The older I get the more I realize these things about dating.
I have been trying to have deep connections and stimulating conversations for some time.
This doesn't seem to work. Especially on dating apps for I guess obvious reasons.
But as an observant, shy, lonely and somewhat intelligent person ( who happens to be gay) I have unfortunately never found love or relationships myself.. I have only seen it through other people
It's pretty apparent that dating is for simple people. I don't mean this in an arrogant way but a majority of individuals seem to not take the question asking part of dating seriously. Idk if this is due to them not being attracted, busy, simple minded or a more narcissistic culture but it is apparent to me that the closer these people are to my location, the less they are willing to learn more about me.
I wonder why that is? 🤔 I've had plenty of engaging online, non dating app conversations with people all over the world.
So part of me thinks that this is due to our new emotionless, soulless culture. Because this problem only exists when I engage with potential matches that can turn into reality.
The need for connection is still there. Fear is holding us back.
Why are people so afraid of reality? What are they running from? Themselves? Other people? Is the world in such a bad place right now that we feel like if we make a connection we know it will probably end up broken like the society we live in? 💔
The more I observe dating and other people's love lives the more it is apparent to me that deep, intellectual, stimulating conversations are not a part of the game AT ALL.
( take it as a grain of salt but from my observations dating goes like this)
One, attraction is the 1# thing! Because if you don't have it there is no fuel to get anything going. The car won't even get out of the lot. Especially off apps.
Secondly, the man usually takes action by getting the girl on the date as fast as possible..he has to woo her by showing her a fun, spontaneous, adventurous, humorous, and flirtatious time.
It is usually filled with banter, funny nostalgic stories, flirting and none of that would even matter if the two ( especially the man who usually carries the convo) was not attracted.
You can seriously make anything work with mutual sexual attraction. I've seen two plain and boring people talk for hours about nothing but because they had those saucer eyes for eachother it just worked! They definitely don't talk about work or deep concepts.
So the man drains his ( or if hes in his 20s) his daddy's resources on the girl to have a "fun" time..meanwhile his sexual motivation is keeping it going because she obviously has many other options.
The girl then looks pretty and vets if he is worthy for a LTR.
If so, she gets brought into this new, advantageous, silly, successful man's life and uses him as a tool to get away from her boring and domesticated life. She uses him for fun, community, hobbies and eventually family.
She uses his resources as a way to post on tiktok, fb and ig to show off to all of her friends " look at the amazing, good looking and successful guy I am able to get" mostly to show status as a woman and to make her friends jealous..because they were mean to her in the past.
None of her *connection* to her man has pretty much anything to do with conversation. ( sounds harsh I know but hear me out)
If you doubt this why do men and women immediately separate at Christmas parties and work events?
Have you ever observed a straight guy talking to a straight girl before? At any age?
It's usually a girl talking with her friends about things that doesn't interest him and his eyes roll over astrology and the girl eye rolling about video games or sports banter. Exc...
It's pretty obvious how for 95% of the population..male and female worlds have NOTHING to do with eachother. And want NOTHING to do with eachother except for what each gender lacks...
Emotional support from the woman and financial stability from the man. What binds them is sex and what keeps them together is family.
This is why my nerdy lesbian ass has such a hard time with dating. Lol
In the typical female way I am relying too much on talking, not much action. And in a very unfair lesbian way I can't seem to find my opposite.
I am trying to find an intellectual match when I should just be finding my feminine opposite. I'm treating dating like lunch dates with friends, Like men discussing politics on the Titanic while smoking cigars.
Unless I want to talk to a mirror long conversation isn't the way to go.
Because it never was to begin with. This is the code I finally cracked. Lol 😆
I'll leave the cerebral banter and philosophical insights to the lonely, individualistic writer side of me..the side of many great minds in history...But even a great writer will drop his work like a hot potato as soon as he finds a woman he is undeniably in love with. 🥰
My point is to find my opposite not my reflection. And my opposite might surprise me with what they can give or know...even if it's not deep or extremely interesting to me. This goes for any gender. Love doesn't work that way.
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Midnight Pals: Haunted Home
Ai Jiang: submitted for the approval of the midnight society, i call this the tale of the town where all the houses are haunted
Barker: that rules
King: yeah that sounds really cool
Jiang: oh you would think
Jiang: but in fact
Jiang: it's actually kind of depressing
Ai Jiang: so my family just moved into a new house today
Jiang: Movin' was hard but we got squared away
Jiang: Bells started ringin' and chains rattled out
Jiang: I knew we'd moved in a haunted house
Jiang: see, in this town
Jiang: you move into a house
Jiang: and BAM! it becomes haunted
Jiang: guaranteed
Brian Asman: where is this town?
Asman: i need to know for reasons
Jiang: oh you couldn't get a house there
Jiang: it's very exclusive
Jiang: there's a really long waiting list to get a house there
Jiang: cuz the ghost that you're assigned
Jiang: will actually turn out to be the ghost of someone you loved
King: oh! i mean, that sounds good right?
Jiang: yeah yeah it's good
Jiang: or is it???
King: oh no!
Jiang: just think about what it would be like if your departed loved ones just hung around
King:
Poe:
Barker:
Lovecraft:
Koontz:
Jiang: like all the time
Jiang: it'd get old real fast, believe me
Jiang: the mom is obsessed with the ghost of her dead son
Jiang: so she makes his favorite food
Jiang: every goddamn day
Jiang: youtiao
Jiang: what are we supposed to do, live on youtiao?
Jiang: give me a break!
Jiang: living people need other nutrients
Jiang: we need protein!
King: what's a youtiao?
Jiang: it's like a donut
King: oh really?
King: i don't know, doesn't sound so bad
King: i think i could live on donuts
Jiang: oh yeah that's what they all say
Jiang: just imagine
Jiang: eating nothing but donuts every day
Jiang: i think the living would envy the dead
King: but wait, aren't the dead also eating youtiao...?
Jiang: you heard me
Jiang: if someone you loved just hung around after they died
Jiang: like you'd never be able to move on
Jiang: you'd be doomed to be forever stuck in the past
Jiang: a shadow of what you could be
Koontz: whoooaaaa
Koontz: it'd be like
Koontz: YOU were the ghost!
Jiang:
Jiang: oh yeah that's pretty good
Jiang: this kid's pretty bright
Poe: yeah that's our dean
Poe: we're all very proud of him
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A British Columbia lawyer alleged to have submitted bogus case law “hallucinated” by an AI chatbot is now facing both an investigation from the Law Society of B.C. and potential financial consequences.
Earlier this month, it was revealed that lawyer Chong Ke allegedly used ChatGPT to prepare legal briefs in a family law case at B.C. Supreme Court.
In reviewing the submissions, lawyers for the opposing side discovered that some of the cases cited in the briefs did not, in fact, exist.
Those lawyers are now suing Ke for special costs in the case.
Full article
Tagging: @politicsofcanada
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The Robot That Makes Houses For Free
I have built a robot which creates new houses entirely for free. It's an amazing new innovation, a huge leap forward in robotics and it's going to solve homelessness, probably.
The way it works is the robot goes around to hundreds or thousands of other houses all over the town, and rips out the construction materials it needs from each of them.
But don't worry! It only rips tiny little pieces out of each house, completely insignificant bits which they would never miss, and then it makes this entirely new house for free out of all the little bits and pieces it took. Free houses! How amazing is that!
You just type into the computer what kind of house you want, what style of architecture, how many floors, what kind of floor plan, and it'll just do it - like magic! Out of nothing! For free! What amazing technology, it's incredible what we can do with modern advancements.
Anyway, this recent plague of houses collapsing is really worrying. Apparently they're falling down because they're being slowly worn away by some kind of mysterious erosion? Huh, that's weird.
But it's kind of a blessing, really, because it means now there's a huge market for new houses, so we're going to build even more robots to make those houses, and so long as the traditional old construction companies keep making new houses for us to sample, we can make new houses totally for free forever!
Wait, what do you mean the constant supply of free houses is crashing the market and driving them all out of business?
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Here's a fun idea: how about we don't replace the writers who bring the humanity and art to the media we consume with ai, we instead replace the company executives with ai. Think about it, who could possibly calculate financial and market indicators better than a computer? Or analyze demographic markets or the financial efficacy or a project? Then the company doesn't have to pay the executives, the robot recognizes that keeping the writers, actors and production crew well paid is better for the company in the long run and everyone gets a raise. The only people who suffer are the billionaires who have hoarded more than enough money over the years to live comfortably for the rest of their lives. Win-win-win.
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