#adults can still have nice things
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thisliminalspacedaydreams Ā· 4 months ago
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I think it's also because there is this belief that as you get older, you stop having fun, and some activities become "beneath" you.
I'm 30 (not quite old), but I remember when I was 18 and looking at 30 years old thinking whoa these people have it all figured out they're so adult. But like... I call my mom because I don't know how to remove stains off my clothes sometimes. I call my dad because I have insurance questions and no one taught me how this shit works. I work a job, make money, rent a place, have a cat, but then I go home and I write fanfiction, or I go roller skating, or read trashy romances, decide to make a chocolate cake and that's all I'll be eating for dinner.
Let me stress how unadult adults are. We're just kids with more life experience.
Growing up doesn't mean you abandon all the fun things, it just means you have some boring paperwork to take care of and if you stop working you're kind of fucked (Yeah it's not great).
I'm an adult doing and adult job, but every day before I go to work I have to put on my "adult" costume and I pretend my way through work.
The whole time, I'm thinking about dead gay wizards and my cat, the next time I'm going to see my best friend and the next show I'm going to watch, whether we should eat tacos or ice cream, and if we should do something stupid on the weekend.
You don't grow up, you just grow old. If you're into fanfic at 13, it's not gonna disappear. You'll just become better at it. AND EVEN IF YOU DON'T, I can't stress how relaxing it is to just do a hobby you like knowing your boss/family isn't going to judge it. (WHICH IS ALSO WHY negative comments aren't welcome. Beside literally all the other reasons we've all read a thousand times, we're just out here playing with our blorblos to relax from being stressed out from the real world. Sometimes we don't need our hobbies to be perfect. We just wanna do the thing, and relax.)
I just saw someone say AO3 is ā€œgay teens writing gay shitā€ and I have no idea how to tell you that most of the writers you love so much are adults.
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sysig Ā· 10 months ago
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bearotonin-international Ā· 1 year ago
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Rise and shine yā€™all, itā€™s Salmon Slammin Saturday!!
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autistic-katara Ā· 13 days ago
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icl i would be at least a little happy with almost any ending for stranger things but one thing that would ruin all of it would be an epilogue (of a decade or more later)
#it would just kinda ruin the fun of imagining them doing whatever tf i want them to these days yk#like even if everyone got together the way i wanted them and got the jobs i think fit etc it would still just kill the creativity#+ even the small things would annoy me like what if i just donā€™t like what one of them named their kids. or dresses like in 20 years#maybe i wanted them divorced by then but that wouldā€™ve angered the fans#maybe i wanted to imagine that single personā€™s future spouse myself (or keep them single in my head)#what if i want them to recover from this or that or still be working on it. what if i the adult/older actors look shit#anyways point is do not do an epilogue timeskip of more than 5/6years PLEASE i am begging u duffer brothers#stranger things#byler#<- u guys get me on this yk#even if byler isnā€™t canon at the end i can still at least imagine they do in uni or in their 30s or whenever#as long as there isnā€™t some fucking scene where mike and el r old and married in 2023 or something#would just kinda ruin all of it; making us see them as old ass adults with their entire lives set it stone yk#manifesting a few month/year timeskip where everyone gets a happy ending isnā€™t all ā€œand then they lived a nice life in this specific wayā€#and especially manifesting that we donā€™t get an#ā€œi havenā€™t seen you guys in decades howā€™ve you been? sucks that erica died in a car crash last year. she was almost 40ā€#type epilogue (if we must have one)#like no hate to amphibia and that one 80s movie but it just kinda makes what happened before a bit pointless if it focused on their#relationships at all#like cool we spent years watching these friendships grow and adapt only for u to go ā€œyeah and weā€™re strangers now soz :)ā€ like ok so none o#that lasted#idgaf if itā€™s ā€œrealisticā€ if i wanted realistic representation of childhood friends into adulthood id think about real life and shit#idk random rant if they do any of this shit i WILL kill all of them and then myself#ryan shut the fuck up
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jitterbugbear Ā· 2 years ago
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there is a lack of adventure games that don't depend on combat, i don't want to kill the creatures... let them live...
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itsalwaysforyou Ā· 8 months ago
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jay not asking coach about letting lonnie onto the team bc he doesnā€™t want to do anything coach might disagree withā€¦ā€¦.
#ā€˜coach trusts meā€¦ā€™ like what if i cried#man i wish they made more of a thing of jay being TEAM CAPTAIN#<- iā€™ve made a post before abt how easily he gives it up & jay not liking positions of power etc etc#but i do think he treats the role like it could be taken away at any moment#coach TRUSTS him. holy shit coach trusts him#the first positive adult figure in his life trusts him to take care of the team#train them and critique them and lead them to victory#and coach probably wouldnā€™t have cared abt lonnie being on the team#but jay is sooooo hesitant to ask#coming from the ā€˜if you want it take it and if you canā€™t take it break itā€™ guy#like this is the one thing he doesnā€™t want to risk breakingā€¦ā€¦.#and then obviously he gives it up!!!!!#he gives up the thing coach TRUSTED HIM WITH bc it was the only way to let lonnie on the team#& mr ā€˜my only dislike is women being unhappyā€™ was like I CANNOT REST UNTIL LONNIE IS ON THE TEAM#itā€™s suchhhhh a sweet gesture not only from a hashtag feminism standpoint#but also character wise for jay#like this precious thing that coach has trusted him with but didnā€™t really want that much anywayā€¦..#itā€™s going to mean more to lonnie if she had it. even though it means everything to jay#oh it makes me crazy#damn my mum was right. i think too deeply about things#im like i analyse things a normal amount and then iā€™m writing essays about 1 line from descendants 2#I AM UNWELL#anyway. jesus christ#descendants#jay son of jafar#EDIT iā€™m not finished actually#do you think jay fears the repercussions? what would happen if he went against coachā€™s word?#bc sure. he knows coach is nice. he knows auradon isnā€™t like the isle#but. ā€˜you donā€™t want to be at my house at dinner timeā€™ā€¦ā€¦.#he is still scared of his dad. you know. he can never get the lamp he can never do anything right
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pink-lemonadefairy Ā· 3 months ago
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#probably my last sunny walk at home :(#keeeeellll meeeee#i think one of the things i hate about going back to uni is not being able to experience autumn and winter at home like i used to#itā€™s weird because iā€™ve always loved them and considered them my favourite seasons.#but last year (and now this year) iā€™m realizing that oh! i think itā€™s because i got to come home after a long day and be in a safe familiar#space. and at uni everything is still a bit unfamiliar and not very comforting so the long cold days get so much harder#but i will surviveeeeeee#counting on gilmore girls to get me through it!! and also love is blind s7. i LOVE having things to look forward to every week it makes tim#fly by so fast. last yr every friday night was reserved for me and i ate frozen pizza or takeout and/or my favourite snacks and#watch my comfort films :( i cooked a lot those nights too 2 save money but yeah. it was rlly nice to have that comfy safe time to myself#i think it rlly got me thru uni.#ik itā€™s gonna be so hard to get back into a routine but im trying to tell myself that i need to like. focus on the basics first. adulting#can be so hard & i wanna do everything at once! i wanna b perfect in all areas. always do my hobbies. etc etc but i#i couldnt even get out of bed to make myself meals sometimes šŸ’” so i need to like remember if i donā€™t journal or read a whole book in a day#not the end of the world. and most importantly i need to be EATING and staying active and SLEEPING FIRST and foremost cause then hopefully#i wonā€™t feel like a zombie.#okay anyways.#feeling sad feeling tired feeling unmotivated but also feeling a teensy bit excited for finally BEING ALONE!!!!#i have my cardiologist appt tmrw so maybe thatā€™s why i feel so yuck also. just thinking abt it makes me wanna throw up#i hope everything goes well#anyways bye bye#ā™” dear diaryā€¦
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athetos Ā· 4 months ago
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A woman at work asked if the packages I were carrying were heavy, and considering I was pretty easily balancing all 3 in one hand, I said no, but she took the larger one with both hands and said ā€œoh, this one is heavy!ā€ And I blinked at her in befuddlement and then assured her the other two were very light and Iā€™d trade with her. I was thinking afterwards ā€œwow, I know she was slim and barely 5 feet but I could barely tell there was anything in themā€ then I remembered when I was home earlier in the month and my family kept commenting on my arms and my mom was struggling with a huge bag of dog food so I took it and threw it on my shoulder and climbed the stairs and she told me Iā€™m getting too buffā€¦
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kidfur Ā· 1 year ago
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ok yea i need to put pro kink back in my pinned.. its a pain i even need to but anti kink people following me is annoying LOL
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bylertruther Ā· 2 years ago
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some of you never grew up in a small conservative town as a (gay) nerd that was bullied, harassed, and excluded for years on end for not fitting in and for visibly and enthusiastically liking geek thingsā€”geek things that then branded you a satanist in everyone's eyes and as something Other, Lesser, and Undoubtedly Unworthy of Basic Human Decency even though you were literally just an actual child with harmless interests and not a satanist or an evil disgusting subhuman thing, and it shows.
you cannot apply modern views and beliefs to a show that is set in the eighties, especially not when it's set in conservative midwest eighties which is a whole other beast. being a socially awkward and nonconforming geek is something that people STILL get bullied for if you don't do it in a way that the majority deems "acceptable", especially if you live in a conservative, religious area.
your experiences are not universal and your inability to relate to a certain motif or story does not make it "lesser" or "bad writing."
#stranger things#mike wheeler#<- tagging and then disappearing into the mist again bc i don't like it here lol.#girls when they love stranger things because they finally see characters just like them with the same exact experiences written with such#care and respect for those that have been Deemed Other but people who have not had those experiences refuse to believe that they're#realistic and STILL happen to people bc if they're fortunate to have not gone through that then clearly that means that it doesn't exist#and if it does then it's not Traumatic Enough or a good enough plot to cause such inner turmoil in the characters who experience that#šŸ’„šŸ›¼#i got bullied for being a nerd in the 2000s and 2010s. you can absolutely get bullied for being a nerd and being a nerd is enough reason#for social exile in some places. when dustin said that no one was nice to him or mike? when lucas said that girls laughed at them? and it's#all because they're deemed freaks and satanists for liking fantasy things? that's Real and it doesn't hurt any less just because you think#it's not a good enough reason to bully someone.#i was called a satanist to my face by adults. people acted like i was some Creature or whatever just because i liked fiction and wasn't#interested in what the majority was interested in and wore dark clothing sometimes. like.. hello. school shooter jokes? the way#that neurodivergent people get treated when they're visibly ''different'' and enjoy things passionately? the way that liking star wars was#a thing to ridicule until it suddenly became Acceptable and Popular to like? i feel like i'm living in a different reality than so many#people here with the way that they talk about certain things in this show. and don't even get me started on the way people approached#the angela and el situation....#maybe just be glad that these things did not happen to you and stop acting like it's lesser or a bad story bc of that? just a thought.
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snekdood Ā· 6 days ago
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i feel weird even claiming my family used to be considered "rich" bc a lot of yall immediately jump to having summer homes, 20 yachts, and enough money to save a country
#not gonna act like we weren't well off... ofc we were but like.... we werent on THAT level nearly at all#more of a country club... goes on a lot of vacations.... has a decently sized house with a pool... kinda rich#which is still rich dont get me wrong but i promise i wasnt living like fucking. kim kardashian or whatever ok#we didnt have a fuckin walk-in-fridge or 20 unused empty rooms#i say this bc ppl end up surprised when i tell them im not anymore like 'how' well its a lot of things like the housing market crash#my parents getting a divorce my dad being the one with the job that my moms dad gave to him that was making him all the money#and my grandpa passed not long after i was born so when they split up we were just going off of whatever he left really for a while#had to move etc etc.... now im low income and rely on food stamps and ssi āœŒļø but thats mostly bc im disabled so#kinda necessarily low income bc the govt only wants to pay the very bare minimum that they can.#its also- not my money! i dont get to decide what happens to it and i dont get to decide i get nice things or whatever. that all hinges#on if my mom or gma wants to.#so technically even if you wanted to consider them rich still- its not part of me atp bc its not even my money and im an adult#whos not legally dependent on them anymore. i think it only counts if its *your* actual money or if your parent is okay with dishing#out like a 1000 dollars a month like its nothing. completely unfazed by giving it to you.#its not rich if its conditional ok like... children of rich parents arent rich and i will die on this hill. why do you think so many of the#end up fucked up? not only is it bc they've had ppl basically doing everything for them their whole life so they dont know how to take#care of themselves they're also entirely dependent on the parent for money. when you feel controlled like that- even if your parent isnt#necessarily abusive about it- just the fact everything you do hinges on the approval of your parent- kinda fucks you up and makes#you feel like you're stuck being a forever child. not great for people who probably want to go out in the world and date to feel#like you cant escape being dependent on your parents
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insanechayne Ā· 20 days ago
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#today I am sad about something that I know objectively is dumb#my 30th birthday is next week and the party will be next Saturday and Iā€™m having a dinner at a nice restaurant in town#I wasnā€™t supposed to make it to 30 and never thought I would but now somehow I have and so this birthday is likeā€¦#a really huge deal to me you know#and I always wanted to be able to have a big party to celebrate this specific occasion and in my head I pictured all my friends/family there#I figured this would be one of the biggest parties Iā€™d ever get to throw because to me this is the biggest milestone Iā€™ve gotten to so far#but out of all the people Iā€™ve invited the most that will probably reasonably show is about 10#and even thatā€™s a bit iffy because tbh Iā€™m pretty sure my bestie will flake on me like he always does#and if he doesnā€™t show up that might just end the friendship but thatā€™s another matter entirely#also iffy because I havenā€™t gotten a lot of responses still even though I made the event and sent invites two weeks ago#I justā€¦ thought I had more friends than that if that makes sense#like I had bigger parties with more people attending in high school and I barely had any friends then#Iā€™ve thrown low key Halloween parties in my momā€™s apartment that had more people show up#now Iā€™m at the most important moment of my life (so far) and Iā€™ll barely have anyone with me#lately it just feels like less and less people care about me for real despite how many I know around work or how many are on my Facebook#it feels like my world keeps shrinking and I really donā€™t want that because itā€™s been small enough as it is#I just feel like Iā€™m never really going to find my place or have big groups of friends like everyone else#Iā€™m never going to have a group of friends or people I can rely on to spend time with me when needed#as it is planning things gets harder the older we get anyway just due to needing to tend to adult life#guess I still just want what everyone else has and I donā€™t know why I canā€™t have those things#and I know itā€™s stupid and selfish and whiny but I really want to cry because Iā€™m so depressed that I have barely anyone in my life at all#barely anyone to celebrate something so important to me and so few who even seem to care at all either#Iā€™m grateful for everyone I do have honestly#but that doesnā€™t offset this weird pain in my chest over this whole situation#maybe I should just curl up and cry until this all passes and I can go back to pretending it doesnā€™t matter#personal
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milflewis Ā· 9 months ago
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#in a strange place today and i need to put this somewhere. i do not have a journal yet. this is it#my grandad was diagnosed with dementia years ago and the grandad i have now is often unrecognisable from the one i grew up with#and while this like isnā€™t fun and it is strange for him to look at me and not know me more times than he does. it has also been kind of l#lovely?#bc he thinks my granny is still alive so whenever i get to go see him i get to pretend she is too. and she is for a minute. and tho i am#glad she went before him. it is nice to say oh iā€™m popping in to see her after this grandad and talk about her like sheā€™s hasnā€™t been gone#since iā€™ve been ten. my dad has spoken more to him in the last five years than he has his whole life#he was not an easy man. he was loud and friendly and hard working and funny and scary but not easy. in ways he is even#harder now. in others he is easier.#he is more of a child. this is what dementia can do to a brain. we are learning things about his childhood that no one alive has ever spoken#about. that no one knew. my dad doesnā€™t love him more now but he understands him better#my grandad taught me how to drive a tractor and how to fish through my dad and he has not recognised me in over a year and he#hasnā€™t walked since he broke his pelvis seven years ago and his muscles are nearly all gone. he is a fraction of the size he used to be. his#personality and body took up my childhood like adults on the screen in cartoons. he hasnā€™t dressed himself in a decade. he told one of the#nurses that after dinner he wanted ice cream plain like herself and nearly peed when she laughed and told him to fuck off#he is in there. he is himself. i know him. but he isnā€™t. he doesnā€™t know me but he allows me to tell him how to ppl he knows are doing. he#still somehow trusts me. we talk a lot about my granny and how she stayed up watching tv again last night so sheā€™s tired today. donā€™t stay#long when you call in to see her?#whenever we would journey to see him and my granny and get in v late heā€™d ask us if we wanted apple tart and my granny would say michael.#not ur kids. u canā€™t parent them. he didnā€™t know my name yesterday but he asked me if i wanted apple tart#i hope he dies soon. for all that i will miss this. miss my dad having this. he would not want to live like this. it wouldntbe living to him
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nomairuins Ā· 1 month ago
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its so embarassing likee. going to talk abt a feeling you have but you already know ppl will be like Oh that sounds like depression lol and its like. well yes . i know . trust me i am so aware i am depressed . but its still like a thing ive been thinking abt and wanting to talk abt but ik itll just be like Ok hun šŸ‘. idk idk what response i would want tho ig FNFNFNF
#not anything serious i was just thinking how like. idk. this is gonna sound rly stupid#but for me personally like. sometimes. How do i phrase this without sounding rly evil#i think obv ppl can spend their money however they want but like. its kind of hard 4 me to grasp sometimes like. there r things that ppl#spend a lot of money on bc it makes them happy like umm. vacations or pets or hobbies or whathaveyou. and obviously thats fine but#i iust feel like its all so. temporary and like. idk. idt im ohrasing this right at all i just likee. the thought of working all year to#afford to take a vacation and then working again to afford another vacation just makes me feel like i want to die. like. idk... i like#vacations we dont need to go on them a lot but ig its just like. everything we do just feels like a waste of time. not in like a Ohh you#should be doing more work Obviously its just like. idk. maybe it is just me. but i feel like im just waiting until i die and can be done#with it i guess. and everything i do is just to fill time until that happens. yk ? which is silly bc of my whole. Thing i cant talk abt#but ppl talk abt like. going out and partying or going on vacation or whatever and i like. I like those things its nice when they happen#but they dont rly make me longterm any happier i guess. everything just feels like another thing im doing. idk. this rly isnt coming out the#way it is in my head. and Again i know this is just depression shit or whatever im just like. its all exhausting. it just makes me feel so#tired. to think abt working and working and working so i can pay to be alive and i can save to do one fun thing every so often to keep me#sane enough to keep working and working and working and i probably wont ever be able to retire itll just be. work. and then ill die. yk.#but i feel like the vacations and stuff dont like. refresh me very much. maybe its just bc ive only been on one 'vacation' as an adult and#it was just like. coming home to see my family. and realizing id have to move back home yk..#+ like. my mom nd my gran taking me out for a weekend when i lived up there#nd those things were nice and all but once its over its like. it doesnt fuel me to keep going it doesnt make me feel any better abt having#to work for the rest of my life#ik im being ridiculous bc im literally unemployed and i cant even get up off my ass to get my stupid fucking ged so i can get a job and be#Useful to my family its just like. idk.... i try so hard to be like Oh nothing mayters and thats why everything matters type thing like. Yes#all things end and the point is to just try to be happy until it does#but i feel like it just doesnt happen for me. i feel like any happiness i feel is so insanely like. it happens and then its gone. and its#back to just. the knowledge that im still fucking stuck here. and i will be until it happens. yk. i play video games tomoass the time until#i go back to sleep then i wake up and i make a spreadsheet to pass the time until i go back to sleep#and everyday just feels like passing the time until i go back to sleep and itll just keep going until it happens. and its nice to have nice#days but whats like. the point. yk. everything just ends#IDK. this is all very whiny im sry. ive just been feeling it a lot lately . i hope this doesnt feel like me being like Ohhh you ppl r so#dumb participating in hobbies and going out and having fun dont you know yr gonna DIE? thats not what im trying to be like#its just like. i feel like it doesnt make me as happy as it does other ppl like. none of it refreshes me or makes me want to keep going
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mechanicalbowtye Ā· 3 months ago
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read the scratch upd8. little too close to home
#tw vent#in tags at least#when i was reading hs like 3 ish years ago i related a lot to vriska and terezi cause i was in what i think was a really destructive#friendship qpp thing with my best friend online and a boy who liked both of us but mostly her.i was incredibly isolated irl as was my friend#and all my other online friends. i really should have seen that something bad could happen but i didnt and i got into a really deep#depression for like 3 months after but. my dearest friend girl decided to start befriending a 30 yo man and i. like an idiot. followed her#like a lovesick puppy even though all the warning bells were going off. we were in a gc with him that we texted in at all times of the day &#night and we shared selfies and dreams and our daily problems with isolation or hw or whatever. he got more and more creepy and my dearest#friend lashed out at him because she was scared while i sort of stopped talking as much because i was scared but. he still talked to me lots#in dms. he talked shit about the authority figures in our lives and isolated us from our ither online friends he made creepy picrews of me &#my friend getting married and he talked about moving in with us one day. we blocked him but sometimes he still tries to contact me. after it#blew up my friend left me and discord which is probably best and after my depression time i eventually got an irl friend or two but. i never#got over it. he did it to other people too we found out later. he always complimented me on being so sharp and talented and it was nice caus#it was really my first compliment from an adult who wasnt my family and. ig it got to my 14 yo head. anyways. the update made me cry. i had#read that it was bad and knew it would be bad for me specifically cause doc scratch always reminds me of that time in my life but. i didnt#think it would be that bad. i dont blame hs2 creators or anyone else and ig im glad i braved the storm but it was really painful to read#gonna go watch a more light hearted thing now.#if anyone sees this dw ill get over it#anyways. believe the warnings this update is very triggering and you can skip it if you want#glad i have like 5 followers rip
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nerdie-faerie Ā· 3 months ago
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Do I have half unpacked boxes and bags all over my room? Yes. Do I have cleaning I still need to do? Also yes. Did I finish either of those tasks? No. But I did put up a lil photo collage, so what's it even matter
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