#actually aegosexual

[booloocrew-blog]

its gay pride and 2am so fuck it, cant escape this forever

Ok. So. I just heard of this franchise called I Expect You To Die, right? It's like a James Bond parody VR game series that is known for their graphically impressive movie-styled openings. 

Well, after watching said openings as a part of my writing inspo playlist, I got recomended a trailer for the bad guy of the newest game, and...clears throat...WOMEN.

LIke, all jokes aside, she's such a cool character! I have next to no knowledge about the series apart from the fact that some narrator mission control guy named John Handler(?) sounds a lot like Lord Tippet. But I mean...I'm tempted to find out. Her and Robulter have so much potential to be both engaging, comedic, and a threat due to Roxana's former agent status and mad-science esque plan. Plus she reminds me of a certain evil villain duo in my Magical Robodoki series...and also Yzma and Kronk from The Emperor's New Groove (which is one of my favorite Disney movies of all time mainly due to those two, and I was tempted to title the piece "Pull the level, Robulter" for that very reason!)

Color me intrigued, and call me hyped!

And so, since I can't sleep, and it's 2:34 am as I'm writing this, fuck it, here's a drawing of Dr. Roxana Prism, as best as I can draw from the few non-holographic, non-oddly colored images of her in the trailer!!!

Trailer itself: https://youtu.be/vz7BqJtPk0g

[popcorn-plots]

someone: do you like sex?

me, an aegosexual human:

[filenameghost]

it's asexual awareness week. be aware of me

[aego-culture-is]

aego culture is having crushes on ships, not people

That it is!

[steakout-05]

aegosexual culture is saying something like "i'd smash" at someone you find attractive but then quickly backtracking and saying something else because you forgot the term "i'd smash" directly evokes the idea of you being in a sexual situation which is ✨gross and inaccurate to your experience✨

aegosexual culture is also frequently forgetting this because the idea of you being in a situation like this is so foreign and alien to you that you don't even consider it at first and just treat the term as a shorthand for "wow this person sure is attractive" and nothing else

[whatsacrush]

Some Aego inspired doodles:

In order: aegosexual, aegoromantic, aegoaroace (sunset), and aegoaroace (green and purple)

Feel free to use use these if you want, just tag me I guess.

You don't have to be aego to use these (you can use them for aro and/or ace pride as well), the triangle design was just inspired by the aego flags

[jacuzziwaters]

I'm asexual in practice only. In theory however....

[satyrradio]

I knew a man so pretty,

I made us in my mind,

But when it was me,

My face in the dream,

I suddenly wanted to die.

[fallen-vixen]

[2023]

Dumb thing from back when it was Ace Awareness week lmao

[popcorn-plots]

I do, in fact, headcanon Billy as aspec. Give me my demisexual homoromantic Twink of a witch

[shinekittenace]

i love a-specs who experience sexual attraction or like sexual things

i love aroallos i love non-sam aros i love aromids i love allosexual apls i love sex-favorable aces i love gray aces i love aegos i love demisexuals i love orchidsexuals i love every a-spec who is interested in sexual things you are all so cool

[fredlikesbreakfast]

there's just something so. idk how to describe it i cant say sexy uh enamorus about not taking your clothes off and not having sex. something so awesome. spectacular. hot, even. same goes for romance.

anyway on that note im coming out as aroace, thumbs up emoji, sunglasses emoji

[aego-culture-is]

Aego culture is reading 1st person smut, thinking about it for a second, and then changing yourself to an OC because it feels weird and disgusting otherwise

*mhmm first person is something Not Good

[steakout-05]

being aegosexual is like looking at a guy and being like "damn he's hot" but never wanting to do anything with him. instead, you take another hot guy and then do the imaginary equivalent of smacking them together like action figures

[wanderingmind867]

I hate the kids on this bus. One sits in front of me, talks about trains and seems to love Thomas the Tank Engine. He seems to stutter and his clothing smells really weird. Like a bad, musty quality to it. Still, he's the nicest kid on the damn bus.

Then there's the one who loves joking about sex and/or 9/11 and Nazis. He made me definitely realize I was asexual/aegosexual, because he loves talking about how the girls wear short clothing, how he's seen their breasts, etc etc. And then I realize… beyond maybe feelings of arousal from reading things or watching things, i have never felt these disgusting urges to brag about or even care about sex things. Also, his jokes are always so dark and unkind. Sex and morbidity, that's his style.

Finally, we have the kid who behaves like he's got Tourette's or something. He sat next to me in the library today, and it sounded like he was constantly muttering stuff like: fuck fuck fuck goddamn it fuck fuck oh my fucking god. Apparently last year he said the N word on the bus once, but I never caught him saying it. Even compared to the other kids, he's a special kind of awful. I was already struggling to read today, but he made it harder. Who can read past the sound of someone saying the f word over and over and over again? Certainly not me.

[gordontheengineswifenirmal]

From ur big old Aego/aro housemum here -

Asexual and aromantic people can face prejudice and hate crime, which service providers and criminal justice agencies have a duty to tackle. The information below aims to assist services to better understand and serve the needs of ace people who experience hate crime.

Prevalence of acephobia

Whilst social awareness is growing, asexuality and aromanticism are still not widely recognised, and prejudice against asexual and aromantic people remains largely unexamined.

The little (but growing!) research that there is in this area has uncovered strong bias against ace people. Relative to cisgender and heterosexual people, and even to cisgender lesbian, gay and bisexual people, asexual people were found to be the target of more prejudice, avoidance and discrimination.

Of all the sexual minorities studied, ace people were the most dehumanised, viewed as “machine-like”- cold and emotionless. This demonstrates the need to address anti-asexual bias and that ace people are at risk of experiencing violence, abuse and discrimination.

Recognising anti-asexual prejudice

Acephobia is a prejudicial attitude toward asexual and aromantic people based on negative stereotypes. It can include believing that ace people:

are less than human or against human nature

are deficient or broken; that it is a result of mental illness or sexual abuse

have just not met the “right” person

are confused or ‘going through a phase’

cannot experience love and have relationships

are just “prudes”; that asexuality is a choice rather than an orientation

don’t face oppression and are damaging the LGBT+ cause.

What is anti-asexual hate crime?

Any offence should be treated as an anti-asexual hate crime if the person who experienced it or anyone else feels it was an expression of acephobia.

Anti-asexual hate crime can include verbal abuse and violence from neighbours or strangers, in person or online. Because people’s ace identity is not always visible to strangers, anti-asexual abuse can often be concentrated in settings where the targeted person and perpetrator know each other. That can include verbal abuse or unwanted sexual touching from acquaintances and anti-asexual domestic abuse from family or partners. This also includes actual and threats of so-called “corrective” rape, to “fix” the person’s orientation.

These crimes can be less often recognized in mainstream services, but it is equally important to record and address them in a manner that addresses their motivation of hostility.

To qualify to be recorded as a hate incident, a report needn’t include anti-asexual language. It is enough for a reporting person to perceive that it was motivated by acephobia. Police guidance states that any crime or non-criminal incident should be recorded as motivated by sexual orientation hatred if the person reporting it feels it was motivated that way. Courts will need evidence to record a hate crime.

Tackle anti-asexual prejudice within LGBT+ communities

Asexuality is a part of sexual diversity, and aromanticism is a valid romantic orientation. Therefore they belong within the LGBT+ community.

However, ace people can face prejudice from within our community, such as being refused entry to LGBT+ spaces or inappropriate treatment by LGBT+ services. Some LGBT+ people argue that asexuality shouldn’t be included under the LGBT+ umbrella. Similar reasoning was employed to object to bisexual and trans inclusion in lesbian and gay movements historically – and still results in failings in full inclusion and support of these groups today.

LGBT+ people working as service providers can also sometimes oppose asexual inclusion. It is important for LGBT+ services to raise awareness of ace identities and acephobia, and work towards welcoming all sexual and romantic minorities to their service.

Demonstrate that you take acephobia seriously by speaking out against it.

Ace people also face homophobia, biphobia, transphobia, ableism, racism, etc.

Sexual orientation is distinct from romantic orientation; asexual people may have heteroromantic, homoromantic, biromantic, panromantic or aromantic attractions and so may face homophobia or biphobia

Asexual and aromantic people may also be trans, non-binary or have a non-conforming gender presentation, so may face transphobia.

Therefore acepeople may face anti-LGBT hate in addition to acephobia, and often these prejudices are linked. Determining how it should be recorded should be done together with the service user.

Additionally, many people face hostility rooted in multiple types of hatred, for instance both acephobic and racist. They are entitled to ask police and other safety services to record it under several hate incident categories. Ask open questions about motivation, support service users in determining their own account of events, and bear in mind that a crime or incident may have more than one hate motivation.

The CATCH Partnership can help you ensure you get appropriate support after an incident that targeted several of your identities.

Make a positive impact and recognise the gap

Service are increasingly familiar with hate crime against lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans people, but ace people have their own distinct needs, which can be overlooked or underplayed. Build your knowledge, policies and systems to address this important issue.

Many ace people feel pressured to pass as allosexual or alloromantic when talking to services, which can prevent people from disclosing important information about incidents. Make efforts to enable service users to be themselves in your service, and feel safe disclosing issues related to their identity.

For every acephobic incident or crime someone tells you about there will be many more unreported. Help people feel that telling you was worthwhile. An important way of doing that is by referral to ace and LGBT+ support, advice, advocacy and social groups, such as the Asexual Visibility and Education Network.

Enable people to consider a range of options including help from police, discrimination law, restorative justice, emotional support, or assistance complaining about acephobic attitudes from a provider of goods or services.