#and my mom (who is usually…fine) becomes a first class enabler

[edwardshundredyearoldspunk]

whenever I'm near my dad I blink “i hate you I hate you I hate you I hate you I hate you I hate you I hate you i hate you I hate you I hate you I hate you I hate you I hate you I hate you” in morse code because I otherwise would not be able to make nice with him when he's around

[redrobin-detective]

Like You

Trequel to Half Of and The only ghost in Amity Park

“We need to talk, Fenton,” Valerie hissed, slamming Danny’s locker shut in his face. He pursed his lips and lowered his gaze but said nothing. Manson scoffed and stepped right up, putting her finger in Valerie’s face.

“He doesn’t owe you anything, Val so lay off. If he wants to talk to you, he will, not because you demanded it.” Val grabbed Sam’s wrist, strong but still such delicate bones. The goth flinched a bit as Valerie applied pressure.

“Only my friends,” Valerie hissed with a hard look over at Danny, “get to call me Val. But I guess we’re not friends if you kept something like this from me.”

“Val...erie, let her go,” Danny mumbled quietly. “We’ll talk after school, meet me by the equipment shed behind the football field.”

“Alone,” Val said, flicking away Sam’s wrist. “None of your adoring, enabling entourage, new or old.” 

“No way in hell,” Sam said, clearly resisting the urge to hold onto her injured wrist. “Like we’d trust Danny with someone like you.”

“What? Human?” Valerie asked back. Danny stuck his hands between them and forced them apart. Now that Val was looking, the entire hall was watching them. Whatever, they didn’t matter. 

“Cut it out,” Danny frowned, looking over both of them. “Sam, I’ll be fine talking to her alone.” He turned back to her with his blue eyes. As long as she’d known him, Danny’s had a presence about him. She took it as growing up in such a strange house and later her growing crush. But there was no way to explain away the icy, electric feel of his gaze holding her own. “3:30, equipment shed, just talking. Okay?”

“Fine,” Valerie said, turning and stomping down the hall so she had the last word. The rest of the day passed slowly as she gripped the sides of her desk and bounced her leg, thinking about Danny Fenton. How long had Danny been a ghost or half of one, how was that even possible? Had he always been that way and she simply hadn’t noticed? Her? The best ghost hunter in Amity? How much of Danny was real and what was just a cruel ghostly joke? That’s the question that burned the most. Danny seemed to be the only one who liked this new, more grounded Valerie. What would she do if her closest friend was just messing with her?

Finally, school ended and she stalked purposefully towards the equipment shed. Interesting choice of location, it was almost never used since most every day sports gear was stored in the locker rooms. Did he chose it because it was isolated? Danny didn’t seemed worried about confronting her alone, what abilities could he have that he wasn’t scared of her? That made her pause once the shed came into sight. She’d only heard about Danny’s powers, never having ever seen them firsthand. Valerie took an ectogun from her bag and slipped it in back waistband of her skirt. Just in case.

Danny was sitting on the roof of the shed, weirdly enough. It would be next to impossible to climb so he had to have flown. She’d already heard of him floating but the idea of Danny Fenton and superpowers still didn’t add up in her head. He was rubbing at a tear in his jeans when she approached. Danny gave a little awkward half smile that, a few days ago, would have sent her stomach into somersaults. Now seeing it just made her sick.

“Are you gonna hide up there all day?” She asked curtly, hands on her hips. 

“You could always join me up here,” Danny shrugged, getting more comfortable on the roof. Val raised a disbelieving eyebrow, eyeing the lack of handles and the broken splinters on the old shed. “We’re far enough away, no one will see you use your hoverboard.” Just when Valerie thought he was done being surprised. She gaped open mouthed at Danny who got nervous and rubbed his hands anxiously. “You uh you wanted to talk so I thought we ought to lay all our cards on the table.” He took a deep breath, “I know you’re the Red Huntress Val...erie.” 

“How!” She demanded, activating her board without thought to get to the roof. She grabbed Danny by the shirt and hauled him forward until their faces were inches apart. His body radiated a soft chill that brushed against her skin. He held up his hands in surrender.

“Since the start, Sam and I, we saw you in the park, remember? You caught us uhhhh,” Danny trailed off, looking away with a blush. It took Val a minute but she remembered one of her first outings with the suit, she was chasing Phantom and his stupid dog only to find Danny and Sam kissing in the bushes. She hadn’t cared about the love lives of losers at the time. It had only become relevant when she started catching feeling for Danny but he’d assured her multiple times that he and Manson weren’t a couple. “It wasn’t real, the kiss I mean. It was Sam’s idea, you surprised us and we didn’t have time to hide so you didn’t...” he trailed off.

"Didn’t, what?” She demanded. Valerie gasped when Danny simply phased out of her grip and assuming his previous position on the roof. She stared for a moment at her hands before looking up again at Danny who was back to fiddling with his clothes. There it was, irrefutable proof that Danny wasn’t human. It felt like her heart was being chipped away with a hammer. 

“Look, this has been kind of a hard week for me,” Danny groaned, raking his hands forcefully through his hair. “I get my powers outed, I need to convince my parents not to kill me the rest of the way, keep the ghosts off my back for a period, get the government to acknowledge my existence all the while dealing with everyone’s stares and questions at school.” He tucked his knees closer and flopped his face into them. “I said I would be honest with you and I’m trying but I’ve already had to give so much of myself this week and... I don’t know, what do you even want from me?”

“I want answers!” Valerie tried to demand but it came across as more whiney. She pushed back any tears that were threatening to come. “I want to know what was real! Was our friendship real? Our feelings? Are you even real? And if you knew I Huntress all this time then why... why would you even talk to me? Were you just playing with me? Spying on me? What did you want with me?”

“I’m real, Val, I promise,” He held out his hand and she reluctantly took it. His hand was chilly but there always where, it was also solid with knobbing bones and ropy muscles. Beneath it all, there was a sluggish but persistent pulse. She squeezed his hand, it was a human hand and yet it had also passed right through her. How could he be real and not real at once?

“As for what I wanted, just a friend really,” Danny said, keeping his head on his folded knees but turning towards her. She read nothing but sincerity in his eerily blue eyes. “Sam, Tuck and I, we have serious history. We know each other inside and out. But you, you were someone new. I loved hearing about your interests, your dreams, finding out who you were as a person beyond that jerk who made fun of me the second week of Freshman year for wearing my dad’s jumpsuit to school. I liked being able to be a normal person with you, I think I had started to forget with the whole ghost thing going on.”

“What happened?” Valerie couldn’t help but ask.

“Lab accident,” Danny said quietly, “Sam and Tuck were there, wasn’t pretty. Thought I was goner for sure. I survived somehow but I got some freaky powers out of the deal. There’s downsides but some sweet benefits,” he tilted his head back and looked longingly up at the sky. “Flying is the best.”

“Yeah,” Val couldn’t help but sigh in agreement. She could almost the feel the sensation of the wind whipping against her suit. Hear the roar as she soared through the clouds. It was hard to imagine Danny flying but his eyes shined with understanding she usually only saw in the mirror. “So why did you hang out with me knowing I hunted ghosts?”

“It just sorta happened, You obviously sensed that Sam and Tucker weren’t too happy about the risk.” No kidding, Val had gotten warmer welcomes from freezers. “But you were cool, Val. Plus you,” he paused and seemed to consider his words. “I felt like once we got over the hump you would get it in a way the other don’t. You know what it like to balance two lives, to have insane power at your fingertips, to feel like if you take even a second break that the ghosts will overwhelm the town. It’s just... a lot to deal with alone, Sam, Tucker and Jazz, they try to understand but they just don’t.”

He looked over at her, “I guess it was nice to know that there was someone like me out there,” he blushed, “and that someone uh liked me. For being me, y’know?”

“Clearly I didn’t know everything,” she grumbled watching as Danny winced. Val frowned, she probably wasn’t being entirely fair, she hadn’t exactly been honest with Danny either. 

“So you fight ghosts, huh?” Valerie couldn’t help was ask with a little smile. Trying to picture it. The Danny she thought she knew wouldn’t but this Danny... “Is that why you’re always running out of class?”

“Isn’t that why you leave?” He teased back hesitantly. “I’m honestly a little surprised no one figured me out before. I was really bad at hiding at first. Of course it’s only when I get the whole ‘secret identity’ thing down that I get exposed.” He huffed, the ends of his hair lifting out of his eyes. 

“Secret identity, so you can turn into a ghost?” Danny was silent. “Have I seen you out there?” More silence. “Have I... have I shot at you?” Everything seemed quiet save for their asynchronous breathing. “I didn’t hurt you, did I?”

“It stung but not enough to keep me down for long,” Danny said, flexing his arms but his smile was strained. There was something about it that was haunting, familiar. She turned to look at the woods because if she stared any longer she’d realize which ghost Danny turned into and neither of them was ready for that right now. 

“So now what?” She asked.

“I don’t know,” Danny sighed. “I’m kind of taking it one day at a time. Mom and Dad are nervous, jumpy, I’m not sure if they’re more scared of me or of themselves and what they did. My sister and friends are being annoyingly overprotective. People who hated me last week are suddenly in my face asking questions and demanding demonstrations. The government wants to kill me but,” he snorted a little, and tilted his head towards her floppily. “I'm also talking to you about this part of my life for the first time. Lying was a necessity I never grew comfortable with, I think I could do with a bit of honesty.”

“Yeah me too,” Valerie said, straightening up and looking Danny in the eye. “I’m still not sure how I feel about this. I don’t like ghosts and I likely never will. I’m going to continuing being Huntress and keeping the town safe. But I’m willing to give you chance, give you time to open up completely. It’ll give us both times to come to terms with everything, and maybe then we can figure out where we stand.”

“I’ll take it!” Danny beamed, “I was worried you were coming here to off me with that ectogun you have stashed in your skirt so this is much better!”

“How did you-” She gasped.

He winked and tapped his forehead, “I’m pretty sensitive to ectoplasm, especially out here in the real world. Gotta admit sometimes when my energy was low, I sought you out. Did you know your suit radiates a low level ectoplasmic field, even when you’re not wearing it?” He twisted his face in thought. “Now that we’re talking-talking, I should warn you what side effects excess exposure to ectoenergy can cause.” He twisted his hand and a small green ectoblast formed in his palm briefly before dissipating. “If that worries you, my parents can hook you up with some sweet ghost hunting equipment that won’t contaminate you.”

“So I could have powers like you one day?” She asked carefully, looking over her hands thoughtfully.

“Maybe, I don’t know. Mine was a kind of one in a million accident, well, two,” he made a face. “That’s whole other story, don’t ask. But we could maybe find out together, Val,” he winced. “Valerie.”

“Val is fine,” she said quietly, still thinking too many things. “We have a lot of things to figure out but in the meantime, you can keep calling me Val.” 

“I’d like that,” he smiled. “So uh, do you want to come to movie night tomorrow? It’s at my house this week. I uh always wanted to invite you before but Sam, Tuck and I usually end up talking ghost stuff during the movie so we couldn’t before but if you’re interested... could be fun to have you there. We’re watching The Shining.”

“That movie is like a billion years old,” Val laughed with an eyeroll.

“It’s a classic, I was named after the kid in that movie!” Danny defended. “I’ll text you the details but its up to you. Either way, we’ll uh, we’ll keep talking. See you around, Val.” And just like that, he vanished. She swiveled her head around but Danny Fenton was truly gone.

“Jerk,” she grumbled but there was no heat to it. She heard a giggle above her and knew Danny, in his secret ghost form, was probably flying. And it was too nice a day to walk home. She activated her suit and took to the skies herself. Valerie didn’t know if Danny was with her or not, she just turned off her brain and fell into the motion of aggressive loops and high speed dives around her town.

 Everything had turned upside down with the knowledge that Danny wasn’t who she thought he was. But again, things had been crazy since the ghosts first came to town. So she and Danny were at a stand still, not friends and not enemies, not open but not secretive either. It was a weird state to be in but Danny was probably used to being in a state of half life himself. But she’d worry about all that later, for now it just her and sky. 

[canary3d-obsessed]

Restless Rewatch: The Untamed Episode 07 part one

(Masterpost)

Warning: Spoilers for All 50 Episodes!

Clan Sanren

Lanny Granny gets a second wind and continues her Yin Iron Webinar.

Wei Wuxian explains that although he was adopted by the Jiang Clan, Baoshan Sanren is his grandmaster, via his mom. Lan Yi claims to think that this is pretty great.

Lan Yi: Wow, amazing, my ex girlfriend who I dumped has settled down and started her own family Clan now, that’s so great. I’m so happy for her. So happy. So great. I mean, when I left I didn’t really picture her finding happiness first, you know? I kind of expected to have settled down myself by now but it’s hard to date when you’re trapped in an ice cave putting headbands on rabbits for 100 years. But it’s fine! I love my life and I’m sure eventually I’ll find that special rabbit person.  Anyway I’m just...SUPER happy for Baoshan. Really. Really happy. For Baoshan. 

Lan Wangji also appears to have thoughts about it, because he reacts pretty intently.

 Lan+Sanren 4EvR. 

Wang Yibo is looking extra fine in this cave sequence, with no headband to distract from his fierce eyebrows.  

Lan Wangji asks Lan Yi if she’s the one who pulled them into the cave, and she says nope, and then nobody ever explains how they ended up in the cave. “Perhaps it’s destiny” does not count as an explanation. 

Lan Gran explains that her battery is running down. The Lan bunnies are not energizer bunnies, apparently. She also tells them that it’s impossible to destroy the Yin Iron and that the only solution is to put it back in the cave and try to suppress it again. 

(more after the cut)

However by Episode 23 it inexplicably becomes super easy to destroy the Yin Iron...

...meaning Lan Yi spent 100 years in a cave for nothing, other than writing the Definitive Guide to Rabbit Headbands. 

Wei Wuxian and Lan Wangji get back into Hardy Boys cultivator mode, but this time with an extremely long held gaze, which I think is their first time doing this.

I mean...even if these boys are 100% neurotypical (and hello, they are not), this is a LOT of eye contact. I can't gaze that long at anything except my phone screen. 

We Will Achieve The Thing Together

Narrator: they will not achieve the thing

The reason I got into c-drama in the first place is, after decades of western storytelling tropes, it’s so refreshing to watch a story and have literally no idea what’s going to happen. Even when the story sets things up to happen a certain way according to my learned experience of stories, it just doesn’t play out that way. For example, if you’re watching The Lost Tomb Reboot and you expected the jade-mining sequence to end with a slave uprising, you were as surprised as I was. 

Here Lan Wangji and Wei Wuxian promise to do their best to find and suppress the Yin iron. Lan Wangji is going to fail at this, allowing this here piece to fall into the hands of the Wens, because unlike his uncle he's not willing to let his clan die to protect it.  

Wei Wuxian is going to take his not-doing-the-thing several steps further, finding and refining his very own piece of extra-badass Yin iron. Yes, he has reasons for this and a lot of stuff happens along the way, but in terms of your typical quest storyline, it would be as if Frodo figured out how to use the one ring to kick Sauron’s ass, rather than (with help) destroying it. Again: this is why I LIKE c-drama. 

Lan Wangji tries to shut Wei Wuxian out of his quest and Wei Wuxian makes a short but utterly character-defining speech. 

You can’t stop me

I know what’s right. 

And then he says that his Grandmaster Baoshan Sanren was isolated because of the Yin Iron, and he has a responsibility to her. Lan Yi agrees. So...he just kinda quit the Jiang Clan right there, didn’t he? In favor of eventually becoming a wandering cultivator like his Grandmaster and clan uncle (Xiao Xichen), and like his mother. 

He is also going to follow in his father’s footsteps by upsetting his Clan Leader when he falls in love. Gosh, he also, like his parents, will die and leave an orphan to fend for himself. So -- the apple doesn't fall far from the tree I guess.

He doesn't realize the pickle he’s getting himself into, of course. Being Wei Wuxian, he thinks he can balance all of his increasing obligations, but being human, he won’t be able to. 

Pardon Our Entwinement

Lan Yi leaves to catch the spiritual plane, the Yin iron drops, the ward breaks, and Wen Ning appears to download a new software update. The kind that breaks your video driver and photoshops your eyeballs.  

Wen Qing comes nosing around the cave wall, and Jiang Cheng stops by to ask what she’s up to. 

He hopes she’s trying to find his brother, just like he will fail to do for her & her brother one day.  

The boys fall out of the wall together, in a nice example of the “oops I’m accidentally humping you” c-drama romance trope. To keep it censor-friendly, Wei Wuxian is actually on the ground next to Lan Wangji’s right knee but the shot is framed so that at a glance he appears to be in a much cozier position. 

Lan Wangji goes on an expression journey don’t say facial through several “oh shit we’re caught” faces, while Wei Wuxian shows Lan Wangji a few iterations of his oh-face. 

Jiang Cheng wants to know what the fuck they have been getting up to for a day and a night. 

The movie wasn't so hot, it didn't have much of a plot, we fell asleep our goose is cooked our reputation is shot

Wen Qing detects that they were somewhere cold and decides it’s her turn to ask nosy questions. Lan Wangji does the guilty startle thing. 

Fortunately Wei Wuxian doesn’t have that problem.

He turns his answer into a prolonged whine about how cold it was, how lost they were, etc. This annoys Jiang Cheng into dropping it and saying they should head back. 

I’m awesome right? so awesome right?

Wei Wuxian gives Lan Wangji a significant look to show that he’s deploying a rhetorical strategy on purpose to distract his questioner. Lan Wangji super does not know how to do that. 

Flute + Yin Iron = Profit

Wei Wuxian and Lan Wangji get to watch as Lan Qiren and Lan Xichen tame the hunk of iron and stick it in the bag of holding. Wei Wuxian pays verrrryyy careful attention to this whole “use a flute to control the Yin iron” lesson. 

Lan Xichen really should reconsider his music-lessons side hustle. Arguably this one doesn’t turn out as badly for him personally as teaching guqin to Jin Guangyao does, but it doesn’t turn out great, either. 

知己啊  - zhi-ji-ah

This mostly-tedious Yin Iron conversation with the elders includes a super-important WangXian moment.

Wei Wuxian calls Lan Wangji his zhiji. This is the same word he will use later in the “what am I to you?” conversation during the Jin night hunt, and the word Lan Xichen will use when saying why Lan Wangji wouldn’t repudiate him during his forced isolation. As always, for the full meaning of this word, @hunxi-guilai​ is brills.

A Wen spy bird shows up, and Lan Wangji really wants to chase it, but Lan Xichen says no. 

This happens a lot, actually. Lan Wangji is not a cool-headed person, despite appearances.  Likewise the boys want to go searching for the Yin Iron and the adults want them to slow their roll. 

Being a teenager is frustrating, particularly with a classic “I didn’t actually listen to you before making a decision” adult like Lan Qiren in charge. 

Lying is my First Class Spiritual Tool

Nie Huasang shows up and has his usual hilariously varied reaction to Wei Wuxian and Lan Wangji - an enthusiastic “Wei-Xiong!” followed by a nervous & meek “Lan Er Gongzi” and a bow to Lan Wangji.  

He wants to know what happened and Wei Wuxian once again shows his powers of rhetoric. 

I like to call it my “devil snake.” 

He puts off all of Nie Huaisang’s potential questions by really knowing his questioner well and completely distracting him.  

This time Lan Wangji seems impressed. 

Jelly Jiang Cheng

Young Master Cockblock shows up and lets loose with a display of total naked jealousy. That carving on Wei Wuxian’s bed back in Lotus Pier...is that him and Jiang Cheng? Because damn, this boi is jealous. 

...and so is Lan Wangji, apparently, or at least he’s disappointed to have Wei Wuxian taken away from him like that.  

Yearn Mode Enabled

Club Ruohan’s Foyer

Wen Chao and Xue Yang stand awkwardly in Wen Ruohan’s vestibule talking to the boss through a giant door, because sure, why not. 

This doesn’t bother Xue Yang, who as usual has no fucks to give. Except that today, Wen Ruohan tells him that the budget for his project finally got approved, which lifts his spirits quite a bit. 

His project to single-handedly slaughter an entire clan, and he is super excited about the kickoff meeting. 

Wen Chao is mopey because his brother gets all the good murder assignments and his dad doesn’t appreciate him. Boo fucking hoo. 

Periodic reminder that He Peng looks like this when he’s not playing Wen Chao.

Part 2 coming soon!

Soundtrack: Wake Up, Little Susie by the Everly Brothers

Bonus

[fruitylibrarian]

quest of the spear live rewatch!

i already spewed my pre call to adventure flynn thoughts all over a text post but I would like to repeat: pre-canon flynn my beloved <3

yes he is a bit of a bastard but he just loves his books and he’s so genuinely just like. passionate and like…. Big? does that make sense? like i mean inside. not literally. bright

flynn’s mom is so fucking funny

and she’s Trying Her Best

you know one thing I don’t understand, I assume that flynn could afford to keep going to college because of like grants and scholarships since he’s all smart and like, even if his mom is well off, no one below the morally bankrupt millionaire line can pay for 22 degrees and not die of no-money-itis otherwise known as Starving

but like. why not become a professor or some other academia position?

you’d be incredibly overqualified and you’re a white dude, so while academia isn’t exactly bursting with new spaces to fill I’m sure you could find something???? and like. a professor in particular, while baby flynn might not be great at the connection part, seems like a natural progression to at least try for considering it keeps you in that comfort zone and familiar space just in a different albeit familiar role, and allows you to go on long lectures people can’t interrupt. and like, professors literally like, part of their job is research and to continue learning, so like. it seems like the natural choice for him to go for?

don’t get me wrong, baby flynn in particular might not be extremely well suited considering his lack of people skills, but plenty of professors are brilliant slightly odd smarties who give long, super engaging theatrical lectures (sounds like him!) but suck at one on one meetings and talking to people or may be accidentally insulting, but like, their class is genuinely interesting and they grade decently so like, I think he could get past that hurdle is what I’m saying

obviously he’d have to work at it and get the skills necessary but you know what that means? MORE SCHOOL, BABY! just in a different direction! like just? it seems like the obvious choice for his situation

ah yes!!! magic letter!!! it’s kind of funny they do this, it’s a great hook and way to make applicants go Uh Excuse Me and want to know more but also like, there’s no proof magic happened either?

although you’d think some people would get obsessive like let me tell you if i encountered real ass magic like that i wouldn’t stop until i had an answer

ah the Incredibly Long Interview Line. it’s kinda how funny how like. Not Special he is but at the same time he is?

“never been treated so badly in my entire life!” what did you say to him charlene

i’m sure he deserved it i just want to know

wait oh no i just realized

all these people are dead

every single one of them got murdered in the first episode of the series

jesus that’s dark

not gonna be able to stop thinking about that one huh

also love how it’s pretty evenly men and women

although it’s still mostly white

fuck that lady just left crying I know they’re doing this to turn up the drama but DAMN, charlene

god he almost gave up. remember the timeline episode where he never became the librarian? weird.

Gkjlfkgjhfglh Where Do You Think You’re Going? (weak gesture like “me?”) Yes You. Get In Here amazing how can she even see him she’s around the CORNER. camera? magical surveillance? why? just to freak people out? amazing.

i do so love charlene, it’s a shame she wasn’t in the show more

also she literally never explains shit. What Makes You Think You Can Be The Librarian he doesn’t even know what that means, charlene

He Doesn’t Even Have A Library Science Degree

oh wow he does actually have librarian qualifications lmao

why did i not remember that

DLKFGJDFG I did remember him sherlocking her tho

wait her MARRIAGE? to WHO?

i thought her and judson were a thing despite jenkins being into her or something?

huh

also why does this qualify him to be The Librarian™ like oh he can sherlock? ok?

maybe it’s just bc he had the balls to do it

well, the sherlock thing is also not completely unhelpful it just doesn’t seem central to his skills, or at least, not the way he uses it (do we see him use it like this again? he usually applies more obscure knowledge then ye classic deduction sherlockian skills if I remember correctly which I may not because my brain is smooth)

judson is such a fucking drama queen

LKDJFGLKDJFGLDKFJG I FUCKING FORGOT HE LITERALLY JUST FUCKING REPEATED HIS MOM’S LITTLE PHRASE AMAZING

also why did he seem to think her sending everyone home meant he didn’t get it why would she stop all interviews because you fucked up

he just fucking walked out of a wall judson you are so dramatic

also warehouse 13 vibes huh. welcome to a world of endless wonder

I could do a whole fucking thesis on warehouse 13 and the librarians or—well that’s a whole other tangent

anYWYA

this interview was remarkably easy tho, it’s not like he wasn’t impressive but it wasn’t mindblowing either????? this coming from a big fan of flynn

the big shiny wonderous eyes as the library lights up……flynn my beloved

also his floofy hair ldkfgjdlkfgj

he’s like this is too good am I being prank’d

why the mona lisa?????iIs the mona lisa magic??? It only became famous because it got stolen why would it be magic??? Is this one of those we make it magic by believing it or some shit things???

Flynn Do Not Open The Random Box In The Library Of Incredibly Dangerous Artifacts

oh hello excalibur !!

oh rip flynn immediately being like “oh im not worthy, trust me” with 100 percent certainty im hurt oof

KSJFLGKDJGLKDJG THE APPLE “the apple from the garden of eden…….” *judson takes a bite* “actually I just left this here”

excalibur hello properly!!!!

judson is such a fucking DRAMA QUEEN he’s so casual!! and cal you too you slippery bitch!  

ah the jetpack.

DLFKGJDLKFGJ “it usually takes a new librarian four hours to find the jetpack. you did it in three! congratulations” love the implication that every librarian (at least since it was added to the library) has done this no matter how serious like the bad guy of this movie… *checks notes* edware wilde? jetpack. darrington dare, probably? jetpack. i like to think jenkins did it too (not technically a librarian, but you know)

flynn thinking of himself as embarrassing… ☹

HIS MOM IS SO PROUD OF HIM

part sweet, part funny, part rip

I don’t know what she was expecting when he said librarian tho like. originally he literally looked at shit for FRY COOk degrees don’t always mean shit you know

and librarian is up there with professor in Perfect Jobs For Flynn like what did you expect??? Like even if he’d become an archaeologist (a “cool” job) it’s not like that pays super well either as far as I know??

he was never going to be Traditionally Successful

he’s still the same person he still has the same strengths and passions of course he would go into academia and do something like librarian like????? her reaction saddens me.

just be happy for him!! look at him!!!

ok first of all even normal non magic librarians don’t just put books on shelves and that’s a condescending reduction of the job, and second of all, he is so happy!! he has a job, he’s taking responsibility, he’s meeting people, isn’t that enough??? isn’t that literally what you wanted??? even if it WERE what you think it is why couldn’t it just be a good first step??? like??? fuck??? you did been know that he was doing all those fancy degrees because he loved them not because they’d get him some super fancy job??? I mean egyptology is not the most profitable field you know this isn’t med school or whatever

god.

flynn’s mom, visibly not proud and very upset: of course im proud of you!

ok im being a little unfair, she’s trying and clearly she’s been supportive of him, if not straight up enabling of him, but like this is clearly being presented as like. normal person who is normal forced to take care of freakish strange son who is so nerdy and strange and a loser and she is so tired of his shenanigans and all that WORK she put in and he’s NOT FANCY AND CHANGING TO CONFORM TO HER IDEALS OF A GOOD SUCCESSFUL SON/MAN?

and that’s just all very. sigh.

the snake brotherhood are such obnoxiously cheesy villainous villains they’re even called the snake brotherhood

also I think we’re supposed to recognize him as the previous librarian from the painting but if I didn’t already know that I for sure would not know that

smartass flynn is a smartass

I never got people bringing someone coffee to impress them unless they knew their order like there’s no way you know who she likes her coffee so you could so easily get it wrong—like even if you don’t know exactly how much sugar she wants, you could also just get it entirely wrong like assume she likes black coffee but she likes it super sweet, or vice versa, or whatever. it can go wrong so easily!

or she could go “I Hate A Kiss Ass”

she did take it anyway tho so.

ah i did forget (or just not actively think about) how much like… christian mythology there is in this show :/ I mean we did been knew (excalibur and arthurian legend are pretty important to the mythology)

not that christian mythology is inherently bad it just gets a) annoying, b) boring, and c) y’know, very western centric and all

but then trying to reconcile di—you know what that’s a tangent for another time

then again I do assume no one is going to read this

the library really does just throw new librarians into death and go “hope this is fine!” huh

did they just imply god is canon in the “the librarian” universe

you were so cryptic with the no one thing!! just say NOONE

he’s scribbling in his notebook and mumbling out loud what a mood and I love him. what a nerd

ldfkgjdlkjg god sexy jazz music and a breeze this is so dumb

I do hate the forced love interests in all these movies it’s always like Some Hot Girl Is There And They Get It On!

like he really had chemistry with eve and banter but here it kinda feels like that wish fulfilment and then the nerd gets the hot chick the end and im saying that as the nerd

it doesn’t help that each movie has a different one who immediately is dropped as if she never existed afterwards

maybe it’s not as bad as I remember but. sigh

my instant impression of her is to not like her sorry nicole :/

she’s just so rude? she’s like. hot (derogatory)

i get there’s gender politics here with like. she’s used to being treated like a piece of meat and generally like, why not reap the benefits when you are going to get the creeps too, but like, also she’s just so unnecessarily rude—I mean rejecting his clumsy flirting is one thing but you know—ok I won’t even get into that the point is I just don’t really like her that much even tho I don’t think she’s necessarily a bad person or anything you know

but to be fair I think she got better and I remember her being compelling in her return to the show

and like. I do like how the trend in this franchise is “smart little nerd librarian and badass lady guardian kicks ass” but I do wish that it turned around occasionally. we do get cassandra but like. more lady librarians

wow an air marshal? aren’t they rarely even on flights?

sorry im being nitpicky there for sure lmao. please delete the cinamasins ding my words probably summoned from your brain

I get why shoving him out was necessary but also Wow

Gjklhkjfgh imagine sitting next to some mumbling nerd the whole flight and then you see him fly past the windows

LFKGJDLKJDFG he brilliantly lowers our expectations then jumps without a chute! remarkable!

hilarious or commentary on men getting credit for womens’ competency? why not both

i really thought that she was going to be a lying liar the first time I watched this

ah naïve boy. “uh that’s against the law”

flynn’s greatest strength isn’t just his knowledge but his like. breadth of different topics, just like, passion for learning of any time, and like. the ability to not just know a lot of different things but cross-reference and apply them to each other and use them in tandem to understand a greater whole

and we love that for him!

ah flynn therapizing himself lmao

why would she take him going “this bridge is rotting and physically cant support our weight” as a challenge

or him being cowardly like THE STRUCTURAL SUPPORTS ARE ROTTING

YEAH WHAT DID YOU EXPECT OF COURSE HE FUCKING FELL

ok i lied i like nicole i just don’t love their dynamic

i get what they’re going for i just. not my thing

like with eve there was still a clear mutual respect? i guess? idk

maybe it’s just because i’m more sensitive to mean banter? i don’t like mean banter, even when it’s like, def 100 percent well meaning and not mean spirited and no one is actually offended or hurt

although despite not liking their Thing I do a) think it’s very cute how he looks at her, b) their vibe as they start to get to know each other is Better, c) the end of the movie scene where she rides in for maximum drama? now that was good shit.

oh he’s sherlocking her in a shy attempt to impress her but it’s only going to piss her off, right?

oh she’s just sherlocking him back

KSGFJLDKFGJ LMAO “nerd” and that’s it. fair

Cutting Off His Head damn that’s hardcore

hmmmm cringe,

and more cringe

and cringe.

her waking up to him gone right after telling that story about waking up to her librarian gone and then killed—oof

love the serpent brotherhood lady being like wow!! he’s SO COMPETENT!! (cuts to him screaming)

do these ancient traps just have infinite arrows?

also I do love the whole waltzing across trope what can I say im a sucker

DFLKGLDKFGJLDKJG fucking CHUCKS SOMETHING AT IT and immediately where he would be standing is crushed by a huge rock amazing

he literally just chucked a rock at it and it fell over

ah the classic “let the hero get it for us” move

oh there he is! rip

why does he look like macpherson

not really but kind of

also contrast between the lady always being like “omg the librarian is so smart” and him assuming nicole is the one who did the smart thing

“your tears were perfect” how much more of an asshole can you get

They really could have played him as more sympathetic—“oh, we’re always around these powerful artifacts but we never use them for good! I had to do it, I was sick of sitting back and doing nothing” or like “all those years of danger and guarding powerful things and what good did it ever do me? what do I get for my service?” or anything but nah hes just like “mm power good babes. anyway I love sex and being mean”

to be fair flynn he was the librarian too—a real librarian? I mean yeah edward was corrupted and ultimately failed his duties but he had to have been qualified and actually got the job for a reason

flynn I know you think you sound badass but you really don’t

god not shangri-la again. everything the show did with that was. Bad. yikes

why is—god, I should really learn her name [checks notes] lana fangirling so much?

also following the lamia tradition of “serpent brotherhood second in command who is more interesting than the main evil white guy and also a pretty woc” huh

never got like “this is literally impossible” “well do it or I [generic bad guy threat]” like usually that means nothing lmao

LDFKGJLDKFJLDKFGJ ok first of all god is me? bitch?

second of all. me in english? on this fucking ancient very much not english thing? I mean I guess a) it might not be literal, even though he did say “m, e” by letters, b) it is a christian myth so maybe planted later??? but like?????

dude. giving the super powerful artifact to your prisoner? bad idea. if you’re worried about booby traps have a minion do it.

oh yes your gun is so scary in the face of a temple collapsing

why do heroes always think the whatever is safer with them than the temple that’s guarded it for a thousand years

I get it’s been discovered but like. fuck. still

You Are Going To Crash This Helicopter

SLKGJ HORRIBLE HIGH VELOCITY PIE OF DEATH

flynn and judson…..wholesome

oh here comes more forced romance

just let them be friends who grow to mutually respect each other blease

it is very fucking funny that the mom is like ….. oh my god…. oh my god,,, a WOMAN AJUST ANSEWREDM Y SDONGS PHONE?????????OH MY GOFD?????

he is bisexual. but it’s good he’s getting out

ah floofy hair

cahooting,

Yes You Do Need Clothes

that’s a teleporter sir

god eddie wild is such a boring fucking villain and person

and his plan SUCKS

also the serpent brotherhood (why BROTHERhood?) sucks and hates the library why would they just let this guy, a librarian, literally be their new leader

wow he just stabbed a guy on his OWN TEAM for no reason

great going asshole

love how lana is just like…. O-O

we stan lana. she hasn’t done much and she’s technically a bad guy i just love her

“at last we can be one” what does that even mean

why would lana or any of them want to help him he just killed one of their own for no reason hes clearly tripping on power and leaving yall to die

lfkgjdlkfgj flynn dodging so hard while the others is fight and then PUNCHING A GUY

dfglkjdflgkj wait it’s the professor dude why is that so funny

is he WITH THEM??? I think I just missed something

hold on a sec

yeah I think he just appears??? And flynn just fucking broke his nose iconic

wait so was he with them or is he just here going WHY ARE THERE RANDOM PEOPLE IN MY PYRAMID????????????

oh right he built the—ok I got it

Wait what

I mean I did think lana was neat and she seemed impressed with flynn but what shes just like, in love with him now? that makes zero fucking sense why would she want them to Be Together

Is it just so there can be a catfight between the two hot chicks?

seriously tho? morally pure blonde blue eyed girl versus Evil Asian Chick? really?

for the record NOT THAT IT MATTERS but lana is way cuter im just saying

ah badass judson

THE COMEDY OF THE CAPSTONE CRUSHING HIM DLFKGJDLKFGJ

oh………….pulling out excalibur…. predicable but so good

oh the painting….the very Parenty way of revealing it…… wholesome

oh did NOT like that transition

oh here comes the badass fucking entrance with his gf busting in on his mom trying to set him up with girls

HER ENTRANCE IS SO UNNECESSARAILY DRAMATIC I LOVE THEM

I just love the mom’s face ldfkgjldfkgjdlkfgjdlkfjgd shes like WHAT THEGUFVCJK

again I don’t love the vibes of “oh my weird loser son is finally normal!” but to be fair im exaggerating a bit from just facial expressions it’s just. sigh

but ngl the vindication of him being able to be like. yeah that’s right im a badass now and my gf is cool as fuck is still good

him and nicole do have not terrible vibes at the end but if I remember correctly that mission (time travelling ninjas and hg wells’s time machine) is the one that separated them so rip I guess

overall: good movie! as cringe as I remember but I still love flynn so much

[kris10tisme]

Social Anxiety Origin Story

Social Anxiety is classified as a disorder. Isn’t that crazy!? You can actually read up on it on the MayoClinic or Webmd websites which shows that it really is a legitimate thing; it's not just you being a pussy. Most people who have social anxiety disorder don’t know what it is or why they’re like this. When we first become aware of our incomprehensible phobia we usually feel completely alien. People with this ailment tend to feel like the ultimate freaks, which knocks down their self esteem tenfold. If you have desperately searched online to potentially find answers: I feel you. The first time I felt a sense of belonging in this world was browsing through internet forums, reading about how people had the same irrational fears I did. You can find comfort in it sure, but it's definitely not the same as finding belonging in person. I didn’t know that I wasn’t completely alone in this struggle until I was maybe fifteen or sixteen years old navigating through my insufferable high school life!  During that time google searches quickly became my best friend.

I can’t even really pinpoint where my SAD began for me. As a child I was pretty shy but I’d eventually open up once I became semi-comfortable. I didn’t ruminate whether or not I made some sort of fool of myself publicly. I was just having a blast man. Childhood is all fun and games but you really do get the carpet ripped out from under you when you enter adolescence.

 I grew up a very privileged child financially - my parents both being middle class. My bills were all taken care of, and I didn't have to worry too much about the connections I would make with others in life. I was a kid. When a kid has no friends it's sad, but when an adult has no friends you wonder what they did wrong and you try to steer clear of them. There must be a reason why they are friendless: they must fetishize feet in their spare time! When you’re a child your only occupation is being a student. I’d wake up, go to school, learn stuff, socialize a bit among peers and then go home to watch TV and repeat, not questioning or overthinking the minutiae or idiosyncrasies in my life; just living day by day. Everything was smooth sailing. I figured I would hit my peak as a teenager and do all the cool teenagery things I saw on television like going to parties, making the cheerleading squad (though I’m not athletic at all; it would just happen), and have a tumultuous relationship with several boys. I’d pick the most special one to lose my virginity to on prom night! Then college would come, I’d go there and graduate and get a job. Sounds simple right!?

WRONG!

Hitting puberty was a big eye opener for me. It’s like once I menstruated my self-esteem plummeted. Everything about life just seemed a lot more competitive. There are all these milestones that society expects you to complete by certain ages: your first beer, your first kiss, your first fornication, your first job. All terrible and unfamiliar things! Now that I had bled and grown boobs, I was in the process of becoming a woman. I had to start making preparations to accomplish these milestones.

Seventh grade was the first year of my life I was depressed, and that terrible feeling hasn’t really depleted all that much since. In sixth grade I felt like a rock star… until the end of the year. I was a downright bully, mocking people in my class for the way they looked and acted. Some of my classmates found me funny, and I liked feeling that bold. I liked knowing that people were on the edge of their seats waiting for me to comment on a situation. It wasn’t until the end of the school year when one of the girls I heavily bullied called me out on my malicious means of garnering attention from my peers. She didn’t even insult me, she just spat out the truth. “You’re mean KRISTEN! You’re a BULLY!”

I can’t even explain how thrown off I felt by that mere observation. I never questioned why I did what I did; I liked the attention. I liked being someone people would be eager to hear from to know my latest outrageous comments on what surrounds us. Hearing this girl call me out for being a mean bully was a gut punch like no other. I couldn’t believe my ears. To me this girl wasn’t a person; she was a vessel. Someone to make fun of. Someone who was an easy target because she had a whole line of insults thrown her way since even before I saw her as easy prey.

No one ever downright called me out on my behavior. My dad did tell my mom that I was a horrible daughter, and he even asked who would want to have a daughter like me. But that was mostly because I was disrespectful towards him. Such a justified comment for a parent to make about his adolescent daughter right in front of her :)

That summer break I had tons of time to reflect upon my actions. I recognized how downright awful I had been to a lot of my classmates and vowed to make amends in the coming school year. I want to say, most of the bullying took place before I began menstruating, so you can blame my abhorrent behavior on my lack of emotional resonance and the fact that my womanly empathy and sympathy had not yet kicked in. That’s how I excuse how I acted.

So by seventh grade I was menstruating, and I grew D cup breasts overnight. I became a stand-up person - someone who didn’t throw vulnerable people under the bus for my own benefit. I became what you would call... “compassionate.”

Seventh grade was the year everything went downhill for me. Maybe it was the hormones kicking in and getting the better of me, or maybe it was me becoming more aware of what society deems as acceptable and proper. I felt like I should be cultivating a role in society, and I didn’t know what role to take.  I couldn’t be loud and obnoxious anymore because my victims were starting to bite back and I realized the biting back hurt me more than I could handle.

For the rest of Junior High I struggled with my transitioning into a new person. My classmates instantly recognized how much softer and kind-hearted I became. I didn’t throw around as many insults, and if I did it was just playful banter.  Me and the girl I had so savagely bullied were on decent terms, though we never really interacted with one another except for when obligatory social protocol called for it. I struggled with finding my niche again within my class. I got along with people just fine, but I suffered through a big identity crisis: I didn’t know what I could contribute without being outwardly obnoxious. I didn’t know what stereotypical personality trait defined me. Things got a bit more fucked at home for me, so that really took a toll on me mentally. I’ll get into how family influences your socialization tendencies in another post.

I’ve never wanted anything more in life other than to be liked. I know they say that not everyone’s gonna like you and that you should accept that, but I can’t! I just can’t accept it! The only way I will accept someone not liking me is if they’re completely indifferent to me, like when I have not done anything to them or in front of them to warrant them having an opinion on my character. So I keep my mouth shut. BUT THEN… I worry about what a weirdo they must think I am. If I’m too quiet then I give people the opportunity to make assumptions about me based on the impressions they have on me. They can be thinking anything, like that I watch tentacle porn, or that I collect toenail clippings or something.

I wonder if keeping my mouth shut all these years has done me more harm than good emotionally. Speaking up opens you up for attack, and I always feel like I have to be on the defensive. But when you say nothing to anyone, are you really living your life to the fullest and taking advantage of opportunities that could benefit you?

Meeting someone and getting to know them feels kind of like a step by step interrogation for me. The worst question I always get is, “What do you do?” Which I assume means “what do you do for a living?” Another one is,“Do you have a boyfriend?” It seems to me that the general public believes having a solid and steady job and being in some sort of romantic relationship completes the prerequisites for having a satisfactory life. Do these people even consider that you may be unemployed AND single? And that they’re unintentionally making you feel shitty about yourself? Just keep the convo focused on the weather for god sake. 

I started this blog to vent about my feelings. I have been journaling a lot recently to blow off some steam because it's uncomfortable to complain about this stuff in real life. Only people on the internet can understand certain problems. I don’t know if anyone’s going to read this, but I feel like social anxiety is an underrepresented disease in mainstream media. It’s embarrassing to tell people that you are anxious for your next family gathering because you don’t know if you should greet someone with a kiss on their cheek if they’re sitting down. Do I just bend down!? Should they stand up? Am I being too forward, or are they gonna be offended if I don’t make a move to embrace them? That's a whole ordeal for me. It's not what people call a “real problem” but this is the shit I think about while I lie in bed at night. So if shit similar to that wanders through your mind when you contemplate the world, maybe you can find some sort of catharsis through this blog. We may not have a very mainstream disease, but at least we’ve got each other to relate to. We’re people who find solace in reading about similar experiences we’ve experienced online. 

 Just thinking back on the fact that what jump started my anxiety issue was a small little comment made by someone whose life I made torturous. I don’t place the blame on this girl, as I just enabled her to pull the trigger on some deeper rooted issues I bore. Although it is quite the struggle I am glad that the nastier person I was eventually transformed into a more compassionate one. I never got to formally apologize to that girl. I hope I didn’t leave a big lasting impression on her. I was really shitty to her. I would reach out to her through social media and apologize, but I’ve got way too much social anxiety for that!

Well now that we’ve covered my origin story I would love to hear about all of yours. I will continue to write about various social situations or predicaments that freak me out, as well as stuff I’ve been through at home and in high school and how I’ve evolved and haven’t evolved. I don’t want this blog to be filled with negativity. Hopefully it's self-effacing in a not too depressing way. If it’s too depressing please let me know. I don’t want to spread the feeling of hopelessness with this blog. I want people to find comfort and humor, and maybe we can come up with some potential resolutions for certain scenarios and give each other tips. If there are any readers out there, thanks for reading. I hope this in some way made you smile and feel like less of an outcast. Keep trooping on! You’re not alone :)

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March 18 2020, yet another big milestone. 25 years. A quarter of a century. Is it a big deal or are numbers arbitrary and it’s the same amount of a deal as it ever has been? I can’t publish everything I’ve written down for this year without feeling guilty, but I also can’t step on no toes all the time. And now, I will also feel guilty posting this when there's a pandemic occurring, but, I am trapped at home with little to do other than edit and re-edit this writing to be suitable enough for the public. I started writing this on April 9, 2019, too early to start my 25th anniversary writing? I’ll guess not. So here it is, my yearly open letter to my mother with intermittent ramblings and poems about my experience moving though life as the person I am and my perceptions as a flawed but resilient female. It’s like if I put it out there, maybe I’ll somehow reach her and she will somehow let me know. Highs and lows, as usual. Just after 2 years off the sauce I had a bigger ‘aha moment’ than putting down any bottles, though one wouldn’t have happened without the other. I realized drinking wasn’t my real problem to begin with. It was people, and my desperate need for their acceptance and approval. My need to be recognized and valued instead of coddled and unconsciously kept in a box. My need to control the outcome of situations and stepping on toes in the process. After so long being alcohol free I came to see that I had to start living for me. In early June 2019 a dear friend turned me on to a book called CoDependent No More. In maybe a week’s time I absorbed every word, the narcissist in me was almost convinced that I’d written it myself, it resonated so deeply. The following week I started attending CoDA meetings. Now that so many of my grievances and ailments make sense, I only wish I’d known sooner that it was okay to live life with me as my number one priority. I didn’t know before that I didn’t have to feel responsible for other people’s actions or inactions, but my self worth had been dependent on it. I’m 95% sure my mother was CoDependent, and with that consideration, I’m able to understand her life choices better and therefore navigate my own with slightly better foresight. Wikipedia says “Codependency is a behavioral condition in a relationship where one person enables another person's addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement. Among the core characteristics of codependency is an excessive reliance on other people for approval and a sense of identity.” Now, that’s just one definition. There are many charastics to pick and choose from, and let me tell you, us codependents (I can only speak for myself) can be picky and choosy. Some people define codependency as a disease because if it goes untreated it only gets worse. I’m trying to break a lifetime of habits. Hi, My name is Blossom and I’m CoDependent. Every Monday night I go to a meeting where a group of women gather and we all try to work on ourselves to let go of whatever unmanageable ailments are keeping us shackled. It’s humbling and it fills me with hope. It empowers me to continuously seek change and clarity. Codependency is a tough one to recover from, as you can’t quit people. Once I had a name for this problem, every love song sounded different and every frustration made sense. I became able to recognize crazy making and slow down and see that I didn’t have control and things had become unmanageable. In doing so, I was able to step back and make better decisions for myself and my life and that’s how this whole last year unfolded more in my favor than any year previous. I worked on detaching and I started living for myself. March is a hard month for me. I sometimes feel so undeserving of a skin to be settled in. I writhe around in my persistent and annual grief. I start getting anxious in February wondering how it will appear this year. This March is particularly hard. I moved into a house with strangers and rarely stay there. I’ve got no place of my own to grieve, and with COVID-19 amongst us, I don’t want to take up any more emotional space while the world is feeling its current devestations and fears. My hopes for 2019 were to have more highs than lows, make my amends and reconciliations, and to keep my head mostly above water. And that was mostly the case. My aunt told me shortly after my post last year that my mom had self imposed low self esteem (now I recognize this as codependency). Watching home videos of her I feel like I could see stress in her face and I think about what she wrote in her journal about worry making her face look funny and how she didn’t want anyone to feel as she did. Maybe because it was a different time she felt like she couldn’t talk about her anxieties and had to bottle them up. I’m thinking about all the time I’ve spent transfixed by being a motherless daughter and trying to figure out where I fit into the word. I’m thinking about how long I spent tending to my father's bent and dusty wings, thinking I’d needed to see one of my parents fly so that I could’ve learned how it’s done. I’m in some required college to career success class that’s making me question my path, as if stress wasn’t doing that already. I’m laying in bed wishing that I’d figured out sooner that my wings were fine regardless of anyone else’s. I wish you were here so I could tell you all about everything. And so you could do the same. And so we could share the load. I quit smoking finally. Now my only vice is other people’s problems and trying to fix them to no avail. The eternal heartbreak I mentioned in my last letter makes more sense now. And the boy who told me to turn off the lights on my birthday sent me a podcast that said something about only being able to be loved as much as you’re willing to be vulnerable. And I think we’re all scared to be completely honest about how shitty we are, so we just perpetuate the shittiness and stay closed and unloveable. Early August 2019- I’m off track as usual, probably malnourished, definitely exhausted. This morning I was crying, I thought I wouldn’t be able to pull it together and that my eyes would be red when I got to my first job of the day. I think I was mourning. Things are going to change so much. I won’t have any more free time. I have to restructure everything. Which I think is what I wanted, but what a learning curve. I still have desperate hopes of creating a camp for motherless daughters someday. And it has to be accessible to all. But lord knows how far off in the future it is. At this time my feet are seldom beneath me, I’m sprinting forwards and if I stop I will stumble. I have to figure out my shit first I guess, and I’m putting in the worrrk. Or trying to at least. At a CoDA meeting a woman was talking about learning how to wield her anger, a thought that made me tremble. I liked the sound of it, as I have so much, and if we could turn it into a power, a force for good...it’d be all over. But I’m stifled by it, embarrassed of it. When I cancel plans it's usually because I’m embarrassed about how angry I am over something out of my control, and I can’t come down. Everyone was relatable, everyone seemed to be making progress, even if at this time it looked like a breakdown. They told their stories and I cringed inwardly, thinking of what I would have done in their situation. The time for change is now, I’m shaking in my boots. Some poetry and prose: My broken heart painted my world red slandering your name ensuring I’m to be seen as a fool who sobs wolf My depressed history understands every bit of where you come from like we have the same veins My logical self tells me that’s your burden to bear but I do everything I can to fabricate your crutches and excuse your bad behavior - Codependent Cowgirl Uncharmable. You only want your ex cause you think that’s where you can be yourself, but really that’s where was born the version of yourself you hate the most. Here I am standing strong, aching for my newest weakness. You’re having none of it. If I unclench my jaw and take a deep breath Tears roll down my cheeks THIS is relaxing So I tense back up And jump back into my cortisol spiral There is too much to get done to spend even one second thinking about you Six Sundays have passed since I’ve seen you last Codependency writes all my prose and all my sonnets All my pros and wilted bluebonnets - Go hard or go home Or go hard and stay at home, for forever because you thought you and your home would be each other’s salvation because home was the only thing that ever willingly invited you to change it and was better for it. But home got too heavy and home wouldn’t change on its own. And all the changes you did accomplish didn’t prove your worth. Plagued by nostalgia and sentiment Chronic grief Frozen in grief, and just when I begin to thaw, the temperature drops again Perpetually stressed What if to lose a parent as a child, is to lose the present. Because then you are trapped dreading the uncertainty of the future and wondering about a past you never knew and will never know, theirs. - Fuckless nights I unwittingly dusted off my fiddle strings and played as best as I could but you were never pleased. I was always out of tune or just off beat. -- And so let us not demonize others for our perceived shadows they cast and have casted We can’t all be deciphering your eccentric and elaborate needs when you’re shouting CUNT at the tips of your fingers and claiming to empower women while you dig in your claws to another. Chicken soup wasn’t enough to cleanse your soul. -- I think about you every day Literally nothing happens And I’m reminded of you I wake up I think of you I want to punch a wall I till the dirt I think of you I go on a date I don’t like him I think of you I let myself get so fucked up over you My rose colored glasses are shattered but I’m still wearing them I can’t bring myself to say nothing but nothing I say gets through to you I was operating out of a place Of fear I felt threatened by any number of women I’d never met and will never meet. I saw a message on your phone It confirmed my suspicions You drunkenly tried to explain it away I wanted to believe you but I had already poured the concrete and I cart it with me everywhere Slowly I’m leaving little bits here and there Becoming lighter - This week I wrestled with my codependency, Manic and exhausted from my nervous system vibrating I spent countless hours elbows deep in the dirt trying to find the root of it all An unsolvable problem parallel with reality Hard work makes me stronger Even if I can’t kill all the weeds Progress over perfection What even is progress? fuck my life. I’m no fun at this time. The doors will rot in the yard, my gut tells me just like the others. It’s not even a metaphor, just a strong probability, and a waste. Oh my god the realizations just keep rolling in. For hoarders the drama triangle isn’t just for people, but objects too. The doors must’ve been playing victim, and he’s gone to rescue them. The only corner left for me is The Persecutor. - Back in the thick Texas air Drawn to tough love From best friends to boyfriends Can’t get enough of the push and pull I’m nothing like the others I’m so much more with so much less You make me nervous But I don’t have much to lose I want to roll over and kiss you on the mouth I want reciprocation I want you to push my face away Just to kiss me on the neck You always get me with a twist We are scared of each other Collective hurt Collectively hurt We are missing something and are unable to accept ourselves and each other as we are I don’t know how you can lie to me Or how I can stick around for it For all those times you smash it right I guess Second best to you kissing my neck Is when I’m out of sight but on your mind I don’t fit in to some plan you thought you had I break the mold I’m quiet and bold We are anxious, we are stepping on each other’s toes Bite your tongue For better or for worse Things stay the same But with time, and your tongue between your teeth Eggshells are everywhere, splintered into our feet Make it up as you go along Keep the gas on I’m filling the space between my eyes and my rose colored glasses with wool - Same as ever Tongue between my teeth Lighting up another 100 out of 10 You wonder if you know me But you don’t give yourself the opportunity I’m right behind you writing my words that my teeth won’t allow my tongue to speak Desperation is such a drain Self inflicted low self esteem A familial affliction Looking like a 10 Feeling like a dud That low self esteem has me trembling And today was a good day - With a bottle of booze as his gate keeper He’ll never let me in I’m flushed, way too in my head Thinking up scenarios to catch you with your hands red bloodied from tearing my heart out and probably hers, too. - When I first quit drinking I felt this temporary empowerment, like I always had my wits about me. I could do anything. And then my codependency cloud settled back in, my intuition slipped back out the window. Now it’s like I’m in the desert, with a paddle, which makes even less sense than being upstream without one. It takes so much energy for me to state my needs. I’ve lived much of my life being brushed off and I predict rejection of my needs and so I try to suppress them and be ok with things as they are, but I need more. When I’m cancelled on, or am not prioritized, I need to be provided with alternatives or I feel insignificant. Reminders of my stated needs feel like nagging. I need reassurance. It’s exhausting and disheartening. -It’s the little things like when I ask if you want to do something and you tell me what you’re doing instead, without offering any alternative. Or when you tell me nothing. And I have visceral feelings that to inquire is to overstep and overstepping leads to termination. When I’m doing better I don’t write as much. Pain is romanticized, joy is foreign to me and perceived as fleeting. I’m trying to flip that script. Going to CoDA helps me in this effort. It reminds me that there is space for me and it's ok for me to have needs and taking care of myself should be step one in all of my endeavors. It's ok to say no. I don’t owe anyone anything, and also no one owes me anything. I’m closer than ever before to becoming the butterfly out of the cocoon, though I'm still very far, and that's okay. Progress over perfection. Now wash your hands and stay safe. If not for you, then for your loved ones, or your friends friends loved ones.

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The Simpsons Season 32 Episode 19 Review: Panic on the Streets of Springfield

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The Simpsons Season 32 Episode 19

The Simpsons Season 32, episode 19, ” Panic on the Streets of Springfield,” is one of the most pointed parodies the series has crafted in a while. It takes on pre-teen angst with the dry iced wit of an 80s anti-Brit-pop band. But it also follows a slow, sad slide into anguished irony.

I was looking for a laugh, then I found a laugh, and heaven knows I’m miserable now. My head hangs heavy with the pain of laughter. Not only does the episode strip Lisa of what appears to be perfectly suitable accompaniment for a life of lonely elitism, it also makes us all rethink Slapify. It may offer Millennial rock at Baby Boomer prices, but it teaches Lisa good taste is a curse.

The spiky haired, middle child is very picky about her music. After hating everything she hears, Slapify suggests music for people who hate everything, and the top artist is Quilloughby and his band The Snuffs. This is a stand-in for Morrissey, lead vocalist and lyricist for the Smiths, very thinly veiled behind a shroud of the Cure and Joy Division. The Snuffs’ shows have been called “A three-hour dance party in a freshly dug grave.” They made depression hummable for alienated teenagers in the 1980s. With hits like “How Late Is Then,” “What Difference Do I Make?” “Simon has a birthmark,” and “Everyone is horrid except me and possibly you,” they made parents wonder if their kids would ever get out of therapy.

The band’s sardonic brand of radical vegetarianism turned “The flesh that comes with cheese is proof of your moral disease” into an anthem. Lisa falls in love with “Hamburger Homicide,” and her descent is expertly choreographed. The lyrics are inspired sub-genre satire. “Every day I draw my bath and pray I will drown,” Quilloughby sings, and the audience gleefully wishes him the utmost success. The songs were co-written by the episode’s writer Tim Long, and Bret McKenzie of Flight of the Conchords.

Benedict Cumberbatch is sublime as Quilloughby. He brings out the true ennui behind the lyrical content. He sees Springfield as very much like his own town, “dismal, and nothing good will ever come from it.” Cumberbatch and Yeardley Smith deliver devious comic chemistry. Ralph establishes the innate self-involved, exclusivity in the brightest kid in his class. “Lisa doesn’t like it when other people talk,” he notes. So, when Quilloughby dropkicks Ned Flanders’ pileous affectations into the pews with “facial hair is not a substitute for personality,” they bond like two Sideshow Bobs.

Lisa’s lines take on the bite of an eight-year-old, “Every day you wave your wand, but nothing magical happens,” she tells the Springfield Elementary School band conductor. This pleases the nihilistic phantasm, “I enjoyed that and I enjoy nothing,” but doesn’t play well with the administration. Skinner calls in Homer and Marge over concerns Lisa has become “poetically world-weary.” This is a very Simpsons kind of observation. It cuts to the quick with a finely skewered edge of self-awareness.

The principal’s seen this before, which means he’s had an opportunity to misjudge it in the past. Skinner recognizes Lisa’s black booties as an emo cry, which he blames the current popularity of music of the past. Music is an easy scapegoat on The Simpsons. “Making teenagers depressed is like shooting fish in a barrel,” Bart observed in the “Homerpalooza” episode from 1996.

Bart is having his own problems with Lisa’s new friend, though he is clueless, a perennial problem he usually skateboards around. Bart believes he’s “the drumstick in the chicken bucket” he calls his friends and therein lies his destruction. Nelson plays right into it: of course he stays up night thinking of how fresh Bart keeps those old tired pranks.

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The school bully gets in quite a few good lines, which push the narrative. He dismisses the lunch special tacos’ meatless replacement because “mushrooms are chairs for frogs.” When he hears there are little pieces of bacon between the Shiitake, he almost tearfully exclaims “this taco had a mom.” This perfectly encapsulates Lisa’s dilemma. The entire school laughs as Lisa, even Miss Hoover, who has probably been waiting for this moment.

Dr. Hibbert is now voiced by Kevin Michael Richardson, who has been playing smaller roles since 2009. Tonight, the affable physician ladles out bad news to Homer. His sugar is up, and his testosterone is down. Homer now has to face harsh realities. Something he has historically run away from, usually shrieking. He will never get to be an NFL quarterback who is really an international superspy. Hibbert prescribes a drug, but Homer gets hooked on the commercial he has to sit through before listening to instructions. There are only two things the real men of Springfield believe can boost manliness: weapons and trucks, and guns don’t come with ultimate torque. The triple XL 550 won’t be found in any medical journals, but reading journals is one of the leading causes of lowered testosterone.

Marge is a different person this episode. She’s not out of character, and reacts wholly within the defined role, but she is uncharacteristically hard-lined. This is the first time she is not an enabler. She has zero tolerance for the triple XL 550. One of best visual sequences is when we see Marge banging her head against the wall in its infrared. Not only does she force Homer to accept she’s more a truck guy than he’ll ever be, spouting the definition of torque, but tells him she’s “dealing with an actual problem.” Marge also makes Lisa swallow her bitter pill in a very familiar way. One of the earliest episodes dealt with sadness and music, and the saddest kid in grade two fought for her right to sorrow then too.  

Though Quilloughby is credited as the product of Lisa’s fractured psyche, he’s really more like Jojo Rabbit’s imaginary friend slumming on Evergreen Terrace. In his lifelong quest to disconnect with society, Morrissey went from the Socialist Red Wedge to the Great Replacement Theory. Watching Lisa lose her idealized relationship slowly dissemble actually softens the blow we should get from the reveal. She’d already begged Quilloughby “don’t ruin it,” so I won’t spoil the ending, but it would have been more devastating to have Winston Churchill surrender without warning.

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I know there is nothing more tiresome than gratitude, but “Panic on the Streets of Springfield” appreciably defies expectations. The Simpsons is on a roll this season, mixing light comedy with deeper character developments. Arcs have sunk into darker areas, and the conclusions consistently temper the sweetness with subversive ambiguity. Tonight, Lisa learns she should listen to people, one out of five times, and her mother will always be waiting on the other end of her slammed door. Marge lets Homer keep truckin’. The episode is surprisingly warm, and almost depressingly funny.

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Because I saw this post from @twilight-deviant​, about if how if Flynn had saved his family, he’d return to a reality where none of the adventure had happened, the time team didn’t know each other, and Lucy didn’t know him, and immediately had to write the thing, for reasons (I hope that is ok!). Tagging @extasiswings​ as well because she is an enabler, and because if this becomes a multi-chapter, it will be entirely her fault.

February 20, 2017

Palo Alto, California

Lucy Preston pushes through the office door with her hip, because her arms are full of books, binders, half-marked papers, a catalogue from the bridal shop that Noah wants her to take a look at, and her purse, car keys, and the memo she just picked up from the front desk at the history department. Her tenure meeting has finally been scheduled, six weeks from now. Trust the chucklefucks to give her a short deadline, but she’s had most of this prepared for the past two years anyway. University politics are always a merry-go-round of emailing people, emailing the people they put you in touch with, pestering them to answer their email, emailing them to answer their email, and then discovering at the last minute that the class they timetabled you in for the fall is, whoops, happening in spring instead, and so forth – but Lucy feels vindicated. She’s been working for this her whole career, and now it’s finally happening. She just hopes Mom hangs on long enough to see it – and for that matter, her wedding. The last reports from the doctor, well. . . the words “end of life care” and “memorial arrangements” came up. This is a lot, but Lucy thinks she’s handling it. Most days.

She dumps the avalanche on her desk and boots up her computer, sifting through the stack of papers with her free hand. Logs onto her stanford.edu email, where there are 125 unread messages waiting. It’s only been a weekend, but for some reason it feels as if she’s been away much longer. She woke up feeling strange this morning. Broke down in the shower, for no reason. Noah was comforting, said it was just nerves, expected with everything – the wedding, her mom, tenure worries. Probably was.

Probably was.

Lucy frowns, then shakes herself. Deletes the spam from the fraudster academic publishers and the nineteen thousand “Campus Events” circulars, politely replies to the dozen students in her lecture who somehow cannot find the reading (the book is in the bookstore, or likely available free online as a pirated .pdf), debates whether to send her half-dozenth email to the tiny local archive in Illinois that she’s been bugging to let her into their Lincoln papers (she can probably wrangle a minor research stipend from the department – enough to cover a plane ticket, at least), and decides that no, she is definitely not brave enough to check her bank account. Tries to calculate whether the due dates for various bills have passed – internet, phone, gas, car insurance – and no academic gets into it for the money. As a junior professor, she’s definitely not making it rain, and Noah’s not making gigabucks as a doctor just yet either. Especially in this real estate market. The two of them, with their combined professional incomes, can just about afford to rent a nice closet. Lucy was – still is – living at her mom’s house a lot, but she really needed somewhere to escape to. Her own place. It feels like she needs to get away.

She’s just vainly hoping she may have time to do some actual research this morning, before she has to run to the library and print out her lecture handouts for tomorrow, when there’s a knock on her door. “Dr. Preston?”

“Yeah?” Lucy says, opening up her PowerPoint to make the edit she thought of last night washing the dishes. “Office hours aren’t until 1pm, can you – ”

“Sorry.” It’s one of the grad assistants. “There’s someone who wants to see you. Out in the foyer. Do you have a meeting this morning?”

“No, I don’t.” Lucy frowns. “Are you sure they’re looking for me?”

“They – well – he – seemed pretty sure. Lucy Preston, history and anthropology of American political movements, 450 Serra Mall, Building 200, Stanford University. I asked him if he was doing a project or something and he said no. Do you know a Flynn? Garcia Flynn. I think he’s European.”

“No,” Lucy says again, unsettled and confused as to why she had a momentary impulse to say yes. She isn’t exactly a big enough fish in the academic world to have people randomly turn up begging to consult her or take advantage of her expertise, and they usually email in advance anyway. It’s possible she lost it among the nightmare of her inbox, yes, but this is still strange. This also isn’t the kind of profession where you get crazy fans. Unless he saw her article in the American Historical Review in January, and just had to drive all the way out to Palo Alto to tell her how much he liked it (or hated it, you never know).

This is all weird, is the point, and it isn’t helping Lucy’s strange disjoint. But while the smart thing to do would be to insist that Garcia Flynn, whoever he is, is mistaken and send him packing on his way, she hesitates, then decides that the handouts can wait. She doesn’t have anything last-minute on her plate, and her curiosity is piqued. She logs out, puts her computer to sleep, and follows the graduate assistant out into the sunny hall.

Garcia Flynn, or so she assumes he is, is standing correctly at attention like a soldier on parade, watched intently by a few of the student services officers. The first thing Lucy notices is that he’s tall – six-three, six-four – and dark-haired, with a strange, intent stillness like the world moves differently around him. He’s wearing a black suit and tie and a black overcoat, making him look like he came from a convention of either morticians or accountants, and he turns with an odd expression on his face. “Lucy.”

“I’m sorry.” He’s not holding out his hand as if he expects to be introduced, and Lucy doesn’t offer hers either. “Do we know each other?”

He smiles, half to himself, as if that is either a funny question, or the worst thing he’s ever been asked. “We used to.” His accent is, as the GA said, European of some sort. Foreign intelligence service? Or domestic? Lucy doesn’t think she qualifies as an enemy of the state, but then again, with He-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named in office, maybe they’re cracking down on the academics now. “Recently.”

“I. . . I don’t think so, sir.” Lucy feels further unsettled – and yet, though perhaps she should, not afraid. “I’ll be happy to point you to whoever in the department you’re looking for, but I don’t think that’s – ”

“Can we meet for coffee? This afternoon, if you’re free. I promise, one hour of your time, that’s all I ask. Then I’ll be gone, and you never have to see me again.” He has an unsettlingly direct way of looking at her. “I would very much appreciate it, Lucy.”

“I. . .” Innate politeness, the impulse to say, yes, of course, let me check my calendar, wrestles with the fact that this is completely inexplicable. But if nothing else, historians love a good mystery. It’s possible he’s planning to duct-tape her and throw her into the back of a van, but he probably wouldn’t ask straight out if he was, or plot to stage her abduction in a busy public place. “I suppose I can spare an hour. I’m free for the rest of the morning. Campus Starbucks?”

“Wherever you want.” He inclines his head. “Thank you.”

Lucy pauses, then goes to get her coat. She didn’t have time to grab breakfast this morning, so if nothing else, it will be a decent opportunity to get a bite to eat. If he does turn into a kidnapper, she can scream; security services will take care of the rest. She pulls it on, locks her office, and gestures to him. “Right, come on.”

They take the elevator down and step out onto campus, which is busy with its usual currents of students, bicycles whizzing by; one of them nearly rides into Lucy, and Garcia Flynn reaches out automatically to grab her arm, pulling her back. It’s a surprisingly forward gesture from a man she met five minutes ago, and Lucy disentangles herself. “I’m fine. I’ve got this.”

He pauses, considering her. Almost as if he’s looking for something, testing for some kind of reaction. Then he nods again. “Yes,” he says. “I suppose you do.”

They reach the Starbucks and join the typically lengthy midmorning queue, finally order their drinks – he pays, which is considerate of him, since he dragged her out of her workday and all – and jostle through the tables to find an unoccupied one in the corner. By now, Lucy would really like some answers. “Are you some kind of government agent? For. . . I don’t know who? I don’t know what I’m supposed to have done, but if so, I want a law – ”

He utters a short, dry laugh. “If I was interrogating you, Lucy, I assure you, I would not have bought you a latte and a croissant beforehand.”

“So are you? Government?”

He shrugs. “Do I look like it?”

“You look like something.”

He shrugs again, as if to say that he supposes he can’t deny that. He drinks a single espresso, straight, black and strong. “It would take too long to explain what I am.”

“Try me.”

Again, that look he gives her, straight to the back of her head. Then he turns and pulls the San Francisco Chronicle off the newsstand, opening it and pointing to an article about Mason Industries, one of the thousand high-tech aeronautics engineering companies around here. There’s a group picture, something they’re launching. Second from the left, a black guy with a gap-toothed grin and a MIT sweatshirt. According to the caption, he’s Rufus Carlin, project consultant. “Do you,” Garcia Flynn says, “know him?”

“No?” Lucy is starting to wonder if this was in fact a mistake, latte or otherwise. This man is clearly not right in the head. Still, though, it almost makes her. . . sad. “We’ve never met.”

“Ah.” Flynn folds up the paper and puts it back. “Yes,” he says, half to himself. “You wouldn’t have, would you?”

“Care to cut out the Tall, Dark, and Cryptic act, and give me some answers?”

“As I said. None of it would make sense. But I have to tell you anyway. I took the information you gave me. I went back and killed the men who killed my family. They’re. . . here. Alive. But it’s not the same as it was. They think I’ve just been gone for three years – and I have, more than I can ever explain. Lorena thinks I just left one day and didn’t come back. Iris – ”

He stops. Whatever he was about to say is clearly too painful to go on, and Lucy, despite the fact that absolutely no part of this makes the remotest bit of sense, feels her heart twist. “I’m sorry,” she says, with no idea what she’s comforting him for. “But I didn’t give you any information.”

“Let’s just agree that you don’t have the full story, Lucy.” He speaks calmly, but with an edge of irritation. “Yes?”

Lucy’s hand clenches on her drink. She doesn’t have to sit here and subject herself to this escapee from the mental asylum, can get up and tell him to stick it. But there was still that sense this morning, this entire day, that something is missing, and very much against her better judgment, she stays in her chair. “If I don’t,” she says at last, almost a whisper, “tell me.”

“I can’t. It makes no sense.” He looks frustrated. “I told you once that after I saved them, I would leave, because I could no longer be their husband and father after what I’ve done. And now I return to a world where they never died, where I never became a wanted terrorist, never stole the Mothership, and so you and I never met – or the other two, for that matter. You can tell Rufus I’m sorry about Chicago – but then. As you said. You don’t know him.”

Lucy keeps staring at him. As strange, as utterly cracked as this sounds, she is almost starting, or so she thinks, to get what he thinks, in his deluded little brain, is going on here. Some kind of alternate-universe, parallel-existence BS, where some version of her met some version of him, and they – well, she’s still completely lost on what they were supposed to be doing, but at least it explains why he’s so insistent that they know each other. “Do I. . . know you?” she asks again, slowly. Hesitantly. “Were we friends?”

“No,” he says quietly. “We weren’t friends.”

She wants to dispute that, the same impulse to reassure anyone selling themselves short, but instead he reaches into his jacket pocket and pulls out a thumb drive. “Here,” he says. “Your journal doesn’t exist anymore, because you never had any reason to write it, but I did my best. You gave my world back, the least I can do is return the favor. I wrote down as much as I could think of, what happened. Look at it. You don’t have to see me again.”

Stunned, Lucy takes it by reflex. “This – ”

“Be careful, Lucy,” he says, still more quietly. “It’s not going to be easy to open that box. I don’t blame you if you don’t want to. Your life now is a lie – ” he shrugs a third time, that expression of trying to communicate that he doesn’t care, it’s nothing to him, when she can tell that he does, more than anything – “but not one you’d have any way of easily disproving. And not one that would hurt you, perhaps, to stay in. But if the time comes when you want answers, at least you’ll have them.”

Lucy opens and shuts her mouth. Nothing comes out.

“And as I said. You don’t have to see me again.” He finishes his espresso, puts the demitasse cup on the saucer. “I’m not sure where I’m going to go just yet. It’s. . . being the only one who remembers, it’s. . . it’s not something I’d wish on my worst enemy. And believe me, I know what it means to say that. You used to, once.”

“Garcia – ” This is the most surreal half-hour of her life, and yet Lucy can’t help but feel sorry for him. She leans forward, putting a hand over his as he seems to be ready to get up and leave, and his eyes flare with shock. “I’m sorry, all right? I hope you do find what you’re looking for.”

He looks at her. As if – and this, of course, is utterly not what it is, but she thinks it for a second anyway – it’s sitting in front of him right now, and because there is no other choice, not even the remote dream of one, he will get up and walk away forever. As if whatever he lost the first time, he knew all along there was no going back, and he has burned his bridge to a second chance. Their eyes flick to her hand on his, and a constrained shudder moves through him, as if the fact that she’s touching him gently and sympathetically proves once and for all that she truly does have no idea who he is. Wryly he says, “You’ve never called me that before.”

Lucy wants to point out that she’s never called him anything, since they don’t know each other, but arguing him out of this elaborate and complicated delusion would take more time than she has, and she senses somehow that it’s all he has left. His eyes flicker to the diamond engagement ring on her finger. “I’m taking it,” he says, “that’s not from the idiot?”

“What? Noah? Do you know Noah too?”

“No. I don’t.” He keeps looking at her. She really wishes he’d stop, or at least that he’d blink, or something, anything would break this spell. And at the same time, as insane as he is, and insane as all this is, it is the only thing that feels solid or centered or real, as if he’s drawn her into that slightly altered reality around him, where time moves slower, where the world is bent that just bit different, where the odd ache in her chest is gone, and it –

Well.

It makes sense.

She almost wants to tell him not to leave, when thirty minutes earlier, she couldn’t wait to get rid of him. They stare at each other over the table, their silence straining even over the bustle of the coffee shop, until he finally clears his throat. “I’ll walk you back to your office?”

“Ah. Yes, of course.” Lucy distractedly crams the last bit of her croissant into her mouth, chews, washes it down with a few slugs of her lukewarm latte, and gets to her feet. They head out and walk back toward the history department, as she finds herself dawdling, dragging her steps, wanting a few more moments around him. “So, are you going to be in Palo Alto long?”

“No. Just for today.” He smiles, but it doesn’t reach his eyes. “As I said, I wanted to tell you that it was done. I destroyed the Mothership, by the way. Rittenhouse won’t get hold of it, but. . .” He pauses, as if trying to decide what else to tell her. “I can’t guarantee that Mason Industries won’t invent a new one. Then maybe this will get a chance to happen after all. Who knows.”

“You have to know,” Lucy says gently, “none of this means anything to me.”

“No,” he says again. His eyes are very far away. Perhaps it’s her imagination that he too is delaying this last parting (last parting? That sounds dark and tragic and damaging, as if he’s a part of her soul she can’t send away, and not just an eccentric stranger she charitably had a coffee with for a few minutes this morning) as long as he can, his last connection to any world he knew, any chance of understanding what’s going to happen to him next. As if when he says she won’t see him again, he means it in a way she can’t even possibly imagine.

They reach the history building and walk up to her office. “So,” Lucy says at last. “That was. . . well, I don’t know exactly, but. . . I hope you find some peace, all right?” Moved by a sudden impulse, she reaches out and squeezes his hand. “If you’re back in town, let’s have coffee again.”

“I won’t bother you.” His large fingers curl briefly around hers, as if pressing an ungiven kiss into her palm. “I wish you the best. Goodbye, Lucy.”

And with that, he inclines his head again. Pulls up the collar of his overcoat, and turns around, striding out of the office, the door shutting behind him. As she stands there, tempted to ask someone if they actually saw him, or if she’s just been conversing with herself this whole time in true cracked-academic, Beautiful Mind-style. As if he is indeed a visitor from a parallel reality briefly intruding on her own, one of those inexplicable incidents that you tell as a good story at a cocktail party. And there is certainly no reason for her chest to ache as much as it does. As if her heart was whole for a few beats, and now with him, and whatever life he thinks she belonged to, taken from her again, it’s fractured back into pieces.

Lucy closes her fingers around the flash drive he gave her. She doesn’t want to read his bizarre manifesto. It would be best to throw it out, not have it sit there, tempting.

Would be best.

She goes inside to her office. Opens up her email again, tries to concentrate. Still so much to do. There always is. Wedding. Mom. Tenure. It repeats in her head like an echoing, endless litany.

Her phone buzzes. It’s a text from Noah.  Hey beautiful! How’s my favorite historian doing? On my lunch – miss you. Hope Monday isn’t too bad. See you tonight. Xoxo.

Lucy stares at it for a long moment, fiddling with the ring on her finger. I’m taking it that isn’t from the idiot, Garcia Flynn’s voice whispers.

Lucy gets up, closes her office door. Sits down in her chair, leans her head into her hands, and silently, thoroughly, savagely, with no idea who or what she is even grieving, begins to sob.

[andrewdburton]

How To Be Productive While Stuck At Home

[Transcribed and adapted from the YouTube video: ‘How To Be Productive While Working From Home’]

Key Takeaways

Accept reality as it is and prioritize what’s important to you in the short-term

Build new routines that encourage productivity at home

Develop techniques that create proper work-from-home and life balance

Productivity apps should never replace productive habits and routines

We are going to talk about schedules and how to be productive while we’re all at home. I’ve been working from home for about 20 years. And I want to talk to you about my schedule before coronavirus and I want to talk to you about how it’s changed. 

There are many people who are working from home for the first time and countless people whose schedules have been completely disrupted since the pandemic started. 

My old schedule used to be: I would wake up around 6:00 AM and have a leisurely morning until about 9:00 AM when I’d start my creative work. Around noon, my meetings would start—calls, project management, and other meetings. Around 4:30 PM or 5:00 PM I would wrap up, 5:30 PM I’d go to the gym. That was my usual schedule. I’d be asleep by around 10:00 PM.

Since the pandemic, my schedule is: wake up at 7:00 AM (about an hour later than normal). Most of my creative work happens in the morning and calls happen later. Today was the first day I went to work out and it wasn’t the best workout, but it was the workout that I could get. What’s kept me on track is what I’m about to share with you so you can be more productive at home or continue to be productive. 

Bonus:If the COVID-19 pandemic has you worried about money, check out my free Coronavirus Proofing your Finances guide and protect your money during this pandemic!

Accept Change and Find Out What Works Now

Things have changed. But, you need to figure out what works for you now. In my schedule, I’m sleeping a little more. I’m watching at least an hour more of TV per day. I’m on social media more. It’s okay to stretch a little bit and loosen up on the normally rigorous schedule. 

But, I know that there are a few things and routines that are important to me, so I want to make sure that I figure those out. That’s point one: accept change, but figure out what works now. If you need to wake up an hour later or need to watch a little bit more mindless reality TV, do what you need to do to keep yourself sane. Pick those things in your day-to-day that are important to you and find a way to fit them in. That’s number one. 

Build New Routines when Working from Home

I got an email, recently, from someone who said, “I want to know about building new routines because I’ve heard so many people say that, if I just had time, I would learn a language… I would read Shakespeare… I would do all this stuff. And now that I have time, I’m not doing any of it.”

It’s completely normal to feel that way, and if you ask any retiree, they’ll tell you, “Oh, I had a long litany of things I was going to do when I retired. Now, my day consists of going to eat brunch and then going for a walk. And that’s a good day.”

Now that’s fine for some people, but even though there are things going on outside that we can’t control, I always want to focus on the things that I can control. Watching the news or scrolling endlessly through Twitter? That’s not the most productive use of time. So I have a couple of suggestions and things that I’m doing to implement new, constructive routines.  

Learn something new

First, build a new routine for learning. If you were going to build learning into your routine, what would it be? How many people here have talked about wanting to learn a new language one day? Maybe that day is today. Maybe you join some language program, do it online. Sign up for an online class, learn a new language or a new skill.

Make time for relationships

The second thing is to build a new routine for relationships. We can’t go out and see our family and friends like we used to, and that can really put a lot of stress on ourselves. But, it’s so important to maintain these relationships and bake in time to talk to friends and family. Text and FaceTime everybody.  Next up, get a bunch of friends together on Zoom, almost like a house party, but virtual. These are the kinds of things that we need to do for our routine, for our relationships.

Bonus: Having more than one stream of income can help you through tough economic times. Learn how to start earning money on the side with my FREE Ultimate Guide to Making Money

Take pride in the little victories

Did you know that as I was growing up, my mom taught us every day how to make our beds? There is beauty in simplicity, and it can be so helpful in maintaining productive, long-lasting routines. Try these different routines that celebrate the simple: 

Brewing fresh coffee 

Making your bed

Performing hygienic rituals at times you normally would during the workweek

Actually get dressed, don’t wear pajamas every day

Planning and cooking meals

Finding ways to get exercise inside the house or in low-populated outdoor areas

If you want to become a morning person, now’s the perfect time

Think about one routine just for you. Overall, the key is to accept what’s going on outside and remember that we can only focus on what we can control.

Find ways to be of service

So the third one is to serve someone else. I believe that every single person has something we can do to help someone else, and I’m willing to bet each and every one of us can help someone. When I was a kid, my mom used to take us to retirement homes and we would play piano for them. 

What if you called up an elderly care or nursing home in your neighborhood and said, “Can I talk to someone there for 15 minutes?” Do you think someone would be there and be welcoming to a call? Yes. 

There are so many ways that we can help people. And, right now, there’s a lot of elderly people who can’t even get groceries. So I would say every one of us has something that we can do right now to help other people. Community service would be something that I would build into our schedule.

Working From Home Versus Self-Care

What percentage of the day do you devote to work and what percentage to self-care? 

Self-care, for me, is a leisurely morning, right? I don’t want to be rushed in the morning. Self-care for me is working out, being able to text friends whenever I have the chance, and enjoying the little things. 

People traditionally think about massages and things when they hear “self-care.” That’s why I think whether it’s serving someone or building a routine just for you, you’ve got to find something that’s going to give you energy during these times. A percentage is a weird way to think about working from home versus self-care, so I’d say that make sure you’re doing enough things that give you energy or sustain you and you’ll find that happy balance between work and life. 

Another step you can take to promote work-life balance at home  is to carve out your own workspace. Find a spot in your home, apartment, or wherever you live and dedicate a certain portion of it to your work. Our homes can be super cozy, and Netflix is right there. But, if you dedicate yourself to a workspace, you can get more stuff done and turn your brain off of work mode easier.

Productivity Apps—Do They Work?

I think productivity apps are highly overrated, just like personal finance apps. 

I use a calendar and email, but productivity is not about apps. It’s about psychology and boundaries. It’s deciding what’s important to you and building the systems into your life. Apps are irrelevant. Yes, a reminder five minutes before a meeting is fine, but don’t focus on apps. No magical app is going to save you. It’s about getting clear-minded and then finding the personal systems that enable your productivity.

Bonus: If you’re worried about your personal finances, you can improve them without even leaving your couch. Check out my Ultimate Guide to Personal Finance for tips you can implement TODAY.

Live a Productive Life at Home

Remember, you get the chance to reinvent yourself right now. As much bad stuff as there is happening outside, we can only control what we focus on. We can only focus on what we can control. 

Sometimes, all we can do is live day by day, and that’s enough. Don’t be too hard on yourself if you don’t come out the other side of this pandemic like a Renaissance person. If there are days where you must focus on simple truths and routines, that’s okay. 

So, I’m hoping as much as possible that things get better outside and that we can focus on things that we can control and build new routines and mindsets that work for us. Accept that things have changed, figure out the important things, and prioritize it.

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[kennethherrerablog]

How To Be Productive While Stuck At Home

[Transcribed and adapted from the YouTube video: ‘How To Be Productive While Working From Home’]

Key Takeaways

Accept reality as it is and prioritize what’s important to you in the short-term

Build new routines that encourage productivity at home

Develop techniques that create proper work-from-home and life balance

Productivity apps should never replace productive habits and routines

We are going to talk about schedules and how to be productive while we’re all at home. I’ve been working from home for about 20 years. And I want to talk to you about my schedule before coronavirus and I want to talk to you about how it’s changed. 

There are many people who are working from home for the first time and countless people whose schedules have been completely disrupted since the pandemic started. 

My old schedule used to be: I would wake up around 6:00 AM and have a leisurely morning until about 9:00 AM when I’d start my creative work. Around noon, my meetings would start—calls, project management, and other meetings. Around 4:30 PM or 5:00 PM I would wrap up, 5:30 PM I’d go to the gym. That was my usual schedule. I’d be asleep by around 10:00 PM.

Since the pandemic, my schedule is: wake up at 7:00 AM (about an hour later than normal). Most of my creative work happens in the morning and calls happen later. Today was the first day I went to work out and it wasn’t the best workout, but it was the workout that I could get. What’s kept me on track is what I’m about to share with you so you can be more productive at home or continue to be productive. 

Bonus:If the COVID-19 pandemic has you worried about money, check out my free Coronavirus Proofing your Finances guide and protect your money during this pandemic!

Accept Change and Find Out What Works Now

Things have changed. But, you need to figure out what works for you now. In my schedule, I’m sleeping a little more. I’m watching at least an hour more of TV per day. I’m on social media more. It’s okay to stretch a little bit and loosen up on the normally rigorous schedule. 

But, I know that there are a few things and routines that are important to me, so I want to make sure that I figure those out. That’s point one: accept change, but figure out what works now. If you need to wake up an hour later or need to watch a little bit more mindless reality TV, do what you need to do to keep yourself sane. Pick those things in your day-to-day that are important to you and find a way to fit them in. That’s number one. 

Build New Routines when Working from Home

I got an email, recently, from someone who said, “I want to know about building new routines because I’ve heard so many people say that, if I just had time, I would learn a language… I would read Shakespeare… I would do all this stuff. And now that I have time, I’m not doing any of it.”

It’s completely normal to feel that way, and if you ask any retiree, they’ll tell you, “Oh, I had a long litany of things I was going to do when I retired. Now, my day consists of going to eat brunch and then going for a walk. And that’s a good day.”

Now that’s fine for some people, but even though there are things going on outside that we can’t control, I always want to focus on the things that I can control. Watching the news or scrolling endlessly through Twitter? That’s not the most productive use of time. So I have a couple of suggestions and things that I’m doing to implement new, constructive routines.  

Learn something new

First, build a new routine for learning. If you were going to build learning into your routine, what would it be? How many people here have talked about wanting to learn a new language one day? Maybe that day is today. Maybe you join some language program, do it online. Sign up for an online class, learn a new language or a new skill.

Make time for relationships

The second thing is to build a new routine for relationships. We can’t go out and see our family and friends like we used to, and that can really put a lot of stress on ourselves. But, it’s so important to maintain these relationships and bake in time to talk to friends and family. Text and FaceTime everybody.  Next up, get a bunch of friends together on Zoom, almost like a house party, but virtual. These are the kinds of things that we need to do for our routine, for our relationships.

Bonus: Having more than one stream of income can help you through tough economic times. Learn how to start earning money on the side with my FREE Ultimate Guide to Making Money

Take pride in the little victories

Did you know that as I was growing up, my mom taught us every day how to make our beds? There is beauty in simplicity, and it can be so helpful in maintaining productive, long-lasting routines. Try these different routines that celebrate the simple: 

Brewing fresh coffee 

Making your bed

Performing hygienic rituals at times you normally would during the workweek

Actually get dressed, don’t wear pajamas every day

Planning and cooking meals

Finding ways to get exercise inside the house or in low-populated outdoor areas

If you want to become a morning person, now’s the perfect time

Think about one routine just for you. Overall, the key is to accept what’s going on outside and remember that we can only focus on what we can control.

Find ways to be of service

So the third one is to serve someone else. I believe that every single person has something we can do to help someone else, and I’m willing to bet each and every one of us can help someone. When I was a kid, my mom used to take us to retirement homes and we would play piano for them. 

What if you called up an elderly care or nursing home in your neighborhood and said, “Can I talk to someone there for 15 minutes?” Do you think someone would be there and be welcoming to a call? Yes. 

There are so many ways that we can help people. And, right now, there’s a lot of elderly people who can’t even get groceries. So I would say every one of us has something that we can do right now to help other people. Community service would be something that I would build into our schedule.

Working From Home Versus Self-Care

What percentage of the day do you devote to work and what percentage to self-care? 

Self-care, for me, is a leisurely morning, right? I don’t want to be rushed in the morning. Self-care for me is working out, being able to text friends whenever I have the chance, and enjoying the little things. 

People traditionally think about massages and things when they hear “self-care.” That’s why I think whether it’s serving someone or building a routine just for you, you’ve got to find something that’s going to give you energy during these times. A percentage is a weird way to think about working from home versus self-care, so I’d say that make sure you’re doing enough things that give you energy or sustain you and you’ll find that happy balance between work and life. 

Another step you can take to promote work-life balance at home  is to carve out your own workspace. Find a spot in your home, apartment, or wherever you live and dedicate a certain portion of it to your work. Our homes can be super cozy, and Netflix is right there. But, if you dedicate yourself to a workspace, you can get more stuff done and turn your brain off of work mode easier.

Productivity Apps—Do They Work?

I think productivity apps are highly overrated, just like personal finance apps. 

I use a calendar and email, but productivity is not about apps. It’s about psychology and boundaries. It’s deciding what’s important to you and building the systems into your life. Apps are irrelevant. Yes, a reminder five minutes before a meeting is fine, but don’t focus on apps. No magical app is going to save you. It’s about getting clear-minded and then finding the personal systems that enable your productivity.

Bonus: If you’re worried about your personal finances, you can improve them without even leaving your couch. Check out my Ultimate Guide to Personal Finance for tips you can implement TODAY.

Live a Productive Life at Home

Remember, you get the chance to reinvent yourself right now. As much bad stuff as there is happening outside, we can only control what we focus on. We can only focus on what we can control. 

Sometimes, all we can do is live day by day, and that’s enough. Don’t be too hard on yourself if you don’t come out the other side of this pandemic like a Renaissance person. If there are days where you must focus on simple truths and routines, that’s okay. 

So, I’m hoping as much as possible that things get better outside and that we can focus on things that we can control and build new routines and mindsets that work for us. Accept that things have changed, figure out the important things, and prioritize it.

How To Be Productive While Stuck At Home is a post from: I Will Teach You To Be Rich.

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[paulckrueger]

How To Be Productive While Stuck At Home

[Transcribed and adapted from the YouTube video: ‘How To Be Productive While Working From Home’]

Key Takeaways

Accept reality as it is and prioritize what’s important to you in the short-term

Build new routines that encourage productivity at home

Develop techniques that create proper work-from-home and life balance

Productivity apps should never replace productive habits and routines

We are going to talk about schedules and how to be productive while we’re all at home. I’ve been working from home for about 20 years. And I want to talk to you about my schedule before coronavirus and I want to talk to you about how it’s changed. 

There are many people who are working from home for the first time and countless people whose schedules have been completely disrupted since the pandemic started. 

My old schedule used to be: I would wake up around 6:00 AM and have a leisurely morning until about 9:00 AM when I’d start my creative work. Around noon, my meetings would start—calls, project management, and other meetings. Around 4:30 PM or 5:00 PM I would wrap up, 5:30 PM I’d go to the gym. That was my usual schedule. I’d be asleep by around 10:00 PM.

Since the pandemic, my schedule is: wake up at 7:00 AM (about an hour later than normal). Most of my creative work happens in the morning and calls happen later. Today was the first day I went to work out and it wasn’t the best workout, but it was the workout that I could get. What’s kept me on track is what I’m about to share with you so you can be more productive at home or continue to be productive. 

Bonus:If the COVID-19 pandemic has you worried about money, check out my free Coronavirus Proofing your Finances guide and protect your money during this pandemic!

Accept Change and Find Out What Works Now

Things have changed. But, you need to figure out what works for you now. In my schedule, I’m sleeping a little more. I’m watching at least an hour more of TV per day. I’m on social media more. It’s okay to stretch a little bit and loosen up on the normally rigorous schedule. 

But, I know that there are a few things and routines that are important to me, so I want to make sure that I figure those out. That’s point one: accept change, but figure out what works now. If you need to wake up an hour later or need to watch a little bit more mindless reality TV, do what you need to do to keep yourself sane. Pick those things in your day-to-day that are important to you and find a way to fit them in. That’s number one. 

Build New Routines when Working from Home

I got an email, recently, from someone who said, “I want to know about building new routines because I’ve heard so many people say that, if I just had time, I would learn a language… I would read Shakespeare… I would do all this stuff. And now that I have time, I’m not doing any of it.”

It’s completely normal to feel that way, and if you ask any retiree, they’ll tell you, “Oh, I had a long litany of things I was going to do when I retired. Now, my day consists of going to eat brunch and then going for a walk. And that’s a good day.”

Now that’s fine for some people, but even though there are things going on outside that we can’t control, I always want to focus on the things that I can control. Watching the news or scrolling endlessly through Twitter? That’s not the most productive use of time. So I have a couple of suggestions and things that I’m doing to implement new, constructive routines.  

Learn something new

First, build a new routine for learning. If you were going to build learning into your routine, what would it be? How many people here have talked about wanting to learn a new language one day? Maybe that day is today. Maybe you join some language program, do it online. Sign up for an online class, learn a new language or a new skill.

Make time for relationships

The second thing is to build a new routine for relationships. We can’t go out and see our family and friends like we used to, and that can really put a lot of stress on ourselves. But, it’s so important to maintain these relationships and bake in time to talk to friends and family. Text and FaceTime everybody.  Next up, get a bunch of friends together on Zoom, almost like a house party, but virtual. These are the kinds of things that we need to do for our routine, for our relationships.

Bonus: Having more than one stream of income can help you through tough economic times. Learn how to start earning money on the side with my FREE Ultimate Guide to Making Money

Take pride in the little victories

Did you know that as I was growing up, my mom taught us every day how to make our beds? There is beauty in simplicity, and it can be so helpful in maintaining productive, long-lasting routines. Try these different routines that celebrate the simple: 

Brewing fresh coffee 

Making your bed

Performing hygienic rituals at times you normally would during the workweek

Actually get dressed, don’t wear pajamas every day

Planning and cooking meals

Finding ways to get exercise inside the house or in low-populated outdoor areas

If you want to become a morning person, now’s the perfect time

Think about one routine just for you. Overall, the key is to accept what’s going on outside and remember that we can only focus on what we can control.

Find ways to be of service

So the third one is to serve someone else. I believe that every single person has something we can do to help someone else, and I’m willing to bet each and every one of us can help someone. When I was a kid, my mom used to take us to retirement homes and we would play piano for them. 

What if you called up an elderly care or nursing home in your neighborhood and said, “Can I talk to someone there for 15 minutes?” Do you think someone would be there and be welcoming to a call? Yes. 

There are so many ways that we can help people. And, right now, there’s a lot of elderly people who can’t even get groceries. So I would say every one of us has something that we can do right now to help other people. Community service would be something that I would build into our schedule.

Working From Home Versus Self-Care

What percentage of the day do you devote to work and what percentage to self-care? 

Self-care, for me, is a leisurely morning, right? I don’t want to be rushed in the morning. Self-care for me is working out, being able to text friends whenever I have the chance, and enjoying the little things. 

People traditionally think about massages and things when they hear “self-care.” That’s why I think whether it’s serving someone or building a routine just for you, you’ve got to find something that’s going to give you energy during these times. A percentage is a weird way to think about working from home versus self-care, so I’d say that make sure you’re doing enough things that give you energy or sustain you and you’ll find that happy balance between work and life. 

Another step you can take to promote work-life balance at home  is to carve out your own workspace. Find a spot in your home, apartment, or wherever you live and dedicate a certain portion of it to your work. Our homes can be super cozy, and Netflix is right there. But, if you dedicate yourself to a workspace, you can get more stuff done and turn your brain off of work mode easier.

Productivity Apps—Do They Work?

I think productivity apps are highly overrated, just like personal finance apps. 

I use a calendar and email, but productivity is not about apps. It’s about psychology and boundaries. It’s deciding what’s important to you and building the systems into your life. Apps are irrelevant. Yes, a reminder five minutes before a meeting is fine, but don’t focus on apps. No magical app is going to save you. It’s about getting clear-minded and then finding the personal systems that enable your productivity.

Bonus: If you’re worried about your personal finances, you can improve them without even leaving your couch. Check out my Ultimate Guide to Personal Finance for tips you can implement TODAY.

Live a Productive Life at Home

Remember, you get the chance to reinvent yourself right now. As much bad stuff as there is happening outside, we can only control what we focus on. We can only focus on what we can control. 

Sometimes, all we can do is live day by day, and that’s enough. Don’t be too hard on yourself if you don’t come out the other side of this pandemic like a Renaissance person. If there are days where you must focus on simple truths and routines, that’s okay. 

So, I’m hoping as much as possible that things get better outside and that we can focus on things that we can control and build new routines and mindsets that work for us. Accept that things have changed, figure out the important things, and prioritize it.

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How To Be Productive While Stuck At Home

[Transcribed and adapted from the YouTube video: ‘How To Be Productive While Working From Home’]

Key Takeaways

Accept reality as it is and prioritize what’s important to you in the short-term

Build new routines that encourage productivity at home

Develop techniques that create proper work-from-home and life balance

Productivity apps should never replace productive habits and routines

We are going to talk about schedules and how to be productive while we’re all at home. I’ve been working from home for about 20 years. And I want to talk to you about my schedule before coronavirus and I want to talk to you about how it’s changed. 

There are many people who are working from home for the first time and countless people whose schedules have been completely disrupted since the pandemic started. 

My old schedule used to be: I would wake up around 6:00 AM and have a leisurely morning until about 9:00 AM when I’d start my creative work. Around noon, my meetings would start—calls, project management, and other meetings. Around 4:30 PM or 5:00 PM I would wrap up, 5:30 PM I’d go to the gym. That was my usual schedule. I’d be asleep by around 10:00 PM.

Since the pandemic, my schedule is: wake up at 7:00 AM (about an hour later than normal). Most of my creative work happens in the morning and calls happen later. Today was the first day I went to work out and it wasn’t the best workout, but it was the workout that I could get. What’s kept me on track is what I’m about to share with you so you can be more productive at home or continue to be productive. 

Bonus:If the COVID-19 pandemic has you worried about money, check out my free Coronavirus Proofing your Finances guide and protect your money during this pandemic!

Accept Change and Find Out What Works Now

Things have changed. But, you need to figure out what works for you now. In my schedule, I’m sleeping a little more. I’m watching at least an hour more of TV per day. I’m on social media more. It’s okay to stretch a little bit and loosen up on the normally rigorous schedule. 

But, I know that there are a few things and routines that are important to me, so I want to make sure that I figure those out. That’s point one: accept change, but figure out what works now. If you need to wake up an hour later or need to watch a little bit more mindless reality TV, do what you need to do to keep yourself sane. Pick those things in your day-to-day that are important to you and find a way to fit them in. That’s number one. 

Build New Routines when Working from Home

I got an email, recently, from someone who said, “I want to know about building new routines because I’ve heard so many people say that, if I just had time, I would learn a language… I would read Shakespeare… I would do all this stuff. And now that I have time, I’m not doing any of it.”

It’s completely normal to feel that way, and if you ask any retiree, they’ll tell you, “Oh, I had a long litany of things I was going to do when I retired. Now, my day consists of going to eat brunch and then going for a walk. And that’s a good day.”

Now that’s fine for some people, but even though there are things going on outside that we can’t control, I always want to focus on the things that I can control. Watching the news or scrolling endlessly through Twitter? That’s not the most productive use of time. So I have a couple of suggestions and things that I’m doing to implement new, constructive routines.  

Learn something new

First, build a new routine for learning. If you were going to build learning into your routine, what would it be? How many people here have talked about wanting to learn a new language one day? Maybe that day is today. Maybe you join some language program, do it online. Sign up for an online class, learn a new language or a new skill.

Make time for relationships

The second thing is to build a new routine for relationships. We can’t go out and see our family and friends like we used to, and that can really put a lot of stress on ourselves. But, it’s so important to maintain these relationships and bake in time to talk to friends and family. Text and FaceTime everybody.  Next up, get a bunch of friends together on Zoom, almost like a house party, but virtual. These are the kinds of things that we need to do for our routine, for our relationships.

Bonus: Having more than one stream of income can help you through tough economic times. Learn how to start earning money on the side with my FREE Ultimate Guide to Making Money

Take pride in the little victories

Did you know that as I was growing up, my mom taught us every day how to make our beds? There is beauty in simplicity, and it can be so helpful in maintaining productive, long-lasting routines. Try these different routines that celebrate the simple: 

Brewing fresh coffee 

Making your bed

Performing hygienic rituals at times you normally would during the workweek

Actually get dressed, don’t wear pajamas every day

Planning and cooking meals

Finding ways to get exercise inside the house or in low-populated outdoor areas

If you want to become a morning person, now’s the perfect time

Think about one routine just for you. Overall, the key is to accept what’s going on outside and remember that we can only focus on what we can control.

Find ways to be of service

So the third one is to serve someone else. I believe that every single person has something we can do to help someone else, and I’m willing to bet each and every one of us can help someone. When I was a kid, my mom used to take us to retirement homes and we would play piano for them. 

What if you called up an elderly care or nursing home in your neighborhood and said, “Can I talk to someone there for 15 minutes?” Do you think someone would be there and be welcoming to a call? Yes. 

There are so many ways that we can help people. And, right now, there’s a lot of elderly people who can’t even get groceries. So I would say every one of us has something that we can do right now to help other people. Community service would be something that I would build into our schedule.

Working From Home Versus Self-Care

What percentage of the day do you devote to work and what percentage to self-care? 

Self-care, for me, is a leisurely morning, right? I don’t want to be rushed in the morning. Self-care for me is working out, being able to text friends whenever I have the chance, and enjoying the little things. 

People traditionally think about massages and things when they hear “self-care.” That’s why I think whether it’s serving someone or building a routine just for you, you’ve got to find something that’s going to give you energy during these times. A percentage is a weird way to think about working from home versus self-care, so I’d say that make sure you’re doing enough things that give you energy or sustain you and you’ll find that happy balance between work and life. 

Another step you can take to promote work-life balance at home  is to carve out your own workspace. Find a spot in your home, apartment, or wherever you live and dedicate a certain portion of it to your work. Our homes can be super cozy, and Netflix is right there. But, if you dedicate yourself to a workspace, you can get more stuff done and turn your brain off of work mode easier.

Productivity Apps—Do They Work?

I think productivity apps are highly overrated, just like personal finance apps. 

I use a calendar and email, but productivity is not about apps. It’s about psychology and boundaries. It’s deciding what’s important to you and building the systems into your life. Apps are irrelevant. Yes, a reminder five minutes before a meeting is fine, but don’t focus on apps. No magical app is going to save you. It’s about getting clear-minded and then finding the personal systems that enable your productivity.

Bonus: If you’re worried about your personal finances, you can improve them without even leaving your couch. Check out my Ultimate Guide to Personal Finance for tips you can implement TODAY.

Live a Productive Life at Home

Remember, you get the chance to reinvent yourself right now. As much bad stuff as there is happening outside, we can only control what we focus on. We can only focus on what we can control. 

Sometimes, all we can do is live day by day, and that’s enough. Don’t be too hard on yourself if you don’t come out the other side of this pandemic like a Renaissance person. If there are days where you must focus on simple truths and routines, that’s okay. 

So, I’m hoping as much as possible that things get better outside and that we can focus on things that we can control and build new routines and mindsets that work for us. Accept that things have changed, figure out the important things, and prioritize it.

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How To Be Productive While Stuck At Home

[Transcribed and adapted from the YouTube video: ‘How To Be Productive While Working From Home’]

Key Takeaways

Accept reality as it is and prioritize what’s important to you in the short-term

Build new routines that encourage productivity at home

Develop techniques that create proper work-from-home and life balance

Productivity apps should never replace productive habits and routines

We are going to talk about schedules and how to be productive while we’re all at home. I’ve been working from home for about 20 years. And I want to talk to you about my schedule before coronavirus and I want to talk to you about how it’s changed. 

There are many people who are working from home for the first time and countless people whose schedules have been completely disrupted since the pandemic started. 

My old schedule used to be: I would wake up around 6:00 AM and have a leisurely morning until about 9:00 AM when I’d start my creative work. Around noon, my meetings would start—calls, project management, and other meetings. Around 4:30 PM or 5:00 PM I would wrap up, 5:30 PM I’d go to the gym. That was my usual schedule. I’d be asleep by around 10:00 PM.

Since the pandemic, my schedule is: wake up at 7:00 AM (about an hour later than normal). Most of my creative work happens in the morning and calls happen later. Today was the first day I went to work out and it wasn’t the best workout, but it was the workout that I could get. What’s kept me on track is what I’m about to share with you so you can be more productive at home or continue to be productive. 

Bonus:If the COVID-19 pandemic has you worried about money, check out my free Coronavirus Proofing your Finances guide and protect your money during this pandemic!

Accept Change and Find Out What Works Now

Things have changed. But, you need to figure out what works for you now. In my schedule, I’m sleeping a little more. I’m watching at least an hour more of TV per day. I’m on social media more. It’s okay to stretch a little bit and loosen up on the normally rigorous schedule. 

But, I know that there are a few things and routines that are important to me, so I want to make sure that I figure those out. That’s point one: accept change, but figure out what works now. If you need to wake up an hour later or need to watch a little bit more mindless reality TV, do what you need to do to keep yourself sane. Pick those things in your day-to-day that are important to you and find a way to fit them in. That’s number one. 

Build New Routines when Working from Home

I got an email, recently, from someone who said, “I want to know about building new routines because I’ve heard so many people say that, if I just had time, I would learn a language… I would read Shakespeare… I would do all this stuff. And now that I have time, I’m not doing any of it.”

It’s completely normal to feel that way, and if you ask any retiree, they’ll tell you, “Oh, I had a long litany of things I was going to do when I retired. Now, my day consists of going to eat brunch and then going for a walk. And that’s a good day.”

Now that’s fine for some people, but even though there are things going on outside that we can’t control, I always want to focus on the things that I can control. Watching the news or scrolling endlessly through Twitter? That’s not the most productive use of time. So I have a couple of suggestions and things that I’m doing to implement new, constructive routines.  

Learn something new

First, build a new routine for learning. If you were going to build learning into your routine, what would it be? How many people here have talked about wanting to learn a new language one day? Maybe that day is today. Maybe you join some language program, do it online. Sign up for an online class, learn a new language or a new skill.

Make time for relationships

The second thing is to build a new routine for relationships. We can’t go out and see our family and friends like we used to, and that can really put a lot of stress on ourselves. But, it’s so important to maintain these relationships and bake in time to talk to friends and family. Text and FaceTime everybody.  Next up, get a bunch of friends together on Zoom, almost like a house party, but virtual. These are the kinds of things that we need to do for our routine, for our relationships.

Bonus: Having more than one stream of income can help you through tough economic times. Learn how to start earning money on the side with my FREE Ultimate Guide to Making Money

Take pride in the little victories

Did you know that as I was growing up, my mom taught us every day how to make our beds? There is beauty in simplicity, and it can be so helpful in maintaining productive, long-lasting routines. Try these different routines that celebrate the simple: 

Brewing fresh coffee 

Making your bed

Performing hygienic rituals at times you normally would during the workweek

Actually get dressed, don’t wear pajamas every day

Planning and cooking meals

Finding ways to get exercise inside the house or in low-populated outdoor areas

If you want to become a morning person, now’s the perfect time

Think about one routine just for you. Overall, the key is to accept what’s going on outside and remember that we can only focus on what we can control.

Find ways to be of service

So the third one is to serve someone else. I believe that every single person has something we can do to help someone else, and I’m willing to bet each and every one of us can help someone. When I was a kid, my mom used to take us to retirement homes and we would play piano for them. 

What if you called up an elderly care or nursing home in your neighborhood and said, “Can I talk to someone there for 15 minutes?” Do you think someone would be there and be welcoming to a call? Yes. 

There are so many ways that we can help people. And, right now, there’s a lot of elderly people who can’t even get groceries. So I would say every one of us has something that we can do right now to help other people. Community service would be something that I would build into our schedule.

Working From Home Versus Self-Care

What percentage of the day do you devote to work and what percentage to self-care? 

Self-care, for me, is a leisurely morning, right? I don’t want to be rushed in the morning. Self-care for me is working out, being able to text friends whenever I have the chance, and enjoying the little things. 

People traditionally think about massages and things when they hear “self-care.” That’s why I think whether it’s serving someone or building a routine just for you, you’ve got to find something that’s going to give you energy during these times. A percentage is a weird way to think about working from home versus self-care, so I’d say that make sure you’re doing enough things that give you energy or sustain you and you’ll find that happy balance between work and life. 

Another step you can take to promote work-life balance at home  is to carve out your own workspace. Find a spot in your home, apartment, or wherever you live and dedicate a certain portion of it to your work. Our homes can be super cozy, and Netflix is right there. But, if you dedicate yourself to a workspace, you can get more stuff done and turn your brain off of work mode easier.

Productivity Apps—Do They Work?

I think productivity apps are highly overrated, just like personal finance apps. 

I use a calendar and email, but productivity is not about apps. It’s about psychology and boundaries. It’s deciding what’s important to you and building the systems into your life. Apps are irrelevant. Yes, a reminder five minutes before a meeting is fine, but don’t focus on apps. No magical app is going to save you. It’s about getting clear-minded and then finding the personal systems that enable your productivity.

Bonus: If you’re worried about your personal finances, you can improve them without even leaving your couch. Check out my Ultimate Guide to Personal Finance for tips you can implement TODAY.

Live a Productive Life at Home

Remember, you get the chance to reinvent yourself right now. As much bad stuff as there is happening outside, we can only control what we focus on. We can only focus on what we can control. 

Sometimes, all we can do is live day by day, and that’s enough. Don’t be too hard on yourself if you don’t come out the other side of this pandemic like a Renaissance person. If there are days where you must focus on simple truths and routines, that’s okay. 

So, I’m hoping as much as possible that things get better outside and that we can focus on things that we can control and build new routines and mindsets that work for us. Accept that things have changed, figure out the important things, and prioritize it.

How To Be Productive While Stuck At Home is a post from: I Will Teach You To Be Rich.

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How to stop screwing yourself over | Mel Robbins | TEDxSF

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How to stop screwing yourself over | Mel Robbins | TEDxSF

Translator: Judith Matz Reviewer: Tatjana Jevdjic higher welcome! Hey, San Francisco! TEDx oh my God, blinding gentle! Hi, every person! How are you? (audience cheering) excellent?! Oh my gosh! Okay, so… My name is Mel Robbins, and for the last seventeen years, i’ve performed nothing however aid individuals get the whole lot that they need. Inside cause! My husband’s right here. So, I’ve carried out it within the courtroom, in the boardroom, in the bedroom, in people’s living room, anything room you want to be in, if i’m there, i will aid you get anything you need in any respect crucial. For the final three years I host a syndicated radio exhibit.Five days a week, i am going live in forty cities and i speak to guys and women throughout the united states who think stuck. Have you learnt that a third of american citizens suppose dissatisfied with their lives right now? That could be a hundred million persons! That’s insane! And i’ve come head to head with it in this new show that i am doing, which is also insane, it’s referred to as "In-laws". I move in with families across america (Laughter) You guessed it! Who’re at conflict with their in-laws. We move them into the identical apartment, I verbally assassinate every body, we open up Pandora’s field, and i get people to stop arguing about the donuts and who’s hosting Thanksgiving dinner, and talk about the true stuff. And that is what I need to speak to you about.I am here for you. I’m going to inform you the whole thing i do know in less than eighteen minutes about how you can get what you wish to have. So i need you to take a millisecond right now and feel about what you need. You! And i would like you to be egocentric. Screw Simon and the "We" thing. This is about me, proper now! (Laughter) (Applause) Sorry, Simon. What do you need? And here’s the deal. I do not want it to sound excellent to other folks. Being healthful won’t get your ass on a treadmill. Shedding your manboobs, so that you would be able to hook up with an individual, now that is motivation. (Laughter) So, I want to comprehend: What do you need? Do you need to shed some pounds? Do you want to triple your income? Do you wish to have to begin a nonprofit? Do you wish to have to find love? What is it? Get it, proper right here. What it is, don’t analyze it to loss of life, simply pick some thing. That is a part of the obstacle. You is not going to choose. So, we’re going to be speaking about the way you get what you need. And albeit, getting what you need is modest. But become aware of I failed to say it was once effortless. It is very simple. In fact, in the event you feel about it, we are living in probably the most potent moment in time. In order that thing that you’ve got up here, anything it is usually, you want to make use of healthful consuming to medication your diabetes, you need to figure out find out how to deal with the elders and start a brand new hospice core, you need to maneuver to Africa and construct a university…Bet what? That you can stroll right into a e-book store right now! And buy as a minimum ten books written with the aid of credentialed specialists on how the hell you do it. You might Google it. And also you could mostly find as a minimum, I have no idea – a thousand blogs documenting the step, by using step, by using step transformation that a person else is already doing. You can see someone online and cyber-stalk them! (Laughter) that you could just walk in their footsteps just use the science of drafting. Follow what each person else has accomplished, since a person is already doing it! So why do not you’ve gotten what you need, if you have the entire understanding that you just want, you’ve the contacts that you simply need, there are more often than not free instruments online that enable you to a business, or join a group, or do some thing the heck you want!? It all comes down to at least one phrase: F*#.Shut the front door, you already know what i am speaking about? The f-bomb. It can be far and wide! You hear it always! I actually don’t realise what the enchantment is of the word. I imply, you do not sound smart whilst you say it. And it is fairly not expressing how you relatively suppose. It is kind of a low-priced shot to take. And of direction you understand i’m talking in regards to the phrase "fine". "how you doing?" "Oh, i’m first-rate." Oh, really? You are? Dragging around those additional forty pounds, you’re high-quality? Feeling like roommates along with your partner, and you’re high-quality? You have not had intercourse in four months, you’re exceptional? Quite?! I don’t suppose so! However see, this is the take care of pronouncing that you’re quality: it can be really genius.Since if you’re first-rate, you don’t have to do whatever about it. However while you suppose about this phrase "fine", it simply makes me so indignant. Here we are at a conference about being alive and you are going to explain the experience of being alive as "fine"?! What a flimsy and feeble phrase! If you are crappy, say you are crappy! If you are effective say you are amazing! Tell the reality! And this not best goes for the social assemble: "Oh, i do not need to burden you with the fact that I hate my life", or: "hiya, i am robust! But that might make you consider horrible." The better quandary The higher trouble with "exceptional" is that you just say it to your self.That factor that you need, I guarantee you, you could have convinced your self that you’re fine no longer having it. That is why you are now not pushing yourself. It’s the areas to your life where you could have given up. Where you have got said, "Oh, i am quality. My mom’s under no circumstances going to vary, so I just are not able to have that conversation." "i’m exceptional. We have now bought to attend except the youngsters graduate, earlier than we get divorced, so we will just sleep in separate bedrooms." "i’m best. I misplaced my job, i will barely pay my bills, however whatever it can be hard to get a job." one of the vital reasons why this phrase also simply annoys me so much is, scientists have calculated Oh yeah, i’m coming down! (Laughter) Scientists have calculated the odds of you being born. That is correct. They’ve crunched the numbers. I see you up there. They’ve crunched the numbers on you Yeah, you guys standing up, you want to sit down down for this. They’ve crunched the numbers on you being born. And so they took into consideration all the wars, and the ordinary failures, and the dinosaurs, and the whole thing else.And do you understand that the percentages, the odds of you, yeah, correct right here, put your computer away, rise up for me, Doug! (Laughter) So the odds of Doug here, flip around, say "hi" to all people the percentages of Doug being born at the moment in time he was born, to the father and mother you have been born to, with the DNA constitution that you’ve got, one in four hundred trillion! Isn’t that strong? Doug: i am so lucky! Mel: yes! You’re now not excellent, you are excellent! You might have existence-changing ideas for a reason, and it can be to not torture your self. Thanks. Thank you, Doug. (Applause) Christine was once right when she stated all of you might be on stage. Considering all of you we’re all in this class. One in 4 hundred trillion. All day lengthy you will have strategies that could exchange your existence, that could trade the arena, that would change the way in which that you just believe, and what do you do with them? Nothing! (Grunts) confidently I will not moon you. (Laughter) You didn’t pay for that. (Laughter) And i want you to simply feel for a minute, on account that we all have i really like to use the analogy "the inside snooze button" you have these amazing suggestions that bubble up.You have been staring at men and women all day and that i assurance you, like ping pong balls bam-bam-bam and everytime you’ve gotten an thought, what do you do? Hit the snooze! What is the first determination you made this morning? I wager it used to be to go back to mattress. "Yeah, first resolution in these days, i’m one in four hundred trillion, i am going to go back to sleep." and that i get it! Your bed is secure! It is cosy, it can be heat! If you are lucky, you’ve got acquired a person that you simply love subsequent to you, or in my case, I’ve bought my husband and my two youngsters and potentially the canine. And the reason why i am mentioning this primary resolution that you just made in these days, and the inside snooze alarm, is on account that in any subject of your existence that you need to vary, any there’s one reality that you simply need to comprehend. This one: you’re in no way going to believe adore it. Ever. No person’s coming, motivation is not taking place, you’re in no way going to think like it. Scientists name it activation vigour. That’s what they name the force required to get you to change from what you are doing on autopilot to do anything new.So do that experiment the following day. You feel you’re so fancy, i do know, you’re attending TED. (Laughter) do that. The next day to come morning, set your alarm for thirty minutes prior. After which when it goes off, take these sheets, throw them off, and get up and your day. No snooze, no delay, no, "i will simply wait here for 5 seconds considering that Mel’s not standing here" Do it. And the purpose why i would like you to do it is when you consider that you will come head to head with the physical, and i imply bodily drive that is required to vary your behavior. Do you suppose that an individual who wants to shed some pounds ever seems like occurring a food plan? Of course no longer! You consider they ever believe like consuming boiled bird and peas instead of a croissant? I do not suppose so! The activation power required to get your ass away out of your computer and out the entrance door, to move on the stroll, you said that you just were going to head on, is the targeted equal amount of force that it takes you to push yourself out of a heat mattress and into a cold room.What’s exciting about being an adult is that whilst you grow to be eighteen, no person tells you that it can be now going to be your job to father or mother yourself. And by using "father or mother your self", I imply it can be your job to make your self do the crap you do not need to do, so you can be everything that you are presupposed to be. And you are so rattling busy ready to think like it. And you are in no way going to! My son under no circumstances looks like getting off his DS. That’s my job! Get off the damn DS! Kendall, smooth up the Barbies! If you’re going to have a nude party in my lavatory, at least smooth it up! (Laughter) God, chew along with your mouth closed! We’re not a barn, for crying out loud! All right, dinner is coming, get out of the pantry. As dad and mom, and you were a kid, your mother and father make you do the things you don’t consider like doing. Considering the fact that you will not. Ever. Not now, now not then, no longer ever! And even whilst you get excellent at some thing, you’ll be able to work out something else you do not want to do. And then you’ll plateau out, become bored, "I hate this job.Blah blah boring." however will you seem for a brand new one? No! You’ll simply bitch about that one. It’s very, very simple to get what you want. Nevertheless it’s not easy. You need to drive your self. And i imply force. And the purpose why i take advantage of the word "force" when Roz was up here and speaking in regards to the emotion tracking, and she or he had the photograph of two aspects of the brain I seem at the brain the special equal method. Simplest I describe one part of your mind as autopilot and the opposite aspect as emergency brake. That’s the only two speeds you get: autopilot, emergency brake. And bet which one your mind likes higher: autopilot. You will have had the experience where you might have driven to work and you get there and you’re like, "Oh my God, i do not consider ever using right here." (Laughter) you weren’t drunk! That was once your brain on autopilot. It was functioning just at this degree. And the trouble along with your intellect is that whenever you do some thing that’s specific from your ordinary activities, guess what your mind does emergency brake! And it has that response for the whole lot. The whole lot! You stroll into the kitchen and see everyone’s left their breakfast dishes for you.And also you feel for the hundredth time, "i’ll kill them. Actually i’m gonna depart it right here and i will make them do it." but that is not your usual activities, is it? So your intellect goes: emergency brake! And you go proper into autopilot. "i will just load it, and be pissed, and then not have intercourse. That is what i’ll do." (Laughter) (Applause) So, after I say "drive", anything that is a wreck out of your hobbies goes to require drive. And for those who believe about your lifestyles, it is style of humorous when you consider that we are kids and then we grow to be adults, and we spend so much time looking to push our existence into some kind of steady movements, after which we grow bored of it! You get up at the same time every day, you might have mostly the equal breakfast, you pressure to work the identical means, exhibit up at work, seem busy, prevent making calls, update facebook, you attend a meeting and doodle the whole time, return and update facebook, make plans for the night, you look busy some extra, then pressure dwelling the equal way, you consume largely the equal dinner or a style of it, you watch the equal sort of media, and then you definitely go to mattress, and do the equal thing all over again! No surprise you are bored out of your intellect! It can be the activities that’s killing you.I have this idea about why folks get stuck in life. So, most of you’ve gotten generally taken your normal Psych one hundred and one type, and you’ve gotten bumped into Abraham Maslow’s "Hierarchy of wishes"? Good, your physique is kinda cool. On the grounds that you’ve gotten these basic desires. And your physique is wired to send you indicators. If you need meals, what do you consider? If you need water, what do you think? If you want sex, what do you think? (Laughter) thanks. I suppose whilst you think caught or disappointed for your existence, it can be a signal. And it is not a signal that your life is broken. It is a sign that one of your most elementary desires are not being met.Your want for exploration. Everything about your life, about your body, grows! Your cells regenerate, your hair, your nails, everything grows to your whole lifestyles. And your soul wishes exploration and growth. And the only manner you can get it is with the aid of forcing your self to be uncomfortable. Forcing yourself to get external, out of your head. Thanks. If you are in your head, you’re behind enemy lines. That isn’t God talking, k? It’s now not! Correctly, if I put a speaker on it and we broadcast what you say to yourself, we’d institutionalize you. (Laughter) you would not hang around with individuals that speak to you the way in which you speak to yourself. So get out of your head! Your feelings! Your emotions are screwing you! I don’t care how you suppose! I care about what you need! And if you happen to take heed to how you feel, when it comes to what you wish to have you are going to now not get it.Considering you will certainly not consider adore it. And also you have got to get outside your comfort zone. It can be no longer about taking risks, it is about getting external your comfort zone. These first three seconds whilst you push your self off the bed, they blow. But as soon as you are up, it can be quality. Those first three seconds when you’re sitting here in a stadium like this and someone says, "get up and come dance," and you feel, "Oh, I must try this," and then you’re like, "Uhmm." that have that you simply had whilst you had the impulse to do it and then you didn’t do the activation vigor required to drive yourself, your emergency brake obtained pulled "i am sitting correct here. I’m now not going up with these crazy humans, i do not like to bounce…" What occurred for me is I got here up, and i bumped into Rachel, and then we started talking, and subsequent thing you know, she’s tweeting. And we’re friends. And boom! Get external. That is the place the magic is. That’s the place the one in 4 hundred trillion exists. So the whole lot I do oh, good enough, this is the final section.Sorry. So a further thing that you can use, I call it the five-2nd-rule. Your mind can process a facial features in 33 milliseconds. It may well move lovely rattling speedy. The other factor that it does very swiftly is in case you have a type of little impulses which can be pulling you, when you don’t marry it with an motion inside 5 seconds, you pull the emergency brake and kill the inspiration. Kill it! When you have the impulse to get up and are available dance while the band is taking part in, when you don’t get up in 5 seconds, you are going to drag the emergency brake. If in case you have an impulse about, you had been influenced by somebody’s speech in these days, and you do not do some thing within five seconds write a word, ship your self a textual content anything bodily to marry it with the notion, you’ll pull the emergency brake and kill the inspiration.Your difficulty is not strategies. Your quandary is you do not act on them. You kill them. It can be now not my fault. It is no longer any individual’s fault. You are doing it to your self. Discontinue it! I am counting on you. One in four hundred trillion. You bought stuff to do! And it’s no longer going to occur to your head. So i need you to apply this at present. Once we go off to social gathering, thank God it’s coming soon, seeing that I believe all of us could use a cocktail, i want you to follow the five-2d-rule. You see an individual and also you think you could have an impulse, they look interesting? Walk over there! You were stimulated with the aid of a person and you have a request? Make it! That’s why you are here! Test with it, and that i suppose you’ll be bowled over about what occurs.And another thing, i want you to understand that the whole thing that I do, whether or not it’s the radio exhibit, or the television show, or the guide that I wrote, or the column, it can be for you. And if there may be some thing that i can do, if i will do some thing to make you do the matters you don’t want to do, so which you could have what you want, i’ll do it. However you have got to walk over, you must open your mouth, and you must make the request. You acquired it? Good. Go do it. (Applause) thanks! Thanks, sure! Get up! You have the impulse, get up! Thanks! .

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How to stop screwing yourself over | Mel Robbins | TEDxSF

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How to stop screwing yourself over | Mel Robbins | TEDxSF

Translator: Judith Matz Reviewer: Tatjana Jevdjic higher welcome! Hey, San Francisco! TEDx oh my God, blinding gentle! Hi, every person! How are you? (audience cheering) excellent?! Oh my gosh! Okay, so… My name is Mel Robbins, and for the last seventeen years, i’ve performed nothing however aid individuals get the whole lot that they need. Inside cause! My husband’s right here. So, I’ve carried out it within the courtroom, in the boardroom, in the bedroom, in people’s living room, anything room you want to be in, if i’m there, i will aid you get anything you need in any respect crucial. For the final three years I host a syndicated radio exhibit.Five days a week, i am going live in forty cities and i speak to guys and women throughout the united states who think stuck. Have you learnt that a third of american citizens suppose dissatisfied with their lives right now? That could be a hundred million persons! That’s insane! And i’ve come head to head with it in this new show that i am doing, which is also insane, it’s referred to as "In-laws". I move in with families across america (Laughter) You guessed it! Who’re at conflict with their in-laws. We move them into the identical apartment, I verbally assassinate every body, we open up Pandora’s field, and i get people to stop arguing about the donuts and who’s hosting Thanksgiving dinner, and talk about the true stuff. And that is what I need to speak to you about.I am here for you. I’m going to inform you the whole thing i do know in less than eighteen minutes about how you can get what you wish to have. So i need you to take a millisecond right now and feel about what you need. You! And i would like you to be egocentric. Screw Simon and the "We" thing. This is about me, proper now! (Laughter) (Applause) Sorry, Simon. What do you need? And here’s the deal. I do not want it to sound excellent to other folks. Being healthful won’t get your ass on a treadmill. Shedding your manboobs, so that you would be able to hook up with an individual, now that is motivation. (Laughter) So, I want to comprehend: What do you need? Do you need to shed some pounds? Do you want to triple your income? Do you wish to have to begin a nonprofit? Do you wish to have to find love? What is it? Get it, proper right here. What it is, don’t analyze it to loss of life, simply pick some thing. That is a part of the obstacle. You is not going to choose. So, we’re going to be speaking about the way you get what you need. And albeit, getting what you need is modest. But become aware of I failed to say it was once effortless. It is very simple. In fact, in the event you feel about it, we are living in probably the most potent moment in time. In order that thing that you’ve got up here, anything it is usually, you want to make use of healthful consuming to medication your diabetes, you need to figure out find out how to deal with the elders and start a brand new hospice core, you need to maneuver to Africa and construct a university…Bet what? That you can stroll right into a e-book store right now! And buy as a minimum ten books written with the aid of credentialed specialists on how the hell you do it. You might Google it. And also you could mostly find as a minimum, I have no idea – a thousand blogs documenting the step, by using step, by using step transformation that a person else is already doing. You can see someone online and cyber-stalk them! (Laughter) that you could just walk in their footsteps just use the science of drafting. Follow what each person else has accomplished, since a person is already doing it! So why do not you’ve gotten what you need, if you have the entire understanding that you just want, you’ve the contacts that you simply need, there are more often than not free instruments online that enable you to a business, or join a group, or do some thing the heck you want!? It all comes down to at least one phrase: F*#.Shut the front door, you already know what i am speaking about? The f-bomb. It can be far and wide! You hear it always! I actually don’t realise what the enchantment is of the word. I imply, you do not sound smart whilst you say it. And it is fairly not expressing how you relatively suppose. It is kind of a low-priced shot to take. And of direction you understand i’m talking in regards to the phrase "fine". "how you doing?" "Oh, i’m first-rate." Oh, really? You are? Dragging around those additional forty pounds, you’re high-quality? Feeling like roommates along with your partner, and you’re high-quality? You have not had intercourse in four months, you’re exceptional? Quite?! I don’t suppose so! However see, this is the take care of pronouncing that you’re quality: it can be really genius.Since if you’re first-rate, you don’t have to do whatever about it. However while you suppose about this phrase "fine", it simply makes me so indignant. Here we are at a conference about being alive and you are going to explain the experience of being alive as "fine"?! What a flimsy and feeble phrase! If you are crappy, say you are crappy! If you are effective say you are amazing! Tell the reality! And this not best goes for the social assemble: "Oh, i do not need to burden you with the fact that I hate my life", or: "hiya, i am robust! But that might make you consider horrible." The better quandary The higher trouble with "exceptional" is that you just say it to your self.That factor that you need, I guarantee you, you could have convinced your self that you’re fine no longer having it. That is why you are now not pushing yourself. It’s the areas to your life where you could have given up. Where you have got said, "Oh, i am quality. My mom’s under no circumstances going to vary, so I just are not able to have that conversation." "i’m exceptional. We have now bought to attend except the youngsters graduate, earlier than we get divorced, so we will just sleep in separate bedrooms." "i’m best. I misplaced my job, i will barely pay my bills, however whatever it can be hard to get a job." one of the vital reasons why this phrase also simply annoys me so much is, scientists have calculated Oh yeah, i’m coming down! (Laughter) Scientists have calculated the odds of you being born. That is correct. They’ve crunched the numbers. I see you up there. They’ve crunched the numbers on you Yeah, you guys standing up, you want to sit down down for this. They’ve crunched the numbers on you being born. And so they took into consideration all the wars, and the ordinary failures, and the dinosaurs, and the whole thing else.And do you understand that the percentages, the odds of you, yeah, correct right here, put your computer away, rise up for me, Doug! (Laughter) So the odds of Doug here, flip around, say "hi" to all people the percentages of Doug being born at the moment in time he was born, to the father and mother you have been born to, with the DNA constitution that you’ve got, one in four hundred trillion! Isn’t that strong? Doug: i am so lucky! Mel: yes! You’re now not excellent, you are excellent! You might have existence-changing ideas for a reason, and it can be to not torture your self. Thanks. Thank you, Doug. (Applause) Christine was once right when she stated all of you might be on stage. Considering all of you we’re all in this class. One in 4 hundred trillion. All day lengthy you will have strategies that could exchange your existence, that could trade the arena, that would change the way in which that you just believe, and what do you do with them? Nothing! (Grunts) confidently I will not moon you. (Laughter) You didn’t pay for that. (Laughter) And i want you to simply feel for a minute, on account that we all have i really like to use the analogy "the inside snooze button" you have these amazing suggestions that bubble up.You have been staring at men and women all day and that i assurance you, like ping pong balls bam-bam-bam and everytime you’ve gotten an thought, what do you do? Hit the snooze! What is the first determination you made this morning? I wager it used to be to go back to mattress. "Yeah, first resolution in these days, i’m one in four hundred trillion, i am going to go back to sleep." and that i get it! Your bed is secure! It is cosy, it can be heat! If you are lucky, you’ve got acquired a person that you simply love subsequent to you, or in my case, I’ve bought my husband and my two youngsters and potentially the canine. And the reason why i am mentioning this primary resolution that you just made in these days, and the inside snooze alarm, is on account that in any subject of your existence that you need to vary, any there’s one reality that you simply need to comprehend. This one: you’re in no way going to believe adore it. Ever. No person’s coming, motivation is not taking place, you’re in no way going to think like it. Scientists name it activation vigour. That’s what they name the force required to get you to change from what you are doing on autopilot to do anything new.So do that experiment the following day. You feel you’re so fancy, i do know, you’re attending TED. (Laughter) do that. The next day to come morning, set your alarm for thirty minutes prior. After which when it goes off, take these sheets, throw them off, and get up and your day. No snooze, no delay, no, "i will simply wait here for 5 seconds considering that Mel’s not standing here" Do it. And the purpose why i would like you to do it is when you consider that you will come head to head with the physical, and i imply bodily drive that is required to vary your behavior. Do you suppose that an individual who wants to shed some pounds ever seems like occurring a food plan? Of course no longer! You consider they ever believe like consuming boiled bird and peas instead of a croissant? I do not suppose so! The activation power required to get your ass away out of your computer and out the entrance door, to move on the stroll, you said that you just were going to head on, is the targeted equal amount of force that it takes you to push yourself out of a heat mattress and into a cold room.What’s exciting about being an adult is that whilst you grow to be eighteen, no person tells you that it can be now going to be your job to father or mother yourself. And by using "father or mother your self", I imply it can be your job to make your self do the crap you do not need to do, so you can be everything that you are presupposed to be. And you are so rattling busy ready to think like it. And you are in no way going to! My son under no circumstances looks like getting off his DS. That’s my job! Get off the damn DS! Kendall, smooth up the Barbies! If you’re going to have a nude party in my lavatory, at least smooth it up! (Laughter) God, chew along with your mouth closed! We’re not a barn, for crying out loud! All right, dinner is coming, get out of the pantry. As dad and mom, and you were a kid, your mother and father make you do the things you don’t consider like doing. Considering the fact that you will not. Ever. Not now, now not then, no longer ever! And even whilst you get excellent at some thing, you’ll be able to work out something else you do not want to do. And then you’ll plateau out, become bored, "I hate this job.Blah blah boring." however will you seem for a brand new one? No! You’ll simply bitch about that one. It’s very, very simple to get what you want. Nevertheless it’s not easy. You need to drive your self. And i imply force. And the purpose why i take advantage of the word "force" when Roz was up here and speaking in regards to the emotion tracking, and she or he had the photograph of two aspects of the brain I seem at the brain the special equal method. Simplest I describe one part of your mind as autopilot and the opposite aspect as emergency brake. That’s the only two speeds you get: autopilot, emergency brake. And bet which one your mind likes higher: autopilot. You will have had the experience where you might have driven to work and you get there and you’re like, "Oh my God, i do not consider ever using right here." (Laughter) you weren’t drunk! That was once your brain on autopilot. It was functioning just at this degree. And the trouble along with your intellect is that whenever you do some thing that’s specific from your ordinary activities, guess what your mind does emergency brake! And it has that response for the whole lot. The whole lot! You stroll into the kitchen and see everyone’s left their breakfast dishes for you.And also you feel for the hundredth time, "i’ll kill them. Actually i’m gonna depart it right here and i will make them do it." but that is not your usual activities, is it? So your intellect goes: emergency brake! And you go proper into autopilot. "i will just load it, and be pissed, and then not have intercourse. That is what i’ll do." (Laughter) (Applause) So, after I say "drive", anything that is a wreck out of your hobbies goes to require drive. And for those who believe about your lifestyles, it is style of humorous when you consider that we are kids and then we grow to be adults, and we spend so much time looking to push our existence into some kind of steady movements, after which we grow bored of it! You get up at the same time every day, you might have mostly the equal breakfast, you pressure to work the identical means, exhibit up at work, seem busy, prevent making calls, update facebook, you attend a meeting and doodle the whole time, return and update facebook, make plans for the night, you look busy some extra, then pressure dwelling the equal way, you consume largely the equal dinner or a style of it, you watch the equal sort of media, and then you definitely go to mattress, and do the equal thing all over again! No surprise you are bored out of your intellect! It can be the activities that’s killing you.I have this idea about why folks get stuck in life. So, most of you’ve gotten generally taken your normal Psych one hundred and one type, and you’ve gotten bumped into Abraham Maslow’s "Hierarchy of wishes"? Good, your physique is kinda cool. On the grounds that you’ve gotten these basic desires. And your physique is wired to send you indicators. If you need meals, what do you consider? If you need water, what do you think? If you want sex, what do you think? (Laughter) thanks. I suppose whilst you think caught or disappointed for your existence, it can be a signal. And it is not a signal that your life is broken. It is a sign that one of your most elementary desires are not being met.Your want for exploration. Everything about your life, about your body, grows! Your cells regenerate, your hair, your nails, everything grows to your whole lifestyles. And your soul wishes exploration and growth. And the only manner you can get it is with the aid of forcing your self to be uncomfortable. Forcing yourself to get external, out of your head. Thanks. If you are in your head, you’re behind enemy lines. That isn’t God talking, k? It’s now not! Correctly, if I put a speaker on it and we broadcast what you say to yourself, we’d institutionalize you. (Laughter) you would not hang around with individuals that speak to you the way in which you speak to yourself. So get out of your head! Your feelings! Your emotions are screwing you! I don’t care how you suppose! I care about what you need! And if you happen to take heed to how you feel, when it comes to what you wish to have you are going to now not get it.Considering you will certainly not consider adore it. And also you have got to get outside your comfort zone. It can be no longer about taking risks, it is about getting external your comfort zone. These first three seconds whilst you push your self off the bed, they blow. But as soon as you are up, it can be quality. Those first three seconds when you’re sitting here in a stadium like this and someone says, "get up and come dance," and you feel, "Oh, I must try this," and then you’re like, "Uhmm." that have that you simply had whilst you had the impulse to do it and then you didn’t do the activation vigor required to drive yourself, your emergency brake obtained pulled "i am sitting correct here. I’m now not going up with these crazy humans, i do not like to bounce…" What occurred for me is I got here up, and i bumped into Rachel, and then we started talking, and subsequent thing you know, she’s tweeting. And we’re friends. And boom! Get external. That is the place the magic is. That’s the place the one in 4 hundred trillion exists. So the whole lot I do oh, good enough, this is the final section.Sorry. So a further thing that you can use, I call it the five-2nd-rule. Your mind can process a facial features in 33 milliseconds. It may well move lovely rattling speedy. The other factor that it does very swiftly is in case you have a type of little impulses which can be pulling you, when you don’t marry it with an motion inside 5 seconds, you pull the emergency brake and kill the inspiration. Kill it! When you have the impulse to get up and are available dance while the band is taking part in, when you don’t get up in 5 seconds, you are going to drag the emergency brake. If in case you have an impulse about, you had been influenced by somebody’s speech in these days, and you do not do some thing within five seconds write a word, ship your self a textual content anything bodily to marry it with the notion, you’ll pull the emergency brake and kill the inspiration.Your difficulty is not strategies. Your quandary is you do not act on them. You kill them. It can be now not my fault. It is no longer any individual’s fault. You are doing it to your self. Discontinue it! I am counting on you. One in four hundred trillion. You bought stuff to do! And it’s no longer going to occur to your head. So i need you to apply this at present. Once we go off to social gathering, thank God it’s coming soon, seeing that I believe all of us could use a cocktail, i want you to follow the five-2d-rule. You see an individual and also you think you could have an impulse, they look interesting? Walk over there! You were stimulated with the aid of a person and you have a request? Make it! That’s why you are here! Test with it, and that i suppose you’ll be bowled over about what occurs.And another thing, i want you to understand that the whole thing that I do, whether or not it’s the radio exhibit, or the television show, or the guide that I wrote, or the column, it can be for you. And if there may be some thing that i can do, if i will do some thing to make you do the matters you don’t want to do, so which you could have what you want, i’ll do it. However you have got to walk over, you must open your mouth, and you must make the request. You acquired it? Good. Go do it. (Applause) thanks! Thanks, sure! Get up! You have the impulse, get up! Thanks! .