#adamphillips

[azad30altug]

“ Yaşam, insanlar öyle her istediklerini elde edemedi diye değil, arzuları kendilerine hasar vermeye başladığında, istedikleri şey katlanılmaz kayıplara gebe olduğunda trajik bir hal alır.”

~ Kaçırdıklarımız ~

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[afilimeczup]

ne de güzeldir beraber okuduğumuz kitaplar.

[vipassanamahale]

From the Book of human emotions . . . Follow @vipassana.mahale for more such content . . . #bewilderment #adamphillips #bookofhumanemotions #read #book #library #ebook #lifelessons https://www.instagram.com/p/Cb1kgU0JumN/?utm_medium=tumblr

[pdrneokur]

PDR NE OKUR? Adam Phillips - Kaçırdıklarımız • • 🌊Psikanalist Joseph Sandler'in biraz basitlestirilmiş bir formülle dile getirdiği üzere acı çekmek ben ile ben ideali, olduğumu düşündüğüm kişiyle olmak istediğim kişi arasındaki mesafenin sonucudur. . 🌊 Belki daimi bir öfke içindeyizdir ve kendimize yetemediğimiz için kendimizden, istediğimiz şeyi hiçbir zaman tam anlamıyla vermedikleri için de başkalarından intikam alıyoruzdur." . . . 💭💭💭💭💭💭💭 #kitaplarkonusursa #kaçırdıklarımız #adamphillips # #kitapvakti #kitaplardanalıntılar #kitap #books #bookstagram #instabook #kitaptankesitler #1kitap1fotoğraf #1kitap1dunya #vsco #vintage #currrntlymood - #regrann

[hautenolaofficial]

Stunner and longtime mancrush @adamphillips20 by the ever talented and hard-driven @danieljaems on that sacred ground where many a male model has lain before. #danieljaems #adamphillips

[lit--bitch]

Current-Reads (06/04/2020 - 12/04/2020) 📖🌷

(Disclosure: I don’t know any of the authors (two of them are dead, sadly) nor the publishers from any of the books I’m recommending this week. Three cheers for impartiality, everyone.)

All the blossoms’s out and it’s raging blue skies at the moment. I’ve found some peace in it at times. I really can’t stop thinking about the sacrifices key workers are making, especially those in healthcare, and wishing I could do more. Keep loving the people around you, keep appreciating the springtime blossom, and I hope you’re all keeping safe and well. 

So, every Sunday I draw up a list of what I’ve been reading over the week and share them on here, in the hope that maybe some of the suggestions might pique your interest too. I know not everything will be everyone’s cup of tea, and if you think there’s something out there I should read, drop me a line and tell me about it. 

I generally gravitate towards a lot of emerging writers or contemporary literature from the 21st century. But as of late I’ve looked at some 19th and 20th century literature, which has been fun to read and write about. 

Anyhow, this week I’ve been reading Georges Bataille’s Story of the Eye, Cunt-Ups by Dodie Bellamy, E M Cioran’s The Trouble with Being Born, The New Fuck You: Adventures in Lesbian Reading edited by Eileen Myles & Liz Kotz, and Adam Phillip’s Attention Seeking. It’s been great. So below I’ve got a small-ish breakdown in terms of what they’re all about, what they do. Sometimes I add ‘RECOMMEND’ next to some of the titles, but that’s not to say I don’t recommend all of them, I just love some books more than others. C’est la vie. 

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Okay so, first up: 

Georges Bataille, Story of the Eye (RECOMMEND): Bataille spent most of his life being rejected by various writers and thinkers, (the Surrealists, the Existentialists, etc.) He was considered far too extreme, far too transgressive. Look at him now. He’s a Penguin Modern Classic. I have no doubt if he were alive today, he’d hate this. Though I find the idea of the canon a tenuous subject, I don’t necessarily avoid all the books. For the most part I absolutely loved this. I had been meaning to buy it since my old tutor from RCA asked us in class if any of us had read Story of the Eye and when my friend Tom (The Death of a Clown, Tom) said he read it when he was a teenager, and told me what it was about properly, I picked it up as soon as I finished my MA. 

Story of the Eye is about a guy looking back on his life and recalling his sexual exploits as a teenager with a girl called Simone. The relationship from the off is just odd, and for that reason well-matched. They take pleasure from the same fetishes that they explore together. They share that weirdness in each other. Some of these perversions get really specific, and I mean really specific. Like in the first sexual encounter (which happens on the book’s second page, Bataille doesn’t fuck about at all, no pun intended), Simone sits butt-naked in a dish of milk and it gets the narrator really hot under his collar. It’s a piece of psychoanalytic eroticism, and it just gets weirder and weirder. I suppose it’s all tied up in misadventure and adventure, and Bataille’s own life, his psyche. If you buy a Penguin Modern Classic edition of this, you’ll get his notes on Story of the Eye (which btw was originally published under Bataille’s pseudonym, Lord Auch, you’ll see this), and an essay from Susan Sontag and Roland Barthes. I do think overall the ending is kind of abrupt... and it’s intentional but I wish Bataille had said more. Overall, I did love it for the beauty in Bataille’s choice of words to describe (what I deem to be) the surreality of sexual conquests and even the macabre at times.  

Dodie Bellamy, Cunt-Ups (RECOMMEND): Oh so wonderful. This book introduced me to the joys of the cut-up method and it is a sweaty, relentless fuck of a book. I salute Dodie Bellamy. It is exactly what Sophie Robinson says in the book’s foreword, ‘a kind of erotic Midas touch’. Everything this book touches is sex, queer, wet, shaky, writhing. It is absolutely exhausting. It consists of exchanges, voices, rooted in porn, rooted in love, the unachievable and the real in its gendered body. Won’t say anymore. You may have to look hard to find a copy available to buy in the UK, but when you do, just buy it. 

E. M Cioran, The Trouble with Being Born: This was the first time I bought Cioran. I was looking for new philosophy to read and came across this one line in an article, which quoted The Trouble with Being Born. 

It said:  ‘I have decided not to oppose anyone ever again, since I have noticed that I always end by resembling my latest enemy’. 

It has been true of me sometimes in my life, to have fallen prey to imitating the ones who hurt me. It just so happened I read this line at a particularly difficult time, where somebody had failed me. So I bought the book. Did I use this text as a coping mechanism? Maybe a bit. Apparently everything goes to shit when you’re born, not when you’re hurtling towards death. That’s Cioran’s two cents. I like this book when I feel like life is never going to be okay ever again. It indulges my mindset at that point, then it gets so depressing I wake up and never read Cioran again until someday something else makes me feel lifeless. In his inherent nihilism, Cioran revives my optimism, and lust for life. 

Ed. by Eileen Myles & Liz Kotz, The New Fuck You: Adventures in Lesbian Reading (RECOMMEND): Incidentally, at the same time I read that line about never opposing your enemy again from Cioran, I was at the time, ill at ease with men. So I went looking for Kathy Acker. Instead I found this, an anthology of 37 writers talking about everything. The book was published in the 90s, at this point ‘queer lit’ isn’t really a term being mobilised, and the work isn’t always for lesbians, or written by lesbians. Some stories do wane, not everything here is my cup of tea, but that’s what you find in anthologies, the diversity of voices. It’s also deeply rooted in the real. It doesn’t sugarcoat at all. There’s sex, cancer, drugs, alcoholism, cake, driving, seasons, pizza, stairs and diabetes. There’s everything. 

Ultimately, to be a woman is to be in pain all your life. It’s chronic.  This anthology soothes and chafes these difficult wounds. 

Adam Phillips, Attention Seeking: Food for thought in the psychology literature of Adam Phillips. I like his hypotheses, and I enjoy his explanations. His writing is engaging and playful. Attention Seeking is about why and what we choose to pay attention to, why we seek attention for ourselves in four essays. He begins saying everything in life depends on what we find interesting. When we’re interested, we pay attention. 

This is an argument for attention-seeking in each of its facets. There’s no conclusions or set answers. Our selectivity makes up the very basis for who we are. And to understand this book you need to pay attention to it, and if you don’t, you’re only proving Phillips right. Now isn’t that masterful? 

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That’s all this week. Next Friday I’ll be reviewing Crispin Best’s Hello published very late last year. Hugs and snugs. Stay safe. 💕💁🏽

[tandemonium]

@adamphillips

[sevgiekicigil]

🇹🇷 Bu sabahı #deniz kenarında geçirmeyi planlamamıştım. Şile merkeze bir iş için geldim ama iş iptal olunca minibüs saatine kadar buradayım. İnsan yanında her zaman #kitap taşımalı! . . 🇬🇧 I haven't planned to spend the morning at the #seaside. I came to Şile center for an arrand but when it was canceled I am here until the bus goes back home. People should always carry #books ! . . 🇩🇪 Ich habe nicht vorgehabt, den Morgen am #Meer zu verbringen. Ich kam nach #Şile Zentrum für einen Arrand aber als es abgesagt wurde, bin ich hier bis der Bus nach Hause geht. Leute sollten immer #books tragen! #sevgiekicigil #photography #booklove #bookstagram #tranquility #huzur #metiskitap #adamphillips #kacirdiklarimiz #kitapaşkı #kitapkurdu #picoftheday #instaturkey (hier: Büyük Liman Şile) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bo-_JKIBFNV/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=te0w8aoyfaxm

[birbibliyoman]

"Eğer ölümden korksaydım, / Dünyada herkesten çok senden sakınırdım." #williamshakespeare #adamphillips

[roboticscatterheart]

All love stories are frustration stories… To fall in love is to be reminded of a frustration that you didn’t know you had (of one’s formative frustrations, and of one’s attempted self-cures for them); you wanted someone, you felt deprived of something, and then it seems to be there. And what is renewed in that experience is an intensity of frustration, and an intensity of satisfaction. It is as if, oddly, you were waiting for someone but you didn’t know who they were until they arrived. Whether or not you were aware that there was something missing in your life, you will be when you meet the person you want. What psychoanalysis will add to this love story is that the person you fall in love with really is the man or woman of your dreams; that you have dreamed them up before you met them; not out of nothing — nothing comes of nothing — but out of prior experience, both real and wished for. You recognize them with such certainty because you already, in a certain sense, know them; and because you have quite literally been expecting them, you feel as though you have known them for ever, and yet, at the same time, they are quite foreign to you. They are familiar foreign bodies.

Adam Phillips, Missing Out: In Praise of the Unlived Life www.brainpickings.org/2015/10/05/adam-phillips-missing-out-frustration-love/ Why We Fall in Love: The Paradoxical Psychology of Romance and Why Frustration Is Necessary for Satisfaction Brain Pickings                                        

[unfoldingnarratives]

Our lived lives might become a protracted mourning for, or an endless tantrum about, the lives we were unable to live, but the exemptions we suffer, whether forced or chosen, make us who we are #adamphillips #yayoikusamainspiration #yellow #city #interpretation #madrid #construction #dots #perspective #thingsthatshapeyou

[afilimeczup]

“aşık olmak varlığından haberdar olmadığınız bir hüsranın hatırlatılmasıdır; birini istemiş, bir şeyden mahrum kalmışsınızdır ve sonra birden o şey karşınızda belirir. bu deneyimle yenilenen yoğun bir hüsran ve yoğun bir tatmindir. tuhaf bir biçimde sanki beklediğimiz biri vardır ama o kişi gelene kadar beklediğinizin o olduğundan haberiniz yoktur. daha öncesinde hayatınızda bir şeyin eksik olduğunun farkında olun ya da olmayın, istediğiniz kişiyle tanıştığınızda o farkındalığa erişirsiniz.”

[drewtos]

New @radarstate EP just delivered. . . . #radarstate #music #musicthursday #tguk #thegetupkids #vinyl #vinylcollector #vinylcrusader #punk #rock #emo #record #records #audiotechnica #mattpryor #jimsuptic #theanniversary #joshberwanger #adamphillips #hipster #hipsterish #shutup (at Bronx, New York)

[generallygothic]

@brainpicker posts fascinating articles covering a limitless expanse of interesting topics. One recent article, entitled 'How to Live with Death', is particularly thought-provoking in a generally gothic sort of way... Go to brainpickings.org, enter the piece title (above) in the search bar on the left, have a read, a think, and let us know your thoughts! #generallygothic #gothic #brainpickings #mariapopova #darwin #charlesdarwin #freud #sigmundfreud #psychoanalysis #psychoanalyst #adamphillips #duckdeathandthetulip #wolferlbruch #academic #howtolivewithdeath #essay #article

[tandemonium]

@adamphillips

[blog-mehmetkuzu]

#adamphillips #haz #yasak (İzmir, Turkey)