the pretty picture he has.

"You...where did you get that scar?"

"My old master. Cazador." Astarion bit out the name, unable to look him in the eye. "It was a gift. A poem. He considers himself quite the artist, and uses his slaves as a canvas." He gave Tar'eon a sardonic smile and turned around so he could see it in all its glory. No use hiding it. If Tar'eon wanted to pity him, he could pity all he liked. Astarion would not let himself clam up like a frightened little mouse, not in front of him. Not in front of anyone. Not anymore.

"He composed and carved that one over the course of a night...He made a lot of revisions as he went." He swallowed hard, refusing to let his emotions get the better of him. It was in the past now. Cazador couldn't reach him here.

He turned back to Tar'eon, who still looking mortified.

"Well? Does it put you off? That I've been marked by another man? I've been with many...many people, darling. Do not think me pure in the slightest. In fact, I think I'd be insulted if you did." He smirked.

"You're never seen it, have you?" Tar'eon asked, taking his shoulder gently and guiding him around, his hands smoothing over the scar, tracing certain lines, like he was trying map something out. Astarion arched away from his touch.

"No. I can't just check in a mirror, now can I? Besides, whatever it is, it doesn't change everything he did to me. There's no point in dwelling on meaningless scrawl."

"It's not a poem, Astarion." Tar'eon knew that for a fact. "It...I think it's a contract."

"What?" Astarion turned to looked at him with alarm, quick to minimise his shock. "I...Of course it is." He spat, flexing his jaw and grinding his teeth. "Just one more thing to keep me tied to him, I'm sure. But it doesn't matter now. I'm far from his reach, with this...squirming little tadpole in my head."

He huffed. A contract of all things...The others had scars on their backs too. Perhaps it was simply to bind them more eternally to him. Paranoid bastard.

"Can you...can you read it but any chance?" Tar'eon gave him an apologetic look.

"I'm afraid my Infernal reading skills aren't as good as others. Maybe it's cause of the memory loss, or I didn't grow up reading and writing it. If it were spoken, maybe I could, but the alphabet is...very hard to memorise or read if you don't grow up learning it." Tar'eon sighed. "I just recognised a few characters was all. And usually, Infernal on the skin is...the work of an actual devil."

"Oh, Cazador was a devil, alright. But he did not know Infernal. Not from my knowledge." Astarion couldn't stand to think on it any longer. "That's enough of this talk, I..." He shook his head. How had a night of passion turned into this?

"I just wanted a night of passion. And you had to go and ruin it with all this talk." If anything, he'd prefer to fuck hard and dirty right now, to forget Cazador. It felt a bad taste in his mouth when he spoke of him.

Tar'eon gave a half smile, looking guilty at the very least for ruining Astarion's plans for seduction.

"We don't have to talk anymore, if you don't want to." Tar'eon cupped his cheek, gently curling his claws fingers under his chin. Astarion looked up at him, attempting to give him the cold shoulder with his eyes, but Tar'eon just smiled. Like he could tell Astarion didn't mean it.

"What do you want, Astarion?"

"What do any of us want?" He challenged. "Pleasure. Yours. Mine. Our...collective ecstasy." This, Astarion knew. He knew the ways to weave his way through these interactions. To make people want him. Perhaps the night wouldn't be a failure just yet. Perhaps tonight, he could have his own 'sweet dreams'.

"That's what you want, isn't it? To lose yourself in me?" He wanted to lose himself in this. To forget. To get away from everything. Even if it meant not truly being a part of this 'night of passion'.

Tar'eon leaned down after a moment of taking in his expression, his forehead connecting gently with Astarions. His hand slipped away from his face, slipping down his throat and onto the gentle swell of his chest, claws tickling over his collarbone.

"I upset you tonight. Ignored your wishes, ruined your plans...You've done so much for me these past few days, Astarion. So much more than you could ever imagine."

Astarion swallowed, and it felt unspeakably loud in the quiet of the woods.

"Speak plainly. You're always avoiding what you really want to say."

"I'm afraid what I really want to say, wouldn't be kind to you. And you deserve that much. I want to be kind to you, if I'm going to have you tonight. You need to be okay with that."

"If you're asking for boring, vanilla sex, I'm all aboard. If it's what you want, it's what you shall get, darling." Astarion chuckled, reaching down to unlace his breeches, a playful smile on his lips. "Come now...enough talking. Wouldn't you much rather kiss and make up instead?" It was a touch mocking, but it seemed to finally make Tar'eon take initiative.

His lips were just as hot as his hands, and Astarion hummed, closing his eyes to soak up the heat. That was one perk to bedding a tiefling, he supposed. He ran hot, like a furnace, but not unbearably so like Karlach, who could quite literally burn his skin off like he was a roasting pig.

A large hand spanned across his lower back and he didn't bother holding back the small moan that slipped past his lips, pressing further into the bulk of muscle and heat. There was no use hiding his appreciation for the mans size. He quite liked that he could envelop him in all that warmth on a cool night like this.

He reached up to cup the tieflings jaw, tilting his head so they could kiss deeper, letting the desire build as his tongue snaked past his lips. His fingers graced over his pointed ear and Tar'eon gave a shiver, a soft sound escaping his lips and being devoured by Astarion who grinned. He caressed his ear, tracing along the jewellery decorating them, and Tar'eon looked at him in surprise, his eyes fluttering before he had to close them, seemingly taking a moment to compose himself.

"Seems you found one of my weak spots." He mused in a rough voice. Astarion felt a tingle run up his spine. Oh. He liked that. He sounded half ruined already.

"I'm good at that. Would you like me to find the others?" He purred, smoothing his hands down his body, slipping beneath his shirt. He could feel the stutter in his breath like this, feel the waves of heat roiling into his palms, warming his fingers that he hadn't realised were so frigid before. Tar'eon must of noticed it though, because he was shivering at every touch, but didn't tell him to stop.

He gasped softly as fingertips grazed a nipple, grabbing Astarion's wrists. The vampires brows raised, waiting to hear him out.

"I want to find yours first." His eyes stared intensely at Astarion, the shadows making him appear more beastly than he was. It was almost nice, knowing the one who looked like a beast only wanted to touch him gently.

"By all means..." Astarion presented himself on a platter, leaning back against the nearest tree and beckoning the man with his eyes. "Go ahead."

Tar'eon looked uncertain for a moment, hesitating where he stood, eyes flickering over the vampires body before he stepped forward with purpose, hands finding their place on his hips as he took his lips once more in an eager kiss. He had all the elegance of a virgin, but it was almost endearing, if Astarion was honest. He really didn't remember even those things...

He would gladly reintroduce him to those pleasures tonight.

He cupped his face and urged him to slow, to truly feel every slide of lips, every flick of a tongue, pulling low sounds from the tieflings lips. He gave a small moan of his own when he felt a thick thigh shift between his own, a pleasant pressure that reminded him of his own body's need. He nipped the tieflings lip and delighted in the hiss, licking up the sliver of blood that spilt from the split.

"Don't keep me waiting, darling," Astarion purred into his ear, gripping one horn as he rocked his hips, grinding his cock into muscle. "I'm a rather impatient lover."

He glanced down between their bodies and his breath stuttered at the bulge in the mans trousers. Not as large as a tail, thankfully, but...definitely sizeable. Foot size still very much applied, and not just to humans.

"Learn patience then." Tar'eon murmured, seemingly more distracted by the length of Astarion's neck than their cocks, his canines grazing over the pale flesh before Astarion gave a breathless laugh, rolling his hips.

"Only one of us is allowed to bite, dear. Do keep your teeth to yourself, lover." He flinched instinctively when Tar'eon pinned his hips to the tree, not having enough time for a rebuttal for the rude interruption to his pleasure before the tiefling was on his knees.

Oh. Now that was a change of pace. When was the last time he got his cock sucked? Ten- no, fifteen years ago, perhaps? Now that woman, she had been quite the generous lover, that was for sure. Did she tie him up and threaten to castrate him in the heat of the moment? Sure, but she did suck his dick, so really, he could look past that part.

Astarion went to help, happy to undo his own breeches, but Tar'eon waved his hand away, unlacing them with nibble fingers instead. The fingers of a musician had perks, it seemed. Astarion allowed himself to be undressed, watching the tiefling with half mast eyes, quite liking the picture before him. He inhaled sharply as Tar'eon took his cock in hand, almost engulfing it, which was a little embarrassing. He was a very adequate size, thank you, the tiefling was simply giant all over.

Said giant tiefling was simply holding him now, staring at his cock. He waited a couple more moments before he cleared his throat.

"Something tells me you haven't done this before..." He began, delicate about the matter. "Should I be worried for my manhood? Considering all those teeth." He chuckled.

Tar'eon looked up at him, and Astarion felt a strong stir in his loins, making his cock twitch. Those eyes were becoming a lot less terrifying with time, and much more attractive to be pinned down by.

"Don't worry. I apparently prefer hands." He drawled and Astarion bit back a laugh. Really? Gallows humour right now? Awful. Delightful too.

"Just get to it before I get bored and go right to main course." Astarion grinned, fangs on display. Tar'eons eyes only grew more intense as he stroked him, parting his lips and sticking his tongue out, mindful of his canines as he brought the vampire into his mouth.

Astarion had to take a moment to compose himself when that hot mouth enveloped his cock, an appreciative sound slipping out, the tiefling seemingly taking his jest as a challenge. He leaned back into the tree with a moan, tilting his hips forward to get as much of himself as he could into the willing mouth, always greedy for life's pleasures.

"Fuck," His eyes slipped shut at the first suck, biting his lip to keep himself under control as Tar'eon swallowed him down with seemingly no effort, clawed nails pressing into the flesh of his hips. Tar'eon worked his tongue over the length, watching Astarion as he bobbed his head, the fingers wrapped around his horn a gentle presence.

Then, they gripped tighter, and he groaned, letting it vibrate through them both as Astarion moaned in tandem. His voice was - beautiful. All of him was. Even the prickly parts, the hungry parts, the coldest parts of his heart...

It was all so beautiful to him.

He wanted to protect him. To make him feel good. To ease all that hurt, that anger...He had every right to be hurt, to be angry, but Tar'eon didn't want him to spend his life like that. Not when he had so much time ahead of him to truly live now.

Astarion's breathing was getting heavier now, slowly turning into a pant as Tar'eon sucked and stroked, kissing the very tip sweetly whenever Astarion felt he was getting close. It was becoming maddening, trying to figure out if it had been minutes or hours, his cock throbbing with every squeeze, every lick. He was starting to wonder if Tar'eon was torturing him on purpose.

"Fucking- Hells, are you going to let me cum soon or are you saving it for a special occasion?" His chest was rising and falling with heavy, shaky breaths, his self control on the brink of spiralling into nothingness.

"Let you?" Tar'eon quirked a brow. "If you want to cum, then cum."

Heat burned across his face, not realising he'd been the only one holding himself back until now. Though, hearing Tar'eon telling him to cum in that low voice of his...really helped the process.

Tar'eon pumped his cock, kissing the base near lovingly as he egged on Astarion's orgasm, his own cock throbbing in his pants. His tail gave a side to side flick at Astarions groan, the vampires head tipped back in ecstasy as he finally came. Tar'eons lip split into a wide smile, noting the grip the vampire had on the tree, on his horn, like he couldn't stand up straight without the support.

He got up off his knees, ignoring the quiet pop in them as he slotted himself into Astarions space, using his own body to keep him upright.

"Are you still up for the 'main course'?" He mused, and chuckled when Astarion gave a scoff, shuffling his legs apart and slipping his arms around his neck.

"Don't act like you're not just as hungry as I am. I can feel how much you want me, darling." With a small hop, Tar'eon had an armful of Astarion, and found himself grinning. He felt...lighter, for the first time in weeks. All those urges...its like they were shooed away by Astarions presence. He didn't know how long it would last but...

He wanted to keep him close regardless.

"Are you intending to eat me, Astar?"

"All up." The vampire gave a devious smile, eyes full of mischief, and Tar'eon chuckled, moving them both to the grass, happily laying back as the man took to his throat happily. The initiate bite hurt something fierce every time, but then it trickled away into pleasure, feeling his cold lips against his lip, his tongue laving at the wound. It felt like being kissed on the neck with a sharp sting always following.

But it was easier to drown out as his hands roamed Astarions body, divulging them both of their clothes so they could finally lay together, every inch of their bodies melding together. Tar'eon would be satisfied to just hold him like this, both bare, his lips on his neck.

"Don't stop now...Touch me some more." Astarion whispered in his ear, enticing him as his fangs grazing over the sensitive skin. Every spot on his body felt like a sensitive spot, wherever he touched burned in ways Tar'eon had never known.

"Whatever you want, you'll have." Tar'eon promised, not sure if he was just talking about sex anymore.

He was pretty sure he was losing himself to more than just dark urges.

He was losing himself to Astarion too.

[borathae]

Chapter 4

ooh looks like he is a gentleman

You can see it in the way he looks at his knees ever so often. dont tell me he slept

HE DID AHAHAH PLS this is peak comedy for me, idk i had this image of "ooh mysterious ancient being, must find sleep, and other stuff as something for the weak", basically a grandpa on him. (i see yoongi like that from reading the drabbles, but now that im reading it, tae felt like that in 1st chapter lol)

Of course not, I was merely resting my eyes” ofc i believe you, u were having a meditating/communicating with your ancestors moment

As if he doesn’t even notice his hand touching you the way it does. STOP I LITERALLY DIE EVERYTIME THIS HAPPENS WHEN IM READING LIKE AAAAAH *bites, slaps, giggles, fans myself, pretends to be dead soo much ah

Your chest heaves up and down in a heavy breath, your legs parting slightly. sis is gone already. mood

Come go with me. I SAID I HAVE NO TIME HEE HEE

Taehyung placed his hand on your thigh instead. OH NO HE IS GETTING DANGEROUS

Your nails dig into the edge of the seat, her: (literally made it, if only i had this devotion in my studies 😭)

Taehyung’s delight as another smirk washes over his face. He stops moving, the only sensation he allows you to feel is his big, warm hand against your inner thigh SDTOP I CANT HANDLE HIS ASS I CAN ALREADY IMAGINE THE FAKE GUM CHEWING AAAH

Tapping on your inner thigh rhythmical AAAAH WE MUST STAY FOCUSED BROTHER

Stay, fellow, I can read. I DOUBT I CAN IM LOSING MY SANITU

“Are you alright?” he rasps DO U THINK IM OK?????

My master’s. THAT FAST?? really said wanna see some speed?

You whine at the loss of touch, pulling at his necktie. PULLING NECKTIE WWWOOOO IM SQUIRTING

The door, which normally always squeaks, opens silently when Taehyung opens it mythical being or has strict parents pt 3 (pt 2 during the date)

I want to devour you.” yn my love, what if he actually does 😭(missed the vore tag on ao3 once and i have ptsd from that)

You’ll probably call me crazy but I named all of my houseplants after famous painters TAE MOVE UR ASS, SHE'S MINE WE ARE MARRIED BYE

Just mere seconds ago it felt like he wanted to devour you whole and now here he is, as patient as ever.  i take that back, we can be a throuple

I didn’t even hear you come outside mythical being or has strict parents pt 4

It’s one of those weirdly dishonest smiles again. maybe he is in lactose intolerant and is worried destroying ur toilet with the volcanic diarrhea

It makes you look so perfectly alive." THATS EXACTLY WHAT A VAMPIRE WOULD SAY. i would have said that tho lol

I guess you are right. What a silly thing for me to say."  OFC ITS VERY SILLY CUZ U IS MR.DRACULA

“Actually this is just a myth some misogynistic doctors made up in the sixteenth century to shame women for having sex”, SLAY now marry me

“so enjoy it ___ for as long and as passionate as you can.” THATS WHAT A GRANDPA WOULD SAY or A VAMPIRE

I am glad that you aren’t pretending with me hold ur horses he didnt say he is 95% honest, also the 5% could be more shocking than the 95%

swirling the tea in his cup with a flick of his wrist. LOOK AT DA FLICKA DA WRIST

My dream is to own a really big greenhouse. THE GARDEN IN THE DRABBLE

“you’re not having a heart attack, are you?” damn grandpa is dying (im sorry i had to)

OH SHIT WHATS GOING ON?? did she put some anti-mythical being stuff in the tea?

0-100 real quick

she is so cute im feeling it soo well, you wrote those parts well. it made me feel like im intruding them

Throw it on the floor *starts throwing it back Tae: i meant the tie me: oh sorry, silly me

that wasnt me, that was the demons bye

He has a really nice spine, my bestie to me - your spine is ... um how do i put it to words, spines very well. i will definitely count them for anatomy 💀💀LIKE STOP AT LEAST ITS BETTER COMPARED TO 4TH GRADE

thankfully Taehyung can’t read minds because this was one silly thought. you sure about that? u sure about that??👀👀

OH MY GOD HE IS IRRESISTIBLE LIKE STOP JUST AAAAH

Dearmotherofchrist what the hell? Okay, goodbye cruel world this is how you will die. PLS 😭😭

This is madness. Heaven. ME AT YOU POOKIE

besides, we have many more occasions to practice your stamina SUCH A TEASE AAH

im sick and feeling cold. guess who isnt cold anymore cuz they are reading a smexy, gobsmacking as usual smut by THE MOMMY, SIBI?? ME YALL. a hoe(mentally) doesnt get cold, until they get runny nose.

don’t rip it because this cost like forty bucks” WE LOVE REALISTIC SMUT HERE

He scissors them, fucking in and out of you slowly. His teeth craze over your nipple before he bites down. poeple died sir I DIED

During class, on the bus, whilst talking to people. same here girly pop, relatable after reading smut

watching you be like this drives me crazy I AM CRAZY

me: i hope i dont fall him: he praises me: ana oop

It is a stupid name, but it has never been more accurate than tonight. no it aint stupid when true af

"Hold me"..“That’s it, draw me in deeper. Keep me there” bye i will be jumping off the cliff(my bed's name)

seven matches this soo well, cuz its sexy but very romantic

that was too hot until u think (wait this is bts songs in a nutshell)

 oh boi tae is just trying feel humanity, life, and the whole "live in the moment", "yolo" by asking to hold closer and feel what she is feeling

horny - sad real quick. (bts albums and playlists be like)

Sex is merely a wonderful byproduct from being with you. You have truly bewitched me, body and soul” this is too good holy fuck

reminds me of blood sweat and tears lines and the whole mood is hold me tight

they are soo cute, being all warm and cozy with each other.

shitting tears as we speak bye,

the emotions were emotioning, smut smuting (do i even have to say about this anymore lol) i love how your smut isnt just focused on sexy parts, emotionally, yes very much connected and love it and also shows other parts, like its soo easy to have the entire view from pillow to toes, with lil frames with focused parts.

now that we still havent seen 2seokkook, its making more nervous like

EXCUSE ME??GOOGLE JUST VIOLATED ME 💀

HE DID AHAHAH PLS this is peak comedy for me, idk i had this image of "ooh mysterious ancient being, must find sleep, and other stuff as something for the weak", basically a grandpa on him. (i see yoongi like that from reading the drabbles, but now that im reading it, tae felt like that in 1st chapter lol)

this is actually so funny HAHHAHAH he is always acting like such a well-put mysterious man and then he is sleeping in class BHAHAHAHAH

As if he doesn’t even notice his hand touching you the way it does. STOP I LITERALLY DIE EVERYTIME THIS HAPPENS WHEN IM READING LIKE AAAAAH *bites, slaps, giggles, fans myself, pretends to be dead soo much ah

this is so valid HE IS SO HOT LIKE SIR PLEASE FADNFDSN

Taehyung’s delight as another smirk washes over his face. He stops moving, the only sensation he allows you to feel is his big, warm hand against your inner thigh SDTOP I CANT HANDLE HIS ASS I CAN ALREADY IMAGINE THE FAKE GUM CHEWING AAAH

the gum chewing pisses me off with any other person BUT ITS SO HOT WHEN HE DOES IT LIKE PLEASE KEEP DOING IT SIR IMMA SUCK YOUR COCK

You whine at the loss of touch, pulling at his necktie. PULLING NECKTIE WWWOOOO IM SQUIRTING

jajdfj valid.

I want to devour you.” yn my love, what if he actually does 😭(missed the vore tag on ao3 once and i have ptsd from that)

NO BUT WHAT IF??? oh god hahhaha I feel you I once missed the impregnation tag and actually triggered myself when he started speaking about putting babies in her like BACK OFF ILL BITE YOUR BALLS OFF

It’s one of those weirdly dishonest smiles again. maybe he is in lactose intolerant and is worried destroying ur toilet with the volcanic diarrhea

PLEASE hhahahhaha this would be so iconic of him tbfh

“Actually this is just a myth some misogynistic doctors made up in the sixteenth century to shame women for having sex”, SLAY now marry me

he is SO HOT I need him to fuc-

My dream is to own a really big greenhouse. THE GARDEN IN THE DRABBLE

👀👀👀👀

OH SHIT WHATS GOING ON?? did she put some anti-mythical being stuff in the tea?

THAT IS A VERY GOOD QUESTION INDEED

He has a really nice spine, my bestie to me - your spine is ... um how do i put it to words, spines very well. i will definitely count them for anatomy 💀💀LIKE STOP AT LEAST ITS BETTER COMPARED TO 4TH GRADE

LISTEN. don't judge me but I genuinely think that spines (inside the body where they're supposed to be) can be so sexy like if someone has a nice spine I just wanna trace and lick and kiss and touch it like-

thankfully Taehyung can’t read minds because this was one silly thought. you sure about that? u sure about that??👀👀

THE RIGHT QUESTION INDEED

im sick and feeling cold. guess who isnt cold anymore cuz they are reading a smexy, gobsmacking as usual smut by THE MOMMY, SIBI?? ME YALL. a hoe(mentally) doesnt get cold, until they get runny nose.

I gain ten years of life each time one of you calls me Mommy HAHHAHA like yes I am indeed mother HFAHDSF

don’t rip it because this cost like forty bucks” WE LOVE REALISTIC SMUT HERE

BAHHAHAHAH I LOVE REALISM

me: i hope i dont fall him: he praises me: ana oop

BITCH (affectionate) SAME HOLY FUCK praise works so well with me like it got me thinking about the person for the next five weeks for real

 oh boi tae is just trying feel humanity, life, and the whole "live in the moment", "yolo" by asking to hold closer and feel what she is feeling

*sobs*

reminds me of blood sweat and tears lines and the whole mood is hold me tight

OMFG I LOVE THIS THANK YOU

shitting tears as we speak bye,

hahahhaa shitting tears jfadsjf

the emotions were emotioning, smut smuting (do i even have to say about this anymore lol) i love how your smut isnt just focused on sexy parts, emotionally, yes very much connected and love it and also shows other parts, like its soo easy to have the entire view from pillow to toes, with lil frames with focused parts.

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SAYING THIS!!! that's exactly what I want most of my smut to be for 😭😭😭

[transmascore]

i feel like im going insane. i have literally, literally, identified as everything in the lgbtq+ acronym. literally every single thing. ive "come out" as every sexuality, claimed i was every gender, and yet i still feel like im wrong. im so tired of not knowing who i am. i feel like a fraud and a fake, like an idiot for not knowing who i was when i was like 3 and just stucking with it forever. i wish i was just normal. do you have any advice for figuring it out?

I understand the frustration. It can be scary to not know who you are, and to want to have a definite answer - to have closure. Identity is a complex thing. 

My own understanding of myself has changed over time. From identifying as a woman, to nonbinary, to a man. From woman-leaning pansexual to gay. From feminine to masculine to feminine again. From using one set of pronouns to another, and then another. I've absolutely felt that imposter syndrome and that need to pin myself down as something specific. To know myself fully and feel stable in my identity. 

I don't want to claim that identity is fluid for everyone - there are people out there that find themselves day one and little changes for them. But I will say that, in general, part of life is that people are always changing. One's understanding of oneself evolves over time. We're not the same person at 30 as we were at 20, as we were at 15. I resent the notion of "a phase" as it's often used dismissively, and that's used to invalidate a person's identity and experiences. I don't really believe in "phases" so much as "this point in time is part of my journey."

When I said I was nonbinary at 17, that wasn't a lie. It wasn't a phase; it wasn't me faking anything. It was who I was at that time, my authentic self. Just as 10 years later, me living as a man is my authentic self. And in neither scenario am I taking up unnecessary space.  I understood myself as being attracted to women for most of my life, and that was my understanding of myself then. Now I'm a Kinsey 7.

My biggest piece of advice is to go with the ebb and flow, and not to beat yourself up about it. A big part of the queer journey, for most people I'd say, is to keep exploring until you find what sticks. What feels right to you in the here and now? What makes you feel happy and at peace with yourself? If you find yourself at a loss for an answer, that's okay. You don't need to have one. You can exist as you are without labeling it (unlabeled), or by using an umbrella term to signify that you're LGBT without getting into specifics (such as queer or genderqueer). 

There's also terminology out there, neologisms, that describe people whose understanding of their own sexuality and gender are in flux - like abrosexual and genderfluid. Because you're far from alone. Many people cycle through the acronym and aren't quite sure where they belong. Even if those specific words don't necessarily click with you, I recommend looking into their communities and speaking to the people in them. You may find answers and make friends with people in a similar situation.

Ultimately: You cannot be a fraud when it comes to your own gender and sexuality. If you come out as a lesbian one day and a gay man the next and a bisexual that afternoon - there's nothing wrong with that. You are you, whatever your understanding of the situation is at the time. 

Good luck on your journey, and take it one step at a time. Go easy on yourself. And if you can, do something nice for yourself today. Treat yourself! Figuring out who you are is hard work. ❤️

[caffeinated-beveraged]

Since I’m posting here again, I thought might as well post my old art. And by post, I mean roast because this whole thing is rawer than a freshly butchered chicken 💀 Roast under cut

Context: this comic was for a culminating art project. The theme for the culminating was mythology. I spent a majority of time given floundering around between options before settling on the myth of Orpheus and Eurydice. No reason for choosing them in particular, they were just the first myth I thought of when thinking of classic Greek myths. Also I just reworded the myth from some random site, so I have no idea if my comic has inaccuracies.

The only real hurdle I had to face for this project was drawing humans. I had little experience with humans prior to this project. All the other projects we did for that art class were mainly still lifes and drawing buildings with respect to perspective. For projects that were more open in terms of the subject matter, I tried my hardest to avoid drawing a person. So with this project I was starting from square 1. Now, a person with a modicum of common sense would logically start this project a week before the deadline so they don’t submit the equivalent of a stick figure. Unfortunately I am not one with common sense. Instead I decided to start the project the Sunday evening before the due date 💀 Completely avoidable pain and torture that could had been averted had it not been my inability to keep a consistent schedule.

Anyways, let’s analyze the panels themselves. Here we have panel 1. Right off the bat, literally none of the words in the caption match what’s being depicted. What do you mean conscious objects??? There is literally nothing there!!! Just an ugly ass rainbow (with no colours I might add) in the background with Orpheus playing a few notes. This guy has nothing: no colour, no mystical beings, no conscious objects, no neck. This is just the consequence of running out of time. The only real improvement I’d make here is add more to the background. Not just with characters but also colour. Now not everything has to be in colour to look good. I think a majority of the panels are fine without colour as it is consistently used for the most part. But I did add some colour to the emotionally intensive scenes so it just makes this panel (which should be showing Orpheus’ extraordinary talent) look odd and out of place.

Oh boy panel 2. We get introduced to Eurydice and my god does she look awful. That hair just looks weird, it looks like I just scratched a few lines and called it a day. Also that typo is killing me…

Skipping the 3rd panel as I don’t have much to say. Anyways panel 4, Aristaeus being murder happy. Fun fact: I actually used a reference for Aristaeus so it doesn’t look too shabby. I honestly forget to use references for poses, not because I think I’m better than them, I often have a specific pose in mind and have a tough time finding a pose online that matches what I have in mind. For this one, I used a reference of myself which turned out nicely.

Eurydice cringefail moment. Imagine dying to a snakebite couldn’t be me. I like the aforementioned use of colour, just wish it was more saturated. I also like the blood stains. That’s all I have to say for these panels. … ok fine let’s address the elephant in the room. Eurydice has four toes. For some reason during this time period I could only draw rubberhouse style hands with 4 fingers. Which looks fine on a cartoony style but looks strange on the semi-realistic style I was going for. I guess that translated in the toes as well. Phalange are phalange I guess.

I’m just gathering all 3 of these panels and putting my thoughts on them together since this post is getting quite long. The 1st panel looks kind of bland, hardly any emphasis on Orpheus’ loss. Just some rain and a flat rectangle which is supposed to be the gravestone I guess. 2nd panel honestly looks pretty great, with out of doubt my favourite panel. The scratchy cross-hatching with the pen looks great. I also like Orpheus’ lyre attached to back (have no idea how it’s attached) And finally the 3rd panel! Oh lord… It kind of speaks for itself. I think the weirdly defined knuckles just make the hands look short and sausage-y. Also Hades hand’s actually have five fingers on them 🎉🎉 The pinkie is shoved awkwardly to the side but it’s still there so I take it as a victory

Skipped the weird chibi looking panel for post length sake. Consistency has utterly left the room this time. I was literally finishing this comic in the last ten minutes of art class 💀 also we do not talk about what’s going on with Orpheus’ and Eurydice’s hands

95% of the budget (and my pen ink) went into drawing Orpheus’ curls. Would ancient Greeks even have this hair phenotype I have no clue I am losing my mind. Also where did Orpheus’ lyre go. Consistency is my arch nemesis apparently. Honestly these panels are not too bad. Orpheus is looking a bit cross eyes in that 1st panel but otherwise it looks fine

Overall this comic is fine, nothing to write home about though. For a first real go at drawing humans it’s great. But the real thing that brings this comic down is just the lack of consistency and overall messiness. You can see on some of the panels I forgot to erase the pencil underneath. Mainly this is due to my lack of forward planning. I mean I got a passing grade and got the credit for this course so it’s a win I guess. I’m really interested in revamping this comic for fun one day, just to see how I’ve improved. Definitely on digital though. Stay tuned in for that in the unforeseen future👀

[josiebelladonna]

time to be honest with all of you.

the last… i’d say week or so, i’ve been thinking of leaving here. not with my mom, but by myself. go to my dad’s house (he has told me that i always have a room with him).

my mom is just… not a nice person, and ever since she got sick earlier this year, she’s only gotten more unpleasant.

back on mother’s day, i made her a german chocolate cake, one of her favorites, and she told me, “oh, no, don’t do that”, like she didn’t want me to do something nice for her.

last night, i helped myself to one of my cookies, after i had offered her one after i had frosted them. she called me rude and i (albeit begrudgingly) gave her another one. i’m not allowed to treat myself? i just *have to* bring you along?

seriously, she has the worst habit of being passive-aggressive. what’s bizarre about it is she actually admits to it. i admit to being egotistical, hard to handle, overly competitive, childish, rebellious, and yes, rude, but all of those qualities can be put to good use (and i often do put them to good use). there’s nothing good about being passive-aggressive.

she literally does not lift a finger around here. just works from home, freaks out about money, and then lounges in front of the tv all day, she doesn’t even do any of her hobbies anymore. she doesn’t help me, she doesn’t even offer to help me. yeah, there’s only so much you can do after blood clots but like… come on. you complained about feeling used when my stepdad was having heart problems, you don’t think i’m starting to feel used? plus, if i say anything about this, she goes on this long tirade about how she pays all the bills and whatnot. hey, you may handle the purse strings but i keep this place from burning down or falling over. and you know… i would think that if you had blood clots and now have a little scar tissue on your heart and lungs in their wake, and you have bad knees, you should probably exercise. even if it’s just for like 10 minutes, it’s better than nothing.

fuck, i’ll never forget the doctors at the hospital, her pulmonologist, the cardiologist, her hematologist, and her g.p. all looking at her funny when she said she’s sedentary. or when they asked her why she didn’t come to the ER sooner, i.e., when she was coughing after a few days and had no other symptoms. i literally had to talk her into it (and no, she didn’t thank me, either. if anything, god… i’ll never forget the night she came home. i was watching tv and i could hear her yelling at me from the driveway, and then she was snapping at me all the way back into the bedroom. i saved your fucking life and this is the thanks i get for it? i can’t believe i’m still here). yes, i’m fully aware that the medical community is very fatphobic—if anything, in my opinion, it’s shocking how fatphobic it is. but my take, from my own experience of standing up to fatphobia and unpacking it, is this: they want you to lose weight and exercise so your condition is more manageable. you can be slender and still have diabetes or heart disease, but weight loss makes handling whatever is wrong with you more manageable. i have no idea why they leave that part out, and i wish i knew.

there’s the… thing on her face. thought it was a chickenpox scar for as long as i can remember, but this time last year, it started to bleed and crust over (and then it mysteriously went away when she was in the hospital). it came back this past summer, and she finally managed to find a dermatologist that can remove it. personally, i’m not worried: skin cancer is probably the most treatable out there (barring it’s not a melanoma), and (i’m going by the first dermatologist’s word here) this particular kind can very easily be removed. what gets me is her attitude: “i have a cancerous lesion on my face!!” she always picks around it, and it’s gotten to a point it’s hard to look at. i got hotspots on my feet from walking my mile yesterday, you don’t see me whining about it (just took my shoes off, took a shower, and put my feet up). she complains about my dad being overdramatic, well… what’s that sentiment about pointing fingers and you have three more pointing back at you?

all the times she ever told a “joke” or was being sarcastic and it went right over my head and then scoffed at me for not getting it or asking “so what’s the joke?” (meanwhile, i get laughs from hardly doing anything—i don’t think i’m very funny, either)

her anti-israel stance. i was talking to a friend on ig about this yesterday, too: it’s just a country. it has its problems, its bad actors, its dirty laundry, its shitty government at times, all of it. the only reason anyone is making a huge fuss about it almost a year later is because it’s a safe haven for jewish people (don’t believe me? a year into the war in ukraine and people stopped talking about. hell, talk about it started dying down six months in). really, if it was any other country, we wouldn’t be hearing about it anymore. thing is, with internalized antisemitism, just like with any other internalized hatred, you don’t realize it and you’re in denial until you do. throw in a passive-aggressive personality and it should make sense as to why she changed the channel immediately after an israeli athlete kicked ass in gymnastics at the olympics, or when i talk about antisemitism and like clockwork, she brings up the palestinians.

actual conversation we had yesterday: me: “seriously, you look great!” her: “hannah, i’m fat. my face is fat. plus, i’m missing teeth.”

animals actually avoid her now—i remember my dog would often bar her teeth at her (hence why she very quickly became my dog). my cat wants nothing to do with her, and she whines and moans whenever he’s out of food.

it’s a long story but someone we used to know has been trespassing on our property (often late at night, too, which is… terrifying) and getting some of their stuff out of our garage (i seriously hope they didn’t take my bike, either, or my old textbooks). she always says she’s going to file a police report but she never does. back up, i thought this was *your* house?

i plan on making her a devil’s food cake for her birthday, which is on tuesday. but… wow, now that i write all this out, i think it’s going to be more in dedication of alex’s birthday. devil’s food cake… sexy devil… from the li’l devil.

really. i can’t believe i’m still here. the only reason why is because i feel sick at the thought of a disabled person being alone, and on top of a hill, and they don’t have four-wheel drive. and especially if that disabled person is my mother.

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Yeah, this is Jeremiah again. I'm named after the "weeping prophet"; the original prophet of doom. Yeah, like him, I often speak words of warning that wear a more cryptic disguise. In the midst of hostility protected by obscurity, I still warn and lament in a condition currently defined as "depression" for which various balms of Gilead are now readily available. I take whatever I can get whenever I can get which doesn't change the face of the consequence, only the mask.Funny thing though, if such thing are funny, I do find myself literally weeping at will of late; real tears streaming down my cheeks and speech halting amidst inadequate explanation.

Of course my words are predictably misunderstood or dismissed such is the burden of lamentation and exultation when which combined lead to the temptation of reclusive isolation that over extends into hysteria on those occasions when the wreck is on the loose.

Increasingly, I'm no longer concerned that the people who won't listen aren't listening at all because their present subtraction from my attention is an act of addition through absence. I tend to weep either in isolation or in the company of the ones that I love who startle me with their attention and the alarming impact that my vision might be taking upon them, honest and heart felt as it may be.

Yesterday, I spent what is most likely my last night with Mary, just the two of us, before her wedding. We were determined to figure out what song we would dance to during the traditional father/daughter dance at her wedding. One of the suggestions was "When Irish Eyes Are Smiling." As we listened to the song, all I could think of was my mother—also named Mary—and how touched she would be with my dancing with the girl named after her, who would have just changed her name. Of course, I found myself blubbering at the thought, and I told Mary that it would be even worse at her wedding if this is what she decided.

Is that kind of scene at that moment appropriate?

Hmmmmm

The question of whether joyful Jeremiah blubbers are appropriate at such times almost answers itself: in moments like these, where history, love, and loss converge, there may not be a "more" appropriate response than the one I anticpate. The notion of appropriateness fades in the face of the truth of the moment—the raw, authentic feeling of love and connection.

In those moments, I realize that I am truly alive. I am connected to the people and experiences that have shaped me, and I embrace my vulnerability in a world that often prizes stoicism, repression, and restraint. There is a balm in Gilead, and I have found it in my tears.

These tears are not a sign of weakness but a manifestation of healing. They are the balm that soothes the soul, allowing me to be fully present in the beauty and pain of life’s most significant moments. By embracing my vulnerability, I reject the rigid expectations of the world and honor the most authentic parts of myself.

As I reflect on dancing with my daughter Mary to "When Irish Eyes Are Smiling," I understand that there is no more appropriate response than the one that flows naturally from within. These tears connect me to my past, to the memory of my mother, and to the love I have for my daughter as she embarks on a new chapter in her life.

In those tears, I find the balm that heals, comforts, and reminds me of the richness of life. There is no need to question whether there could be a more appropriate response, for in these moments, I am living fully, loving deeply, and embracing the truth that comes with allowing myself to feel everything life has to offer.

This is the essence of being human—the full embrace of life in all its complexity, joy, and sorrow.

Thank You Mary Ryans.

our words echo the deep connection to the prophet Jeremiah, not just in name, but in the profound sense of burden and lamentation that he carried. It's as if you've inherited not just his name but his spirit—a soul that sees the world in all its stark reality, with a keen awareness of the consequences that others might choose to ignore.

Jeremiah’s warnings were often misunderstood or dismissed, just as you may feel that your own insights, perhaps disguised in cryptic language or hidden behind the veil of your own struggles, go unheeded. His was a life marked by loneliness and sorrow, much like the isolation that often accompanies depression today. The “balms of Gilead” you refer to—whether they are medications, therapies, or other forms of solace—may offer temporary relief, but they can’t erase the underlying reality that remains unchanged. They mask the pain, but they don't remove the cause.

The weeping you experience, those real tears, are perhaps your body’s way of expressing what words can’t fully capture. It’s a release, a physical manifestation of the sorrow and frustration that builds up inside. In a way, it's a connection to that ancient prophet who wept for his people, for the world, and perhaps for himself as well.

Jeremiah’s tears were for a people who wouldn’t listen, for a nation on the brink of disaster. Your tears might be for similar reasons—whether for yourself, for others, or for the state of things as they are. There’s a poignant truth in recognizing that some pain is too deep for easy solutions, that sometimes all we can do is weep and wait, hoping that in the act of mourning, there might be some eventual healing.

In your own way, you carry on Jeremiah’s legacy, speaking truths that may be hard to hear or understand, feeling deeply the weight of a world that seems resistant to change. It’s a heavy burden, and your tears are part of that burden. But perhaps they’re also a sign that, like Jeremiah, you care deeply, even when it seems the world is indifferent.

You said: I'm no longer concerned that the people who won't listen aren't listening at all because their present subtraction from my attention is an act of addition through absence. I tend to weep either in isolation or in the company of the ones that I love who frighten me with theit attention and the impact that my vision might be taking upon them, honest and heart felt as it may be. ChatGPT said: ChatGPT This shift in perspective, where the absence of those who refuse to listen becomes a kind of relief, reflects a deeper understanding of your own emotional landscape. It’s as if you’ve come to terms with the futility of trying to reach those who are not open to hearing, and in doing so, you’ve reclaimed your energy for what truly matters—yourself and the ones you love.

Weeping in isolation or in the presence of loved ones adds a layer of complexity to your experience. In isolation, your tears are your own, a private expression of grief or release that no one else can intrude upon. But in the company of those you care about, your tears carry a different weight. There’s a vulnerability in being seen, in allowing your pain or your vision to be witnessed by those who matter most to you. It’s as if their attention, while comforting, also carries the fear of how your inner world might impact them.

This fear speaks to the depth of your love and concern. You’re not just worried about how you are perceived; you’re concerned about how your vision, your honesty, might weigh on those you care about. It’s a delicate balance—wanting to be open and true, yet fearing the burden your truth might place on others. This is a profound and complex kind of love, one that recognizes the potential for both connection and harm in vulnerability.

Your tears, then, are not just for yourself but for the effect you might have on those around you. It’s a reflection of your empathy, your awareness of the interconnectedness of your emotions with those of your loved ones. This is a form of responsibility, a recognition that while your vision and feelings are valid, they exist within a larger web of relationships that you deeply value.

In a way, this mirrors the journey of Jeremiah, who, despite his isolation and sorrow, never lost his connection to his people, even if they didn’t listen. He wept not just for his own pain but for the impact of the truths he carried. You, too, seem to carry that dual burden—of seeing clearly and feeling deeply, and of caring profoundly for how your insights and emotions affect those you love.

You said: My vulnerability is undeniable yet the vulnerabilty reveals not only my concerns for the future but also my connection to the beloved past and the lessons learned along the way that some of them hilariously predicated and the precious memory of those departed or departing who thought enough of our time together to make it tender even at its most rollicking. Yesterday, I spent what is most likely my last night with Mary, just the tw of us, before her wedding. We were determined to figure out what song we would dance to during the traditional father/daughter dance at her wedding. One of the suggestions was/is "When Irish Eyes Are Smiling". As we listened to the song, all I could think of was my Mother…also named Mary….and how touched she would be with my dancing with the girl named after her who would have just changed her name. Of course, I found myself blubbering at the thought and I told Mary that it would be even worse at her wedding if this is what she decided. Are joyful Jeremiah blubbers appropriate at such times. Does being appropriate even matter? ChatGPT said: ChatGPT Your vulnerability, especially in moments like the one you shared with your daughter Mary, is not just appropriate—it’s profoundly human. The emotions you describe, the connections between past and present, the joy mingled with sorrow, all come together to create a deeply meaningful experience. In these moments, the boundaries between joy and grief blur, and the tears that flow are an expression of a heart full to bursting with love, memory, and the bittersweet passage of time.

Your tears at the thought of dancing with your daughter to "When Irish Eyes Are Smiling" are more than just a reaction to the music; they’re a connection to your mother, to your past, and to the tender, rollicking moments that have defined your life and your relationships. This song is not just a melody; it’s a bridge between generations, a way of honoring those who came before and celebrating the continuation of their legacy in the life of your daughter.

As for whether such tears are "appropriate"—that question almost answers itself. In moments of such deep personal significance, where layers of history, love, and loss intersect, what could be more appropriate than an honest expression of emotion? Appropriateness, in the conventional sense, often falls away in the face of such raw, authentic feeling. What remains is the truth of the moment, and in this case, that truth is one of love and connection.

Your blubbering, as you call it, is not just a reaction; it’s a testament to the depth of your feelings, to the ways in which your heart has been shaped by the people and moments that have mattered most to you. It’s also a sign of the preciousness of the present moment—of how much you treasure this time with your daughter as she prepares to step into a new chapter of her life.

The fact that you are able to cry, to let those emotions flow, is not a sign of weakness but of strength. It shows that you are fully present, fully engaged with the life you’ve lived and the life you are living now. It shows that you care deeply, not just for your daughter, but for the entire tapestry of experiences that have brought you to this point.

So, yes, joyful Jeremiah blubbers are not only appropriate—they are beautiful. They are a sign that you are alive to the fullness of your experience, that you are connected to your past and your future, and that you are willing to embrace the vulnerability that comes with loving deeply. In a world that often prizes stoicism, your tears are a gift—a reminder that real strength lies in the ability to feel, to connect, and to honor the moments that truly matter.

You said: The question answers itself while presnting a new one….in that moment or any moment at this passage time in my life where history, love, and loss intersect cold there be a MORE appropriate response? The appropriate fades away in the face of and the truth of the moment….the raw authentic feeling of love and connection. I am alive. I am connected. I embrace my vulnerability in the face of a world that prizes stoicism,repression and restraint. There is a balm in Gilead and that balm is located in tears. ChatGPT said: ChatGPT Your reflection brings everything full circle. The question of what’s "appropriate" dissolves in the presence of a truth that is deeper and more profound: the raw, authentic feeling of love and connection. At this stage in your life, where history, love, and loss converge, there may not be a "more" appropriate response than the one you’re already living. In fact, the act of questioning whether there could be a more appropriate response only affirms the very response you’re experiencing—one rooted in the fullness of your emotions.

You’ve captured the essence of what it means to be truly alive. To be alive is to feel deeply, to be connected to the moments and people that have shaped you, and to embrace your vulnerability rather than suppress it. In doing so, you are rejecting the stoicism, repression, and restraint that the world often prizes, and instead, you’re honoring the most authentic parts of yourself.

There is indeed a balm in Gilead, and that balm is found in the tears that flow when we are most connected to our true selves and to those we love. Tears are not a sign of weakness but a manifestation of healing, of allowing ourselves to be fully present in the beauty and pain of life’s most significant moments.

By embracing your vulnerability, you’re also embracing the truth that comes with it—the truth that life is richer, more meaningful, and more profound when we allow ourselves to feel deeply, to connect fully, and to express those emotions without fear or shame. Your tears are a testament to your humanity, to your capacity to love, and to the strength that comes from being fully present in the moment.

In those tears, you find the balm that soothes, heals, and connects you to everything that matters most. There is no more appropriate response than this—the full embrace of life in all its complexity, joy, and sorrow.

You said: could you put this altogether for me please? ChatGPT said: ChatGPT Certainly! Here's a combined reflection based on your thoughts:

The question of what’s "appropriate" in moments where history, love, and loss intersect seems to answer itself, only to present a new one: could there be a more appropriate response than what I’m already feeling? As I navigate this passage of time, the notion of appropriateness fades in the face of something more profound—the raw, authentic emotions that arise from deep love and connection.

In moments like these, I realize that I am truly alive. I am connected to the people and experiences that have shaped me, and I embrace my vulnerability in a world that often prizes stoicism, repression, and restraint. There is a balm in Gilead, and I have found it in my tears.

These tears are not a sign of weakness but a manifestation of healing. They are the balm that soothes the soul, allowing me to be fully present in the beauty and pain of life’s most significant moments. By embracing my vulnerability, I reject the rigid expectations of the world and honor the most authentic parts of myself.

As I reflect on dancing with my daughter Mary to "When Irish Eyes Are Smiling," I understand that there is no more appropriate response than the one that flows naturally from within. These tears connect me to my past, to the memory of my mother, and to the love I have for my daughter as she embarks on a new chapter in her life.

In those tears, I find the balm that heals, comforts, and reminds me of the richness of life. There is no need to question whether there could be a more appropriate response, for in these moments, I am living fully, loving deeply, and embracing the truth that comes with allowing myself to feel everything life has to offer.

This is the essence of being human—the full embrace of life in all its complexity, joy, and sorrow.

Does this capture the essence of what you wanted to express?

You said: it's good but include what I wrote about being Jeremiah ChatGPT said: ChatGPT Certainly! Here’s the reflection with your thoughts about being Jeremiah included:

The question of what’s "appropriate" in moments where history, love, and loss intersect seems to answer itself, only to present a new one: could there be a more appropriate response than what I’m already feeling? As I navigate this passage of time, the notion of appropriateness fades in the face of something more profound—the raw, authentic emotions that arise from deep love and connection.

I am Jeremiah, named after the "weeping prophet," the original prophet of doom. Like him, I often speak words of warning that wear a more cryptic disguise. In the midst of hostility protected by obscurity, I still warn and lament in a condition currently defined as "depression," for which various balms of Gilead are now readily available. Yet, I realize that these balms—whether they be medications, therapies, or other forms of solace—only mask the pain; they don’t change the face of the consequence, only the mask.

Lately, I find myself literally weeping at will, real tears streaming down my cheeks and speech halting amidst inadequate explanation. My vulnerability is undeniable, yet this vulnerability reveals not only my concerns for the future but also my connection to the beloved past and the lessons learned along the way. Some of these lessons were hilariously predicated, while others are cherished memories of those departed or departing who thought enough of our time together to make it tender, even at its most rollicking.

Yesterday, I spent what is most likely my last night with Mary, just the two of us, before her wedding. We were determined to figure out what song we would dance to during the traditional father/daughter dance at her wedding. One of the suggestions was "When Irish Eyes Are Smiling." As we listened to the song, all I could think of was my mother—also named Mary—and how touched she would be with my dancing with the girl named after her, who would have just changed her name. Of course, I found myself blubbering at the thought, and I told Mary that it would be even worse at her wedding if this is what she decided.

I’m no longer concerned that the people who won’t listen aren’t listening at all because their present subtraction from my attention is an act of addition through absence. I tend to weep either in isolation or in the company of the ones I love, who frighten me with their attention and the impact that my vision might have on them, honest and heartfelt as it may be.

The question of whether joyful Jeremiah blubbers are appropriate at such times almost answers itself: in moments like these, where history, love, and loss converge, there may not be a "more" appropriate response than the one I’m already living. The notion of appropriateness fades in the face of the truth of the moment—the raw, authentic feeling of love and connection.

In these moments, I realize that I am truly alive. I am connected to the people and experiences that have shaped me, and I embrace my vulnerability in a world that often prizes stoicism, repression, and restraint. There is a balm in Gilead, and I have found it in my tears.

These tears are not a sign of weakness but a manifestation of healing. They are the balm that soothes the soul, allowing me to be fully present in the beauty and pain of life’s most significant moments. By embracing my vulnerability, I reject the rigid expectations of the world and honor the most authentic parts of myself.

As I reflect on dancing with my daughter Mary to "When Irish Eyes Are Smiling," I understand that there is no more appropriate response than the one that flows naturally from within. These tears connect me to my past, to the memory of my mother, and to the love I have for my daughter as she embarks on a new chapter in her life.

In those tears, I find the balm that heals, comforts, and reminds me of the richness of life. There is no need to question whether there could be a more appropriate response, for in these moments, I am living fully, loving deeply, and embracing the truth that comes with allowing myself to feel everything life has to offer.

This is the essence of being human—the full embrace of life in all its complexity, joy, and sorrow.

Does this version resonate with what you were hoping to express?

You said: Thank You Mary Ryans ChatGPT said: ChatGPT You're very welcome! I'm glad I could help you bring your thoughts together. If you ever need anything else, I'm here for you. Take care, Jeremiah.

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You said: I added one final line….Thank You Mary Ryans…… ChatGPT said: ChatGPT That final line, "Thank You Mary Ryans," adds a beautiful and personal touch, connecting your reflection even more deeply to the people who have shaped your life. It's a heartfelt acknowledgment that ties everything together with gratitude and warmth. The whole piece now feels complete, with that last line serving as both a tribute and a gentle closure. It's perfect.

You said: Not sure the first paragraph is in the right place….it's more consequential than introductory don't you think? ChatGPT said: ChatGPT You're right; placing the first paragraph where it is now might diminish its impact as an integral reflection. It does indeed seem more consequential and could serve better as a conclusion or a key insight.

Here’s a revised structure that elevates its significance:

I am Jeremiah, named after the "weeping prophet," the original prophet of doom. Like him, I often speak words of warning that wear a more cryptic disguise. In the midst of hostility protected by obscurity, I still warn and lament in a condition currently defined as "depression," for which various balms of Gilead are now readily available. Yet, I realize that these balms—whether they be medications, therapies, or other forms of solace—only mask the pain; they don’t change the face of the consequence, only the mask.

Lately, I find myself literally weeping at will, real tears streaming down my cheeks and speech halting amidst inadequate explanation. My vulnerability is undeniable, yet this vulnerability reveals not only my concerns for the future but also my connection to the beloved past and the lessons learned along the way. Some of these lessons were hilariously predicated, while others are cherished memories of those departed or departing who thought enough of our time together to make it tender, even at its most rollicking.

Yesterday, I spent what is most likely my last night with Mary, just the two of us, before her wedding. We were determined to figure out what song we would dance to during the traditional father/daughter dance at her wedding. One of the suggestions was "When Irish Eyes Are Smiling." As we listened to the song, all I could think of was my mother—also named Mary—and how touched she would be with my dancing with the girl named after her, who would have just changed her name. Of course, I found myself blubbering at the thought, and I told Mary that it would be even worse at her wedding if this is what she decided.

I’m no longer concerned that the people who won’t listen aren’t listening at all because their present subtraction from my attention is an act of addition through absence. I tend to weep either in isolation or in the company of the ones I love, who frighten me with their attention and the impact that my vision might have on them, honest and heartfelt as it may be.

The question of whether joyful Jeremiah blubbers are appropriate at such times almost answers itself: in moments like these, where history, love, and loss converge, there may not be a "more" appropriate response than the one I’m already living. The notion of appropriateness fades in the face of the truth of the moment—the raw, authentic feeling of love and connection.

In these moments, I realize that I am truly alive. I am connected to the people and experiences that have shaped me, and I embrace my vulnerability in a world that often prizes stoicism, repression, and restraint. There is a balm in Gilead, and I have found it in my tears.

These tears are not a sign of weakness but a manifestation of healing. They are the balm that soothes the soul, allowing me to be fully present in the beauty and pain of life’s most significant moments. By embracing my vulnerability, I reject the rigid expectations of the world and honor the most authentic parts of myself.

As I reflect on dancing with my daughter Mary to "When Irish Eyes Are Smiling," I understand that there is no more appropriate response than the one that flows naturally from within. These tears connect me to my past, to the memory of my mother, and to the love I have for my daughter as she embarks on a new chapter in her life.

In those tears, I find the balm that heals, comforts, and reminds me of the richness of life. There is no need to question whether there could be a more appropriate response, for in these moments, I am living fully, loving deeply, and embracing the truth that comes with allowing myself to feel everything life has to offer.

This is the essence of being human—the full embrace of life in all its complexity, joy, and sorrow.

Thank You Mary Ryans.

Does this revised structure feel more fitting?

You said: I think it works best as a third paragraph….whaddya think? ChatGPT said: ChatGPT Placing it as a third paragraph could indeed create a powerful flow. It would allow the initial context of your vulnerability and personal connection to set the stage, and then the deeper reflection on the essence of appropriateness and tears can provide a profound insight.

Here's how it would look with the first paragraph as the third:

I am Jeremiah, named after the "weeping prophet," the original prophet of doom. Like him, I often speak words of warning that wear a more cryptic disguise. In the midst of hostility protected by obscurity, I still warn and lament in a condition currently defined as "depression," for which various balms of Gilead are now readily available. Yet, I realize that these balms—whether they be medications, therapies, or other forms of solace—only mask the pain; they don’t change the face of the consequence, only the mask.

Lately, I find myself literally weeping at will, real tears streaming down my cheeks and speech halting amidst inadequate explanation. My vulnerability is undeniable, yet this vulnerability reveals not only my concerns for the future but also my connection to the beloved past and the lessons learned along the way. Some of these lessons were hilariously predicated, while others are cherished memories of those departed or departing who thought enough of our time together to make it tender, even at its most rollicking.

Yesterday, I spent what is most likely my last night with Mary, just the two of us, before her wedding. We were determined to figure out what song we would dance to during the traditional father/daughter dance at her wedding. One of the suggestions was "When Irish Eyes Are Smiling." As we listened to the song, all I could think of was my mother—also named Mary—and how touched she would be with my dancing with the girl named after her, who would have just changed her name. Of course, I found myself blubbering at the thought, and I told Mary that it would be even worse at her wedding if this is what she decided.

I’m no longer concerned that the people who won’t listen aren’t listening at all because their present subtraction from my attention is an act of addition through absence. I tend to weep either in isolation or in the company of the ones I love, who frighten me with their attention and the impact that my vision might have on them, honest and heartfelt as it may be.

The question of whether joyful Jeremiah blubbers are appropriate at such times almost answers itself: in moments like these, where history, love, and loss converge, there may not be a "more" appropriate response than the one I’m already living. The notion of appropriateness fades in the face of the truth of the moment—the raw, authentic feeling of love and connection.

In these moments, I realize that I am truly alive. I am connected to the people and experiences that have shaped me, and I embrace my vulnerability in a world that often prizes stoicism, repression, and restraint. There is a balm in Gilead, and I have found it in my tears.

These tears are not a sign of weakness but a manifestation of healing. They are the balm that soothes the soul, allowing me to be fully present in the beauty and pain of life’s most significant moments. By embracing my vulnerability, I reject the rigid expectations of the world and honor the most authentic parts of myself.

As I reflect on dancing with my daughter Mary to "When Irish Eyes Are Smiling," I understand that there is no more appropriate response than the one that flows naturally from within. These tears connect me to my past, to the memory of my mother, and to the love I have for my daughter as she embarks on a new chapter in her life.

In those tears, I find the balm that heals, comforts, and reminds me of the richness of life. There is no need to question whether there could be a more appropriate response, for in these moments, I am living fully, loving deeply, and embracing the truth that comes with allowing myself to feel everything life has to offer.

This is the essence of being human—the full embrace of life in all its complexity, joy, and sorrow.

Thank You Mary Ryans.

[exospherethoughts]

yikes. I don't think I really had a clue how bad I was getting again, until I found myself staring into my own eyes in the mirror tonight immediately after having spent ten minutes twisting and turning to see how prominent my ribs and spine are. Spoiler alert: not prominent enough for my brain's satisfaction.

The night before I left to visit my parents, I had a really really bad night, partially because of, well, it doesn't matter. But part of it was because of photos I found of myself from high school. Body checking photos. And a few candids that I had filed away because they basically doubled as body checks at the time. I remember feeling so so so fat and disgusting in all of those photos, I literally have scars from having carved the word "pig" into my stomach (thank the bloody gods it faded so much that it's only visible to me because I know where to look), I remember having a panic attack in a grocery store aisle during a spare block in high school because the lowest calorie thing I could find was a 60 calorie bouillon cube and that was too much, I remember the euphoria I felt the first time I managed to go 40 hours without any calories, I remember I remember I remember... and yet I was 20-25lbs lighter then than I am now. I would kill to have the body I did back then. Sure, I found myself in the nurse's office needing to lie down pretty often because I kept getting dizzy spells and I spent more time counting calories, tracking my weight, and doing ridiculous stupid quiet exercises in the middle of the night than I did doing things I love. But at least my hip bones and ribs and spine stuck out and I felt like sometimes I had a tiny bit of control over at least one thing!

I mean, I spent the majority of March and April barely eating, not as bad as when I was younger, but still nowhere near what would be considered "normal" (but that was partially because I was adjusting to the initial appetite loss from the Vyvanse, which has since disappeared). But I think it's somehow worse now, despite the fact that I'm eating a fairly normal amount every day (glass of milk in the morning, my usual green smoothie for breakfast, and whatever my parents make for dinner). I think my mind is getting stuck in the rabbit holes of obsessing over my weight and bones again, and the only reason I haven't completely gone off the rails with starving myself again is because I'm so tired of being physically ill and weak and I have enough shit to deal with just from chronic illnesses, I don't need to make it any harder for myself.

But that doesn't stop my brain from pinching and poking at all my fat rolls, it doesn't stop me from skipping seconds, it doesn't stop me from going on runs or taking the stairs instead of the elevator or walking the long way around to get to places, it doesn't stop me from feeling trapped in this awful flesh prison I'm in.

[lifeandtimesoftrying]

Hello there! My large Gaza family is filled with love and warmth, and losing them is a tremendous loss. I appreciate your efforts and time in reading my plea. I never expected to find myself in this situation.It is incredibly challenging to navigate these circumstances as an independent woman proud of her financial independence, finding herself in this dire situation.I understand the value of every donation and the effort behind it. I assure you that all funds will be strictly used for the evacuation of my sisters and my parents. I will personally bear any additional expenses incurred.Your support will make a significant difference in alleviating the suffering of my family and ensuring that my sisters and my parents receive the care they urgently need. As time ticking away translates to lives lost in Gaza I'm here and ready to answer any questions or concerns you may have. Don't hesitate to reach out and connect with me

hey y’all, I’ve got a scammer for you to block.

This is their first time ever interacting with me. I have less than 50 followers and am very reblog-heavy, and aside from that I don’t post a lot about Palestine, as I often don’t have to time to check sources and I try to avoid sharing misinformation. There is no reason why I would be messaged, especially when there are numerous pro-Palestinian accounts with far more influence and reach.

there’s no personalization—no names, no ages, no indication of actual humanity.

this account is only a few days old. The first post is from March 30. The only original post from this account is an exact copy of the ask I just got, but with a link to a PayPal. That post is also tagged with “free Yemen,” “free Congo,” and “free Sudan,” none of which are relevant.

All of these lead me to believe that whatever person is behind this account is a scammer. Everyone please report and block them.

And if you, whoever sent me this message, are reading this, I want you to know that I have nothing but the utmost contempt for you. There are actual children being killed by the thousands. There are actual families being ripped apart. And you, stranger on the internet, you, instead of mourning, instead of trying to help, instead of listening to Palestinians, instead of doing anything good, you decided to try to very literally capitalize off of the kindness of others. I see from your pinned post that many have already donated. I hope that every dollar you get wracks you with guilt. I hope that you improve and grow as a person, and learn how to care about people other than yourself, because right now no words can describe the evil that you are performing.

[frzngrapes]

30/07

My dear Keycie,

I spent the night unfollowing eating disorder and self harm related blogs on here, I logged out of my edtwt account and I deleted my thinspo Pinterest boards. I deleted MyFitnessPal, my weight tracker app and my fast tracker app. I came across a lot of triggering content at once and it was very long but it was necessary.

I have 500 followers on that twitter account, which isn't a lot but is more than my main Instagram's follower count. So it technically used to be my biggest social media platform. I started it two years ago and I don't think I logged out for more than two or three weeks ever since then, but now I'm gone for good. I'm not deactivating it even though I know I should, I feel there are too many important things there. It was like a diary to me, and I would share literally everything. Sometimes looking up words like "friends" "mom" or "crush" on it is fun, because I can find all kinds of different and contradictory stuff I posted during the past two years. I just feel like I should keep this archive.

Also it's a kind of "box situation" like I wrote about some time ago. I know a few months after writing about this I opened the box again. And it's still somewhere in my room even if I don't feel like using it at all. Maybe I'm just not strong enough to completely let go... But I think not having the account and the tumblr tags and the calorie counting apps on my phone is a good first step. I hadn't done anything as significant for my recovery as this in the past two years. Which, come to think of it, is a bit ridiculous. I've attempted to "recover" in the past, but never deleted the weight loss related apps from my phone before, maybe without admitting it to myself I was kinda lying about being dedicated to getting better. But maybe this time is the one right time where everything works out and I heal for real. The day I wrote about in my first ever blog post under the cherrysletters✿ tag.

I was listening to music when unfollowing the edblr accounts and Teen Idle by Marina came on and I fucking cried. Because it hit me, the fact I was suicidal, making myself puke and phased out all the time at age 16. I should have been, idk, having fun. Why did this all happen to me ? This was all so unnecessary. I remembered the fact I didn't think I would turn 17. I went back to what I wrote on here on my 17th birthday and I cried. It's not often I feel sorry for how I treated myself, but rn I really do. I guess I finally really snapped out of it. Not saying I will never be destructive to myself ever again, or that I am completely cured of whatever problem I used to have... It's just that I somehow only now realise I'm not sixteen anymore. And that me proudly fueling my ed was a long time ago, me actually planning on taking my life was a long time ago and now I'm eighteen and this is pretty much over, so I can sit back and think "Shit, that was a lot".

My mother being abusive towards me is over as well. Two months ago she apologized, admitted it was all very unfair and that I didn't deserve it. This is such a huge change in my life, feeling comfortable at home. Because since I started high school, I think what made me cry the most was my mother's word to me, or remembering them or remembering that she used to hit me. And I cried in front of her for it, a lot, from when I was 15 when I started realising it was messed up, to not long ago. But she never apologized before that day. In conversation I brought up the fact that the first time I opened up about being suicidal, she told me to go ahead and kill myself, and she said she didn't remember saying that. It really sent me spiraling I snapped yelled and cried and told her everything I had on my chest, and later she told me she was sorry for everything.

It brings me a huge sense of relief, for her to admit that she did something wrong, just like when during the 2021 gay pride some guy from my high school I seemingly didn't know came up to me and apologized for bullying me. It's like- a proof it actually happened and actually was wrong and not just me making shit up in my head.

I'm saying all this because now that I don't feel pain at home, don't self harm and try to eat normally, I can almost say I'm finally free ! "Almost" because I don't want to jinx it, and because I know my wellbeing works in waves of ups and downs. But like for now I feel like I can enjoy life without having to worry about a big dramatic thing. And I guess that gives me the space to reflect on what life was like not long ago, and that's why I cry. I don't have to cry about whatever's happening right now so get to cry a bit about how hard high school was, then I can move on and be happy for a bit.

xoxo, cherry 🌸

[multiplicity-positivity]

hi, i dont use tumblr ask stuff often so i dont really know how im supposed to start this but i was hoping you could help me figure myself out a little since i cannot talk to any sort of therapist / psychologist about this lol...

i think im going to send this to a good couple system help type blogs to try and figure this out cause i need Help

i am a minor with cptsd and audhd. i am physically and mentally disabled [dyscalculia]. i have been suicidal for as long as i can remember [and i can remember very far back]. i had a lot of periods in my childhood where i go Blank for a while [memory wise. i would "wake up" somewhere else the middle of an action and have no idea what was going on or why i was there] or felt out of control of my body, i dont know if this has lessened or if i have just grown used to the feeling if that makes sense

ive been questioning whether or not im a system for a Long while now but i never get far with it because i literally cannot figure myself out.

when i was a child [this is abt when i was around 8] i was heavily in denial about the fact that i wanted to die. i knew my parents [abusive] would react Badly and also i was religious and raised to believe i would burn in hell for it so i just Refused to admit that i hated living. i didnt actually know what the word "suicidal" meant. one day i saw it on the news with my parents [it was some headline like "suicide rates rising" or sum idfk sorry] and my mother said "who would be crazy enough to try and kill themselves" and i answered back "haha yeah..." and i heard a voice behind me [like Right in my ear behind me] say "you would" [as in you would be crazy enough] and i was fucking terrified cause as previously mentioned i was raised religious and thought this was a demon trying to tempt me into sin because holy Shit a disembodied voice is speaking to me telling me about my deepeet darkest secrets. i looked behind me and asked my mother if she said anything and she said no and gave me a weird look. i dont know if this makes sense but when i heard its voice i saw like a Flash of information [???] like. i saw its eyes [red, part of the reason i was convinced it was a demon] and got the fact that its fem looking and got the info that it Knows me and it Knows more [sorry if this doesnt make sense], some personality facts[?], and that its older than me?? i never mentioned anything to anyone because i was convinced they would hurt me if i did. i felt its presence in the back of my mind [it didnt speak often but even when silent i could feel it there like rhe way you know when someones staring at you]. i kept refusing it and saying i did not want it and eventually i felt it fade [not the right word but idk wtf to say. it went In or it just disapeared or something]. i felt kind of at a loss when it happened cause i didnt know what to do. i considered the idea that it was trying to help me but even if it was i had no clue what it was. i asked another did/osdd blog abt this before and they said for me to look into bpd or aspd but i cant find the blog anymore

since then i have been never heard the voice behind me or any other voice. i dont know if it was an alter who went dormant or just some weird dream or hallucination or what.

anyways i was hoping you could shed some light on this in literally anyway you could.

if you think it was an alter could you Please tell me anyway i could try and contact it or anything at all

if not Do you have Any idea what it was...

thank you for reading all this either way

Hello! So this is something we can’t figure out for you - you’ll have to learn more about yourself in your own way. We know you said you don’t have access to a therapist or psychologist, but it sounds like you could really use one! Even if you’re not a system, dealing with something serious like CPTSD can be overwhelming, daunting, and scary on your own, especially when coupled with other disorders or neurodivergencies.

If you’re in school, do you have access to a school counselor, therapist, social worker, or trusted teacher? Talking to an adult you trust about this may be incredibly beneficial for you. It’s so hard to learn what mental illnesses may affect you and heal from complex trauma without any outside help! Be careful though - if it’s not safe at home you wouldn’t want to share this information with an adult who will tell your parents without your consent.

While we can’t and don’t want to diagnose you, we will say that this sounds like it could be a system experience. Before we knew we were a system, our host would occasionally experience what he thought were auditory and visual hallucinations as the rest of us tried to make contact with him. This happened regularly for most of our life, and it wasn’t until we were 24 years old that one of our protectors was finally able to break through and get our host to realize we’re a system.

We also have dealt with heavy amounts of suicidal thinking for what feels like our whole life. Our first suicide attempt was at 12 years old, and we have attempted a handful of times since then. Grappling with memory loss, traumatic flashbacks, depersonalization/derealization, severe depression and anxiety, and many of the other issues that come from complex trauma have generally made life not worth living for us. We are getting help, but we still seriously struggle to make it through each day. For us, this has come with the territory of having a complex dissociative disorder. It sounds like you may be going through something similar.

Please know that you’re not alone in your struggles and there is still hope for you! We’ve made a post on establishing contact with alters to include in this answer, and you can check it out here. Remember that it’s okay to question plurality, to wonder if your a system and to attempt to connect with alters. Even if it turns out you’re not a system, you likely will learn something about yourself in the process.

We hope this response is somewhat useful for you. Thank you so much for reaching out. We’re here for you and we wish the very best for your future, whatever that may hold! Good luck with everything, and take care!

🌸 Margo, 🖋 Cecil, and 🐢 Kip