#a mom thing? an immigrant mom thing?
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is there perhaps a normal or at least more benign reason why my mom will just make up things that she or i said when she’s retelling our conversations to her friends
#now look who among us hasn’t spun a yarn… but i did not say that#and it’s always like. white lies or exaggerations that make me look silly or immature like man what 😭#ig my question is more like. well ik it bothers me so it’s not fine but is this common-ish?#a mom thing? an immigrant mom thing?#or is this another moment where i think i’m retelling a funny childhood story but ppl go ‘oh that’s kind of sad for you :(‘#aaanywayyyyy . happy holidays (let me out)#r.txt
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Jesus man, relax.
#this was in response to me saying “lunar new year” on the rarity art#personal#delete later#what in insane nonproblem to get this angry about#i asked my parents (taiwanese immigrants) about this and they said we use either but prefer lunar new year#because it's inclusive to koreans and vietnamese people who celebrate on the same day#lunar new year is an umbrella term same as “happy holidays.” this person is basically getting mad i said happy holidays instead of#merry christmas.#my family and i identify more as taiwanese than chinese so. we're not gonna say chinese new year much anyways#i sent this to my mom btw and she replied with basically “die mad i guess.” love you ma#this literally doesn't matter anyways i could have said “chinese new year” to caption that post and it wouldn't have mattered#the only reason i didn't is because i plan on drawing another art including carol (coco pommel) who's korean and celebrates the same day#like. most people in china/taiwan don't care they just say “happy new year” cuz it's the fuckin new year. someone saying lunar new year is#not erasure it's not flattening asian identities into a monolith. it's just an umbrella term.#anyways happy lunar new year happy chinese new year happy tet happy spring festival happy seollal#like i cannot stress enough to you guys that these holidays are on the exact same day and celebrate basically the same exact thing.#this is not an issue.
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I'm nonbinary and SEA and every time I remember the existence of Ties That Bind it makes my day 1000x better. Nat my beloved
I'm so pleased... peace and love to all the seasian queers in the crowd
#also filing under things that make me :]#<- (that's me smiling btw )#todays unsolicited oc fact is Nat and her mom immigrated to the US from Singapore when she was like 10#and Regan is the only one in her family that was born in the US#ttbasks
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so there's this post that talks about how people call jason's curved knife a kris but it's not a kris 'cuz why would he have a southeast asian knife? and op's tags say if you're gonna give him an 'exotic' weapon at least make him malay or something. a later reblog adds a filipino kris as an example, and then i was like, 'omg, jason in a barong tho.' SO i tried designing a bat-barong inspired by his hood logo, for a filipino jason haha. and now here we are! 😊✨️🇵🇭
#jason todd#red hood#batfamily#batfamily fanart#dc#dc fanart#i love barongs SO MUCH i used to think they were just a boy thing but my mom and i found a barong dress for me to wear for graduation ✨️✨️#i was so happy lol#i am posting a lot of lil doodles rn cuz i finished some big involved pieces for the zines im in and this is all the energy i have left rn#anyways i made him white-passing bc comics but like.#it should track that he looks a lil asian too cuz he thinks lady shiva might be his mom right??? so he could feasibly be half... 🤷🏻♀️#i like thinking he's a lil filipino but only cuz im all the way filipino (except for all the ways im not hashtag immigrant kid life)#I DIGRESS#here's another extremely niche jason todd post from yours truly 😌✌️✨️#sorry if the knife isnt to scale it's only occuring to me now that i just *assumed* it'd be longer than a man's forearm oops#ugh barongs are so pretty. idve tried designing more if i had the patience to do the detail work rn 🥲 mb in the future who knows#he's wearing a sando underneath!!!!
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I wanted to give Tim more psychological damage + unique trauma:
So I am making Jack, the younger trophy husband who is also a social pariah in high society because everyone thinks he murdered his wife, Janet Drake and gotten away with it.
They were on the verge of divorce before his coma and her death. Janet's lawyers told all of their mess to an eleven year old kid without any adult supervision. Wtf is wrong with Gotham?
Janet is a rich heiress of the Drake Pharmaceutical/Medical Devices/Biomedical science empire who is forced to attend meetings every few weeks/months in between her real passion, archeology.
#it was so much fun to write a moira rose version of Janet instead of the tiger mom one#jackSON its jackSON that is such a matrilineal marriage thing to do#author: can i write in the immigrant experience of having beef with your dad's brother after your dad is gone#gold digger jack au#tim drake
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Finally watching the second Spiderverse since I might as well get my money's worth out of actually paying for Netflix and I'm losing it over the skewering of admissions counseling
#the assumption that the only thing Black and brown kids have going for them is a sob story...#admissions counselor: your son has a story. his name is miles *morales*. he comes from a struggling immigrant family#his mom: i'm Puerto Rican?? we're part of the United States???#his dad: we own a house??#counselor dismissively: you're all struggling
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#I’m only very rarely inclined to get this intimate w my thoughts so I might as well say it NOW butttt I will never not see the dead children#In everything I do#Like legit#I’ve read up on Hind so extensively and seen so many photos of her#And I have a very healthy relationship w the popular Palestinian journalists so she’s not my blorbo or anything#But hearing that memo destroyed me bc bisan is only 23 and she seemed so vivacious#Idk like I do normal people things I can’t just pause on my life#But idk how it feels like to sit at a boba place and enjoy my pearl milk tea w my friends#While the horrors over there don’t just lurk the back of my mind. I do normal things and I’m guilty for having the luxury#And as an Iraqi girl I’m living in the literal ideal timeline#Where my mom decided to immigrate to the us and that’s why I’m here living a normal life like everyone else#It’s like in a different world if I were born in a different time it could’ve so easily been me. I’m one of the Lucky Ones idk#It’s not survivor’s guilt bc it’s not like I had to survive anything like I never had the chance to live in Iraq or anything#But like. If some things had fallen just a little differently#And I keep thinking about how I’d feel if it were happening to Iraq and people behaved the way they’re doing to Palestinians#I’d be so mad#And some people on here are dealing w assholes while bursting at the seams w grief#For losing their loved ones#This is why I’m so fucking angry at anyone who’s complicit#This was a major tangent but basically I feel weird about doing normal things now while simultaneously knowing I can’t just sit and wallow#And watch life pass by as if it’ll do anything#Misery is not a home but I’m struggling to be 100% normal#And I think that this tonal dissonance is reflecting on my blog too bc I can’t go back to just#Posting about all the other normal things I used to. Like I want to but sometimes I feel off.#Is this anything. I haven’t slept all night#I can’t just allow myself to lose interest in everything I used to like and be and just fade away but maybe it’s about accepting that this#Will also always be a part of me now. It’s that awareness that shadows everything I do#or maybe I need a therapist it’s a toss up#I’ll probably feel better once I get my day started but this was cathartic to voice I think#p
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I have Not been watching the debate because my cat got out and I have been trying to catch her. And so when my neighbor just walked by and said to me about the cat I was trying to catch, "oh, she should know better than to get out right now! It's dangerous, she's gonna get eaten by the immigrants, yknow?? Hahaha", well. You can imagine how I was surprised and concerned about this thing that was being said to me
#thank god my mom was nearby to translate that it was a joke about trump#imagine being me and hearing that said to me without context#it was a stressful moment to be sure#edit i mean like i didnt know why this guy was saying racist things. not bc i thought he was right abt her getting eaten by immigrants
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#im going to have to leave the country for a while#im going to have to fly back across the world and live with my mom#i love her but many parts of this experience will suck#but unfortunately there is no safe way for me to remain in the us right now having overstayed my visa#even if i win the asylum case im pursuing what the fuck then#im a disabled asian immigrant tranny with a failed degree and an empty resume#the only path forward is to return to singapore for however long it takes to figure out how to return#it wont be the worst thing in the world. but it sure fucking feels like it right now#don't rb
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Le destin et un fil rouge (click for qualité svp)
#red string of fate#teehee. soulmatessss!!! YOURE SOULMATESD!!!! AGAINST YOUR WILL!#2a#ayden#aurel#bath soup#my art#comics#ils sont si précieux pour moi#idk what to add je pense que je veux pas le finir#en plus instagram m'énerve psq je peux pas le poster tranquille donc bref. Bref.#look at them and shut up and laugh. whatevr#tw racism#i Guess. hes anxious about getting shunned or whatever hashtag totally not relatable#some of these african families have views about interracial relationships that can K.O a neonazi like fr......#my mom telling me under no circumstances will you marry an algerian WHAT DO YOU MEANNNN.... our countries r literally STUCK TOGETHER#we LOOK THE SAME we have THE SAME ANCESTORS our cultures are so SIMILAR theyre COMPARABLE znd we speak the SAME LANGUAGE#what do you MEANN never marry one... mama i could marry a fucking white trans woman.. youve forgotten about wokism..#ANYWAYS. mixed boy and immigrant boy. SUFFER. YOU WILL NEVER FEEL ADEQUATE ! YAYYYY#not even mentioning them being both boys .. aka no genetic babies... aka no lineage ... ouhhhh mama! the drama!#and homophobia probably doesn't exist in red string of fate worlds i guess it wouldn't make sense its too much of a destiny thing#but maybe long families have made up cultures about marriage and lineage and 'continuing the string for generations'#even though its obvious many of your grand family probably ignored their magical string after it broke and instead of pursuing fate they#ignored it for as long as they could to continue on the generation etc#it just seems like something MY family woul think if it was real so im making HIM suffer through it. sorray cutie ! 🥰😍😘
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there's this tiredness in my bones, a type i struggle to define. some days it feels like i'm dragging a dead body behind me, bones rattling and flesh tearing against the drag of the road. but sometimes that body is more alive, has more flesh and blood, but the tears start to gush out blood, marking my steps.
most days, like today, i just cry. i cry a river of pain and regret and resentment, every wave cascading down that same dead beat body. sometimes i find myself crying for almost no reason at all, coming home to my bed only to sob into the sheets for an eternity.
#glass strawberries#original writing#writing#prose#spilled ink#literature#glass-strawberries#this one was written on a 20 hour flight#in the height of my emotions#hahah see what i did there#oldest daughter things really#a crying child on one side and a tired mother on the other#gotta feed the kid and relive the mom at the same time plus deal with immigration/customs bc your mom can't speak english#it's all so tiring#and that's the whole of it
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My expressions of affection are getting out of hand
While watching rottmnt with my wonderful patient mom I turned to her and said “I want to chew them up and put them in a blender so I can drink them and I will kiss this creator in the lips the second I meet them”
She gently pat my arm and asked if I wanted to turn it off
#just neurodivergent things#child of immigrants#I meant it positively#but I can’t say (affectionate)/pos to my fucking mom#love her but poor woman CANNOT understand#still appreciate the efforts tho don’t get me wrong#support your child’s hyperfixation/special interest#rise of the tmnt#rottmnt#tmnt 2012#actually neurodivergent#actually neurodiverse#living with adhd#adhd problems
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no im still on maffhew calling the forsymaffhew lovechild a missile
#txt#missile#i have also learned ive mispronounced missile all my life at least in american terms#wdym you guys dont say mis-AISLE#the culmination of living in city where we're all 1st/2nd gen immigrants whos primary language at home is not english#anyways male equivalent of rocket... missile#sorry my queer mind can't understand that#my gender is when we played house in 2nd grade i didnt want to play because i had to be mom or dad and i went well im only playing if i get#to be like the family dog and they all got nervous because that felt mean and the teachers would scold them#and i was like nah its fine check this shit out (runs around and barks)#my gender is when the classroom got seperated into boys and girls i staunchly refused and insisted i be in my own group as a joke and#everyone was okay w that because it was the height of lolz so random! and i was the poster child for that so naturally yeah thats#charming and cute yeah tumblr user ratatatastic you can have your own group and that was the class joke and it never felt mean because#it was a small sheltered school and weve all know eo since we were like in daycare#my gender is hey i volunteered at a pride festival and ive always struggled with expressing any sort of femininity and bristled pretty#badly because it gets beat into you and after the pandemic i chilled out a lot after sitting with it and this is all to say#i got partnered with a brazilian guy because i was the only one who spoke spanish on shift at the time and while he spoke 3 languages#(eng esp por) sometimes he struggled with how to say something and changed languages like he was channel surfing which was refreshing#because i do the same thing so it was this weird culmination of both of us code switching heavily and acting as translator for eo anyways#this is all to say when i toddled in no one really knew what to make of me pronoun wise and what he decided to do instead of just ask me#like a normal person he just he/him'd me and then proceed to call me good girl in the exact same sentence and i laughed about it at the time#proceeded to file it at the back of my head for when i got home so i could despondently stare at a wall for 5 hours of what exactly that#entails about me and why it didnt bother me at all and i was like huh the panic never stops thats fun you can just have random revelations#even when youre an old dog in the game at 23 and known your gender fucker wuckery since you were like 12 like oh great#conclusion is that i dont know why god sends me his toughest battles im a crybaby AND a whiner LIKE PICK SOMEONE ELSE ALREADY#anyways hehe missile#sorry we lost the thread here
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Woopsy daisy triggered myself thinking about Ecuador and tourist culture and Ugly Americans and politics better go find something shiny to distract myself
#personal#more expresso less depresso#there's something about a place having to have Good Qualities to count tor something#rather than 'theres ppl here'#anyways time to go look at the gueese by the canak in moms neighborhood#immigrant taf#lowkey#soflo things#( theres something about ppl coming fown here for spring break fucking off and then trashing off from blue states#.. there's Something about tourism...i hate it)#*trashing us from blue states
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thinking about nora again
#fallout#okay first of all her full maiden name is lenore dubrovhsky#she's somehow related to the russian diplomat who is the grandfather of natalia dubrovhsky#maybe his niece? idk but she immigrated to the us after meeting nate during his tour because she claimed she was IN LOVE#i imagine she was in her late teens and nate was in his early 20s#and she falls for him and he promises he'll help her with going to college in the US and they'll have an equal marriage yadda yadda#so they get married and nora becomes a lawyer#so they've been married around seven years and she's doing her training as a legal secretary when oops! she becomes pregnant#(nate sabotaged her birth control but shhh she doesn't know that)#so nate persuades her into putting her career on hold just for a little while until they can start putting their son in daycare#(shaun takes heavily after nora's side of the family to the point nate jokes about whether his DNA had any say at all)#(he also later joins the army and dies in action)#so nora's being kept at home all the time. taking care of the kid. cooking all the meals. cleaning the house. barely any time for herself#and she gets so frazzled she gets into a minor car accident while taking shaun home from the doctor#nate freaks out and confiscates her car keys so now she can barely get out of the house without him on her arm#barely any adult social interaction and any family she could have had keeping her company was all the way over in russia#so she has a quickie with a door-to-door salesman and when her next kid pops out with red hair#the lack of resemblance to nate stops being funny#he agrees not to leave her but says he can't trust her at home alone anymore so he gets her a job at shaun's elementary school as a teacher#this happened around when shaun was 11 and he's harbored a hatred for his mom and his sister ever since#nate promised to raise the girl like his own but he's distant with her which rubbed off on shaun#so the girl. i'm calling her annabelle. TOTAL mommy's girl. wants to be just like her#so when shaun's seventeen he fakes his enlistment papers so he can be enlisted early and dies in combat#i imagine nora misses the baby boy she raised and is utterly upset he turned out this way#and by 'this way' i mean i imagine him as a patriotic misogynist and nora does not hold kind feelings towards the US for various reasons#nate was proud of his son for dying for a cause he believed in#so when annabelle's six nora gets pregnant again and that's when i imagine the bombs drop#the school nora works for is a really privileged private school (nate comes from old money) and that's where the cryo pods come in!#i imagine it would be like a 'saving america's youth for a brighter tomorrow' thing idk#also the day the bombs dropped nora killed nate before heading off to work. woulda been totally caught had the bombs not dropped HEYOOOO
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you ever have a friend who you cannot stand being around because you care so much about them and they are so incredibly self destructive but you can't just like. stop being friends or not be around them because you're the only person who recognizes said self destructive behaviors and attempts to help them
#grymms spectacular fucking posts#no one else does anything bc its academic anxiety and people think thats a good thing because people like to act like school is the most#important thing ever even above peoples well-being#the anxiety actively sabotages her too cus she spends too much time worrying and not enough time actually studying or paying attention#and she has no hobbie sor anything as well#worst part is she has her heart set on going into the medical field. like girl no they will eat you alive in medical school you will NOT#make it. and her mom is an immigrant and a doctor and is telling her not to do that so you *know* it's a terrible idea
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