#a shame...

[unnonexistence]

labelmaker i bought secondhand for a dollar requires $23 label tape to work 😔

[moonsidesong]

i miss when cookie run kingdom wasnt overbloated and awful bc i actually really enjoyed the resource management aspect of it. after a certain point i stopped caring abt the story i just wanted to keep trying to maximize the efficiency of my city LOL

[shippingbell]

I FORGOT TO DRAW HER V E S T

[leresq]

"gee I wonder how I will transfer this information reliably across long distances"

the trustworthy telecommunications dish:

[rhinco]

"scythes are impractical as a weapon" ok but does anything else have the Cunt. i think not

[clickityweasel]

had a real life "and everybody clapped" moment and im still reeling. spent the rest of the ride comparing butterfly pics with the old lady next to me trying to identify it

[grungekitty-77]

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

[catgirlcadaver]

yeah Romeo and Juliet suuucks they should’ve both survived at the end and lived happily ever after instead. but of course the writer kills them both off for shock value.

[hiroshotreplica]

idk if im actually bi or nit but i have an 8 am class tomorrow cant worry about that

[bookshelfdreams]

x

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

The math just adds up!

[doccywhomst]

[fromdarzaitoleeza]

{Words by Anaïs Nin, from The Diary Of Anais Nin, Vol. 4 (1944-1947) / Cynthia Cruz from diagnosis,The glimmering room}

[diezmil10000]

el alcohol quita la vergüenza