#adult friends

[dragonsneversharetheirtreasure]

There’s something about having adult friends in a different timezone

I know I can message @queenzee27 and @munstysmind and say “do you want to hear some bullshit” and they’ll wanna hear it

[streetstylis]

Adult friendships are hard. Everyone is busy and life happens. I’ve learned you gotta let people know when you’re thinking of them. A simple “thinking of you, hope all is well” really goes a long way.

[inmemoryofvanity]

SO MANY THOUGHTS, I wonder if I'm disturbed.

In January I broke up with my ex, now in February an old friend told me they didn't want the friendship because I was negative.

I'm feeling numb to loss now. I don't know how to explain it- its like empty tears. Theres hollowness in my heart. I thought I was a positive impact on her life. I really did so when she started to be distant I was frustrated, I didn't understand why. I expressed this to other friends in anger. I told them I was just being honest about her dating prospect- she then went on to say she wouldn't share her prospects with me. I was like okay..... Was that all I was good for? Just to be an ear to her dating situations. Just a cosigner and cheerleader.

I use to pour into her dreams, and tell her she can host her own cooking event. I praised her for her amazing cooking ability. We cooked together, we hung out, she did my eye lashes. we travelled together. But damn was I the burden... I'm so confused and my ego hurts.

She told me not to apologize, acknowledges that I was being honest - and stated 'we move on'.. but that's not how I view my friendships. They're important to me, I want to hear my friends out and try to be better as a person. Why would I let go so easily... it disturbs me. So I asked her if it's it, or can I work on it.

My ego is yelling at me, "We don't beg no friend" - but nah we do. There are a few good people in this world. Is it begging, I asked a question. IS this it or nah. Does she believe I'm a negative person, does she want to discard of the friendship and of me. I need clarity... Some cliche meme might say, the answer is in ones actions but nah. IT's not... circle yes or no. Thats clarity to me, the answer is in the question.

Anyways which ever way she wants to go at least I could say I tried to make things right. I truly do not want anything from her, I'll never ask her to do my eyelashes again, I'll never suggest any travel plans. I just want to be supportive and positive because that's who I believe I am and I'm sorry I came off less than what I represent.

My heart hurts, I'm lost... and I feel like I keep loosing people. In death or by choice, loss continues to happen.

[rxbiteme]

Alright. Remember when we were kids and could just ask people to be friends because you had the same interests?

Guess what?

I like drawing, anime, monsters, writing , Greek gods and games. Do you like that stuff too?

Queer support? Queer yourself? Awesome!

Wanna be friends?

[barefoot-a-pregnant]

We should bring back Tea parties! I had one or two when my girls where younger with them. It was so much fun! Wished I know some adult woman who would love to do it too! (And yes, bring you're kids around! Why not? If I want to sit quiet and stiff for hours; I would go back to school. Let them run around the house and let them tell us from there latest coolest frog they found on the playground!)

The fact that “dolls having a tea party” has stuck around in the public consciousness is fascinating to me.

Back in the Old Days, women did socialize at tea parties.  So if a girl had a doll tea party, she was imitating her mom / other contemporary women.

But in Modern Times, women don’t have tea parties. So now, “dolls having a tea party” is an echo of an extinct behavior, repeated through the years until it’s no longer associated with anything ‘real’–only with play.

A Barbie themed for a tea party is a bit like if they made Transformers that turned into stagecoaches and horse-drawn buggies.

[danicalzone]

the happy dudes or something

[bowowark]

This took way longer than it should’ve

[cozycryptidcutie]

You know book clubs??? Does anyone want to do like a cinema club??? We spend the week watching an amount of episodes of a tv show or a movie and then meet to talk about it??? And by meet I mean message xD

[kalamitis]

SO!!! If you have a group of friends and you really really want to hang out, I recommend doing what I started for our friend group - a shared Google calendar!!

There are enough colors that each person can get a color

And it makes finding the times when everyone is available THAT MUCH EASIER. And since its Google, everyone adds their own work schedule and if we agree to hang out, we put that on the calendar too. Thats how we figure out how to plan any dnd sessions.

And since its color coded, you will know at a glance who is available when, but also you can just see oh look, nothings going on after 11pm on Sunday, we can see if anyone has an early shift, we're all night owls anyway, let's watch stuff together on trast!

Also we put in doctors appointments, when we have prior obligations ((you'll see color guard for me, who is light green, every weekend all day)) and just in general when we're available and when we aren't. And let me tell you. Finding time to hang with friends has been SO MUCH EASIER since I started this and invited everyone to it. I really can't recommend it enough.

So! Yeah! Hope this helps anyone who feels like they're having trouble connecting!! Love ya'll!

Adult friendships be like “I miss you bro, let's hang out in November"

[littlemidnight94]

[theshadowrealmitself]

I like to think that Vulcans who come to understand that Humans just can’t try to process emotions the same way as them, it’s just healthiest to let it out in harmless ways, decide that venting and stuff should be taken just as seriously as Vulcan’s meditation time, and will encourage the Humans around them to complain about what’s upsetting them

People who are used to aloof Vulcans who avoid Humans at all cost running into one comforting a Human

“-and then they said my cheesecake was subpar, and they didn’t even bring a dish!!!”

“The purpose of this event was that every participant brings a food item of sorts, correct?”

“Yeah!!”

“And they did not follow this rule while insulting dishes that were brought?”

“Mostly just my dish but yeah >:(“

“How illogical”

“That’s what I’m saying!!!”

[inkskinned]

having good & true friends will literally save and protect you in a million unfathomable ways. like okay we have written so many times about lovers. but the way a platonic friend laughs and cries with you. the way they hold your hand at 14 years old and at 34. the way they keep a little silver tie to you, touching base over and over and over. how you can go years without talking, only to re-meet and discover: oh shit! you're still cool!

there are people who have been in my life for more than half of it, and i have loved every version of them. do you know how fucking beautiful that is. yeah love will save the world. but the way friends love you is gonna save the you.

[lumsparko]

They're here to make you smile!

[chloesimaginationthings]

Cassidy loves to scare the FNAF night guards..

[frutiguro]

when the shift is so bad you have to sit there for a few minutes

[lets-all-calm-down-a-bit]

felt fitting