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I am fascinated by Ometal, may I inquire about it?
Credit where credit is due, my friend was the one who got me into ometal and pretty much everything I like about it came from conversations weâve had and ideas heâs come up with.
Basically this all stems from the idea of âwhat if metal sonic joined team dark,â since team dark were the ones that picked up Metalâs body after heâs defeated at the end of sonic heroes
Unfortunately nothing ever came of this in canon, but in another universe I donât think metal sonic wouldnât have been satisfied returning to eggmanâs side after getting a taste of freedom and power of his own (plus, I think if he had returned, eggman would have put measures into place to ensure he was never betrayed again, which is my personal headcanon as to why metal sonic doesnât speak nor really play a very large narrative role anymore). Of course after the events of Heroes heâs also too damaged to go anywhere else, so w/o any other options he decides to stick with Team Dark. I think Shadow would be the one to offer it, as he and Metal already have a lot in common and we see that they work well as a team in games like Sonic Rivals 2 (Metal is also one of the few characters Shadow has verbally expressed outright concern for, so thereâs that). I also think Shadow would get a kick out of messing with Sonic by keeping Metal around (Shadow: âWhat? I took a page from your book and decided to forgive my enemiesâ).
As for the Metal/Omega dynamic itself, I donât think Rouge would mind having Metal join but I think Omega would HATE Metal Sonic at first. But eventually it becomes clear that like him Metal is the cream of the crop of eggmanâs creations and like him, has also unaligned himself with Eggman. This would make it difficult for him to see Metal as just any other old badnik. However, I do think Omega would consider himself to be the only one of them to actually have free will, as he went against his programming while Metal Sonic continues to comply with his original directive even after leaving Eggman.
On the other hand, I think Metal would see the opposite. In his eyes, Omegaâs original directive was to guard Shadow the Hedgehog and under Team Dark, thatâs still what heâs doing. Therefore, him and Omega are the same in that way. Of course, this insinuation would PISS omega off, but I also think it could kick off a serious robot existential crisis moment (I donât actually think Omega joining Team Dark is a result of his original programming, even if the argument could be made, but I think it could serve as an interesting character investigation).
Thereâs a lot of nuance to Sonic robots beyond the original franchise concept of âartificial bad natural goodâ (We saw this as early as Gamma in Adventure and recently with Sage in Frontiers), so I think exploring the dichotomy between Omega and Metalâs personal goals versus their original programming has potential for a good free will/forging your own path/finding your own people story. Also Metal and Omega are both totally down for murder so thats cool.
Most of this really boils down to me and my friend wanting wacky gay robot hijinks and the fact that Metal Sonic is my #1 favorite sonic character so I like creating content for him. Itâs a fun pairing to me that I think has more potential than pure crack but also isnât meant to be super serious.
TLDR: i like it when robots are gay and kill
#ometal#metal sonic#omega#sonic heroes#didnât mean to go so hard but this is how they exist in my mind#again a lot of this comes from my friend that I just subscribed too wholeheartedly bc I LOVE IT#text#asks#tigermisty6
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Sherlolly Self-Interviews 2020
Well hi đ
Ignoring the internal image of Gilderoy Lockheart smiling smugly while flashbulbs pop and saying âIn my autobiography, Magical Me...â đđ I shall take the opportunity of this lovely event to introduce myself as a writer of Sherlolly fanfiction on AO3...
I am English and somewhere over 30. I watched the show as it aired, and lost my heart as quickly to Molly Hooper as to Sherlock Holmes. The kiss is British television history. Series 4 is my favourite. Moriarty on the beach is life. The Holmes brothers break my heart every time.
I am extremely lucky to have been provided some questions to answer here by @ohaine and @mybrainrots - huge, huge love and thanks to these two lovelies, and not just for this. I admire you both so much as writers, and your support means the world to me â¤ď¸ Thanks too, to @sherlollyappreciationweek!
Where did you begin to write, and have you written for other fandoms? I wrote my first fanfic when I was eleven years old - a 100 page ramble about The Monkees. Oh yes. Then in 2018, I fell for the characters of the Disney Pixar film Cars and began writing and publishing. So far so random! Writing in this fandom sprang from binge-watching all four series of Sherlock during lockdown. I remembered reading Louise Brealey talking about being disappointed Molly didnât get chance to âroundly kick Sherlockâs arseâ and agreeing with her wholeheartedly. That, over a few weeks, turned into my first fic - Who You Really Are. Â
Youâre a recent (and welcome!) arrival to the Sherlolly ship, and I was wondering if writing in an established, less active than it used to be fandom has been a challenge?  Thank you, firstly. My experience of this fandom has been incredibly positive - the sense of welcome has been wonderful. I will admit I was terrified posting the first fic - there are hundreds of times more stories posted daily in the Sherlock fandom as in the one I had some experience of. But I neednât have worried, itâs been a blast. I will also admit, that itâs no small thing to be surrounded by such brilliant writing and the long-standing passion which goes with it. But I find that inspiring in itself, and Iâm very glad to be here - how supportive the fandom are makes me feel like I always have been!   Â
Whatâs your favourite place and way to write? My aesthetic is Lin-Manuel Miranda in his in-lawâs laundry room 𤣠I wrote my first ten-thousand words on the notes app on my phone before my other half told me to stop being ridiculous! I switch between the laptop, my phone and longhand (Iâm a sucker for a nice notepad and a Uni-Ball Eye) and, more often than not, not sat up properly at a table.  Â
Since youâve (done something Iâve never managed successfully and) written a novella length fic... how did you organise/keep track of all the details and where you wanted the story to go? Did you outline/plot in advance? First of all - I would love to see a novella length fic from you @mybrainrots! The final scene of Who You Really Are came to me very early on and I knew I wanted the fic to fit within TFP - a lot of it takes place in the timeframe of the final montage. At first, it was going to be much more about Sherlockâs relationship with the ideas of sentiment and love (the phrase âIâm not sentimental about you, I love you,â haunted me for a while) and I spent some time researching the psychology and playing with scenes from throughout the series - one of my favourites I didnât go on to use was inspired by the final scene of THoB. Using scenes from the canon gave an automatic structure, and I was always aiming for the final one I wrote early on - the two of them on the beach (everything is about the beach, with me!) As I went along and started, inevitably, to slow down, I mapped out the chapters with a short note of what I wanted to be in each, then would add notes or phrases as they came to me - often emailed from my phone! I had to force myself through a tricky section set in Baker Street at one point, but it came together in the end. I did plot The Pathologistâs Skeletons on paper first, as I found with a casefic which remains a WIP, that I can get confused and lose focus when it comes to details and how to reveal them in a way which stays paced and interesting. Iâll certainly do that from now on with longer stories and cases.  How did you keep up enthusiasm for the work? I want to write an original novel, so I am forcing myself to work through the knotty bits and blocks as a learning experience. Not everything is destined to be finished or finessed, of course, but Iâm finding this process is building my confidence that I can overcome problems and slow periods. I also find I know when I need some external inspiration - some of my favourite scenes have come to me while out walking the dog or sitting on the beach. Iâve also been inspired by books or other series or things going on in the world, as we all are, and sometimes thatâs pushed me on. Plus, of course, Iâm a newbie - Iâm very much in the honeymoon period of my writing, even though Iâve loved Sherlock for ten years! (Ten years! Bonkers.)Â
Youâve got a knack for writing Sherlockâs thoughts and capturing his voice. That said, which character do you find easiest to write? Which is the hardest? Thank you so much. I absolutely love writing Sherlock and Mycroft, and Iâm sure thatâs because they suit my somewhat over-the-top writing style! I find Molly and her POV really difficult. I want the scenes I write from her perspective to sound completely different to Sherlock, but that means writing in a style which doesnât come as naturally to me. Iâm a long way off happy with that at the moment, but Iâm enjoying the challenge.
Is there a scene or character that specifically inspired you to start writing Sherlolly? The whole of TFP, but especially from the moment Sherlock arrives at Musgrave onwards. I am desperate to see what a Sherlock Holmes who has been reacquainted with his own heart would look like. I find his emotionality in those final scenes hugely compelling (Mycroftâs office is one of my favourite moments from across all four series) and, as I have always believed in him and Molly, I practically jumped up back in May after watching it and said âright, whereâs my notebook?!â.
Thereâs a lovely peaceful, quiet feeling to your fic âWeâre All Right At The Momentâ. Can you tell us what inspired it and if youâve thought of doing the backstory that goes with it? Thank you! Like everyone, I would go back to January of this year and start again in a heartbeat, but I am hugely fortunate to be able to say that I have a lot to be grateful to the UK lockdowns for. I might never have begun writing in this fandom otherwise, for one, and I have had a brilliant time so far and met some lovely people. Honestly, I donât feel able to do any sort of justice in my writing to what has happened in the world in any broader sense than drawing on my own experiences of staying at home and enjoying my family. This particular super-short fic sees Molly cutting Sherlockâs hair at home in Baker Street. I wrote it in the evening after I had cut my other halfâs hair and had been reminding myself that despite how horribly worried I was - and still am - about everything, we were all right in that moment, and to focus on that as much as possible. I wanted to try to capture that, if for no reason other than to look back on this entire experience and remember something lovely, so I am so pleased to hear you felt the fic did that. It was only after I finished it and reread it, that I realised it is ambiguous as to whether Molly is worried about Sherlock contracting the virus, or whether she is remembering him being treated for it... As I say, I donât think I could write more about these extraordinary circumstances - perhaps itâs just too close at the moment - so I donât plan on extending it. But you know how it is, the plot bunnies hop where they will...Â
Do you have a Sherlolly music playlist? What are your top five favs from the list? Hereâs a run down of (6 đ) songs I have been getting emotional over in the last little while, leading my brain to assign their significance to my favourite couple...
Kissing You - DesâRee - Itâs so 90â˛s, itâs a bit cheesy, itâs oddly disturbing. It helped me write A Request, Made Properly, and that gave me an excuse to have Sherlock kiss Molly in the snow.
How Long Will I Love You? - Ellie Goulding - part of the playlist, but also in remembrance of a friend who passed away recently. Life is very short, love is forever.
High and Dry - Jamie Cullum - Itâs made me emotional for a very long time. The original is my partnerâs version of choice, this is mine. Â
Think About You - Delta Goodrem - Okay, this one isnât emotional, and itâs not my usual vibe! Blame the zoom exercise class I do! But oh my goodness, itâs Molly. Bless her.
Blinded By Your Grace (P.T.2. F.T. MNEK) - Stormzy - One of the best ever, I reckon. Spent an awful lot of time thinking about angels and demons, grace and what it takes to save someone, while writing my latest - The Pathologistâs Skeletons. This has been in my head most of the (blimminâ) time!
Love Me Like You Do - Ellie Goulding - I didnât know I was a fan of Ellie until I wrote this list... I donât subscribe to the theory that the love Molly wants or that which Sherlock has to offer is any lesser because it isnât ânormalâ or expected. I donât think romantic entanglement would come easy to either of them. But itâs still love and it would be beautiful.
Thank you so much for reading. Thanks and love to @ohaine and @mybrainrots. And thank you @sherlollyappreciationweek for the event and for everything you do â¤ď¸
Feel like I should sign off with a quote from the show...
âYouâre not a puzzle-solver, you never have been. Youâre a drama queen!â Dr John Watson (Moffat & Gatiss) 2014 đ
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A fav fic of mine by @mybrainrots
https://archiveofourown.org/works/7563193
A fav fic of mine by @ohaine
https://archiveofourown.org/works/10562904
My stuff:
https://archiveofourown.org/users/EnglandsGray/works
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So, a question about Mary inspired by your recent post. I know you hate her (I think she is horrible too), but is she a character that you love to hate? Do you think she is an interesting character? Does she fit a role she is written to play? There are many characters who are terrible people, but are still great characters in all their hateful glory (I think Moriarty was like that until he got turned into a caricature). Is Mary one of those for you or not?
Interesting question. I would have to say no, though. For me, what makes me appreciate a character in any respect is a combination of things, such as how interesting I find them, whether or not their motivations feel clear and well-founded, consistency, continuity in writing/characterization. Sometimes other factors, like how sympathetic I find them, or how likeable or admirable I find them in spite of agreeing wholeheartedly that the character is a terrible person from every moral standpoint. Some of these things are more subjective than others. From where Iâm standing, the BBC version of Mary Morstan is severely lacking in a lot of these areas, but most sorely in having well-founded motivations and consistency/continuity. I donât find her to be a well-written character, at all. Let me break this down a bit.
1. Do I find the character likeable in spite of moral flaws (and is this important)? No, to both. There are definitely villains that I do find likeable in spite of obvious moral failings. The obvious comparison in the BBC Sherlock world would be Moriarty. Heâs obvious a terrible human being - a literal terrorist - but heâs so damned charming about it that you almost canât help but root for him, in a way. Loki in the MCU universe is rather like that. Other villains, like Benedictâs Khan, are sympathetic not because theyâre charming, but theyâre intelligent and have genuinely understandable motivations (the safeguarding of his crew, for instance). Does a villain have to be likeable to be a well-written villain? Absolutely not. To use two other examples in the BBC Sherlock universe, I would cite both Magnussen and Culverton Smith. Horrible men. Good consistency of writing. Not charming or sympathetic in any way, but solidly written characters. Do I love them/love to hate them? No. I just dislike them, full stop.Â
2. Do I find her motivations well-founded or sympathetic? No, neither. Mary is a character who, canonically (aka this bit is not subjective to my personal opinion):Â
lied about her name, background, personal history, all of it, to the man she claims to love, never apologized for it or demonstrated any manner of remorse
is canonically someone who kills people and destabilizes governments (at the very least) for personal gain, never faced any consequences in terms of criminal justice or retribution for these crimes or indicated any manner of remorse for themÂ
attacked her own maid of honour - a person whom she befriended for the sole reason of gaining access to her bossâs office - and left her bleeding on the floor, never demonstrated any manner of remorse for this, either
her motivations are weirdly unfounded. The best example of this is her choice to shoot Sherlock rather than Magnussen that night. Her initial motivation was to ensure Magnussenâs silence so that John wouldnât find out who she really was/so that she wouldnât be forced to face justice for her criminal history. Shooting Sherlock did nothing to ensure Magnussenâs silence. If she intended Sherlock to die, it would have ensured HIS silence, but not Magnussenâs. If she didnât intend Sherlock to die, then Iâm not sure what it accomplished, since the very first thing he did once he was physically able was to tell John - exactly what she didnât want. And it still did nothing to ensure Magnussenâs silence. She just left that wide open and instead made the extremely overboard choice to shoot the best man at her own wedding (not hugely worse than attacking the maid of honour, but still). She could have tried appealing for his help, using compassion for John as a persuading factor. She could have tried threatening HIM at gunpoint to guarantee his ongoing silence. Instead she went straight for the heart, quite literally. Unfounded and ineffective - a really irritating combination!Â
3. Do I find the character consistently written with solid continuity? NO. This is probably my biggest beef with the character. The worst, I find, is being sold a crock of horseshit about Mary having had some sort of redemption âarcâ. An arc, by definition, is a shape that has a beginning, a peak, and an end. There was no lead-up to this âpeakâ moment of Mary suddenly discovering remorse for having shot Sherlock - that, and nothing else. There was nothing in the writing or in her characterization to support such an out-of-left-field move. There was no gradual shift in her motivations, which were consistently to that point nothing more than self-preservation, protecting her own interests: keep John in the dark so that he couldnât make an informed decision for himself, tell any lie to keep what she wants (John, albeit an ignorant version of him), run away/protect herself. She deserted her AGRA teammates, leaving literally half of them behind to suffer torture and/or death without even confirming that they were beyond rescue, then repeated her pattern, attacking Sherlock (AGAIN) and running off to leave John and her own child behind. Her lack of remorse for any of this was consistent as well - she clearly felt wholly justified in all of these actions, that she had nothing to apologize for. That JOHN was the one in the wrong by not speaking to her for âmonths of silenceâ after she shot his best friend in the heart, that she had every right to dictate what John could or could not do, that he had no right to have a say in naming their child, that she somehow âhadâ to shoot Sherlock, that John and Sherlock were so much less intelligent than she was that she couldnât have them âhanging off her gun armâ - when in fact, it was John who outsmarted her by planting the tracking device in the USB key that he already knew she would attack Sherlock over and steal.Â
4. Do I find the character admirable, if not likeable? No. Mary is a coward, interested in nothing beyond what she wants. She has no noble, greater motivations than personal gain. She doesnât care about what consequences her actions have, least of all on the man she supposedly âlovesâ, or on her own infant that she left behind. She commits crimes for money, not out of some need to defend the innocent, patriotic reasons (which I personally donât subscribe to anyway, but others do), self-defense, even - just money. I find that so completely gross. Money =/= an admirable motivation, especially not when itâs gained through literal murder. I admire honesty, courage, self-sacrifice, real love, which puts the needs and wants and health of the beloved above oneâs own. Mary demonstrates absolutely none of these things. She wants for herself and no one else, and I have never once swallowed this notion that sheâs somehow smarter than Sherlock, Mycroft, and John combined. Not only did John himself outwit her with ease, but it felt like transparent pandering to Amanda Abbington as recompense for them writing her out of the show. And then they doubled down on it with creating some ghost version of Mary that John needs some SERIOUS therapy to deal with that actually bore no resemblance to Mary as she actually was, then gave her that gross voiceover that reasonlessly granted her credit for having created one of the greatest friendships in English literary history. That, at least, is consistent with the writers having had Mary set herself up as the broker of John and Sherlockâs friendship in TEH, which I also never bought. They didnât need her help; John just needed time to cool down and come to understand - he couldnât even last 24 hours without going to find Sherlock of his own accord. They didnât need her âhelpâ and she certainly didnât âcreateâ them.Â
So yeah, no: I hate the character, hate the inconsistency even more, wish they had followed through with the solid villain arc they actually wrote. I donât think that Mary is âstrongâ or âinterestingâ just because she uses violence for personal gain. I donât think sheâs a good role model or an interesting character - I just see selfishness, greed, and cowardice.Â
#sherlock#that wife#not tagging the character because I'd rather not bring the stans down on me!#john watson#moftiss#northernstardust
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I have been seeing a lot of posts from martial artists, some quite experienced, some very senior, some well known, giving their opinions on how to cope with isolation.
Some have been genuinely interested and helpful but many have been quite judgemental and superior.
The topic of mental health and having a âmartial mindsetâ come up regularly as if that is enough to explain or educate. I guess most people are not into self inquiry and simply regurgitate what they have been taught. Especially from male teachers and largely masculine teachings where toughing it out, being defiant or just being macho and not showing your emotions was the recommended path.
I feel this is unhelpful and only a recycling of old ways, their usefulness has run out and we are now all too aware of this.
Similarly I do not feel martial artists, teachers or spiritual guides have any responsibility to other people and no one should âfollowâ anybody. We have our own minds to discern and our own life experiences for reference so donât subscribe to someoneâs teachings wholeheartedly. Do not also bash someone elseâs advice if you have never applied it. Simply put, you have never walked in their shoes and they have never walked in yours. Everyone has a responsibility to themselves first and if you feel you donât, you should.
But, my reason for writing is this. Practicing Tai chi, Qi gong, sanchin, kaizen, I Ching whatever...wonât save you from the bad things from happening in life. It wonât. In fact, those of us who study deeply know, thatâs not what itâs even for.
Your yoga practice helps your mental stability but under 3 weeks of isolation itâs not working like it used to. You train hard and have the body to show it but without the gym you have no idea how to train your body effectively or even connect with its needs. Going out and connecting to nature is your way of receiving energy, touching trees and walking barefoot you sing to the ocean. But now youâre going stir crazy locked in your 1 bed tower block flat in Tower Hamlets not knowing when youâll be able to see your family again.
Youâre questioning all your beliefs, your practices and all the emotional crutches you used to prop yourself up for years. You stop posting selfies on social media, your T-shirtâs are loose where your lats used to bulge out. You try and meditate more to get into the âzoneâ but it doesnât work like it did 3 months ago....why? Whatâs wrong with me? Why canât I hear my guides? Where are my angels? Why do I feel so confused? Why canât I handle this? What the fuck is going on with my body? Why canât I poo? Why canât I sleep? Why canât I get off the sofa? Why canât I motivate myself to learn that skill I said I never had the time for? Why canât I reach out to exes and old friends just to check in on them? Why donât I feel guilty now I donât feel pressured to go out? Why do virtual meetings freak me out? Whatâs wrong with me!?!?!?!
Nothing. Nothing is wrong with you. Not before and not now. You are dealing with an unexpected and unprecedented global event which could be catastrophic for you and the anxiety caused by worrying how the tables are turning is messing you up. You are allowed to be worried about your job and if youâre even going to receive a pay check. You are allowed to be scared about your mental health if your usual resources have now become nonexistent. You are allowed to worry about your childrenâs education and how youâre going to ration food for your family.
You are allowed to feel. You are allowed to notice that things are shifting and the world as we know it is changing. This isnât a holiday. This is not âspend 3 weeks at home and come out a completely transformed person as though the world will wait for youâ! This is not time with family as though itâs an extended Christmas. Parents are worried about income, children are anxious because theyâre not getting explanations for things, people are living day by day not knowing what the government will impose next. If you felt stable amongst all this fear and dread you probably werenât engaging in life in the first place.
So back to my reason for writing this, I feel many martial artists, life coaches and spiritual people are saying âif you canât go withinâ if you canât âbe with yourselfâ if âyouâre falling apart nowâ and if âyouâre going through a mental breakdownâ your practices were false or you didnât do it properly to begin with. I find this horribly judgmental at a time when we donât need that personal attack.
My take on it is this. Firstly, you will do whatever works for you AT THE TIME. This is a natural and predictable response to the feedback we get whether internal or external. If we meditate a certain way for three years and it makes us feel what we want then likelihood is weâll continue in the same manner. Compare this too people who have been vegan for 20 years and never felt better.
Well, maybe I was vegan for 2 years and only after I stopped did I feel better. So here is the internal feedback-my body was calling for something else so I tried other things. Similarly with the here and now, what feedback are you getting from your martial practice now you are in a completely different situation? What do you really FEEL? Is it fine? Do you feel complete? Is it asking to be complimented with another practice? If you used to meditate in silence, unmoving for 2 hours maybe your soul is just asking you to get up and sing for a change. Hell, dance about in your living room, no one is watching anyway! Maybe itâs in this period you learn the value of sound healing and vocal chants.
If youâre used to pushing yourself physically maybe you feel lethargic and demotivated now you canât leave your flat. Maybe your soul is saying âyouâve been in the gym almost everyday for 5 years...how about we just have a bubble bath...come on itâll be fun!â Maybe now is the time you reconnect with the sensual parts of your body and how good it feels to be in your own skin. Being touch starved is a very real plight in isolation, we must learn ways to get out of our minds forever over analysing, criticising and over thinking and get into our bodies too.
Maybe youâre very connected with Source and you know all the breathing techniques and mudras but now you âcanât do your workâ. Well, maybe spirit is call you to action, not analysis. Maybe volunteer to drop food deliveries or make meals for elderly people in your community. Hopes, prayers and good intentions have more power when youâre present and responsive to the human world you inhabit.
Simply put...whatever spiritual practice you have, itâs only ever a doorway to a bigger learning. Itâs a stepping stone to a better you. Itâs never a destination or quick fix and please be wary of those who promise you the âanswerâ. Remember one size absolutely does not fit all.
Your best way to negotiate this time is to check in with yourself little and often and donât question your desires, not matter how inconvenient they are. Inner children, egos, old bad habits and traumas will all raise their heads in this isolation, be prepared to greet them just donât let them stay for too long. Whatever youâre feeling...that feeling is the key to unlock your next step. Your feelings are messages and if you listen to them without owning them or being owned by them, they act as honest guides to help you in the present.
You are not falling apart. You are falling into your humaness. Donât be scared, know it will pass. Enjoy your practice but do not be trapped by it. There are so many ways to connect with your Higher Self so when you are being called to go higher...go.
After all we are all here to experience being human. To feel, think do and connect.
Being a spiritual ninja does not make you exempt from being human.
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8th January, 2020! My first post of the year.
Wow okay, so about a month since my last blog post. Time flies when youâre having fun I guess.
Iâm just gunna go ahead and get a bit word vomitty.
So. Iâm going drug and alcohol free. Most likely for good. And I want to share why.
In October last year after about a 12 month break from booze - and I say break lightly because I was a rare drinker to begin with - I started drinking a little red wine with dinner for the health benefits. I mean I do love me some good anti-oxidants. However Iâve realised alcohol is just not for me and I donât care enough for it to participate. I had my partying fun during my teens and early 20â˛s but never fully subscribed to the Aussie binge drinking culture. I digress...
The main reasons I decided to give up alcohol include (in no particular order): a) itâs expensive b) it doesnât taste very nice unless itâs in something sugary c) I hate how I feel when Iâm drunk (I donât like not having control over my body) d) it provides little to no physical health benefits, and e) it used to provide me with confidence and a feeling of belonging that I just donât need any more.
Alcohol is a central nervous system depressant. It impairs motor and cognitive function. Given its knack for being a social lubricant I had my fun with it as a young adult like most people do, but now itâs not necessary. Thereâs not much to it than that, really. Itâs expensive, doesnât taste great, hangovers are shit, and Iâve developed a sense of self that doesnât require boosting with liquid courage. Also, if Iâm trying to be my best and healthiest and happiest version of my self thereâs just not a whole lot of room in my diet for alcohol. So, cya!
As for the drugs part of it too... that has been a work in progress. In the past two years I totally became a bit of a stoner. I wasnât shy about it to those close to me and it was definitely something fun to socialise over/with, but the longer I indulged the more of a shameful dirty secret it became and the harder it was to just let it go. I noticed when I consumed weed regularly I became lethargic, short with my moods and snappy, and stopped caring about or chasing the things I usually loved, like gym or catching up with friends. It made me anxious at times, especially in social situations so I found I occasionally needed to smoke to relax so I could be in public.
It was a fun thing my boyfriend and I did together when we started dating, and honestly it probably made us super close, super fast - we spoke openly about so many things when we started dating and we got to know some deep parts of our personalities and histories. Also, it was just fucking fun. Watching movies and eating food and having sex and giggling your ass off is all enhanced and made better when youâre high. But the novelty wore off after a while, and the munchies became binge sessions that gave me worries my previously disordered eating patterns would be ignited again. It also didnât feel amazing waking up super tired even though Iâd just slept for 10 hours because I ate a whole pizza and some poutine 20 minutes before I promptly fell asleep on the couch. For someone as productive and ambitious and health conscious as myself it became more of a hindrance than something fun to do with my boyfriend or mates. I appreciated the social lubricant affect it had (in different ways to alcohol) but ripping daily bongs isn't conducive to the monumental life I want to live and Iâve honestly been trying to kick the habit for a few months. I also had my first ever panic attack while high on edibles. So Iâm saying goodbye to weed as well.
Other drugs, well.. I was never really a fan. Iâve always said Iâll try anything twice, but after trying mushrooms and LSD for the first time in 2019 once is most definitely enough for me.
Iâm also reconsidering my uni degree. Doing a psychology degree is so full on and time consuming, and although I love the subject matter Iâm really struggling to maintain a quality of life with the study hours I need to commit to, especially on top of working full time, gym and my relationships. Even though Iâve tried to discourage myself from âquittingâ uni because the time will pass anyway, itâs honestly super daunting to know Iâll be studying for a minimum of six years and have another minimum two years of supervised practice before I can become a registered psychologist. Iâm considering looking into youth counselling and what options I have there as Iâd love to work with young adults. I really just want to help people take control of their psyche and when I think of my future career I see myself talking on stage to hundreds if not thousands of people. Iâm trying to get over the stigma I have surrounding using the terms âcoachâ or âmotivational speakerâ but I do believe my career choice will include me mentoring or coaching others in the area of personal development. I know this is in my path because every time I think about what excites me those images and terms come to mind instantly, and at the same time I feel terrified of being successful; the voice in my head starts to tell me Iâm not worthy of or the right person for the job. Which is only serves to further fuel my fire for it. If thereâs one thing Iâve learned from being a personal development jUnKiE is that that voice inside your head that tells you you canât do things or youâre not good enough is actually highlighting areas in which you lack self esteem, and therefore must be challenged and overcome so that you can experience radical growth. It tells you exactly where you need to go and what you need to work on. Itâs hard to hear the message sometimes because we get caught up in listening to the self-deprecation. We buy into the stories that inner voice tells us about ourselves and our capabilities, but we get to choose what we believe and we get to choose who to listen to. Iâm choosing to listen to my intuition and find all the ways the voice inside my head is wrong. I believe I am worthy of success and I believe I have the ability to help thousands of people.
In addition to the bullshit stories, Iâm also giving up all the bullshit excuses Iâve made for myself thus far. I believe this wholeheartedly and Iâve said it so many times but I am the creator of my own life, and I am exactly where I am because of the choices Iâve made. And itâs actually bullshit that I donât even take my own advice. So Iâm really working hard this year on making choices that will serve me long term, instead of giving in to instant gratification. Iâll elaborate more on this in another post I think.
Amongst all the chaos going on in the world right now, I figured one way to help the world is to be on my game and my best self every day so that I can help get the best out of everyone else. A little love and kindness goes a long way.
Itâs super fucking late and Iâm tired. I definitely want to write more on this but it will have to wait for another day. Thanks for reading!
xoxo
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The Final Lab
.......... is really, really weird.
just what Iâd expect from someone who may or may not have set up the love key system tbh
Is it weird to consider this the Mastermindâs Lab? .... Maybe?
Oh. Oh, thatâs what you meant. Also, damn - does it spread out as far across as the AV room too?
Sure they are. Yup. Theyâre definitely here. Oh, hiding? ....... I donât know if Iâd go that far.
OH THE MUSIC CHANGE
I did think it was weird that the music hadnât changed when we walked in there!
.... this is so oddly conspicuous.
OH IS THAT WHERE THAT THING FROM THE JUNKO-SCENE WAS THIS WHOLE TIME
Wait, what? We were supposed to find this room???
.......
The, uh. The what now.
I... guess thereâs no denying that this is connected to the old games then. Btw, totally random, but I like that little âtinnyâ filter they have on Monokumaâs voice. Itâs a nice touch.
- says Sweetcheeks, to the giant Monokuma head
I mean, I know he means âare you the Monokuma thatâs been in charge of everything this whole time or are you a separate entityâ but it just sounds kinda funny thatâs all. 8â˛D
Anyway, it confirms that but goes on -
.... IS THIS YOUR WAY OF TRYING TO DIVERT MY ATTENTION FROM THAT WHOLE âWE HAVE TO PROTECT OUR REAL MOTHERâ FROM CHAPTER 4. 8/ IâM NOT BUYING THAT THIS IS THE MOTHER YOU WERE TALKING ABOUT.
Though with that said, uh, whatâs with the sudden âmaternalâ imagery???
I wonder if the Monokubs were made there too... theyâre separate from Monokuma, but they were obviously replaced. Also, that... doesnât... look like a machine that could make new Monokuma, but Iâm going to choose to believe this for now only because itâs something that was brought up in Chapter 1 too. I canât think of a reason why this could be untrue...
Thatâs a good point. I mean, unless thereâs a hidden area behind there that have pre-made Monokumas that just need to be activated or something? That would make more sense...
âDuh-doi.â
Thatâs true. This is... weird. Iâm just - Iâm just getting a weird vibe in general.
WHY WOULD YOU ASK HIM TO DO THAT WHEN THERE IS LITERALLY A âMONOKUMA ET ALL VS STUDENTSâ WAR RIGHT NOW
S T O P
ASDL;KFJASDF okay I actually laughed
also thank god, honestly
oh god it has a good point
DUDE DONâT SAY IT LIKE THAT THATâS WEIRD
What is happening right now are we trying to call his bluff but what if it isnât a bluff WHAT IF IT ISNâT A BLUFF -
GUYS PLEASE STOP SAYING THAT THATâS REALLY CREEPY
But at the same time, why would it lie now? What if the deadline had come way back in Chapter 1 and there wasnât any firepower to back it up? There... had to have been a way to back up that threat. .... Right? Right? oh god please donât say Kaede killed for nothing -
âTHIS IS WHY WE KEEP GETTING BLOWN UP BY K1-B0, SHUICHI!â
Wait, what? Thatâs a Monopad? I couldnât tell from the original angle. ..... A Monopad with blood on it??? And is that a handprint....
WHAT
W H A T
Wait, Iâm trying to remember... didnât he have a Monopad on him when he died? We talked about this already, right? So he started the game with two? hey rantaro why does monokuma let you have two monopads -
ahaha lol bye necklace!perk theory
.... Wait, if it has his handprint on it, isnât that the one he was holding in the picture?
WHAT HE GETS AN ENHANCED MAP THATâS CHEATI - oh I guess thatâs part of the perk. But still. Still.....
.... Man this would have been so helpful to have from the beginning. 8â˛/
But there it is - the reason Rantaro knew the exact location of the library door. It was literally laid out for him. The mastermind really did lure him there...
Oh my god this literally spells out what memory heâll learn next. The mastermindâs moves. Literally everything that would perfectly position him to the perfect spot - this almost seems like it was designed that way! To prey on his paranoia from his missing memories! This wasnât a hint, this was a fucking set-up from the start!
.... And yet, it was written by him. But it had to have been approved by the mastermind, right? Or at the very least, the mastermind knew about it...
HONESTLY I FEEL LIKE HE WOULD HAVE BEEN BETTER OFF WITHOUT IT
Man, past!Rantaro screwed over future!Rantaro really well.
Iâm so fired up at how unfair this all was for him ffff he was set up to fail under the guise of it being a perk what the hell, he wasnât even given a fighting chance at all - ?!
JUSTICE!!! JUSTICE FOR RANTARO!!!!
.... I-I mean, I have no idea who it could belong to.
Oh, he knows. He 100% knows. This is him just living by âmeasure twice, cut onceâ, a proverb I wholeheartedly subscribe to btw.
And she knows it too.
MAN literally the moment anything Kokichi-related comes up she is up and running to it. Itâs a shame she hasnât been able to shake that âKILL THE MASTERMIND!!!â attitude that caused all the problems in the first place, but at least she seems incredibly determined to make it up to Kokichiâs memory personally...? 8â˛D or am I reading too much into it again
insert laugh track
INTROVERT BUDDIES :D
Iâm sorry WHAT -
what - ?!
Itâs just... laying here? In the trash, with nothing else? Another thing weâre supposed to find???
Is that from Kaedeâs sweater?
This... is a continuation of the set-up? Just, just leaving this shotput ball here like Kaede just ~has~ to be lurking around here - ??
It... has to be Tsumugi. Between her âfindingâ the cold room, Kaedeâs profile, Kaedeâs âtwinâ, just leaving Rantaroâs Monopad out here for us to find, Motherkuma handing out convenient clues and âevidenceâ of her living in here... itâs all too convenient?
... No, this is a set-up. Sheâs trying to set up Kaede as the mastermind. And she even had Kaedeâs clothes at one point, didnât she??? For the cospox scene? Did - did Shuichi just realize it was Tsumugi too, then?
...
omg I just remembered Tsumugi being incredibly pissed at Rantaro when he basically made her third-wheel in the nailpolishing scene that was totally going to be the Kaemugi Magnum Opus and telling him to, what was it? âBackflip into a landmine and die?â shinjaeba - it was right there. it was the first comparison I made in my head. I shouldâve known in that moment.
That is so darkly hilarious in hindsight, though I still wonder how she knew to count on Kaedeâs plan. What if Shuichi hadnât found the door? Wait, if the Survivorâs Perk ended up here after Kaedeâs trap was triggered, does that mean she darted out and nabbed the Survivorâs Perk afterwards??? But... how did she get past everyone in the first place......... Maybe with Monokuma lying in wait in this room, then? If she had an extra in here and Rantaro had opened the door anyway, it would be easy enough... maybe...???
I HAVE A LOT OF QUESTIONS...
oh Tsumugi is encouraging me to continue looking around too
YOU LEFT MORE CLUES TO POINT A FINGER AT THE THEORETICAL MASTERMIND!KAEDE, DIDNâT YOU
So as long as you were quick enough, you could dart in and out of the room via the automatic door to... say... grab a Survivorâs Perk. Got it.
So you mean... it might not matter if you happened to put the receipt signed tape dust on the reader if the mastermind had already gotten in the room, so thereâs potentially a chance that it was accessed if Shuichiâs timing/luck was bad?
H-Himiko plz
C-Can we also talk about how while Mother Monokuma is confirming that this is the âRemnants of Despairâ room, Tsumugi is the one that keeps pushing for that comparison... sheâs, uh, way too hyped about them. Iâm just sayinâ.
âWell, they are now - oh, crap. Uh. Um. Just. Forget I said that.â
âYOU WERE SUPPOSED TO SAY âNOâ WE PRACTICED THIS - I MEAN -â
I know the context is inaccurate but seeing Tsumugi sweating like this right here is making me lol - and I think I can stop saying âassuming Iâm rightâ, because... Iâm... starting to feel pretty confident tbh.
I feel like Motherkumaâs attitude is a bit different than Monokumaâs? Or am I just imagining things? It seems a lot more relaxed about the mysteries of everything than the other one, and certainly the Monokubs. They literally almost blew the students up for trying to get in here!
IT HAS TO BE LOOPING, THEREâS NO WAY YOU COULD SAY THAT IF IT WASNâT LOOPING IN SOME FASHION
Because it would have to end if there were only two people left, but clearly it wouldnât if there was! And Rantaro is proof that it didnât end with him, either!
The question is, why is it looping????
HOW MANY MORE CAN THERE BE
oh god they really are getting faster i barely captured anything from this
WAIT WHERE IS EVERYONE ELSE
So... Monokuma is still a recognized figure.
It would have been before Shuichiâs time though, yeah? And of course it would have been recorded as a significant event. I was curious so I looked up what our real life âmost watchedâ events in TV history were and theyâre mostly positive, tbh - but not all of them. There were some significant funerals. Anything planned, basically.
'Like they usually do?!â Okay, they are seriously emphasizing the âthis game is loopingâ angle here - and apparently Shuichi should be aware of this fact? Monokumaâs explaining it all, but it sounds like itâs more of a recap than anything!
He recaps it conveniently for us:
Gofer Project, the state of the world, that theyâre the last survivors, their promise to be friends...
Was it like this with the original class? It looks like Shuichi was the last one to be woken up, too. I wonder if thatâs significant...?
Wait, but hadnât they not met each other before this? Or I guess they just forgot their âfirstâ meeting and that was enough...
âWell tbh I was hoping you would monologue about your evil plans for a bit in case I conveniently remembered these memories later, but fine.â
...What a great name for the light. right right shouldnât be giving the murder-bear props for anything, sorry -
With that said, the flashback in the helmets still bother me -unless that was supposed to be them losing their talents in the first place. .... Iâm not... entirely convinced of that, though. I donât think that image has been confirmed to be associated to the talent-loss, so Iâm not going to write it off as that yet.
âThatâs oddly specific and is giving me a different set of high school flashbacks - can you get rid of those memories too while youâre at it oh shIT -â
tell me you donât see sweetcheeks getting shoved into a locker at some point in his life though
Are you sure??? Are you sure?
Again, mass-induced memories - but unlike the ones in the pod room, they didnât seem to be triggered by anything specifically. I wonder, actually - did the others get that memory as well? Tsumugi apparently did, but -
Thatâs not your fault!!
aaaaaw she wants to find a clue too 8â˛D
LMAO you, uh, werenât ready for the responsibility yet, huh. She wears her anxiety on her sleeve. 8â˛D
ATTAGIRL!!!
Youâve got this, Himiko! You donât know this yet, but the meta is on your side! Youâll definitely find something!
Ah, the rare serious Himiko..
So, interesting. Weâre splitting up again - Makiâs ahead, Himikoâs behind, and weâre still with Tsumugi. Why are all signs pointing to her so much right now??? Am I going crazy here??? I mean, sheâs also the least developed out of everyone left which isnât helping and we still havenât seen her cosplay yet (outside of potential!Junko) so....??? So, my girl? Will we ever get to see the power of EVA foam in your capable hands?
#Shuichi Saihara#Maki Harukawa#Tsumugi Shirogane#Himiko Yumeno#K1-b0#Keebo#Kiibo#Ryou plays drv3#spoilers#drv3 spoilers#I'll try and answer the asks from yesterday soon just want to get this out tonight
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My official post on Avengers: Infinity War
I was jittery heading to the theater on Saturday because I was so excited/nervous/curious/waiting. Because I was going to see a big finals-week release Marvel film without the people I had always gone to see them with before. Because - unrelatedly - I had had the second section of a big conversation that morning and was still running a little high-frequency because of it. And because I didnât know what would happen, by the end of the evening, to these characters whom Iâd known since my first year of college.
I think I knew from the first scene on that it wasnât going to be like the other films. Maybe in a way I knew from the first moments, when we opened to a dark screen and a dark and desperate voiceover. Well. It wasnât like the other films.
What was it exactly that Thanos says in the trailer?
In time, you will know what itâs like to lose.
[One of these days Iâm going to write an essay: âMy coming-of-age as summarized by the MCU.â That quote, initially encountered in the middle of what may have been the nastiest semester of my life so far, will definitely be featured.]
We never actually got that line in the film, unless I forgot it. Which is possible, considering everything else. But itâs perfect, because thatâs what happens. The entire movie, the Avengers and the Guardians and their friends are trying every option they can think of to beat Thanos. They always think thereâs a way out. They hand over the stones when their loved ones are on the line, because of course it wonât take that kind of sacrifice, theyâll think of something, theyâve always managed to win the fight before! Surely they can pull it off this time, too. Surely.
Loki alone tries three or four different plans in the first few minutes of the movie. One of them even involves handing over the Tesseract. And Loki says over his shoulder to Thor: I believe the sun will shine on us again, brother.
Thereâs a thought, Loki.
[Hold onto that thought.]
Heâs dead a minute later.
*
I got a little mad at some of the characters while watching. Long-time follows may know that one of my favorite sequences in Fullmetal Alchemist (thatâs Brotherhood if weâre talking anime) involves - well, a choice not entirely unlike the one that Loki and Wanda and Strange and Gamora and Peter all have to make.
Sometimes: sometimes you donât need to heroically prove that you love someone. Sometimes the proof is looking them in the eye and doing the right thing, even if it doesnât keep them safe. Sometimes you save the world first and hold your sorrows close if there isnât time to circle back and save someone else.
This is not really the moral of Infinity War. T
There are, however, three characters who believe it:
- Doctor Strange, if you subscribe to the theory where he saw the future and knew that winning in the end only came if they lost that day.
- Wanda, during the final battle. It doesnât help in the long run. [Pesky Time Stone.] It does no good at all.
- Thanos, our villain. But he takes it too far. If the other characters spend too long hunting for an alternative that doesnât involve handing over someone else as a sacrifice, he doesnât spend long enough. He wants to save the universe? One must kill half of it to save it. Obviously.
[This is a fellow who is not inventive enough.]
He believes it wholeheartedly: all things must bow before the greater goal. Itâs just that heâs chosen a pretty cruddy goal.
But heâs still willing to throw Gamora off a cliff for it, under the silver-bright curl of Vormirâs moon and the watchful eyes of Red Skull.
[Red Skull, who is regretful and alone in a way that his greatest opponent will never be even on the worst days. Steve Rogers has the ultimate revenge in this case, more than he knows.]
*
Things I loved about this movie:
- The whole ragtag, well-intentioned, snarky, broken lot of MCU folk getting to be themselves in every line and action. I have never liked Tony Stark better than I did in this film. Thor finally clicked into focus for me as a character. Peter Parker is a delight - a heartbreaking delight, retrospectively. The Guardians are exactly as they should be. And Cap and Bucky get to meet again - I was up on the edge of my seat as they came to Wakanda, waiting for that reunion.
- The fights - which had me nervous in a way I donât usually feel during Marvel fight sequences. I think the scale of the combatants made a big difference; they kept emphasizing how huge Thanos was, how powerful, and here are our bright story-folk up against him time and time again. Also, the aliens that attacked Wakanda somehow tripped some switches in my mind to actual oh no mode. Maybe there was just enough dog in their design to do it. Heh.
- Gamora. Her whole awful, awesome backstory, quite succinctly and beautifully summed up. Her first appearance in the movie, sitting front seat in the Guardiansâ spaceship, singing to the music and very quietly swaying to the rhythm. Maybe she is âone of the ones that dances,â now. Her courage and her vulnerability and her tough choices.
- Wanda, who pries happiness out of the cracks and crevices of her tragic life, who loves and hopes and wants against the odds, who wields red unburning flame and holds off Thanos and is brave and crying at the same time.
Things I was not as sure about:
- I still donât know what I think about the Snap. Am I ever supposed to? Itâs odd because we know it has to be undone somehow - but we donât know how, yet. And I donât know how to feel about such devastation and impermanence at once. Would it have been worse if theyâd all quietly collapsed instead of dissolving? Better? Who knows?
- I would not have minded Cap and Black Widow and some of the others having gotten a few more of the little âcharacter momentsâ that so many of the characters did. There were definitely some âprotagonistsâ for this film more than others. Which is partly a matter of practicality, and Iâm definitely biased. But I think everyone does all right with what they have, when they have them.
- I wanted a little more hope at the end.
I am not sure who would have given it - I donât think anyone felt very hopeful, and I donât really blame them - but I wished the story could have channeled once more for a moment that flash of defiant optimism we got to see in the first five minutes.
I believe the sun will shine on us again...
[Never mind how much this looks like the end. Hold onto that thought. ]
So think about Infinity War like that, maybe, even though the characters didnât get the chance to put it into words again. The dark before the dawn. Think how grand it will feel when we tie it together with the end of the story next May.
From now till then, itâs just waiting for the sunrise.
[Arenât we all doing that, after all - both sides of the screen?]
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Mommy: The Ultimate Sleep Association
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Mommy: The Ultimate Sleep Association
More Than the Old Adage
Youâve heard the saying, âall babies do is eat, sleep, and poopâ. And while these three things certainly are the majority of my babyâs day (with perhaps the exception of poop, which isnât currently an every day occurrence), there is so much more going on than that.
He is learning and growing at an amazing rate! And I donât know about your babies, but mine has been playing with toys, fingers, faces, and toes for quite a while now.
Sleep on a Deeper Level
Iâve been thinking a lot about my sonâs sleep, as it is currently the biggest challenge I am facing. Why, you may ask? Because Iâm very tired and his sleep habits so drastically affect my sleep habits.
Choosing Our Sleep Method
I have mentioned before my dedication to the no-cry method. Each parent has their different style and this is simply mine. I make no judgments about others who have chosen different methods that work for them.
While I subscribe to the no-cry idea wholeheartedly, there have been times when Iâve played with the idea of just setting my son in his crib and walking away. In fact, Iâve gone as far as to set my son in his crib without his normal sleep associations, but before I get to the walking away part, instant whimpering and tears melt my heart and Iâm quickly set back on the path I chose in the first place. (Yes, Iâm a sucker!)
My husband and I have been following the No-Cry Sleep Solution ideas for about two months now. Have we seen improvement? Yes, we have. When we started, my son was waking up every hour from 8 pm to 6 am. Now, and nearly six months old, he wakes up about three to four times a night. Has it been a quick-fix? Nope, but that was expected.
In the book, author Elizabeth Pantley even says, âit will either take time or tearsâ, and just as she said, we too have chosen time.
To recap our specific challenge, I have been working on changing my sonâs sleep association from nursing to sleep each time he wakes up.
In the beginning, we struggled to make breastfeeding a reality, and he was a sleepy, lazy eater as it was. The natural progression was that nursing became his main sleep association. It wasnât truly an issue until we were blind-sided by the four month sleep regression and I realized Iâd allowed a âbad habitâ to form.
The amount of patience and shear will power it has taken to stick with this method has been a challenge simply because it is not a quick-fix method. I must be honest, the method may work faster for others as I have not been as consistent as I should be â some nights I just choose the fastest path to sleep, instead of the methods spelled out in the book I have mentioned.
The lack of sleep has impacted me in so many ways and Iâm learning many things about myself and what I need to improve upon.
Kindness, Humility, & Apologies
This week, my husband was sick and so I tried to be a good wife and let him sleep. Usually, after I have gotten up for the majority of the night wakings, my husband will get up with my son at 5 am. This is when my son becomes alert for the day, and I take a nap to recover from the nightâs events.
After morning two of going it alone, itâs mild to say I was cranky. In fact, I was outright mean. Not to my son, whom my husband and I truly try not to have any negative emotions around, but toward my poor husband. Why was I mean? I was jealous of his sleep, of course!
The week previous, I had been sick too, and although my husband took care of my son as much as possible, my son only falls asleep with me, his ultimate sleep association. So no matter how much I needed to sleep, my son needed me more.
So after my sleep-deprived, not-fully-recovered-from-sickness self lashed out at my husband, he calmly got up, sick as he was, to spend time with my son and me. Of course, I immediately felt guilty and humbled by his kindness toward me. Realizing the horrible person I was for waking him up so cruelly, I started to cry. âIâm so sorry honey. I didnât mean it. Iâm justâŚsoâŚtired.â
He gave me a hug and a kiss and told me to go lay down for five minutes. What an amazing man my husband is.
I went into the next night fully aware that I would be exhausted the next morning, but I was GOING to let my husband sleep and I was GOING to be happy to be awake with my baby, and I was GOING to be the mother and wife God wanted me to be.
Being a Source of Comfort
With much prayer throughout the night as I woke up with my son, each time becoming more and more difficult as my body craved sleep, God gave me peace about the situation and revealed a few things to me.
Here I was, a mother, incredibly blessed to even have a child, and this child only wanted me. He fussed for me and I got out of bed and began our âgo back to sleep routineâ. I picked him up, held him, spoke gently to him, nursed him and patted his back, then propped him up on my shoulder and stood and swayed with him.
As he fell back to sleep, I gently stroked his face, then kissed him, and whispered, âI love you, son.â Upon lifting him up to put him back in his crib, I hesitated and hugged him close, just soaking him in and enjoying his warmth and soft breathing.
Then I began again to lay my son in his crib. As I lowered him, he put his arm out on the bed, creating resistance to being put down (smarty pants) and whimpered. He wasnât ready just yet, so I picked him back up and just held him close.
As I held him and swayed, I realized, this baby feels so much comfort, safety, and peace in my arms. Not even my husband can get him to sleep at this stage (and my son loves his Daddy). For now, these precious and fleeting moments are mine and mine alone. What a privilege to hold such a place in my sonâs life.
Our Interactions with God
Whenever my husband and I are trying to decide how to deal with a new challenge as parents, we try to understand how God would want us to handle the situation. How can we best emanate Godâs character in our lives towards our child and towards each other as well?
When it comes to this sleeping thing, God is teaching us patience. Especially me!
A few weeks back, I was chatting with a friend (who has four children, I might add) about asking God for patience through the night. She said, âI have to pray for patience with one of my kids every day. And Iâm usually confronted with a situation that TRIES my patience.â I said, âYes, I know God uses circumstances to build our character. But I didnât really want my character built at the moment, so my prayer last night went something like âplease give me patience RIGHT NOW!'â She laughed. (Now howâs that for irony? A little impatient praying for patience.)
Through mothering my son, God truly is teaching me how to be a more patient and loving person.
When all I want is sleep, my son needs my attention and comfort. And although he is not âcooperatingâ with what I would like him to do regarding sleep, I will wait. I will give him the time he needs to adjust. I will train him, day by day, to learn to sleep without me. No matter how long it takes, I want to choose to lead him gently.
This path is probably not the easiest one. Itâs certainly not the quickest way to restful nights. It is a sacrifice, and is requiring a graciousness that God is providing beyond my own abilities.
When I think about how God interacts with us, I am so humbled. How often are we âuncooperativeâ with His plans for us, yet He is patient, kind, and consistent in His guidance. His methods are perfect. He alone is wise. He is gracious and merciful beyond our comprehension or ability to imitate.
Learning Lessons
Despite already giving us so many gifts, God continues to provide peace and comfort in these times in the wee hours of the night, when the only words I can short-sightedly pray are, âplease let this child sleep tonightâ.
And yes, I have wondered, âWhy would God not immediately grant this request for sleep? He gives good gifts. Sleep is a good thing, right?â Yes, but perhaps I am needing to learn these lessons now. Perhaps there is a more difficult challenge than sleep-deprivation in my future. (Teenage years come to mindâŚ)
I am also reminded that my sleep sacrifice for my son pales in comparison to the sacrifice God provided us through His own son.
Iâm so very grateful for the comfort and peace He provides me, though I admit, I rarely embrace it. Just like my baby putting his hand out to keep from being set down, I want to acknowledge His comforting presence in my life and embrace the peaceful place God has provided in Himself as my Father.
How Sweet it is to be Loved by You
Despite the âproblemâ nursing to sleep has caused (particularly in public), during my sonâs nap today I was again reminded in such a sweet way, what a privilege it is to be his âultimate sleep association.â
My son sleeps longer if I nap with him, and letâs face it, I can use the sleep anyway, so win win for us!
He awoke from his light sleep, and I had moved back a bit, away from him (one of the suggestions given for co-sleeping). With his eyes still closed, he reached his little hand out searching for me. I watched, as he patted his lovey, and the bed next to him, then I moved in close to him and said, âIâm here, baby.â Upon feeling me next to him and hearing my words, he went right back to sleep.
Then tonight as we were going through our bedtime routine, my son lifted his head off my shoulder, not to fuss or burp (as is typical), but to lift his hands to my face. He proceeded to pat at my mouth and my nose, (and my eyeballâŚ) before laying his head back down on my shoulder.
With my heart as warm as can be, all I can say is, âThis is loveâ and how very sweet it is.
âBut let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.â James 1:4
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What lessons has God taught you through your interactions with your children? Your spouse?
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Mommy: The Ultimate Sleep Association
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Mommy: The Ultimate Sleep Association
More Than the Old Adage
Youâve heard the saying, âall babies do is eat, sleep, and poopâ. And while these three things certainly are the majority of my babyâs day (with perhaps the exception of poop, which isnât currently an every day occurrence), there is so much more going on than that.
He is learning and growing at an amazing rate! And I donât know about your babies, but mine has been playing with toys, fingers, faces, and toes for quite a while now.
Sleep on a Deeper Level
Iâve been thinking a lot about my sonâs sleep, as it is currently the biggest challenge I am facing. Why, you may ask? Because Iâm very tired and his sleep habits so drastically affect my sleep habits.
Choosing Our Sleep Method
I have mentioned before my dedication to the no-cry method. Each parent has their different style and this is simply mine. I make no judgments about others who have chosen different methods that work for them.
While I subscribe to the no-cry idea wholeheartedly, there have been times when Iâve played with the idea of just setting my son in his crib and walking away. In fact, Iâve gone as far as to set my son in his crib without his normal sleep associations, but before I get to the walking away part, instant whimpering and tears melt my heart and Iâm quickly set back on the path I chose in the first place. (Yes, Iâm a sucker!)
My husband and I have been following the No-Cry Sleep Solution ideas for about two months now. Have we seen improvement? Yes, we have. When we started, my son was waking up every hour from 8 pm to 6 am. Now, and nearly six months old, he wakes up about three to four times a night. Has it been a quick-fix? Nope, but that was expected.
In the book, author Elizabeth Pantley even says, âit will either take time or tearsâ, and just as she said, we too have chosen time.
To recap our specific challenge, I have been working on changing my sonâs sleep association from nursing to sleep each time he wakes up.
In the beginning, we struggled to make breastfeeding a reality, and he was a sleepy, lazy eater as it was. The natural progression was that nursing became his main sleep association. It wasnât truly an issue until we were blind-sided by the four month sleep regression and I realized Iâd allowed a âbad habitâ to form.
The amount of patience and shear will power it has taken to stick with this method has been a challenge simply because it is not a quick-fix method. I must be honest, the method may work faster for others as I have not been as consistent as I should be â some nights I just choose the fastest path to sleep, instead of the methods spelled out in the book I have mentioned.
The lack of sleep has impacted me in so many ways and Iâm learning many things about myself and what I need to improve upon.
Kindness, Humility, & Apologies
This week, my husband was sick and so I tried to be a good wife and let him sleep. Usually, after I have gotten up for the majority of the night wakings, my husband will get up with my son at 5 am. This is when my son becomes alert for the day, and I take a nap to recover from the nightâs events.
After morning two of going it alone, itâs mild to say I was cranky. In fact, I was outright mean. Not to my son, whom my husband and I truly try not to have any negative emotions around, but toward my poor husband. Why was I mean? I was jealous of his sleep, of course!
The week previous, I had been sick too, and although my husband took care of my son as much as possible, my son only falls asleep with me, his ultimate sleep association. So no matter how much I needed to sleep, my son needed me more.
So after my sleep-deprived, not-fully-recovered-from-sickness self lashed out at my husband, he calmly got up, sick as he was, to spend time with my son and me. Of course, I immediately felt guilty and humbled by his kindness toward me. Realizing the horrible person I was for waking him up so cruelly, I started to cry. âIâm so sorry honey. I didnât mean it. Iâm justâŚsoâŚtired.â
He gave me a hug and a kiss and told me to go lay down for five minutes. What an amazing man my husband is.
I went into the next night fully aware that I would be exhausted the next morning, but I was GOING to let my husband sleep and I was GOING to be happy to be awake with my baby, and I was GOING to be the mother and wife God wanted me to be.
Being a Source of Comfort
With much prayer throughout the night as I woke up with my son, each time becoming more and more difficult as my body craved sleep, God gave me peace about the situation and revealed a few things to me.
Here I was, a mother, incredibly blessed to even have a child, and this child only wanted me. He fussed for me and I got out of bed and began our âgo back to sleep routineâ. I picked him up, held him, spoke gently to him, nursed him and patted his back, then propped him up on my shoulder and stood and swayed with him.
As he fell back to sleep, I gently stroked his face, then kissed him, and whispered, âI love you, son.â Upon lifting him up to put him back in his crib, I hesitated and hugged him close, just soaking him in and enjoying his warmth and soft breathing.
Then I began again to lay my son in his crib. As I lowered him, he put his arm out on the bed, creating resistance to being put down (smarty pants) and whimpered. He wasnât ready just yet, so I picked him back up and just held him close.
As I held him and swayed, I realized, this baby feels so much comfort, safety, and peace in my arms. Not even my husband can get him to sleep at this stage (and my son loves his Daddy). For now, these precious and fleeting moments are mine and mine alone. What a privilege to hold such a place in my sonâs life.
Our Interactions with God
Whenever my husband and I are trying to decide how to deal with a new challenge as parents, we try to understand how God would want us to handle the situation. How can we best emanate Godâs character in our lives towards our child and towards each other as well?
When it comes to this sleeping thing, God is teaching us patience. Especially me!
A few weeks back, I was chatting with a friend (who has four children, I might add) about asking God for patience through the night. She said, âI have to pray for patience with one of my kids every day. And Iâm usually confronted with a situation that TRIES my patience.â I said, âYes, I know God uses circumstances to build our character. But I didnât really want my character built at the moment, so my prayer last night went something like âplease give me patience RIGHT NOW!'â She laughed. (Now howâs that for irony? A little impatient praying for patience.)
Through mothering my son, God truly is teaching me how to be a more patient and loving person.
When all I want is sleep, my son needs my attention and comfort. And although he is not âcooperatingâ with what I would like him to do regarding sleep, I will wait. I will give him the time he needs to adjust. I will train him, day by day, to learn to sleep without me. No matter how long it takes, I want to choose to lead him gently.
This path is probably not the easiest one. Itâs certainly not the quickest way to restful nights. It is a sacrifice, and is requiring a graciousness that God is providing beyond my own abilities.
When I think about how God interacts with us, I am so humbled. How often are we âuncooperativeâ with His plans for us, yet He is patient, kind, and consistent in His guidance. His methods are perfect. He alone is wise. He is gracious and merciful beyond our comprehension or ability to imitate.
Learning Lessons
Despite already giving us so many gifts, God continues to provide peace and comfort in these times in the wee hours of the night, when the only words I can short-sightedly pray are, âplease let this child sleep tonightâ.
And yes, I have wondered, âWhy would God not immediately grant this request for sleep? He gives good gifts. Sleep is a good thing, right?â Yes, but perhaps I am needing to learn these lessons now. Perhaps there is a more difficult challenge than sleep-deprivation in my future. (Teenage years come to mindâŚ)
I am also reminded that my sleep sacrifice for my son pales in comparison to the sacrifice God provided us through His own son.
Iâm so very grateful for the comfort and peace He provides me, though I admit, I rarely embrace it. Just like my baby putting his hand out to keep from being set down, I want to acknowledge His comforting presence in my life and embrace the peaceful place God has provided in Himself as my Father.
How Sweet it is to be Loved by You
Despite the âproblemâ nursing to sleep has caused (particularly in public), during my sonâs nap today I was again reminded in such a sweet way, what a privilege it is to be his âultimate sleep association.â
My son sleeps longer if I nap with him, and letâs face it, I can use the sleep anyway, so win win for us!
He awoke from his light sleep, and I had moved back a bit, away from him (one of the suggestions given for co-sleeping). With his eyes still closed, he reached his little hand out searching for me. I watched, as he patted his lovey, and the bed next to him, then I moved in close to him and said, âIâm here, baby.â Upon feeling me next to him and hearing my words, he went right back to sleep.
Then tonight as we were going through our bedtime routine, my son lifted his head off my shoulder, not to fuss or burp (as is typical), but to lift his hands to my face. He proceeded to pat at my mouth and my nose, (and my eyeballâŚ) before laying his head back down on my shoulder.
With my heart as warm as can be, all I can say is, âThis is loveâ and how very sweet it is.
âBut let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.â James 1:4
What about you?
What lessons has God taught you through your interactions with your children? Your spouse?
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