#sleep regression

[caregivingchrysalises]

goodnight angel, whatever adventures you went on today~ big or small your buba knows you did wonderfully. you’re safe to be as small as you need now starlight, i’ve got you,, buba’s right here darling, anything at all and your darling prinx is more than happy to make zer sweet thing feel more comfy and cozy dove. you deserve all the love and care in the world, and i’m so grateful i get to be a part of it~ may tomorrow bring flutterings of fun and whimsy.

~rest well my little moon, ‘tala

[stabbyapologist]

So. Here we are. ♡

Probably shouldn't have made that cup of coffee at 7:00 PM, but I didn't expect for her to go down so easily tonight.

Well. What do I do now?

[yellowballoonx]

[paleflower]

We are transitioning our little boy from two to one nap a day, because if he sleeps too much during the day he will just not fall asleep in the evening.

A few days ago my husband was looking after the little one and he took three(!) naps during the day. Way way waaaaay too much. He did not want to go to sleep that day. It was a fight. I was waiting until he showed signs of tiredness, which took forever and even then he just did not fall asleep. He was up so late and I was so pissed off, because I was tired and wanted to go to bed but I couldn't. The next day he took only one nap and went to bed early. Thankfully.

But today he also just took one nap and it was a fight getting him in bed again. And I hate it. I don't want that. Why does he never want to sleep? He is tired. I know that. He keeps rubbing his eyes, but he does not want to sleep. He wants to walk, play, explore. And I get it. Everything is new and exciting, but I just can't do it. I need a break. I need him to sleep. Please let this just be another sleep regression or I am going crazy.

The worst thing btw is that he will wake up the same time in the morning no matter what time he went to sleep. So it's not even like "oh he went to bed late, guess we're sleeping and hour longer in the morning!"... No that's sadly not what happens. In that case I would be fine with him going to bed late. But it does not matter if he is in bed by 9 pm or 11 pm. He will be up by 7 am latest. No matter what.

[getoutofthisplace]

Dear Gus & Magnus,

Mom and I are still having to take shifts sleeping on the Nugget beside Magnus's crib and we're exhausted from it, and frankly, kind of angry about it. The anger probably stems from a feeling of helplessness -- we're at a complete loss for what to do. As we were getting ready for bed, Mom said Yiayia suggested putting the crib in Gus's room. We both kind of snickered, and then it hit us that it just might work. So I partially disassembled the crib and put it back together in Gus's room.

Gus was a sport and let us do it, even though I think he was internally pessimistic about the whole thing. When Magnus woke up in the middle of the night, Gus was gone -- moved into the laundry room -- so I slept in Gus's bed the rest of the night. Magnus spent the whole night startling awake to ensure I was still there.

I've found the most soothing thing to him right now is singing "Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star," which is something Nene started. Tonight when Gus and I were trying to get him to sleep at the beginning of the night, I sang a few rounds of it. When I stopped, Magnus started singing it, except that he doesn't sing the words; just the tune. Which was precious.

Dad.

Little Rock, Arkansas. 2.6.2023 - 7.56pm.

[lesbian-disaster-academic]

i used to be so good at writing strong, thoroughly-researched, thoroughly-edited essays.

as a kid in hs, my teacher literally came up to me, holding my 40 page essay on the intersection of the European witch hunts and capitalism/exploitation/gender roles (it was supposed to be 7 pages...whoops) and went like "this is literally a master's-degree level thesis. what are you doing?? you could literally use this as your final dissertation in a master's program, what the fuck."

NOW??? NOW?? you'd think I'd be oh so skilled. but alas. i can barely piece together two ideas. adhd skill-regression is so so real. im SOBBING

[littleangerandmuchfear]

1:15

Segíteni akar…felkelni nem…. Nagynehezen melegít tápszert.

Gyerek üvölt!

Nem kell neki.

Türelmetlen,sietne aludni….

De!

A gyerek csak cicizni

Férj türelmetlen,ideges,mi a faszért nem jó neki a tápszer ….

A gyereknek hiányzik mert eddig türelmes volt sétált és elaludt vele.

Már unalmas neki ,ingerült.

Idegesíti hogy sír.

Mit csináljak ?

Félek. Megunja,mást keres …

Fáradt vagyok.

Fáj a derekam.

Fél egy lesz…. Aludnék én is….de hát ugye nekem ez most a dolgom.

Mártír vagyok ? Nem akarok az lenni mégis ezt érzem.!

Ő már alszik….

Mi még küzdünk.

Nehéz.

[enchantedechoes]

The Neverending Quest for Baby Sleep

Hey fellow tired parents! Anyone else out there feel like they haven't slept since their tiny human decided to grace us with their presence?

Seriously though, those first few months can be rough. But just when you think you've finally cracked the code on bedtime routines and white noise machines, BAM! The dreaded 3-month sleep regression hits. Apparently, this magical time is when your little bundle of joy decides they actually don't like sleeping through the night anymore. Fun times, right?

Anyone else going through this right now? Feeling like a zombie who just wants a solid 8 hours (or even 4, let's be real) of uninterrupted sleep? Share your commiseration in the comments below!

In the meantime, I'm sending virtual hugs and caffeine to all of you. We'll get through this sleep-deprived phase together!

P.S. Any tips or tricks for surviving the 3-month sleep regression? Share them in the comments, because this mama needs all the help she can get!

[caregivingchrysalises]

hi! I'm having some terrible sleeping, it's hard to fall asleep and when i do, i usually wake up after an hour or two so it's hard to get any rest. I was wondering if i could ask for some reassurance about it? it would help a lot to hear that it's going to be ok, specially when I'm tiny and your posts help me feel little. you don't have to rush or anything to reply so don't worry about it. thanks for the cool posts, they are very comforting ^^

hi baby, awe my little star it’s alright, shh shh it’s alright to be small lovebug of course it is. you’re so precious honey, i’ve got you. buba’s got you love, you’re safe here. buba promises i’ll do everything i can to help us fly smoothly into dreamland sweetheart. you’re doing such a good job precious, it’s all going to be alright i promise… here can i have your pinky baby, there we go, a royal pinky promise… now it’s official! the chrysalis and i will always take care of you and keep you safe sweet thing, everything is going to be alright my little star, you have your prinx’s word.

oh honey, hey it’s okay, we’re okay darling i’m here. buba’s right here… shh shh i know baby, i know, it was a dream dewdrop, i’m with you, i’ll always be with you honey. you’re so brave sweetheart, there’s no need to worry precious, i’ve got you~ do you think you can go back to sleep for me angel? i know it’s hard, but we’re going to get through this together sprout don’t you worry… if you’d like i can make you a bottle the way you like it? or sing you those songs you love… there’s plenty of stories laying about if you’d like me to go fetch one? of course we can stay here little one, there’s no need to make any decisions baby, i’d be more than happy to hold you as we fall back asleep, of course love, anything for you sweetheart

if you’d like a little mini blurb, consider laying on my chest as my wings cradle us, keeping us both safe from harm ʚ♡ɞ

thank you so much for the ask love bug, you deserve your rest and i’m so very proud of you~ i’m grateful i get to greet another day with you!

[yellowballoonx]

[paleflower]

Lots of playtime doesn't tire my child. Lots of time spent outside doesn't tire my child. Lots of running around, going swimming/bathing doesn't tire him out. But a documentary about South-Korean female monks? Sure.

My son just fell asleep an hour before his usual bedtime. The last few days I've struggled to get him to bed and he was awake hours after his bedtime. One day I fell asleep before him! And now this!

Maybe his sleep regression is over?

[finleysgaytime]

I thought that having a long day would help my sleep regression, like it normally does, and I’d have a restful night’s sleep. Instead I threw up in my sleep again and some went out my nose. Just me things 🤗😫🤪

[ourlittledinosaur]

Mommy: The Ultimate Sleep Association

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Mommy: The Ultimate Sleep Association

More Than the Old Adage

You’ve heard the saying, “all babies do is eat, sleep, and poop”. And while these three things certainly are the majority of my baby’s day (with perhaps the exception of poop, which isn’t currently an every day occurrence), there is so much more going on than that.

He is learning and growing at an amazing rate! And I don’t know about your babies, but mine has been playing with toys, fingers, faces, and toes for quite a while now.

Sleep on a Deeper Level

I’ve been thinking a lot about my son’s sleep, as it is currently the biggest challenge I am facing. Why, you may ask? Because I’m very tired and his sleep habits so drastically affect my sleep habits.

Choosing Our Sleep Method

I have mentioned before my dedication to the no-cry method. Each parent has their different style and this is simply mine. I make no judgments about others who have chosen different methods that work for them.

While I subscribe to the no-cry idea wholeheartedly, there have been times when I’ve played with the idea of just setting my son in his crib and walking away. In fact, I’ve gone as far as to set my son in his crib without his normal sleep associations, but before I get to the walking away part, instant whimpering and tears melt my heart and I’m quickly set back on the path I chose in the first place. (Yes, I’m a sucker!)

My husband and I have been following the No-Cry Sleep Solution ideas for about two months now. Have we seen improvement? Yes, we have. When we started, my son was waking up every hour from 8 pm to 6 am. Now, and nearly six months old, he wakes up about three to four times a night. Has it been a quick-fix? Nope, but that was expected.

In the book, author Elizabeth Pantley even says, “it will either take time or tears”, and just as she said, we too have chosen time.

To recap our specific challenge, I have been working on changing my son’s sleep association from nursing to sleep each time he wakes up.

In the beginning, we struggled to make breastfeeding a reality, and he was a sleepy, lazy eater as it was. The natural progression was that nursing became his main sleep association. It wasn’t truly an issue until we were blind-sided by the four month sleep regression and I realized I’d allowed a “bad habit” to form.

The amount of patience and shear will power it has taken to stick with this method has been a challenge simply because it is not a quick-fix method. I must be honest, the method may work faster for others as I have not been as consistent as I should be – some nights I just choose the fastest path to sleep, instead of the methods spelled out in the book I have mentioned.

The lack of sleep has impacted me in so many ways and I’m learning many things about myself and what I need to improve upon.

Kindness, Humility, & Apologies

This week, my husband was sick and so I tried to be a good wife and let him sleep. Usually, after I have gotten up for the majority of the night wakings, my husband will get up with my son at 5 am. This is when my son becomes alert for the day, and I take a nap to recover from the night’s events.

After morning two of going it alone, it’s mild to say I was cranky. In fact, I was outright mean. Not to my son, whom my husband and I truly try not to have any negative emotions around, but toward my poor husband. Why was I mean? I was jealous of his sleep, of course!

The week previous, I had been sick too, and although my husband took care of my son as much as possible, my son only falls asleep with me, his ultimate sleep association. So no matter how much I needed to sleep, my son needed me more.

So after my sleep-deprived, not-fully-recovered-from-sickness self lashed out at my husband, he calmly got up, sick as he was, to spend time with my son and me. Of course, I immediately felt guilty and humbled by his kindness toward me. Realizing the horrible person I was for waking him up so cruelly, I started to cry. “I’m so sorry honey. I didn’t mean it. I’m just…so…tired.”

He gave me a hug and a kiss and told me to go lay down for five minutes. What an amazing man my husband is.

I went into the next night fully aware that I would be exhausted the next morning, but I was GOING to let my husband sleep and I was GOING to be happy to be awake with my baby, and I was GOING to be the mother and wife God wanted me to be.

Being a Source of Comfort

With much prayer throughout the night as I woke up with my son, each time becoming more and more difficult as my body craved sleep, God gave me peace about the situation and revealed a few things to me.

Here I was, a mother, incredibly blessed to even have a child, and this child only wanted me. He fussed for me and I got out of bed and began our “go back to sleep routine”. I picked him up, held him, spoke gently to him, nursed him and patted his back, then propped him up on my shoulder and stood and swayed with him.

As he fell back to sleep, I gently stroked his face, then kissed him, and whispered, “I love you, son.” Upon lifting him up to put him back in his crib, I hesitated and hugged him close, just soaking him in and enjoying his warmth and soft breathing.

Then I began again to lay my son in his crib. As I lowered him, he put his arm out on the bed, creating resistance to being put down (smarty pants) and whimpered. He wasn’t ready just yet, so I picked him back up and just held him close.

As I held him and swayed, I realized, this baby feels so much comfort, safety, and peace in my arms. Not even my husband can get him to sleep at this stage (and my son loves his Daddy). For now, these precious and fleeting moments are mine and mine alone. What a privilege to hold such a place in my son’s life.

Our Interactions with God

Whenever my husband and I are trying to decide how to deal with a new challenge as parents, we try to understand how God would want us to handle the situation. How can we best emanate God’s character in our lives towards our child and towards each other as well?

When it comes to this sleeping thing, God is teaching us patience. Especially me!

A few weeks back, I was chatting with a friend (who has four children, I might add) about asking God for patience through the night. She said, “I have to pray for patience with one of my kids every day. And I’m usually confronted with a situation that TRIES my patience.” I said, “Yes, I know God uses circumstances to build our character. But I didn’t really want my character built at the moment, so my prayer last night went something like ‘please give me patience RIGHT NOW!'” She laughed. (Now how’s that for irony? A little impatient praying for patience.)

Through mothering my son, God truly is teaching me how to be a more patient and loving person.

When all I want is sleep, my son needs my attention and comfort. And although he is not “cooperating” with what I would like him to do regarding sleep, I will wait. I will give him the time he needs to adjust. I will train him, day by day, to learn to sleep without me. No matter how long it takes, I want to choose to lead him gently.

This path is probably not the easiest one. It’s certainly not the quickest way to restful nights. It is a sacrifice, and is requiring a graciousness that God is providing beyond my own abilities.

When I think about how God interacts with us, I am so humbled. How often are we “uncooperative” with His plans for us, yet He is patient, kind, and consistent in His guidance. His methods are perfect. He alone is wise. He is gracious and merciful beyond our comprehension or ability to imitate.

Learning Lessons

Despite already giving us so many gifts, God continues to provide peace and comfort in these times in the wee hours of the night, when the only words I can short-sightedly pray are, “please let this child sleep tonight”.

And yes, I have wondered, “Why would God not immediately grant this request for sleep? He gives good gifts. Sleep is a good thing, right?” Yes, but perhaps I am needing to learn these lessons now. Perhaps there is a more difficult challenge than sleep-deprivation in my future. (Teenage years come to mind…)

I am also reminded that my sleep sacrifice for my son pales in comparison to the sacrifice God provided us through His own son.

I’m so very grateful for the comfort and peace He provides me, though I admit, I rarely embrace it. Just like my baby putting his hand out to keep from being set down, I want to acknowledge His comforting presence in my life and embrace the peaceful place God has provided in Himself as my Father.

How Sweet it is to be Loved by You

Despite the “problem” nursing to sleep has caused (particularly in public), during my son’s nap today I was again reminded in such a sweet way, what a privilege it is to be his “ultimate sleep association.”

My son sleeps longer if I nap with him, and let’s face it, I can use the sleep anyway, so win win for us!

He awoke from his light sleep, and I had moved back a bit, away from him (one of the suggestions given for co-sleeping). With his eyes still closed, he reached his little hand out searching for me. I watched, as he patted his lovey, and the bed next to him, then I moved in close to him and said, “I’m here, baby.” Upon feeling me next to him and hearing my words, he went right back to sleep.

Then tonight as we were going through our bedtime routine, my son lifted his head off my shoulder, not to fuss or burp (as is typical), but to lift his hands to my face. He proceeded to pat at my mouth and my nose, (and my eyeball…) before laying his head back down on my shoulder.

With my heart as warm as can be, all I can say is, “This is love” and how very sweet it is.

“But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.” James 1:4

What about you?

What lessons has God taught you through your interactions with your children? Your spouse?

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