#kink is pride

[ihhfhonao3]

Queer puritans be using asexuals as their main anti-kink argument like “the aces don’t like this! Don’t expose them to it!” Which is not only treating us like children (because they use the same argument for the “kink is inappropriate for kids” talking point) but is also just. So fucking stupid.

Because not only are you making it out that we can’t think for ourselves and don’t know ourselves well enough to know our limits, not only are you only just now caring about us just to use us in your argument after unending aphobia, but you also don’t understand how many aces think and feel about sex.

Like. Literally. I’m aroace, right? Mf my first ever fanfiction was a gay smut. (Almost) all my ace friends love making sex jokes, and they also understand them when they’re cracked by allos. Many, MANY aces have (and enjoy!) sex and sexual activities. Many aces are a part of the kink scene since it allows us to explore sex in a different way than the “norm” and isn’t just vanilla. I have met asexual furries (as an acefur myself) and can confirm that we are some of the kinkiest and horniest little bastards there are around.

So stop using aces to defend your puritanical views. Chances are, the aces you’re trying to “protect” not only hate you, but also are way more raunchy and deviant (affectionate) than you think. We aren’t always the soft UwU innocent little babies you think we are. And the aces that are sex repulsed and uncomfortable with kink know their limits and can go to a more chill parade because, news flash, they are functioning and can think for themselves.

[surelyimisheard]

pathetic

[cuddlesdotgif]

Infighting and exclusionary tactics benefit no one but those who wish harm on us all.

Stop doing their work for them.

This discourse telling bi women to leave their boyfriends at home during pride is absolutely ridiculous for so many reasons, main one being is that allies are allowed to go to pride, you know that right? People have to also let go of this idea that they can 'tell' who is queer. No you can't! Plenty of trans men pass as cis men, and plenty of bi women date bi men.

[imaginarylands4000]

[icyhotness]

I desperately need the queer community to be okay with having cis, straight people around. Desperately.

You do not have a “gay” radar. You do not have a “trans” radar. You cannot tell. It’s none of your business how someone else presents. That seemingly straight guy could be bi. Or ace. Or some other identity. You. Cannot. Tell.

Besides that, though, allies are an integral part of any community whether you want to believe that or not.

And I get it. As a black woman, I have a hard time trusting white people. But I am not asking you or demanding that you become friends with anybody. I am not saying you have to hold hands and sing. You are absolutely allowed to protect yourself and keep your vigilance up. But at times, especially at places like pride, that means just simply walking away. Moving and going to another area.

So long as no one is getting hurt/hurting others, just mind your business and enjoy yourself. We’ve got bigger to fry than the same bottom of the barrel discourse on who “deserves” to be at pride.

[druidflowers666]

I think friends should make out with each other and give each other head

[fractangle]

Pride month vest project, a patch a day #14: All Pride is Kink to Bigots

[fixing-bad-posts]

I guarantee kink is part of pride, we need kink at pride.

[xpupslxtx]

happy pride i hope you all have hot disgusting freak pervert gay t4t sex that would make the gods weep this month

[littlecib191]

Cute enough to fuck your mouth ? 😋

[animentality]

This is just drip.

[bloggingboutburgers]

Quick reminder since apparently it bears reminding in both directions: if bigoted people, closed-minded people overall, or your own internalized insecurities misinterpret a queer person’s message in a way that hurts/endangers you, yeah, it sucks, but it’s not the fault of the queer person in question, nor should it be a reason for them to silence themselves. They’re probably as hurt/pissed as you are that someone misinterpreted and misused their message to do harm.

Of course sadly there’ll still be queer people that actually DO mean harm and dismissal to other queer people – I ain’t speaking for those and it’s not the best way to ensure their and others’ wellbeing imo. I’m just saying – not all people will be like that. That’s what I want to believe. So hopefully let’s not put everyone in the same bag, keep supporting each other, WHILE allowing each other to advocate for our own visibility, without having to self-erase or self-censor to accomodate to what haters might say.

It’ll be tougher this way, maybe, because humans seem to like to draw extreme conclusions very quick, but I don’t believe there’s any better way for us all to be alright and stay alright on the long run.

[transsexualfiend]

Pride isn’t a “queer-friendly space”, pride IS queer space.

Kink doesn’t “belong” at pride, kink IS pride.

To say that these things are just-kind-of-also-included is such a diluted view of what these things actually are. These spaces have been mentally purified for so many people as things that are “also-okay-for-gays!”--

No!!

These spaces ARE OURS. Not just “friendly to us”. Not just “inclusive to us”. They ARE us. We don’t just “belong”... We’re the reason it exists in the first place!

[cutebrittie]

Would you marry me? 🥹

[thea296]

It definitely gives me one !!!

[americascomic]

I talked to a trans femme teen yesterday who told me to not use slurs (faggot, tranny) and I think people like to blame social media for these kids being so tenderqueer-y, but this kid also told me that of the 1,400 kids in her art school, there is lots of out gay, trans masc and non-binary AFAB kids but only 10 t-femmes, and I saw in her and this other trans femme teen I know this harsh assimilationist streak (they want to go stealth, strive for conventional beauty standards, jealous of the cis het white blonde girls) because they barely have a community and so it becomes a place to survive.

The internet is this boogieman that distorts what is the consensus. It has a selection bias of hyper isolated, neurodivergent, and anxious people who are just looking to survive

I look at queer kids with annoying conservative opinions I don't see the solution being "internet stop sucking" - the assimilationist woodworking "Cross Dressing Quarterly" trannies of the 90's didn't need TikTok to get this way, it was the violence of the closet.

I see the problem being them being scared kids - what bell hooks calls "the most oppressed class" and I see the solution being a more porous, safe community between kids and adults (outside of the nonprofit industrial complex that uses queer youth spaces to condescend, infantalize, and give resources in a nondemocratic way)

We always say "protect trans kids" and it's worth queer adults of all types toughing through bigotry and accusatory stares to find these kids, build relationships, give resources and love them. All we have is each other. We protect us. Us tranny faggots