#aba mention cw

[slugass]

mmmm yummy aba abuse propaganda sites talking about autistic people like they don’t exist past the age of like 12 when i’m just trying to fucking google features of autism yummy yummy in my tummy!!

[magic-trans-kid]

You doing alright?

the pensieve.

the pensieve showed what happened to winifred.

she’s dead. ivy vanished her on accident

then she began crying. i don’t think i’ll be able to sleep anymore because of her voice.

the anguish, the fear, it was horrible.

reminds me of the time i was spanked 20 times in that clinic

[spacexfucker]

I'm so pissed off about this. Discomfort around hearing loud noises is not enough to make other people have to remain out of public. The whole idea behind shaming people and parents and kids for being loud in public is what made me so afraid to take my daughter places. But she and I deserve to take up space in public regardless of how quiet she can be.

Why does your overstimulation overwrite my daughters right to exist in public? Why are you all anti aba until people bring up that some autistic people can't be redirected or calmed down. Meltdowns are ok for you but not ok if it's someone else? Stimming is fine and you're "unmasking" but a kid vocally stimming too loud is where you draw the line?

Your reaction to autistic people who cant mask and can't control how they stim or act in public is what gets the police called on disabled kids. It's what gets high support kids isolated because they're too "oppressive" to others to take places. It's what makes parents put their kids in ABA.

[the-unlucky-foster]

So I have this headcanon post for Kaleena. Be warned, it's REALLY long, and woobifies Esme a little more. My interpretation of the Page parents is that Kaleena's motives were her children while Gorman's (yes that's actually his name) motives were money and potentially his kids as well.

//CW: GROOMING, MURDER, PRISON VIOLENCE, ABA, CHILD ABUSE, SEXUAL HARASSMENT, SELF-TERMINATION, SWEARING//

Ever since Kaleena became pregnant with Reggie and Esme, she made it her mission to protect them with all she got. It was to the point where she hit her would-be carjacker with her car while she was 8 months pregnant.

However, when it became apparent that her two children were squibs, she became stricter on them, especially considering she barely got enough sleep because she'd just given birth to Daniel.

Despite this, she still had the mission to protect her children with everything she could do. When she found out that Daniel was being abused in his ABA clinic, Kali wanted to KILL one of his so-called “therapists” for hurting her favourite child. She ended up holding back and was one of the many parents that bankrupted the clinic. It was to the point where Esme and Reg got Daniel a Super NES for Christmas.

Enough rambling, now to the part where Esme started to distrust her own mother.

When Esme was about 14-15, she was being groomed by an older man, so she told her mother about it, as she'd also experienced sexual harassment from a classmate when she was 13.

Kali took this very seriously.

So seriously, that she took a gun, found the address of the man grooming her daughter, and shot him, making it look like self-termination.

The next day, she told Esme “You don't need to worry about him again.”

Esme felt relieved, thinking that her abuser got arrested, until her mother continued her sentence,

“I shot him.”

This horrified Esme.

So much so that she wouldn’t even come near her mother because of this. As in, she would rather read Twilight than be in the same room as her mother.

Eventually, when Esme was 16, her father and brother were arrested and her mother ended up locked up as well for trying to get them out, and by God, poor Dani boy being absolutely miserable was an understatement.

However, despite this, Kaleena still had a desire to protect her children, to the point where she straight-up KILLED Gridley once he got into Azkaban for using her daughter as extortion (sorry gridley stans, but if you fuck with the cubs, you fuck with the bear)

Sometimes, Kali could feel herself going insane from isolation when thinking about her being separated from her kids, especially Daniel. Aaand that's it. Don't say I didn’t warn ya

[system-of-a-feather]

Maybe when I get my PhD Ill research long term effects of "good and modern ABA" and burn it to the ground Round 2 Electric Boogaloo /hj

[moth-mayh3m]

that moment when i barely have anymore triggers relating to my trauma because i am So So Angry and Autistic so i actually end LOVING talking about the trauma

[whumpbump]

Immersion Therapy

Cw: noncon (nonsexual) touching, noncon drugging, mentions of PTSD, control by a big organization, forced immersion therapy, forced ABA, forced conversion therapy

Whumpee was diagnosed with PTSD and under the Caretaking Organization’s decision, Whumpee was to go through immersion therapy with their assigned Caretaker.

Whumpee’s immersion therapy was to sit on Caretaker’s lap for an hour, three times a week while being hugged to overcome their aversion to being touched and held.

Caretaker was given their orders and uncomfortable with the decision made, tried to gently explain to Whumpee what would be happening from the doorway of Whumpee’s room. Caretaker received an “Absolutely NOT” from the lump of blankets on the bed and with that, closed the door and reported back.

An injectable sedative was delivered to Caretaker’s doorstep within three hours.

Caretaker took a deep breath and called to Whumpee from the doorway.

“Whumpee? It’s time for immersion therapy. The sooner we do it, the sooner it’s over.”

The lump of blankets was silent. This was generally Whumpee’s way of saying no without having to verbalize. Typical avoidance behaviors like pretending they can’t hear or looking away so they can’t acknowledge by looking in Caretaker’s eyes that they’ve been told something.

Caretaker swallowed uncomfortably, knowing what was likely coming next.

“Whumpee, I’m giving you the chance to try it out before we move on to next steps.”

The lump was silent and seemed to become quieter if that was even possible.

Caretaker walked over to the blankets, pulled them back and quickly sunk the needle into exposed flesh. Whumpee looked up in surprise and horror as Caretaker pulled the needle away and clicked the safety cap on.

In an instant, Whumpee bolted for the door. Caretaker followed, concerned they would fall down the steps. Fortunately Caretaker was able to pass Whumpee on the stairs as they slowed significantly, cursing up a storm in slurred speech. When they did end up sliding towards the floor, Caretaker was there to catch them and scoop them up. Like a small child restrained by a parent during a tantrum, Whumpee huffed and cried as they tried to wiggle away from the offending arms.

Caretaker calmly sat them both on the couch and curled Whumpee into their body as their hour together started. Whumpee cried and cried. Caretaker cried too, knowing this was not therapeutic in any sense of the word and would only cause Whumpee to lose trust in them but they had their orders and would lose their job if they refused.

As they sat, Caretaker apologized profusely through their tears and explained they had to do this lest they lose their job and Whumpee end up with someone not as caring, only in it for the money. Whumpee understood this but was so overwhelmed by the touch and shock of being drugged that all they could do was make big ugly sobs into Caretaker’s shirt.

Caretaker wiped Whumpee’s tears and nose with a tissue and shushed them while rubbing small circles on their back, patting them, and rocking them intermittently. They felt Whumpee’s heart rate slow and Whumpee allowed the drugs to lull them to sleep. As they slept, Caretaker thought deeply about the events that had unfolded, leading them to this moment. Was it worth it to stay in the Organization if this was how they treated their patients?

[sillylilfairy]

Free to Use Pride Flags!

Made these two ace, aro and neurodiversity inclusive pride flags inspired by the intersex inclusive progress pride flag and posted on my Deviantart awhile back. I also made it a point to explicitly include BIPOC in the neurodiversity symbol since they often get spoken over by white neurodivergent folks. Use these however you like. Credit is appreciated but not required :3 Cw: Ableism, transphobia, aspec erasure and ABA/conversion therapy mentions under the cut

I made it a point to include aros and aces because of the separatism, erasure and denial of ace and aro oppression in queer spaces. And I included neurodiversity due to the huge overlap between queerness and neurodivergence as well as our shared struggle with conversion therapy (ABA). Especially autistic people (though it gets used on ADHDers and other folks too). Being autistic is also often cited as a reason to deny trans people gender affirming care (which I've experienced personally), as in the case of Missouri's "emergency" ban on trans affirming care.

We're also 7 times more likely than neurotypicals to openly identify as trans because we place less value on social hierarchy and neurotypical social norms than we do on authenticity. Being neurodivergent can also have a direct influence on how we experience queerness which is why identities like autigender and neuroqueer exist.

Feel free to use these in whatever way you see fit. Or don't. There's no pressure. I just wanted them to exist and to share them with others who may have felt ostracized from what should have been safe spaces due to gatekeepers, exclusionists, ableists or racists

[the-paint-cans-galaxy]

CW // ABA Therapy Mention

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So last night, I felt awful because people still think ABA therapy was okay. I could recall that people sometimes develop a rough exterior that they never want to be hurt again. I think I or someone else said something about that via internal communication. Again, I'm not sure who it was. I figured last night I would figure it out today. -📀

[muffinapologist]

If you want another reason to know conservatives are full of shit; while they’re villainizing queer people as “groomers” there’s actual statistical evidence that shows therapies like ABA are (likely unintentionally) grooming neurodivergent people for abuse and have lead to a marked rise in the rate of abuse among neurodivergents. But no one talks about banning these therapies or evaluating how medical professionals treat neurodivergents. They just want to kill queer people, it has nothing to do with preventing abuse

[birdofmay]

I am autistic but have severe trauma due to masking (I’m an ABA victim) and so unmasking has been difficult. Lately I’ve been more open and learning that I don’t need to respond to something if I don’t know how to respond to it. A lot of times it’s “I apologize your words affect me deeply I just don’t know how to respond to that :(“ and I genuinely feel terrible that I can’t find my words or find the way to appropriately connect my feelings to a response. Before this I used to be like “I’m appreciative of that, thanks.” Or “I don’t really like that…” but things have become more complicated and now I don’t want to use the default template response because it doesn’t actually connect to how I really feel. Is there some term for this? What is it? I don’t think it’s nonverbal or nonspeaking I mean I can talk and such, I just don’t know what to completely say to people or what genuinely feels ok to say that is satisfying to how I feel internally. A piece of me feels a little restricted with only learning one language (english) and I feel that other languages out there have better ways to articulate and connect how one internally feels.

I tried to reword your ask and if I understand you correctly, what you're basically saying is

"I used scripts all the time, and now that I'm not scripting anymore I realised that I don't know how to express myself and my feelings"

did I get that right?

If so, I think it's very common to struggle with that in the process of unmasking. Once the reliable scripts are gone, you have to figure everything out yourself, and of course that's confusing and frustrating. But I don't think there's a special term for that.

I'd like to hand this ask over to autistics with similar experiences, no matter if you're a follower or not, feel free to comment whatever comes to mind! ☝🏼

[the-unlucky-foster]

Better do a lorepost on the Mason-Buchls parents (+dead child) bc yes lmaooooo

Iris Mason, to put it, is stoic and no-nonsense. She’s good to her children, and would do ANYTHING to protect them, but sometimes, she can be VERY overbearing, especially on Elliott. The reason for this is that she’s the oldest of four children, and thus, has to keep everyone in line so they don’t get themselves into trouble. However, she can quickly turn to violence if she sees one of her children getting hurt. It’s the reason why she chased Elli’s former ABA teacher with a cast iron, filed a restraining order against Judy, and yelled at Renee + her sisters’ mum.

Arthur Buchls is the grandson of a Holocaust survivor, and so, is much more of a goofball than his wife. He’s playful, openly kind, and BIG into Greek mythology. It’s to the point where his kids were almost named after Greek deities, like Hera or Zeus. Iris didn’t allow this AT ALL, and chose the names Elodie and Lillian. When he and Iris were young, he used to own a pet duck named Charybdis. She had her eyes ripped out by males, and so Arthur took care of her until she eventually died of old age. It is said that Elliott is a reincarnation of Charybdis.

Telemachus is the family’s dog. He is a Maremma sheepdog who is single-handedly responsible for Elliott surviving his— never mind. Thus, he has a very close relationship with Elliott and constantly waits for him to come home from Hogwarts.

//cw for upsetting content, like miscarriages, child death and genital mention//

Aeolus is the name given to a child miscarried before Elliott was born. She was first conceived in 1994, and died two months after conception. Iris was THRILLED to have her first child, but that day, on May 13, 1994, Iris was rushed into the ER for heavy bleeding in her genital area, and the doctors confirmed the baby was dead, so they did all the necessary things so Iris would survive, and she ended up staying in the hospital for four days until she was discharged, and a funeral was held for their lost baby. They would have done it earlier, (I heard that Jewish funerals happen almost immediately after death) but Iris was horribly messed up from losing their baby and almost dying. So, Iris allowed her husband to name the baby Aeolus, because she would never experience life with that name.

So, yeah. When Elliott was rushed into the ER that night, Iris had a nervous breakdown. She couldn’t bear the thought of losing her child again and just broke down. She was so afraid that her daughter would die from the injuries she sustained and was so happy that her child was able to recover.

[moth-mayh3m]

thinking about my angsty self-projection aba-related headcanons for gin's past. someone needs to take this character away from me RIGHT NOW./j

[helloiamausacresfan]

If you have coin nearby and want to help a support network for autism/autistic/ASD folks, want an accomplishment medal to hang up, and/or want one of the world's comfiest T-shirts, all from the comfort of your own home, ASVC's/Autism Society Ventura County's got you covered if you participate in Aut2Run 2021, which will be held virtually April 24th-25th! :D

Every cent ASVC makes off this and other fundraisers is one less cent it has to take from big local ABA providers in order to afford to do everything it does for autistic people of all ages, yes even adults!

Register and/or donate here at this link (it's the same link as at top): https://runsignup.com/Race/CA/Camarillo/Aut2Run

This would be a fun event for your friends, family, coworkers, and neighbors as well! :D

[wreckitremy]

The only thing that is essential, is that anon (and allistics in general) go take a walk through autism acceptance month tag and the actuallyautistic tag.

But keep your mouth shut while you learn to not be ableist. Trust me, someone else has already asked your annoying question, or made that irritating comment, and it has been addressed already. Pay attention long enough and you might even find the answer to why you are wrong without fucking up anymore.

ABA is essential for autistic children. It help teach them social skills. Without it them, autistic child would enter society with no social skills and behave like animals/feral children.

There's a big difference between teaching social skills and bullying into compliance.

[butterflyinthewell]

I can never stomach the Friday the 13th movies and I normally don’t like horror films, but I read up on the lore around Jason Voorhees and…well I have a bizarre idea.

CW: mentions of abuse, ABA, violence, ableism, death and gore.

X-posted from my Twitter.

Crystal Lake becomes a summer camp for disabled kids, but the counselors are a bunch of ableist douchebags. They do terrible things to the kids, like hitting them, mocking them and locking them in their cabin without air conditioning or access to water.

One of the kids is a nonspeaking autistic boy with an iPad. Let’s call him Jeff*. He’s 12.

He knows there’s a legend around Crystal Lake. It’s his special interest. He tries to stay awake all night to watch the lake through the window, but always falls asleep. Then a night comes when he wakes up to screams out on the path. All the other kids scramble under their bunks, into the bathroom or behind blankets. All except Jeff, who watches Jason emerge from the water and decapitate the meanest camp counselor with his machete.

Jason comes to the cabin and breaks open the barricaded door. Jeff freezes. Jason leaves without hurting anybody there. Jeff follows the carnage to see Jason slaughtering everybody in the counselor’s cabin. It’s a bloodbath of dismemberment.

Four surviving counselors escape into the woods. NOBODY goes to get the disabled kids still huddled up afraid in their cabin.

Jeff almost gets run down by Jason emerging from the bloody mayhem in the counselors cabin. At first he grabs Jeff’s shoulder and pushes him aside.

But Jeff types on his iPad. It’s a question. “I think you think. Why?” He holds the screen up to Jason and the question repeats. “Why?”

Jason picks Jeff up by the collar of his t-shirt, looks at him at eye level, sets him down again and slowly touches a sequence of icons.

“Water. Dead. Mommy. Sad. Angry. Alone. Hate. Pay. People. Mean.”

That’s all Jason gets out before a harpoon bursts through his chest and shatters the iPad apart. He shoves Jeff into the bushes as the four surviving counselors return with rope, nets and chains.

Jason rips the harpoon spear out of his chest and kills one counselor with it, but the other three manage to pull him off his feet and get him tangled in the net and chains enough to drag him back into the lake. Only two come back, because one more was drowned in the fight.

Jeff stays hidden in the bushes till sunrise. Police are collecting all the disabled kids from the cabin, but Jeff makes it to the lake in time to see Jason’s mask floating on the water. He gets a hold of it with a stick and hides it under his shirt as the cops come to get him.

His parents and ABA therapist are inhumanely abusive, and he hopes Jason will get them when he comes looking for his mask.

END

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*Jeff can be any gender or name or whatever you want, I just threw in a name and gender so I wasn’t saying ‘kid’ over and over.