#all about love by bell hooks

[jamietukpahwriting]

Greed is rightly considered a “deadly sin” because it erodes the moral values that encourage us to care for the common good. Greed violates the spirit of connectedness and community that is natural to human survival.

—All About Love: New Visions by bell hooks

[mun-dane]

All About Love, bell hooks

[bypatia]

book recs no one asked for: always coming home by ursula k le guin, why we swim by bonnie tsui, a thousand splendid suns by khaled hosseini, if you want feminist soul-changing, hopepunk, touches the veil of life reads, and educated by tara westover, all about love by bell hooks, the year of magical thinking by joan didion if you want real, visceral takes on love, grief, and being the master of your own fate, bye

[houseofpurplestars]

"When the practice of love invites us to enter a place of potential bliss that is at the same time a place of critical awakening and pain, many of us turn our backs on love."

- bell hooks, "all about love"

[thediaryofarevolutionist]

- Simone de Beauvoir „the second sex“

She is literally describing me

[saturnianthots]

[lets-get-lit]

The practice of love offers no place of safety. We risk loss, hurt, pain. We risk being acted upon by forces outside our control.

- bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions

[onlyindreams]

thank you bell hooks for basically saying that i CAN fix him 😝🫶

[theannotatedbook]

"Usually adult males who are unable to make emotional connections with the women they choose to be intimate with are frozen in time, unable to allow themselves to love for fear that the loved one will abandon them. If the first woman they passionately loved, the mother, was not true to her bond of love, then how can they trust that their partner will be true to love. Often, in their adult relationships, these men act out again and again to test their partner's love. While the rejected adolescent boy imagines that he can no longer receive his mother's love because he is not worthy, as a grown man he may act out in ways that are unworthy and yet demand of the woman in his life that she offer him unconditional love. This testing does not heal the wound of the past. It merely reenacts it, for ultimately, the woman will become weary of being tested and end the relationship, thus reenacting the abandonment."

-- "All About Love: New Visions" by bell hooks

[jamietukpahwriting]

Rarely, if ever, are any of us healed in isolation. Healing is an act of communion.

—All About Love: New Visions by bell hooks

[whenweallvote]

“There can be no love without justice…” — All About Love

Happy heavenly 71st birthday to bell hooks. Thank you for always sharing your truth and wisdom with the world. 🤍

[mun-dane]

[hangsawoman]

get them for me bell hooks

[elektramouthed]

Much of the talk about “family values” in our society highlights the nuclear family, one that is made up of mother, father, and preferably only one or two children. In the United States this unit is presented as the primary and preferable organization for the parenting of children, one that will ensure everyone’s optimal well-being. Of course, this is a fantasy image of family. Hardly anyone in our society lives in an environment like this. Even individuals who are raised in nuclear families usually experience it as merely a small unit within a larger unit of extended kin. Capitalism and patriarchy together, as structures of domination, have worked overtime to undermine and destroy this larger unit of extended kin. Replacing the family community with a more privatized small autocratic unit helped increase alienation and made abuses of power more possible. It gave absolute rule to the father, and secondary rule over children to the mother. By encouraging the segregation of nuclear families from the extended family, women were forced to become more dependent on an individual man, and children more dependent on an individual woman. It is this dependency that became, and is, the breeding ground for abuses of power. The failure of the patriarchal nuclear family has been utterly documented. Exposed as dysfunctional more often than not, as a place of emotional chaos, neglect, and abuse, only those in denial continue to insist that this is the best environment for raising children.

bell hooks, from All About Love: New Visions

[girlonthelasttrain]

The wounded child inside many males is a boy who, when he first spoke his truths, was silenced by paternal sadism, by a patriarchal world that did not want him to claim his true feelings. The wounded child inside many females is a girl who was taught from early childhood on that she must become something other than herself, deny her true feelings, in order to attract and please others. When men and women punish each other for truth telling we reinforce the notion that lies are better. To be loving we willingly hear each other’s truth and, most important, we affirm the value of truth telling. Lies may make people feel better, but they do not help them to know love.

— bell hooks, “All About Love: New Visions”

[birdiethepoet]

since many women believe they will never know fulfilling love, they are willing to settle for strategies that help ease the pain [of lovelessness].

— bell hooks, all about love: new visions