#advice !

[reasonsforhope]

I feel so terrified of gen z (my own generation, mind you) because we have the reputation of being progressive and accepting, but we're extremely hopeless and are always ready to settle into our own misery. The results of the election lowkey confirmed my fears that this generation doesn't have the guts or unity to actually fight against national oppression.

My main thoughts on this are:

Every generation is just made up of people. And sometimes people suck. That's not a moral indictment of your generation or any generation

No one generation is going to save us (despite what some people have said about gen Z, and despite the fact that it would be really nice if it was that easy)

Being a teenager, especially in this day and age, is already a major time for depression and angst and lack of autonomy. People in your generation are going to do more once they get more agency, capability, life experience, and engagement with the world, just like every generation has

Don't take all of the responsibility for saving the world on yourselves, Gen Z.

I say this with love, compassion, and determination. It's too heavy a burden for any one group, but especially for a group that is still mostly made up of people who can't even sign a legal document yet.

You have contributed the least to this of any generation. Let us carry the burden with you, and let us carry it for you, when you just need a break

Find a way to blend taking action with living your life - because you deserve to also live your life, and because we're in this for the long haul

One foot in front of the other

[honeytonedhottie]

celebrity energy⋆.ೃ࿔*:･👛🐩

i've written a post about celebrity energy before and in this post i kinda wanted to add onto what was said in that post and incorporate new info and sections…💬🎀

THE IT FACTOR ;

the it factor is the ability to capture people's attention. its about ur aura, ur identity, ur PRESENCE. you dont have to be "born with it" like a lot of people like to say, it is something that can be achieved.

so essentially ur gonna wanna get into a state where there is no fear. literally eliminate it. use the alter ego effect, affirm until ur fears dissipate, WHATEVER works for u but u just wanna get into a state where there is no fear because thats when ur truly magnetic.

MORE ON SELF CONCEPT ;

we've been conditioned to believe certain things about ourselves, whether its negative or positive and its our responsibility to rewire our brains and form those new assumptions so that then we can get back to our it factor and our hyper identity.

to get to a state where there is no fear you must also be able to hack ur nervous system. aka nervous system regulation. aka the best thing EVER…💬🎀

♡ breathing exercises and deep breathing ♡ humming to stimulate ur vagus nerve

THE TRIPLE C'S ;

while making the notes for celebrity energy (the big C) and i was able to umbrella it to three main points. those points being confidence, cuntiness, and charisma. 💕✍🏽

♡ confidence ; celebrities need to have undeniable confidence in themselves and their abilities. they're famous for a reason and they know that. work on ur self concept and watch ur confidence sky rocket.

♡ cuntiness ; to be cunty is to be feminine and aware of urself. be cunty in the things that u do and the way that u handle urself. to be cunty is to find the perfect balance of inner strength and delicateness. cunt = refined.

♡ charisma ; authenticity is the heart of charisma. be authentic and dont be afraid to take up space.

PERSONAL BRAND AND REPUTATION ;

to further touch on those points ur social media IS your brand. this section kind of ties in with the next but im trying to distinguish between the two. so ur personal brand is what u do. so lets say ur rly SUPER smart and ur known for getting A's on like everything.

that is ur personal brand and that comes with a reputation that u may or may not feel obligated to uphold. but its important to uphold a reputation of some sort. with that being said be careful of what u post on ur social media because DIGITAL FOOTPRINT IS REAL. and when people look at ur social media they're seeing a representation of what ur putting out to the world so always be mindful.

[victusinveritas]

[tarot-quartz]

PICK A CARD - ADVICE YOU NEED THIS NOVEMBER

Pile 1 - Everything will be changing for the better. I see a lot of happiness awaiting for you, if you have been lied to then truth will come out. Luck is in your path and success as well. Do not be afraid to make decisions because no matter which one you make it’ll be the right one. Relax, shake off that restlessness because everything will be alright. I see money coming towards you and just a lot of success in all aspects of life. Not much advice needed, just trust yourself.

Pile 2 - I see you will need to be more mature or have more structure in your life if you want to succeed. I feel like some of you may use your heart over your head or vice versa and that might be a detriment. There might be a lot of arguments because of this. You might also find your work/school unfulfilling and clash with a lot of people. Success is yours to take but you will have to fight for it. I see financial stability after all of this. My advice is; be kind to yourself and try to not fight with others. You will feel better if you have more structure and routine in your life, after this, success will find you.

[twelvebooksstuff]

This…is incredibly powerful advice!

Hey, also, all the anarchist shit aside, tomorrow I want you to make something.

I forced myself to draw something after the 2016 election. I forced myself to draw something when my mother died in 2018. I forced myself to draw something when my spouse was hospitalized for multiple organ failure in 2021.

When you are miserable, make something. Add a row to your project, bake a box cake, draw on a sheet of lined paper, write a poem on a napkin, fold an origami shirt out of a dollar bill, make your favorite recipe for dinner, but make something with your hands, something that you can hold and look at engage your senses in.

It won't fix the world, but it will change the world. You will have made something that didn't exist before. You will have impacted your reality, even in a very small way. And it is going to be something you made *after.* Something bad happened, something shook you, and you made something after, in spite of it.

[validfemale]

his mind, my playground, ⋆.˚ ᡣ𐭩 

let’s get into it, babe:

every thought you think about him? it’s like low-key mind control. no joke. you’re playing this game of influence on a level most people don’t even realize. when you decide in your mind that he’s loving, obsessed, devoted, or anything else you crave, it’s not just wishful thinking—it’s planting seeds that grow in his subconscious. he starts picking up on that vibe, drawn to it like a magnet, without even knowing where it’s coming from.

your thoughts become his blueprint, shaping the way he feels and acts around you. think of it as setting the standard: you create this mental framework where he’s already the person you desire. and guess what? he’s over there, subconsciously catching that frequency, aligning himself with those vibes, and reflecting back exactly what you’ve been affirming.

this isn’t just some fluffy idea; it’s energy work in action. you’re showing the universe what you expect, and he can’t help but follow. so, choose your thoughts wisely. the way you see him in your mind? that’s the version he’s compelled to step into, to live up to, without even realizing why. it’s the power of belief meeting reality, babe, and you’re the one holding the reins.

[incorrectbatfam]

Legit how are you constantly funny and creative?? I wanna do what you do for my smaller fandom but idk how and you just make it seem so easy??

I feel like I should make like an FAQ or something because it's like the third time I've been asked this. In no particular order:

1) Punch up, not down. Or, like, elbow them from the side if you guys are on the same level.

2) Let yourself evolve and trust your audience to do the same. Otherwise it's the equivalent of being 40 and still talking about how you were prom king.

3) Play around with the tools you have. I bootlegged Photoshop and pirated a ton of stuff so the FBI should be at my door any minute.

4) Self-deprecation works to an extent. Picture your best friend saying it, and if it puts you on high alert, then nix it from your content and talk to a professional.

5) If your joke falls flat, it's either your content (the joke ran too long, you crossed a line) or your delivery (tone, timing, confidence level). You might draw the short stick and end up with a fickle crowd, but if it keeps happening, there's a common denominator.

6) If you do screw up: take note, make adjustments, and move on. No need to perform a ukulele spectacle of every apology or defense.

7) Consent still matters. Collaboration and participation is fun, but if someone doesn't wanna be involved, back off.

8) Don't take advice from people you don't find funny. Yes, I waited this far to tell you that.

9) Not every type of humor resonates with you or your audience. (Shoutout to the chronically online early Gen Z nonbinary neurodivergent people thirsting after Jason Todd's thighs, I love you but I still barely know who Chappell Roan is.)

10) Be genuine. We all know of people who are entertaining onstage but are assholes behind the scenes. You obviously can't be joking around all the time, but in general, try and put a net positive into the world.

[novacainedaydreams]

A lot of this is good advice!

how to start reading again

from someone who was a voracious reader until high school and is now getting back into it in her twenties.

start with an old favourite. even though it felt a little silly, i re-read the harry potter series one christmas and it wiped away my worry that i wasn't capable of reading anymore. they are long books, but i was still able to get completely immersed and to read just as fast as i had years and years ago.

don't be afraid of "easier" books. before high school i was reading the french existentialists, but when getting back into reading, i picked up lucinda riley and sally rooney. not my favourite authors by far, but easier to read while not being totally terrible. i needed to remind myself that only choosing classics would not make me a better or smarter person. if a book requires a slower pace of reading to be understood, it's easier to just drop it, which is exactly what i wanted to avoid at first.

go for essays and short stories. no need to explain this one: the shorter the whole, the less daunting it is. i definitely avoided all books over 350 pages at first and stuck to essay collections until i suddenly devoured donna tartt's goldfinch.

remember it's okay not to finish. i was one of those people who finished every book they started, but not anymore! if i pick up a book at the library and after a few chapters realise i'd rather not read it, i just return it. (another good reason to use your local library! no money spent on books you might end up disliking.)

analyse — or don't. some people enjoy reading more when they take notes or really stop to think about the contents. for me, at first, it was more important to build the habit of reading, and the thought of analysing what i read felt daunting. once i let go of that expectation, i realised i naturally analyse and process what i read anyway.

read when you would usually use your phone. just as i did when i was a child, i try to read when eating, in the bathroom, on public transport, right before sleeping. i even read when i walk, because that's normally a time i stare at my screen anyway. those few pages you read when you brush your teeth and wait for a friend very quickly stack up.

finish the chapter. if you have time, try to finish the part you're reading before closing the book. usually i find i actually don't want to stop reading once i get to the end of a chapter — and if i do, it feels like a good place to pick up again later.

try different languages. i was quickly approaching a reading slump towards the end of my exchange year, until i realised i had only had access to books in english and that, despite my fluency, i was tired of the language. so as soon as i got back home i started picking up books in my native tongue, which made reading feel much easier and more fun again! after some nine months, i'm starting to read in english again without it feeling like a huge task.

forget what's popular. i thought social media would be a fun way to find interesting books to read, but i quickly grew frustrated after hating every single book i picked up on some influencer's recommendation. it's certainly more time-consuming to find new books on your own, but this way i don't despise every novel i pick up.

remember it isn't about quantity. the online book community's endless posts about reading 150 books each year or 6 books in a single day easily make us feel like we're slow, bad readers, but here's the thing: it does not matter at all how many books you read or what your reading pace is. we all lead different lives, just be proud of yourself for reading at all!

stop stressing about it. we all know why reading is important, and since the pandemic reading has become an even more popular hobby than it was before (which is wonderful!). however, there's no need to force yourself to be "a reader". pick up a book every now and then and keep reading if you enjoy it, but not reading regularly doesn't make you any less of a good person. i find the pressure to become "a person who reads" or to rediscover my inner bookworm only distances me from the very act of reading.

[kimkimberhelen]

Ladies, in these dark times, it's essential to dissect a man's values before getting caught up in any emotional, romantic, or sexual entanglement. A man can be a very dangerous road. Don't ignore the red flags. Absolutely learn about his history and how he has treated previous partners (if there are any). Any signs of anger problems? Run. Any signs of drug and alcohol problems? Run. Unresolved mental health problems? Run. Views women as potential property? Run. Wants to control finances? Run. Voted for Trump? Run. Ambivalent about women's rights? Run. Baby mama drama? Run. Views you as a potential maid? Run. Seems like they just want a mom they can sometimes fuck? Run.

Run because a man will drain you dry, have no shame, and then move on to the next one. Disappointing at best, dangerous at worst.

It's energy vampire city out here. Have a safety plan. You can know a man for years, and he can still be a total stranger. You can sleep next to a man for years, and he can still try to kill you.

These are bleak times. There's no sugarcoating it. Be careful.

[thatsbelievable]

[beentobeetle]

We will survive. There is still hope

To all the trans people who see this tonight, no matter what happens, we will survive. Trans people will still be here 4 years from now and 10 years from now and 100 years from now and tomorrow. We have always existed and we always will. The world cannot unlearn about us; we are too public, too loud, too beloved, too present. Ill be here tomorrow. Please stay here with me.

[deathsmallcaps]

I need advice.

I’m a white intern working in a mostly white southern(ish) high school. Students of Color number at under 2%, perhaps even lower. It’s a very white, rural community - I grew up in a fairly mixed, suburban northern community, and part of my family is Black.

Several of my white students say rude things to my Students of Color. I’ve told them to knock it off *as appropriately as I can* but I’m probably one of the few adults that actively discourage that behavior.

I don’t want to let this shit fly under the radar, but I also know that if an adult of authority *who will only be here for a couple more weeks* interferes, and then doesn’t stick around, it could make things worse. Additionally, I know these kids are probably very very very used to this ‘system’ and that making a short-term change could be more harmful than helpful.

I asked one of my senior students after a very racist incident *where she was laughing along with the perpetrator but I told him to stop anyway* that I can move him, or her, so she could be more comfortable (admin either does nothing or slaps wrists, especially for seniors). She said it was fine and that he was always like that.

I must emphasize, I think they were bantering (they talk so much I think they consider each other friends?), but it was also wayyy fucking out of line, especially in a school setting. And the guy says so much out of line shit I’m surprised he isn’t rocking a full set of dentures to replace the teeth he ought to have lost by now.

Another student took me up on my offer to move people, but I ended up moving him, which sucks because he was the victim in this situation. Unfortunately, I have to keep his aggressors in their spots, as they are highly rowdy in all the ways and require a lot more supervision than he did. And the class is really full. These were also all freshmen, so I wouldn’t be surprised if that affected the victim’s reaction.

So I’d really appreciate advice as to whether I should let it be, or continue as is, or step it up even more, from People of Color in largely white, especially rural, communities. Like any advice from current or previous educators, especially Educators of Color would be appreciated, but specifically southern/rural ones would be wonderful. I’m going to talk to my family members about it, but they’ve lived in more Northern settings their entire lives and they may have less … applicable (?) experience to the situation.

Again, I’m an intern, I’m going to only be there until winter break 2024, and I don’t want to fuck things up for these kids in the long run with my northern ally ‘sensibilities’. Thank you!

[bobbinlacebliss]

hello! I just found my thread and my bobbins and I have a makeshift pillow and I'm ready to start a lace bookmark.

my question: is there an optimal way to wind a bobbin? direction of the thread? is it different with different types of lace making? I am not finding a great deal of info rn and I'm a little stuck.

it absolutely does not matter which direction you wind your bobbins...

HOWEVER.

once you choose a direction, there is no going back. YOU CANNOT CHANGE THIS CHOICE EVER. as soon as you wind that first bobbin you are either a clockwise or counterclockwise girlie for life.

the reason behind this is that some amount of skill in bobbin lace depends on muscle memory. as you learn your hands will start to understand what angle and tension to hold the bobbins at so that they behave well. if you switch directions all of that will be backwards and your bobbins will come unwound and you will cry.

aside from that my main advice is don't try to tie a knot around the bobbin to get the thread anchored, it'll never work. you have to just kind of pinch the end of the thread parallel to the bobbin stem and wind around it a few times until it's secure, then you can start spinning the bobbin around more freely to get the rest of it wound (in your chosen direction of course, lol)

[lunchbagart]

Word from someone who's been here before

Don't share your feelings about the election online, not for a while. Trolls will drink it in like the finest of wine.

[layla99999999]

WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO ABOUT THIS?

genuinely, did anyone manage to cope with the loneliness eating you alive, driving you insane, making you think that the only way out of this emptiness is suicide, absolutely destroying you every single moment?

i need ANY advice

ohhhh i get it now. the little seed of loneliness i’ve carried with me since i was five will never go away