#a sympathy fund

[maladaptivewriting]

i can’t afford to read anymore drarry fics

they’re always talking about eating indian food and then i immediately have to order indian food because they make me crave it but the indian food near me is so fucking expensive and i’m going broke bc of it!!!!!

[smokewars]

yknow what i'll put this in the main tags one of my main worries with this (other than the safety of the cg illustrator that was fired and employees at project moon obviously) is that it feels like everytime theres a controversy, project moon just lie down and take it. theyre like doormats. appeasing them isnt going to make them stop, if anything it makes them more likely to do something like this again because they know its going to work and because it HAS before (im looking at ruina)

[captain-casual]

[subconsciousmysteries]

Men are absolutely losing it because women are seeing through their bullshit and I'm here to watch their collective narcissistic meltdown

[greater-than-the-sword]

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[swagging-back-to]

not sorry. i extend very little sympathy and patience towards tras who are underage, and the only ones who do get said sympathy are TIFs. but again. it's MICROSCOPIC levels of sympathy.

[wocwithmentalillness]

I always feel bad when I see GoFundMe posts or CashApp requests for assistance. I want to help, but I can't GoFundAnybody unless someone starts to GoFundME.

Is that bad?

[nachosforfree]

When other trans people claim non-passing or non-medically transitioning trans people are making the community look bad, and in the same breath talk about how hard it is to get access to gender affirming care and how bad it's affecting them mentally.... y'all

[elinaline]

A while ago I was surfing the "I hope I'm not only... But also..." And wrote something to the likes of "I hope I'm not only someone you find so fucking annoying with and constantly disagree with, but also a comrade you know you can count on in times of need" and now what I'm seeing is many people on Tumblr being the opposite. Like, people posing as comrades but actively being dangerous to the people they should support even if they don't them. It's fucking weird and depressing.

[babyspacebatclone]

@bdkdkens , I happened to see your reply to a comic from @autball asking about what ABA is, and it doesn’t look like you have had an answer yet.

I studied ABA as part of my Community Psychology degree, and am happy to give you a rundown.

ABA = Applied Behavioral Analysis

It is a specific school of psychology with an emphasis on changing the behaviors of people - “Applied” means the focus on change (and not just accumulation of data), Behavior is obvious, and “Analysis” is an indication of the intention to be “scientific.”

On it’s own, everything in ABA is neutral to good: understanding the situations in which people do behaviors, and the forces that can either cause them to do behaviors more (reinforce) or less (punish in a very scientific sense of ‘make less desirable’).

The issue is two fold:

ABA focuses only on the observable, as part of their “scientific” obsession. I phrase it that way because the choice of “observable” means that internal thoughts, memories, etc….. If the Analysis themselves can’t prove they exist? They are literally ignored as irrelevant. If they happen to interfere with the Analyst’s work? They are actively suppressed - punished out until they stop being a “problem.” Instead of, you know, addressed as part of the individual.

This is because the most important person in the equation of ABA is the Analyst. Not the client, and not even the patient - which may be two different people, in the case of working with children. The Analyst is the be all, end all expert, and everyone else needs to acknowledge that or, well, be punished for interfering with the Analyst’s work.

Point 1 is baked into ABA; if you want to include beliefs, memories of past experiences, and even intrusive thoughts as things that influence behavior and are important, you’re going to go into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. I, myself, align strongly with CBT as a therapy philosophy.

Point 2 is technically avoidable, but having studied under old-school supporters of ABA it’s almost impossible to avoid in practice.

One of my courses in college was taught by an adjunct - that is, someone who works in the field and teacher part time as a service for people entering into the field.

He was humane, reasonable, and respectful of the clients (adults with moderate to severe mental or intellectual disabilities) and teaching them life skills.

He convinced me behavioral principles worked, even in situations where explaining necessary things to people was not possible.

My other classes????

The most recent textbook actively told the students to prevent Autistic patients from stimming because it would interfere with teaching them.

The core issue with using ABA to “correct” Autistic children is the culture of ABA is that you have to force the child to act Neurotypical/Allistic, no matter the cost to the child.

(I use both NT and Allistic because an ABA will use the same principles on trauma symptoms, depression symptoms, etc.)

The goal is to either make the child act NT - explicitly to conform to the societal majority - or else at least not act Autistic and therefore bother the Allistics.

Because conforming to society - as defined by the Analyst - is the end goal of the majority of ABA

Not learning life skills - life skills are a means towards conformity - not mental health - because remember the internal mind doesn’t matter - and definitely not what the patient wants.

The patient is a problem to be fixed. To be cured, or hidden.

And that is why ABA needs to be stopped, burned to ashes, and a new field of applied behavior technicians put in its place for situations where straight CBT is not able to be applied (because I admit there are levels of mental and intellectual disability that prevent CBT from being as effective as pure Behavioralism).

Unfortunately…..

Guess what’s easiest for parents for parents of Autistic children to find, and get insurance to cover????

😣 😣 😣

[oysterie]

The death and life of the great lakes is literally a must read imo esp if your in north america wow. go learn abt invasive species and fertilizer run off polution and waterlines and the building of canals and their uses and over time disuse and ballast water santiation and the legislature surrounding some of the if not the biggest sources of freshwater on the planet mwah

[philososquid]

Please consider donating on behalf of a beautiful soul lost too soon.

[wombtowaste]

friend w trust fund complaining shes always broke and mad ppl want her to budget meanwhile i am 1 paycheck away from getting evicted

[alketaire]

finally watching the inaccuracy dessert (I Fact-Checked The Worst Video Essayist on YouTube by Todd in the Shadows) to hbomb's plagiarism meat and jheesus fhucking chhrist it's beyond fucking belief. like i'm c-tier at best on the list of "people who go out of their way to engage with queer media" and this fucker, positioning himself as a serious queer theory media analyst, blithered lies and "gay nazis" conspiracy theories so absolutely ridiculous that i swore out loud.

"i want to hold your hand was controversial for PDA reasons" absolutely the fuck not, talk to 1 boomer???

"straight women hate acknowledging gay sex is real" absolutely the fuck not, talk to 1 straight woman??????

"gaiman's renown as a writer started with gomens" oh now you've declared fucking war on every gen x nerd and goth and gay?????????

thank you to my family for teaching me to be media literate enough that this shit infuriates me

[sanjismuskyarmpits]

Hey while we’re on the topic there are glitches on this website old enough to graduate middle school and the search function hasn’t worked in over a decade and tags are still broken on mobile and completely innocuous tags are still blacklisted and wiped clean for being “potentially NSFW” and the search function is disabled from dashboard view-only blogs and jumping to individual blogs via reblogs has been made actively difficult on purpose and you won’t ban r.adfems and you won’t ban nazis or antivaxxers and you won’t do jack about harassment but you’ll ban black and queer and especially transfem bloggers for breathing funny and you’ll whip out unforeseen moderation tools to unperson someone’s blog for pointing out potential transphobic sympathies among this site’s admins and you’ll have the gall to call yourself The Queerest Site On The Net to advertise in spite of all this and you’ll advertise incessantly and obnoxiously to the point of being overly personable and borderline guilt-trippy without putting any funds or effort or anything into fixing any of the above

[whatevergreen]

Massive protests against the 2024 Finance Bill continue in Nairobi and across Kenya. Parliament has been stormed, and City Hall set on fire.

The bill imposes taxes that will further impoverish those already suffering from the increasing cost of living. The government even tried to put a tax on bread and cooking oil, but this was apparently withdrawn. The International Monetary Fund is putting pressure on president Ruto to impose austerity measures and raise taxes.

Supreme Court staff and lawyers helping demonstrators with water.

Some protestors have been shot, with fatalities. The police have apparently arrested a number of paramedics trying to treat the wounded.

Homes of several MPs who support the finance bill have been looted and set ablaze. I have no sympathy.

A protestor stated:

“We are the flames burning up the country. We cannot stand still while we are robbed and made poor. “This movement will not stop until we have won. They can kill us but they can’t beat down our movement.”