#and eldest daughter syndrome myself

[laiosynth]

LITERALLY !!!! like.

people really REALLY FUCKIN STRETCH what "tough love" and "normal sibling behavior" are to excuse their own actions towards their siblings. i mean

normal sibling behavior IS:

consensual, reciprocated roughhousing where nobody is really getting hurt.

being annoyed at your siblings and sometimes snapping at them because you live in the same house and you're human

teasing and fighting with your sibling/s on terms that YOU BOTH UNDERSTAND

banter

normal sibling behavior is NOT:

beating on your siblings. unreciprocated roughousing. HURTING your siblings.

being completely intolerant of your sibling's presence at all, yelling at your sibling for being in the same room as you and existing, yelling at them for inconsequential things and small mistakes

picking fights with and teasing your sibling in terms that they don't understand is teasing or can't reciprocate.

genuine screaming matches and huge fights on the regular.

"eldest daughter syndrome" can refer to a lot of things but usually can be defined something like this:

"the state or condition caused by being the eldest sibling in the house, usually the eldest daughter, and being overburdened with responsibility and expectation and/or trauma/contention with the parent/s of the house."

when talking about eldest daughter syndrome, the conversation almost always, in context, revolves around the consequences of it. (ie, the consequences of expectation and parental contention). we say dick grayson, nightwing, has eldest daughter syndrome specifically because of the experiences and responsibilities and expectations he is held to: when batman is gone, dick is expected to not only take up his mantle, but to also take up the care of his children, his home, and his work. big emphasis on "children" there-- dick is expected to take care of and responsibility for his younger siblings.

dick's "eldest daughter syndrome" refers to his learned and uncontrolled tendencies to automatically assume responsibility and care for his younger siblings and the situations he is in as a whole, and the stress and burnout that brings him.

looping back around to marnie (OP)'s original point:

if you are someone who legitimately hates your younger siblings, or abuses them/hurts them intentionally under the guise of "normal sibling behavior", you should not be saying you have eldest daughter syndrome. it normalizes this kind of sibling abuse and minimizes the actual issue at hand of the parentification and burnout eldest siblings, and per the name, especially eldest daughters, face.

i sincerely hope you can break the cycle of abuse and fix your relationship with your siblings, because when that's lost, it is very hard to get back.

Can't stand niggas who say they have 'eldest daughter syndrome' and then abuse their younger siblings under the guise of 'tough love/normal sibling behavior' fr.Gworl that's not Eldest Daughter Syndrome,that's Becoming Your Parents Disease

@jellyjays

[vyheris]

DPXDC Prompt #8

The Fenton siblings stick together. There was never any question about it. Even when Danny accidentally half killed them with the portal accident. He tripped, okay? Who puts the on switch inside the damn thing anyways!? Even when Danielle had that one murderous phase, thinking she needed to prove herself. It was Vlad's fault for trying to manipulate her to his side. Even when Dan went on a rampage and destroyed most of Amity Park. In his defense he thought they all died for real this time. Jazz was the only exception, though the others begged to differ if they counted all the times she decked them after each of the listed incidents. So what if it was deserved?

The point is, despite everything, they will always have each other's back even against their own parents.

Or the Fenton siblings run away together after a reveal gone wrong. They end up in Gotham and find themselves inexplicably entangled with the Wayne family. To make matters worse, the Bats are seemingly everywhere, so it might only be a matter of time before one of them slips up and uses their powers in front of the 'no metas allowed' Batman. Is it too much to hope that half ghosts don't count as metas in his book?

[sassmill]

Thinking back to the parking lot conversation I had with my coworker after I fully broke down and told her everything that has been going on at home and how I feel so fucking trapped because I can’t afford to leave and she compared it to intimate partner violence and it just. Sank in in a way that it hadn’t before. Like when my therapist told me to imagine if somebody treated the girl I babysit the way I was treated, would I think that was something to brush off or would I immediately report it? Just. Having somebody force you to view your struggles from another perspective is so powerful.

[jusque-ici-tout-va]

Eldest daughter syndrome. For the times when the name of one trauma just triggers a different one.

Feel free to rb if you also have Eldest Syndrome.

[none-tadashi-left-hiro]

It's like....m my voice and my actions have the power to influence things.... But yet something always stays the same.... And to what extent does it change things..... Is there ever positive everlasting change from any of my actions......... What am I doing all of this forrrr who am I doing it for.......

[thedawningofthehour]

I don't think it's irrational. They give me anxiety too. I've asked people not to enter my stuff because of that.

I am content to watch from the sidelines and enjoy watching people be silly

It's weird, like, I do want to participate in stuff and have fun but it just kind of takes over and invades my head when I'm trying to do anything else. And it's illogical because there's literally no point. 'What if you loooooose?' Nothing. Absolutely nothing will happen, I won't even feel that bad about it. The result is the same as me not having entered at all. 'But what if you lose?' It just doesn't end.

[fairykiins]

I really think this is a good example of people being too selfless and too considerate. So much to the point that they are no longer comfortable and have self appointed themselves as a side character in someone else’s story. It happens to the best of us.

But I love you. No one needs to tell you this, but if you would like to hear me ramble on and on

“You are seriously one of the sweetest people I know. I love you! 😚🫶”

you're spot on! for me, at least, it comes from a place of not wanting to disturb someone and feeling as if i'm being clingy or a burden (depending on the context). yes, it's some deep-seated issue stemming from my childhood, lol. at least i have self-awareness and plan on working on it, plus my "laundry list" of other issues.

below is me reacting to all the sweet asks you send. i truly appreciate it, except i'm not wrapped up in a blanket since we're going through a heatwave rn <3

edit: i just reread my reply and think i said too much 🤡 — this is what happens when i get comfortable

[kakusu-shipping]

Thank you for the nice tags on the pic published to catchonehand!

Zen as the middle child? I'm curious and would love to know what you're referring to 👀

I got this ask like two days ago I'm so sorry I caught a cold and didn't get to answer fdjgfkdgjkdf

This is the post in question btw for anyone confused because again I reblogged that like two days ago

The fastest answer is I've been seeing a lot of Ramattra as a Protective Older Brother to Zenyatta art, and have always seen Zenyatta Genji in the same Brotherly Found Family kind of relationship (vaguely all my relationships are grey and moldable by recent art I've seen)

So if this Found Family Tree goes Ramattra-Zenyatta-Genji, that makes Zenyatta a Middle Child which I feel is fitting.

The funnier half of it though is that sense Ramattra was made for the Omnic Crisis, and no Omnics were made after the Crisis, this means Zen (at 20) HAS to be older than Ramattra, physically. Meanwhile Genji is 35 if I remember right (the official character page doesn't show their ages anymore so this may be subject to change in OW2)

Meaning by AGE it'd go Genji-Zenyatta-Ramattra, keeping Zen the Middle Child once again.

Out of all the lore we could have possibly gotten for Zenyatta, after 6 years, they choose to make him a Middle Child. Short Middle Sibling Energy.

[kingorqueenofnarnia]

TCON HEADCANON

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I've seen so many people say "Susan is the mum", "Susan is the mother figure", "Susan is motherly" AS IF PETER MOTHERFUCKING PEVENSIE ISNT RIGHT THERE

Have you seen that boy? He is the Mum of the four. He is the mother figure. He is the Mother Hen. He has Eldest Daughter Syndrome™ and as an eldest child myself I CAN ATTEST TO IT. Look me in the eyes and tell me I am wrong. I dare you.

Susan gets her cheek kissed against her will and he has a dagger at the offender's neck. Susan, who has her own dagger out, rolls her eyes and glares at him until he sulks away with a pout scowl.

Edmund gets wounded in battle and Peter shoves all his duties onto the girls' shoulders, spending day and night at his little brother's side, wiping his forehead and dressing his wounds and pressing kisses to his brow every other minute.

Lucy latches onto his back and he doesn't say a word, simply carries on with his royal duties and ignores the looks he gets from the courtiers and lords. She spends the entire day hanging off his back, and he occasionally reminds her that "I do need to breathe, Lu, loosen your arms a little."

Any one of them turns to him with wide eyes and their bottom lip stuck out, and my guy cannot deny them. He just pinches the bridge of his nose and sighs. They can have whatever they want as long as they stop making that face at him, please, for the love of Aslan.

All three of them keep calling him Mama Bear. He cannot get them to stop. Random Narnian children are picking up the habit now, because of them.

He's tired. Exhausted. And annoyed, oh Great Lion, so annoyed.

He loves his siblings but they are exhausting, and he wants to sleep without one of them causing a mess. He just wants one night when he can actually sleep through the night.

[stuck-in-the-ghost-zone]

mark winters 🤝 edyn tidestrider

family members who can and have and would do terrible things for the person they're protecting even if it meant earning that persons hatred. caring so much that it becomes a fault. "its okay if you hate me as long as youre safe." being constantly full of love and rage and guilt and rage and love. and of course the rage.

ohhhhh god I just had a horrible thought

[copperbadge]

Hey Sam! Would you mind sharing the research (or if you're not comfortable with that, your general search terms) you found on children of parents with emotional disregulation? That's been a theme in my own life, but I haven't found good papers about it myself, so I'd be interested in learning more.

Truly, it is a fucking quest.

So, when I initially searched I only really found one good article on what I think of as the "pop psych" side of things:

The Emotionally Dysregulated Parent by The Curious Nerd

It suffers from the problem a lot of pop psych books do, which is that it offers a highly relatable checklist and very few concrete solutions, but I don't want to criticize that because it's also not claiming that offering solutions is the goal. The article is more of a "Hey is this what I'm dealing with? Yes? Okay" kind of a situation.

Also, to preface: there is a fairly fine but visible line dividing "emotionally dysregulated" from "emotionally immature" which I think is why Adult Children Of Emotionally Immature Parents didn't resonate with me as much as it has for some. Dysregulated parents can have a fairly high level of emotional maturity, they just have wildly unpredictable reactions at times because their emotions overwhelm their self-control. So the impact on the child is less visible, and looks less like the forms of abuse or neglect that we're accustomed to.

More research under the cut but also a warning at the very end for some discussion of some pretty heavy stuff -- I'll put a little bold header before that bit so folks know when to stop reading if they want. (No personal accounts of abuse, just a discussion of abusive behaviors.)

I was looking for more articles like the one above and more research papers about the issue, but the problem was that Research came in three flavors:

All our data comes from surveys that parents took about their own dysregulation and the dysregulation of their small children. This is...interesting, I guess, but it's not good data because it's all self-reported and only by the parents.

We are studying emotional dysregulation's impact on the relationship between parents and adult children...but only in situations where the adult child is the dysregulated one. Obviously this isn't helpful and also what the fuck.

A study that affirms that emotionally dysregulated parents raise emotionally dysregulated children. I know these are necessary in order to build a framework for further research but also, you know, water be wet.

What actually helped me was stumbling across a different term during this research: "High Self-Monitoring". This refers to people who, as children, experienced unstable or irregular behavior from their caregivers and who thus developed the habit of constantly monitoring others' behavior, and others' reactions to their behavior, to ensure that they are accepted and approved of.

I never felt comfortable with thinking of myself as hypervigilant because the behaviors of hypervigilance don't match mine, but the behaviors of high self-monitors do, because they're specifically focused on the behaviors of other people in social situations. Remember how I was literally diagnosed as extremely charming? Yeah, high self-monitoring is a huge part of that.

I haven't had a chance to explore this as much. I hesitate to say the below link is helpful, because I think a lot of his suggestions aren't really valid for people with any flavor of neurodiversity, but I do think his exploration of self-monitoring is generally informative:

How to Become Less Self-Conscious by Matt Norman

Relative to high self-monitoring is another term, "Parentification", which refers to a parent investing their child with the responsibility of parenting a sibling or becoming a caregiver for said parent. This is akin to "eldest daughter syndrome" that you may have seen discussed on Tumblr, but more clinically defined and intense (and less gendered). Again, I haven't had a chance to dig into Parentification, so I don't have more to recommend yet.

Discussion of childhood trauma below, specifically incest. Skip to the next bold header if you don't want to read this.

I will say, very frequently you see Parentification paired with another term, emotional incest, which refers to a parent putting their child in the position of a romantic partner but without the physical aspect of incest. It can involve venting to the child about romantic partners or work problems, depending on the child for emotional support, preventing the child from peer activities or age-appropriate friendships because of jealousy, and sometimes physical contact that's not sexual but also not parent-child appropriate.

I think "emotional incest" is a real behavior but also a really ugly term for that behavior, and Therapist agreed. It feels like the term adds stigma simply because incest is such a loaded word. It's something I have seen people use to refer to their own experiences and that's absolutely their call, I am not going to step to anyone who needs it or feels it applies to their situation. But if the term makes you uncomfortable I think that's also justified. In talking about it, Therapist and I reframed it as Boundary Breaking, but I think with a bit of work I can come up with something a bit more specific.

So, just, if you see a discussion of emotional incest I do recommend you have a look because it's an advanced form of parentification and may be something you want to deal with, but be aware the name may feel like it sucks and be ready to uh, deal with that.

Okay, here's the second bold header, you can come back now.

So yeah, my research has been very surface level, in part because once I found all this I wanted to bring it to Therapist for guidance in further research. But I do think that "emotional dysregulation and parents" is sadly not a great search term. You're better off searching for "high self-monitor" or "parentification" and keeping a keen eye out for additional keywords those searches may generate. Good luck...

[celaenaeiln]

If you've watched the Young Justice show, what do you think of Bruce and Dick's relationship there? Seems to me that it's less "unhealthy" than the main comics. Just wanted to ask because to me, you're the bona fide expert on Dick and Bruce, and also one of my favorite people on this site. Love your blog!

THANK YOU!! 🥰💞💕!!!

To be honest it's been a very long time since I've seen Young Justice but I think I know what you mean. It's very supportive right? Like in the comics Bruce is very involved in Dick's life and actions to the point that Dick runs away or gets mad or cuts Bruce off because Bruce is just too much for him. And Bruce praises dick often and also places in extreme stress because he places him on a pedestal.

In the Young Justice show, there's much fewer interactions with Dick and Bruce. But he's much better at being a dad.

Canonically, people around Dick attribute his sometimes difficult personality as a consequence of his relationship with Bruce:

New Teen Titans (1980) Issue #28

The Titans (1999) Issue #15

Like comics Bruce has given Dick severe Daddy Issues and Dick internally constantly questions himself and seeks validation because of Bruce's hot and cold attitude. Dick sees it as a failure on his behalf because if he was excellent enough Bruce wouldn't pull away right? Things would go back to the way they used to be and Bruce would rely on him again. But Bruce is suffering from the worry of putting too much burden on Dick's shoulders but also distancing himself from everyone when something bad happens. Because not only has Bruce given Dick daddy issues, he's also given Dick an extreme case of Eldest Daughter Syndrome and Dick thinks it's his sole responsibility to keep this family running. Which doesn't help because Bruce ALSO thinks it's Dick's responsibility to keep this family running.

Batman (2011) Issue #14

"I can barely keep control myself, Dick! And I can't take the risk. I'm asking you to keep this to yourself for now. I'm asking you to help me protect them."

Bruce literally treats Dick like a parent to the rest of the family. But at the same time he oscillates between treating Dick like a son vs a partner and Dick as a result has developed so many complexes as a result of him filling in every single role Bruce wants him to play.

In the young justice show, Bruce doesn't place every single one of his responsibilities on Dick's shoulders. He tries to take care of them himself. He's self-aware.

So definitely healthier than in the comics. In the comics they're toxically co-dependent but in the show they're caring and independent. Both are interesting in their own ways but yes, you're very right that the show is a better way to depict their relationship because Bruce is a good dad there.

[rum-sugar-pirate]

Another little PMV. I edited the audio together myself. Michaels speech makes me a different kind of sad. He’s got eldest daughter syndrome LMAO

[stardvstbby]

we need more fics of Dick and Tim bonding over shouldering too much of the family duties. but instead of them venting about their experiences it’s them pointing out the signs in each other until they realize “holy shit we are the same”

Dick: you really need to take a break. between running WE and going out as Red Robin you barely get any time for yourself

Tim: you’re one to talk, the way you’re holding a full time job, parenting Damian, being a vigilante, and making constant trips between Blud and Gotham i’m surprised you even have time to think

Dick: yeah but that’s my job as the oldest! i’m happy to do it, and it’s been like this forever so i’m used to it! you’re still young, you need to take care of yourself and live a little

Tim: okay sure but i’ve handled my shit since i was 7 so really that’s been my normal for a while. also i am taking care of myself, being CEO is great for my resume and building a long term future. you don’t even need to have a job rn we have enough money

Dick: Tim that’s depressing. let yourself have fun, you’re still just a teenager. also i will Never let Bruce have financial hold over me again

Tim: hello trauma! you’re the one who needs to have fun, you’re not even old yet. please take time for yourself every once in a while. i’m exhausted just looking at you

Dick: wait you sound like me?? why do you sound like me????

Tim: turns out Eldest Daughter syndrome and Middle Child syndrome are pretty similar. if i sound like you then maybe i Do need a break

Dick: that’s it, put your phone on Do Not Disturb, we’re ordering pizza and watching the entire Lord of the Rings series

[drowningkeyborad]

De Rolo Kids Headcanons

Disclaimer: These headcanons have no set timeline in the CR universe. I just like to keep them safe in my back pocket.

Vesper De Rolo

The oldest child

Part of me thinks that she has some mild case of ‘Only Child Syndrome’. For a while, it was just her, Percy, and Vex. Then the twins came along. I don’t think there is a canonical confirmed age gap, but given that Vesper is about 30 in her last canon appearance; I ballpark the age gap between her and The Twins at about 9-10 years.

 She’s the oldest child AND eldest daughter… so that’s a lot

Her white hair comes from Vex being pregnant with her while she was a Champion of The Dawnfather.

Paladin Class. Worships the Dawnfather and can often be found by the Sun Tree. 

Vesper and Vax’ildan II bond over their respective faith practices. 

Takes after both her parents in the best ways. But this can also backfire. 

Spends most of her free time reading or painting. Her preferred reading material is non-fiction and history. 

She’s just as unhinged as the rest of her siblings, but tends to keep it out of the public eye better than the others. 

Loves painting. Like REALLY loves to paint. Her room looks like the inside of Rapunzel’s tower in Tangled. 

Yeah, turns out those paintings were linked to oracle powers–

Anyway– that means she’s off on an adventure! She likes to take her siblings with her, when they’re old enough. Leona and Vax’ildan II are her favorites to travel with. 

Despite the 9-10 year age gap, Vesper and Wolfe bond over being the ‘Eldest Daughter’ and ‘Eldest Son’ of the De Rolo family. 

Gwendolyn and Vesper have a very close relationship, despite having the biggest age gap of all the kids. They share a love for history and fashion. 

Has no real interest in politics, but given the order of her birth, she pays close attention in the case she might have to replace her Aunt Cassandra’s seat.

Heavy Weapons AND Heavy Armor girlie!! Will smash your skull in and look cute while doing so.

Wears her white hair in a messy side braid. Just like her mama <3

Wolfe Kristoff De Rolo

Contrary to most headcanons I’ve read about him; this boy is his father’s son. The Einstein of the new generation. 

Demisexual 

Definitely found old blueprints of Pepperbox and thought “I could do better”. And he did.

Fighter/Artificer Multi Class

Acts the most ‘Noble-like’ out of all his siblings. 

Will throw money and his family name at all of his problems. (“My father will hear about this.”)

“I’m gonna k*ill myself.” – Wolfe, at any minor inconvenience

The most sought after bachelor in Whitestone. Weekly, Percy and Vex are approached by other nobility with the proposal of a political marriage of Wolfe and their own heir. If it’s not nobility; it’s townspeople trying to catch the inventor out of his Workshop to ‘get to know him’.

Wolfe has threatened to Crash Out if either of his parents even considered one of the offers. 

Very well-versed in both engineering and politics. 

Accidentally invented the Printing Press at the age of twelve… He was trying to make a stamp for his dad and it just got out of hand. 

Took a really nasty fall when he was younger. Probably climbing on something he wasn’t supposed to. Resulted in a broken arm and busting his head open. 

Has a scar on his forehead from the fall. His brown hair turned white where the scar meets his hairline. 

Big into hair & skin care. Always has lotion on his person at all times.

Dresses like Percy in Vox Machina Origins. Thigh high boots people…

Take the demon-murdered family-torture trauma from Percy, keep the brains, add a healthy noble upbringing, and tune up the cockiness by ten; ya get Wolfe. 

Hear of Hearing! Boy is around heavy machines and gunfire all day. Sounds like he’s yelling most of the time, but his family knows it’s because he cannot hear them.

Learned Sign Language because of his hearing loss. 

Has to spray Gwendolyn with water like a cat to keep her out of his Workshop. 

Jealous of how free spirited his twin sister can be. He wished he could naturally let go of his worries the way Leona does. 

Leona De Rolo

Middle child. Literally. Between Wolfe being two minutes older than her, then followed by Vax’ildan and Gwendolyn– Leona is smack in the middle.

A bi queen

She loves hunting, target practice, etc. Anything to get a bow in her hands.

Thick-ass glasses and she HATES them! They’re so annoying when she’s trying to hunt/fight in the rain or snow. Still has a deadly aim though. 

Very competitive. She’s the reason the De Rolo family can’t have a game night. 

Fighter/Ranger Multi Class

Good fucking luck trying to tame her lion’s mane of hair. Vesper, Vex, and Gwendolyn have all tried to help her tame it, but it just gets put into a messy ponytail/bun/braid.

Very much a tomboy. Takes to wearing suits and more masc-leaning clothing. Hasn’t worn a dress or skirt since she was like seven years old. 

Wolfe has even commented on how she pulls off suits better than he does. 

She would never tell him, but that compliment has stuck with her for years. 

Often has to push/tackle her twin out of harm's way because he’s hard of hearing.

She and Vex bond over their shared love for the woodlands. There was a time the two of them were camping together, and Vex opened up about her own twin brother. That was the first time Leona had ever seen her mother cry…

She silently vowed to never let something like that happen to Wolfe.

Doesn’t care much for engineering like her father and twin, but she will willingly listen to them ramble on about whatever rabbit hole they’ve both fallen into. 

A small, dark part of her is jealous of Wolfe and how he seems to be admired by everyone. Everywhere. 

Will kill anyone for looking at any of her siblings in a way she doesn’t like. 

She and Vesper travel together the most out of the siblings. Sometimes they’ll go on separate journeys and end up meeting in the middle anyway.  

Leona and Gwendolyn love to pull pranks together.

Vax’ildan Frederick De Rolo

Trans.

Trans, and I cannot be convinced otherwise. 

He 100% chose the name Vax’ildan. 

He’s very quiet. Usually lost in thought or just observing the people around him. 

Stares at people. 

Really good perception (checks). 

Cleric/Paladin Multi Class 

Cleric of the Raven Queen… Yeah, Vex was real happy about that…

His family calls him “Danny” or “Freddie”. He understands that “Vax” is reserved for their dearest friend. 

Wolfe calls him “Danny Boy”. It’s Vax’ildan’s favorite nickname. 

Mama’s boy to the max. Vex, like all parents do, says she doesn’t have a favorite. But everyone knows it’s Vax’ildan II.

Vex was the first one Vax’ildan II came out to as trans. Then Percy, then his siblings, etc. 

“Yeah, dude, we already knew.” “...What?” 

Just like his uncle; Vax’ildan II had been/is watched by the Raven Queen. 

When he accompanied Vesper to her faith work, he would often wander off and be found by the Raven Queen’s Shrine. 

Ravens follow this poor kid everywhere. To the point that Leona has offered to shoot them on multiple occasions.

Fell through a frozen lake when he was about ten years old. It scared his family to death, and he was grounded to sleeping in his parents’ bed for like a month (Vex physically would not let him go.) 

He tried to explain that he was “-following the guy in the raven cloak who had daggers.” 

The reality of the situation didn’t hit him until a few years later, but he still felt no dreaded fear for when it happened. 

The only one allowed to come-and-go into Wolfe’s workshop as he pleases. Likes to sit in the back and read his books.

I could write a whole book on this kid. 

Gwendolyn De Rolo

Daddy’s girl 100%. It's canon.

The little game that Percy and she play during parties is just training her for trouble. 

Rouge Class through-and-through. 

Learns how to use a rapier from her Auntie Cassandra 

Around the age of fifteen, she starts asking to go by just ‘Gwen’. It’s much less of a mouthful, and something about dropping the lengthy name took a weight off her shoulders.

The age gap between her and the rest of her siblings puts a little bit of a strain on things when it comes to relatability. What would an eleven year old Gwendolyn have in common with a twenty-six year old Vesper? 

They all make it work though. 

Aside from Vesper; Vax’ildan II is the next sibling that Gwen is closest to. No one else in the family has the same level of spying skills and likes to gossip as much as she does– except for Danny. They talk shit about other people all the time.

Danny and Gwen’s relationship is similar to that of Cassandra and Percy. 

I can see her picking up bow skills from both Leona and Vex. Having her as a Rouge/Ranger multi class would be deadly.

Cuts her hair when she’s older and likes to keep in short afterwards

Can rattle off years worth of history of about any city/town/ceremony site she steps into. 

Despite her family not seeing her as anything other than their sister/daughter; Gwen feels, in a deep part of her, that they look down on her for being a Tiefling. More so WHY she’s Tiefling. 

She and Leona love to pull pranks on the rest of their siblings together.

[sillyshifterbean]

just realised that in so many of my drs, I give myself an older sibling figure (usually a brother) to compensate for the crippling eldest daughter syndrome lol