#Wank cw

[iheardyourprayer]

The thing abt dean is that he will lock sam in rooms

[istillgotlove]

there's only 1 taylor album I am not a huge fan actually.

[inavagrant-a]

:fire emoji: for the rpc ??

Nobody wants to fess up, but I don't care I'm gonna keep bringing it up.

The stigma against female characters.

"No there's no such thing," no yes there is shut up. I can fucking see it, it is so disgusting. What? Do their boobs frighten you? Are they just too hot for you? Too sexy?

I am being so petty I know but I am so tired of the people who specifically say that it's made up that it isn't a thing when it is. I make it my personal mission to try to make my spot as invested in them as the rest of this rpc is invested in cock. yEAH I USED THE C WORD WHAT OF IT AWRAXA.

I just want y'all to know that your female characters are interesting, they are intriguing, they are beautiful, gorgeous, show-stopping.

I'm not saying you HAVE to be interested no that's NOT the point I'm trying to get across. If you're not that's FINE, but the PROBLEM I have is with those who want to act like it's not there. IT'S THERE.

Don't contribute to the issue. Also huge shoutout to those who see it and try to do something about it by not just bringing the issue into attention but by investing their muses into theirs, I see you guys, you guys are wonderful.

[abyss55199794]

today i am mad about: how time petals haters completely infantilise rose

[roughentumble]

people in the notes being so fucking obnoxious.

"M and Mm are already a thing in french!" we are talking about english!!!!

"ummmmm that's the WRONG DECLENTION" 1) they sound like they know what theyre talking about so i assume it's an intentional decision since latin will never perfectly line up with english anyway, and 2) your suggestion would make mistus whih everyone would think is a fucked up mistress so what are you even adding to the convo

"gender neutral in latin isnt used for humans!!!" WE'RE BOT SPEAKING LATIN ANYMORE WE'RE SPEAKING ENGLISH, THEYRE JUST LOOKING AT LATIN FOR INSPIRATION BASED ON WORD ROOTS

[mad-as-a-box-of-frogs]

I’m sorry but genuinely how the fuck are people voting for Rachel over Misha and Erica?? That lazy ass performance, it was just a slight spin on the meg characterization, at least Misha and Erica tried something interesting that wasn’t just ‘gloating smug Spn baddie #84’

[maipareshaan]

[cascigarette]

people who are empty as hell must go onto other people's posts that they post for fun just to shit on them for no fuckin reason other than they have hate in their heart <3 could never be me and my mutuals

[panther-os]

"lxc ruined the scene by randomly playing the flute"

in the very next scene, lwj leaves mid-conversation to play his guqin because he's feeling too many emotions, I think it's fair to assume this is a standard lan brother coping mechanism - probably one of the few that are lqr-approved

self-soothing after talking about childhood trauma is a normal, reasonable response and characters being more human does not detract from the story

[iheardyourprayer]

Jack in the box sucks so bad bcz the lie they give to jack to get him in the box couldve just been the truth, they tell him they need time to get a plan together to fix his soul and they needed to keep him safe until then. Like yes that is exactly what you shouldve been doing! They lie and say they are close but like you should be buying time until you can find a solution to help him! And instead they are so bad at lying and so scared and angry that ofc he realizes the lie! But like? Why werent they just truly keeping him and others safe until they found a solution??? Bite chomp kill idiots

[intothedysphoria]

Billy Hargrove’s story is unattachable from disability

Of course Dacre has said he portrayed Billy as having bipolar and generalised anxiety disorder (and Dacre is a disabled actor himself)

And the Duffers aren’t exactly known for their good treatment of disabled characters or disabled actors

When you look at social representation models for disability in media, a lot of these hegemonic traits fit with Billy pretty fucking well.

“The disabled character as sinister/evil”- throughout the narrative we are told that the way Billy behaves (a lot of which are pretty textbook symptoms of bipolar disorder btw) make him evil and someone to be feared. ESPECIALLY after he’s flayed and is literally seen as inhuman.

“The disabled character as a burden”- Stranger Things presents him as *burdening* Max, preventing her from seeing her friends because he’s *insert fandom mental health diagnosis here*

“The disabled character as sexually deviant”- Billy is seen to be flirting with Karen (never mind that he looks fucking nervous while doing it) therefore he is a sexual deviant and must also be sexually deviant in other ways. (And certain disabilities are absolutely hyper sexualised)

Even the ways the fandom reacts to him are steeped in ableism. I’ve seen him be referred to as a sociopath, as a narcissist, as if npd and aspd aren’t mental health conditions and are instead an insult. The abuse he endures is blamed on him being a “difficult child” for Neil to raise, again pointing at Billy’s disabled traits.

And that’s not even mentioning that abuse is inherently a disability issue.

Abuse is disabling. And disabled people are both more likely to be targeted and less able to escape.

Billy’s story and thus his villainhood is reliant on the fact that he is disabled. He is a disabled abuse victim and therefore he is inhuman in the narratives eyes.

The one heroic he does according to the narrative is die. It is incredibly depressing.

But it is a story which has been thrust on disabled people since the beginning of television. You can consider me disappointed but not surprised.

[fairydares]

loook i get why the idea of riding the "anti/pro" fandom disk horse makes people gag a little in their mouth and try to opt out entirely, but here's why i went from feeling exactly the same way to taking a firm profiction stance. I've been meaning to make this post for a while.

~10 years ago, I posted a fic for the first time and it got its own harassment campaign. The fic wasn't even sexual, and wasn't going to be (it remains incomplete). It was accurately rated T on fanfiction.net. Anyone in the Fairy Tail fandom will understand this: I literally got harassed for writing a "Lucy leaves the guild" fic💀.

After many nice comments, someone left a pretty nasty one. Hurt, I messaged them back. They acted super attacked that I'd responded (lmao) and after we argued, threatened to "rip my shitty story apart in the comments section" if I responded again. I told them "go ahead lol."

They went ahead.

Now know that it was a relatively small harassment campaign, but at the time, it was devastating. Right around then, I wound up in the hospital. After I got out, I went to excitedly check my fic, and found several reviews saying things I wouldn't repeat to my worst enemy. I was suicide-baited more than once, told "thank fuck you finally abandoned this shitty story, dumb cunt," stuff like that.

There were several accounts involved, and I can't say for sure, but I suspect at least a couple different people were involved, though probably at least half of it was one person.

All the other comments were screeching about how I hadn't updated, mostly. "NO UPDAAATEE WHY DOES THIS ALWAYS HAPPENS TO MEEEE??!!!" was one that stood out after I'd been miserable in a hospital for an extended period of time.

Idk what people think is going on when FT fic authors write this trope, and frankly I don't give a fuck. Because while I was partly writing the story out of some young, cringe feminist rage, I also did genuinely have a real story I was compelled to tell. I was inspired by another, popular fic I loved which used the trope to talk about how trying to shoulder our burdens alone really just hurts both ourselves and everyone who cares about us.

My own story was ultimately going to have similar themes, with more focus on strength, what it means, and in what contexts earning and having it actually matters. In retrospect, no wonder I wound up in hot water, because at the time "Lucy vs. Strength vs. Misogyny" was the FT fandom's Designated Nonsensically Activist Debate™. But that's partly why i wanted to write about it; engaging with the fandom had gotten me thinking about it 🤷‍♂️

Not too long after that, FFNet oh-so-benevolently granted us the ability to delete comments from our own stories (they never took my reports seriously at all, afaik). I deleted all or most of the harassers' comments (may still be a one or two up, and i'm fairly sure there's a couple comments defending my fic from the harassment) without saving screenshots, which I really regret now. I was just so mortified and full of self-loathing about the whole thing that i wanted to forget it completely. Something that had brought me joy at a very lonely, vulnerable period of my life had turned so negative, and i couldn't even tell the people closest to me about it without being made fun of for writing anime fan fiction.

I didn't understand why this happened at the time, but--after a period of trying to forget/bid out of it all with a slight anti lean (a common approach I see people use, and one which I'm not proud of adopting)--I just had to figure out What the Fuck Even Happened There. And I'm telling you, after years of reflecting, wrestling with both sides, and educating myself, that this "status quo of harassment" culture which pervades fandom goes way deeper than you think and comes out of a way darker well than you probably realize. An astonishing amount of this is, quite literally, TERF shit and evangelical shit.

Trying to be in fandom and take a stance of, "Anti/Pro shit? Ew, I'm Not Touching that," is like swimming in a heavily polluted river and being like, "Poison? Cringe. Not me lol."

You might be lucky enough to be in a less-polluted part of the river (AKA a relatively non-toxic fandom, in which case good for you!)...but tbh this rhetoric and peer-signalling will still seep in.

I can't stress enough that pro-fiction, AKA "proship", is the normal, leftist-about-art-and-sex opinion. Pro-ship is against all the horrible things you're against; in fact, pro-ship isn't trivializing real trauma by equating it with fictional trauma, or trying to apply literal evangelical/radfem solutions--which are proven not to prevent or help. Profiction/proship is literally just saying, "Fiction is fiction, reality is reality, and the two don't have a 1:1 relationship. And historically, trying to censor just things we've decided are bad has done nothing but get LGBTQ+ and POCs censored. Therefore, depictions of illegal things shouldn't be censored." That's it. "Proshippers all ship problematic ships," is a brazen lie. Many of them share other fans' disgust for those ships, they just don't believe in censoring fic authors over it.

It is also taking a stand against harassment because--and I hope my own story has helped drive this home--as with all groups who adopt ingroup/outgroup thinking, antis are defined by their tactics, not actual stances on real, serious issues. What happened to me was absolutely a result of anti, "it's okay to 'bully out' anything I just don't like" mindset pervading fandom. In a way, this was the mindset's final form. They didn't even feel the need to cite a reason the trope was "bad" or "wrong"; it annoyed them, and they viewed their own feelings as a valid enough pathway for policing to go right ahead and do so.

In the interest of offering solutions instead of just bitching about problems, I might make a "how to know if you've bought into these types of views"-type post sometime. Also might come back to this and provide some sources/citation.

[short666bread]

And that’s how they went from ghost-hauntee frenemies (60/40 ratio) to boyfriends w an unfortunate corporality gap

[roughentumble]

their que to leave

[maipareshaan]

No like genuinely i loathe the whole weirdo whiny cult of these 'we love tfw soooo much except Sam but i don't hate him, i just want everyone happy by found family, i hate crit culture i hate it'.

Like the entire weird focus on narrative crit, (which btw isn't valid, it doesn't need to be the particular self gratifying narrative you want and the narrative it had is fine and can be shown even if you didn't like it) as opposed to character crit, is so weird to me, like thw whole focus on loving characters sooo much so that you want what is a happy healthy narrative to you, creeps me out, like idk its the whole way they talk, the whole 'i love them so much i am so traumatised they deserve better, whyyyyy does everyone not want what we want whyyyyyyyyy were we not given that, acknowledge and want what we want or else...', like blech.

Do you get it? Its the weird being a huge giant pro censorship media anti but only focusing on love. Like its just wrong. Its so erasing of what that LoVe is which is just entitlement and inability to look beyond your wants and pov. Its weird. Its so culty like you know those fake positive peace cults just blech. Hives. Barf.

Also like lit why should anyone looove and want best most healing good narrative according to you for a fake person...just fucking weird, how this is their entire personality and how they want others to feel the same and want the same and most importantly support their tantrum....weird. Blech.

[goosegoblin]

saw a tweet the other day with a picture of some of those talking dog buttons people use with their pets, with a comment like "giving the autistic shawty these when she goes non-verbal"

and it's like. wow. remember when non-verbal autistic people kept saying "please stop using this word unless you are using it properly, because it's diluting our experiences", and everyone was like "naww don't worry about it"?

and now it's being used by people who seemingly have never heard of AAC to make jokes about using fucking dog training techniques, because the idea of a person who cannot talk using a machine to help them is funny i guess? makes them comparable to a domesticated animal, perhaps?

absolutely horrible time to be online