#aggressively cishet

[dangerous-fighter-fairy]

I’ve seen a few too many people say Robert Jordan can’t write women. On the surface, it would seem like that, what with all of the mentions of their boobs and the constant men vs women nonsense going on. I understand how people would get that impression

But he actually CAN write women, and compared to other classic male fantasy authors, he writes them VERY WELL. The average women in WoT has equal power to the average man: women own businesses, give orders, rule countries, pursue men they like, and some people even think the Aes Sedai secretly puppet the world. That theory isn’t scary because they’re women, it’s scary because they’re magical. The only thing that would prevent a woman from doing certain things are rank and societal roles, which would equally prevent men from doing certain other things. For example, women are not expected to join armies (the Aiel are seen as strange for letting women fight) however all of Andor would riot if it had a king because “we’ve always had a queen! We’re Andor!” While there’s still a gender divide, it’s not inequality, it’s just the world’s societal expectations (which vary depending on where you are). Rand and Tam are never mocked for doing “women’s work” just because Kari is dead, it’s just a part of their life since she’s not around to do the “female housework” and they don’t have an issue changing things to accommodate their situation.

Another thing is that women aren’t shamed for their sexualities in this world unless they’re being socially inappropriate (like feeling someone up in the middle of a market) making someone uncomfortable with it (like not taking “no” for an answer). Otherwise, you get a few comments from the men along the lines of “aren’t I supposed to be chasing you?” but it’s not seen as crazy that a woman would do that or even want to do that; it’s just a little role reversal that takes the men by surprise. In fact, Faile does this often with Perrin once they’re married, she makes comments about how excited she is to fuck him and the only reason she’s stopped from saying that is if they get interrupted or if it’s the wrong time. Otherwise, his response is “good idea, let’s go.”

HOWEVER, all of RJ’s characters (the men too) are steeped in several hundred levels of kindergarten level men vs women gender bullshit to the point where it SOUNDS like traditional misogyny, but in reality it’s not. Everyone is equally annoying about gender stuff. They’re all humans, no one dimensional feminine objects here. They’re just very loud about the world’s gender divide

[t4tails]

ive been so deprived of any kind of queer content or subtext that lore olympus has me thinking "damnn maybe hermes and thanatos should kiss" with panels like these 😩

[sannin-three]

Okay but imagine Orochimaru and Tsunade finally managing to coax Jiraiya into exploring life outside of his bizarre cishet bubble.

Jiraiya: No way am I trying on that girly crap, I'd look awful!

Orochimaru: Is that what's holding you back? The fear that you might not look as pretty as you want to?

Jiraiya: ....oh 😳

[thasminlove]

Having the doctor being allowed to rest, being allowed to heal, being allowed to be part of their best friend’s family, be an aunt/uncle* to Rose, and have joy and peace in their life without being as afraid of losing it, after all they’ve been through, is everything to me. It also allows Ncuti’s Doctor to heal and have more joy and love in their life, whilst still recognising and carrying that loss.

*I can’t remember the gender neutral term atm sorry. Yes I am nonbinary lmao.

[unalloyedmiquella]

tumblr is the mra website atp

[gaylactic-fire]

Ngl, part of what put me completely off miphlink was the fans (especially the conservative tradcath ones) obsession with werid hybrid babies... it kind of put me off the zora forever with THAT image

I'm not into Miphlink at all they're doing what?? 😭

[queers4years]

I just keep thinking about august when I had 2 nonbinary kids talking to me about how scared they were. One told me she might have to go back into the closet for safety.

[avenin7]

in your AU Link and Revali would ever adopt a child?

they canonically have a daughter after the main story!! though she is their bio kid and not adopted :)

[ikjun]

we should start oppressing cishets if i have to see one more couple aggressively make out in front of me either on the bus or at work or in line at the grocery store i will pass a kidney stone out of pure disgust

[obscenicon]

i think that generally it is fine and okay to exclude men from lesbian spaces. lesbians is about women. we dont need to coddle dudes who are insecure bcs a lesbian told them to dni and immediately retreat to the comfort of their casab to excuse it

[houseofwolvess]

abortion has officially been banned in my state. i don't know what to do now. this place just gets worse every day and im totally crushed

[technikki]

if there is like an actual twitter implosion this time and we get a bunch of tpntwt users im gonna become one of those paranoid people in like apacolypse stories who answers the door with a loaded gun pointed at the person. are you normal about shipping teenage characters. are you normal about emma’s gender expression. this is the only place where i can regularly find don stuff that doesn’t make me incredibly violent if i see anything weird about him its ON SIGHT i dont believe in blocking i’ll just kill you 

[coldbrewpup]

have you noticed how there is no acceptable thing for a trans lesbian to be, even within queer and feminist spaces? everything that is applauded as progressive, subversive, and powerful for tme queers to do, transfems are hated for.

you can't be a strong, aggressive woman, you can't speak your mind and be openly feminist, you certainly can't be angry, or the same queers who will praise outspoken tme women will turn around and call you a dangerous man. and god forbid you be a man-hating feminist dyke while butch, any touch of masculinity in your presentation will be further snatched up as proof that you're really a man trying to invade women's spaces.

you can't be sexual, you can't be proud of your body, you can't enjoy women's bodies, you can't be a lesbian who likes being a lesbian, or else the otherwise "sex positive" tme queers will accuse you of fetishizing womanhood, of being a predator, a straight man in disguise. and don't you dare commit the cardinal sin of actually liking having a penis, because everyone knows that penis is the ontologically evil weapon of the enemy!

but then, you can't be femme either. you can't enjoy feminine presentation, you can't want to be small and cutesy, you can't like makeup and spinny skirts, otherwise you're accused of reinforcing patriarchy and gender roles, of making a mockery of women, of wearing stereotypes like a costume. these accusations will all be thrown at you by tme queers who tag transmisogynistic caricatures as "gender goals", and who applaud the "femboy" but only before she comes out, only so long as they can say she's just a progressive role-smashing cis boy.

of course it goes without saying that the conservatives, the cishet men who want us to be their dirty little secrets, their lifeless sex toy, an object of desire and target for violence, of course they hate us. but it's not just the conservatives. no matter how you act, how you present yourself, how you feel and express your relationship to womanhood, to femininity, no matter how meek or outspoken you are, tme queers will criticize and ostracize and attack you for doing the very things they praise each other for.

there is no way to earn a way into their good graces, no way to be progressive or subversive in the "right" way, so long as they view the inherent fact of our transfemininity as too subversive, too perverse, to exist the first place.

[unnameablethings]

genuine serious take: there should be more m/f romances written by queer people. as a bisexual trans man I have been. at various points in my life. -a man attracted to women -a woman attracted to men -a woman attracted to women -a man attracted to men

this makes me more qualified than ANY CISHET IN THE WORLD to design the objectively most attractive and compelling m/f relationships. SPECIFICALLY being trans is also a really good way to dodge some of the pitfalls of conflating things like "submissive/receptive/passive/feminine/bottom" and "dominant/active/penetrative/masculine/top" as being sort of inherent gender roles.

There needs to be more m/f romance with delicate men being tenderly protected and cared for and powerful women being a little too aggressive and dominant. Sometimes I see the glimmerings of straight people Wanting This. like. women swooning over delicate beautiful weeping twinks or the worlds soggiest and most pathetic men, or men getting into femdom shit, but there's this sort of Gender Block which means that they can't quite picture this as a serious romantic interest. I can change this!!!! I can change them!!! I can baby bird good m/f romance to the heterosexuals. And You Can Join Me. we can turn this ship around. booktok male love interest but as a brooding morally gray bloodthirsty woman instead and her innocent but snarky sweet-faced male love interest. see the vision in your mind.