#and i'm tagging

[bekolxeram]

So......... This

Is a bush...

[bbgarbbage]

A PSA for any Survivor/BB players who want to commit to an all-girls alliance:

Rule #1: Never explicitly state to anyone that you want an all-girls alliance, this will make you a target - especially if you don't have the numbers/it's early in the season.

Rule #2: Never explicitly state you want an all-girls alliance (this cannot be emphasized enough) because there will always be a minimum of 1 person who will decide to tell at least one guy they are aligned with of this impending all-girls alliance and if it's too early in the season or there are not enough people in the alliance, they will start to target women to even-out and then eventually overtake the numbers game.

Survivor specific tips: Listen to rules 1 and 2 and commit yourself to not voting for your fellow women. The only exception to this should be is after all men have been eliminated from the game, the only man left in the game has the individual immunity idol, or one of the women left in the game are clearly working against the majority of the women or are constantly targeting women to where it becomes unsafe for your and other's games to keep them around.

Big Brother specific tips: Listen to rules 1 and 2 and commit yourself to never nominating a woman whenever you are in power. If there are women on the block and you win the power of veto, use it to take at one of them off - this potentially increases the chance of a man being the replacement nominee and going home. Warning: using the POV may make you a target but remember, whoever made the nominations cannot be HOH two weeks in a row (usually). Be wary of women who have become a part of a showmance - they are likely to end up being closer to their partner and if their partner is a male this is not conducive to the all-girls alliance. It is especially important to not use the term "all-girls alliance" around people who are in male/female showmances or appear to have a lot of male allies. Important note!: don't target the woman of a showmance just because you can't get the man out that week - unless there are no other feasible moves for you to make.

Rule #3: When the game is at the point where there are only women left in the game, toast and laugh about the fact that you pulled off the elusive all-girls alliance...even if some of the people didn't know you were aligned with them (perhaps they are even your enemy) but at least you made it to the final *insert number here* with your fellow women surrounding you.

[the-fabled-void]

I'M CRYING WHY DID TRUMP TAG PAPYRUS

[nyastranaut]

Something came over me and suddenly I'd made this :3

[goldeaglefire1]

so the tiktok ban was literally just propaganda for the trump administration. like. we all agree with that right. this is just laughably transparent. the ban wasn't even 24 hours. not even a whole day. to quote my infinitely funnier mutual from Discord, "Misha Collins was bisexual longer than TikTok was banned"

[robyn-i-guess]

liking someone platonically is so embarrassing like. yeah i admire you. yeah i think about you all the time. yeah i look forward to every time i see you even if it's only for a minute. yeah it's all platonic and yeah i couldn't explain this because it'd sound romantic. fucking hell

[shadesofmauve]

I want to step away from the art-vs-artist side of the Gaiman issue for a bit, and talk about, well, the rest of it. Because those emotions you're feeling would be the same without the art; the art just adds another layer.

Source: I worked with a guy who turned out to be heavily involved in an international, multi-state sex-slavery/trafficking ring.

He was really nice.

Yeah.

It hits like a dumptruck of shit. You don't feel stable in your world anymore. How could someone you interacted with, liked, also be a truly horrible person? How could your judgement be that bad? How can real people, not stylized cartoon bogeymen, be actually doing this shit?

You have to sit with the fact that you couldn't, or probably couldn't, have known. You should have no guilt as part of this horror — but guilt is almost certainly part of that mess you're feeling, because our brains do this associative thing, and somehow "I liked [the version of] the guy [that I knew]", or his creations, becomes "I made a horrible mistake and should feel guilty."

You didn't, loves, you didn't.

We're human, and we can only go by the information we have. And the information we have is only the smallest glimpse into someone else's life.

I didn't work closely with the guy I knew at work, but we chatted. He wasn't just nice; he was one of the only people outside my tiny department who seemed genuinely nice in a workplace that was rapidly becoming incredibly toxic. He loaned me a bike trainer. Occasionally he'd see me at the bus stop and give me a lift home.

Yup. I was a young woman in my twenties and rode in this guy's car. More than once.

When I tell this story that part usually makes people gasp. "You must feel so scared about what could have happened to you!" "You're so lucky nothing happened!"

No, that's not how it worked. I was never in danger. This guy targeted Korean women with little-to-no English who were coerced and powerless. A white, fluent, US citizen coworker wasn't a potential victim. I got to be a person, not prey.

Y'know that little warning bell that goes off, when you're around someone who might be a danger to you? That animal sense that says "Something is off here, watch out"?

Yeah, that doesn't ping if the preferred prey isn't around.

That's what rattled me the most about this. I liked to think of myself as willing to stand up for people with less power than me. I worked with Japanese exchange students in college and put myself bodily between them and creeps, and I sure as hell got that little alarm when some asian-schoolgirl fetishist schmoozed on them. But we were all there.

I had to learn that the alarm won't go off when the hunter isn't hunting. That it's not the solid indicator I might've thought it was. That sometimes this is what the privilege of not being prey does; it completely masks your ability to detect the horrors that are going on.

A lot of people point out that 'people like that' have amazing charisma and ability to lie and manipulate, and that's true. Anyone who's gotten away with this shit for decades is going to be way smoother than the pathetic little hangers-on I dealt with in university. But it's not just that. I seriously, deeply believe that he saw me as a person, and he did not extend personhood to his victims. We didn't have a fake coworker relationship. We had a real one. And just like I don't know the ins-and-outs of most of my coworkers lives, I had no idea that what he did on his down time was perpetrate horrors.

I know this is getting off the topic, but it's so very important. Especially as a message to cis guys: please understand that you won't recognize a creep the way you might think you will. If you're not the preferred prey, the hind-brain alarm won't go off. You have to listen to victims, not your gut feeling that the person seems perfectly nice and normal. It doesn't mean there's never a false accusation, but face the fact that it's usually real, and you don't have enough information to say otherwise.

So, yeah. It fucking sucks. Writing about this twists my insides into tense knots, and it was almost a decade ago. I was never in danger. No one I knew was hurt!

Just countless, powerless women, horrifically abused by someone who was nice to me.

You don't trust your own judgement quite the same way, after. And as utterly shitty as it is, as twisted up and unstead-in-the-world as I felt the day I found out — I don't actually think that's a bad thing.

I think we all need to question our own judgement. It makes us better people.

I don't see villains around every corner just because I knew one, once. But I do own the fact that I can't know, really know, about anyone except those closest to me. They have their own full lives. They'll go from the pinnacles of kindness to the depths of depravity — and I won't know.

It's not a failing. It's just being human. Something to remember before you slap labels on people, before you condemn them or idolize them. Think about how much you can't know, and how flawed our judgement always is.

Grieve for victims, and the feeling of betrayal. But maybe let yourself off the hook, and be a bit slower to skewer others on it.

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

I love you Safety Wizard.

(Inspired by @keroascrazy)

[kiryuing]

[synoicus]

I was made to love you, and yet,

Inspired by this observation by a friend:

[hansoeii]

A latte with lots of love!

[redjennies]

as a hater, it's important to keep in mind that true fandom is a long game. for example, yeah, it's fucking annoying when you genuinely enjoy a show or something for multiple reasons and it happens to have gay people (or people who could be read as gay) in it and so the fandom gets flooded with the kind of fans who are literally just here for the "Hot New Thing to Slash Ship" and therefore have bad opinions on everything because they think entirely in shallow fanfic tropes and are going to get mad every time something doesn't line up perfectly with their fanfics, but with time they will move on to the next "Hot New Thing to Slash Ship," and you'll realize your real enemy is and has always been That One Blogger who Sincerely Loves this Show as Much as You But Has the Worst Fucking Opinions on Planet Earth.

[eggy-the-boy]

"Friends don't look at friends that way" I think some of you just need to be nicer to your friends.

[tio-trile]

Hey Lil Sammie

Bonus filter version that I liked:

[factual-fantasy]

Following the release of TADC episode 5, I have made a liiiiittle change to my AU.✨🐸🤝🐰✨

[rainbowcrowley]

today a fascist won an election for the first time since 1933. here, in germany.

i don't care if it's just one (out of 16) states. björn höcke is a fascist. a court decided not long ago that it's allowed to call him a nazi. bc he is one. not "far right" or "conservative" - he is a nazi.

here. in germany. and he just won an election.

it hasn't even been 100 years.

i am scared.