#ableistfeminist

[selkie-on-land]

This 👆

Wait until you learn that scopophobia has been linked to autism.

Now imagine the brain of an autistic female that has internalised the allistics gaze and the male gaze. 💀

If I know that someone is in the house, even in a different Floor, even a woman that I feel safe with, I can't breathe as I should because I'm scared to death that I will be perceived.

We are scared to death that people will know that we EXIST. 💀

So I just read this article about how people end up fucking up whatever task they’re doing when they feel like they’re being watched.  Scientists have discovered that the sense of being observed actually SHUTS OFF a part of the brain, the inferior parietal cortex. 

Given the fact that women are constantly watched in our society, and we are constantly REMINDED that we are being watched by people making fun of fat, “ugly”, or gender-nonconforming women, it makes me wonder how many women have messed up important tasks or projects or just day-to-day activities because A PART OF OUR BRAIN is permanently being deactivated?

Like talk about a fucking handicap.

Women are constantly held under the microscope- whether we are attractive or unattractive, the gaze of patriarchy never ends.

Just last week I was walking my dog and bent over to literally pick up poop.  Suddenly I heard whistling and looked up cause I knew I was the only person around.  Sure enough, about 300 feet away, some construction worker was perched on top of a building, grinning at me and calling out stuff I luckily couldn’t hear because he was so goddamn far away.

I wonder what it does to women to have this constant source of stress hanging over us, each and every day, knowing we are being scrutinized and examined no matter what we’re doing.  I wonder how many more accomplishments, life-changing discoveries, inventions, etc would have been achieved by women if we didn’t have this constant brain-handicap imposed on us by men.

[selkie-on-land]

Internalised misogyny/racism/homophobia/etc is when you also absorb those ideologies even if you're the targeted groups. It's usually both self centered and external because you can't really dissociate those two. If you have misogynistic value it's apply to every female not the others or just you. Same for other discrimination not just misogyny. Other than this point, I absolutely agree with what was written! It's need to be worked on.

But I'm curious about how much it's a thing in the radical feminist community... Because in order to be a radfem you have to do it before being a radfem. It's also one of the things that differentiate the radical feminism with the liberals ones. The core of radfeminism is to Deconstruct and criticise everything in society including in ourselves, in our lives, our habits (physiological and thoughts).

The fact that it's that much present makes me think that there are so many radfem that did not did that, or even started it somewhere, make me realise that a lot of babyfem/radleaning are calling and probably considering themselves radfem when they are not yet. They are at the beginning of the journey. Sometimes they only are gender critical but are not radical feminist and don't even knows what is radical feminism.

This is because radical feminism is not accessible. It's hidden, you have to seek for it, to have recommendations. It's not easy to found in the public media/bookstores etc. And also because of the gender cult that associated anything that is not agreeing with them with terf which is knows as a synonym for radfem most of the times.

women, in general, are misogynistic. this applies to radical feminists as much as the rest of women. i am not talking about internalized misogyny (i’m a dumb bitch, stupid, ugly, etc.), i’m talking about externalized misogyny (she’s a dumb bitch, stupid, ugly, etc.). i’m not saying there are no women who haven’t wrestled with the misogyny embedded in their psyche and somehow fully eradicated it, but i don’t know any, i’m certainly not one, and other women’s misogyny is easily identifiable on a day to day basis.

i believe strongly we need to face the reality that we have misogynistic thoughts about other women. we live in an ugly, misogynistic society. female people are trained since birth to feel pleasure and self-worth in cutting other women down. oftentimes, when this is brought up, the defensive response is “you’re saying i have to never criticize women! you’re saying i have to think all women are perfect! you’re saying i can’t disagree with women!” you’ll notice how this is the same defensive response as when misogyny is brought up to men.

you can be angry with a woman without expressing it in a misogynist way. you can be angry with a woman and examine both the range of emotions you feel because of her choices, actions and words and the emotions contained within that range that have misogynistic roots. examine the timbre of your response - could the words and sentiments you’re expressing be easily replaced with “you stupid bitch” or “you fucking cunt?”

dismissing the reality that we have been trained since birth to focus our female rage on the relatively safer targets of other female people and to gain disproportionate relief/satisfaction when the arrow hits its mark as sappy sisterhood bullshit is a rejection of fully understanding and therefore being able to address the gendered socialization we have undergone.

[selkie-on-land]

This 👆👆👆 is crucial!!!

I don't want to hear your ''feminism'' if you actively talk over and mock disabled women when we ask you not to be ableist in feminist spaces.

I don't want to hear your ''feminism'' if you actively talk over and mock poor women and women from other economic classes when we ask you not to be classist in feminist spaces.

I don't want to hear your ''feminism'' if you actively talk over and mock bisexual women when we ask you not to be biphobic in feminist spaces.

i don’t want to hear about ur “feminism” if u actively talk over & mock woc when we ask u to not be racist in feminist spaces. i don’t want to hear about ur “feminism” if u actively talk over & mock lesbians when we ask u not to be lesbophobic in feminist spaces. one crucial aspect to achieving female liberation is first forming female class consciousness and solidarity, and racism & lesbophobia get in the way of forming global female solidarity. yes this is still the case even when u pretend ur racism only selectively applies to men

[selkie-on-land]

It reminds me of this :

''- I'm fat.

- no you're beautiful.

- I know I'm beautiful.

I didn't say I was ugly I said I was fat. Idiot.''

This is the same.

They said those stupid things in order to reassuring themselves because they are uncomfortable around people who are different.

This is so CRINGE. 🤢

Can someone help me understand why people get weird when I say that my autism is disability? They always try to say like, no is not you just little bit different. Like no! Is disability! Am have shutdown about the vacuum and forget to go to bathroom and cry when schedule change. Those aspect disable me. So why do everyone say that I just different when is okay to say disability? /genuine

Like I know I low support need but am still disabled.

[selkie-on-land]

This is INFURIATING to me !!!

Those people who have this kind of speech seems to not being able to understand the differences between oppression that is socially constructed yes and our material Reality.

They are not able to know the differences between FACTS and OPINIONS.

Our oppressions is based on our reality, our sex, our disabilities, our ''race'' even if race is a social construct but you get what I mean, our social class etc.

It's SO COMMON in the autistic community. The autistics that doesn't struggle much and apply this to the whole community regardless of the fact that it is a spectrum so not everyone has the same needs, or regardless of the whole set of comorbidities we can have with it, like all the dys, ADHD, dysautonomia, pots, EDS, SAMA, cptsd and so much more.

Those autistics are spreading this speech everywhere they can !

''we are not disabled, we are differently abled''

''autism is not a disability, it's a gift, a super power''

''you wouldn't be disabled, in the right society''

Etc.

And I HATE THOSE !!

And even if I wouldn't have all the comorbidities that I have, ''just'' autism in itself is enough!

They are saying that the only thing that we struggle with is how people treat us, but this is ableism.

This is ON TOP of what we are struggling to in our day to day life. We are struggling with our disabilities and on top of that we have to endure the ableism of others. Saying that the only thing that makes us disabled is how people treat us is a non sense, because people treat us this way BECAUSE OF OUR DISABILITIES.

Even in a ''perfect society'' I still wouldn't be able to regulate my emotions, my body temperature, I would still pass out and faint if it's too warm for my body, I would still have a completely different nervous system Which impacts my digestive system leading to gut/digestive issues, I would still be assaulted by every sensory imput my brain will receive and the list is never ending.

"disability is a social construct" has to be the thing that pisses me off the most in my current studies. why is this smth you get taught in a fucking CARE job it's completely contrary to reality, most our jobs would be obsolete if it was true????

imo it's so extremely disprespectul to disabled people to basically claim their struggle is not real and would be "cured" with enough societal accomodations

[selkie-on-land]

Liberals are just putting BLM, no ableism allowed here etc for virtual signalling.

I'm an autistic woman, I am also allergic to tobacco (all types of cigarettes and cigars) and when I talk about it with the person in charge of the event and we are in a closed place. This person repeat that absolutely NO SMOKING ARE ALLOWED INSIDE and if you want to smoke then you go outside (even though it's obvious no smoking inside, in my country it's in the law except for your own apartment). She even adds multiple times That there were people here who were allergic to tobacco and who lost consciousness, others who were asthmatic and in whom it triggered huge asthma attacks and sometimes a mum with her newborn baby.

Everyone of course said ''oh yes of course it's obvious we don't smoke inside. Oh poor women that sounds horrendous to be allergic/asthmatic blablabla''. And then 10 minutes later they started smoking inside and didn't want to get downstairs to go outside because they would have to Going down and up stairs and they just don't want to do that. We repeatedly said that if they smoked inside then they would have to call an emergency for rescuing all of us who were disabled because of this and they didn't fucking care !! And it was in a feminist event/place where we were reunited multiple times for weeks or months.

Because of that, those who wanted to come and do feminist actions but who were asthmatic had to stop coming (I am also asthmatic in addition to my allergy) and Several people had to carry me to the floors below because I was unconscious and I was no longer breathing so I had to be on oxygen.

Everyday the woman who organised this repeated the warning and the things to respect. There was also a rule about the Sound volume and decibel that we made because other people lived below and she was also autistic like me and like other women present.

And everyday it was ignored at the Cost of all the disabled women.

And stories like this 👆 I have a thousand to talk about, all in so called feminist places or event.

It's not even about not being exactly on the same political position, they just don't care.

They put and say their Slogan Anti ableism only for virtual signalling but in reality they don't give a shit about us.

Realising this, truly broke my heart. I obviously thought they meant what they said as I'm autistic and this is how autistic communication is.

But I forgot that they are not just women, they are also allistics (not autistics), so not able to communicate.

And every time, every where we tried to open our voice to testify about this topic in the feminism (not just in my country but all over the world where it happens) we are putting down and Silenced. This is just more ordinary violence. As if we didn't get through enough violence as women and as disabled.

And it's even worst if you're an autistic girl and woman cause we're 3 times more sexually assaulted and raped than allistics girls and women.

About this 👆 specific topic I made a post 📌 on my profile if you want to read it.

Damn it feels so good to finally have a space to talk and testify about it and not being silencied or insulted ! It's just such a relief ! 🙏😩🥹

Found on Twitter :/ liberals claim to support disabled people until they find out that the disabled person in question does not agree with all of their views.

Then that sympathy is withdrawn and disabled people suddenly deserve their suffering.