#and asking questions

[taintedtowers]

okay i looked on the wiki and stuff and i genuinely cannot figure it out, what is diary of a tourney kid???

a totally normal soundcloud account themed around the hit jeff kinney book series diary of a wimpy kid that will totally not rewire your neurons completely

[kitkatwinchester]

I really should've known the episode was gonna end on a cliffhanger.

But alas, I still have class tomorrow, and I have to go to bed, so...

That said, I feel so bad. Derek really tried so hard to keep Scott and Stiles out of it, and Chris really tried so hard to keep Allison and Lydia out of it, but one episode in, one day back at school, and they're already all being dragged back in again.

I guess when you're tied to the supernatural, there's really not much you can do, huh....

But man, do I appreciate our protective parents and our protective Alpha for the effort they put in.

Unfortunately, these things never last long...

So anyways I guess I have to wait to hear more.

The season continues tomorrow.

[catmask]

i dont consider myself a 'fashion guru' by any means but one thing i will say is guys you dont need to know the specific brand an item you like is - you need to know what the item is called. very rarely does a brand matter, but knowing that pair of pants is called 'cargo' vs 'boot cut' or the names of dress styles is going to help you find clothes you like WAAAYYYY faster than brand shopping

[10holmes]

I want to add another point and perspective to this as well because I just had this discussion with my partner about why people are staying narrow-minded or why there's such a lack of understanding for issues like queerness or race theory.

But instead of purity culture we were more focusing on the aspect of capitalism and it's influence on suppressing knowledge and thus furthering hate and discrimination.

It's not just that people willfully don't know or care about these topics and grow to be hateful but that they are literally forced and made to...

Capitalism takes our time, the most valuable resource we have, and for example by being stuck in a 40h work week, living paycheck to paycheck, few people have the time nor energy to use their precious little free time to sit down and learn about a topic that is new to them. They also on top of that may not even have the resources or access to that knowledge.

So it's not just purity culture that's the issue here.

And to get back at OPs original point about non-LGBTQ people asking questions - ehy would you not just be glad they ask and show interest? Why would you not just answer them?

I would always answer them! I would always take the little time I have to educate them because I'd rather give them a proper explanation when they're already showing me they want to learn, then to rebuff them and tell them to do their own research, leading to them either finding false information (because they never learned or would also still have to learn how to select correct or filter only the needed information) or having them not even get to doing their own research because to them it would be a mammoth task...

Because I remember being them once, I remember the time and effort it took to learn, to make mistakes along the way and feel uncertain and overwhelmed looking at all the terms and words and information. I may have been privileged enough to have had the time to educate myself thoroughly on my own and have the persistence and resources to do so, but I also know that I could have been less fortunate and then some help and the opportunity to just ask without judgement would have made all the difference.

thinking about that time I was at some kind of diversity and inclusion thing that involved discussion in small groups and one straight girl said she really wanted to be a good ally but sometimes there were some things she just didn’t know and was too afraid to ask for fear of accidentally being offensive. and as the only queer person in this 4-5 person group I said well go ahead and ask me, I don’t care if you accidentally use the wrong term right now or whatever, it’s better to talk about it and learn something, I love talking about queerness and I’ll answer the best I can. and she just looked so nervous and in the end wound up refusing to ask for fear of causing offense. and it wasn’t just the group setting, I’ve known straight people to act similarly even when it’s just one on one

and just. you guys. this is what purity culture and the “if you don’t know something you were never a real ally in fact you’re a bigot in fact you’re worse than bigots because you pretended not to be one” attitude does. how can our allies be allies if they’re scared to talk to us? to ask questions, to make mistakes, to learn? can we please bring back the idea of “in good faith”? there’s way more to say here about identity politics and virtue signaling and acting like language is more important than action but I’m too tired for that right now

please feel free to add to the discussion (regardless of if you’re queer or not), I would love to hear about people’s experiences with this and if others feel differently about it

[tunakitchen]

40K QBAGINA‼️‼️‼️🔥🔥💯💯💥 MINECRAFT YURI 🔛🔝

clip from @pixiecaps

[mamatater]

The spouse is getting curious about tumblr

[batcavescolony]

Odysseus: I am different, I am no longer the man you married, it's been 20 long years but if you could just fall in love with me again?

Penelope: if you can do something for me

Odysseus: anything

Penelope: move my wedding bed.

Odysseus: I can't, it's made out of a living tree, to move it I would have to destroy it. How can yo-

Penelope: oh, I thought we were asking each other stupid questions?

Odysseus:

Penelope: 'FaLl iN lOvE wItH mE aGaiN' to do that I would have had to stop loving you.

[disableddyke]

[reality-detective]

1963 Refrigerator 🤔

[shadebloopnik]

Penelope: Would I fall in love with you again? Hmmm, well. Can you also move our marriage bed over there? Hmmm? What? I thought we were pretending to be stupid by asking the most idiotic questions.

[jjian1002]

Chilchuck the struggling girl dad🥳

[creekfiend]

good evening. are u avoiding pain or seeking joy

[wardensantoineandevka]

is that piece of media actually bad, or is it just not following the blueprint you projected onto it? is that work actually not good, or are you just demanding something from it that is absolutely antithetical to its themes, genre, tone, and narrative goal? is that story actually poorly written, or do you just dislike that it is not the specific things you wanted from it that it never set out to be, never was, and never is going to become? is it actually bad, or is it actually well-executed and you just dislike the story it chose to be because it isn't catering to your specific desires and expectations?

[tactfullyinappropriate]

It's like we all collectively forgot as a society that friendship and just connection in general takes effort. Even if you meet someone you immediately click with, it takes hanging out about 20 times (!) to become friends. And guess what, some of those 20 meetings might be awkward or unimpressive.

We all want to reap the benefits (having a friend circle, having a partner, getting married) without doing the work (going to events, interacting with people, learning to handle conflict maturely, dating). Myself included. If I could, I'd never leave the house or go on another mediocre date again... except, that's part of the process.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, the cure to the loneliness epidemic is touching some grass and building tolerance for tedious in-person interactions.